Category: Society

  • Motivational speakers are frauds?

    Motivational speakers are frauds, they are cheats.” “They share principles that they can’t support with their personal experiences.” “They only stir up emotions.” These and several other statements are very common when people talk about motivational speaking. People feel embittered about some persons who appear to make money off “naïve” audience by downloading information from books and sharing them without proofs. While I agree completely, I must also be quick to say that there are several other speakers who have acquired the right to speak through their “hard earned” experiences.

    Motivation, according to Wordweb, is “The psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal.”  Hence, a motivational speech aims at arousing listeners to take action in order to achieve their desired goals. How better can we start the year? Wouldn’t you prefer to listen to information that propels you towards something worthwhile than one that convinces you that you are doomed to fail? Let’s examine a few grudges that people have against motivational speeches and how we can convert them for our benefit:

    • They stir up emotions: a lot of people believe that a motivational speech only takes one on an emotional trip, after which it does nothing. They believe that the speed with which you get excited during the speech is the speed with which you lose the excitement afterwards. Well, one thing we have to learn about emotions is that they are transient. Someone who was happy a few minutes ago may be sad now. However, the fact that they change does not make them bad; it just means that we have to learn how to manage them. I read a little about rockets, particularly the United States’ NASA Space Shuttle. I discovered that it made use of Solid Rocket Boosters (SRBs), which provided about 83% of the thrust needed for liftoff by the shuttle within the first two minutes of its flight. The boosters helped to launch the space shuttle into earth orbit but were dropped after the fuel was expended. After the rocket discarded the boosters, its engine continued the job. Relating this to emotions, particularly excitement, my perspective is that when one is excited, energy is released, that is why some people shout or even jump. The purpose of the emotion is to launch us upward, just like the rocket boosters, but our own engines must take over the job. Just as boosters don’t last, emotions don’t too, but we can’t do without them. In 2016, expose yourself to information that will generate the kind of energy you need for liftoff, but remember it is only half of the job. You need more that emotions to arrive at your destination. Getting the information is one thing, using it effectively is quite another.
    • They paint the picture of a glamorous future: some people hate motivational speeches because they make the future seem like a garden of roses. I don’t have any problem with that at all. Is there anyone who desires a future that is worse than the present? God forbid. Of course, whoever is painting that glamourous picture must also enlighten the listeners of the price that must be paid for such a future, which I believe should include diligence, among other things. While I don’t believe in baseless dreams, I believe that there is no point dreaming of a future that is not better than the present. Hence, your dream must be good enough to make you sacrifice the pleasures of the present to achieve it. A lot of times, people are too deep in their depressing situations that they need someone to give them a reason to hope. Les Brown, one of the world’s leading public speakers said, “you can’t see a picture when you are in the frame.” I believe you need someone who has been where you are now and who believes that you can find your way to where you want to be if only you make the right efforts.
    • They de-emphasise challenges and focus on opportunities: it’s interesting how something that is meant to make people succeed make them angry. Some people are really mad that some motivational speeches make the audience take their attention off the problem. For as long as the speech doesn’t deny that there are challenges along the way to success, I think it is a great thing. A lot of people are too afraid of problems to consider the possibility of success. Motivational speeches draw from the stories of the speakers to encourage listeners not to stop trying. This presupposes that the speaker has a proof of achieving success in spite of obvious challenges.

    I am not suggesting that you go out there and grab the materials of just any motivational speaker. My point is that you need to be motivated. You need to boost your speed by knowing that there is a future worth fighting for. Wouldn’t you rather be inspired by someone who is producing good results in your area of interest than be depressed by someone who has nothing but stories of woes?

  • ‘I don’t love her any less’

    ‘I don’t love her any less’

    It was double celebrations for Chief Bose Fafowora, wife of Ambassador Oladapo Fafowora, who joined the league of septuagenarians and marked the golden jubilee anniversary of her wedding. NNEKA NWANERI and SAMPSON UNAMKA report.

    There was no sign that Mrs. Bose Fafowora has clocked 70. She walked spritely. She could still pass for a woman 40 years younger. Many wowed at her looks on getting to the venue of the celebrations.

    ”She doesn’t look anything like 50″, many whispered to themselves last Saturday when her children, family members, friends and well wishers gathered at the Cathedral Church of Christ, Marina, Lagos to celebrate with her on joining the septuagenarian club. She also  marked the 50th anniversary of her wedding to Ambassador Oladapo Fafowora.

    Bose, a mother of five and grandmother of 10, danced into the church and made for the front pew with her husband and children. She wore a gold lace and coffee head gear, which made her look regal. She dazzled like a young bride.

    Delivering his sermon, Rev Yinka Omololu used the couple as a case study of how a marriage should be.

    After that, the congregation rose to its feet, while Mrs Fafowora sat as the happy birthday song was rendered for her. A photo session followed shortly after the service.

    The beautiful celebrator snapped with friends and well wishers.

    Everyone later moved to the reception ground at the Yoruba Tennis Club premises, which was decorated with white fabrics and gold ribbons.

    On arrival, the guests were treated to various Nigerian and Chinese delicacies. The disc jockey spiced the occasion with the music of King Sunny Ade and some old school tracks. The Soul Lifters Band also dished out some melodious highlife tunes, which kept everyone on their feet.

    The event began with the opening prayer by Mr Akinlolu Fafowora, which was followed by the birthday toast given by Mrs. Yewande Thorpe, and the anniversary toast by Chief Tunde Oshobi.

    Responding, Mrs Fafowora said her 50-year marital journey hasn’t always been smooth. She ascribed the success of her marriage to the friendship she shared with her husband and the fact that no one ever settled a quarrel between them.

    ”God kept me this far for a purpose-to touch people’s lives and count your blessings we should be involved in our families, in our community,” she said.

    Ambassador Fafowora, while responding to goodwill messages, told the story of how he met his wife in 1965.

    He said: “I still remember vividly when I first met Bose in 1965; she came to Lagos on vacation while she was in the second year of her HSE.

    “I was struck by her dignity.Though we have been through a lot together, it has been a very blissful marriage for us and I am extremely lucky to marry a very gentle woman of noble character.”

    He said his mother died when he was 13, and his wife has been his mother since then.”My marriage to her wasn’t a gamble and that is why, since our wedding day, I have not looked back; I have been totally committed to her without any reservation.

    ”Fifty years after, I don’t love her any less than I did when we first met because she has been a good girl and I thank her for that,” he said.

    The cake-cutting session was supervised by Mrs. Bunmi Adedeji.

    Moving tributes were said by their daughter Mrs. Lola Kuti; a relative Mrs. Labake Adetunbi and their son Mr. Foluso Fafowora, who later gave the vote of thanks.

    In attendance were: former External Affairs Minister Professor Bolaji Akinyemi; former Obafemi Awolowo University Vice Chancellor Professor Wale Omole; retired Army General Ike Nwachuckwu; Chief  Femi Olopade; Chief Folarin Coker; Chief Felix  Fagbohungbe (SAN) and Chief Adewole Adeyemi.

     

     

  • Dignitaries bid Ngige’s dad farewell

    Dignitaries bid Ngige’s dad farewell

    It was a gathering of political giants and prominent citizens when Pa Pius Okonkwo Ngige, father of Minister of Labour Dr Chris Ngige and a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN), Chief Emeka Ngige, was buried in Alor, Anambra State. JOSEPH JIBUEZE and NWANOSIKE ONU write.

    For a long time to come, residents  of Alor town in Idemili South Local Government Area of Anambra State will not forget  the burial of their patriarch, the late Pius Okonkwo Ngige (aka Akunnia).

    The late Ngige was one of the oldest men in the state. He died at  the age of 105. Thus, it was a celebration of life. The late Ngige is survived by his youngest brother, Alphonsus, who is in his 90s; six children, including a former Anambra State Governor and now Minister of Labour Dr Chris Ngige, and a Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN), Chief Emeka Ngige, who holds the title of Ikemba n’Alor; as well as many grand and great-grand children.

    A wake-keep the previous night took a party-like turn. Soon after prayers were said, fireworks lit up the sky. Various traditional dance groups entertained guests. On the adjourning roads leading to the Ngige family home, long rows of vehicles occupied both sides.

    It was a beehive of activities last Friday, after a funeral mass at the St. Mary’s Catholic Church, Alor. There was a heavy security presence, including men of the Department of State Services (DSS) operatives and the police. Men of the Federal Road Safety Corps (FRSC) and the Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC),  were busy controlling traffic and the surging crowd.

    Choice wines and assorted drinks were in abundance. Local delicacies as well as continental dishes were on display. It was a carnival-like occasion.

    Traders also made brisk business, selling customised fez-caps, hats and vests which bore the late Ngige’s photograph.

    As large as the church cathedral was, it could not contain half of those who attended the ceremony. Canopies were mounted outside.

    All Progressives Congress (APC) National Leader Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu led other party chiefs to the event. They included National Chairman John Odigie Oyegun; former Interim Chairman Chief Bisi Akande; a former Ogun State Governor Chief Segun Osoba; a former Ekiti State Governor Otunba Niyi Adebayo, among others.

    Also at the event were: former Vice-President Alex Ekwueme; Edo State Governor Adams Oshiomhole; his Delta and Anambra counterparts Senator Ifeanyi Okowa and Willie Obiano; and former Anambra Governor Peter Obi. Also paying their last respects were Deputy Senate President Ike Ekweremadu; Ebonyi State Governor Dave Umahi; Chief Niyi Akintola (SAN); Lagos branch chairman of the Nigerian Bar Association (NBA) Martins Ogunleye, his predecessor Chijioke Okoli, among others.

    President Muhammadu Buhari was represented by Secretary to the Government of the Federation Pastor Babachir David Lawal; Senate President Bukola Saraki was represented by Senator Dino Melaye; former Enugu State Governor Dr Okwesilieze Nwodo; Chief Judge of Anambra State, Justice Peter Umeadi; a former Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) Governor Charles Soludo; a former Inspector-General of Police Mike Okiro; and a former Director-General of the Nigerian Institute of Advanced Legal Studies (NIALS) Prof Epiphany Azinge (SAN); ministers- James Ocholi (SAN) (State for Labour); Senator Udo Udoma (Budget and Planning); Dr Kayode Fayemi (Solid Mineral); Rotimi Amaechi (Transport) and Hajiya Zainab Maina (Women Affairs), among others.

    Bishop Paulinus Ezeokafor, in his sermon, urged the Ngige family to be comforted by the good life their father lived.

    He reminded all of the inevitability of death. He urged all to reconsider their lifestyles and change their bad ways by keeping God’s commandments.

    Senator Ngige said: “My father’s life was a book of many volumes where you learn a lot of lessons. There was not a day I did not learn something new from him. He fought for the helpless, the voiceless, and the downtrodden.”

    Emeka Ngige, in his tribute, said the late Akunnia meant a lot to him. He was not just a father, but a friend, confidant, counselor, protector, motivator, educator and role model.

    The senior advocate said his father taught them integrity, consistency, doggedness, resilience, hard work, peacemaking and most importantly the fear of God.

  • A vote for the widows

    A vote for the widows

    It was a diligent service to womanhood penultimate Saturday when the International Women’s Society (IWS)  hosted a Widows New Year party at its Lekki-Epe Expressway Secretariat, reports NNEKA NWANERI.           

    They beamed with smiles and looked their best in the uniformed Ankara material chosen for the occasion. Though beraaved, the widows were asked to leave their children at home, attend the event so that they could have some fun. An approximate of a hundred of them in attendance went home happy with lots of goodies and gifts.

    Leading the team of IWS was Hajiya Zainab Saleh,  the key sponsor of the programmer and Lagos State Governor’s wife, Omobolanle Ambode, whose arrival at the venue ignited the faces of the women, who erupted in jubilation and dancing.

    Though the society has been in existence for 58 years, the annual feast of the widows has held consistently since 1998, said the President of IWS, Hajiya Zainab Saleh, while giving her welcome address. Lauding the support of wives of Lagos governor over the years in the project, The Nation learnt that Senator Oluremi Tinubu and Dame Abimbola Fashola, both former wives of the Lagos State governors are honorary members of the society.

    She urged the widows to enjoy their day to the fullest, hoping that the little they are able to do for them will go a long way in putting smiles on their faces, admonishing that the older widows support the new ones in terms of good counseling and guardianship.

    The high point of the day was a special endowment for 16 of state’s First Lady also specially endowed 10 other women.  It was noted that last week, IWS visited the IDP camp in Bornu State to distribute relief materials  to the women.

    Chairperson of the widows Trust Fund, Mrs Gbemi Sasore, noted that the 100 widows present at the event were just a small percentage of those residing in Lagos, and effort is still being made to mobilise more of them into skill acquisition and mentoring.

    It was noted that many of the widows, despite grieving on the loss of their loved ones, are bread winners of their homes.

    “Stay the course because you are the mothers of our leaders tomorrow and despite what life thrust on you,you are still custodians of our homes and that is why we have been mindful of your plights and caring for you since 1998.”

    Mrs Ambode, listed characteristics associated with widowhood such as mood swings; feeling of isolation, rejection, home upkeep, single parenting, in-law headaches, depression and other sundry challenges capable of slowing them down in life; adding that their strength is derived from their resolve and determination never to succumb to the threatening circumstances, but rather, see God as their rock and fortress in their trying times. She added that the get-together will assure them that they can still live long and fulfilled lives despite the demise of their loved ones.

    Urging the widows to have a means of livelihood and regular source of income, they were called to learn and master the art of being self sufficient instead of relying on the male folk who most times have conditions attached to their assistance.

    “This is a practical way to help you navigate the storm and be gainfully engaged in a regular job, business or vocations. These monies you have been endowed with must be used solely for investment in your businesses and not to solve other domestic issues.”

    The widow who wore the prettiest dress style won a sewing machine, while others, through a raffle dip, went home with prizes such as portable gasoline generators, laces and georges and other items.

    Also, each woman went home with a 5kg gas cooker, carton of noodles, Honeywell products and other undisclosed items.

  • 50 cheers to a lawyer

    50 cheers to a lawyer

    For Ibukun Oluwa Oremodu, a lawyer and the Baamofin of Arigbajo land in Ogun State, it  was a day to give thanks to God for turning 50. The celebration held at the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Green Pasture Chapel, Fagba-Iju, Lagos State. OLATUNDE ODEBIYI reports.

    The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Green Pasture auditorium in Fagba-Iju, Lagos State, was decorated with purple and yellow fabrics. It was the day an elder in the church, Ibukun Oluwa Oremodu, a lawyer and the Baamofin of Arigbajo land in Ogun State, turned 50.

    He looked handsome in cream lace buba and sokoto. He sat with his wife, Adedoyin, who  also wore the same attire.

    Many royal fathers came to share in his joy; church and family members and friends were also there.

    The church choir led the gathering in praises. The celebrator and his wife could not hide their gratitude as they danced to the songs.

    In his ministration, Pastor Yomi Olurinto spoke on  “Season of rejoicing, what am I living for”.

    He read Psalm 90, 10-14; Colossians, 1:27 and Numbers 23:10.

    He urged the congregation to serve God faithfully and be God-cautious.

    After the service, the celebrator and his wife cut the birthday cake at the spell of JESUS. The cake was purple and white colour.

    Chairman on the occasion, Chief Victor Odunaiya, described the celebrator as wonderful, loving, understanding, articulate and friendly. He urged him to continue to do his job without fear of default to anyone, and he should make God first in all that he does.

    At the thanks giving, Pastor Soji Omotunde of The Nation led the gathering in prayers for the celebrator and his family.

    Many of the guests spoke about the celebrator before the ceremony continued with a reception at the same venue.

    Olu of Arigbajo Land in Ewekoro Local Government, Ogun State, Oba Timothy Oluwole described the celebrator as honest, gentle, a goal getter and a Christian to the core.

    He thanked God for the life of the celebrator, saying he was a small boy at 50.

    Bishop Olusesan Adeniran described him as an intelligent lawyer.

    “He has a good relationship with people, his clients, the church and the public and he would not compromise his Christian faith for any reason. He is an example of a Christian in the legal practice, interacting in cases without involving anything outside his Christian faith,” he said.

    HRM Oba Fatai Alani Matanmi, the Onijoko of Ijoko Ota, Ogun State, said the celebrator is nice and someone to reckon with.

    He urged him to take life easy at 50 and prayed God to give him long life.

    A lecturer at the University of Lagos, Dr Abiola Sunny, described the celebrator as a calm and amiable person who is committed to his work,

    He described his relationship with him as wonderful over the last 30 years they had known.

    He advised, the celebrator to learn to behave like an adult, he should get closer to God, get committed to community work and try to recognise that life is not all about self, but about society and making it to heaven, he added.

    The celebrator  said he felt great and exceedingly grateful to God.

    He said he had over the years passed through storm but God has been graciuos.

    “Am not only a writer, litigation for 26 years, I’m into land matters and I win my cases. There has been arrows shot and a lot of people have died but I keep on standing because God has been on my side”.

    He said at 50, he has to slow down as he has achieved the necessary things that one should have. He said life has taught him that what you give is what you receive, adding that one had to be hard working to make achievements in life.

  • Here comes the new monarch

    Here comes the new monarch

    Ayangburan of Ikorodu, Oba Kabir Adewale Shotobi has installed Chief Olukayode Oyewole Olomo as Baale of Ojogbe, Ikorodu, Lagos, OLATUNDE ODEBIYI writes.

    It was funfair at the palace of the Oba of Ikorodu, Oba Kabir Adewale Shotobi, Ayangburan of Ikorodu, when he installed Chief Olukayode Oyewole Olomo as Baale of Ojogbe, Ikorodu, Lagos.

    It was a gathering of various chiefs, Baales, Erelus, Osupos, indigenes and well wishers.

    Guests were decked in choice traditional attires. The king and the new Baale wore white native dresses.

    It was a week long ceremony which featured  visitation of Chief Olomo to schools in Ojogbe where he presented them with gifts.

    On Tuesday, there was a lecture on crime  while on Thursday there was health talk and visitation by the Baale to General Hospital and Maternity Centre in Ojogbe. On Thursday and Friday, it was all games and sports at Ojogbe, while on Sunday, thanksgiving service was held at Ita-Elewa, Ikorodu, Lagos

    On Saturday, the ceremony started with the installation of Chief Olomo. It was dramatic as Oba Shotobi decorated the new Baale with a beautiful cap of dark purple and gold. He also put the royal beads on his neck and hands.

    The king, afterwards, charged him, saying there were tasks ahead of him. He warned against selling peoples’ land in the community during his reign. He advised him to create a new look for the community and make it better than he met it.

    He urged the people of the community to cooperate with their Baale.

    Oba Shotobi, however, called on the government to provide schools, health centres, stable electricity and higher institutions in Ojogbe community.

    Thereafter, the Oba presented the Baale with his certificate. The new Baale was full of joy. The Oba of Ikorodu and other guests took turns to take photographs with him.

    The ceremony continued with a reception during which the new Baale moved around, greeting and taking photographs with guests.

    Demola George and Sucess Juju band entertained guests.

    Chief Olomo said his installation was a call to duty.

    He promised to provide his community with everything that is within his power.

    An elated Olomo said recounted  that it was about seven years that he was picked in the village and through the years, one thing or the other hindered his installation.

    He called for the government’s intervention in the provision of schools and good roads in the community, saying the government should do more to assist traditional rulers.

    Chairman, Council of Baales, Ikorodu, Baale of Omitoro Chief Mufutau Odusoga told Olomo that they would work together to raise Ikorodu, wishing him goodluck.

    He described the Baale as an achiever who is calm, honest, intelligent and trustworthy. He said he would walk with him to move Ikorodu forward.

    President, St Peters Old Students Association Nigeria (SPOSAN), Alhaji Musiliu Soetan, urged the new Baale to have the fear of God. He described him as calm kind and focused, adding that he would be a model among the Baales, adding and that would be emulated because of his good qualities.

    He added that Olomo, who is the first Baale to be installed in the reign of Oba Shotobi, is an asset and would perform creditably.

  • Birds of a feather

    An interesting study was conducted by Solomon Asch in 1951 to test how people’s beliefs affect one another. He invited people to sign up for a psychological experiment. When the volunteers arrived, he allowed a person to enter into a room where six people were already seated, with an empty seat left for the newcomer.  All the participants were shown a standard line and allowed to examine it. Sometime later, they were shown three lines and asked to select among them the standard line they had seen earlier. The first participant chose a wrong answer, the second participant chose the same wrong answer and so did third up to the sixth participant. When it came to the turn of the newcomer, he probably reasoned that six people could not be wrong, so he also chose the same wrong answer to avoid being the odd one out. He was, however, not aware that the other six participants had earlier agreed on their answer because they were part of the experimental setup. The newcomer’s opinion was the only one being measured, and his action confirmed that human decisions tend to be affected by that of the people around them.

    Supposing someone tells us that the people we have around us everyday are directly related to our success or failure, how many of those people would we keep around us? If the newcomer in the experiment above could be influenced within a limited period of interaction and in such a subtle manner by people he never knew, imagine what happens to us through the people we see, listen to and interact with everyday? We need to assess our relationships in 2015 and see if they are the kind of relationships we need for where we are heading in 2016. Please understand that I am not suggesting that we only keep around us people we can “use”, “take advantage of” or “get something from”, no! That will make us selfish and ultimately miserable. Here are a few suggestions of the kind of people we need around us:

    • We need mentors: Les Brown usually puts it this way, “Always have someone in your life who sees things in you that you cannot see in yourself, because you can never see a picture when you are in the frame”. A good mentor should be able to indentify our potentials and help us develop them.
    • We need change oriented people: a wise man said, “If you change things but you don’t change people, things will return to the way they used to be”. Remove termites from a room, clean out the debris, re-stock the room with new books and furniture then put the termites back in the room. What would you expect? Unless people change, nothing really changes.
    • We need positive minded people: Life is full of challenges, we all know that, but it is also full of blessings. It is what we look for that we find. Les Brown told the story of someone who saw a man about to commit suicide by jumping off a bridge. He rushed to the man and said, “Please don’t jump; tell me about your problems”. Two hour later, however, they both jumped! Don’t let anyone offload depression on you this year; you need a joyful spirit to see opportunities in the year. It is alright to listen to people’s problems, but make sure they have a positive disposition about the problems being solved.
    • We need people who value us: a lot of people always feel inferior or unimportant, but that is because they are not with those who value them. If we stay around those who merely tolerate us, we will feel unwanted all the time. If we stay where the demand for our skill or talent has been “over supplied” by other people, we will merely be “another one”. However, if we go to where we are needed, we will be “the one” and feel wanted. You are too valuable to be treated as an option; you are the real deal.
    • We need friends: we need people who simply love us for who we are and not for what we are or what we have. We need people who can correct us in love, not those whose criticism will leave us with low self-esteem.
    • We need a cause: we need a reason for existence that is beyond us. It is important to invest into the lives of people around us in any way we can. We should give someone a reason to thank God for creating us. We should let some people keep praying that God would keep us alive and well, so that we can continue to be a blessing.

    I would love to hear from you. Please send me a message on what you think about the article, questions you have or any topic you want us to discuss. Thank you.

  • Love at first sight

    Love at first sight

    The Onanugas from Ijebu-Ode, Ogun State and the Ajayis of Osun State, have become one, following the union of their children, Adefemi Mohammed and Olubukola Abosede, reports NNEKA NWANERI.

    With a graceful poise, an elegant physique,  Abosede–all smiles– walked down the aisle of the Harvesters International Christian Centre along Gbagada Expressway, Lagos, in a glittering fitted white gown.

    She was in company of her father, Pastor Kolawole Ajayi, who with pride, held her hands and led her all the way to stand on the front row before Olufemi Mohammed Onanuga.

    It was their day and the family members and friends of the lovebirds ensured it was a memorable and colourful outing.

    By this time, it was no longer news that they had fulfilled the obligations of the traditional rites of marriage earlier  before proceeding for the church solemnisation.

    Olufemi, tall and dapper in a white fitted suit, matched Olubukola as they said their ‘I do’ to begin their journey as one.

    Afterwards, a sermon, entitled “Becoming One”, was delivered by one of the lead pastors of the church, Tunji Sapara. From there, the train moved to the Agape Centre, Gbagada for the reception.

    With the Integrity Band and DJ Shot dishing out hit songs, there was never a dull moment for guests, who having filled the arena to capacity had to make do with the chairs and tents right outside.

    The Nation spoke to the couple, who told of how they met two Easter Sundays ago, following their introduction by a long standing friend, Bolaji, who proposed the toast.

    The two years courtship has been a blissful one for Olufemi, the first and only son of his father amongst three children, Mr Babatunde Onanuga. The accounting graduate of Olabisi Onabanjo University (OOU) and member of the Jaiz Bank staff, had loved Olubukola at first sight.

    “After due diligence, I was able to study her character, attributes and became more convinced afterwards. She makes me happy always, he said.”

    For Olubukola, it’s been good all along and was glad they have gone past the ‘forming’ and ‘norming’ stage.

    “We got along very well as good friends so by the time he popped the question, proposing with a ring in his hand and standing at the balcony of his house, it just felt the natural thing to do, although I wasn’t expecting it.

    The Guarantee Trust Bank staff and second child in the family of five said she was stuck by his loving nature.

  • Hooked to a ‘gentle giant’

    Hooked to a ‘gentle giant’

    Former Miss Elizabeth Yewande Awoliyi, a social media strategist and online manager for Genevieve Magazine got married to her heartthrob and Managing Director of Seabrook Construction Services Limited, Tosin Osho, last Thursday. The event was held at The Summit Event Centre in Ikeja, writes NNEKA NWANERI

    Nigerian-born Elizabeth Awoliyi,an online manager  of Genevieve Magazine went to England when she was eight. She returned to Lagos in 2012 . She shared her story of how she met her beau a United States- born Managing Director of Seabrook Construction Services Tosin Osho, the eldest of Mr Kayode Osho’s children.

    Elizabeth said: “I was at my friend’s bridal shower; at some point, I mentioned that I was single. About three people offered to hook me up with someone.  Tosin was the best man and we got talking almost immediately on whatsapp and we haven’t stopped talking since then. I first met him a week after the ‘hook up’ when he invited me to have lunch with his uncle and brother.

    “I fell in love with Tosin immediately I met him and he made his intentions quite clear. The day I knew I loved him was when an incident occurred that I thought he would scold me, but he just  reprimanded me with love.”

    She also expressed her admiration for his gentility. “He is a gentle giant that wants no trouble. He is the opposite of me-cool, calm and collected.”

    The young Osho reiterated what his wife said.  Tosin has a Bachelor of Science in Construction Management degree from the University of MD-Eastern Shore.

    “I was somewhat hesitant and shy at first but after seeing her pictures, I took the bold step. Then we met up with friends and family shortly after X-mas to attend a live concert. From her energy that day, I was thinking of how to know more about this lady not to minding her British accent. From then on, my day was not complete if I did not speak with her or send her voice notes on Whatapp.

    He went on: The day I knew I fell in love with Liz, I recall, was that evening we were to have a dinner together. But naija factor ended it  up as a group outing, which was fine. During the night I was really so intrigued with Liz-  her whole persona and the way she carried herself. The real selling point was how my family accepted her. I was just thinking to myself about her amazing nature and is it too early to share my heart-felt feelings? Well I did take a gamble, and put my feelings out there, conveying to her my emotions and she was taken aback, but most importantly she was receptive to them.

    He spoke of what a strong and intelligent woman she is and her great communication skills. “She really is a straight shooter and doesn’t mince her words. That attribute is very essential especially, in a new relationship of any sort,” he added.

    Last Thursday, in Ikeja, Lagos, their family members, friends and well wishers adorned in aqua- a light shade of green dresses, to celebrate with the new couple as they took their first step into marital bliss. They watched the lovebirds seek the blessings of their parents during the traditional ceremony.

    There was music, dance and enactment of friendship from many who came from far and near – Ilesa in Osun State where the bride hails from and Ekiti, Tosin’s hometown, to grace the occasion.

  • Take a step to change your results

    Happy New Year to you. Thank God you made it to 2016. There is something quite interesting about life- it is a never-ending cycle. Towards the end of 2015, there was an excitement about ending the year. We all looked forward to it as though we had lived the entire year just to see it end. We spent a lot of money travelling, celebrating and buying gifts. It was undoubtedly a delightful holiday. Now, 2015 has ended and we have entered into a new year. The race has begun again. A few minutes before 12am on January 1, 2016, we waited and prayed. We held our breath as though awaiting the unveiling of a special package. Now the package has been unveiled; it is time to make the best of it.

     

    Believe me, 2016 is worth the wait, because this is your year. If you’ve ever dreamt of achieving something great, this is your opportunity. There is something special about beginnings. The foundation of a building determines how high it rises. This is the opportunity you’ve always prayed for. Don’t think my intention is to stir up your emotion so that you can feel good about yourself. If you feel good after reading this, consider it a bonus. What I hope to achieve is to make you see that you have a fresh opportunity take the right steps that can take you to a desirable destination.

     

    A lot of people pray for miracles to change their fortune, unfortunately, they are expecting a magic. People want their lives to change without their commitment to do something about it. You can’t succeed without your involvement. Les Brown, one of the world’s leading motivational speakers, told the story of a young man who walked past a family sitting on a porch, with a dog groaning at their feet. Out of curiosity, he went back and asked, “Sir, why is the dog groaning?” “Because he’s lying on a nail” the man answered. “So why didn’t he get up?” he asked, confused. “Because it doesn’t hurt enough for him to get up” the man answered. Have you ever met people who were not satisfied with their lives, jobs, relationships, etc, and they did nothing but moan about it? I am yet to meet the first person who changed an undesirable situation by complaining.

     

    A world class author and speaker, Zig Ziglar, said he spoke to people in Psychology, Psychiatry and Ministry who had experience in counseling, and they all agreed that not everyone who came to them with a problem wanted it solved.  A lot of people just wanted to tell someone about it to elicit sympathy. Zig said that if you solve the problem, you have spoilt it for them because they can’t tell people about it anymore. According to him, “They want the attention that goes with the problem”. In case you think that is extreme, I have heard of people who preferred to be ill because they got the attention of some people they felt had previously ignored them. The big question is this: “are you complaining about something you can change, without the will to change it?”

     

    This is your year, but you must be ready to do what you have never done. How can you keep doing the same thing (or actually do nothing) and expect a different result? You may not be able to change other people, but you can change yourself and how you react to circumstances.

     

    I would love to know your views about our topic for today so please send your comments. I would also love to respond to your questions. I look forward to hearing from you. Thank you.