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  • Uba brothers, Oduah battle for Anambra PDP congress

    As the Anambra State chapter of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) holds its state congress tomorrow, Chief Chris Uba and his elder brother, Senator Andy Uba, appeared to have renewed their battle for the control of the party.

    Also, the senator representing Anambra North, Stella Oduah, is among the party’s top players in the quest to produce the state chairman in tomorrow’s congress.

    It was gathered yesterday in Awka, the state capital, that PDP’s national body recognised the ward and local government congresses organised by the Chief Ejike Oguebego leadership.

    The state congress will take place at the spacious Emmaus House in Awka with the chieftains battle-ready to produce the party’s executives.

    PDP’s national body recently dissolved the executives in 33 states except in three others.

    But the party’s crisis has not abated as two different committees monitored the congresses in the state during the ward and council congresses.

    It was gathered that Alhaji Abubakar Mallam (Shettima Gwandu) was detailed for the Oguebego-led party’s congress in the state while Ladi Edun said he was posted by the party to Anambra State during the ward congress.

    During the ward congress, there were no forms of fracas, as it used to be in the state because of factions.

    Speaking with our reporter yesterday in Awka on the party’s preparedness, Oguebego said PDP members were ready to elect their executives.

    He said the party’s Administrative Secretary was carrying everybody along.

    The party’s big wigs, like Chief Chris Uba, his siblings – Senators Ugochukwu and Andy – were said to have arrived in the state ahead of the state congress.

    Also, Oduah, who was Aviation Minister under former President Goodluck Jonathan; her successor in the ministry, Chief Osita Chidoka; a chieftain, Annie Okonkwo, among others, were also said to have arrived in the state.

  • Two brothers arraigned for ‘assaulting’ policeman

    Two brothers, Darlington Ani and Daniel Ani, were on Friday arraigned for allegedly assaulting a police officer.

    Darlington, 28 and Daniel 21, are facing a-six-count charge bordering on assault and breach of peace before an Apapa Magistrates’ Court in Lagos.

    Prosecuting Inspector Tony Elibeh, said the accused committed the offences between April 21 and April 29, in Olodi-Apapa area of Lagos.

    He said the accused assaulted a police officer by obstructing and resisting arrest and, thereby, perverting the course of justice.

    “`The accused men, on the said date, did conspire to commit felony, to wit, assault and occasioning harm on one Mr Jude Nweka, thereby inflicting injuries on his head and face.

    “The brothers did incite acts of violence, intimidate and cause a breach of the peace to the environment,” he said.

    He said when the case was reported to the police, the brothers refused to allow the security men carry out their duty but assaulted them instead.

    The accused pleaded not guilty.

    Chief Magistrate Titus Abolarinwa granted them N100,000 bail with one surety in the like sum.

    He directed that one of the sureties must be a blood relation of the accused.

    He added that they must present evidence of payment of two years’ tax to the Lagos State Government.

    He stressed that the sureties, whose addresses must be verified by the prosecution, must also present evidence of evidence of means to the court’s registrar.

    Abolarinwa, then, adjourned the case to May 18.

  • Brothers against brothers

    Brothers against brothers

    • Story of two Edo communities which live so close to each other but don’t inter-marry

     

    Who will bring peace to the people of Uneme-Erhurun in Akoko-Edo and Ogute-Okpella in Estako East local government areas of Edo State?

    Both communities are close neighbours in the state whose people do not inter-marry. They speak different languages, farm on the same land and pass through each other’s communities. But they harbour a mutual suspicion.

    Ogute is one of the 25 villages that make up Okpella clan, while Erhunrun is of the Uneme clan.

    There is presently a military checkpoint at the boundary of both communities, while a joint patrol of the police and army is noticed within Uneme-Erhurun community following the clash between the neighbours on February 21. Several people were injured, while three indigenes of Okpella – Adamu Ufeoshi, Augustine Aliu and Isah Yakubu – remain missing.  Two lorry tippers, six motorcycles, several vehicles and houses were also destroyed in the attack.

    Hostilities developed between the communities when the Western Region Legal Notice 24 of 1954 placed Uneme-Erhurun within Akoko-Edo District Council, while Ogute-Okpella within Okpella clan was placed within Estako District Council Area. The establishment of a new administrative division known as Akoko-Edo Division out of the  Afenmai Division saw the Uneme-Erhurun making a complete break with Okpella, even though they were still on Okpella land.

    The 1981 Judicial Commission of Inquiry, headed by the late Justice S.A. Ajuya, and set up by then governor of the defunct Bendel State, the late Professor Ambrose Alli, after the first crisis broke out between both communities, pointed out that the major object of dispute, the Unufi forest, is the property of Ogute-Okpella in Erhurun, present day Akoko-Edo Local Government Area.

    Checks showed that the division between both neighbours is more serious than imagined following the alleged discovery of a huge limestone deposit in Uneme-Erhurun.  It was, however, gathered that the recent crisis came up when one Godwin Peters from Ogute-Okpella went to the Unufi forest to fell and saw some wood. On the way back, it was alleged that Uneme-Erhurun youths barricaded the road and prevented them from taking the logs away because no permit was obtained.

    The traditional ruler of Okpella, HRH Andrew Dirisu, the Okhuokpelagbe of Okpella, told The Nation that he got a call at about 8:30a.m. about the barricade and sent his Personal Assistant, Chief Ahmed, to get first hand information on the crisis.

    HRH Dirisu said the Uneme-Erhurun were allowed to settle on that part of the land by one of his predecessors, HRH Malik Afegbua, and that a state government’s White Paper clearly stated that Okpella has no boundary with Uneme-Erhunrhun but with Dangbala at River Orle. He said: “The root of the matter is about the ownership of this forest they are talking about. The Uneme people have no common boundary with the Ogutes. The Uneme-Erhunrun people are on Okpella land.

    “They are now saying that the land belongs to them. It was Makif Afegbua, who was a district head that allowed Uneme-Erhurun people to stay on that portion of our land. As the traditional ruler, whatever he wants to do on any land on Okpella, he has the power. Our land tenure system is that kindred owns land, but whoever is the traditional ruler holds it in trust of the entire people and takes decisions on the land in consultation with the kindred.

    “This was what brought clash in 1981 during the administration of late Ambrose Alli. The White Paper issued by the then government clearly stated that Okpella has no boundary with Uneme-Erhurun but with Dangbala at River Orle. That they are saying that I am the one causing problem is bad.

    “They should be grateful that somebody like me is the traditional ruler of Okpella today. I am a peaceful person. I don’t like violence. All they are doing is provoke our people. Their traditional ruler is not helping issues. I have called him several times, if there must be peace there, let us look for ways to resolve any arising issues. The forest in dispute is very big.”

    HRH Dirisu, who denied allegations that the presence of mineral deposits caused the recent crisis, said he only sent officials of BUA Cement and Dangote Cement to conduct exploration and determine whether the mineral deposit is of commercial quantity.

    “That place is Ogute-Okpella land and not for Uneme-Erhurun people in Akoko-Edo. It is not true that the dispute was caused by mineral deposits.  My people reported to me that there are traces of limestone deposit in that area. I contacted BUA Cement Company and Dangote to go there and do exploration to see if the deposits are of commercial value so that they can come back for us to discuss. As soon as they saw the people working, they did a petition that BUA came to their land to do exploration without their permit.

    “I told my people we will resolve the issue by dialogue and that I will tell the appropriate authority with proof that the place belongs to Okpella. The story that I am instigating the crisis is a malicious allegation. There is no case between Uneme Erhunrhun and Okpella people. I pray that nothing will make us quarrel.”

    A resident of Ogute, Andrew Oshiekwu, claimed that their farmlands had been vandalised by the people of Erhunrun since February 21. He said: “This is an opportunity for them to loot our farms, they set our cocoa farm on fire. They are not prepared for peace. There is no sign of remorse from them.”

    Head of Ogute village, Chief Joel Ojo, said they didn’t know that the Erhunrun people were still nursing hatred for them. He said: “It was a surprise to us after the 1981 incident. They used to pay homage to us up to 1950. I schooled together with the traditional ruler, but they are very hostile.

    “When they came, they were very scanty. They lived on top of the hill and later asked has that we  allow them to settle at the foot of the hill. Our people managed to pass through routes to the farms and saw their crops destroyed.”

    The wife of one of the missing persons, Mariam Adamu, 35, said she has been left with six children to care for.  Mariam said her husband didn’t tell her he would stay away for so long.

    The traditional head of Central Uneme Clan, HRH Oba Moses Omoarelogie Braimah, said the wood was sawn by a registered timber contractor of Erhunrun extraction and that vigilante from Okpella attempted to take the timber away in the heat of the the fracas. Said he: “He cannot come from Etsako East Local Government Area to own a land in Akoko Edo. This is a place where my great grandfather lived and died, it is over 300 years that we settled here.

    “He is from Agenebode and we have no connection with them at all. Since the colonial era was abolished, Erhurun-Uneme has been on its own. We don’t do anything with them.

    “Last Sunday, 21st of February, they came with two tippers, they went to the bush to confront our kinsman, the same man they collected his motor saw last time. This time around they went to collect all his wood. But when they were returning, our youths blocked the road that they should not carry the wood. The vigilante people from Etsako sent by the Okhuokpelagbe went to go and reinforce. Most of our people were in the church; before you know, it they started setting our houses on fire, destroying cars and motorcycles.

    “The beginning of this crisis was when I wrote a petition that, that land belongs to Erhurun-Uneme and that I am the only person that has the authority to give instruction on what to do with it. So I said that any company coming here to excavate any mineral, whether BUA or Dangote, they should come and register with me, then I will carry the registration to Igarra where our Local Government headquarters is. He is victimising my people because he feels we are so small in population. Four of our kinsmen have been missing since that attack. Those missing include Oladimi Ojo, Alasa Yusuf, Olurifemi Onifaye, Okereke Saliu.

    “We have minerals in that land. The police invited us on the 2nd of February and told us that any of us who felt cheated should go to court. I want the government to give us a boundary so that everybody will know his area. Since he jumped from Etsako East to come to Akoko Edo to drag our land, it means he does not know his boundary. So, I want the government to demarcate the boundaries so that he will know.”

    The alleged wood operator from Erhunrun said he was warned to stop felling wood at the forest. “On Saturday night, some people told me to remove the woods. I fell that they were coming to take them away. But I said, no, I cannot remove the timber, that I legally took it from our land and with permission from Akoko Edo Local Government.

    “That Sunday, they came when we all had gone to church with two lorries, but our youths came out and told them that they cannot take the timber away. And I told them they cannot take my wood from our land to Okpella, that it is in Etsako East, and that was how the fight started.”

  • Their brothers’ keepers

    Their brothers’ keepers

    National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) members in Jalingo Zone of Taraba State have donated relief materials to Internally-Displaced Persons (IDPs) in Gullup in commenmoration of the nation’s Independence anniversary. PHILIP OKORODUDU (NYSC Jalingo) reports.

     

    National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) members in Taraba State last Friday donated relief materials to Internally-Displaced Persons (IDPs) in Gullup, a community on the outskirts of Jalingo, the state capital to commemorate the nation’s 55th Independence anniversary.

    During the visit, the Corps members, having identified the needs of the displaced persons, pooled resources to buy the items most needed by them. The gesture, they said, was to complement the government’s efforts to making the victims of Boko Haram insurgency comfortable.

    The Corps members’ gesture followed an earlier visit by members of Medical and Health Community Development Service (CDS) group of the NYSC led by the state coordinator, Mr T.K. Freeman, Zonal Inspector in Jalingo Zone, Mr Joshua Ukpalichi, and Jalingo Local Government Inspector, Mr Shehu Dogo.

    •The Corps members with some of the displaced pupils
    •The Corps members with some of the displaced pupils

    Some of the donated items included three bags of rice, a gallon of cooking oil and palm oil each, six bags of salt, 17 tubers of yam, five cartons of noodles, two cartons of multi-purpose soap, two cartons of spaghetti and cloth materials , among others. Also, the Corps members established a makeshift school in the camp, which they promised to sustain.

    Speaking during the visit, Freeman described the Corps members’ gesture as laudable, praising them for initiating the “life-touching” scheme to alleviate the suffering of the displaced persons. He encouraged members of the camp not to lose hope, assuring that the Boko Haram insurgency would soon be brought under control by the Federal Government.

    Freeman said: “Whatever challenge being faced by people in this IDP camp is shared by the NYSC. This is why we set up a make shift school in this camp to enable the displaced children in this place continue their education, pending when they will return to their homes.”

    After his speech, Freeman presented the items on behalf of the Corps members to the leader of the IDPs, Mr David Yantre.

    President of Information and Communication Technology (ICT) and Education CDS group in Jalingo Zone, Tosin Amuda, a graduate of Computer Science from the University of Lagos (UNILAG), said the makeshift school set up in the camp comprised secondary school class, the upper primary school class, lower primary school class and nursery.

    He said the purpose of the division was to enable the displaced children continue their education where they stopped before they were displaced. He said the school would be open every Wednesday when Corps members in the CDS days would be free to teach the children.

    Speaking to CAMPUSLIFE, president of Charity CDS group in the zone, Christopher Awotundun, a Chemical Engineering graduate from Ladoke Akintola University of Technology (LAUTECH) in Ogbomoso, Oyo State, said the relief items donated to the IDPs were selected based on the needs of the camp members.

    A displaced person from Chibok in Borno State, Rebecca Mallaum, praised the Corps members for establishing a school in the camp, saying it would enable her to study for Senior School Certificate Examinations (SSCE) she plans to take next year.

    Another displaced person, Shetima Yakubu, 16, said he was in Junior Secondary School (JSS) 2 when his family escaped from Gwoza town in Borno State, following invasion by the insurgents. He narrated how his mother and two sisters spent days in the bush, trekking to Jalingo.

    “I want the crisis to end soon, so that we can return to our house,” he said.

    Asked how the children cope with studying in the camp, Adetutu Bankole, a graduate of Accounting from the Federal Polytechnic, Offa (OFFA POLY), Kwara State, said: “The children are intelligent and we discovered that some of them have already mastered subjects we are teaching them.”

    Adetutu said the school should be sustained to for the children’s challenges not to be compounded.

    Dogo said the desire to put smiles on the faces of the displaced persons was the reason why the Corps members donated the materials to the IDPs.

    In his remark, Ukpalichi said the NYSC would sustain the school by posting Corps members to the camp after the next orientation exercise. He said the NYSC management would liaise with the state Ministry of Education on curriculum to ensure the displaced children get access to education.

    Appreciating the Corps members, Yantre, who is displaced from Madagali in Adamawa State, said the humanitarian gesture would not go unrewarded, while urging the government to step up action to rid the Northeast of insurgency.

  • Diezani, brothers to face trial for alleged bribery

    Diezani, brothers to face trial for alleged bribery

    UK court okays seizure of £27,000

    Hardley Petroleum Solutions Limited
    (Believed to be used for money laundering)
    •Company registered in Manchester 27/06/2013
    •Company dissolved in Manchester 10/02/2015
    •Company didn’t file any account when operating
    •Directors: Ugonna Madueke, Abu Fari, Somye
    Agama and Abiye Agama

    Former Minister of Petroleum Resources Mrs Diezani Alison-Madueke is to be arraigned in London with her brothers for alleged bribery and money laundering, it was learnt yesterday.

    Investigations by our correspondent in the United Kingdom showed that she was arrested with her brothers Abiye Agama and Somye Agama.

    They are directors of Hadley Petroleum Solutions Limited, a company the authorities believe to have been used for money laundering. The other directors are Ugonna Madueke and Abu Fari.

    The company was registered in June 2013 in Manchester, but was dissolved less than two years later in February this year without filing any account.

    Abiye, 33, a point man of the firm, is a computer engineer and manager. He was a director in 11 other companies. He resigned from seven of them.

    The United Kingdom’s National Crime Agency (NCA) last week arrested Mrs Alison-Madueke and five others as part of the investigation into allegations of bribery and money laundering. They were granted bail.

    It could not be ascertained why the former minister was not arraigned.

    But she had previously denied any wrongdoing when it was alleged that $20 billon of oil money had gone missing when she was in office between 2010 and 2015

    However, a London (Westminster Magistrate’s Court) on Marylebone Road yesterday approved the seizure of $41,000 (£27,000) cash from her.

    The seizure of the cash followed an application brought by the NCA under the Proceeds of Crime Act in the UK.

    The court ruled that the money can be held for six months.

    There was confusion earlier in the day that Mrs Alison-Madueke had appeared in court. However, it turned to be incorrect. She was not taken to court and had not been charged with any offence.

    President Muhammadu Buhari has pledged to curb corruption, saying “mind-boggling” sums were stolen during the Jonathan administration.

    The NCA leads UK law enforcement’s fight to cut serious and organised crime. It has national and international reach and the mandate and powers to work in partnership with other law enforcement organisations to bring the full weight of the law to bear on serious and organised criminals.

    The Proceeds of Crime Act says “The Proceeds of Crime Act 2002 (“POCA”) sets out the legislative scheme for the recovery of criminal assets with criminal confiscation being the most commonly used power.

    “Confiscation occurs after a conviction has taken place. Other means of recovering the proceeds of crime which do not require a conviction are provided for in the Act, namely civil recovery, cash seizure and taxation powers.

    “The aim of the asset recovery schemes in POCA is to deny criminals the use of their assets, recover the proceeds of crime and disrupt and deter criminality.

    “Since 2010, more than £746 million of criminal assets has been seized (to 2013/14) across all four methods of recovery – a record amount.

    “Over the same period, assets worth more than £2.5 billion have been frozen denying criminals access to these resources and £93 million has been returned to victims,” said a factsheet.

  • Their brothers’ keeper

    National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) members in Taraba State have visited the Internally-Displaced Persons (IDPs) camp in Gullup to render free medical service to the victims of Boko Haram insurgency. PHILIP OKORODUDU (NYSC Jalingo) reports.

    Pullup, a sleepy village on the fringe of Jalingo, the Taraba State capital, lost its serenity, because of the ongoing war against Boko Haram insurgency. The village has a camp of Internally-Displaced Persons (IDPs), where victims of insurgency have been facing challenges in accessing basic healthcare.

    To complement the effort of the government in providing healthcare in the camp, the state directorate of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) collaborated with Medical and Health Community Development Service (CDS) group to offer free medical treatment for the IDPs, last Monday.

    NYSC Coordinator, Mr T.K. Freeman, kicked off the event. He  was joined by the Zonal Inspector of the scheme in Jalingo, Mr J. Ukpalichi and Jalingo Local Government Area inspector, Mr Shehu Dogo, among others.

    The beneficiaries are IDPs from Borno, Yobe and Adamawa states. The camp, which has hundreds of victims, was established last September as one of the three IDPs camps around the state capital.

    The organisers said the free medical mission was informed by increasing unhygienic condition in these camps, noting that there was need protect children in the camps from possible outbreak of communicable diseases.

    Freeman said the NYSC shared in the challenges of the displaced persons, assuring them that the body would not relent in mobilising Corps members to alleviate their plights.

    As NYSC attended to the medical needs of the IDPs, Freeman said plans were underway to attend to the educational needs of the children in the camp. He said education of the children remained critical to the rehabilitation programmes of the government.

    He urged Corps members in other CDS groups to emulate their counterparts in health CDS to lend support in solving the basic needs of the insurgency victims. Freeman hailed members of the health CDS group for the programme, describing it as life-changing.

    President of the CDS group, Williams Adefila, a Medicine and Surgery graduate of the University of Ilorin (UNILORIN), said the objective of the free health mission was to identify with the IDPs and alleviate their plight by providing palliatives to solve their healthcare needs.

    He said the programme was divided into three phases. The first stage was the collection of bio-data and assessment of blood sugar level and blood pressure. The second stage had the Corps members running test on the IDPs to diagnose ailments, while the last stage involved proscription of drugs based on the ailment discovered.

    Williams said those whose conditions warranted immediate medical attention were referred to specialist hospitals for treatment.

    Some of the IDPs, who spoke to CAMPUSLIFE, shared various stories of their predicaments. Mr Nkeki Bakar, a native of Chibok in Borno State, said his family members spent more than 11 months in the bush after their house was destroyed by the insurgents.

    Bakar, a father of five children, said life had become unbearable for him fair to him since he left Chibok with his family because of the insurgency. He said handouts for his survival and medical needs were being provided by Good Samaritans. He said Corps members occasionally brought food to them.

    More heart-rending is the story of a 13-year-old Tabitha Musa, an orphan from Askira Local Government Area of Adamawa State, who fled her hometown with her uncle and two siblings. Going back to school, she said, has become difficult for her, because she cannot afford it. She was in Primary 6 before the crisis displaced her family.

    The Secretary of the IDPs, Mr Emmanuel Bulus, a native of Gwoza village in Borno State, said the victims have been surviving on goodwill of the Gullup residents since the camp was established last year. He added that some members of the camp engaged in menial labour to fend for their family.

    He called for government support and kind-hearted Nigerians to come to their aid, saying some IDPs’ health had deteriorated because of malnutrition and diseases.

    A member of the CDS Group and a graduate of Nursing Science of the University of Port Harcourt (UNIPORT), Tamuna-Belema Dikibo, listed the major health challenges facing the victims in the Gullup camp, saying they lacked personal and environmental hygiene. She said the Corps members advised the IDPs on family planning and need to maintain clean environment.

    In his remark, Ukpalichi said rendering of selfless service to the IDPs was in line with the NYSC objectives. He thanked the officials of the camp for their cooperation.

  • New magistrate to try brothers

    Lagos Chief Judge Justice Olufunmilaya Atilade has re-assigned the case of the Sanusi brothers, Sulaiman and Kehinde, , to another Magistrate following their petition.

    Magistrate P.A. Adekomaya is taking over the case from magistrate Adeola Adedayo, who the brothers accused in their petition of bias.

    Their petition followed magistrate Adedayo’s allegation on April 13 how were to be arraigned before her for alleged unlawful possession of firearms, were after her life.

    The new trial Magistrate is P. A.  Adekomaya takes over from Magistrate Adeola Adedayo who at the last sitting of the court on April 13 raised alarm over alleged threat to her life by two suspects who were to be arraigned before her for alleged unlawful possession of firearms.             She said: “I feel very threatened, let the world know about it so that if anything happens to me and any member of my family the whole world will know who to hold.

    I don’t know why a defendant should know my house; my life is at risk. Somebody is alleged to be in possession of firearms and he wrote petitions to threaten my life analysing my marital status, my family background and where I live, who I live with and how I move in and move out everyday.”

    I don’t know why a defendant should know my house; my life is at risk

     

  • Police nabs three brothers for kidnapping

    Police nabs three brothers for kidnapping

    Three brothers of same parents have been arrested by men of the Edo State Police Command for engaging in kidnappings.

    The suspects which included twins are Odion, Akhere and Nicholas Stephens are said to hail from Ugbegun in Esan Central Local Government.

    They were reportedly nabbed after a kidnapped victim escaped from their den.

    Police sources said the brothers have carried out five different kidnappings and collected huge sums of money as ransom.

    Among their victims were a member of the Jehovah witness faith who was shot in the leg and kept in captivity for six days without treatment.

    They were said to have also kidnapped a retired Assistant Commissioner of Police who later escaped from their den.

    Speaking to newsmen during a parade, the suspects expressed regrets over their actions.

  • Generator fumes kill brothers

    two brothers, Salmanu Adamu (27) and Suleimanu Adamu (29), died on Saturday in Dimsini Bula, Bununu, Tafawa Balewa Local Government Area of Bauchi State, after inhaling generator fumes.

    The brothers are the sons of the Village Head, Adamu Sarkin Dimsini.

    It was learnt that the brothers, who were digging a well in front of their father’s palace, suffocated after inhaling fumes from a nearby generator.

    Police spokesman Mohammed Haruna said: “On Saturday about 1:30pm, the village head of Dimsini Bula in Bununu, one Adamu Sarkin Dimsini, instructed two of his sons, Salmanu and Suleimanu, to dig a well in front of his palace with a water pump generator. The victims suffocated to death due to emission of carbon monoxide from the generator, which filled the well.”

    He said an autopsy was carried out on the brothers and there was no sign of foul play.

    The bodies have been released to the family for burial.

     

  • The men in our lives (VI): Brothers

    The men in our lives (VI): Brothers

    LAST week we discussed the responsibility of our brothers towards us girls, which is to protect us and hold our hands as we coast through our impressionable years through adolescence; however, reasonably. A lot of girls face so much discomfort having to deal with over-protective big brothers. But while you may think they are monsters and forever wishing they could suddenly disappear from the surface of the earth so you can breath, some day, you’ll understand they protected you out of love. Here are a few tips on how to deal with them.

    1.     Think positive of their actions. Your brothers are only looking out for you.  They aren’t doing this to hurt you. It’s actually the exact opposite  they’re doing everything they can to make sure you don’t get hurt. They feel a sense of responsibility to watch over you. The next time they act overprotective, think of it this way: they love you and care about you enough to take care of you, and they don’t want to lose you or watch you get hurt.

    2.     Let him accompany you out if he insists. You’re too young to understand the evil in the world. There are some heartless OLDER men out there who are interested in girls as young as you. Sometimes many years older than your brother, even your father’s mates. He’s just afraid something might happen. He won’t accompany you all the time anyway!

    3.     Avoid sneaking around. If you find a guy that you really like, then introduce him to your brother, and try to get him to know the guy better. Chances are he will surely like your boyfriend better if he meets him first, rather than hearing about it much later by a group of his friends or bumping on you two at a corner.

    4.     Try your best to not fight. If you find yourself in a fight with him. Try to end it. Take a breath and breathe. No matter what you’re fighting about, fighting even more doesn’t make it better, Show him you’re mature. Show him you can act like the better person.

    5.     Confide in him. This builds up the elder brother, younger sister relationship. You’ll both get to know each other, and better yet, offer each other advice. He’ll get to know you, and you’ll get to know him, it’s a win, win. This could make him discover you are not as gullible as he thinks.

    Dear girl,

    Your big brothers got into this world before you and watched you grow. In other words, they more or less represent your father. The male folk are generally domineering and this they apply while being protective. They want you to do as they say because they feel they know best.

    Your brother wants you to stop seeing that boy because he feels he is up to no good. This is just natural. He may know better since he also has his way with girls. You just have to understand that they may not want anyone to hurt you. Their ego may be considered as well. There are a lot of boys who are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Your brother would certainly treat them with contempt.

    It would be nicer to reach a compromise with your brothers otherwise, your social life may be unenjoyable. True, they have no right to live your life for you but you may try and make them realize you are not as foolish as they think by getting close to them and letting them share in your anxieties and expectations. And most importantly, be yourself.

    If they fail to understand you and keep assuming wrongly and making false accusations, pray to God about it and follow your heart; so long as it makes you happy. Remember, to be very careful with the decisions you take as you will be the one to bear the consequences.

     

    Dear brothers,

    We love you so much just the way you love us. We thank you for being there for us since we got into this world. We only want you to know that we are no longer kids; we are growing into young adults and have some good brain. We want you to believe we are not as gullible as you think. We want you to know that we are in control of most of what happens to us. You only need to relax a bit and study us then you will realize who we really are.

    We feel so terrible and tend to rebel when you report us to our parents especially when the accusations are false. You shouldn’t believe all you hear all the time. Some people speak ill of us out of envy and others just to make unnecessary troubles for us. We would not mind being open to you and sharing our experiences with you so you can advise us better. We love you.

     

    Yours sincerely,

    Lil’ sis