NOTABLE singer, Shola Allyson-Obaniyi has gone inspirational on her social media platforms in recent times, the youths, being her target audience.
Her latest is on the need for ladies to maintain a healthy relationship before marriage, starting the discussion with series of questions and advises.
She said: “Girl, you said guys are liars, and when they get what they’re looking for, they run. Ok. Well, not all guys. I know many good and serious ones. First and foremost, what do you have apart from your body? You that you’re a virgin, it’s very good. Who are you? Where is your substance? Where is the nobility in your character? Where is the “omoluwabi-ness” in you? Where is the sense? Wisdom? Have you found yourself? What are your needs? Are you fixing yourself? Or is it just about your shape and your slaying?”
Continuing, she said; “You see, men have needs too. Emotional, psychological, various needs, it’s a two way thing, everyone has needs. There is a baby somewhere inside him looking up to you too. All that macho covering is a mask. He hides it because the society gave him a false interpretation of manhood. You must be able to meet his needs too. Can you be trusted to absorb his feelings of being inadequate sometimes? Will you be able to walk and work with him? Are you growing your inner strength?
“Then, about this sex thing… We shouldn’t even be discussing this! Keep your body! Sex is not priority in a relationship! Knowing each other and building friendship is! It’s like eating hot yam; it’ll scald your tongue! And the pain runs deep… Why are you committing too much of your soul and body into the hands of a boy who only has the nomenclature of man? What are you doing, playing the wife role without being married? Why are you allowing him have undeserving access to your soul, and body? Sex is not priority! SEX IS NOT LOVE! Sex is not commitment! A guy can enjoy sex with anybody! A guy who doesn’t have self-control about his mind is not yet a man! It’s from the mind that sex starts, then the blood rushes “down-below”. If he can’t control sexual stimuli, how can he have control over life’s important issues! Can you see that he easily moves onto another girl?
“Why are you sharing your body with a guy that only wants to satisfy his curiosity and how he can experiment with a woman’s body? She asked.
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