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  • ADEDAYO OJO: I have had  to fire staff  for lateness

    ADEDAYO OJO: I have had to fire staff for lateness

    Adedayo ‘Dayo’ Ojo is the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Caritas Group and its subsidiaries.  Before setting up shop over 13 years ago, the graduate of the University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University), who also holds a 1984 Master of Arts Degree in Communication Arts from the University of Ibadan as well as a Diploma in Public Relations from Public Relations Business School, London, spent 15 years with ExxonMobil’s Nigerian affiliate, Mobil Producing Nigeria (MPN), where he retired in 2006 as Country Government Relations Advisor and Head of Abuja Office. He also had a stint as pioneer Vice President in charge of Corporate Relations with Transnational Corporation of Nigeria Plc (Transcorp), to mention just a few. In this interview with IBRAHIM APEKHADE YUSUF, the integrated marketing communications expert, an alumnus of Lagos Business School, who has contacts across different verticals of the business landscape, speaks on his management style and philosophy, likes and dislikes, among other sundry issues. Excerpts:

    The God-factor in everything

    The first impression you get from engaging with Mr. Adedayo Ojo is that here is one man who considers the God-factor in all he does. In fact, he believes very strongly that God should lead in the affairs of men. Little wonder he says as a man of Christian faith, he starts off his day with prayers. To him, praying is a bounden duty of sorts he owes to His creator and this devotion to God reflected all through the chitchat as he punctuated every response with memory verses from the holy book.

    Management style and philosophy

    As manager of men and resources, he says his management style and philosophy lends itself to democratic tendencies rather than being autocratic. “I believe in managing people by democratising the management process. I don’t know if that exists in the books. But my approach, given what I have experienced in the last few decades, is that whilst setting directions for the team in terms of giving a broad guideline as to what to do, I like to allow every individual and everybody to decide how he or she would be managed. And that’s what I call democratising the management function.”

    Speaking further, he says, his responsibility is to make it clear where the company is headed and show understanding of how the team can get there and then let each individual plot what they need to do to get there.

    “I believe strongly that if you know the deliverables and the timelines, you will follow through on them,” he further emphasises.

    However, one thing he doesn’t compromise is punctuality. As someone who naturally sets stores by the ideal and idea of hard work and dedication, there is no room for indolence at the workplace.

    “As they say, punctuality is the soul of business. I believe that for anyone to succeed in what they do that individual must be punctual. If you’re not punctual, several other things will not be in place. So, we make that ground rule and everybody is attuned to it. At Caritas for instance, each individual is allowed to set his or her goals in terms of how you accomplish the identified deliverables within time limit,” he noted.

    “Every individual on the team got his or her position on merit and is not based on who you know. It is interesting that two of our new team members, I never met them until may be two weeks ago and they have been with us for months. Because when they came for the interview it was done online and all of that so, every individual having achieved his or her position by merit, is allowed to decide how he or she wants to work because the deliverables are clear. It is only those who then show signs that they need help that we help. But of course, every individual is given timely feedback on performance so that people will know where the weak link is and people will know where they are doing well. We give constant feedback as to what’s going well and what’s not going well so that individuals can set goals at his or her own pace.”

    A talent hunter

    He believes that God created every individual as the bible says, in His image, so everybody is good, everybody is competent and everybody has potentials. “As such, once you allow people to know what they are supposed to do, they’ll do it. I agree people need to be mentored and people need to be guided. Everybody has a certain level of skills and then those who have more experience like me have a responsibility to share lessons from their experience.”

    He says with so much conviction that everyone was created with a deposit of innate talent and ability which get improved with the value of learning and education that every individual has gone through.

    Delegating and micromanaging people

    Asked to elucidate on whether he delegates or micromanage people, he admitted that he does both all depending on the work at hand.

    “Sincerely, I would say I fluctuate between delegating and micromanaging the team members. Experience has taught me that you have to delegate and I do delegate. That’s why on a daily basis, I actually do not deal with all team members. At Caritas, the person that runs the day-to-day operations of the company is the Chief Operating Officer. He also has people with specific responsibilities. Except there is something that an individual is doing directly with me, I don’t deal with them. So to that extent, I would say that I delegate because everybody has a clear description of his or her job. However, there are some responsibilities that comes across given the nature of our job as an agency where we have to do a lot of creative, independent thinking, and the kind of ideas we are called upon to bring to the table to support clients’ eclectic briefs’ to get that done, you really have to once in while allow people to be themselves because people can’t be creative if they’re not themselves and then creativity cannot be taught, it’s innate. “As you know today, most of what we do, is around people just being natural, telling stories to get what you want done; telling stories to bring out the good part of an organisation, an individual and to do that the individuals’ idiosyncrasies would come in. The way I would do it is different from the way my colleague would do it. But the important thing is that at the end of the day, a story is told convincingly, timely and it’s effective communication and at the end of the day the overall goal of the recipient of that communication is fulfilled.”

    Good team player

    On whether he considers himself a team player at all, he says that’s a no-brainer. “I don’t know who you’d ask and who would say he is not a team player. But let me put it this way, I realised that to achieve the organisation’s goal I cannot do it alone. That’s the whole idea of trying to build a company, and we have been trying to do that for some 13 years now.  If I do not believe that a team is necessary, then I would have a one-man company that would never grow beyond me as an individual. And if there is a way to measure if we’re a good team player or not, a simple illustration is that we have clients that we have serviced for more than 10 years consistently. And most of the jobs that is done and delivered to them were not done by me. And the truth is that today where we are as an organisation is that there are some clients I don’t get to talk to for a month or two.  And yet, modestly, we can say that we’re meeting the expectations of the clients and in many cases, we’re surpassing the expectations of the clients. So that would be my modest way of reacting to the question of whether I’m a good player or not.”

    Staff motivation

    Talking about staff motivation, he admits ahead that it is been a very daunting task to motivate staff in the last 12 months or so since the advent of the Covid-19 pandemic.

    Expatiating, he said, “For me as a CEO, one of the things I’m most proud of is that since we started Caritas, I would say that we’re probably not the highest paying agency around but one of the companies in our sector that pays what we promise to pay timely and we have done that consistently for 12 years plus. I think that every employee deserves his or her wages, and the holy book supports that. It’s a sin to hire people and not pay them their wages. So I think the primary way to motivate people is what you promised to give to them, you give to them. Just like you expect that their commitment to deliver on the specific responsibilities of their office and once that is done, you must not only pay them, you must pay it timely. So, in my view, to the best of the competence of the company in terms of resources, we meet those expectations. Based on my experience, I also try to make sure that when employees do well, we commend them. You not only tell people about the areas they need to improve, you also commend them when they meet their goals and when they exceed expectations. That’s a good expectation and in good time, we would go out of the way occasionally to give gifts in kind and in cash when they are necessary and all sorts of things within the limit of the reality of today.”

    Besides, he revealed that before the pandemic struck, one of the things the company did regularly was hosting quarterly get-together, social functions for employees to just have a TGIF (Thank God It’s Friday!).

    Regretfully, he says the pandemic put a stop to all that. “We haven’t been able to do that in the last 18 months.  But I’m looking forward to us doing that as well. We also have inbuilt into employee benefits, some packages, when they have events in their personal lives that are worth celebrating. For instance during marriages, child births, birthdays, etc.”

    Applying the stick and carrot approach to staff

    “Every organisation wants to survive, and for sustainable growth, you have to encourage staff and discipline where necessary,” he says matter-of-factly.

    But he says there is a caveat: “It must be done with due recognition to the individual. You must recognise also that individuals are different. You must also strive to understand everyone who works with you and recognise the best way to correct them when they need correction. Because the way you deal with an individual to get the best from a particular individual is different from what you can do for another individual to get the same result. It is only the leader that is able to do that that is a leader indeed.”

    On what has been the turnover of staff since he set up shop some 13 years ago, he emphasised that, “What I’m proud to say is that in our company, we have had staff who have been with us for upward of 12 years. But we have also had people who have moved to other jobs and they are doing very well. We have our staff who now work on the client’s side, and we’re very happy for them. For everyone who has passed through our organisation, we have always encouraged them to give a good account of themselves. We are happy to support them to leave and if they want to come back, they’re always welcome.”

    Not a boss who hires and fires at a drop of hat!

    Yes, he has had cause to fire a recalcitrant staff but then it was justified from all account.

    “I remember we have had to ask a staff to leave because he was not ever punctual. You need just come to work on time, because every individual has to deliver on time. My mantra is punctuality is the soul of business. From day one, that’s one thing I tell every new employee. To work here, you must be punctual. So, we have had to fire people basically because of punctuality. We have also had to fire an employee because of dishonesty. But if you look at the number of people that have worked in the organsation, the numbers we have asked to leave are infinitesimal, less than 2 per cent. So, when people talk about the challenges of getting the right fit of staff, at Caritas, we have been extremely fortunate. I’m especially proud of the team we have here. A relatively smaller team than we had two years ago, but I’m very proud of the individuals working here today because they’re a good fit for the corporate culture.”

    Best decision in working career

    On what he considers the best decision in his working career, he says without mincing words that it was the day he decided to take the plunge and get behind the wheel as his own boss.

    Upbeat, he said, “I would say that the most important thing for me is the decision to start a company because it has been exceedingly rewarding. The very fact that there are people other than myself whose daily bread comes from working in the company, is exceedingly rewarding for me. So, I can look back and say that every employee we have had gets paid on time. To recall that there are organisations who have recorded their goals because of the professional support they have gotten from Caritas is equally rewarding. So, from a professional point of view, I think the idea of founding the company is exceedingly rewarding because what led to founding the company itself was that I found out that while I was in paid employment, some of the quality of services and the range of expertise around serving them was not available from the companies that provided services to us and I thought that that was a deficit. I can say that in the last 12 years, as a service provider we have closed that gap.”

    Worst decision

    Looking back in time in his career trajectory, he says every experience he has had was a learning curve and not one to rue over. “I don’t consider any particular decision the worst and I would explain that. What life has taught me includes the fact that every experience is an experience to be learnt from. There is not one that is good and there is not one that is bad in principle. “Every experience is what it is; it is to be learnt from. It’s either how to do it or how not to do it. There have been a number of decisions that we have taken and the lesson I took out of them was that don’t do it that way again.”

    Life lessons

    On how he sees life, he waxed philosophical. “I don’t take life too seriously. That’s my view. I start the day by praying. I continue to pray as I live every day that, God would help me to understand the people, things that are within my ability to deal with and the ones beyond my control, I pray about them. Those that are within my ability, I work on them. I get along with family members and those who work for me.

    “I remain a student of life. Basically, what life has taught me is to take every experience as a learning opportunity. Of course, related to that is the fact that I believe that as I mentioned this earlier on that God created every person to be good. There is no bad person in my own view. That’s part of the lessons that life has taught me. Every individual should be focused on doing good. Every individual should do good as you can to every individual so that things will work out for you. Do as much good as you can, do no evil to anyone, work hard, pray hard and everything will work out. So, my philosophy is that; do as much good as you can to people, do no evil to anyone, work hard, pray hard.”

    Greatest influence

    His greatest influence in life he says are his parents with regards to his Christian upbringing. “I would say that every individual is a product of their background. I thank God that I have parents that subscribed to the Christian faith and brought us up along that path for the strict catholic upbringing. Like many other individuals at some point one deviated, but the important thing is that training and discipline helped. Added to that strict Christian upbringing is education. My parents never questioned when it was education. For me one of the fondest memories I had of my father was after I first finished secondary school and I didn’t do well I thought it was the end. He looked at the result and said, ‘tomorrow you’re going back to school.’ So, I repeated Form 5 and within the next nine month I was in the university. That was his focus on education. If he had a different attitude such that he had beaten me, I was prepared to pack my bag and run away from home. Maybe I wouldn’t have gone to college and the story would have been different today. So, I thank my parents for that focus on education. So, I believe that whatever anybody would do based on my experience, education is a prerequisite. If you have a very good education, your chances of success would rise astronomically.”

    Definition of success

    Success for him is happiness and not measured in material terms. “Every individual is responsible for their own happiness. The richest people are not the happiest people.  But I think that success should be determined in terms of having good people around you, being thankful to God, and then for the gift of all the people around you, you moderate your view, your needs and within that circumference, you will find happiness. And that’s what I define as success.”

    Self-motivation

    “I’m motivated by the word of God that says, ‘I will be with you all the days of your life.’ I’m particularly enthralled with the early part of the book of Joshua, chapter one.”

    Golfer for life

    Like a typical epicurean who loves the good life, he sure knows how to catch fun when he wants to.  “Other than golf, I love travelling. I love visiting the countryside. Driving along and sitting with friends and making merry. I love music but unfortunately I’m not blessed with a good voice.”

    Pressed further as to his holiday destination outside the country, he says the southern part of Spain is it for him.

    Regardless, he says matter-of-factly, “For me, there is no beautiful destination if there is no opportunity to play golf. Golf is life and life is golf. Don’t ask me whether I’m a good golfer or not. What I can tell you for a fact is that I have been playing golf for over 25 years. So, I enjoy it. I love golf. I have a passion for golf and I’m happiest when I’m on the golf course because golf teaches you about life. You make a mistake you get punished for it, you play a good shot, you’re rewarded for it. And every day on the golf course is different because every shot is different. So, I love golf, I enjoy golf. I play golf a minimum of three times a week if I find the time. It helps me to be mentally focused and relaxed.”

    Favourite meal

    As a typical Yoruba man from upcountry his favorite meal he says is yam flour known in local parlance as amala. “So, if you’re going to take me to an island, where there is only one meal that must be served throughout the duration, it must be amala.”

  • Toast to Lawal : Pedro at 60

    Toast to Lawal : Pedro at 60

    It seems like yesterday that we first met, but it is over 48 years. When I say we, I refer to members of the 1977/78 Set of Anwar-Ul Islam College Agege Old Students Association (ACAOSA) who entered the school either in January or September 1973. Those little boys of yesterday are now men in their own right. This is why today, all roads lead to the Civic Centre on Victoria Island, Lagos, as friends and family members gather to celebrate a member of that set, Alhaji Lawal Alade Pedro (SAN), at 60. Peddy, as he is fondly called by friends, no longer belong to the set alone as he is today the President-General (PG) of ACAOSA. A true Omo Eko, Pedro grew up on Lagos Island, where he spent most of his formative years. He was born to the families of Libento Momoh Pedro and Ojikutu-Ambose branch of the Akinsemoyin royal house in 1961.

    Pedro was born to lead, impact and touch lives. He started exhibiting these traits  from childhood. Today, these traits have blossomed as he shines as a star wherever he is.  Pedro, who retired as Permanent Secretary and Solicitor-General of Lagos State Ministry of Justice in 2015, has been PG of ACAOSA since 2011.

    He had his elementary education at Christ Church Cathedral Primary School, Broad Street, Lagos Island, between 1966 and 1972 and proceeded to Ahmadiyya College, Agege, now known as Anwar-Ul Islam College, between 1973 and 1978 .

    As ACAOSA PG, he has been mobilising the old students to join hands with him in restoring the glory of their alma mater, which is the first Muslim college in West Africa. Under his leadership, the school has undergone tremendous transformation with landmark infrastructure all over the place.

    H isis achievements have not gone unnoticed. The owners of the school, the Anwar-Ul Islam Movement of Nigeria, led by Alhaji Mubashiru Ojelade, a lawyer and also an old student, have been working closely with the Pedro-led ACAOSA executive committee for the betterment of the college.

    Pedro is a tireless warhorse. Under him, ACAOSA has been growing from strength to strength. Among his numerous achievements are:

    • Registration of ACAOSA with the Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC).
    • Registration of UK ACAOSA M.I.S. Funds Enterprises on behalf of ACAOSA UK Chapter
    • Settting up of multi-purpose committees on education, sports, infrastructure & renewal to serve as a blueprint for the college’s development.
    • Revision and adoption of the association’s constitution
    • Renovation of one-block of building comprising nine classrooms and the Principal’s office.
    • Built and equipped the college’s clinic with the assistance of the UK chapter.
    • Construction of a mosque now nearing commissioning.

    Standard laboratories built and equipped by the Federal Government under the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs).

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    • Renovation of the football pitch with fund from the estate of the late J.K. Randle.
    • Assisted the college’s football team.
    • Encouraged formation of sets by old students which led to many projects executed by different sets.
    • Renovation of the basketball pitch into a multi-purpose pitch as well as donation of nets, balls.
    • Donation of laptops embedded with WAEC and JAMB past questions from 1978, in addition to hiring of a computer instructor. Subscription of internet facilities for 1year.
    • Tiling of dinning hall floor, changing of louvres, doors , windows and painting.
    • Provision of textbooks and other writing materials for students.
    • Painting of the laboratories.
    • Institution of scholarship to assist indigent students by Bashorun Femi Pedro, former Deputy Governor of Lagos State.
    • Provision of solar electricity for the college by the USA Chapter. This is the first of its kind in the history of secondary schools in Nigeria.
    • The PG went to court as a stakeholder and obtained an order to allow his alma mater to resolve the internal strife within Anwar-Ul Islam Movement. The judge surprised him by granting the alma mater of all other group of schools established by the movement the same power. The affairs of these schools went well till they settled the internal strife.
    • Expansion and renovation of the college’s library named for Principal emeritus, Alhaji Jimoh Adisa Gbadamosi, OON.
    • The 65th & 70th anniversaries of the school were celebrated with fanfare.
    • ACAOSA BOOK, which depicts the rich history of the college was reviewed after 30 years of the maiden edition.The book has been registered with the National Library in Abuja

    Pedro is not alone in the arduous task of remaking our alma mater. Other old boys working with him in this regard are Justice Ishola Olorunimbe (rtd), Bashorun Femi Pedro; Senator Musiliu Obanikoro, one-time commissioner in Lagos State and current Lagos APC chairman, Alhaji Tunde Balogun; Assistant- Inspector- General of Police, Kokumo Johnson; Alhaji Rahman Alarape, Hakeem Ogunniran, Dr Adelaja Omofade, Alhaji Jide Tairu, Mr Charles Obazuaye (ACAOSA UK Chapter president), Musbau Halid (ACAOSA US Chapter president), Taofik Aromashodu and Alhaji Olayiwola Tijani, among others.

    In a tribute, Assistant Inspector-General of Police Shina Olukolu described Pedro as “an energetic achiever with a great dream for our alma mater who will stop at nothing in seeing the college at the top of ivy league schools in the country”. To Ogunniran, Pedro “is not limiting his impact to the college. Wherever he goes he stamps his feet in the sand of times”.

    Tijani, who is ACAOSA General Secretary said Pedro is unassuming and always thinking about how to make the better. “He is zealous about making our alma mater primus interpares”, Tijani added. He should know as they work together.

    Pedro graduated in law from the Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria in 1985. He joined the chambers of Dele Akinmusuti & Co where he cut his teeth as a legal practitioner after completing his one-year mandatory National Youth Service (NYSC) as a Legal Officer in the Ibadan Western Regional office of First Bank of Nigeria Plc. He joined the Lagos State Ministry of Justice in 1987 and worked in various directorates. He rose through the ranks to become Director of Civil Litigation (2006). He was appointed Solicitor-General and Permanent Secretary of the ministry in April 2008.

    Pedro was called to the inner Bar in December, 2008, as a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN). He is a fellow and an examiner of the Chartered  Institute of Arbitrators Nigeria. He is a member of the Nigerian Bar Association (NBA) and International Bar Association (IBA). He is the author of:

    Jurisdiction of courts in Nigeria.

    Nigeria’s quest for egalitarian federalism.

    Contemporary issues In Nigeria Constitutional Law (Contributor).

    Pedro is now into private practice. From your ACAOSA family, we say Happy Diamond Anniversary, Peddy.

  • How we kidnapped  priests, killed another  victim, by suspects

    How we kidnapped priests, killed another victim, by suspects

    Two suspected members of a notorious kidnap gang in Kaduna arrested by the Police Intelligence Response Team (IRT) have given chilling details on their operations.

    The suspects, Salisu Abdullahi, 28, and Babangida Usman who confessed to have participated in about six kidnapping operations, including that of a priest, Fr. Tony Bawa, said they also killed one of their victims, Chinedu, after collecting N500,000 ransom because he fought with one of them.

    The suspects, who were paraded on Tuesday by police spokesman, Frank Mba, a Commissioner of Police (CP), at the IRT’s office in Abuja, admitted belonging to a daredevil gang that terrorised Kushemakaranta, Rafinkinba, Kuditlri, Kwei, along Nasarawa Express Road and Kurumikari areas of Kaduna State.

    Abdullahi, who said he joined the gang voluntarily about a year ago, claimed he was a farmer and cattle rustler before he took to kidnapping.

    A married man with three children, Abdullahi said he opted for kidnapping because it brought in more money, which he needed to womanise and buy alcoholic beverages.

    Giving details of the gang’s operations he partook in, Abdullahi said their leader usually gave them information on who to go after, and gave orders on whom to kill or spare after ransom.

    He said: “Since I joined the gang, we have kidnapped two reverend fathers. The first reverend father we kidnapped, we went to his house at Kushemakaranta around 3am. We carried three guns and broke into his house. When we knocked on the door, he opened.

    “He was alone in the house and didn’t struggle with us. We took him to the bush and only released him after we collected one million naira ransom.

    “The second reverend father (Tony Bawa) was also taken from his house and we kept him in the bush for two weeks until his people paid N8 million ransom.

    “It is not up to a year I joined the gang. I was not forced into kidnapping, I joined by myself. I was into farming and cattle rustling before I joined kidnap gang.

    “I am married with three children. I have no father or mother.

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    “I have participated in six operations and I made N800,000 from them.

    I used the money to drink and carry women. Nobody knows I am a kidnapper in the community.

    “My role in the gang is a watchman. I watch over kidnapped victims in the bush until ransom is paid for their release.

    “Our leader surveys the area for prominent persons. He also gathers intelligence on victims after which he informs us on the victim to kidnap.

    “One of the suspects we kidnapped was killed after N500,000 ransom was paid. He spent three days in our custody and he lived in the same area with our leader. His name is Chinedu, a businessman, and we kidnapped him from his house.

    “He was killed after the ransom because he fought with one of us. Our leader asked us to kill him. He was the first person I joined them to kidnap.

    “The second person was also named Chinedu, a trader. He was riding his motorbike to Kagaruko when our leader called us on the phone to give us a hint on his route.

    “Our leader rode his motorbike behind Chinedu and gave us information on where he was and where we would strike.

    “We abducted and took him to the bush, collected N700,000 from him and he was released.

    “I do not know the name of the third victim, but we collected N700,000 from him as well. He was lured out of the market.

    “He trades in ginger, so we told him we had ginger in the farm for sale and he volunteered to follow us, not knowing it was a trap.

    “On the way to the farm, he was kidnapped and made to pay N700,000 ransom.

    “The priest who paid N1m was the fourth victim, and the one whose people paid N8 million was the fifth. The sixth victim was picked from the farm. We collected N300,000.”

    Usman who said he made N600,000 from being a kidnapper, said his role was to guard victims.

    He said the gang did not kidnap women because they were the ones to go source for the money to pay in order to free their husbands.

  • Woman  impregnated  twice by her  twin brother  insists on  marrying him

    Woman impregnated twice by her twin brother insists on marrying him

    If it were possible to turn back the hands of the clock, Amos Kunde would be the happiest man on earth. He would do anything to reverse an adventure that culminated in getting his twin sister Juliana pregnant twice, culminating in her being delivered of two babies for her twin brother.

    The 29-year-old native of Guma Local Government Area, Nasarawa State is in a dilemma as he says he is thoroughly embarrassed by the development while his twin sister and mother of his two children insists that she is married to him and has reached her destination as far as marriage is concerned.

    Born to the family of the late Patrick Kunde and his wife Torkwase, the family had settled in Awe LGA of Nasarawa State as farmers until the couple and other relations were killed during the farmers/herders crisis in Nasarawa State in 2013. The twins, however, survived the attacks because some merciful ones among the herdsmen who attacked their community decided to spare their lives.

    Orphaned and without any formal education, Amos and Juliana adopted farming as their source of livelihood. But because of the unsafe nature of Awe area at that time, they decided to relocate to Doku, a village in Doma Local Government Area of Nasarawa State sharing border with Benue State.

    For three successive farming seasons, Amos and his twin sister were blessed with good harvests, prompting their decision to stay put in the area. Although Juliana was deflowered by a boyfriend of hers who incidentally was also killed during the herdsmen attack, in Doma, she found solace in the brotherly love exhibited by Amos until the devil visited and they started an amorous relationship until Juliana became pregnant sometime in 2015.

    The twins, however, tried to keep it secret and made several attempts to abort the pregnancy without success and Juliana was eventually delivered of a baby girl. The widely held belief in the community, however, was that Juliana was impregnated by someone other than her twin brother, particularly as she had told some members of the community who cared to know that the man that got her pregnant had run away.

    Since the twins are not Doku indigenes, not many people in the area were really interested in whatever they chose to do with their lives. But curiousity was provoked in the village last year as Juliana took in again and came up with the same story as the first pregnancy.

    As the 2021 farming season approached in April, they took advantage of the farmers/herders crisis in Doma which claimed the lives of more than 50 farmers and displaced virtually the entire inhabitants by moving to Tse Ugba village in Keana LGA of Nasarawa State to continue their farming activities.

    Because Tse Ugba was a new environment and life was disrupted in many settlements around Nasarawa State during the April/May crisis, many of the people in their new settlement concluded that they were husband and wife. They settled down in the community and Juliana was delivered of a baby boy about three months ago.

    The bubble however burst last week when Amos decided to take a legitimate wife from the proceeds of the farm produce they had both laboured for. He met a stiff resistance from Juliana, a nursing mother who demanded to know her fate and those of her two kids when the new wife arrives.

    Unfortunately, Amos’ response to her poser was far from encouraging as he allegedly told her that it was high time she began to look for a husband, adding that he was done with her and needed a legitimate wife.

    Irked that her twin brother could seek to dump her for another woman after sleeping with her to produce two kids, Juliana resolved not to have any of her brother’s antics. Both of them are now in a fix as to what to do about the ugly development since Juliana decided to spill the beans.

    Our correspondent, who got wind of the development, visited their new settlement in Tse Ugba, a border community with Benue State to enquire into the scandal.

    Upon his arrival in the village, the twin couple was seated under a mango tree alongside their first born baby after an intense quarrel.

     

    How it all started

    First to speak with our correspondent was Juliana who did a summary of all that had transpired between them since they started an amorous relationship. She said it started as a joke on the farm which later resulted in the both of them having sex at home later that night.

    She said: “Then, we were stranded in Doma because Awe was no longer safe for us as orphans who are purely farmers. Relocating from Awe after losing our parents and relatives to herdsmen killings, we were in the farm arranging harvested yams when his trouser tore as he made to sit down to eat, and I saw his big and long manhood and smiled.

    “When he noticed that I smiled, he asked why and I told him that his manhood could kill someone’s daughter. We both laughed over it.

    “That same day, after we returned home from the farm, I was trying to turn food in our local kitchen in the night and he entered unnoticed to check whether all his chickens had roosted.

    “I was not sitting well and did not have any underwear on as I was turning the food. I only put on a wrapper. Then he saw my private part because he was flashing a torch to check his chickens in the kitchen.

    “Then he saw my pussy and shouted in appreciation of how big it was. I told him that we are twins and that we were bound to have the same features; maybe we took that from our late parents.

    “The incident later resulted in sex in our thatched house. He came to my room in the night, asking for a razor blade. From there, I agreed to his request for a sex test since both of us appreciated each other’s private organs, though it was also a bid to satisfy our sexual urge since both of us had not had sex after we relocated amidst herdsmen crisis and lost contacts with our loved ones.

    “But somehow, it became regular as both of us enjoyed it.”

    Juliana said from that point, the affair continued and they both agreed to keep it secret. Within the period, she said, they had two kids together.

    She said: “He never promised to marry another woman. What he told me was that we would make efforts to send them to school since both of us never went to school; that we were tired of moving from one settlement to another since sex was secretly involved in the relationship and he became my husband and from the blue.

    “Them he suddenly came up with a plan to take a wife. I asked him about my fate and those of our two kids since the new wife would come in and may not accept the development on ground.

    “I told him that with two kids, it is as good as we are married and there is no need bringing in somebody who would frustrate the kids.

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    “He told me and the kids to find our level. I won’t accept that. He lured me into this mess and he can’t abandon me now. His insistence on marrying a new wife without convincing me brought about the current crisis.”

    Juliana also told our correspondent during a one on one conversation that she could not afford to share Amos with any woman because he is too good in bed.

    She said: “He is quite good in bed. My former boyfriend, I mean the one who deflowered me in Awe but was killed by herdsmen is not anywhere near Amos in bed. He was quite gentle when we started, but what attracted me to him was the size and length of his dick. But as we move on much more regularly, I realised he was an expert in bed, and that really speeded up and tightened the relationship.

    “He would throw me unto the bed, rip my clothes off and start the game in a very crazy way while slapping my boobs. He does it well and straight and did all other things to my satisfaction that it made me forget that we are brother and sister.

    “He really gets me exhausted each time we play game, so I really felt bad and sad that someone else would share such with me. It is giving me a headache.”

    She said she never thought that she could get pregnant when they started. “But when pregnancy came and I told him about it, we made fruitless effort to abort it to no avail. That was when we hatched this plan to keep it secret, and moving from one village to another due to herdsmen attacks helped the secret a great deal. That also took us far into the relationship.”

     

    ‘How my sister seduced me’

    Amos, who reluctantly spoke with our correspondent, said his sister was the one that seduced him by always exposing herself while they worked together on the farm and whenever she was preparing food in the kitchen at home.

    He said: “She knows that I always check on my chickens at night, so she would sit half naked before me. At first, it was embarrassing to me, but later I discovered that her actions were deliberate since she saw my private organ on the farm. “I noticed that her actions were an open invitation, and as a man, the devil visited me that faithful night when I needed a razor blade from her and the temptation came, leading to something else. We continued from that point with the result of two kids.

    •Juliana and Amos with their two children

    “My major reason for deciding to get married is for the woman to help me on the farm since she is nursing a baby. I didn’t mean to dump her. But she refused.

    “Secondly, I did not understand how I would marry my own blood sister. It is a taboo and abomination in the land, though the thought came late. But I wanted to correct it and she is raising genuine issues about her future and the kids.

    “But I thought she could get married and leave the kids with me while I remain with my wife who will take care of them, because it is a taboo. The kids may not survive in the future. That is what a friend told me and we need to correct it now.”

    “I regret what happened and the shame my conduct from day one has brought to me, her and our late parents and relations. We never bargained for this when our parents and relations were murdered in cold blood by the herdsmen.”

    Amos insisted that nothing would stop him from taking a new wife because he is reliably told that the children he is having with his blood sister may not survive.

    “It is a taboo and abomination in the land. They may one day die mischievously. That is my fear. That is why I want to take a wife, but she does not want to understand my own views,” he added.

    One of the elders in the village, Elder Kertyo Abiin, who is privy to the development, told our correspondent that what is happening is a taboo in the culture of the land.

    “The two kids will not survive. It is not done anywhere. But these people are foreigners here. They only came to this place a few months ago from Doma during the crisis. But I am discussing with them to find a solution to the problem.

    “He actually pleaded to keep the matter secret and resolve it without inviting security agents because there is nothing they can do as the harm has already been done long ago.

    “There is nothing any security man can do, and no court in the land can resolve the issue because the relationship has already produced two kids.

    “So I hope to handle it in the traditional way,” he said.

  • Why I built police station, NSCDC office, by Osun monarch

    Why I built police station, NSCDC office, by Osun monarch

    HRM Oba (Alhaji) Dauda Ajolola Adebimpe Akinfolabi of Orile Owu, Lagbedu III, in Ayedade Local Government Area of Osun State, has built a divisional police headquarters and an office for the Nigeria Security & Civil Defence Corps office as part of measures to protect his people and ensure safety in his community.

    Speaking with journalists in preparation for his fifth year anniversary ceremony on the throne, Oba Akinfolabi said the gesture was necessary to ensure safety of his people and community, considering the insecurity in the country.

    “What I met on ground was a police post with about five police officers. Just imagine if something happened to the community, what would a few number of police officers do? I had to approach the Osun State Police Command and they promised to give us a Divisional Police Headquarters, if we could build a standard police station. So, I put head together with my chiefs and we were able to put that structure out there. Even some of the senior police officers have confessed that the structure is one of the best in Nigeria. The Osun State Commissioner of Police has promised to come in person to commission the place.

    “So the police officers have been increased to twenty in number; same for the Civil Defense Corps station. Now my people have being sleeping with their two eyes closed,” Kabiesi said.

    Expressing his gratitude to God for making the project possible, the Oba said a leader needs to be competent financially, religiously, and mentally. “The position entails a lot of money and I decided to use my personal resources to serve my people and bring the desired development to them. Also, God has favoured me with good friends, alongside community sons and daughters who are always supporting me.

    “I had three areas of focus when I ascended the throne. Firstly, is the security of the land, because no town in the world can progress in an unsecured environment. I want to bring industrialisation in my community to my people, where they would be gainfully employed.  I have been calling all our sons and daughters all over the world to come home and invest. Second is to promote the activities of agriculture because, we have fertile land for farming. The third area is to provide the necessary infrastructure for my people. In partnership with European Union and state government, we were able to construct a dam that supplies water to the community and its environs,” he explained.

    Kabiesi added that blocks of classrooms have been renovated and new ones built too. “Before now, the place was an eyesore and as someone who has travelled around the world, I’ve seen good things over there and it is my desire to replicate such things for the benefit of my people.”

    Oba Akinfolabi also, commended the Osun Governor, Gboyega Oyetola, for his leadership qualities and contributions to the development of the state.

    The oba also revealed how renovated the customary court building in the community and equipped it with necessary facilities to make the judiciary officials comfortable, once he got assurance from the authorities.

    “From that point, we decided to move the Magistrate level, so we built another structure for the Magistrate Court.”

    On his coronation anniversary, the Osun monarch said it is an opportunity to thank God for his goodness and protection, even as he seized the opportunity to talk about the Odun Olowu (Olowu festival of hospitality), which came up in the community last week.

    “During this festival, everybody living in this community would prepare food, pounded yam precisely, and all our visitors from far and near would be fed to satisfaction that day,” he stated.

  • Kehinde, UNILAG graduate, needs N16m for surgery in India

    Kehinde, UNILAG graduate, needs N16m for surgery in India

    Rafiu Kehinde, male, 29, a University of Lagos graduate of the Department of Arts & Social Sciences Education (2019 set), is down with Rhinocerebral mucormycosis,  a strange condition caused by Acute Diabetes that has affected the right side of his face, causing a kind of degeneration and requiring plastic surgery.

    The ailment, which has resulted in extensive tissue damage caused by mucormycosis, has cost him his right sight. He was reviewed by a plastic surgeon who carried out extensive surgery that required plastic, ophthalmology and maxillofacial teams at the same time. However, the two surgeries were not successful and he now requires another surgery in India, which cost has been put at N16,000,000 (Sixteen million naira).

    According to a medical report by Usmanu Danfodiyo University Teaching Hospital, Sokoto, signed by Consultant in-charge, Ndubuizu G. O., “He was co-managed by plastic, maxillofacial and endocrine unit. Surgery was done, the lesion which involved the right eye, right side of the nose, patient zygomatic area and palate was removed, causing a big surgical defect and inability to eat or swallow.

    “The plastic unit tried reconstruction with radial forearm flap, which failed eventually.

    “…The defect involves the right eye, right nose, right zygoma and right palate. The edges of the defect have become fibrous. The posterior extent of the defect approached the posterior pharyngeal wall.”

    The report stated that “the patient is generally recovering successfully” and solicited the public to “Please kindly give him any assistance deemed possible.”

    Kehinde’s group of friends has rallied round and raised a little over N500,000 (five hundred thou sand naira) towards his treatment but this is a far cry from the required sum, hence the appeal to the general public.

  • ‘It’s not every person with disability  who wants to be offered money’

    ‘It’s not every person with disability who wants to be offered money’

    Dare Dairo is a Nigerian living with disability and General Manager, Lagos State Office for Disability Affairs, LASODA. In this interview with Daniel Adeleye, the English graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University assessed the experience of people living with disabilities (PWDs), the efforts of successive administrations in Lagos State towards bettering their lot, amongst others.

    How would you describe the experience of people living with physical disabilities in Nigeria at the moment?

    The experience of people living with disability in Nigeria is not pleasant and the discrimination against them is real. And this is one of the reasons people with disability constitute 80 percent of people affected by chronic poverty, according to the United Nations and World Bank. And it is quite understandable. They can’t enter places where the ‘normal’ people enter. They were born in a society where it’s practically difficult for them to access basic education, healthcare and they have no political representation. So poverty is guaranteed. People living with physical disabilities are synonymous with poverty. Look at the entrance doors to our banks for example; can a person on wheel chair enter through them?  How many banks have provision for sign language? Those are the issues. Being a person living with physical disability is not a palatable experience. But I’m really happy that the world has gone far ahead of this. It’s just unfortunate that we are still where we are today in Nigeria. However, it’s not as bad as it used to be.

    What is your assessment and expectation from the Disability Bill?

    Assessing it in terms of how much of it has translated to bettering the lives of people living with physical disabilities? Yes, it’s not yet in vogue but it’s improving and getting better. What we desire is the structural change in the institutional capacity. There are people who have just decided that the persons living with physical disabilities shouldn’t have beyond certain privileges. So how do you begin to work with change with that kind of orientation?  These are the major challenges. For instance, my alma mater, Obafemi Awolowo University that was built way back in the ’60s, has dedicated accommodation for people with disability. There is ramp access to the hostels, and their conveniences were specially built. But today the school authority is over riding all that.

    What’s your assessment of Lagos State government’s support for PWDs; do you think they have done enough?

    Lagos State has been like an activist state because there is this continuous romance between the civil societies and the government. The Disability Bill has been signed into law for over a decade in Lagos before it became law even at federal level. However, there’s been a buildup since the days of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu as governor of Lagos State. Even though there was no full-fledged law, there were constitutional guidelines that guaranteed some levels of inclusion for people living with physical disabilities. It was Gov. Babatunde Raji Fashola who signed the Disability Bill into law, and that gave birth to LASODA. Now with the current administration, the focus is on institutional capacity. For instance, talking about laws on free health care, how do you deliver it? At the level of execution, a lot of ingenuity, creativity and knowledge will be required, because this is Lagos where on daily basis there is high influx of people into the system, creating a huge stretch on existing infrastructure. So government is doing serious catch-up in terms of planning to meet up with the daily growing complexity of the demand. So building institutional capacity is something that’s very challenging. Take for instance the area of health care; when you look at the economic survey, how do you begin? The United Nations stated that between 15 and 20 percent of a certain population are made up of people with disability and what’s the population of Lagos State? About 30 million. So what’s the 20 percent of that? That’s about 6million people; the size of the population of some countries in Africa. So giving such huge population free healthcare needs a lot of economic planning enactment. And some of the things that the Lagos State government has done during this current administration are to ensure the fraction enrollment of people living with physical disability into the health insurance scheme. The governor started upfront the enrollment of 2,500 in the pile-up scheme alone, as more data are being gathered of people with disability to enroll and again to improve on the package. Because there are some health conditions that are peculiar with disability that are not captured in the initial package. The governor paid for upfront of 2,500 in the initial pile-up scheme, and that number has been increased to ensure that everybody is captured in that health scheme. And you know that health scheme is a business solution to a social problem and Lagos State government is improving on that. The challenge is humongous and this administration has been up to task in creating institutional capacity to respond to the demand of inclusion and empowerment of people living with physical disability. Are we there yet? Not quite. Are we making progress? Yes we are.

    How do you think the Nigerian government can support people living with physical disability?

    The first way of supporting them is through acceptance of what and who they are. It’s okay to ask questions. They should not assume that they know what people living with physical disabilities need, because it’s not every person living with physical disability that is a beggar or looking for miracle cure. I had a particular scenario in Abuja in one of the government facilities where commercial vehicles are not allowed. I wasn’t driving and I needed help with a ride from where I was to the public areas. I was there trying to flag down the passing cars and at a point a car stopped and I heaved a sigh of relief. But to my surprise, the person rolled down the window and stretch money at me. I was furious. Now what miracle is money going to perform in a situation like that? Will the money carry me from that place like a flying carpet or what? I could pay for my own ride but at that place, I couldn’t get public transport; so all I needed was someone to get me to the public area. So this person got angry and drove off. People just need to accept PWDs for whom they are and meet them at their points of need by creating enabling environment, so that they too can experience freedom of humanity.

    When you talk about creating enabling environment, what could that mean?

    By making our buildings accessible with ramp and learning a little bit of sign language. Incidentally, my agency, LASODA, did sign language workshop for bankers recently for a week. I am happy that technology is also making things happen for the people living with physical disability by creating Universal Access in Design. So we need to have the right understanding and be a little more accommodating and think out of the box.

    Religion sees disability in this part of the world as bad omen and this has led some people seeking miracle cure; what’s your take on this?

    There are a lot of superstitious beliefs around disability. Some people even believe that the parents of a person living with physical disability had offended the gods. Some even believe that a person with disability in his previous life offended the gods and has now returned to pay for his wrong deed. I have a lot of problem with opportunist preachers who come to me and say, ‘Do you know that Jesus can make you walk?’ I tell them ‘Look, let Jesus give me a Lamborghini for example, I can drive. That’s the kind of miracle I need. Let Jesus give me a Lamborghini, good house, I’m okay; I don’t need the legs again.’ I have accepted my disability status. I could even go to the Olympics even on the wheel chair. I can still be a weight lifter and many other things, so why are you so particular about my legs? I don’t need them anyway. Disability does not make one any less in the creature image and likeness of almighty God.

    Conjugal relationships are often tough calls for people with disability, as no parent wants their children to get married to them; what’s your take on this?

    The issues of relationship, sexuality and identity are what we don’t begin to associate with people with disability, because they are issues that have always been in existence. Before I got married, I had a friend; one day she was with me, pushing my wheelchair and a beautiful lady going in front of us stopped and offered me a N20 note. My friend was very angry and said, ‘How dare you? Does he look like a beggar to you? He can pay your salary…’ Of course, the lady was very embarrassed, so I approached her and apologised for my friend’s outburst. I, however, could understand where she was coming from. Then I told the lady, would you mind if I took you out on a date and buy you lunch? It was a shocker for her because this was somebody she was looking down on and even offered N20 a moment earlier. Yes, I’m married, but it was not easy, because my wife’s family were like ‘how come of all people in the world you have to choose to marry a crippled? My wife was a young beautiful lady, but she stood her ground that she was not marrying me out of pity and that she knew what she saw in me. She also said there was nothing anybody could to stop her from marrying me. So here we are; it’s been 12/15 years and the family are now appreciating her for that decision.

  • All set for Moremi Ajasoro Annual Lecture

    All set for Moremi Ajasoro Annual Lecture

    Gboyega Alaka takes a look at preparations, as the Palace of the Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi sets to host the first ever Moremi Ajasoro Annual Lecture (MORAL) in collaboration with Fountain Bloom Limited later this October.

    It is countdown to the first ever Moremi Ajasoro Annual Lecture code-named MORAL. The event, designed to propagate the virtues of Yoruba historical legend, Queen Moremi of Ile-Ife, wife of Ooni Oranmiyan, who sacrificed her all by going into slavery in the Ugbo enemy’s camp to unravel their secrets and liberate her people, is being organised by Fountain Bloom Limited, in collaboration with the Palace of the Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi, Ojaja II.

    According to the CEO of Fountain Bloom Limited, Dele Oguntayo, a veteran journalist with work experience at The Sketch, The Punch and The Comet, the event is conceived and designed as an annual programme for the growth of the family and culture.

    “We all know the meaning of MORAL. Yoruba people love to call themselves Omoluabi. In every facet of life, if you don’t put the idea of Omoluabi in whatever you’re doing, it is nothing. And that was what Moremi Ajasoro exhibited in her days, when she released herself and was taken into slavery among the Ugbo.  Usually, the Ugbo people came, dressed in raffia to conceal their identity on market days to raid the people and take them into slavery. She caused herself to be caught and taken into the land of the Ugbo, where her beauty attracted the king and he took her in as his queen. She stayed there for years, learnt all their tricks and came back to use it to liberate her people. On their next coming, the Ife people prepared oguso, a local fire fuel made of dried leaves soaked in oil, lit it and used it to attack them, burning off their raffia covering to expose them. Since then, Ife and Yoruba people became safe.

    “Aside that huge sacrifice, Oguntayo said Moremi also sacrificed her only child and son, Oluorogbo to the Esinmirin River goddess in fulfilment of a pledge she made before embarking on the mission.”

    Oguntayo said it is that spirit of sacrifice and other virtues which Moremi represent that MORAL, as a project, is set to propagate. “We thought we should evolve something like an annual lecture in her remembrance. There, topical issues will be discussed by way of lecture by seasoned speakers, mostly academics. Dr. Mrs. Adeola Adijat Faleye of the Department of Linguistics and African Studies, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife will be delivering this maiden edition. Whatever is discussed will thereafter be replicated at all levels. That’s why we’ll be having wives of council chairmen, because they are at the grassroots levels. They would be given the mandate to go and propagate the message at the ward level. Then we have the council chairmen in attendance, so that they would understand what was discussed and help their wives achieve the mission. We are also inviting state governors and their wives; representatives from each of the senatorial districts; in total we’d be having about 32, 34 participants from each of the participating states.”

    For the maiden edition billed for later this October at the Ooni’s palace, Oguntayo said ten states comprising the six Southwest states of Lagos, Ogun, Oyo, Osun, Ondo and Ekiti have been invited, along with Kwara, Kogi, Edo and Delta States. Going forward, he stated that other states would be incorporated. He added that the plan is to make the project a global event, especially as Africans and especially the Yoruba have roots across the globe. He said they have pegged it at ten states for now because of the prevailing insurgency, banditry and other insecurity issues.

    The theme for this maiden edition is ‘Cultural Parenting as Therapy for Social Disorder in African Society.’ The essence of this, according to Oguntayo, is to redirect the people’s steps back to the basis. “We want to start from the basis, which is cultural parenting, which the Yoruba calls Eko-ile (home training). The essence is to take this generation back to how we were brought up.”

    Speaking of other people behind the project, Oguntayo has special words for the Ooni, who, he said magnanimously gave them audience and endorsed the project. Aside His Majesty, Oguntayo said the organisers have Princess Ronke Ademiluyi, whose support towards the project has been unquantifiable; Moremi of the Source, Chief Mrs Olufunke Amosun and Mrs Maryam Ohamu, the project coordinator to thank.

    Of the brains behind the project, Oguntayo said, “There is Lekan Ogunbanwo, former GM, Lagos TV/Radio Lagos and Eko FM; he is our team leader. There is Tunji Bakare, a retired director at Lagos State Public Service; Quadri Ajayi, who has been very active; Bola Bolawole, a renowned columnist and former editor, Chairman Editorial Board/Deputy Editor-in-chief of Punch; and Morayo Afolabi-Brown of TVC amongst others.”

  • FERDY ADIMEFE: I work with Africa’s  brightest minds

    FERDY ADIMEFE: I work with Africa’s brightest minds

    Ferdy Ladi Adimefe is a film maker and creative entrepreneur who has spent the last five years building an ecosystem of companies within the media, entertainment and technology space. In this interview with Yetunde Oladeinde, he talks about focusing on games, animation, storytelling, his first book on campus and more.

    Let’s talk about the things you do and working in the digital space?

    Imaginarium Creative is a creative technology company powering incubation to develop viable products that can solve Africa’s 21st century problem and create jobs. There are also magic carpet studios, a fast growing innovation storytelling company, focused on animation and games. There is IDA, a digital design agency focused on building modern brands and helping brands connect to the biggest spending market segment.  I also seat on the board of Slum to School, the electoral college and The Tribe Assembly.

    Tell us about your career path and how you became a successful entrepreneur.

    I started my career in advertising as a copy writer. It was a discovery phase for me, because I realized that there was just so much that was possible. I fell in love with strategy and was eventually moved to strategy. It was at this time I heard about the school of media and communications, so I enrolled. For me, it wasn’t really about a degree, it was about expanding my understanding of the world, and how I saw the world. I honestly gained a lot from my master’s program. After the program, I worked as a communications executive and left as the brand and communications manager of that company five years later. After that I began my entrepreneurial journey. It has been an interesting adventure ever since.

    What does a typical day look like for you as CEO of Imaginarium Creative Global Limited?

    A typical day for me is a quest. I work with some of Africa’s brightest minds and talented people. We see every day as an opportunity to create stories or products. We are very developmental as a company and that for me is its own reward, we constantly seek growth in every way. We believe that there are endless possibilities unfolding every moment. It can get a little unpredictable, but every adventure or misadventure is a discovery. I can go from a product launch to a story review session to crafting a campaign for brand all on one afternoon.

    Your first book was about campus living and values among youths. What is your advice to students living on campus and the values they should imbibe?

    I think we can easily get fixated on the fact that campus is about obtaining a degree, but it is more than that. It is about practicing how to live in the real world, it is about expanding your thinking, revisiting your biases and allowing yourself to venture into unchartered territories of interest and knowledge. It is about learning to become a global mind and a global citizen. It is about learning to create, solve problems and contribute in every way, after you have gotten these things then add the degree to it and you will be unstoppable.

    How does your work impact the youths in Nigeria? Do you have any youth initiatives going on?

    Across my various spheres of influence, either through my companies or the faith-based movement I lead. I have been privileged to encourage and inspire people within the median age of 22 or 25. I believe every young person needs to be taught how to think and not just what to think. My work is about consciousness, propagating awareness and inviting people to discover within them a worthiness and belovedness that is essential for creativity to thrive.

    Tell us about your family life?

    I am married to a very lovely woman, Lily Adimefe who is also an alumni here. We have three boys and that’s hopefully the wrap. Our home is fun and playful. We are also confronting the challenges of two working class parents trying to raise three kids, navigating traffic and juggling ways to keep a beautiful and balanced life, is an on-going conversation. But my family is my escape from the world, I am glad to have it that way.

    How do you keep up with your work and family life?

    Being intentional. Things can easily creep up on your schedule or demand more of your time. I make my decision about life and then allow my work to revolve around that.

    How has your schooling in SMC impacted your career and family life?

    It really did impact me in very significant ways. It expanded my options and in fact my decision to become an entrepreneur was born out of that. I mentioned in media enterprise, I developed a deeper sense of self-awareness that allowed me see my innate sense of restlessness as a gift. It wasn’t about staying within a segment, but finding ways to create using different tools, moving from skill to thinking strategically did a huge leap for me.

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    What are the qualities you seek in young people and prospective employees?

    A sense of curiosity and adventure is important; because without that you won’t let creativity take you places. Once people have embraced their sense of freedom, only then can they give themselves the permission to try, to discover, and to also hold space for others to also grow and discover as well. I strongly value character and discipline, without it the creative spirit will never birth, and only produce still born projects. Lastly I look for a mind that embraces possibilities.

    Fermy Adimefe

    What three books would we find on your bookshelf at home?

    The alchemist was a magical one. The black boy by Richard Wright. The bible for me sounds trite, but I think it is one of the best metaphysical resources out there, with a right lens of interpretation one will uncover ancient principles for life.

    Was it easy at the beginning?

    I had interest in story telling but there was no capital at the time. I had to establish a hybrid model and we were offering services to agencies doing things  for organizations like banks and we got funds to buy more computers , train more people and literarily there was nothing left, everything was reinvested. At a point, we realized that we had to get our documentation done. We had to get a professional consultant. It wasn’t cheap but at this point we could afford it.

    The consultant had to work with us to get the business model together with everything that we needed. Also there is a suspicion here in Africa about the creative industry. It is not said in the open but you can see this in the conversations. But again, this is a multi-million dollar industry anywhere in the world. So, why should it be different in Africa? If the movie is a multi-billion industry in the world, why should it be different for us? If artist can sustain themselves, if writers can make money from their works, why is it different for us? We can do the same in Africa, sell our content but again piracy is high. We need to address and advocate for policies that can value our works and what we do we need to unlock the great economy and access capital. There is also the need for us to have structured capital that is peculiar for the great industry. That is designed for the creative sector and we need to derisk that capital , understand the gestation period , understand that you have to establish ecosystems for communities, have a community of creative’s  then begin to talk about taxes, access to finance, markets and the other issues that affect us.

    What are the challenges working in the sector?

    The cost of training is expensive.  Even to get desktops or laptops for training runs into millions and the infrastructure has to be right. We believe that African can create something that is remarkable like we have with Disney and other parts of the world. So, let’s start thinking of exporting the best of us and contribute to the global economy. We started in 2017 and this is where we are. Our mission is to put Africa on the map. The global animation market is worth 259 billion  US dollars and we are making  less than one per cent of that number.  Based on the population we have in the world, there is no reason why our contribution should not be more than this. The big question now is how we expand our markets. We should get amazing people in Africa who are doing amazing work as well as get consistent infrastructure to scale up the sector.

    Many of us have to start to see ourselves differently. Most times, we define ourselves through the colonial era. Africans have a lot of stigmatisation and issues around the colonial Masters. But the question we need to ask ourselves is what if Africa was never colonised. We should start to see ourselves as empowered, not as victims of history. The other question I want to ask is what if Africa colonised the world.  I actually think that Africa colonised the world.  Every music has its footprints in Africa. Jazz, hip hop and Soul.  The first university in the world is in Africa.  The third question I would ask is if we can call it a world if Africa is missing in it. It won’t be a world. But Africa is missing in creating an economic map globally and yet we have the potentials. We have the raw materials, talents, skills and other ingredients. The fourth question for me is what state would an uncolonised Africa be like. Somehow, along the line, we still think civilisation is westernisation. But, westernization and civilisation is not the same thing. Civilisation is authentic to you and we need to export the best of us. In your primary school, if you speak your native language, they would say don’t speak vernacular. But therein lies our rich culture, parables, ancient wisdom, proverbs, wit and traditions. They are so rich and apt for storytelling.

  • You can succeed in life  without sleeping with a man!

    You can succeed in life without sleeping with a man!

    DEAR Ma, I have been reading and digesting your articles on sexual purity for the past three weeks! How I wish I knew about you and what you teach earlier- I wouldn’t have messed up and failed everyone.

    Abigail

    Dear Sister Temilolu,

    A very good morning to you. I was shocked this morning when I was surfing the internet to solve some challenging questions and do justice to some topics in linguistics only to find your article about a female 42-year-old virgin in this 21st century! I thank God for the lady and your wonderful ministry! Please keep it up!

    Evangelist Emmanuel Ndehedehe

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I’ve been reading your articles since I stumbled on you online. I appreciate the morals you are handing down to us but I must say it’s not easy to preserve one’s virginity in this day and age. I’m one of the strongest girls who refused to give up on the harshness of this world and hoping to see and experience the silver lining. However, it seems like nothing is happening. I’m already giving up! People are telling me to go get married or get into a relationship so a man can help me out but I feel ashamed doing that out of my unsavoury circumstance as I know I would one day wake up and realise I don’t like the person and only forced myself into a relationship to solve my problems. Please counsel me ma.

    Gift, 23

    My darling Gift and every lady in her shoes,

    Believe me; it is so easy to be anything and everything you want to be even if you can’t afford a 3-square-meal today! I know times are really hard but I insist not only can you survive, you can eventually have the best things in life! As females, we are created with so much virtue and innate gifts which can magnetise money to us and all we need do is to concentrate and develop ourselves optimally! I imagine what you may have been going through and I also imagine you may have reached a stage of despondency but you must never give up! Now is the time to utilise that gnawing pain in you and stretch yourself as much as possible to uncover the goldmine inside of you which would enable you make money almost effortlessly!

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    Can you use your brains for more intellectual pursuits? Can you use your beautiful hands to learn a skill right away? What’s your hobby? Turn it to a money-spinner! Just please get busy developing yourself and making the most of your life, virtues/potentials and not making guys/men your focus!

    Little did you know guys/men see this generation of girls/young ladies as one of the cheapest things they could have! Yes! Ask your brothers, uncles, daddy etc. Most of them don’t place much value on how you feel especially when you devalue yourself by allowing them sleep with you, frolick with your body, eat you up like mango and have their taste and full satisfaction of all your sexuality! They’re quick to mess around with your heart and throw the mango they’ve eaten away knowing there’s a long queue of girls waiting for their money and attention! Mind you, they don’t want to marry anything cheap either! Please don’t be quick or desperate to fall into any man’s arms who wants a serious relationship with you! You must develop yourself and discover your purpose in life real quick so your life can attract the right person and not a man that’ll end up treating you like a slave or a dog on a leash!

    Believe me, if a lot of women were well-prepared-emotionally, psychologically, academically, financially, spiritually, it would be most difficult for any man or a satanically-patriarchal society to abuse them! I know a good number of your friends must be married to some rich men by now but can you please ignore them, stop wallowing in self-pity and pursue your own destiny? Spend all the time you have now learning life skills and not waiting for a rich man to come and rescue you! Spend your time learning one handicraft or the other and start making your own money! Use all the energy that comes with your present discomfort to garner the SUPERNAL FIRE OF GOD! Please, please endure the hardship for a while, refuse to defile your body- the temple of the Holy Spirit and come and see whether God will not over-satisfy you! May your life magnetise the world’s most honourable men and may you be pampered by kings!

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