DEAR Madam Temilolu,
l commend your efforts to rid the society of sexual immorality, but how many of these teenage girls and young ladies between age 20-25 or even more have access to newspaper or are interested in what you are preaching when majority of them are still battling juvenile delinquency? They have access to different magazines and TV programs which promote immorality, social media handles where sex is loosely paraded, peer influence, environmental influence and so on.
My sister, with the advent of communication technology whereby everyone has access to smart phones and can do whatever they want with their phones through access to data, even if your godly counsels can work a bit among less-privileged children, I doubt it can make sense to the rich or well to do children who have access to expensive android phones, cable channels etc. They are the ones that get easily corrupted and more often than not have a bad influence on others in the higher institution and in the communities.
Case study: A friend of mine who teaches in a public school once told me how an 11-year-old girl was caught with her friends watching pornography on a hand set with a memory card which costs about three thousand naira. Hardly would you find girls who are still virgins by the time they are writing their school-leaving examinations. 85% of the teenagers have began eating the ”forbidden fruit” when they are in senior secondary school (SSS1-SS3) due to bad influence and exposure.
During my NYSC days in 1991, one of my colleagues- a daughter of a Senior Pastor in a world-renowned church said she purposely applied for a course that could only be found in the northern university since all her movement was monitored from nursery school to secondary school and she needed to be free to enjoy herself. She complained all her movement was always between church and home until she resumed back to school again. How about that?
Also, after a night vigil organised by the youth of another world-renowned church, the cleaners tidying the compound found condoms at the back of the church building even with all the preaching during their youth week. This is to tell you even children of some pastors or elders in the church are promiscuous.
In a situation where poor parents saw hell just to pay through their nose or borrowed to pay tuition fees for their daughter who just gained admission into the higher institution and on starting school, they can’t afford to buy her handouts, textbooks or food, what do you think would happen? When this type of situation occurs, and being under the influence and advise of 85% of other colleagues that have had a similar experience before stabilising themselves on campus, she will have no choice than to follow suit by ”using what she has to get what she wants!” Who then is to blame?
The lecturers too are also there to use different tactics to make the students succumb to their amorous advances when lectures are set for unattainable time with unannounced test so that the targeted ladies will miss the lecture and the test. If they can’t buy their way they will have no choice than to give in to the lecturer’s advances! When my daughter was in the university and I was working in the bank, I had to send money to her constantly to ensure she didn’t get badly- influenced or fall into wrong hands. But still does this work in all situations with the advent of serious exposure to technology?
Most parents have good intentions and plans for their children to succeed in life but 85% of family men in Nigeria are jobless due to retrenchment and closure of many companies! Thousands of unemployed youth are roaming the streets looking for jobs that are not available! The government now solely belongs to the ruling party and the influential! Sad, sad, sad!
I will implore you to keep up your wonderful contribution to the society! The Holy bible says ”He that hath an ear, let him hear what the spirit saith unto the churches.”
Mr. Niyi Olowu
Dear All,
Believe me, after reading the submission above, I’m crest-fallen because it is the reality! But for the spirit of the world which too many are submerged in and which is in contention with the spirit of God, I can also tell you that TOO MANY GIRLS/LADIES HAVE HAD TO SUFFER UNTOLD HARDSHIP EVEN WHEN THEY WERE BORN WITH SILVER-SPOON BUT REFUSED TO USE THEIR BODIES TO GET WHAT THEY NEEDED BADLY!
And I must tell you what determines how a girl would turn out or the path she would choose to follow boils down to her upbringing! Hardly would you find a girl whose parents constantly hammer sexual purity and godliness into her ears and even express it in their daily lives messing around with men! We are an embodiment of our parents and the type of spirit they carry! That’s what practically forms who we are!
To be continued.
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