Category: Bridals

  • Neglecting our children endangers the future

    Neglecting our children endangers the future

    Professor Ibironke Akinsete is a woman of many parts. The expert in the area of women’s health and chairman, Pathcare Nigeria, has impacted on the lives of many. Yetunde Oladeinde had an encounter with the amiable woman who describes herself as a senior citizen trying to balance work and family at the National Conference of Business and Professional Women, which took place at the Chelsea Hotel, Abuja recently.

    HAVING combined her successful career with her marriage to a Professor of Mechanical Engineering, she says that “it is so sad that the upbringing of our children is now left for housemaids. It is important to give them more time because they are your legacy. Young mothers should take their children around and discuss with them more often. If you have all the money and properties and your children do not turn out well then you haven’t done well. They are the next generation and we will all be endangered species if we do not take care of their interests.

    Apart from the children, women, she stressed, must take good care of their health at the different stages of life to be successful. “Health is the new wealth, and prevention is better than cure. In order to enjoy your financial success, we must ensure good health. This is the absence of disease and complete mental, physical and social well-being. There are so many factors responsible for this and they include ignorance, poverty and disease which affect our welfare. In addition, to this you find that nutrition, exercise, lifestyle, genetics, environment, emotion and stress have an impact on our overall health. All these are intertwined and things are better when detected early. This also makes it better when it comes to cost of managing the disease.”

    Akinsete goes on: “A recent statistics from the World Diabetes Organisation says Africa has the highest mortality because a lot of people who have the disease do not know. It is at the end stage that they find out. When we eat our food, the carbohydrate is broken down and the glucose is needed to do the digestion. Diabetes can be due to the lack of insulin by the pancreas or when it is insensitive. There are three types of insulin; the first is the lack in childhood and they would be injected for life. The type two is when there is not enough, here insulin production diminishes. About 90 per cent diabetes cases are type 2 while 10 per cent is type 1. There is also gestational diabetes which occurs in pregnant women and they have high blood sugar. Once the pregnancy is over, it falls and they go back.“

    She goes on to talk about some of its symptoms: “Excessive thirst, excessive hunger, frequency in urination, tiredness and weight loss are some of the things to watch out for. Diabetes is a leading cause of death and sickness. It destroys the eyes and causes kidney, stroke and heart diseases.”

    Some of the risk factors are overweight, family history, age and diabetes during pregnancy. “If someone in your family has had it then you are predisposed to it. Screening includes fasting, blood glucose, random and the new HGBAC used for diabetes and pre-diabetes. Pre-diabetes means that your blood sugar is not normal but you are not yet diabetic. You can control this by avoiding sugar and carbohydrates which is usually broken down to sugar. The risk increases with age and we need to watch what we eat and our lifestyle. Unfortunately, what you hear is that the devil has done its worst when they lose a loved one.”

    Next, Akinsete says high blood pressure is also very common in the society today. “High blood pressure is expressed in two ways, the systolic (high) and the diastolic (relaxed). Normal blood pressure is less than 120/80. If you are in the pre-hypertension bracket, you can stop it by decreasing the salt in your diet. Here, a lot of us are salt addicts but the salt you take increases your risk of hypertension.”

    She stressed that there is a need to check the label of products on the shelf for what it contains before buying. “Cholesterol is needed in the body to function but too much of it clogs the blood vessel and it is a major cause of heart diseases. It is higher than average risk if you are male and over 35 years or female over 45 years. There are two types of cholesterol; the good and the bad. The bad type leads to the hardening of the arteries and narrowing of the arteries. When you go for screening, you must be fasting. It would give you a complete blood lipid profile which would tell you the level of good and bad cholesterol.”

    Akinsete also talks about cancer and some of the reasons why it appears to be on the increase. “Analgesics, bleaching creams and some herbal supplements can put people at risk for cancer. For breast cancer, which is common with women, it is important to note that not all lumps are cancerous. Some of the reasons for its occurrence include starting menstrual period earlier or later, being older at birth of first child, someone who has never had babies or having a mammogram before the age of 50. Others include early menopause or family history of cancer. Prostate cancer, however, is common in African and African-American men. A medical examination must include a rectal examination of the prostrate with the prostate specific antigen.”

    While talking about cancer of the colon which develops from polyps, growth on the inner surface of the colon, she goes down memory lane to recount a personal experience. “My husband and I travelled to America to see my daughter, a doctor who practices in America. She said we should have the colon test which was not a difficult thing to do. Lo and behold, they saw small polyps and it was removed. What if I had not done that test 15 years ago and repeated it five years after. We may be telling a different story and the good news is that there are so many hospitals that are doing it here now. Colonoscopy is what I did and the faecial stool test is what should be done every year. Unfortunately, there are so many mushroom laboratories around, if you must carry out a test, make sure that the results are accurate and reliable.”

    Akinsete, who was the chairman of blood transfusion screening in Lagos for six years, also emphasised the fact that recent findings still place women at a higher risk of HIV infection. “Women are at risk because it is usually transmitted to them. We are sexually active and you do not know where your partner has been. The prevalence is still 4.1 and there is still no cure or vaccine. Women are the ones who are likely to take blood after delivery. Blood transfusion should be properly monitored and Lagos State passed a law about two years ago.

  • Touching widows in anguish

    Touching widows in anguish

    WIDOWHOOD can be very traumatic but it is indeed a sad reality that cannot be avoided by many. One woman who is passionate about touching the lives of women in this category is Folorunsho Alakija through the Rose of Sharon Foundation (ROSF). As part of its strategic plan of reaching out and touching widows across the length and breadth of Nigeria, it conducted a feasibility study in Benue State three years ago and discovered that the state had over 5,000 widows (the highest in Nigeria), of which two thousand widows were registered.

    As a result of this discovery, on Friday, 15th November, 2013, the ROSF Board of Trustees paid a courtesy visit to the Executive Governor of Benue State and his amiable wife, Dr. Gabriel Suswam and Mrs. Dooshima Yemisi Suswam, to discuss how to enter into partnership with the Benue State Government with a view to alleviating the suffering of these widows and their children.

    The ROSF Board of Trustees was led by its founder, Mrs. Foloronsho Alakija, and the other trustees that accompanied her were Mrs. Esther Osho, Mrs. Stella Awoh and Mr. Bassey Essien. The Suswams were very receptive and promised to support and partner with the ROSF in order to alleviate the suffering of the widows and orphans.

    A major area to focus on over the next couple of years includes agriculture due to the fact that a majority of the widows registered are mainly engaged in subsistence farming. Through subsidisation of fertilizer, introduction of mechanised farming, provision of storage facilities for widows’ farm produce, enterprise development training, and educational support for interested widows, their children, and orphans.

    The ROSF members also used the opportunity to visit the state’s First Lady’s pet project, SEV-AV Foundation and SEV-AV Women Coalition Against HIV and AIDS.

    In order to provide quality educational and economic development services to its widows and orphans on a sustainable basis, the ROSF partners with reputable institutions such as the Lagos State Ministry of Education for quality education and education advisory; Empretec Nigeria Foundation (a private sector initiative of United Nations Centre for Trade and Development (UNCTAD) for Entrepreneurship Training Workshops (ETW) Programme, while its Doctors’ Reachout Initiative ensures affordable healthcare services to ROSF widows, their children, and orphans.

    Within the last five years, ROSF has successfully provided micro credits for nine hundred and seventy-three widows, educational scholarships to one thousand, three hundred and sixty-six widow’s children and eighty-eight orphans towards strengthening the enabling environment for widows and orphans in Lagos, Ogun and Oyo states.

  • Spectacular  indoor and  outdoor

    Spectacular indoor and outdoor

    You want your wedding to be unique, memorable and entertaining, but it can be a challenge to come up with the perfect backdrop for the festivities. There are a lot of places and décor designs to choose from. Yetunde Oladeinde explores the possibilities which can vary based on a number of factors, like the time of year, your budget and the number of guests.

    IT is indeed a day to remember and the venue helps to give you a remarkable starting point. These days a lot of people make use of halls and gardens to make it delightful. One nice thing about this approach is that it doesn’t take much planning and can be a low-stress option. Alternatively, you can make use of country clubs which often have lavish facilities that make for spectacular indoor and outdoor wedding celebrations. If you have lots of space in your premises, you can make use of this and save some cost. Getting married in your own backyard can be a touching tribute to your parents and an homage to the gardener in your family. The size of the wedding and potential weather problems are always considerations when dealing with limited outdoor spaces, though. That should not be a big threat because you can add structural elements like tents, tables, lighting, chairs and a platform to the property could destroy some of the existing landscaping too. For a small and intimate affair, nothing beats a wedding in an inviting little chapel. Here, scale plays a role in what makes the effect seem so fairytale perfect, keep it small and go for classic touches in the flowers and gowns. If you don’t plan on having many guests, using a chapel is a great way to make the proceedings feel cozy without appearing too informal. If you are the adventurous type, then you can opt for something on the water or with an ocean, lake or river view. This can be a dramatic and appealing venue for a wedding. Some interesting options include ferries, houseboats, dockside restaurants and parks near or on waterways. Playing with details around nature can be very exciting. Plants, flowers, ocean treasures and animal designs can be used to make a grand theme for your D-day in style. Your choice may require some additional creative strategising, but it never hurts to explore all the options, especially if it’ll make your dreams come true. An unusual wedding venue can create some hassles, but it can be the basis for great stories later and a one-of-a-kind experience for everyone involved.

  • Be distinct with the pearl

    Be distinct with the pearl

    Getting set for the wedding day can be a delight. Yetunde Oladeinde takes a look at the pearl as an accessory and how it can make you distinct as you step out in style.

    THE best thing that can happen to any bride is to look fantastic and be the toast of everyone. This way, she is likely to feel complete and proud that her day has been personalised. To do this effectively, you need to get creative and make use of your selling points and special features.

    For the bride, getting the right accessories to complement the bridal gown can be a delight. You can make your dreams come through once you know and understand the effect that you want to achieve on your D-day. When it comes to choosing accessories with panache for the day, the pearl comes to mind. For so long, it has proved to be the accessory for ladies with class and in spite of its simplicity.

    The bride can therefore opt for the regal look with the pearl experience. Interestingly, the pearl is known to symbolise wealth, wisdom and feminity. It connotes elegance, high fashion and more. It is a hard lustrous spherical mass, typically white or bluish grey, formed within the shell of a pearl oyster or some other highly prized material as the gem. It speaks volume in terms of quality and you have a variety of exciting options like the priced freshwater and glass pearl design.

    On the list of wonderful treasure that you can make use of in the pearl family is the bridal shoe designs with pearl studs on the fringe and other interesting parts of your choice design. The pearl can also take you into a wonderful adventure with headbands, jewelry sets, pendants and more.

  • Atinuke and Babatunde tie the knot

    Atinuke and Babatunde tie the knot

    IT was another walk down the aisle, as Atinuke Khadijat and Babatunde Samson exchanged their marital vows before a judge and men at the Marriage Registry Hall, Orile Agege Local Council Development Area last Saturday.

    As a marriage made in heaven, the couple shared their joy in the presence of family, friends, colleagues and neighbours. We wish the couple the best in life and the peace of the Lord as they continue in LOVE.

  • Creating a unique outlook

    Creating a unique outlook

    YOUR wedding day is indeed to step out and look gorgeous in your best. For a number of ladies looking trim and smart to fit into their dream outfits is one assignment that is a must. It is indeed a period when they go dieting and pamper their skin to look good.

    One other aspect of the preparation that helps create the needed transformation is the accessories that would compliment your outfit. While shopping for your accessories, you need to take note of what you need and choice matching accessories for the outfits.

    You also need to remember that the other ceremonies preceding the elaborate wedding ceremony are all important for the bride. She needs to create a unique outlook for each event and still strike a wonderful balance with the image that she wants to be identified with.

    In your wedding dress, simple necklaces with matching earrings, bracelets and a cute wristwatch helps set the tone for innocence in a unique way. For the engagement ceremony however, you can get more creative and more daring in bright and bold accessories. Looking like a wonderful princess can also be achieved wearing accessories made of diamonds, rubies, Crystals and other accessories made with precious stones.

  • Samuel hooks Busayo

    Samuel hooks Busayo

    Engineer Busayo Bisilola recently got married to her heartthrob Samuel Olakunori The glamorous wedding took place at Ikare Registry Ondo State, while the reception took place at Victory College ground , Ikare , Ondo state

    Dignitaries and families who attended the wedding are Dr.and Mrs Bolu Ogundowole ,ReverendsT .O . Banwo, Emmanuel O. Malomo among others.

  • An indispensable accessory

    An indispensable accessory

    AS a bride, looking trendy depends on the accessories you make use of on this special day. One accessory that comes in handy is the hand-held fan. It comes in different patterns and designs and it is an implement used to induce an airflow for the purpose of cooling or refreshing oneself.

    The advantage of a bridal hand fan is threefold. It will provide that additional touch of beauty that you wish for your wedding costume, it will also be your elegant cooling companion, and after the wedding, the beautiful framed fan will always be a lovely souvenir of your ‘happiest day’. Since its invention many centuries ago, the folding fan became an object of desire as well as an indispensable accessory, work of art and sign of distinction. A hand fan is always the unexpected, touching, unforgettable gift.

    Those folding fans of the 15th century found in museums today have either leather leaves with cut out designs forming a lace-like design or a more rigid leaf with inlays of more exotic materials like mica. One of the characteristics of these fans is the rather crude bone or ivory sticks and the way the leather leaves are often slotted onto the sticks rather than glued as with later folding fans. Fans made entirely of decorated sticks without a fan ‘leaf’ were known as brisé fans. However, despite the relative crude methods of construction, folding fans were at this era high status, exotic items on par with elaborate gloves as gifts to royalty.

    In the 17th century the folding fan, introduced from East Asia, became popular in Europe. These fans are particularly well displayed in the portraits of the high-born women of the era. Queen Elizabeth 1st of England can be seen to carry both folding fans decorated with pom poms on their guardsticks as well as the older style rigid fan, usually decorated with feathers and jewels. These rigid style fans often hung from the skirts of ladies, but of the fans of this era it is only the more exotic folding ones which have survived.

    In the 18th century, fans reached a high degree of artistry and were being made throughout Europe often by specialised craftsmen, either in leaves or sticks. Folded fans of silk, or parchment were decorated and painted by artists. Fans were also imported from China by the East India companies at this time. Around the middle 18th century, inventors started designing mechanical fans. Wind-up fans were popular in the 18th century.

    It has been said that in the courts of England, Spain and elsewhere fans were used in a more or less secret, unspoken code of messages. These fan languages were a way to cope with the restricting social etiquette. During a certain period of time (century XIX and beginning of the XX), the fan became an ideal instrument of communication in an age on which freedom of speech for women was absolutely restricted. The main gestures and their respective meanings that together configured what was known as “the language of the fan”.

  • A bridal  shower  with  pleasant  memories

    A bridal shower with pleasant memories

    HE popped the question and she said yes. With the time ticking and the countdown to the walk down the aisle, the bride-to-be is worth celebrating. The bridal shower is more than a gift-sharing ceremony, it is also an occasion for friends and family to get together to celebrate the forthcoming wedding.

    As the maid of honour, mother of the bride-to-be or the sister, it is your responsibility to organise the bridal shower. More than it sounds, bridal shower is a big responsibility and, therefore, requires loads of planning. For a unique bridal shower, remember to put in place:

    1) The date for the bridal shower should be two months before the wedding. This is usually an ideal time as the bride-to-be is relaxed enough to enjoy her bridal shower.

    2) The usual number should be between ten and twenty depending on the bride’s close circle of friends, family and co-workers.

    3) The venue: the bridal shower has to do with interactions and games, it is therefore relevant that an atmosphere of joy and sisterhood is created. Therefore, it can be held either at home, restaurants, beach or clubs.

    4) The gift: bridal shower gifts are not meant to be elaborate, so spend less. Gifts that can be presented are kitchenware, a ticket to a movie or dinner at a notable restaurant.

    You’ll find that most of the party will be spent eating, laughing, telling stories and opening presents. However, to avoid eating away the memory of the shower, take pictures. This is another neat way to preserve the memory of the bridal shower. When guests arrive, take a picture of each guest with a digital camera or a regular camera, develop or print out the pictures. Next, you can find a photo book and fix necessary pictures. You can then present it to your bride and groom at a later date.

    Every bridal shower is different. Some brides-to-be just want to have fun and will appreciate games at their bridal showers while some brides would rather not have a game, but still want something neat and interesting. So it is important to understand the personality involved to plan something that is worthwhile. It is therefore up to the host or hostess of the shower to ensure that the bride have a fun time!