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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    I am 12 years old and I am in JSS3. My dad and mum always say I am so beautiful but my friend in school says that I am not fine because I don’t have breasts and boys will not look at me. Why am I not big like my mates so that boys can look at me too. Don’t  you think I should get a bra so that I can look big?

    Favour A

    (Ikeja, Lagos)

     

    Dear Favour,

    You are indeed beautiful and special. Everyone on earth is different and we can not all be the same! Girls and boys develop at different pace; some reach puberty earlier than their age mates while others develop at a slower rate. It however does not mean you will not develop fully also.

    If you wear a bra to look “big” and matured, ask yourself this question;”do I want boys to look inside the bra or to see what an intelligent girl I am by the way I talk and act responsibly?” while you are waiting for the physical signs of puberty to show on your body you need to develop your character and attitude so that you stand out where ever you go, not just because of your physical looks but also because of your intelligence and good manners.

    Thanks for writing in, continue to send in your questions.

    Yours Truly

    Aunty Rita.

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    I am worried that some people say I look like a girl and a new male teacher that came to our school last term called me into his car one day and kissed me after saying he loved me. I did not tell anybody because I don’t want my friends to laugh at me and I am afraid that my parents will spank me. Do you think I should tell my parents?

    David G (12 years)

    FCT Abuja

     

    Dear David,

    Thanks for writing in. From your letter I can see that you must be a very handsome boy for people to say you look like a girl! God did not make a mistake in making you look the way you look, you are special and no one has a right to treat you in a way you do not like.

    I like you to know that anybody that touches you in a bad way or speaks words to you that you are embarrassed to say out, should be reported to an adult especially your parents. Don’t be afraid to report your new teacher to your parents, so that he would not be able to do more dastardly acts and it  might be too late, if he is able to deceive or convince a weaker child.

    Thanks once again for writing. I hope to hear from you soon that you are now telling your friends to always report anyone who wants to make you or your friends do things with them that you do not understand or touches your body in the wrong places.

    Yours truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    What happens to orphans after they grow up, and what do they become?

    Pauline J (9years old)

    Enugu

     

    Dear Pauline,

    Orphans are children who do not have parents and usually live in an orphanage. If properly taken care of, orphans have the same kind of life like any other person and can be anything they want to be.

    In fact, your teacher or family doctor or clergyman might have grown up as orphans and you won’t even know. It doesn’t matter whether one is an orphan or not, but what you make of your life through hard work and honesty is what you will be.

    Hope I was able to answer your question?

    Yours Truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    DEAR AUNTY RITA,

    Thank you for the beautiful things you write. I read your page weekly and I am a fan already.

    Please advise me about my daughter. She is 12 years old and is about to write JSSCE. She is very good in English and other art related subjects, and she loves talking a lot. I feel she will be good in the arts, but she is insisting on majoring in Sciences next session.

    Please advise me.

    Mrs. O.A

    Warri, Delta State

     

    Dear Mrs. O,

    Thanks for your accolades. I will do my best to, to keep giving Nigerian children the best on the page.

    Concerning your daughter, I want to praise you for being sensitive and interested in her life and studies for you to know her strong and weak areas academically.

    I will advise that you see her Guidance Counselor in school to also talk to her but if that does not yield the result you want, you may have to leave her to her desires. Time will tell what’s best for her, but don’t forget to pray for her for God’s guidance.

    Yours Truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    My school is organizing an Art Competition and I want to participate. The first prize is cash and scholarship throughout secondary school . I want to try my best but my mother wants to give it to real artist to do! I don’t think it’s proper! What do you think?

    Collins M ( JSS2)

     

    Dear Collins,

    Nigeria is blessed to have children like you, who love to work with their own hands and do not try to look for short cuts! I am really delighted that you wrote this letter.

    I know it will bring great joy to your parents if you win the competition and also, a relief on their purse; but you don’t have to cheat to win! If a professional artist makes a perfect work for you and you win, that will be falsehood!

    You still have a lot of good to achieve in the future, if you kill your conscience now, you will always look for easy ways out and it doesn’t always pay. Try your best and leave the rest for God.

    Yours Truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    I am 12 years old and my sister is 11years,my parents show her more love than I and sometimes I wonder maybe I am not their child. Also, a times I hate her as we are always fighting! What do you advice?

    Victoria B (JSS 2)

     

    Dear Victoria,

    I can see that your feelings are really genuine and you are angry at the situation. I believe your parents love you equally, but because you are older they expect you to take responsibility for your younger sister .Also your sister may be weaker than you health wise and emotionally and that may explain why your parents are protective of her.

    However, no matter what their reason for their seemingly greater love for your sister, my advice is that you should love your sister and seek her best interest always. God knows why you were both born into the same family, so make the best of it.

    Check out a list of siblings working together in love and famous for what they do! Serena and Venus Williams are sisters (champions in Lawn Tennis), Peter and Paul Okoye (P Square) and their elder brother Jude who is their Manager, also Gabriel and Kunle Afolayan who are versatile actors.

    Be the best sister ever.

    Yours Truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    I saw on television that some people steal ballot papers, please I want to know what ballot papers are and why some people steal them.

    Thank you.

    Bala M 11years old.

     

    Dear Bala,

    Thanks for writing in it’s great to know that children also watch the News on Television and not only cartoons.

    Ballot papers are paper slips with names of different parties contesting in an election. The voter uses to show his choice by signing, ticking or thumbing on the space for the party of his/her choice.

    Some people steal the box containing the ballot papers sometimes when they feel that their candidate is not having much votes and they just want to disrupt the whole electoral process.

    I hope I was able to answer your questions.

    Yours Truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    I did not do very well in my exams and my daddy says he will not get me a bicycle again. How can I beg him to buy the bicycle for me?

    Phillip S (9 years)

     

    Dear Phillip,

    Your Daddy loves you and wants the best for you.  Right now you need to pay more attention to your studies and work hard.  I am sure that If you do your best next term, your father will fullfill his promise to you.

    Hope you will be a good boy?

     

    Yours truly,

    Aunty Rita

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    Dear Aunty Rita,

    My friend Rakiya won’t talk to me because I reported her to our class teacher that she was copying.  How can I make her my friend again.

    Samira 7 years.

     

    Dear Samira,

    It always hurts when a friend does not want to talk to you again, but give her some time and the two of you will be friends again.

    Don’t be afraid to report wrongs to your teacher, but don’t lie or make up stories about your friends.

     

    Yours truly

    Aunty Rita

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    Hello Aunty Rita,

    Please advise me, I don’t like Maths and my mum says I need maths because I want to be a pilot in future.

    Bola (8 years old)

     

    Dear Bola,

    Every subject especially Maths (numeracy) and English (Literacy) are very important to give you the foundation you need for your future ambition.  If you are having difficulty understanding mathematics ask your parents to get a lesson teacher to teach you after school and don’t forget to pray and ask God to help you.

     

     

     

    Dear Aunty Rita,

    Is it true that a girl can only be a nurse and not a doctor? My friend Kike says I can be a nurse not a doctor.

    Chi Chi (7 years old)

     

    Dear Chi-Chi,

    Thanks for writing. You can be whatever you want to be! An engineer, a pilot, a doctor, even an astronaunt! Whatever you like to be pray to God about it and discuss with your parents, so that they can guide you as you move on in life. Yes you can be a doctor!

    Yours truly, Aunty Rita.