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  • My wife threatens me, I don’t want her anymore, banker tells court

    45- year-old banker, Mike Chinedu Nwaenie, has told the Somolu Customary Court that his wife, Mrs Asher Ifeanyi Nwaenie has been threatening him, and doesn’t take care of him. Mike also accused his wife, Mrs. Asher Ifeanyi Nwaenie of tarnishing his image. He urged the court on Tuesday to dissolve his 4- year-old marriage with Asher.

    ”I don’t want the marriage anymore, I am not comfortable with the marriage, she has tarnished my image, she has turned me to a laughing stock. People look at me as a foolish man, she said I am impotent, is marriage a do or die? Her sister and her elder brother called me saying she will kill me if I leave my wife alone. she does not take care of me, she doesn’t cook for me, she disrespects my family members. “She did operation for overal east without my consent, and the bill goes to my account, because it’s my family hospital, she reported me to my office, such that my boss, a woman, called me and started insulting me.

    My wife embarrassed me at my office with the aim to make me to stop working. She doesn’t have the heart of forgiveness, the same woman she is fighting with, who is like a sister to me, is the same person that helped her when I was not around. The woman also took food to my wife while she was in the hospital. She has accused me of sleeping with my lawyer; we stay in the same house but I lock myself up, so she would not kill me.There is no love, and the love will never come back again, it has really gone far, this is beyond me, I can’t continue with the marriage again.

    They call her lion at my house because of her attitude. She did not make any effort in trying to solve the case (sic). Responding, Asher said:” Nobody ever threatened him, though he has been mentioning it, and then I confronted my family members about the threats and they denied it. I started living with his elder brother before we got married and we agreed that after four months of our traditional marriage we will move out, but we didn’t, still, I kept on persuading him whether he would change his mind, and I contributed 300,000 to it. The case has been adjourned to July 3.

  • ‘We can’t live together anymore’

    A middle-aged woman, Patience Enahoro, has pleaded with an Agege Customary Court in Lagos to dissolve her five-year-old marriage to her husband, Julius, over false acusation.

    The petitioner, a fashion designer, said their marriage sailed into troubled water in 2011 when her husband accused her of engaging in extra-marital affairs.

    “He has never caught me with another man but whenever I returned late from shop, he says all sort of things,” she said.

    Mrs Enahoro said her husband secretly followed her to her shop to see the number of men she talked to on her way.

    She said: “There was a time I returned from the shop and he accused me of prostituting because I greeted a man on my way to work; I kept wondering how he knew the person I greeted that morning.

    “He sent me out of his house and said he didn’t want me and that he wasn’t ready for marriage. After I spent seven-months in my brother’s place, he asked for forgiveness and I came back to him in 2013.”

    She further said that three months after she returned, he accused her of fornicating.

    “When I moved back to his house, his sisters insisted that I should go to our village for sacrifice but I declined going to the village because I didn’t fornicate with any other man. I even swore with a Bible. As if everything he has done wasn’t enough, my husband said he saw me in a hotel with another man and that made me to park out of his house. I can’t continue to live with a man who doesn’t trust his wife; we can’t even live together anymore,” Mrs Enahoro said.

    The respondent, Mr Julius Enahoro, said the misunderstanding started during courtship and it was because his wife returned home late from work.

    He said his wife was fond of receiving phone calls at night and whenever he complained, she wouldn’t listen.

    “Whenever I scold her for returning home late, she abused me. She doesn’t want to see me with any of my relations and I have told her brothers on several occasions. I once packed her things out of the house but later had a deep thought and took her back ,” he said.

    Enahoro said when she left; he tried so many efforts to reconcile with her but her brother beat him.

    “Her family is not in support of our union. I don’t trust her anymore and we can’t live together. I also want her out of my life,” he said.

    The Court’s President, Pa Adekunle Williams adjourned till October 20.

  • I don’t want her anymore, says man

    A 47-year-old businessman, Valentine Emetosin, has sought the dissolution of his 11-year-old marriage to his wife, Clementina, before an Agege Customary Court in Lagos, over lack of care for their children.

    The petitioner, who lives at Oba Falabi Street, Ojodu Berger, a Lagos suburb, said his wife’s attitude changed few months after their wedding.

    “I married her four months after I met her in an eatery during a trip to Onitsha. I would say I never really enjoyed the moments we spent together as a couple,” he said.

    The petitioner also said they treated each other like strangers in the house and that she saw his relations as her enemies.

    He said: “Whenever my wife looks at me, I am always scared because I don’t know what she is ready to say or her intentions. She looks at me with disgust. Few years after our marriage, when I couldn’t tolerate her, I travelled to her home town on several occasions to report to her family.

    “In 2008, she left with our children on the pretext of going to her shop. I searched every nook and cranny but I couldn’t find her even her siblings were not aware of her whereabouts. It was when she couldn’t cater for them anymore, she returned them to me.”

    Emetosin said he took her back to her family seven years ago to nullify the union, saying he was shocked when she showed up four months ago that she had come to stay.

    “I don’t want her anymore. I have another woman and my children attend one of the best schools. She is homeless and has nothing. Please if she wants to see our children, she is free to come to court. I don’t want her close to my house because my current wife is scared,” he said.

    The marriage produced two children between the ages three and 10.

    The court’s President, Pa Adekunle Williams, said since the petitioner presented evidence, the case will continue with or without the respondent. He adjourned the matter till August 24 for judgment.

  • ‘Giving up is not an option anymore’

    ‘Giving up is not an option anymore’

    Two years after Hesey Designs started making fashion apparels for women, its founder and Creative Director Eseoghene Ise Odiete, won the Enterprise Challenge, an initiative of the British Council, Virgin Atlantic, and Zenith Bank targeted at young entrepreneurs. In this online interview with Joe Agbro Jr., she revealsher beginnings and outlook for the future

    Congratulations on being a winner of the Enterprise Challenge contest which over 1000 persons applied, what do you think stood you out to emerge as a winner?

    There were five criteria they set: Market appeal, international appeal, Ingenuity, scalability, impact. I believe my business met those criteria.

    Richard Branson is a global entrepreneur and adventurer, how was the experience of meeting him like?

    It was an awesome experience meeting and learning from Richard Branson; one that will change my life and business and take it to a whole new level. Hearing from one of the greatest entrepreneurs and learning that those challenges I face are ‘normal’ and against all odds I will conquer.

    I got to touch him so I tapped some entrepreneurial anointing from him.

    What was the motivation for starting your business?

    I have always been intrigued by the fashion industry even as a child. As a skinny girl, one would expect that I will be a model. Well, I did enjoy the catwalks, but I wanted something more; I wanted to build a global fashion brand. So after my university degree, I decided to set up a fashion brand with a mission to promote Nigeria and Africa, so Hesey Designs was born. I passionately believe that trade is what Africa needs for development.

    Why do you focus on creating only women’s apparel? And how much did you use to start it?

    Well, I am a woman and I am more familiar with what we will love and what we will buy. So I decided to stick to that. Maybe later I can venture into the male apparel.

    I started the business with my savings of about 10,000 naira. I produced a few bags, sold them and used the money gotten to produce more.

    Being an entrepreneur is a fright for young Nigerians, what fears, if any did you have setting out in your business? And how did you address it?

    As a young entrepreneur, starting up was difficult. My first main issue was sourcing for fund. I had to make do with the little savings I had and grew from there. Also, getting the products out. I couldn’t afford a store so I made use of the Internet. I sent emails to several fashion sites requesting that they feature my designs. I knew I had a great product but I needed to be known. So, many of them featured the product with my contact. A lot of people started contacting me requesting for the product.

    Business management.  I started after the university and didn’t have an idea of how to go about running a fashion label.  So I read up a lot of articles and business management books from the Internet.  Books and articles on how to start and run a fashion label especially with little funds.

    How many employees do you have?

    We currently have three full-time staff and two contract workers.

    What are the challenges you confront in the course of your business?

    My present challenges are getting adequate materials, dealing with craftsmen and shipping products internationally. It’s very expensive sending our products to customers abroad. We are looking to work with a courier firm that can offer us great services at a fair price.

    In fact different issues spring up daily and I try to address.

    What is the toughest decision you’ve had to make?

    Quitting my day job to focus on the business. It was a ‘no going back’ decision.  I could not afford to fail again as I had nothing to fall back on. So it was a huge decision and also a motivation to succeed.

    Before Hesey Designs, what were you doing?

    I started Hesey designs in 2012. I had a day job in a media company and I juggled both. Hesey started after my NYSC.

    Was there any time you thought of quitting?

    So many times! I have cried several times; I have told myself to get a good paying job or marry a rich man “‘laughing”

    How was growing up like for you?

    I am the last of five children, so I think I grew up pretty fast having so many older siblings. My parents believed in education so they did their best to give us good education. I have always been a smart child (*wink), I was always top in my class and I was the best graduation Art student from secondary school.   I was sports prefect, a long distance runner. I think all these experiences help me now as an entrepreneur.

    What is your driving force?

    My vision; I always keep the end in mind. I knew what I wanted to accomplish and nothing was going to stop me. I knew things may not be the way I wanted it now, but things were sure getting better. At times when I felt bad and wanted to give up, I always remember why I started, looked at how far I have come and remember where am going.  In two years, what many people considered a hobby has become my greatest gift so far. I have grown a N10, 000 business idea to one that can support families, to one that has impacted over 40 women; to one that has been recognised by great women like IbukunAwosika. Bizwatchng named me one of 40 Nigerians entrepreneurs under 40. So when in doubt, I simply play all these images in my head and I realise that giving up is not an option anymore.

    If you were start all over again, what would you do differently?

    I would not be as experienced as I am now, so I guess I will do it the same way. I don’t think I would want to change anything.

    What advice would you give up and coming Nigerian entrepreneurs?

    The internet has provided you with all the resources you need to run a business. The government and corporate organisations are supporting small business with the necessary funds to take their businesses to another level. You don’t have excuses not to succeed anymore. All you need now is the passion and determination to follow through.

    You’ve won a £5,000 grant for your business, how do you intend to spend that money?

    The cash will be invested into the business.

    Where do you see Hesey Designs in the next two years?

    I see Hesey Designs becoming an internationally recognised brand with outlets in at least two countries. I am looking to expand; increase sales, empower more people and get closer to our vision.