Category: Life – The Midweek Magazine

  • Ufuk, OYASAF art symposium promotes peace

    Ufuk, OYASAF art symposium promotes peace

    Clara Aden’s desire is to create and experiment with new art  forms. Her art promotes peace and mutual understanding. The marble art workshop held recently, therefore, presented her another opportunity to learn new skills.

    With the objective to raise more peace ambassadors in the arts, The Ufuk Dialogue and Omooba Yemisi Adedoyin Shyllon Art Foundation (OYASAF) held the three-day workshop for artists at the Nigerian Tulip International College (NTIC), .

    Tagged: Art for peace workshop and exhibition, the workshop on art painting on marble featured facilitators from Nigeria and Turkey. It had as facilitators the President of Ufuk Dialogue, Mr Mehmet Ozleyen; the Executive Director, Nile University of Nigeria, Abuja, Tugay Yalcin; an England-based artist Mr Olanrewaju Olagoke; and Mr Seyri Süluk.

    The workshop was followed by an art exhibition of works of members of the Female Artists Association of Nigeria (FEAAN) and other Nigerian and Turkish artists.

    According to the President, Ufuk Dialogue, Mehmet Ozleyen, the symposium was meant to incorporate more artists, particularly the womenfolk, into the foundation’s campaign for peace and mutual understanding.

    He said: “The workshop seeks to provide a common platform for artists to showcase their skills, knowledge transfer, promote love, peace and tolerance through art. UKUF dialogue was founded in Abuja Nigeria to promote dialogue culture of co-existence mutual understanding and opinion exchange. This is achieved through conferences, seminars, panels, publications, meetings, intercultural trips and several other activities.  The workshop is one of such medium we promote peace.”

    An excited Aden, an executive of FEAAN Southwest Zone, was one of the new additions to the foundations’peace campaign whose work depicted the theme.

    “We were taught the process of painting tulip flowers and leaves on paper created by each participant both Nigerians and Turkish artists. My work titled: Let there be peace, depicts the inter-religious conflicts between Christians and Muslims, despite our different ideologies. I believe if we love each other we will be able to tolerate one another and eventually there will be peace.

    “It was, indeed, an unforgettable experience. I drew and painted on the marble print the acrylic painting that showed a young girl holding a placard with an inspiration in Turkish. It showed that “strength does not come from physical capacity it comes from an indomitable will”, according to Mahatma Gandhi. Mr Ozleyen, helped me translate it, which I inputted it on my placard – it is my first attempt on writing in Turkish language,” she said.

    The workshop opened with an entrepreneurship training, which involved a wider knowledge on creating marble works/images on the marble background by artist and Executive Director, Nile University of Nigeria, Abuja, Tugay Yalcin.

    He introduced participants to tools and materials, processing the mix and printing the marble on paper. They were then taught various techniques, including the process of painting tulip flowers and leaves on paper, which each participant was made to produce Nigerians and Turkish artists.

    Founder/Chief Executive, Omooba Yemisi Adedoyin Shyllon Art Foundation (OYASAF), Prince Yemisi Shyllon, said the world was in dire need of the values of peace and love, saying the workshop was meant to remind people on the significant of peace. He urged the artists to pursue their dreams and use the workshop to strive to gain more knowledge from the Turkish art community.

    “The workshop was inspired by my desire and commitment to give back to the society in my chosen corner of the arts. I am always open to such collaborations. And I have held such workshops, residency programmes, fellowships in the past and even donated art monuments as a way of promoting the arts.”

    On her part, FEAAN Southwest Zone Coordinator Omovo Ayoola said the new techniques/designs she learnt from the workshop were not taught in any of Nigerian institutions. “It was, indeed, a great privilege for FEEAN members to have been part of the UFUK Dialogue /OYASAF Workshop. Our association and, indeed, its executives are always open to partnerships as this which will help to educate and empower our members. The different colour tonal gradations helped to bring out the design in a stylish way which came out like hand painting. That for me was fascinating.”

    For Naomi Oladipo, the workshop was “filled with knowledge and social fun”. “Thanks to Mr Ozleyen of UFUK and Shyllon, the other young artists and I acquired new skills. I met with great minds. It was not only a platform to learn new skills but also to interact and learn from other artists. Both our brains and stomachs were fed and the time out from one’s studio was worth it. We are also thankful to Messrs Olagoke and Seyri Süluk,” she said.

     

  • Ikeja Golden Lions opens centre

    District 404 B2 Governor Lions International Taiwo Adewunmi has urged other members of the club to emulate Ikeja Lions Golden Club for its activities.
    He spoke when he inaugurated a portion of the club’s centre in Ikeja. He praised the President Mrs Caroline Adediran and her team for their performance, adding that they deserved his kudos. He also said despite that they worked on other projects in the year, they had time for themselves.
    Adewunmi said: “Every year every president comes and does a new thing – that is, add some value to the system. I want to commend Ikeja Golden Club for this. We are celebrating 100 years of our existence in the club. Ikeja Golden Club is filling this responsibility. There is a legacy project for us.’’
    The club’s Projects Chairman Mrs Yemi Akinsami said the project, which cost about N1.5million, took about four months to complete. It includes extension and renovation of its toilets, lighting, tilling and painting. She said finance for its execution was raised from a fund raiser and members.

  • ‘There was a country is Achebe’s worst ever’

    ‘There was a country is Achebe’s worst ever’

    UNITED KINGDOM (UK)-based Nigerian writer, Dr. Akintude Akinkumi,  has described Chinua Achebe’s last book There Was  A Country as the worst the late writer ever wrote, saying it was  inaccurate in many cases.

    He said though Achebe author Things Fall Apart, remained one of Nigeria’s prolific writers, he spoilt a good case with a very parochial view, adding that he might have written the book when he was declining. “But, his other books are absolutely superb,” Akinkumi said.

    There was a country is Achebe’s last personal history of Biafra and published in 2012. Achebe passed on March 22, 2013. The book which is a memoir of Achebe’s early life in Eastern Nigeria, drew lots of controversies from Nigerians especially among the litteratti and his literary offspring who share most of his views about Nigeria in the book.

    Akinkumi, who spoke recently at a reading session of his book Is Better Served Cold at Quintessence, Ikoyi, Lagos described Chimamanda Adichie as Nigeria’s most talented young generation writer. “One of the most-talented Nigerian writers now is Chimamanda Adichie. But, in terms of older generation I enjoy Achebe’s books. His last book, There was a country, is the worst he ever wrote. It is inaccurate in many cases,” he said.

    Akinkumi, who left the Nigerian Army in 1989, but still serving in the British Army, said if given another chance of career choice, he would opt for law instead of medicine. “With the benefit of hindsight, if I am given the benefit to make career choice again, I will prefer law to medicine. My father had told me when I was much younger that my talents were better in the art than in sciences… I am a great fan of reading. I have two rooms that are stacked with books,” he stated.

    Is Better Served Cold is Dr. Akinkumi’s first book and he is in the process of writing a sequel to it. But, in between the two he has completed a second book, which is a brief political history book of the Nigerian Army that will hopefully get published in October.

    Is Better Served Cold looks at some themes and it is about a Nigerian-trained lawyer working as an investment banker, who returned to Nigeria and managed public privatisation issue. But, he had issue with refusing to play ball and that landed him into trouble; he and lost his wife and children. This led him to contemplate revenge. The book was first published in the United States as e-book last year, and published as a paper back in Nigeria last September. It took him six months to write the book, though he had written the foreword five years earlier.

    On his next book, he said: “It has nothing to do with the Army authorities. It is a history book that looks at the evolution of Nigeria and evolution of the Army as an institution. And I try to examine how the interactions between the two have played out given the Army involvement in politics. The rough idea is that neither the Army nor the country has benefited from Army involvement in politics. It traces the period between 1963 and 1999.”

    Recalling his days in the Nigerian Army,  Akinkumi, who is also a lawyer, said the Army of today is different from what it was when he served because it was during military rule and the Army was in government.

    Comparing the Nigerian Army and the British Army, he said: “It is a totally different setting. Army is a reflection of the society and in the UK, the Army has never had a stint in governance unlike in Nigeria.”

     

  • ‘Why recession is a blessing’

    ‘Why recession is a blessing’

    The times are hard. Yet, Mrs Modupe Ogunlesi, Managing Director, Adam and Eve, a top-flight luxury gift shop in Ikeja, Lagos, is unperturbed. Why? Her clients are loyal. She speaks on why recession is a blessing, how Adam and Eve started 20 years ago, her love for art and her outfit’s maiden art exhibition, titled: The content, opening on June 18. The exhibition is part of activities marking the 20th anniversary of Adam and Eve, Assistant Editor (Art) OZOLUA UHAKHEME reports. 

    Despite the recession, Managing Director, Adam and Eve Shop, Mrs Modupe Ogunlesi, is not losing any sleep. Whereas many are groaning under low sales, she is confident that Adam and Eve, a reputable luxury gift shop in Ikeja, Lagos, is well-positioned in the market as provider of quality goods. This, she said, is the unique selling point of her outfit, which turns 20 this year.

    A chartered accountant, Mrs. Ogunlesi described recession as a blessing in disguise. She said the good thing about recession is that when there is a lot of money in circulation, people rarely look at quality before they buy. Not so during recession, she said, when few people have money and they don’t buy for the sake of buying.

    “They look for quality and are more conscious of what to buy, and that is where we are well positioned. We prefer customers who come here and buy items to replace quality ones that they can give out to friends or relations than customers who buy new items to replace ones that have gone bad because of poor quality. Customers should not be under pressure to change what they own. For example, we have cutlery that have 50 years’ guaranty. So, at this time of recession, people are more conscious of the quality of what they buy and that is where we are well-positioned,” she said.

    There is a growing patronage of unconventional spaces for art exhibitions in Lagos. Like Temple Muse on Victoria Island and Wheat Baker in Ikoyi, Lagos, Adam and Eve, which started operation 20 years ago, has joined the list of providers of such spaces for art exhibition.

    On June 18, a group art exhibition, The content will open at the luxury shop featuring selected artworks by renowned artists, such as Bruce Onobrakpeya, Kolade Oshinowo, Raqib Bashorun, Lekan Onabanjo, Duke Asidere, Tola Wewe, Alex Nwokolo, Zinno Orara and Fidelis Odogwu.

    Curated by Lekan Onabanjo, the exhibition, according to Mrs Ogunlesi, is organised to attract both collectors and art enthusiasts from the Island and Mainland to savour some masterpieces by renowned and known artists.

    The exhibition will feature paintings and sculptures. Orara’s works for the exhibition are The visionary, Fruitful and Dependable, while Oshinowo’s works are Maria and Owambe.

    “Lagos is stressful, no doubt about that. But, when you get to your house, you should be surrounded by things that make you feel happy no matter how the day has been. And when you settle down in your space, it must give you the feeling of satisfaction. That is the concept of the exhibition which is to marry functional art with fine art.

    “Each of the participating artists will be assigned to each department of the mall; kitchen, bedroom, bathroom etc to show his works. This makes it more interesting, especially within the ambience of Adam and Eve, which will bring a new meaning to the works. The title of the exhibition, The content is reflective of the content of your home, office and so on. This is the first art exhibition we are organising but we hope to hold it twice a year. And the exhibition is for one week to experience the heart of beauty that makes Adam and Eve’s the Garden of Eden, a peaceful atmosphere,” she added.

    She said the artworks are to complement what Adam and Eve sells, which are mainly functional art to its numerous customers from across the country. “Yet, the beauty and the designs are awesome. Some are one-off pieces. So, it is high time we put Nigerian art pieces on our walls and if you like beauty, then the art works should be on your walls,” she noted.

    On whether a week is enough for art enthusiasts to view the collection, she said: “We chose one week because it is our first foray into art exhibition. But, we made it to accommodate two Sundays when traffic is light for people to visit the show. The curator Lekan Onabanjo selected the artists. On the choice of artists, it is informed by the decision to show known and established artists with huge followers. And remember that those on the Island don’t like coming to Mainland, but they can be drawn by the calibre of artists. So, when they experience something good, there is the likelihood they will honour next invitation for lesser known artists.

    Mrs Ogunlesi disclosed that at Adam and Eve, there is no reason to push a particular brand, instead she prefers clients to trust the taste of Adam and Eve. “Generally, at Adam and Eve, we try not to push a brand name. We prefer that you trust the taste of Adam and Eve. I check the quality of what comes into Adam and Eve. I don’t buy online because I deal with manufacturers, visit the factories and I ascertain the backup as per guarantee if there is a problem. All the products at Adam and Eve must not only be beautiful but must also be functional,” she said, noting that Adam and Eve is working towards having a permanent gallery in future.

     

    20 years of Adam and Eve

    “Adam and Eve started by chance 20 years ago when my daughter wanted to get married. She came up with a wedding list of items but was unable to get what she liked. It was a sitting room size of shop when it started. It transformed from a shop of kitchen wares to include bathroom, toilet and complete home. Five years down the line, my daughter and her husband got tired of the sedentary work and wanted it shut down. We worked out the value of the shop and I bought it off her.

    “Today, the business has grown from a wedding gift shop to a reputable shop that encompasses luxury but functional items for kitchen, dining, bedroom and bathroom, leather works, children gifts, among others.”

     

  • Nigeria’s Ile wins £15,000 Etisalat  Prize for Literature

    Nigeria’s Ile wins £15,000 Etisalat Prize for Literature

    Nigeria’s Jowhor Ile has won the 2016 Etisalat Prize for Literature. Ile’s first published novel, entitled: And After Many Days, beat Julie Iromuanya’s Mr and Mrs Doctor (Nigeria) and a South African Jacqui L’Ange The Seed Thief, to emerge winner for prize of first-time fiction writers of African origin.

    The authors were shortlisted after a longlist of nine names – six South African and three Nigerians by a three-member panel, including Nigeria’s multiple award-winning novelist Helon Habila (panel chairman and author of Oil on Water), South African writer/activist, Elinor Sisulu, and Ivorian writer and ‘Africa39’ laureate, Edwige Renée Dro.

    Ile is the first Nigerian to win the Etisalat Prize for Literature since its inception in 2013. Democratic Republic of Congo’s Fiston Mwanza Mujila, for his novel, Tram 83 won the first edition. South African writer Songeziwe Mahlangu for his novel, Penumbra won 2014 edition; while Zimbabwean NoViolet Bulawayo’s We Need New Names, won the 2015 edition.

    He went home with £15,000 prize money and an engraved Montblanc Meisterstück pen among several other rewards last Saturday at the award ceremony. For winning the prize, other rewards for Ile include an Etisalat-sponsored fellowship at the University of East Anglia where he will be mentored by Prof Giles Foden, author of The Last King of Scotland’.

    According to the judges, he and the two runners-up will participate in a multi-city book tour of three African countries also sponsored by Etisalat Nigeria. “Furthermore, Etisalat will purchase 1,000 copies of their books for distribution to schools, libraries and book clubs across Africa,” they said.

    Ile’s announcement followed the unanimous selection of his book by the judging panel chaired by multiple award-winning novelist and poet, Helon Habila.

    Habila, while congratulating the winner and the runners-up, disclosed that the prize-winning book met the required standards of originality, creative excellence and African sensibility, in keeping with the objective of the Etisalat Prize, which is to promote literary excellence in Africa.

    Chief Executive Officer, Etisalat Nigeria, Matthew Willsher, congratulated the winner and the runners-up, and restated the company’s commitment to continuously offer Nigerians and other Africans the best platforms to express their passion and creativity.

    ”From the outset, our vision at Etisalat has been to support innovation, creativity and talent development. This is why we have stayed focused on creating platforms that enable people, not only to communicate and stay in touch with one another, but also to express their individual creative abilities in all forms of science and arts”, he said.

    Born in 1980, and bred in the city of Port Harcourt, Ile took to writing early and has had his short stories published in McSweeney’s Quarterly and Litro Magazine.  His 256-page novel, And After Many Days, set in Port Harcourt in the oil-rich Niger Delta region, tells the story of a family whose 17-year- old son and sibling, Paul Utu, goes missing during the rainy season of 1995.

    Burdened with the sudden loss, the family gets torn apart, as their search for answers, uncovering several family secrets.

     

     

  • Adventure of Rose Mary

    Adventure of Rose Mary

    Man and woman were the two people in the beginning, ordered to subdue, dominate and multiply the world    divine order.

    To most people, especially the westernised, it’s a closed book that Africanism is mean to women. The westerners have gone farther in the fight for equality and the rights of women, but not far enough to forget they were in it and it’s still on. Only few women in Africa and fewer round the world really know the meanness of their place.

    Born in a village in one of the sub-Saharan African countries, Mary was one of the village girls bold to run away from the traditions and cultures of the tribes that devalue women to the city where western civilisation has given it advancement. She went through trying and herculean tasks where faith, courage, brilliance, commitment as her fortes led her to where she desires.

    Unlike Mary, many women for the sake of material acquisition, most of the times out of ignorance or vile for what they need or desired as human beings, venture out with the pride of the greedy denigrating the worth of woman.

    Is “Adventure of ROSE MARY” an intriguingly passionate tale of a girl? Can one also say it’s a gothic story?  In my opinion, it is a common but gripping blend of these genres. The story is fiction as names of most characters and incidences are the author’s imagination yet it’s an epic with re-occurrences that are characteristics in women’s life –realities and convincing.

    It is a fascinating tale of rural life as lived by Africans far away from the cities in Africa engulfed in western civilisation that signifies the triumph of modernism over traditionalism. The main character, Mary, is exposed to the devaluing impact the rural way of life has on women. The tradition as practised in the village makes women abscond to the city where they find room to exert rights and equality with men. However, the right to freedom and equality goes on to give women the power and the mind to express vile, villainy and viciousness Mary and her cousin are carried away by the new phase of a friend who like many women run to the city for what they crave unaware of the fact that unlike her cousin she cannot indulge in the vile that are common with women.

    Undoubtedly, Mrs. Man, a woman who comes across Mary in her travails to survive after she runs away a second time, this time from a practise common with women which she cannot abhor, the professor who marries her are characters who indicate that impiousness or goodwill is either way; from man or woman.

    The story is impressively real. It’s what goes on day in day out in humanity; traditionalism or modernism. It’s highly recommended for both sexes to realise their equality as far existentialism is concerned. By the end of the book you realise that women are as equal as men. Distorted concepts are what make up the woes of man.

     

  • Conference holds tomorrow

    Landmark Africa Magazine will hold its Second Leadership Development Conference and Awards on Thursday in Lagos.
    According to Aderemi Ayoola, its Managing Editor, the aim of the event is to promote excellence in leadership and to recognise individuals who have made landmark achievements in their professions.
    Ayoola said at the event, Kebbi State Governor, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar Bagudu, and his Rivers counterpart Nyesom Wike will be honoured. While Ahmed is being honoured for his agricultural revolution in rice planting, Ayoola said Wike is getting the award for his strides in infrastructural development, adding that former Ogun State Governor, Otunba Gbenga Daniel, has also been tipped for an award for his achievements in office.
    Ooni of Ife Oba Adeyeye Ogunnusi Ojaja (II) is expected to be the Royal Father of the day while First Lady, Kwara State Mrs Omolawe Yetunde Ahmed, is billed to preside as the Mother of the day.
    The theme of the lecture is Building capacity for potential industrial investors in Africa; it will be delivered by Prof. Bello Shehu Malami, Vice Chancellor, Kebbi State University of Science & Technology.

  • UNIC director seeks family-friendly work environment

    UNIC director seeks family-friendly work environment

    The Director, United Nations Information Centre (UNIC) in Nigeria, Mr Ronald Kayanja, has called for policies that will boost corporate responsibility and family-friendly work environment.

    Speaking at the Africa Family Life Delegates’Conference attended by over 600 delegates, Kayanja said the working conditions of parents affect their ability to play an active role in their children’s education.

    “Family-friendly policies are essential and have already been proved to improve workers’ productivity and dependability,” he said.

    The event was organised by Centre for Sex Education and Family Life, as part of activities marking the International Day of Families.

    He said: “The International Day of Families, therefore, is a day to focus on needed policies to create a good nurturing environment at family level for children to grow. For parents to effectively play this important role of nurturers, they need time with their children as they grow up.”

    Speaking on the theme: ‘The role of family life education in transforming Africa’, which aligned with the global theme of the International Day, Families, education and wellbeing, Kayanja highlighted the crucial role of the family as the centre for early childhood education.

    “We know that the education a child is exposed to before reaching age eight is a determinant of what type of person we will have in society. Parents, grandparents and relatives play a major role at this stage, as they work with early childhood teachers in elementary/nursery schools,” he said.

    At the event, the wife of the Lagos State Governor, Mrs Bolanle Ambode, underscored the centrality of family to development, noting that ‘without family, no country; without country, no continent and no world.’

    Mrs Ambode, who was represented by her Special Assistant, Dr Arinola Oluwo, noted that the only way to have a world of our dream is to fix the family.

    The Principal Consultant, Centre for Sex Education and Family Life, Mr Praise Fowowe, explained that a dysfunctional family system could not build a functional society. He called for a commitment to ‘creating and promoting an effective family life education that can deliver a developed family system, which ultimately would deliver a developed society’.

    He added that the most important government might not be the government of a nation afterall.

    According to him, “the most important government is actually what we have coined the ‘Family Government’. We strongly believe that the Family Government is the production factory of the society and until we become intentional about the development of an effective family system, we may not witness a developed continent we so desire.”

    In 1993, the UN General Assembly declared 1994 as the International Year of the family and that May 15 each should be observed by  member-states as the International Day of Families.

    The General Assembly noted that ‘families are the fullest reflection at grassroots, of the strengths and weaknesses of the social and development welfare environment, and as such offer a uniquely comprehensive and synthesising approach to social issues.’

    It further observed that families, as basic units of social life, are major agents of sustainable development at all levels of society and that their contribution to that process is crucial to its success.

     

  • Diary of a professional bridesmaid

    Diary of a professional bridesmaid

    IT is very uncommon to begin a review with a definition of ‘terms’. This is usually associated with academic papers but this review is dealing with an unusual subject that is dealt with in an unusual style.
    Therefore, it is only proper that it begins in the character of its ‘unusualness’. The key word in Memoirs of a Professional Bridesmaid authored by Nneka Ijeoma is the word ‘memoirs’, which the 2010 edition of the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defines as: “A written account of somebody’s life, a place or an event written by somebody who knows it well”.
    In interrogating the subject of this book, it will become apparent why some thought would have to be paid to the word because often it is associated with accounts by an expert or better still, what the dictionary describes as ‘somebody who knows it well.’
    Others might argue that instead of dealing with ‘Memoirs’ it is the tag of ‘professional’ that the reviewer should be interested in. How much of an expert is the author on issues of weddings and specifically ‘bridesmaidship’? Is the author engaged in this activity her main paid occupation? Except it is a recent phenomenon, it is strange in our clime to hear of a ‘professional Bridesmaid’ when such an appellation is used, it isn’t often quite complimentary. But life is all about change. Who says this can’t be just another profession? Reading through Nneka’s book, therefore, is as much a challenge of this ‘received opinion’ as it is an attempt at bringing to public consciousness issues that are glossed over but yet define relationships and our reality.
    What used to be a pastime is now almost ‘profession’ because there are people, as it is said in our local parlance that ‘have seen a lot’ and so can be described as authorities on the subject. And so it is with our author who was six times a bridesmaid in less than a year! What she has put together in this book of 146 pages is therefore the result of out of the box thinking which makes the book a compelling read especially for young ladies, bridesmaids, brides -to-be and the various vendors who are integral to the value chain of the wedding industry as an event (as opposed to marriage that is an institution).
    Men who also want to know the reasons for some of those ‘annoying’ things that happen on wedding days will also find the book interesting. Even those who think less about the intrigues that go with wedding cannot but enjoy this piece of literature that is both humorous and therapeutic. The author sometimes simply pokes fun at trivial issues that have assumed epic dimensions and exposes why sometimes what we perceive as a significant change is really not so significant, and vice versa. Predictably she raises concerns about social values that have been turned upside down in the name of civilisation.
    Without a doubt the author though forward looking and in sync with social trends, is worried about the extent to which weddings have now assumed a dimension with focus on a ‘wedding of the year’ instead of ‘marriage of a life time’. The book, therefore, is not just an account of her personal experiences but also some lessons for young women who would soon find themselves as brides or bridesmaids. Each chapter in the book either begins or ends with nuggets on the do’s or don’ts of a successful wedding.
    Some examples: “Parents are not your ATM”; “Know when to say NO”; Delegate, especially if you have a large train”; and “To thyself be true” among others. From Nnnena to Wura, Tinuke, Fatima and Doyin, the author takes the reader through different trajectories of a modern day Nigerian wedding ceremony. In these accounts, the reader shares with the author, moments of excitements, disappointments doused with wits and humour.
    Fatima’s wedding provides an interesting proposition in which the bride’s desires are in conflict with the norm. The author describes her as ‘The Last Minute.Com Bride’ who leaves everything to dying moments including her final fitting which she left to her friend not minding that things could go wrong! Fati also chooses to have about 25 on her train without a Maid of Honour because “I didn’t want to put any friend over the other. I love all my friends equally so I will not have any Bridesmaid of Honour.”
    While she is lucky that her dress fitted well, the author is strongly against having such a large number of people on a train without a Maid of Honour. “No Maid of Honour is a bad idea! You need someone to veto certain decisions without other girls getting offended. You also need someone to coordinate and make sure everything is attended to … ” The result of too many cooks is that no one is really in charge. It is little surprise therefore that the train gets late to the evening reception.
    As desirous as a Maid of Honour is, the author however cautions on overbearing and overzealous Maids or those she calls ‘Zilla’ who constitute themselves into independent governments barking orders on others yet they are the ones that often let the group down when it matters most. This is evident at Tinuke’s wedding. Bisi who messed up negotiations with the designer and ‘who had been organising all the girls’ was at the most critical moment, the last to get off her feet.
    Doyin is the opposite of Fatima. She started planning her wedding in good time and is regarded as extremely organised yet, a glitch happens because of her not taking into account the infamous ‘Nigerian factor’. Four out of seven bridesmaids missed the walk down the aisle because she did not understand the character of the society in which she operates. Things taken for granted elsewhere are serious issues in Nigeria. Think of power failure and traffic snarl among others.
    Memoirs of a Professional Bridesmaid is not all about what could go wrong. Chapters 8 and 9 are particularly humorous as he author highlights some of the ‘highpoints’ of weddings that sometimes defy logic. The chapter titled; “Thou Shalt not struggle for the fittest Groomsman” is about bridesmaids struggling for hook-ups with some of the groomsmen which often end in disaster. The author was once a ‘victim’: “I danced into a reception with a guy who whispered to me, ‘I guess I’ve finally met someone who is a worse dancer than I am.’ If I were Caucasian, I would have turned beetroot red.” Here comes the Next Bride is about the ritual of catching the Bride’s bouquet which is believed to go with it some luck. This in reality is nothing but a mere ritual. A friend of the author seems wiser than most: “I don’t understand all your excitement, I caught this bouquet seven years ago, and still I am here….” Even for the author, her experience is not any better: “The MC had anchored two other weddings at which I was a bridesmaid so he knew me quite well, which was even more embarrassing as that would be the third time he would call men out.”
    Vendors are another group of people who play major roles at weddings and often a Maid of Honour does a lot of interfacing with them. Vendors are meant to make things easy for the couple and quite a number of them do but then there are those the author calls ‘Vendors from Hell’ who cannot but live true to their name. For them, cutting corners is the name of the game. These are to be avoided and the only way to do so is ensuring that one does proper background checks. Imagine a vendor takes your money, would not show up but sends an apprentice who was not there when the details of assignment were discussed. And to make matters worse, she switches of her phone on that day!
    One of the overarching themes of this book is that it is not so much about amount of money spent that makes a wedding tick but the quality of preparations. She impresses on the importance of being realistic and sensitive especially on making demands on friends and relations. It is better to be consistent and meet your expectations than set yourself up for failure by taking on too much.
    Dress and style are important components of a wedding and a big issue among prospective brides and their girls. It is not surprising therefore that Nneka dedicates three chapters to discussing this. Everybody wants to look their best on that day but the definition of what is best is as varied as the number of people involved. Sometimes the bride choose their dress and style but the author warns this is a recipe for chaos. Ladies won’t agree on whether it should be long or short; flowing or fitted; sparkly or matte. This is no fault of theirs. Tastes just differ and each person has reasons for her preference. So what’s to be done? The author says this should not be open for debate. The bride should think about the concept and a dress for the girls.
    The author has also had her own dose of disappointments at weddings when things won’t just go right sometimes for reasons she says were her own faults. But there was one that she cannot but recall. That was when she was dropped by Chinwe, her sister’s friend, from her train! The reason is simple; the bride had a friend that she could not disappoint and the groom would not want an increase in the number on the train so a choice had to be made and she was dropped. Painful as this was, she saw the bright side of it by ensuring that she came out as beautiful as she could! Another lesson for would-be bridesmaids- things will not always go your way. Always see the brighter side of every situation. From a denial in 2004, the author has become a ‘professional bridesmaid!!!!
    As much as the author tries, she can’t answer all questions in this slim but important book. One must however commend her boldness, creativity and ability to see a story where many will see none. She has in the process provided a book that many will find invaluable as they confront the arduous task of either planning their own weddings or those of their friends and relations. But for the general reader, this is a hilarious work only comparable to A Wedding Party, a recent flick that illustrates some of the issues raised in this book. For Nneka, nothing too trivial to discuss and the most serious issues are discussed in a light-hearted manner without glossing over the lessons to be learnt.
    Another strength of the book is its wide appeal to both men and women, young and old and those who want to have an insight into what goes into the behind-the- scenes- character of a modern Nigerian wedding.
    The language is crisp and racy and the introduction of dialogue brings the various experiences to life. Subsequent editions will however benefit from a check on the few typos in the book. Nothing wrong with the narrative being laced with some dosage of ‘Nigerian English’ but for a book that seeks a wider audience, expressions that are ‘Nigerianese’ would require explanations in endnotes. Like every work of art, Nneka leaves a lot unsaid about certain experiences but that should be expected because it is also in her own interest to protect her herself and her friends. After all, whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!!! These however do not in any way detract from the import of this work and like most good books; it is one you would be caught reading again and again because it is such a good book.
    The book will be launched on Sunday, 1.30 pm at an event tagged Cocktails & Conversation on Admiralty Way, Lekki Phase 1.

  • TGI Group donates to Borno IDPs

    TGI Group donates to Borno IDPs

    A team from TGI Group, an international investment and holding company with interests and investments in Africa, Middle East and Asia, has donated a lorry load of evaporated milk, pharmaceutical and agricultural products to the internally displaced persons (IDP) in Borno State.

    Many of the inhabitants of the camps are the most vulnerable members of the society – children and women. Regrettably, several children are orphans while the women are mostly widows.

    According to Borno State Emergency Management Agency (SEMA) Executive Chairman Satomi Ahmad, there are 69,000 widows and 54,000 orphans in IDP camps.

    He said: “SEMA is responsible for the coordination of humanitarian activities in the state. Prior to the crisis, which was about to consume us, Borno State was the home of peace. We, however, thank God that lately things have improved tremendously. It will interest you to know that the human crisis we are managing here is the third largest in the world after Iraq and Syria. The level of destruction, the quantum and magnitude of displacement is inconceivable. Borno State alone accommodates 89 per cent of the Nigerian IDPs. It is the support of good Samaritans like your organisation that has partly been keeping us going.”

    Also, Mr. Sadiq Kassim, the General Manager, Corporate Affairs, who represented the Group Managing Director of TGI Limited, Mr. Rahul Savara, said the company was committed to reducing hunger and alleviating suffering in the IDP camps and other indigent communities not only in the northeast but all over the country

    “In this period of economic hardship, this is our own little way of saying that we remember and care for them, to let them know that they are not alone and assure them of our continued support.

    “TGI Group is committed to bringing succor to all IDP camps in northeat. We want to help reduce the suffering and pains of as many families affected by insecurity and violence in the northeast.

    TGI Group is the parent company of Chi Limited, WACOT Limited, CHI Pharmaceuticals Ltd, CHI Farms, CORMART, and many other firms in the country.

    “We are here because our Group is interested in offering support to what the State government is doing to alleviate the pains of the victims of insurgency. We feel that whatever affects one part of the country affects the whole as well and we must empathise with the State government and the people in particular,” Kassim said.

    Continuing he said: “Sometime last year, our Board took a decision that we should do something for people in IDP camps in Borno State, which is the most ravaged by insurgency and, so, WACOT Limited was mandated to supply six hundred bags of maize to be used for feeding members of the IDP camps and recently also, Chi Limited was told, you produce evaporated milk and other milk products, these are children and people who are malnourished, you need to also do your own. So, 3000 cartons of evaporated milk have been brought while Chi Pharmaceuticals was also mandated to do their own and they have also supplied certain numbers of OTC drugs for use particularly in the camps to help maintain the health status of individuals in the camp”.

    “So, our objective is actually to meet with you, discuss with you because TGI Group is interested and will continue to assist you. It is an engagement we want to take further and the other companies within the Group will want to contribute whatever little they can do. We want to be part of your success story; we want to be part of whatever will bring people to their normal lives.”

    Commending the gesture of the various companies in the TGI Group – Chi Limited, WACOT Limited and Chi Pharmaceuticals, Ahmad called on other corporate organisations to emulate the Group because the government alone cannot shoulder everything.

    “When I received the first consignment of maize about six months ago, I was very happy and discussed it with the governor. He is appreciative of what you are doing.  You can see for yourself that many of the children are malnourished, I, therefore, appreciate your donation of evaporated milk and pharmaceutical products.”