I read Rachael Lu’s article on one of the biggest driving debates of this century and I beamed with a broad smile. She finally did what many women always fail to do whenever we broach on sensitive issues like Feminism that will very soon determine how lives will be run and roles distributed; years from now.
True. Of the biggest issues we have faced, apart from the horrors of homosexuality, gangsterism, religion, gender equality and a thousand and one ideals; Feminism is still one of the strongest. Why, we may want to ask?
For the men, it came as a surprise from the regular norm. Women have always played second fiddle to men, submitting and lowering themselves as was the biblical and traditional custom.
While the women saw this trend as a good move, to release them from their long termed ‘burden’ and question a worry that has always been the moral lessons and bottom line of their various chitchats on their girly visits to each other, the trend had taken a violent disposition as several women will loosely refer to feminism as a subterfuge; a fair haven for the rights of women that has been continually trampled on by the foot of men.
In a recent debate, I had with a boss of mine on this matter while he front lined a cause for women at the youthful level under an organization termed African Ruby’s, my stand against feminism was the usual biblical stand that women were created to play the second fiddle role. That made me lose that interesting debate. Even though I reiterated that women be respected; his question about the legitimacy of a female leadership and how recognisable it will be to the male folk was the final question that threw me off my feet in the debate loss.
Rachael mentioned two big things the feminists get wrong, which by the way is the title of her article. But I surmised the two faults of feminism, which is their greatest and undeniable tragic flaw: Overated Independence. The independence is in two ways: the right to decide their fertility and the freedom, feminism accords women in using contraceptive pills to prevent unwanted births while the second is the independence they crave in wanting to prove they are more superior to men and do not need their help whatsoever.
The sordid implications of female independence over their fertility are the freedom of women to delude into promiscuity, away from the usual indication of moral chastity any woman must carry. If the movement supports women to use contraceptive pills as much as they want, decide all matters of fertility even as married couples(for the married ones) who should make decisions as one, it encourages promiscuity. If a woman can be so free like that which should be allowed in a Democratic scene, however; it only implies that even in a happy marriage, the woman can refuse to be bound to the rules mutually agreed upon and do whatever she pleases. At least, she is a feminist.
In my own critical appraisal of this concept, I find this mass movement as a means to wrestle rights and claim equality and prominence always given to men. But women, not need claim them.
They are a special breed. Any reasonable man will quickly acknowledge such fact. Many women term feminism as their own edge over men, but they forget we all live in a world called Men’s. They need not fight a cold war to be recognized and given equal rights-they are from a breed called rare.