Category: Sunday magazine

  • Five ways to have a more meaningful life

    If someone asked you whether you wanted your life to be meaningful or happy, chances are you’d say “both.” A recent study, published in the Journal of Positive Psychology, takes an interesting look at whether or not that’s truly possible. Researchers analysed 397 adults over a month-long period, using self-assessment questionnaires to determine whether people thought their lives were happy or meaningful. They found that while the two states aren’t synonymous, they’re not mutually exclusive either. A rich life, ultimately, seems to need healthy doses of both short-term happiness and lasting substance. To get you started, here are five ways to make your life more meaningful.

    1. Get connected

    Having a busy social life with lots of friends may help keep you happy, but it’s your deeper relationships (family, close friends) that will truly add meaning to your life, according to the researchers. Spending time with your close ties can sometimes be toughthey force you to focus on big issues, not just small talk but the rewards are worth it.

    2. Don’t shy away from stress

    The things that add the most meaning to your life high-pressure job, raising kids, caring for a loved one are often the same things that add the most stress to your day-to-day existence. But don’t assume that taking the easy road is the better option. “Often those biggest challenges in life (those that cause stress in the short term) lead to the biggest gains in the long run,” says Jennifer Aaker, Ph.D., a professor at Stanford Graduate School of Business, and one of the authors of the study.

    3. Think about the past, present, and future

    According to the findings of this recent study, happiness is something that’s experienced mainly in the here and now. “Meaning, on the other hand, seems to come from assembling past, present, and future into some kind of coherent story,” Aaker says.

    4. Be a giver

    Not surprisingly, the study found that doing things to help others will help add meaning to your life. (Happiness, on the other hand, was linked to being a “taker.”) By helping someone else, you’re ultimately doing something positive for both parties involved.

    5. Find a sense of purpose

    Fulfilling short-term desires may provide a bit of happiness, but in the long run, finding things that feed your soul will bring the most satisfaction. The study found that people who spent more time pursuing activities that reflected their sense of self rated their lives as more meaningful. “Our findings suggest that happiness is mainly about getting what one wants and needs, including from other people or even just by using money,” the study authors wrote. “In contrast, meaningfulness was linked to doing things that express and reflect the self and in particular to doing positive things for others.”

  • Rise of exorcists  in Catholic Church

    Rise of exorcists in Catholic Church

    DIOCESES across Italy, as well as in countries such as Spain, are increasing the number of priests schooled in administering the rite of exorcism, fabled to rid people of possession by the Devil.

    The rise in demonic cases is a result of more people dabbling in practices such as black magic, paganism, Satanic rites and Ouija boards, often exploring the dark arts with the help of information readily found on the internet, the Church said.

    The increase in the number of priests being trained to tackle the phenomenon is also an effort by the Church to sideline unauthorised, self-proclaimed exorcists, and its tacit recognition that belief in Satan, once regarded by Catholic progressives as an embarrassment, is still very much alive.

    The trend comes four decades after the 1973 release of The Exorcist, the American horror film based on the demonic possession of a 12-year-old girl and attempts to exorcise her by two priests.

    The diocese of Milan recently nominated seven new exorcists, the bishop of Naples appointed three new ones a couple of years ago and the Catholic Church in Sardinia sent three priests for exorcism training in Rome, amid concern that the Mediterranean island, particularly its mountainous, tradition-bound interior, is a hotbed of occultism.

    In Spain, Antonio Maria Rouco Varela, the archbishop of Madrid, chose eight priests to undergo special training in May to confront what he described as “an unprecedented rise” in cases of “demonic possession”. The Church in Spain was coming across many cases that “go beyond the competence of psychologists” and they were occurring with “a striking frequency”, the archbishop said.

    “Diabolical possessions are on the increase as a result of people subscribing to occultism,” said Fr Francesco Bamonte, the president of the Italy-based International Association for Exorcists. “The few exorcists that we have in the dioceses are often not able to handle the enormous number of requests for help,” he told La Repubblica last month.

    The association was founded in 1993 by Fr Gabriele Amorth, who served as the Vatican’s chief exorcist and claims to have conducted thousands of exorcisms. He has written several books on the subject, including The Last Exorcist My Fight Against Satan.

    A controversial figure, he has claimed that yoga is “evil” because it leads to a worship of Hinduism and other Eastern religions.

    During the papacy of Benedict XVI he said that the sex abuse scandals which engulfed the Church in the US, Ireland, Australia and other countries were proof that the Antichrist was waging a war against the Holy See.

    The Church insists that the majority of people who claim to be possessed by the Devil are suffering from a variety of mental health issues, from paranoia to depression. Priests generally advise them to seek medical help.

    But in a few cases, it is judged that the person really has been taken over by evil, and an exorcism is required.

    The need for exorcisms is “rare, very rare”, said Fr Vincenzio Taraborelli, a priest in a church which lies just a few hundred yards from the Vatican. “In the cases where a mental illness is apparent, we try to send them to a doctor.”

    Don Gianni Sini is a priest in Sardinia, an island with a reputation for spiritualism its interior is dotted with mysterious stone-built structures called nuraghi, which predate Carthaginian and Roman occupation.

    “People come to me thinking that with an exorcism they can resolve all the problems they have in their lives. A child is doing badly at school? With an exorcism we can make him study. They see exorcists as a last resort. Out of 100 people that I receive, there will be one who has need of me as an exorcist.”

    “Demonic” possession manifests itself in people babbling in languages foreign to them, shaking uncontrollably and vomiting nails, pieces of metal and shards of glass, according to those who believe in the phenomenon.

    They must undergo the official Catholic rite of exorcism, which involves a consecrated priest invoking the name of God, as well as various saints and the Archangel Michael, to cast out their demons. The growth in the number of priests being trained is “a response to public demand, but it’s also about quality control”, said John Allen, an expert on the Vatican from the National Catholic Reporter.

    “There are all these guys, some of them priests, who have set themselves up as exorcists. A lot of it is fairly dodgy theologically they are self-appointed exorcists running around purporting to be acting on behalf of the Church.

    “Now there is an attempt to ensure that all this is done in accordance with the Church’s official teaching. The hierarchy don’t want it going on outside the official channels.” Monsignor Bruno Forte, a theologian and the archbishop of Chieti-Vasto, said the Church teaches that evil exists and that in extreme cases it can take possession of a person.

    “God has the power to beat his adversary, but Satan never ceases to work. There are people who experiment with subjection to the Devil, even a state of diabolical possession, for which the help of an exorcist can be necessary,” he told La Repubblica.

    “When Christians recite the Our Father prayer, they ask for delivery from evil. In every diocese the bishop chooses one or two priests to act as exorcists they have to be well balanced and discreet.

    “The great majority do not have need of an exorcism, but medical treatment. But with those who are possessed we begin a course of conversion, help them to return to prayer, to the sacraments, to enable them to throw off the possession.”

    Belief in black magic and Satanism may have been spread by the internet, but there has been a streak of popular superstition in the Catholic Church for centuries. “I’m not sure it ever really went away,” said Mr Allen. “After the Second Vatican Council of the 1960s, there was a great deal of embarrassment among ‘enlightened’ Catholics about exorcisms and other aspects of the supernatural. It was seen as a medieval anachronism.

    “But at the grassroots level there has always been a very strong streak of popular religion, a fascination with the occult and the powers of the Devil.

    “We know that Pope Francis is a strong believer in popular religion such as Marian devotion, but that also includes belief in the Devil.”

    In May it was claimed that Pope Francis had performed an exorcism during a Mass in St Peter’s Square.

    Television images show him laying his hands on a wheelchair-bound man, who appears to go into convulsions with his mouth open before slumping down into his chair. The encounter was shown by TV2000, a channel owned by the Italian bishops’ conference, which quoted experts as saying that there was no doubt the Pope had performed an exorcism.

    Fr Federico Lombardi, the Vatican spokesman, later dismissed the claims, saying Pope Francis “did not intend” to perform an exorcism an ambivalently-worded denial that left many convinced that he had indeed done so.

    Pope Francis has not publicly commented on exorcisms, but many of his sermons and homilies feature references to the Devil.

    During a Mass in November in the Casa Santa Marta, the Vatican residence where he lives, he said that although “God created man to be incorruptible”, the Devil entered the world and there are those “who belong to him”.

    At a Mass days before, he talked of the dangers of worldliness, warning that: “When we think of our enemies, we really think of the Devil first, because it’s the Devil that harms us. The Devil enjoys the atmosphere, the lifestyle of worldliness.”

  • Go gay  at your  own risk!

    Go gay at your own risk!

    An overview of Nigeria’s anti-gay law, international condemnation, Africa’s defiance and the face-off with a gay minority.

    AS soon as the news of the newly signed law by the nation’s number one citizen, President Goodluck Jonathan, repressing the rights of gays, filtered in, there were spontaneous reactions. The Same-Sex Marriage Prohibition Bill which was signed into law on January 7th criminalises gay marriage, gay clubs and same-sex public affection, and stipulates 14 years imprisonment for offenders.

    While some applauded the action, a few Nigerians opined that the presidency should have sat on the fence over the matter instead of fixing a 10-year jail term for anyone caught joining or promoting any gay organisation in the country.

    This was followed with local and international reports of a clamp down on the gay community. One of such stories was that of a gay man who was said to have been whipped 20 times after being convicted of sodomy in a Sharia court. Mubarak Ibrahim, 20, pleaded guilty in the city of Bauchi to the act of sodomy which occurred about seven years ago. Ibrahim who claimed that he was tricked into the act by the principal of the high school he was attending and has not since committed a homosexual act.

    Mr. Ibrahim was spared the sentence of death by stoning because the incident occurred many years ago and because he had shown “great remorse,” Judge Nuhu Mohammed said. The lashes were given using an animal skin whip in the packed public court and he was also asked to pay a fine of 5,000 naira.

    Just before the law, homosexuality has become increasingly prevalent among young Nigerians, while parents and guardians exhibited fears of what the future portends. It was, therefore, the Nigerian legislative that finally took the bull by the horns to stem this trend.

    The new law, however, has attracted harsh criticisms from some human rights groups, western governments and the U.N. Secretary-General, Ban Ki-moon. A larger per cent of the citizenry are in support and have applauded the action of the Nigerian government.

    Nigeria is not alone. At least 76 countries retain laws criminalising gay sex, including five where it’s punishable by death. However, it is important to understand that the world is currently divided as far as gay relationship is concerned. Gay and gay marriages are legal in some parts of the United States and Mexico.

    It is also on record that sixteen countries have legalised same-sex marriage. This list includes Canada, South Africa, Argentina, Uruguay, Brazil and New Zealand, as well as 10 European nations.

    The greatest resistance to the gay movement comes from Africa. According to human rights groups, more than two-thirds of African countries outlaw consensual same-sex acts, and discrimination and violence against gays, lesbians and transgender people is commonplace. While many of the laws date to the colonial era, opposition to homosexuality has gained an increasing traction as a political tactic over the past two decades.

    In 1995, President Robert Mugabe of Zimbabwe denounced gays and lesbians as “worse than pigs and dogs.” He has since been joined by political and religious leaders continent-wide calling for punishments ranging from arrest to decapitation.

    In Liberia, for example, a religious group called the New Citizen Movement has spent the past year collecting signatures urging President Ellen Johnson Sirleaf to sign a law banning same-sex marriage even though, as in Nigeria, there has been no local movement to legalise it.

    In Cameroon, gay men are routinely sentenced to prison for gay sex, and in July a prominent gay activist, Eric Ohena Lembembe, was tortured and killed in an attack.

    The gay liberation movement of the late 1960s and early to mid-1970s urged lesbians and gay men to “come out” publicly revealing their sexuality to family, friends and colleagues as a form of activism, and to counter shame with gay pride.

    The movement involved the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities in North America, Western Europe, Australia and New Zealand.

    Specifically, the word ‘gay’ was preferred to previous designations such as homosexual or homophile; some saw ‘gay’ as a rejection of the false dichotomy of heterosexual vs. homosexual.

    Gay lib is also known for its links to the counterculture of the time, and for the Gay liberationists’ intent to transform fundamental institutions of society such as gender and the family. In order to achieve such liberation, consciousness-raising and direct action were employed.

    By the late 1970s, the radicalism of Gay liberation was eclipsed by a return to a more formal movement that espoused gay and lesbian civil rights. The strategy had always been to pursue incremental legal and legislative reform, increasing gay and lesbian visibility, pressing for fair treatment in all aspects of life.

  • ‘Oba Ovoramwen was  not buried in Calabar’

    ‘Oba Ovoramwen was not buried in Calabar’

    Prince Edun Akenzua, a veteran journalist is the younger brother to the Benin monarch, Oba Erediauwa. In this interview with Osemwengie Ben Ogbemudia, the Benin prince ex-rays the centenary celebration of his great grandfather, Oba Ovoramwen who was banished to Calabar by the colonial government.

    OBA Ovonramwen and your experiences

    In 1982 when the present Oba embarked on a goodwill tour of the country, I was privileged to be one of those in his entourage and when we left Calabar, Cross River State, we visited Etinang then we visited the Obong of Calabar and they told us a story. They said they are friends of Ovonramwen. They said years before, one of their princes came trading, he took ill and died so they came from home to look for that prince, eventually they led them to Oba Ovonramwen who gave them chiefs to assist them to exhume their prince and did all they could to help them and take the body home. They said when they got home to their place, shortly after they got home; they heard that the Europeans have brought a big chief to Calabar. They knew what has happened to Jaja, to Nana and all of that so, they were wondering who was the big chief they had brought again. So, they moved from Etinang to Calabar. When they got to the place, to their great surprise, they now discovered it was the same king who gave them all that help when they came to Benin to look for their dead son so from that moment on, they became his friends and they were visiting him regularly and this people just visited him a few days when they heard the story that the man was dead. They visited him, he was in good health, he was jovial, everything was fine with him but they just got back home only to hear that the man was dead. This is the second thing that convinced me that what they did to him in Calabar was similar to what they did to Abiola.

    When today government wants to celebrate our amalgamation, I think there must be something because when you see the story, you will now find that the British planned to invade Benin, depose the king and after doing what they did, they couldn’t press forward with their indirect rule and then they had to give that man, that kind of treatment to eliminate him and having eliminated him, they went ahead to do the amalgamation which Lugard had wanted more than 20 years before, so to my mind, anybody who is really going to say he is celebrating Nigeria, should look a bit further back and he will discover that if Ovonramwen didn’t die, it would not have been possible for the British to amalgamate Northern Protectorate and the Southern Protectorate, and if that was not done, Lugard’s fiancée or girlfriend as they described her could not have named the area Niger area which in turn became Nigeria, therefore it was the death of Ovonramwen that created the country called Nigeria

    During the centenary which we did few years ago, I tried very hard, everywhere in Nigeria, in Europe, UK, America everywhere to find the death certificate of Oba Ovonramwen. Everybody knows what they call the Public Office in London, it is very rich, there is nothing that happens in that country that you will not find evidence, marriage, death, birth and whatever; William Shakespeare’s birth certificate is there but the one of Ovonramwen was not there, you ask them they say go to Nigeria, go to Ibadan in the archives, it is not there, go to Calabar go to everywhere, it is not there. That one, they have kept it quite close to their chest, they didn’t want to show it to anybody.

     

    Oba Ovonramwen’s death and amalgamation

    Lord Lugard who was the governor arrived Nigeria and settled in the North by the time he got to the north, he found already in there a system established by Uthman Dan Fodio; the Sokoto Caliphate and the Sultan of Sokoto was in charge of the emirs all over the north. As at the time the British got there, by the time, the Usman Dan Fodio regime has ceased to be but the machinery they set up was still there and it was quite suitable for what Lugard wanted because he wanted indirect use and just continued using that machinery. That was one of the things that actually provoked the invasion of Benin in 1897. A number of people might think they wanted the ivory, they wanted the bronze, that was just secondary because when Philip, who led the British exhibition to Benin got to Benin area, before he came at all, he had sent an intelligence report between 1895 and 1896 to the British Home Office saying that they have to come to Benin and deposed the Oba of Benin if what they were going to do will be successful. What people thought he meant was the Oba does not want trade between the British agents but strictly speaking, you don’t go and mount a war to depose the king of a foreign country just because of trade but unknown to most of the people, the indirect rule which Lugard had in mind was what he wanted to extend to everywhere in the area they just acquired. Captain Philip had seen that there was no way this can be done without coming to provoke a situation that will lead to war between Benin and the British but as a matter of fact, it wasn’t even a war it was an attack, an invasion of this place so they came and he at that time wrote to the British Colonial office insisting that they must come and invade Benin. He assured them that there is plenty of reasons to believe that the value of the bronzes and ivories we will find in that man’s palace will be enough to offset the cost of the war so it was another way of telling them that they were not going to waste anything in the war. So they came to provoke the Benin people and indeed up till now nobody could really tell who was the first to draw a gun whether the Benin people or the British in spite of that there is evidence to show that Philip told all his people to keep their revolvers and so on in their boxes. That was how they finished the war. They tried everybody including Oba Ovonramwen and could not find anything against him because the chiefs who were physically where they killed Captain Philips and his six men were all interviewed. Ologbosere and others denied that the king sent them to kill the white men, there was no one that said the Oba sent them. Some even said the Oba told them to go and clear the road and make it passable for this people, they found nothing against him. What they told him was that they have set up a new administrative system in Calabar, we want you to go there and be exposed to it so you know how to work with your people in the future. At the time they were cajoling him, they knew they will never allow him come back, they controlled the means of movement at the time. So they took him away. They kept him in Calabar for seventeen years and no record to show that we find him guilty and sentence him, there was not even any sentence to say that we banished him, they just sent him there and of course haven taken him away from here, it is on record, Britain and everywhere that they made efforts two times or three times to install another Oba in Benin, the Benin people of course resisted and said no, for as long as we have an Oba, whether he is in Benin or is in Calabar, we cannot have any other Oba. They thought from the story they hear of him and everything, they sincerely believed that if the man was so humiliated in his own country and he was eventually removed; he was taken away in chains, a man of that reputation, a man who was regarded by his people as god himself so they just felt the man will just pine away and die.

  • Is it really the  way to go?

    Is it really the way to go?

    Is homosexuality natural or a perversion? Why would individuals seek their sexual fantasies amongst same sex individuals? Why would a government slam huge jail terms on offenders, even in the face of international call for caution? Gboyega Alaka and Seun Osemota explored these and more

    SIXTEEN years ago, Justin Fashanu, elder brother to Nigerian football prodigy, John Fashanu, hanged himself out of frustration. Himself a fine footballer with exploits in some of England’s top clubs, Justin Fashanu in those dark days capitulated to the humiliation and annihilation resulting from the jeers, taunts and persecution that came with his open declaration of his homosexuality. Those were the days when even the United Kingdom, now leading the battle for the rights of gay people, abhorred homosexuality and her people demonstrated near zero tolerance for anyone who as much as demonstrate the slightest preference for same-sex. Report has it that “the dashing young man” – Justin was indeed dashing – had to go take his life seeing that he had been rejected and disowned by his own brother, his fellow football professionals and even his coach, who couldn’t pass on the opportunity of taunting him. Even the United States, where he ‘fled’ to, offered no succour, as he soon found himself wrestling with unproven charges of sexual assault. In a nutshell, the world became too hot for Justin.

    Today, the story may have changed in the United Kingdom, the United States and other western countries, but the heat is not in any way abating in the majority of the republics of the world. Africa, for once, has refused to stoop low and just adopt foreign recommendations to liberalise her position against gay people. So many of the countries have, despite the threats of withdrawal of western loans and grants, even gone ahead to pass damning laws criminalising gay activities; more especially the open display of affection and marriages. Mauritania, Sudan and Somalia, for instance, have laws that make gay activities punishable by death. Uganda, already notorious for its public clampdown on gay people, has also pushed its life imprisonment bill to the final stage, waiting only for the prime minister’s assent. Even Kenya and Zambia, two countries whose economy depend largely on tourists from the western world, have demonstrated extreme intolerance for gay activities, making it illegal and criminal. Nigeria, Africa’s most populous nation, is the latest to join the fray. President Goodluck Jonathan quietly assented to the bill last week, approving up to 14-year jail term for anyone who openly displays same-sex affection or same-sex marriages.

    Incidentally, the Nigerian president seems to have scored a double with this law, as he has for the first time in a long while attracted widespread support, an acclaim from Nigerians from across the broad spectrum of its highly divided and turbo-charged socio-cultural and geo-political set-up. Almost everybody seems to welcome the new law and clampdown. Their argument has largely been based on the fact that homosexuality, whether of the gay or lesbian nature, is foreign to our culture. Like a looming shadow, a good number of them also fear that if left unchecked, the menace of gay activities could spread and affect them directly or indirectly. They fear that it could suddenly become attractive to their children. To them, homosexuality is a perversion that must be stemmed by a drastic action, and they would not for once yield to the other line of argument that homosexuality is or could be a natural tendency to some, if not all those practicing it.

    British billionaire, Sir Richard Branson, mid-week declared his plan to embark on a self-appointed mission to speak with African leaders, including Nigeria, to soft pedal on their clampdown. Aside his declaration that “everyone speak out to ensure people are free to love whoever they want,” one important point Branson made is that “politicians passing draconian laws against gay people may discover their own children were born gay. Would they really want to see them locked up for life?”

    Therefore, to the average European and American, homosexuality is innate, and quoting Branson again, “we need love and understanding and not punishment” to deal with this situation. Could it therefore be that the larger majority of those condemning gay activities are just too detached and ensconced in their own heterosexual fancy world, to see the truth?

    It would be recalled that even Nigeria’s Nobel Laureate, Professor Wole Soyinka, also carpeted the Nigerian lawmakers last year, admonishing them to go back to school, since it seemed they did not know the difference between public and private affairs.

    Said Soyinka: “The problem with legislators is that they fail to distinguish between personal bills and interventions in private lives. That is the problem. I see no reason why they should intervene in the private lives of adults. What people do in their bedrooms is no business of mine. It should not be the business of legislators.”

    Ropo Ewenla’s position tallies with the revered professor’s position. Ewenla is General Secretary, PEN Nigeria Centre and Assistant Director at the University Media Centre, University of Ibadan, and he pointedly asked the question, “ Who are the Nigerian gay couples seeking marriage? How many gay couples do you know?” To him, the government is exerting scarce energy on non-existent problem and again asked, “How do you go about proferring solutions to a non-existent problem, when our very existence is at the mercy of concrete issues begging for decisive interventions.”

    Mrs. Akinola from Oshodi also thinks that the president should have left them alone and just let them be. “Everybody has a right to live their life the way they want. And I believe that what they need more is prayer and not persecution; and hope that one day, they will learn from their mistakes.”

     

    The heat is on

    In the wake of the new law, reports are rife that the police have swooped on known gay people, who are being forcefully made to confess and reveal the identities of other gay and lesbians in the society. Observers have also expressed fears that the law would be thoroughly abused in a country notorious for using torture to extract confessions. Shehu Saulawa, a writer with Associated Press based in Bauchi, expressed his fears for the law in a society known for extorting money from victims to allow them get out of jail cells.

    Dorothy Aken’Ova, Executive Director of Nigeria’s International Centre for Reproductive Health and Sexual Rights, in an interview with a foreign media midweek, declared that the police have already arrested 38 men and are looking for 168 others.

    UK-based Nigerian gay activist and head of UK-based gay rights group, Kaleidoscope International Diversity Trust, Bisi Alimi, fears that the new law will also affect those trying to assist gay people. He told the BBC Newsday programme that ”When you say that services will not be provided, what you’re saying is that HIV services that are catering for men who have sex with men will have to stop.”

    Alimi was one of the first Nigerians to have openly declared their gay status, which was also the reason he had to relocate to the United Kingdom.

     

    Not in our culture and heritage

    Presidential spokesman and veteran journalist, Reuben Abati, has also lent his voice in the defence of the law. He told Associated Press news agency that “This is a law that is in line with the people’s cultural and religious inclination. So it is a law that is a reflection of the beliefs and orientation of the Nigerian people.”

     

    Innate or perversion

    To deal with the controversy, it might be important to start from the point of origin. Is homosexuality innate or perversion? If it is innate and natural, then the western world might just have taken the lead ahead of us, yet again, by requesting the world to go liberal on homosexual antagonism. Conversely, if it is a perversion, then anti-gay governments and people might just be right in condemning it. Some have argued that it is an infringement on people’s human rights, arguing that they have a right to love.

    Funmi Ayotade, a self-confessed but now reformed lesbian, in an interview granted The Nation in 2012, contended that homosexuality is neither a western culture nor in-born. She traced the history of how she was introduced to it in her high school days by her teachers.

    “It was never (a part of western culture). We have the history in the Bible. There was a Sodom and Gomorrah. The tribe of Benjamites was heavily into it. In the New Testament, Apostle Paul spoke against it. So, intimate disorder is an age-long thing. It has been with us in Africa but we only pretended about it. Some cultures permit it in Africa. In the northern parts of Nigeria, it is believed that wealth is in the anus. It is not an alien culture but a problem associated with man irrespective of tribes and racial divides.”

    Going by Ayotade’s confession, it might then seem that it is a tendency borne out of wild sexual escapades and perversion. But what do the medical practitioners say?

     

    The doctors’ angle

    Dr Fetus Uriri, a medical doctor with the Military Hospital Yaba, Lagos disagreed. According to him, “the gay culture or homosexuality is not inborn and cannot be natural. It usually results from the pressure of peer group activities and exposure, which might also be described as perversion. One other thing that can lead to it is when a child is born with ambiguous genitalia (that is the male and female organ) and does not know where they belong. In such cases, they embrace whichever sexual life they are exposed to or that catches their fancy. ” Dr Uriri, therefore, submitted that there is no way anyone can be born with homosexual instinct – at least from the medical point of view.

    Buttressing his position further, Uriri said any child born into a family or environment where prostitution is the in-thing would always gravitate towards prostitution, especially when poverty is also prevalent.

    Corroborating Dr. Uriri, Doctor Williams of Ajayi Hospital, in Ikorodu area of Lagos, stated that “it is not possible for a man to fall in love with another man,” arguing that “those engaged in it are only doing it for the fun of it.” He concluded that anyone found culpable “should be jailed to put a stop to the stupidity.”

     

    What the law says

    According to Lagos Lawyer, Mr. Fred Agbaje, “I support the law. And it is going to be fully implementable because it was duly passed by the National Assembly and assented to by the president. A law will be lacking in element of legitimacy if its premises is contrary to the basic tenet of morality and culture. A law will only be illegitimate if it is opposed to the aspiration of the majority of the people. In this case, Nigeria is a society largely known for being religious. Islam and Christianity condemn it, and even the traditional religious practitioners also oppose it. So the law will surely stand.”

    Asked what he thinks of people who have argued that it is a private affair in the life of those practising it, Agbaje retorted, “What is making it private? If what you’re doing is right, why don’t you go public with it? Why should you be ashamed of what you believe in if you think it is right? Anything done in the dark has to be bad or it should as well be done in the open. Tell me, which of the over 300 Nigerian tribes and dialects stand for the gay culture?”

     

    Human Rights

    Agbaje posited that private affair or no private affair, morality and order is a strong ground to deny or curtail rights under the constitution. “In other words, if your right can in some way affect order and the moral structure of the society, it can be denied or curtailed. Do you know that gay people are publicly attacked and lynched in some countries, in situations that normally lead to a breakdown of law and order? So the government can under that pretext decide to outlaw such expressions in public to forestall such breakdowns.

    “The only problem I foresee for the law is that as Nigeria progresses and the pro-gay movement gains ground, it might be subjected to a second review to yield some grounds in the future.”

    Mr. Emmanuel, a Barrister at Law from Ouija, lent credence to Barrister Agbaje’s position. Homosexuality is wrong; it is forbidden. He contended that God created Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve and asked the pointed question, “How can you procreate and multiply if you engage in man-to-man sex? What is the future there?”

    He concluded that the law is right and it will help eradicate the gay culture in Nigeria.

  • ‘Ogboni  Fraternity is not  bad but…’

    ‘Ogboni Fraternity is not bad but…’

    Bishop Zacheaus A. Adebayo , a retired Captain in the Nigeria Army, has a doctorate degree in Theology. He is the Head and Patron of African Church, and head of Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) Ogun State. In this interview with Taiwo Abiodun, he talks about Ogboni Fraternity and the state of the nation.

    CONGRATULATIONS on your 70th birthday. Sir, how do you feel joining the league of septuagenarians?

    Thank you. I thank God for my life. I could have died so many years ago if not for God. Is it when I was young and treading dangerous paths? Or is it the risk I took and went to enlist in the Army without the knowledge of my parents? At 70, I think God still needs me. And I need to contribute my service to humanity, I want to do more than before. I want to serve my community and church before I leave this planet.

    How was your career in the military?

    I once worked at the West Africa Examination Council office, Yaba. From there I went to join the Army in the 60s, and rose to the rank of a Captain. I went to the war front to pay the soldiers their salaries during the Nigerian civil war. I was in the Pay and Records department. There, I witnessed the bloody. That is why I don’t pray for war at all in this country again.

    Each time we went to pay the soldiers their salaries we would be seeing bullets flying by our sides and many died from this. I witnessed many of this and God rescued me. I escaped bullets many times. I risked my life going to the war front. I was honest, dedicated and careful. It is the spirit of accountability and responsibility that made me to be able to have control over communities. I saw dead bodies all over the place during the war.

    I can remember one Bashiru; we were together in the Army. I saw the late Fuji musician Ayinde Barrister; we were together, I remember Kolawole ( Ayinla Kolington ) and Lt. Somefun. When paying the soldiers, for those who had died their list would be taken to Casualty and when their names are called the families or wives of fallen soldiers would come up to take their pay. We took death as nothing, it has no meaning to us, so we had no choice than to go and pay in the battlefield. We wore the army uniform and had no choice, we experienced the heavy rain of bullets. I joined in 1965 and retired from the military in 1979.

    But sir, you are not tall how did they recruit you into the Army?

    I did not tell my parents when I went to join the Army until after I had served for two years. I told them that I was in Ibadan working. During the recruitment exercise they brought a scale and we were asked to go there for measurement, if you are not up to 5feet, six inches there were some hefty men lurking around who would beat and chase you away from the scale if you are not tall enough to go to the Army. I was enlisted into the Army because I was among the few educated ones. I had a secondary school certificate, I had RSA (account), IAB ( Accounts) .

    You cannot compare our education in those days with now. Today whether you passed or not you will be promoted but it is not like that before. Today, I have a Master’s Degree and Phd. in Theology.

    Are you a member of Ogboni Society as some church leaders are?

    I am not a member. In 1952 my grandfather Jacob Adebayo was the chief ARO IMO in Ogboni Society in Abeokuta. As a young man I used to follow him to Ogboni meetings and wherever he went, and whatever sacrifices that were being offered I was always interested in eating their food, and I knew all these things. In Ogboni House all children are given titles to grow up with, I was given the chieftaincy title of Apesinola in Ogboni among them all, and they said when I grow up I should celebrate and be a staunch member. I continued and since I was young that I was being called Pastor by my father Timothy Oso for whatever I said then would come to pass. After about 15 years I had been going to Ogboni meetings, one day I met a preacher around Lafenwa who was preaching telling us not to leave Christianity and go to traditional religion that whoever was in Traditional Religion should denounce it and convert to Christianity. When the man died they were looking for a replacement, each time I was asked to go I would not. They were looking for who will be representing him and the family in their Ogboni meeting, and who knew little about it but each time they gave me transportation fare to go to the meeting I would not go, when they realized this they said I had gone back to Christianity, they said I had turned back and no longer a member, and since then I had not gone to the meeting again! So I had denounced it since.

    But what is the difference between a Christian and Ogboni?

    The Ogbonis know how to settle disputes and they are peace makers, they settle disputes in families and towns. They tell stories and give examples to teach morals. Now we have abandoned these stories and allowed our religions to overshadow all these morals. Though I had challenges since I stopped my membership but as a Bishop I believe in God and I did not go back and God has been with me since then. But, the Ogboni is still relevant if we follow the tenets and rules. That is why some are going secretly and some are still staunch members but doing it secretly. No one called some of today’s pastors but their pockets.

    Is Nigeria drifting to anarchy with the way things are going?

    I don’t blame President Jonathan for what is happening, he cannot do it alone. If we are sincere with ourselves we should know things are not going well in the country. Look at the political parties, our youths are jobless, armed robbers are getting sophisticated every day, illegal bunkering, hired killers are on the prowl, newly born babies are being sold and ritualists are having a field day.

  • I don’t dwell  on mistakes

    I don’t dwell on mistakes

    Popular Nollywood actress, Funke Adesiyan, has done so well for herself in the industry. The actress tells Adetutu Audu why she is termed controversial.

    WITHIN a short period of time, you have become prominent in Nollywood. What is the secret?

    Well, again and again l have always said that God is the secret; He is the ultimate, there is no other secret, because if you think you can achieve something all by yourself you are joking, if you don’t have the support of God Almighty. He has been there for me and has been in support of everything l do; there is nothing l want to do that l don’t tell him first to know if l can go ahead or not. He has been behind me. He’s the solid rock behind me.

    What is the greatest mistake you have ever made in life?

    I don’t dwell on mistakes; I don’t regret my actions. If I take a decision to do something and it turns out unfavourable I don’t regret it, because nobody forced me to do them. It is my choice to do them, and they are my actions, I don’t regret them; it has happened, it has happened, I don’t dwell on it.

    As a fashion-conscious person, what are the most expensive collections that you have?

    I doubt if it is wise for me to be saying that this is the most expensive item that I have. There are lots of people out there who need help, who are less privileged, who with a little can turn their lives around if we make efforts to help them. So, l don’t think it is wise to say that this is the most expensive item that I have. Of course I’m comfortable but I won’t be saying that.

    Is there any particular role you have longed to play that you have not?

    I think I am one of the lucky few who have been able to do a lot. I have played the role of a ninety-year-old woman which is extremely challenging, but basically whatever that comes my way, I take it as my best.

    What would you say is your strong point?

    Probably being real. I am a realistic person, I try to distinguish between the character I am playing and the character, Funke Adesiyan. I tend not to lose who I am to the character or one of the characters I play. I still find a way to break it; I don’t get stuck in a role.

    Getting personal now; could you tell us about the story that was all over that you did breast implant.

    I wouldn’t know where and why the story was all over. Maybe we need to ask those who started it.

    Could be it that your dressing speaks for you?

    I would not know but I guess I dress appropriately. I am not expected to wear iro and buba to a night club. I don’t know why people enjoy putting others down and I think we should cultivate the habit of celebrating ourselves, we should celebrate good things in other people and stop digging what is not meant to be dug.

    You know, in the industry there are ups and downs, what has been your experience so far?

    There are ups and downs to life itself. Life is not a smooth road, it is a rocky road. If you go looking at the ups and downs you might just get drowned in it. It’s just for you to take every moment as they come. There are ups and downs in the industry as naturally as it has been with life itself. People should be able to overcome them because l don’t see them as problems; l see them as part of life and challenges.

    What has fame robbed you of?

    I try to have my normal life. I try to remain myself that I am a person and I try not to let my freedom be taken away from me. If I feel like eating amala at a buketaria, I walk in and I eat. One million people could stare at me, but that is because what I want to do is that I want to eat. If I feel like buying corn on the roadside, I park and I buy. I try as much as possible not to let fame get into my head.

    How do you ward off attention from men?

    You cannot stop men from coming after you. I don’t insult or be rude to them. I make them understand the best we could be are friends.

    You once said marriage is not a must. Is it that you have suffered heartbreak?

    There are people who are not meant to be married by nature and you force yourself because your brother or sister is married, you discover that you will opt out in few months. Why did you get married in the first place knowing you are not meant to be married? So, firstly, I think you should understand your nature. What is most important is finding a great person. You could fall in love with the person but it’s about finding someone that you are compatible with, someone you could cohabitate together, you could stay together and be happy together.

    You seem to be enmeshed in different controversies lately. Do you enjoy it?

    I think a lot of journalists are in love with me (laughs) and I think you cannot dictate the tune in which you are being written about.

    Is acting paying your bills, or what other things do you do?

    I am a business-oriented person. I sell all kinds of wine, I am into building construction. I sell cars, I have a saloon, I have a tailoring shop and I have a boutique.

  • Olamiju Alao-Akala  hooks Hadiza Okoya

    Olamiju Alao-Akala hooks Hadiza Okoya

    COME April 2014, the families of former Oyo governor, Adebayo Alao-Akala, and billionaire businessman, Chief Rasak Okoya, will be gathering who-is-who in the society to the wedding of their children Olamiju Alao-Akala and Hadiza Okoya.

    The young couple had had their introduction at the palatial Oluwanisola Estate, Ajah Lagos. Fun-loving Olamiju is behind Starboy label promoting the work of wave-making musician, Wizkid. Delectable Hadiza Okoya is a graduate of the University of Hertfordshire, with a degree in Advertising & Media, she relocated to Nigeria last year from the UK, where she had been most of her life. Those close to her said she is one of the most well-behaved rich kids.

  • ‘I was saved  by God,  not magic’

    ‘I was saved by God, not magic’

    For Pastor Duromola Adedayo Samuel, the General Overseer of Christ Worshippers Church, Warri, Delta State, life has been full of challenges; and near brushes with death. Recently he was involved in an auto crash from which he escaped unhurt and allegedly disappeared from his wrecked car. Taiwo Abiodun met him

    IT was the last day of the year. A time many were praying to see the dawn of the New Year. Pastor Duromola Adedayo Samuel, the General Overseer Christ Worshippers, Warri, Delta State was on his way to Osun State from Owo, Ondo State. Somewhere around Ikeji Ile his car was hit by a trailer and the news spread like wild fire that he had been killed.

    The rumour was aided by the fact that after the crash he disappeared from scene of the crash while his cassock was in the car. Some said they saw him hanging on a tree in Osogbo while a few others were of the view that he had used the Yoruba magical power of disappearance (egbe). A few others claimed to have sighted him in Ilorin, Kwara State while some others believed he had been kidnapped.

    The thought that he must have been kidnapped was fuelled by the fact that there were no blood stains on the badly damaged car and his cassock and long crucifix, both found in the car.

    As the news filtered out his church members in Warri became worried while his aged parents and family members in Owo were full of prayers for his safety.

    Pastor Samuel was going to the mountain to pray as was his annual ritual for the crossover night when the accident occurred around 8pm. When the car was hit he was flung away from the scene of the incident. On the second day when the badly damaged car with its windscreen shattered to smithereens was discovered in the bush, Pastor Samuel’s cell phones were intact with his cassock in the damaged car.

    However, two days later he surfaced unscathed!

    When The Nation met him he was bubbling and thanking God for coming out unhurt from the wrecked car. According to him, “The word ‘that I disappeared’ is laughable, when I heard all kinds of things that I used the Yoruba magical power ( egbe) to escape from the car. True, the car was badly damaged, it is beyond repairs and is a write-off, whoever sees the vehicle will not believe the occupant or the driver would survive. But I give God the glory, I survived,” he said.

    Narrating how it happened, Samuel said “I always go to the prayer mountain to pray on the eve of every New Year which is crossover night. I left Warri and met my wife in Akure, I told her that I was travelling and would be back the second day, that is January 1, to take her to Warri, I said goodbye. I am used to driving myself. I don’t trust drivers I left Akure after 6pm on December 31. Due to the harmattan, I could not see very well, after passing through Owena at Arakeji after Owena very close to CAC camp, I was almost approaching where I was going when a trailer beamed its light into my eyes, before you know it I only heard gbuuaaaa, and that was all I could remember.”

    Two days later he said he found himself being attended to by an old man. “When I asked where I was and what day was it and was told it was January 2, I was shocked. The old man later told me that he carried me from a spot in the bush on January1, which meant I slept in the bush.”

    When he regained consciousness, he said “I started recollecting what happened to me, it was like I was in a trance. I knew I did not die but I was unconscious. I was drowsy, and I slept off. Where they found me was like a pole away from the accident scene. The man who saw me in the bush said he had to carry me to a place under a tree, he said he found a crucifix on my neck. I had to use the old man’s cell phone to call my wife who told me they had been searching for me. People were confused that there was no blood stain in the car and my cassock was there.”

    He agreed that he failed to use the seat belt adding that, “If I had used it I would have died because I would have been trapped there. I believe I was flung out of the car through the shattered windscreen. I don’t believe in magic or juju not to talk of ‘egbe’ people are talking about. Whoever does that does not believe that Jesus is the only way and the saviour is dead.”

    He continued “When I recovered and regained consciousness I could not go to Akure or Owo of Warri because I was afraid the crowd would be too great for me to handle. I headed to Ilorin to rest.”

     

    Cat with nine lives

    Pastor Samuel who claims to have survived many spiritual battles said, “In Warri many of them are idol worshipers and I do preach against idol worshipping, I preach against cultism and these people worship idols. I have converted many into Christianity. In 1998 in Warri I was attacked by hired assassins, it was a close shave with death! When they could not kill me they used pumped action machine gun to scatter my leg, I had to go to London for surgical operation.”

    To get himself away from being easily noticed he decided not to use a convoy again. He said some of the accusations hurled against him was that he uses magical powers for healing when he actual fact he only uses ordinary honey which he prayed on to heal.

     

    Lessons learnt

    Pastor Samuel he has learnt that “If you don’t shed anybody’s blood nobody can kill you. When this accident happened I thought it was finished but God is on my side.”

    He reiterated that his ordeals have confirmed the need to place ultimate trust in God. His wife Prophetess Blessing said when she heard about her husband’s accident she began to pray and reject such a fate. In fact, at a point she thought he might have been kidnapped. “But thank God he suddenly called me and told me where he was in the bush in the area where he had the accident.”

  • Nimi  Akinkugbe’s  passion

    Nimi Akinkugbe’s passion

    NIMI Akinkugbe is the founder and Chief Executive Officer of Bestman Games Limited. In 2012, her company launched the City of Lagos edition of monopoly, the first African city edition of Hasbro’s world-famous board game.

    Before this, she enjoyed a successful banking career spanning 21 years, first at Stanbic IBTC Bank Plc where she rose to the position of General Manager and Head, Private Banking and Director of Stanbic IBTC Asset Management Limited. She subsequently spent two years at Barclays Bank as Regional Director (West Africa) for the Wealth & Investment Management Division and Chief Country Officer for Nigeria.

    But one thing Nimi is passionate about, if not working, is tending her orchid garden.