Mummy Temilolu, As I read your article, My Parents Don’t Deserve Me! (Fathers, attention please!), I didn’t know when I began shedding tears. My situation is just so unfair ma! After loving God and serving Him, the least I could get from my father is mockery, unfavorable comparisons, threats and curses. I finished high school at 15, now I’m 20 but yet to get an admission however, I haven’t failed any of my exams! I was abused and raped when I was much younger and all I see in my dad is hatred towards me. I write to you ma so you would talk to our parents especially our fathers to love us at least a little and for who we are.
I’ve forgiven all those who raped and abused me even though I still see them but I want to be loved for who I am. I need my father’s love and crave it so badly. Sadly, there’s nothing I do right before him. He forbids us from using any form of hair attachment. Then my mum, sister and I had to cut our hair yet he complains. He refuses to give me money and when he pounces on me to beat me, I’m physically crushed for days. He knows all the verses in the bible. He’s the best in all trades so no one can be better than him. Mummy, I stand to represent ladies in my shoes. Please say something about it ma. God bless you ma!
Lolade
Dear Mummy Temilolu,
I read your article- My Parents Don’t Deserve Me! (Fathers, attention please!) and thought to confide in you! I’m an 18-year-old only child of her parents! My parents have not always been in good terms while my mum has always been the one paying my school fees. My parents have reconciled since March and now I’m not relevant as they would rather focus on themselves. My mum has been hostile to me because she pays a huge amount for my fees and she has been obtaining loans. My dad does not really give me much; he gives me two hundred naira per day for transport fare to go for my internship. My mum says I’m lazy. I don’t have any bond with my parents, I’m always under their verbal attack and I cry myself to sleep most times. They never talk to me, I’m lonely and they never ask me what I’m up or how I’m feeling! Although, my mum is trying her best, I feel it could be better if we had a close knit relationship where I can share my thoughts, confusion, hopes and anxieties with her. I have beautiful dreams but my parents won’t give me freedom to pursue them or even share them to get their much-needed support. I really don’t know what to do anymore. In recent times, I’ve been cooking my meals separately and my dad barely responds when I greet him. I want to run away but I’m still in school and I want to complete my education. I know they want to correct me because my CGPA dropped from 4.21 to 3.79 but they are doing it the wrong way. I love them and I wish they were warmer. I’m so depressed, please help!
Dear Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
Believe me, when I receive messages like this, I’m more than convinced there are very many innocent and wonderful girls out there in spite the madness of the world. I insist too many girls would never have gone wayward or fallen out of God’s divine agenda if they had a close knit relationship with their parents! These 2 girls are good girls who have their brain in check no matter what anyone thinks. This generation of youth is something else- most of them do not give a hoot about what their parents think, they just want to leave life the way it makes them acceptable by their peers and the social media. In fact so many of them would rather be seen happening by their mates than be seen by their parents as good children! And I must say, the quickest way to throw a girl-child to the wolves out there and have her entire being abused is to deny her of her original and natural hero’s love- her father’s love! May the fire of God melt every father’s heart and stir it towards their children in Jesus mighty name.
To be continued.