You don’t need to sleep with men for money! (II)

DEAR Madam, You are a God-send in this generation, time and age! I just read your column and I’m pleasantly surprised that one can think they way you do and teach with so much passion! May the Lord increase your power!

Mr. Chidi

Dear Madam,

I read your article “You don’t need to sleep with men for money!” The only work we have in Nigeria is “okada,” prostitution, church business, kidnapping, politics and nairabet. Madam Temilolu Okeowo, as a young widow and a mother of 4 children, how can I feed and train the children in school when i didn’t even see the four walls of a primary school, if i don’t use what i have in search of money?

Anthonia, Benin City

Dearest Madam Anthonia,

I really do empathize with you as I have never been a widow, don’t know what it feels to have four children and not be able to fend for them and can’t even imagine the hardship you’ve had to endure all these years! I’m so sorry ma! Since we can’t turn back the hands of time I wouldn’t bother about what you would have done or what you shouldn’t have done, neither can I even fathom what was fated to happen to you;the girls out there reading this can only learn from your predicament! I doubt if any amount of preaching can change your mindset which has been cemented by so much tears, pain and despondency over the years but I must let you know that you CANNOT be on God’s side and not have enough! Even as children of God, there will always be trying times! But such times don’t even last! This also depends on your faith and beliefs! I know as a fact and as written in the word of God that “Righteousness exalts!” I can also tell you that if you decide this very day that you want to lean solely on whatever help God can send you this year to start a business that can help you sustain yourself and your children rather than sleep with men for money, I BEAT MY CHEST THAT YOU’LL END UP WITH MORE MONEY THAN YOU EVER GOT FROM ALL THE MEN YOU SLEPT WITH LAST YEAR! This is a very serious matter and I wish you could challenge God, the father of the fatherless and a defender of widows Psalm 68:5. He also says “And let your widows trust in me.” Jer. 49:11. I would suggest you surrender to Him totally for help, you will write me your testimony, I can guarantee that!

However, I must plead with you to ensure your children prioritize their lives, shun inanities as much as possible,pursue holiness, concentrate on their studies and graduate in flying colors so they can have a better life than yours and take care of you in return in future after all you have suffered for them! Madam, if the truth be told, if you don’t change your mindset about means of making money, your daughters may end up prostitutes and your sons thieves! I doubt you can have the much-needed peace of mind in your old age if you raised such children! I pray God will send you help from His sanctuary even before the end of this month and strengthen you out of Zion! Please take heart! Thanks so much for pouring out your heart! All shall be well with you and your children in Jesus name!

My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

When I tell you in some of my face book posts that many of your mothers sadly still have to sleep with men-friends for money to pay your school fees and ensure you don’t go hungry, I know what I’m talking about! When I tell you if you don’t lay a solid foundation in your teens spiritually, academically, emotionally, psychologically etc. and that the way you lay your bed in your teens would determine whether you would sleep in comfort or distress in future or even sleep at all, I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! Girls Club seeks to right wrongs and re-orientate the Nigerian girl and not condemn anyone! If you don’t set your priorities right, pursue your destiny vigorously with God steering the ship of your life and make the most of all He has deposited in you to make you shine in life, self-reliant and in fact become a fortress, you would actually end up sleeping with men for money because most men would never help until they’ve had their taste of you! There’s a lot more on this issue coming your way!

• To be continued!

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