Category: Society

  • Take Charge Now!

    Public speaking involves a series of exchanges. As the speaker gives out information to the audience, members of the audience show their interest or lack of interest through their feedback.

    While the process is not really about who dominates or who is submissive, we still should not downplay the role of the speaker in setting the pace for the exchange. Audience’s presence at the venue already shows some level to readiness to listen. It is then left to the speaker to make it.

    Public speaking is a creative process. A speaker can be likened to a sculptor with a massive supply of rough natural stones- the attention of the audience. While the stones have the potentials of becoming priceless works of art, the speaker, who is also the artist, must painstakingly shape the stones by performing a controlled removal of unwanted pieces. Every stroke of the chisel must be calculated and strategic. He or she must chip away all distractions until the hall is full of

    Just like a sculptor creates value out of a rough natural stone and the sculpture perpetuates the artistry of the sculptor, a speaker adds value to the audience while the audience’s response adds legitimacy to the speaker’s effort. Hence, if we want to know how successful a public speaker is, we look at the audience; and if we need to know how fortunate an audience is, we look at the

    “The beginning is the most important part of the work”, says Plato. Plato is considered an essential figure in the development of philosophy. Not only did he found the Academy in Athens, which was reportedly the first institution of higher learning in the Western world, he was taught by Socrates and had Aristotle as his student. Perhaps you will agree with me that we can trust his judgement. It is at the beginning that we lay the foundation for the rest of the work. A clear, direct, purposeful, inspired and energized start will set the right course for the achievement

    In public speaking, your first step will determine the next one. Your first statement after being introduced to the audience will determine whether they bring out their notepads or their phones to play games. How then can we ensure that we take a first step that will grab and sustain the attention of our audience?

    Here are a few suggestions:

    •Ask a question: this is a popular and effective way of beginning a speech. One of the most important attributes of a good speech is that it engages the audience, and asking questions helps to achieve this. It transforms the audience from being passive to being active. When you ask a question, you make your listeners think and this holds their concentration. It is, however, important to note that this technique is highly sensitive so it must be properly used. For instance, never ask an evaluation question until your listeners are comfortable with you. Since they may be right or wrong, they may not be sure of what your reaction will be or how you will judge them. Of course, after they are used to your style and they see that being wrong is part of the fun filled learning process, they will be more comfortable to participate. At the beginning, however, it is safer to ask general questions that participants can easily respond to. For instance, you may ask,

    “How many of you agree that you can do a lot more than you are doing right now?” You are likely to have several people raise their hands. First, people always hope for a better future so they won’t mind responding, and second, raising hands is a group action so nobody feels exposed. Again, you may ask rhetorical questions- questions that you don’t expect answers to. Of course your listeners will answer the questions in their minds and you will see them react to it. You can then build on the momentum you have created by

    •Use an anecdote or story: an anecdote is a short but interesting or amusing account of a real incident. As long as the public speaker is a good story teller, this is a foolproof technique for grabbing the attention of the audience. Everyone loves a good story. When a speaker begins a presentation with a story, the listeners immediately get interested for three major reasons: first, it gives them a relief that the presentation won’t be the boring and “very serious” type, second, it lays the foundation for lessons they can hope to learn from the presentation, and third, it gives them an insight into the personality of the speaker. Of course, the type of story told tells a lot about the sense of judgement of the story teller. That is why a pointless story will always leave the impression that the speaker is uncoordinated. According to Les Brown, one of the world’s foremost public speakers, “Never make a point without a story, and never tell a story without a point”.

  • Exit of a caring father

    Exit of a caring father

    The remains of Pa Paul Oni Meduna were interred on April 3, at his country home in Iyamerin-Okeri, Yagba West Local Government Area of Kogi State after a funeral service at the First ECWA Church, reports JAMES AZANIA.

    ON April 3, the people of Iyamerin-Okeri Yagba West Local Government Area of Kogi State received a lot of visitors, perhaps unprecented in the history of the town.

    They came to attend the funeral of Pa Paul Oni Meduna, who died on November 12, last year at the age of 84.

    The service held at the ECWA Church.

    The events started with a wake the previous day. The deceased’s sons, daughters and other members of the family who wore cream lace sat in the front row of the open arena.

    On hand to support the eldest child and member of the Editorial Board of The Nation Newspaper, Mr. Sanya Oni, was a delegation from the media led by the Managing Director of Vintage Press Limited Mr. Victor Ifijeh.

    A huge electronic screen was mounted at the back of the arena to avail those on the back seats the opportunity to follow proceedings.

    In his sermon, the officiating priest, Pastor S. O. Onilede, urged the bereaved family to be happy for the late Pa Meduna, saying he lived a worthy and exemplary life.

    Reading from Job 14:5, Pastor Onilede admonished all to be mindful of the “hereafter”.

    There were testimonies by relations, children and members of the community of the life and times of the late Pa Meduna.These were followed by prayers.

    Beautiful renditions of Christian hymns by various groups added colour to the ceremony.

    The following day, the interment and thanksgiving service held. The  latter began at 9am at ECWA Church. The officiating ministers were led by Rev. J. O. Olobayo; he was assisted by 10 clerics.

    The deceased’s children and widow, Ebun, wore red Aso Oke with caps and gele (head gear) to match.

    At the event were traditional rulers, captains of industries, media executives and other important personalities.

    While some shed tears, others  did not. The children of the deceased shed tears as testimonies of the good works of their late father were being given.

    A moving part of the ceremony was when Mrs. C. B. Makanjuola gave a special song from her collection in memory of Pa Meduna. It was a long rendition which brought both sadness and joy.

    One of the children and a medical doctor, Dr Tope Oni described his father as loving and caring, adding that their late father ensured that   his siblings were educated.

    Pa Meduna not only strived to educate his children, he said, he also ensured that his cousins  enjoyed good education.

    Several others also attested to the late Pa Meduna’s love for education, service to humanity and his love for God.

    Pa Meduna is survived by four children Sanya, Tosho, Tope, Comfort and many grandchildren.

    His remains were interred in his compound after the service.

    Reception followed at the open grounds of United Secondary School, Odo-Ere.

  • Towards better service

    Towards better service

    Boot Communications, owners of Rockcity 101.9 FM in Abeokuta, Ogun State, hosted their partners to a dinner at Westown Hotel, Ikeja, Lagos.OLATUNDE ODEBIYI reports.

    Wednesday, March 25,  guests dressed in classic and beautiful outfits, gathered at Westown Hotel in Ikeja, Lagos for Rockcity Partners’ dinner. Rockcity is a radio station based in Ogun State.

    The guests, who looked respledent  as they beamed with smiles, exchanged pleasantries and posed for photographs before the event began. The atmosphere was colourful and enchanting. The hall was decorated with red rugs and matching red chairs set around tables with white overlays.

    It was an evening for the Abeokuta-based radio station management and staff to  interact with their partners.

    The event began with the rendition of the national anthem and a popular stand-up comedian, Koffi Idowu Nuel (aka Koffi d Guru) kept the audience alive with rib-cracking jokes. He was the Master of Ceremony.

    Station Manager, Ify Onugbule, in her welcome address said the dinner was organised principally to know the partners and to re-present the station, which has officially moved from its former location to the ultra-modern new site on Rockcity Avenue, Asero Estate, Abeokuta, Ogun State.

    Onyegbule also added that a lot has changed in the station’s programmes, which have continued to positively affect the lives of its listeners.

    The Chief Executive Officer of the company, Dr. Niran Malaolu thanked the guests for coming.

    He said RockcityFM is the first independent radio station in Ogun State, and also “the voice of the people. He is happy with its professional business of broadcasting.

    He said: “We are a different kind of radio station, especially in the ways we do our business of broadcasting. We are professional, credible and we value integrity. We deliver bespoke services to our partners and clients and we are always working on how to serve our clients better.”

    He added: “We, as a company, do what we are supposed to do professionally”.

    He noted that RockcityFM, as a media organisation, is a social service for the people and as such must be professional and credible to be believable.

    The Executive Director of the company, Mrs Chriatiana Malaolu, added that the station stands for intergrity, truth and justice. She thanked the media agencies for honouring their invitation.  “I am happy and delighted for the sucess of the programme because it will help in growing our relationship”.

    She said the programme was held in Lagos to enable its media partners attend.

  • A barrister at 60

    A barrister at 60

    Founder, Folasade Adetiba and Co. (a law firm) Mrs Folasade Adetiba celebrated her 60th birthday on Monday. She hosted family members and friends to a reception at her Lekki, Lagos home after a thanksgiving service at Our Saviours Anglican Church, Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS), Onikan. OLATUNDE ODEBIYI reports.

    It was a day of thanksgiving for Mrs Folasade Adetiba, who turned 60 last Monday. Family members and friends joined her at the service at Our Saviours Anglican Church in Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS), Onikan Lagos. Bishop of Lagos Diocese, Anglican Communion Rev Adebola Ademowo officiated.

    Mrs Adetiba is  founder of Folasade Adetiba and Co (a law firm) and brain behind a non-governmental organisation, Support Bridges Initiative (SBI).

    At the reception in her Lekki, Lagos home guests were treated to a nice time. The celebrator’s Oduduwa Close, Lekki home was filled with exotic cars with many of the guests seated before her return from church.

    They exchanged pleasantries, while others danced to music from DJ Tune as they awaited  her arrival.

    The birthday ‘girl’ was a beauty to behold in a yellow lace Buba and Iro with matching head gear and Ipele.  Many of the guests stood up to shake her, hug and take pictures with her. She was all smiles.

    She changed into an evening black dress with blue design. Her hair was packed and the accompanying gold neck chain was beautiful.

    The celebrator went round to greet, and take photographs with her guests. Many of them danced with her.

    Her siblings and children were assisted by  others to serve guests.

    She thanked God for the day and appreciated those that came to rejoice with her, saying:

    “I am happy and thank God that when I reflect on the things I have gone through, my being alive today, I have sound mind, I am favoured by God and God has been taking good care of me.

    “Finding Jesus so many years ago has helped me to take care of all the things that should have weighed me down and this is why I look young.

    “I still want to do more for God, save more lives, touch my generation and the coming generation. I want to do Kingdom work. God has given me energy and skills and I do not want them to be wasted. I have done well, but I still want to do more and I am available for God.”

    In a congratulatory letter, former Head of State, Gen Yakubu Gowon, described her as a woman of substance. Gen Gowon wished her a happy celebration, long life, prosperity and robust health, praying that every work of her hand will prosper.

    A constitutional lawyer, Prof Itse Sagay (SAN), said the celebrator was one of his young law students at the University of Ife. He described her as gentle, humble, self-effacing and extremely brilliant. He applauded her organisational skills,  efficiency, sense of responsibility and approach to work and life in general.

    Lagos State Chief Judge Justice Funmilayo Atilade, described the celebrator as a woman of excellence.

    She said: “Mrs Adetiba is an exceptional lawyer with well over three decades of rich, fruitful and rewarding experience at the Bar. She is resourceful; a perfect mix of integrity, hard work, diligence, focus and purpose driven.

    “Her impactful contributions to the legal profession, human and business management have proved remarkable parts of her achievements and distinguished career.  She is also a loving and caring mother with tremendous milk of human kindness.”

    Former Lagos State Deputy Governor, Princess Sarah Sosan said the celebrator is a sister, friend and an adviser to her and her family

    She said she is impressed with the celebrator’s quiet mien, demeanour and  disposition, adding that her humility and religious stance make her stand out.

    “She mixes freely with the young and the old and she is an example of humility as a virtue. She upholds her professional ethics at every place you meet her and she is a successful barrister in her public and private life,” Mrs Sosan said.

    Lagos State Commissioner for Education, Mrs Olayinka Oladunjoye congratulated the celebrator for her success in life, wishing her many more years in good health, love, happiness and fulfilment.  The celebrator’s elder sister, Mrs Iyabode Olusanmi, described her as a very good person, who knows how to take care of people.

    She urged her to continue to hold on to God and live by example. “Now that you are 60, you should take things a bit easy because you are a workaholic and you should continue to pray,” she said.

    Her younger sister, Eniola Anako, described her as a mother, friend and confidante, adding that she is down to earth, a people person, compassionate and a sociable woman. Another family member, Rt Rev Akin Odejide; said the celebrator is dear to the family; her daughter, Motunrayo, described her mother as the best.

    At the event were Senator Daisy Danjuma;  Justice Ope Oke, who represented Lagos Chief Judge;  former Chief Judge of Lagos, Justice Ade Alabi; Chief Derin Osoba; former Minister of State for Defence, Mrs Dupe Adelaja; Chief Tunde Onakoya; Mr  George Etomi;Tokunbo Adesanya; Justice Roseline Ukeje and Dr Wale Babalakin (SAN).

  • ‘She’s one in a million’

    ‘She’s one in a million’

    Alhaja Abiola Saratu Banire, mother of All Progressives Congress (APC) National Legal Adviser Dr Muiz Banire, has celebrated her 87th birthday in Lagos, reports OLATUNDE ODEBIYI.

    It was a day of joy for Alhaja Abiola Saratu Banire, mother of All Progressives Congress (APC) National Legal Adviser, Dr Muiz Banire, when she celebrated her 87th birthday. Many eminent personalities came to rejoice with her.

    Oduduwa Crescent in GRA Ikeja, Lagos, felt the celebration. Exotic cars filled the neighbourhood and the adjoining streets, announcing the celebration. Uniformed and armed security agents were on hand to ensure orderliness.

    Some wore turquoise blue lace with the chosen head gears for the ceremony, were in orange attire. Others simply looked charming in choice outfits.

    The celebrator was the cynosure of all eyes. She wore a white Iro and Buba with a matching blue head gear, and sat with friends and family members. Many of the guests came around to greet her.

    The event began with Alhaji Tajudeen Salisu leading the opening prayers and was coordinated by Abdul Hakeem Kosoko.

    Baba Adinni of Lagos Sheikh Abdul Afeez Abou and Abdur-Rahman Lekki led the gathering in prayers.

    In a lecture, the National Missioner of Ansaudeen Society of Nigeria, Sheikh Abdur Rahman Ahmad spoke on proper upbringing of children, saying what the celebrator has done for her children is the reason for the celebration. He said the celebrator trained her children well, urging other women to emulate her.

    Reception followed with plenty to eat and  drink.

    Alhaja said she is happy people came to celebrate with her.

    Lagos State APC governorship running mate Dr Idiat Oluranti Adebule described the day as wonderful. She said it was a thing of joy that mama clocked 87 and thanked God for her life.

    “With the people here today, we can say that mama has lived a very wonderful life; we pray that the almighty God will continue to be with her, give her sound health and Allah’s favour will not depart from her,” she said.

    She urged the family to continue to pray for mama, adding that at 87, mama is still a beauty to behold.

    Dr Banire said he joined his mother to thank Allah for sparing her life. He said he was happy that his mother is still around.

    He described her as gentle, admirable and an extremely amazing.

    “She is free with everybody and not discriminatory. She taught us to be God fearing and she is always willing and ready to express joy, and care for others, both in their joy and in their pain.

    “One moment I will never forget about Mama was when we were growing up, she is always ready to follow us anywhere. She is already at our school gate to take us home before school closes and when we are home she ensures we get something to eat immediately,” he said.

    Banire’s wife, Olufunmilayo, described her mother-in-law as wonderful and very humble, adding that she has been like her real mother. “She is a jovial person and one in a million. She is warm hearted with a heart of gold and she is worthy of emulation; a role model” .

    A guest, Hon Femi Wilson, said the celebrator is a great achiever to have clocked 87 because it’s not everyone that attains that age. He wished her the best.

    Another guest, Dr Buhari Oloto, prayed that mama would advance more in age.

    Former Chairman, Mushin Local Government Hon Olatunde Adepitan said the celebrator is a mother with a passion. “She has taken good care of her children and what is happening here today is something that mama is worth much more than”.

  • The Orisirishi experience

    The Orisirishi experience

    The board and management of CMC Connect (perception managers) unveiled its brand and at a cocktail in Ikeja where it announced its flagship business and global affiliation with Burson Marsteller. NNEKA NWANERI was there. 

    It was a night of variety and the event was aptly tagged: Orishsirishi. Cars were packed on both sides of Oduduwa Cresent in GRA Ikeja, Lagos that night when CMC Connect (Perception Managers) announced its global affiliation with Burson Marsteller, a South African firm which does advertorials for some multinational companies.

    The Bridgehouse, which houses CMC Connect, was filled.

    At the entrance, was diversely culturally dressed men and women ushers from the three major ethnic groups. For guests, the dress code was Orishirishi. The theme was chosen to showcase Nigeria’s diversity.

    In Yoruba language, Orishirishi means different things or variety, all sorts of things and diverse assorted things.

    To culinary experts, it means assorted beef such as roundabout, ponmo, shaki, bokoto, ahan, abodi, fuku and more.

    Whether in traditional attire, suit or other English wears, guests made a fashion statement and they looked at one another in admiration. At a point, they moved to the poolside and stood under coconut trees that shielded them from the moonlight. A well lit projector displayed historical pictures that are almost going into extinction. It also showcased many African delicacies peculiar to Nigeria.

    A female Master of Ceremony, Mrs Laolu Thomas, informed the guests why they were there. She ushered in the Chairman of Burson Marsteller, Robyn DeVilliers to a raised platform to address the gathering.

    She said her relationship with the Nigerian Public Relations (PR) industry dated back to a long time. She said she has been in PR business as far back as 26 years ago when she became an entrepreneur by starting her own  consultancy in South Africa.

    Managing Director of CMC, Mr Yomi Badejo-Okusanya, said he began the outfit 23 years ago to entrench the practice of PR in Nigeria and provide value for its clients.

    He announced that the company has just launched into a single entity called CMC Connect Burson Marsteller, and that the name was chosen to show their different way of doing things.

    He paid homage to Lagos, where the company started, calling it the most Orishirishi city in Africa.

    “Lagos is the quintessential melting pot. There is nothing and nothing that you will not see in Lagos. You will see different things, all sorts of things, diverse things. And more often than not; for good or for bad, in Lagos, you will see things done differently,” Badejo-Okusanya said.

    Though glasses were filled with drinks and guests ready to clink them, but they placed them on side stools to give Badejo-Okusanya a rousing applause after the speech.

    There were different kinds of drinks. Some sipped palmwine, a local drink tapped from Palm Trees, from local calabashes as they watched the poetic Akeem Lasisi perform a version of Orishirishi from his poetic collection. He also did another recital-Elele Ture.

    Instead of the conventional snacks served at corporate events, bean balls (akara) fried yams and other local delicacies were served to the delight of guests who kept demanding for more rounds for the waiters who went about the gathering with the meal.

    The DJ dished out many old Nigerian songs that are almost forgotten, as guests danced into the night.

  • ‘She motivates me’

    ‘She motivates me’

    The wedding of Ibiyemi Oladiji and Oyewole Oyeniran was held at Bamboo Hall in Omole, Ikeja, Lagos last Saturday. It was preceded by a service at the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus Sanctuary in Oshodi. SAFIYYAH ABDUR-RAZAQ reports.

    The couple walked hand in hand as they left the church for the wedding reception.

    The relationship of Ibiyemi Oladiji and Oyewole Olaniran began from the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU) in Ile-Ife, Osun State.

    The bride looked resplendent in her long flowing white gown and veil with silver- jewelery, the groom was dashing in his white shirt, navy blue suit and a black tie with green stripes.

    The two bride’s maids, who are her sisters, wore mint-green gowns. The groom’s men also dressed like the groom but their black ties had green polka dots.

    The couple were joined in holy matrimony at the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Jesus Sanctuary in Oshodi, Lagos.

    In a sermon, Minister-in-charge of Kogi Region Pastor Boniface Okenwa urged the couple to always use the Bible as their guide.

    “The day you get married, you become enrolled into the University of ‘Marriology’ which has the Holy Bible as its only textbook and the Vice Chancellor is the Holy Spirit. There is no graduation from this institution except by death or rapture. It is an exclusive institution and the rest of us are outside observers”, he said.

    Pastor Okenwa said they would have misunderstandings, adding that they should see such disputes as part of their marital life. He urged them to be patient with each other. He urged their parents to always pray for them and not controlling their home.

    After they signed the marriage register, they were blessed by Pastor Oluremi Oluboba of Lagos Province 9.

    “You will never have any cause to regret what you have started today, you would never be separated and never be infertile. Death would not separate you at an early age. Your sun would not set in your prime and you would also do the same for your children”, Pastor Oluboba prayed.

    At the reception, guests were treated to sumptuous meals and drinks. The reception was anchored by MC Pluto. The couple arrived for the reception at Bamboo Hall in Omole, Ikeja, Lagos, in style, dancing to “Shake body”, “Aye” and “On top your matter”.

    After the opening prayer  by Hon. Segun Fasinsa, the chairperson of the occasion and former Lagos State Deputy Governor Princess Sarah Sosan congratulated the Oyedirans on the addition to their family. She also congratulated the couple and prayed for them to have a blissful marital life.

    She said: “I have known Ibiyemi since she was in the womb and I thank God I am here to witness today. My son, Wole, welcome to the family. I can see that she has chosen well because you are a gentleman to the core. Both of you should treat each other well and treat your parents well.”

    The couple cut the four-tiered cake with the two tiers at the bottom in mint green and the first two tiers in white after the spelling of Jesus. They fed each other cake and wine.

    The bride’s father danced with her before handing her over to the groom.

    In an interview with The Nation, Oyewole, an engineer described his wife as God-fearing, intelligent and beautiful.

    “She is also hard-working and she motivates me a lot. I have pledged my support to her to move forward in her career”, he said.

    Narrating how they met, he said they met in OAU in 2003/2004.

    “We were attending the same fellowship but we were not relating. We just knew each other. I was about to graduate when she got admitted into the school. In 2012, I came across her in Shoprite when I went to shop. As I was about to get out, I saw her and since we were not relating in school, I just said, “OAU, RCF” she looked back and said “Yes”. I said “I am Wole” and she said she knew me. That day, we spoke for a while then I went to drop her at home.  And that was how it started.”

    Ibiyemi, a lawyer, described her husband as a pleasant person.

    She said: “He can be quite firm but he is also very loving and he is intrinsically kind. One thing I am very confident of is that he really loves me and he wants the best for me.”

    The groom’s father, Mr Oyeniran Olalere, said: “I pray for them to have both male and female children. Their lives would be forever blissful. Their enjoyment has begun and would forever remain.”

    The bride’s father, Pastor Abayomi Oladiji said: “Just like it was said during the service, the Holy Bible should be their book of instruction and I have also counselled them as a pastor too. They should follow the laws of God and He would make their marriage successful”.

  • Dealing With Too Much Information

    Welcome to your column on public speaking, it’s great to have you back. For a while, we have been considering the general topic “grabbing attention”. We discussed how short the attention span of humans has become in recent years and how much we need to struggle to get people’s attention. According to the National Centre for Biotechnology Information, at the U.S. National Library of Medicine, the attention span of humans has dropped from 12 seconds to 8 seconds between 2000 and 2013.

    Last week, we discussed the “information overload” phenomenon and how it can affect us as public speakers. Considering that several things are competing for the attention of our audience, we have to work harder to grab and sustain attention. Today, our main concern is how we can deal with the deluge of information we are exposed to everyday. Before we consider some steps we can take to manage information overload, it is important to first discuss its challenges:

    •The Challenge of making decisions: ordinarily, we can argue that the more information we have access to, the better informed we are to make decisions. However, how do we determine when we have gathered “enough” information to take the next step? In this age of ICT, it is important to consume media contents or browse the Internet with a focus. If we don’t know exactly what we are looking for, we may spend hours searching, getting entertained and finding every other information except what we really need. In cases like this, the more information we have, the farther we get from making good decisions.

    •Confusing information: of course, there are several sides to issues and several ways to deal with them. While several books, magazines, TV programmes, blogs, tweets, facebook posts, etc exist on any given topic, it is not strange that some of them are contradictory. Hence, people sometimes get more confused as they get more information. Rather than helping us to make sound decisions, a lot of information we are exposed to only give us the different sides of the argument while leaving us to determine the most authentic.

    •Information based on opinions and sentiments: if we attempt to browse on any subject using the search engines on the Internet, we are likely to find more blogs and private websites than research based sites. The implication of this is that the information we want to base our decisions on may have been written by anybody- even a little child fabricating stories. How can we be sure that the idea we want to adopt is based on facts and not sentiments or opinions? Any information can go viral on the Internet but that does not make it a fact. Since everyone can be an information provider, the volume of information in circulation keeps growing. It is left to us to determine what we believe.

    Having considered a few challenges of information overload, let’s now see how we can deal with them.

    •Avoid “I’m missing out” attitude: a lot of people stay almost perpetually on social media or the Internet as a whole, not because they are looking for or sharing any particular information, but because of the fear of missing out on “something important”. Not only can this keep them largely distracted because their minds will always be on their devices, it can also expose them to a lot of unnecessary information.

    •Process only the information you need to know: it is possible you want to know a lot of things but how many of them really add value to you? While you may not be able to control the amount of information you are exposed to (since a lot of them come unsolicited), try to determine what you spend your time processing. Engage information based on what you need and not what you want. By doing this, you will avoid being overloaded with information.

    •Judge by quality, not by quantity: some people think the more information they have access to, the better their lives will become. Well, this is not necessarily true. A valuable and specific piece of information is worth much more than ten general ones. You need to reduce the amount of time you devote to unnecessary information so that you pay better attention to the valuable ones.

    •Mind your source: the quality of a piece of information is determined by its source. If the source is credible, so is the information and vice versa. Before we decide to base our decisions on any information, we must learn about the source. If the source has the experience and credentials to offer such information, that’s great, if not, beware.

    •Be focused: this is perhaps the most important way to manage information overload. If we don’t know what we are looking for, everything will seem acceptable to us. We need to determine the direction our life is going and then select the information that can take us there. Not every piece of information is meant for us; we need to find ours.

     

  • ‘She was my long lost crush’

    ‘She was my long lost crush’

    A pharmacist, Mr Paul Ndukwe, from Awka in Anambra State has given out his daughter, Vivinne Nkechi, in marriage to  Oluyomi Daniel, son of Chief Josiah Odofin, who hails from Ilesa, Osun State. NNEKA NWANERI was there.

    •Fate brought us together

    Oluyemi was beside himself with joy when he related to this reporter how he met his heartthrob, Nkechi, whom he had a crush on  the first time they met 15 years ago. They met in same neighbourhood and struck each other as acquaintances. But Oluyemi wanted something more than being an acquaintance.

    Fortunately, in 2004, they both worshipped at the same fellowship centre, Believers’ World Fellowship, of the same campus of Onabisi Onabanjo University, Ogun State, where they both studied. Oluyemi was studying Geography and Town Planning and Nkechi was studying Law.

    “She sat in front of my friend and I and when she looked back, our eyes met and she was convinced she has met me somewhere. Before the final grace, we talked and she tried explaining who she was to me to no avail. I just could not remember.

    “The next day, while having my bath, I remembered her. She was my long lost crush. I ran out of the bath in excitement to tell my friend I had found my wife. On same day, as we drove into the campus, there she was at the gate. We stopped the car and that was it. Since then till now, we spend every weekend together and I’m glad we began as friends because since 2004 till date, we are still together because it is a mutual thing.

    “I believe it was fate that brought us together because she was meant to have studied in the University of Lagos, but was declined an admission into Law. That was when she opted for her second choice so that she could meet me. Can’t you see it was divine intervention?”

    The Classique Events Centre on Kudirat Abiola Way, Oregun, played hosts to the family of the lovebirds from Anambra and Osun State at the traditional wedding ceremony, Igba Nkwu of Nkechi and Oluyemi.

    It was a day both families had longed  for to and they  left no stone unturned in ensuring that it was not only memorable, but exciting.

    Passersby wondered if there was a dance troupe rehearsal going on as various traditional dancers tried to show their skills.

    Those, who made it into the tastefully decorated hall, venue of the event, after being thoroughly checked by security officials, wowed at the massive parking space at the venue. They were greeted by an Igbo traditional troupe dancers, who entertained with flutes. On each table was a candle stand with lighted candle stick. There were big television screens placed strategically on the walls around the hall to give guests a better view of what was happening.

    The tables were exotically decorated in gold and shiny overlays.  An Indian lantern was equally placed in the centre of each table.

    The Ndukwes were already seated, awaiting the arrival of their in-laws and guests.

    Along came a group of people, announcing the arrival of the long expected guests from Osun State. They  refused to take their seat untill they achieved their mission. They told the gathering why they came to pluck a beautiful flower they described as shiny and respectful.

    Oluyemi, who was decked in an Igbo attire, looked more like a traditional Igbo chief. He held a title-less hand fan, which he waved around with a sense of pride.

    He made straight for the high table, himself and his friends, prostrated before his family members and in-laws, showing how Yoruba men greet their elders.

    The bride’s mother, Grace, had  kolanut trays to present to her guests. As they moved forward into the hall, praise songs in honour of women rented the air. The cultural dancers added colour to the event with their dance steps.

    Nkechi also danced with maidens and friends, bearing a tray filled with garden eggs. She was sprinkled with red rose petals every step she took.  She then took the tray to where her in-laws sat and served them. Her dress and her charming smile caught everyone’s attention.

    When it was confirmed that her in-laws have met all the requirements expected of them, Nkechi went in and changed into a beautiful skirt and blouse made from a shiny sequence. She collected a glass of palmwine from her father and began to search for her beau in the crowd. She found him, knelt and presented him with the drink, which he hurriedly gulped down his throat.

    She then led him to her father and they both knelt before him. The old man then prayed that the young couple would have a prosperous marital life.

  • Towards better service

    Towards better service

    Boot Communications, owners of Rockcity 101.9 FM in Abeokuta, Ogun State, hosted their partners to a dinner at Westown Hotel, Ikeja, Lagos.OLATUNDE ODEBIYI reports.

    Penultimate Wednesday, guests dressed in classic and beautiful outfits, gathered at Westown Hotel in Ikeja, Lagos for Rockcity Partners’ dinner. Rockcity is a radio station based in Ogun State.

    The guests, who looked respledent  as they beamed with smiles, exchanged pleasantries and posed for photographs before the event began. The atmosphere was colourful and enchanting. The hall was decorated with red rugs and matching red chairs set around tables with white overlays.

    It was an evening for the Abeokuta-based radio station management and staff to  interact with their partners.

    The event began with the rendition of the national anthem and a popular stand-up comedian, Koffi Idowu Nuel (aka Koffi d Guru) kept the audience alive with rib-cracking jokes. He was the Master of Ceremony.

    Station Manager, Ify Onugbule, in her welcome address said the dinner was organised principally to know the partners and to re-present the station, which has officially moved from its former location to the ultra-modern new site on Rockcity Avenue, Asero Estate, Abeokuta, Ogun State.

    Onyegbule also added that a lot has changed in the station’s programmes, which have continued to positively affect the lives of its listeners.

    The Chief Executive Officer of the company, Dr. Niran Malaolu thanked the guests for coming.

    He said RockcityFM is the first independent radio station in Ogun State, and also “the voice of the people. He is happy with its professional business of broadcasting.

    He said: “We are a different kind of radio station, especially in the ways we do our business of broadcasting. We are professional, credible and we value integrity. We deliver bespoke services to our partners and clients and we are always working on how to serve our clients better.”

    He added: “We, as a company, do what we are supposed to do professionally”.

    He noted that RockcityFM, as a media organisation, is a social service for the people and as such must be professional and credible to be believable.

    The Executive Director of the company, Mrs Chriatiana Malaolu, added that the station stands for intergrity, truth and justice. She thanked the media agencies for honouring their invitation.  “I am happy and delighted for the sucess of the programme because it will help in growing our relationship”.

    She said the programme was held in Lagos to enable its media partners attend.