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  • Three land scammers held in Akwa Ibom

    Three land scammers held in Akwa Ibom

    Bassey Anthony, Uyo

    The Uyo zonal office of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC has arrested three suspected land scammers in Uyo, the Akwa Ibom State capital.

    The commission’s spokesperson, Dele Oyewale named the suspects as Ubah Victor Gozie,  Sunday Justice and Okon Mark Uduak.

    Oyewale said the suspects were arrested at their office located at Oron Road, opposite the the state Water Board.

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    He said the arrest was based on intelligence report gathered by operatives of the Commission on the modus operandi of the suspects, adding that they defrauded  innocent indigenes of the state under the guise of providing them with real estate services, using the name, Royal Dream Estate.

    “Investigations into the activities of the trio revealed that they have defrauded several persons within the state of up to N9 million.

  • Two held for defrauding German firm of N6.7b

    Two held for defrauding German firm of N6.7b

    Nicholas Kalu, Abuja

    The police cybercrime unit, with the Interpol, National Central Bureau, Abuja has arrested two suspects for alleged complicity in a €14.7 million (or N6.7 billion) scam in the procurement of COVID-19 Personal Protective Equipment (PPE).

    Force spokesman DCP Frank Mba on Sunday identified the suspects as Babatunde Adesanya a.k.a Teddy, 50, a Master degree holder in Cell Biology, and Akinpelu Hassan Abass, 41, M.D. Musterpoint Investment Nig. Ltd, who, he alleged, are members of a sophisticated transnational criminal network.

    Mba said in a statement that they cloned the corporate website of ILBN Holdings BV, Holland to transact with and defraud one Freiherr Fredrick Von Hahn, a representative of the German State of North Rhine-Westphalia.

    “The arrest of the suspects was sequel to a Mutual Legal Assistance Treaty (MLAT) received by the Bureau from the office of the Attorney General of the Federation and Minister of Justice conveying a request from the German Government for investigations into a fraudulent transaction on the procurement of COVID-19 Personal Protective Equipment linked to a Nigerian-based bank account.

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    “Discrete investigations by INTERPOL Nigeria revealed that the suspects and their Holland-based cohorts, one Eduardus Boomstra and Geradius Maulder specialised in identity theft, cyber-stalking, cloning of corporate websites, amongst other cyber mischiefs, to defraud unsuspecting members of the public across the world. In this instance, the suspects fraudulently obtained from Mr Freiherr Fredrick Von Hahn the sum of 1.5m Euro and another 880,000 Euro as advance payment for the supply of COVID-19 PPEs valued at 14.7million Euros.

    “Disturbed by the non-arrival of the PPEs, Mr Freiherr Fredrick Von Hahn eventually visited the corporate office of ILBN Holdings BV in Holland to inquire reasons for the delay in supplying the items only to find out that the company never did business with him and that the transaction was a scam. The fraudsters merely cloned the company’s website and falsely presented themselves as representatives of the company before subsequently executing the fraudulent transaction.”

    The suspects will be arraigned in court soon, the statement said.

     

  • Teacher molests seven-year-old in toilet

    Teacher molests seven-year-old in toilet

    Adekunle Jimoh, Ilorin

    A School teacher has been arraigned in a Kwara State family court in Ilorin, the state capital, for alleged sexual molestation of his seven-year-old pupil.

    Akorede Hammed was said to have taken the minor to a toilet where he allegedly undressed her and fondled her private part, according to Police First Information Report.

    The information was contained in the girl’s father’s letter to Area Command Metro, Ilorin.

    In the letter, the girl said Hammed took her to a toilet and locked her up to conceal the crime from passersby.

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    Hammed would later open  the door for the girl to go after she vehemently resisted his immoral plan.

    Police said Hammed, who taught the girl Yoruba, fled, but was later apprehended by detectives.

    The state governor’s wife Mrs. Folake AbdulRazaq has indicated interest in the matter, and was represented in court.

    Magistrate Shade Lawal in her short ruling, adjourned the matter till September 16, 2020 for hearing.

  • Gunmen kill three, abduct seven in Kaduna attacks

    Gunmen kill three, abduct seven in Kaduna attacks

    AbdulGafar Alabelewe, Kaduna

     

     

    GUNMEN have struck again in Southern Kaduna, killing three persons and abducting seven..

    The assailants attacked two communities in Kajuru council area yesterday morning, Mr Awemi Dio Maisamari, National President of Adara Development Association, said in a statement.

    Police spokesman Muhammad Jalige said he had no information on the attack, but Commissioner for Internal Security and Home Affairs Samuel Aruwan said Governor Nasir El-Rufai had been told about it, as well as other attacks in the state.

    Aruwan said the governor condemned the attacks, condoled with affected families, and urged  security personnel to crush the bandits.

    “Government condoles with the families that lost their loved ones to the sheer criminality of the bandits. Security agencies have been directed to double up and intensify operations against bandits…This criminality is an attack on our unity and collective well-being,” Aruwan said in a statement.

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    Maisamari listed the names of those killed in the two Adara communities, saying that attacks persist despite a peace accord with the Fulani community.

    “Today, Sunday, 6th September, 2020 at 2.00am, the Adara community of Buda, in Buda Ward of Kajuru LGA came under another deadly attack from suspected Fulani militia,” Maisamari said, calling the attacks “premeditated and unprovoked”.

     

  • Depot owners, petrol marketers seek full deregulation

    Depot owners, petrol marketers seek full deregulation

    Assistant Editor CHIKODI OKEREOCHA

     

    THE Depot and Petroleum Products Marketers Association of Nigeria (DAPPMAN) has urged the Federal Government to take a further step towards full deregulation of the downstream sector to enhance economic growth and development of the nation.

    The government in March introduced a price modulation policy where international product prices and associated landing costs in Nigeria are used as inputs in the determination of final pricing to the local market by government through the Petroleum Products Pricing Regulatory Agency (PPPRA), which is disclosed periodically.

    Commending the government for consistently seeking ways to reposition the sector for effectiveness and profitability, DAPPMAN Chairman, Mrs. Winifred Akpani, said DAPPMAN remained in full support of the implementation of a fully deregulated regime which will make the downstream sector’s operations more seamless, enhance transparency, competitiveness and sustainable growth.

    “DAPPMAN is mindful of the commitment of the government and the functional organs managing the sector to ensuring value to every Nigerian and we salute them for this as we are indeed up against uncertain times. However, we believe that full deregulation of the sector remains the most viable option for Nigeria to effectively navigate this period and ultimately safeguard the future of our economy and wellbeing of 200 million Nigerians” she said.

    According to her, deregulation will open up the sector for fresh investments, market deepening, diversification, and expansion, culminating in stable demand and supply regimes which are critical to ensuring that consumers have uninterrupted access to affordable quality products without the huge financial burden currently borne by the government.

    “DAPPMAN is aware of the considerations that have dogged the issue of deregulation over the years and we believe they are very important. However, we believe these considerations will be duly addressed with a deregulation regime that guarantees long-term benefits and empowers the government to commit savings made in the process to infrastructure development, job creation, agricultural revolution, education and health.

    This will spur growth of Small and Medium scale Enterprises (SMEs) as well as large corporates, that would increase Nigeria’s human capacity index, competitiveness and ultimately drive inflow of foreign investments,” she added.

    Akpani, who is also the Managing Director and Chief Executive Officer of Northwest Petroleum and Gas Company Limited, said DAPPMAN had contributed towards the upgrade of medical facilities, distributed tens of thousands of masks and sanitizers; and made donations of relief items to hundreds of thousands of beneficiaries across the nation in support against COVID-19 pandemic fight.

  • Michael Omoh: It’s my turn to shine in Israel

    Michael Omoh: It’s my turn to shine in Israel

    Energetic Nigerian midfielder, Michael Omoh is looking forward to making it big in the Israeli Premier League following his transfer to Hapoel Kfar Saba. Omoh quit Romanian club Politehnica Iasi to join ‘The greens from the Sharon’ in the 2020-2021 seasons which kicked off last week.

    The 28-year-old moved to Israel after a promising time in Romania, where he netted four goals and registered four assists in 21 games last season. He wants to follow in the footpath of Nigerian players like Vincent Enyeama, Yakubu Aiyegbeni, Dele Aiyenugba, Dimaku Felis, Anthony Nwakame, and John Ogu, who have left a good legacy in Israel due to their soccer prowess.     

    Omoh said: “The league has produced lots of fantastic players from Nigeria. It’s a familiar league to Nigeria players and that’s one of the considerations for me when the deal came. When the offer came I thought about Nigerian players that had made it good there and it gives me the courage to consider it good for myself. Like every other Nigeria player who had done wonderfully well in the league, I want to continue in that direction and keep the good legacy of Nigerian players there. I want to join the league of successful Nigerian players in Israel who have won trophies in Israel.” 

    Omoh, who, previously featured for Dalkurd FF, Ostersunds, Orebro, and Mjallby, all in Sweden and played over 200 matches and scored 40 goals.  He spoke with SAMSON OTI about new adventure in Israel and Europe.

    Life in Sweden

    I started my European journey in Sweden where I was privileged to have great facilities to develop myself. The ability was there for me to prove to everybody on the pitch and fortunately I got the chance to present my game to the world. I have enjoyed and contributed to every team I have played in Sweden. Sweden was a perfect league for me to start. Today, I am a better player because of the process I went through. I featured in over 200 games and scored 40 goals-not bad for a midfielder-if I must say.  And that was what opened the Romanian league for me. On coach that helped me tremendously is Graham Potter (now coach of Premier League club Brighton & Hove Albion). He made me feel most welcomed in Sweden.

    Limelight in Romania league

    I had a wonderful outing with CSM in Romania. And that has given me the opportunity to be where I am today. It’s a pleasure playing and expressing myself in the Romania league before the Coronavirus pandemic affected the league. I started well in Romania and scored two goals in six games. I was fit, played a lot and did well. Therefore, it was a bit sad that the league was stopped, but what can you do? The virus has affected a lot, from the economy to the football. The whole world is in the same boat.

    I want to thank to CSM for this past season and the very difficult period we went through together. I really appreciate everything and everyone, from the staff to the players.

    Hapoel Kfar Saba of Israel

    Moving to Israel was a great decision for me. Hapoel Kfar Saba showed great interest in me, having gone through my videos and my experience over the years.  So, it was a good move for me. Aside that fact, Israeli league is a fast and stable league in Europe and I want to give my best there. I am here to contribute to what I met on ground in the team. I’m delighted to sign for Hapoel Kfar and thanks to God and everyone that made it possible.

    Personal target

    My personal target is to play well, help the team achieve good result and improve myself as a player. For now, I want to see how I can quickly adapt to life in the country. I am used to moving around, so I don’t think it would be difficult. I want to remain focused for the job at hand.

    Israeli league and Nigeria connection

    The league has produced lots of fantastic players from Nigeria. It’s a familiar league to Nigeria players and that’s one of the considerations for me when the deal came. When the offer came I thought about Nigerian players that had made it good there and it gives me the courage to consider it good for myself. Like every other Nigeria player who had done wonderfully well in the league, I want to continue in that direction and keep the good legacy of Nigerian players there. I want to join the league of successful Nigerian players in Israel who have won trophies in Israel.

    Childhood dream

    Like most Nigerian players, I started kicking football on the street. Even if you are born in foreign land, you would go through street football before enrolling in academy, and it’s a major process for any footballer.  I have always wanted to play in decent and bigger leagues. My journey over the years has enabled me to gather lots of experience and be a version of my own style. As a midfielder, I have a tenacity to propel my team at any needed time. It’s a passion I derived from my childhood and it has become a part of me. Everybody cannot have the same opportunity of playing for Barcelona or Real Madrid but as a footballer, you must always keep learning for bigger chances, such chances can come at the twilight of your career but the most important thing is to be ready to climb the ladder and let the world see what they have missed. My passion for the game of football has given me hope and consistent joy in my life. I am glad to be a proud soccer player irrespective of ups and downs.  It has been a great and wonderful journey so far.

    Super Eagles door

    Like I said earlier, everybody cannot have the same chance at the same time, all I want to do is to continue giving my best wherever I am and be consistent. I believe one day it could be my turn. The only thing I know is that whenever I have the chance I will grab it well and utilize it.

    Frustrated by Covid-19

    It is quite unfortunately that the notorious pandemic has disrupted a lot of things.  I started well in Romania and scored two goals in six games. I was fit, played a lot and did well. Therefore, it was a bit sad that the league was stopped, but what can you do? The virus has affected a lot, from the economy to football. I pray that nothing of such come into the world again, and God shall bring a permanent solution to Covid-19.

  • ‘How we killed nursing mothers, snatched their babies’

    ‘How we killed nursing mothers, snatched their babies’

    From Rosemary Nwisi, Port Harcourt

    Two suspected members of a notorious child trafficking gang have told the police how they killed a mother of a three-month-old child, sold the baby and shared the proceeds before luck ran out on them shortly after.

    The duo, Mary Ishmael (68) and her foot soldier, 23-year-old Chinedu Nwachukwu, were among the 15 suspects paraded by the Rivers State Commissioner of Police, Joseph Mukan, in Port Harcourt, Rivers State on Thursday as part of the achievements recorded by the police command in the last three weeks.

    Mukan said that Nwachukwu was arrested by men of 48 PMF who were on stop-and-search duties at Omerelu Nipping Point near Owerri, Imo State while carrying a five-month-old baby he allegedly could not explain how he came about.

    He was detained at Elele Divisional Police Station and later transferred with the child to the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) where he allegedly confessed to have stolen the baby after killing the mother and pushing the body in a pit in an uncompleted building around Igwuruta, Ikwerre Local Government Area of the state.

    The suspects were also allegedly linked to the disappearance of a single nursing mother in Nwachukwu’s neighbourhood, Chinonye Queen Uzoma and her three-month-old daughter, who were said to have been declared missing for several weeks before Nwachukwu’s arrest.

    According to the police, Nwachukwu confessed during interrogation that he also killed Uzoma, disposed her body in a forest and sold her baby to Ishmael in the sum of N250,000, while the latter sold the baby to a Benin, Edo State resident in the sum of N350,000.

    Corroborating the state police boss, Nwachukwu said: “This woman (pointing at his 68-year-old accomplice), was the one that sent me to snatch the babies. After killing the first woman, I sold her baby to this woman in the sum of N250,000 and she resold the baby to somebody in Benin in the sum of N350,000.

    “But while the first woman I sold her baby died in the process and I threw her body into a forest at Igwuruta where we live, the woman whose baby I was also going to sell to Mama (Ishmael) before I was arrested survived despite pushing her into a pit.”

    Narrating how he was able to successfully snatch the babies from their mothers, Nwachukwu said: “For the first woman, I hit her with a club in the back several times and she fell down and died. I then took the body and dumped it in a forest at Igwuruta.

    “I have taken the police to where I threw her body. But before we got there, her flesh had decayed, leaving only the bone. This happened since June. It is now three months since I killed her.

    “The second woman survived the attack. What happened was that I hit her once in the back of her head, quickly pushed her into a pit in an uncompleted building and ran away with her baby. It was while I was going to take the baby to Mama where she asked me to bring the baby that I was arrested by the police.

    “When I was arrested, the police asked me the whereabouts of the mother of the baby and I told them that she has died, narrating how I killed her and pushed her into a pit.

    “I thought that like the first woman, she would die in the pit. But when I took the police to the pit, she was still alive but very weak. The police brought her out and took her to the hospital, and she survived.”

    On her own part, 68-year-old Ishmael said: “I am a nurse. I carry out child delivery for pregnant women. I work in a hospital and also operate a shop. I am very popular in my neighborhood.

    “It was Chinedu (Nwachukwu) who approached me, saying that his girlfriend gave birth to a baby and ran away. He said he lacked the capacity to nurture the baby, so he wanted to give her to a couple that was looking for children for a fee.

    “He said there is no cause for alarm, that the baby’s mother was aware of the decision to sell her.

    “I was skeptical initially and did not want to get involved, but he persisted. It so happened that a family in Benin had some time ago approached me to look out for such babies for them; that they would be interested in raising such babies for themselves.

    “I called the lady and told her of the available child. She came down here and I gave it to her in the sum of N350,000, out of which I gave Chinedu N250,000.”

    Asked the role she played in the snatching of the second baby, she said she knew nothing about it. But Nwachukwu insisted that she was the mastermind and that he was on his way to where they had agreed to meet for the transaction when he was arrested.

  • Sexual purity gives you power to have all you could ever wish for!

    Sexual purity gives you power to have all you could ever wish for!

    Dear Ma, My name is Sylvia. I’m from Akwa-Ibom State and I’m currently observing my National Youth Corps Service. I’ve always read and resonated with your articles in because I’m keen on chastity. I read your article about guys wanting to marry virgins. I’m 23 still a virgin. Reading your article made me feel special, very special. I felt like a gem of inestimable value when I read that piece. I always thought no man would want to marry me without having sex first. Over time, I’ve felt jealous of my friends who are sexually active, because they have boyfriends who splash cash and luxury gifts on them and sometimes I wonder what I’m gaining from keeping my virginity!

    But I made a vow to God long ago and also prayed over time to empower me to remain chaste till my wedding night as I really want to marry as a virgin.

    I want you to help me. I have some questions.

    1. I’ve had boyfriends and even if some of them have been patient, I’ve done things with them that don’t involve penetration just to make them happy. Please how do I stand my ground and say No to them?
    2. Please how do I stop getting jealous of my friends? How do I stop feeling like I’m worthless and guys like that won’t like me?
    3. Ma, please this question might sound funny but is it possible for a man to marry me without wanting to have sex with me? Will I meet rich men that will take care of me?

    I look forward to your response eagerly. God bless you Ma.

    My dear Sylvia,

    I would call you a “technical virgin” – a person who has never had genital-genital sex but who has engaged in other sexually satisfying acts. If you don’t work on your heart and completely subdue your flesh, don’t be surprised if you can’t control your body and you suddenly let your boyfriend have his way when next you’re together! BELIEVE ME, YOU’D REGRET IT! And the stupid, bad devil to further spite you would ensure that person breaks your heart and make you long for someone else and then a vicious cycle starts! I really want you to think of all you stand to lose if you eventually give in to your boyfriend now and not your husband after all the pain you had to bear before now! Little did you know God has a record of all the goodies you said NO to painfully because of the covenant you made with Him and has reserved what you can never imagine you could ever have or exhaust in a life time but if you’re not careful, you may lose them!

    If you don’t have a partner who is willing not to touch you till your wedding night then hold on and wait for God to send the right person! Funny thing is, you already carry a heavy dose of God, you just need to stop defiling His temple (your body) and activate His power in you! Believe me, if I were you, I’d make the most of my situation and acquire some of the best things in life!

    And I must let you know that if you knew the type of power on your finger tips and what you could get with it, you’d never even give a thought to what your friends appear to be enjoying at the moment! A good number of ladies have already sold their future- 30 years to come and what God has deposited in them to sustain them and make them shine in life on the altar of sex! Sexual intercourse is a serious SPIRITUAL TRANSACTION AND SPIRITUAL EXCHANGE! What goes into you could be good or bad and you may never recover what comes out of you! There are so many ladies/women all over the world today who are suffering from stagnation, hunger, joblessness, non-achievement and going from one problem to the other because they lost their precious glorious, virtues through sexual intercourse!

    In fact, I know a good number of women who dated prominent men in their early 20’s, drove luxury cars, travelled on 1st class flights, had boutiques but today in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s they’re living from hand to mouth! THEY HAVE BEEN EMPTIED! I know some men who had “nothing” but became super-wealthy after meeting their wives! Now, if you fling your virtues away to guys who are strangers to your destiny and who may even be harbingers of bad-luck and demonic spirits that may run down your destiny, what do you want to support your husband with in future? I know you are a very wise lady! I’d answer your remaining questions next Sunday.

    • To be continued.

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  • How to solve relationship problems without breaking up

    How to solve relationship problems without breaking up

    Rois Ola

    Some say love is blind. True for some people and not true for some. Personally, I would say this is a relative term and an arguable one at that.

    Relationships need work, care, attention, commitment, loyalty and honesty. It takes two to make it work which is a fact. Relationship involves two adults with the ability to accept each other’s mistakes and forgive. The capacity to forgive, overlook and ignore works differently for everyone.

    We all know   that love is about action.  Love   needs to be nourished, kept vibrant and have the power to endure through hard times and not just in good times only. We all have various beliefs on the concept of having a soul mate, even if you are someone’s soul mate, you still have to work on the relationship, keep the relationship healthy is not for one person only, it is for everyone.

    The amazing thing about relationship is that you can indeed be with the right person, who is your “soul mate”, and still face numerous problems in your relationship because every relationship has and will have its own fair share of problems, no one can exist in a relationship without facing problems if you stay together long enough, sometimes the longer you are together the more problems you will face. The important thing to know is how to solve relationship problems without breaking up? Because if these issues are not properly and maturely handled, there will most definitely be a break-up.

    How you are able to sort your relationship problems is what shapes your love life and defines the health status of your relationship.  When you and your partner experience issues, quarrels, challenges and arguments, you know that you both need to answer  some questions in all sincerity and honesty.

    Do you try to amicably fix things? Do you take a temporary break from the relationship? Will taking a break from a relationship work? Should you seek out advice from councillors on relationship challenges?

    I will share a few ways to solve problems in relationship without breaking up. Please, note that there will be more than one way to resolve issues. It all depends on what works for you and your partner.

    Let us say that things between you are not at their best right now.  You have some long or short term relationship issues.

    You’ve been in a sad or perhaps destructive cycle:  fighting, making up, fighting again, ignoring each other, trying to communicate, but failing to do so in a healthy way.

    You are at a point where you are seriously considering taking a break from the relationship and fed up with recurring arguments. There are so many couples who have taken various steps in resolving issues by first taking a break or time out from each other. Some say it is a healthy way to sort issues. I won’t say it is or it is not, but it works differently for everyone.

    Time out from your relationship

    If you and your partner decide that taking time out would be a good idea, it is essential that you both agree on some specific rules that you would respect during this trial period.  Some suggestions include:

    1. An end date for the time out. The date at which point you two agree to evaluate the usefulness of the relationship break, and you decide whether or not to remain in the relationship or walk away.
    2. Would it be acceptable to date others during the break?
    3. Is sex with others allowed? If so, always use protection, so you do not put yourself or your partner at risk, especially if you are intending to come back together
    4. What will your communication look like during the break? It may be best to not communicate, to give yourselves a chance to “miss” each other.
    5. This will also allow you to tune into any feelings that might arise when your partner is not present. Are you happier? Sadder? This will help you determine if your relationship is worth saving.
    6. Use your time away from each other wisely. See friends you neglected during your relationship.
    7. Take up a new sport or hobby. Journal your feelings. Be selfish:  you only have yourself to concentrate on now in other words practise self-love. If you have never done it before please learn.

    Sometimes a break is indeed a valuable step to take towards resolving relationship issues, and sometimes a break leads to the break-up of the relationship so like I said it works differently for each couple.

    Whatever the outcome, it will be the one that was meant to be. If he or she is for you, then you will both find a way. Every relationship issue has its own peculiar solution.

    Good communication is important, or some level of communication, which is better than no communication. Of course, no communication leads to the eventual break-down of the relationship. One of the first tools you will use on how to avoid a break-up is your words.  Both of you need to be able to respectfully communicate your side of the story in order to move towards respect being the key word here. If you cannot manage this successfully, then you need to urgently find a neutral mediator to help you both.

    What drew you together?

    Going backward, figure out what drew you both together. Like when you both first met. What’s the gist behind you both meeting up. Can those feelings be revived?

    Change your boring lifestyle, learn to make life interesting for both of you. This takes effort not just words.

    Find out how to balance it and find what makes each of you happy. You have to try not to take each other for granted. This very easily happens. After a while, arguments will start and a once healthy relationship becomes toxic.

    Try new things together, no matter how small. Short weekend trips to places you’ve never seen before.

    Life is not a fairytale so is your relationship

    Let us face it, not many of us are informed that life is not sweet 24/7. One of the best bits of advice that couples can implement when  resolving issues in a relationship is to know that: Love is not a fairytale.  When you put two people together, you automatically have two different ways of looking at the world. We are talking about two entirely different thoughts, ways of reasoning, upbringing, background, tribes and sometimes religion too! So just imagine a million and one issues that can cause conflict.

  • ‘Sssh, my wife is sleeping…’

    ‘Sssh, my wife is sleeping…’

    Vera Chid-Maha

    It happened on board an international flight. A man was flying abroad with his wife on vacation. It was time for refreshment, so an air hostess pulled up her trolley to where the couple were seated. Just as she was about to take their order, the male passenger quickly whispered to her ‘ssshh, my wife is sleeping’ Can anyone beat that? How many men in this day and age will pamper their wives that much? How many men will be that considerate? It is rare. The striking thing about the couple was that the hubby was much older than the wife. But I know in my heart that there are some men that fall into this category. Older men! Yes, older men. When I say this; I mean men that are older than their wives.

    They are more caring; more attentive. These men pamper their wives more; reason is because their wives, to them, continue to be ever- young before their eyes. Don’t forget that beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder. I have observed generally; I stand to be corrected though, most women feel safer in the hands of husbands that are older than them. The age gap could be two years or more. Generally speaking, the average woman craves for security.

    According to research findings; younger women often enjoy the company of older men for a variety of reasons. A very common reason that many women turn to older men is that these men are more mature than the men of their own age. The truth is that women mature faster than the men of their age.

    Women do not want to date a man who would rather spend time with her. This is not a problem with older men. As they have eyes for their women only; that is, when they are not too engrossed with their job. An older man waits up for his wife. They hold doors open for their women. She is considered a jewel for life. So, would you blame any woman for wanting them?

    Apart from showering their wives with endless attention, men who are mature also tend to be more self-confident as they know themselves better, which is something that attracts younger women. Sexually speaking, older men are more experienced though they tend to have less  sex drive, but many women find that the lovemaking with an older man is completely fulfilling to them, as older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman than a man of their own age tends to be. Not being  driven by testosterone often makes older men better in bed than younger men, older men often view pleasure in a different light than younger men and are more concerned with the woman’s pleasure as opposed to their own. This makes them very appealing to younger women.

    Older men tend to be more steadfast and stable and are generally more established and settled in their chosen careers than younger men. The security that comes from being financially viable and well established tends to draw younger women to older husbands. An older husband is no longer in college or struggling away at a low paying job but is secured and generally doing well at his profession, ideally. Women adore the chivalry that older men often show and they like the fact that older men have more respect for them and they are polite and have manners. Women like men who know how to be men. In today’s society, many young people are delaying growing. Some men want to be young permanently. You know, the ‘happy-go-lucky’ types?.

    Most women want to be with men who are responsible and can stand on their own to feed and are able to support themselves and take care of themselves without their mother’s help. These and other reasons are why most women prefer to marry older men. This is not to say that younger men are out of the question. I feel it is also a thing of the mind. I know that out there, there are younger men that are mature in mind.

    According to Marina Smiley, a relationship expert, she looked at other reasons why there is huge chemistry between younger women and older men. The reality is that sexual desire does not stop once a man reaches the age of fifty. There is a percentage of these men, who are looking for a life partner who is much younger than them; especially men that are trying to meet, then date, through the internet.

    There is no doubt that the younger woman, on her part, always makes her partner feel younger. However, the reality check is this; with age a variety of physical and emotional changes happen to the human body. A fact of nature that has nothing to do with our wishes. Unfortunately, we cannot cheat nature, but that does not mean the sex drive disappears. What it does mean is that the approach to sex will often change.

    The successful sex life of these couples is enhanced by the manner of approach. Successful couples have taken the time to learn the secrets and tricks that allows them to survive the difficult moments. If both partners really love each other, they will develop ways to please each other.

    In doing so, they have to trust each other and share their problems and sexual desires, openly. ‘Older men tend to be more steadfast and stable and are generally more established and settled in their chosen careers than younger men. The security that comes from being financially viable and well established is traits then tend to draw younger women to older husbands’

    Older  men need to understand that although they probably cannot maintain the same fast and furious pace as they did in their twenties, their life experiences should more than make up for the physical aspect of love making. Older men usually have more control over the physical and mental state of their being and a much greater knowledge of what elicits pleasure for a woman.

    This ‘experience factor’ grants them the ability of understanding the female body to stimulate and satisfy a woman which in turn should culminate in prolonged sexual stimulation prior to orgasm. Like I always say on this column, ‘love is where you find it. If you find it in either a younger or an older man, then so be it.