Every human craves a working and extraordinary relationship; a phenomenon many desire. Many may, however, question the possibilities of experiencing an extraordinary relationship in a depraved world such as ours. I beg to differ – It is possible! No matter how rotten our society is, extraordinary relationships exist.
Good things, they say, don’t come easily. To experience extraordinary relationships that could result in a marriage require sacrifices but how many of us are ready to do what it takes to achieve the feat?
If you desire a working relationship or marriage, there are certain habits you need to inculcate. One of such is speaking favorably of your significance to your partner, especially when they are not there. You should endeavor to desist from uttering negativism about your partner such that if they get to hear of it, it could have adverse effect in your relationship.
Another habit that should come handy is that everyone in your personal circle should know you are in a relationship and hear more positive than negatives about your relationship, it’s very important you make people aware of your status and also.
No other couple could say it better than Mr. and Mrs Ogundipe. The couple has been together for over 40 years. They spoke extensively on the subject matter. The under listed are their do’s and don’ts to having a successful relationship:
1. Be patient with your partner: It’s easy to become snappish or disagreeable when we’re tired or frustrated. Remember, this is someone we love. Therefore, love should always be evident in each communication. Love intensely, passionately and frequently! If all the world needs is love, it’s absolutely the most key ingredient in our relationships. In everything we do, the plan should be to have no regrets. Can you imagine how powerful a relationship could be if we loved like there was no tomorrow?
2.Ultimately, all we really must do is treat our partner the way we desire to be treated people are pretty much the same we all have feelings that can get hurt, dreams we want supported, and the need to experience an honest and healthy love relationship. Once we have that understanding, we are well on our way to achieving an extraordinary relationship.
Things we must avoid in a relationship according to the Ogundipes:
1. Channel your talking energy rightly, not to gossiping but to keeping your partner company.
2. Do not engage in unnecessary fights and arguments because no one loves a troublesome partner but every man hates women who fight anyhow. So try to control it.
3. Selfless men hate women who are selfish, who work but plan for their income alone. The abhor women who never share their ideas with their husbands. If you’re a married lady and you do such, soon you’ll be single again.
4. Foreign children: This goes especially to single ladies! Control yourself before marriage there’s no single husband who will look after kids who belong to other men.
The Ogundipes also gave the list of things that can improve a relationship:
1 . Good communication: Always ensure that once in a day, you communicate with your partner, e.g ask how their day is? What they’re doing etc so as not to disconnect
2. Realistic expectations: Don’t be too demanding for partner, be contented and accept him or her the way they are. A lot of people have mental blueprint of how their partner should be like and end up wreaking the relationship trying to configure your partner to your mental image
3. Insecurity and trust: Your relationship should be based on a foundation of honesty and trust, because it is the backbone of every relationship. You should be confident of yourself and partner and trust them always even when they lie
4. Jealousy: You should not be envious of your partner, some relationships fall apart as a result of people not being able to handle their partner’s success. You should always wish your partner better things and carry them along in whatever you do
5. Always rebrand and improve yourself: At all times make sure that you improve yourself everyday to improve yourself worth and value to improve the quality of your relationship it can be attributed to property ,it can depreciate and appreciate just like property.
It is my utmost belief that the rules listed above could go a long way to making our relationship work especially as they come from a couple who has been together for several decades. Let’s make our marriage and relationship a blissful one and stay positive that we all can all be EXTAORDINARY in our relationship
