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  • Wife to Court: My husband wants to kill me with sex

    A Grade “C” Customary Court in Iseyin on Wednesday dissolved a seven-year-old marriage between one Baliki Oke and her husband,  Arowolo, over the latter’s incessant demand for sex.

    Baliki had approached the court in July seeking dissolution of her marriage to Arowolo over his frequent sex demand.

    She told the court that the union had produced a six-year-old boy.

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    “My husband wants to kill me with sex, he demands sex more than he does for food, he wants to have sex with me six times in a day before he gets satisfied.

    “Arowolo goes to the farm very early in the morning and would not wait for me to bring his lunch.

    “He will come home in the afternoon just to have sex twice before he goes back to the farm and would still make demands when he returns at night.

    “Anytime I try to resist him, he will beat me till I surrender.

    “I have decided to quit for the sake of my life, I don’t want to die now, my lord, please dissolve this marriage,’’ she said.

    Responding, Arowolo, who did not refute the claims of his estranged wife, told the court that he has a high sex drive.

    “I have worked very hard to solve this problem of incessant sex urge to no avail.

    “The truth is that I can’t cope with life without sex, I can’t work, eat or play, sex is more important to me than anything else in life.

    “I have been suffering since she packed out of our house about 10 days ago; I have not been going to work, I have begged her relatives to plead with her on my behalf, “he said.

    Arowolo, who urged the court not to dissolve the marriage, also promised that he will check his urge for sex if she returns.

    Delivering judgment, the President of the court, Chief Adelodun Raheem, said that all the efforts of the court to plead with the wife and her relatives to resolve the crisis did not yield a positive result.

    Raheem, consequently, dissolved the marriage and granted the custody of their child to Baliki.

    He ordered Arowolo to be paying N2, 500 weekly to the court’s registrar for the child’s upkeep.

  • Woman to court: My husband dates four girls in our street

    Woman to court: My husband dates four girls in our street

    Mrs. Cecilia Ajayi, 42, on Thursday pleaded with an Igando Customary Court in Lagos State to dissolve her 20 years’ marriage with her husband, John Ajayi, aged 46.

    Cecilia, the petitioner, accused Ajayi, the defendant, of being as a womaniser.

    “My husband is a womaniser, he is dating four girls in our street and brings them into our matrimonial home.

    “On many occasions, he and his lovers had beaten me up whenever I prevented them from entering our room.

    “He was not satisfied with his lovers, as he severally made attempts to rape my younger sister,’’ the wife told the court on Thursday.

    She also accused John whom she bore three children of being a consumer of excessive alcohol.

    Cecilia said, “John is a drunk. After drinking to stupor, he will be falling inside gutter, talking in an incoherent manner.”

    She also claimed that her husband sent her packing because she was not educated, saying, “ he can no longer cope with illiterate.”

    The wife said that John refused to leave his family house since they got married in 1996.

    On three occasions, I was attacked by John’s family members over inheritance, she said.

    “My husband’s family wanted to kill me; they said that I was the one preventing my husband from sharing his late father’s property.

    “John always said that he could not relocate from his family house,” Cecilia said.

    She urged the court to end the marriage, saying that she was no longer interested in the affair because her life was no longer safe.

    The petitioner, John Ajayi (46), however, denied the allegations, saying that his wife ran away with a man because he lost his job and no longer financially buoyant.

    “Things were moving on fine until I lost my job and her behaviour changed, she packed out to live with another man.

    “She even gave birth to her new lover two months ago,’’ the author said.

    The respondent said that he could not leave his family house because he was the only son in the family.

    John, therefore, begged the court not to grant his wife’s wish adding that he was still in love with her.

    The President of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, after listening to the couple, adjourned the case to Sept. 27, his for judgment.

  • My wife always tears my boxers to rape me, man tells court

    “My wife has turned my boxers to rags as she always tears them to rape me,” a retired soldier, Gafaru Rodoye, told an Igando Customary court in Lagos.

    He told the court on Tuesday that his wife, Idiat, with whom he had five children in their 20-year old marriage, always raped him.

    “My wife always rape me; she had turned all my boxers to rags to achieve her selfish aim,” he said.

    The petitioner said that his wife was in the habit of threatening his life through beating and that he was afraid she might kill him one day.

    “I had to run away from my 16-flat building to rent an apartment elsewhere just to avoid her frequent beatings, but she trailed me to my new apartment to fight me.

    “I have reported her severally to different police stations, but it did not yield any positive result,” he said.

    Gafaru said that his wife poured hot water on the new wife that was brought for him from the village by his family.

    He begged the court to end their 20-year old marriage, saying he was no longer in love as his life was in danger.

    “Please, separate us before my wife kills me, my life is not safe with her, I am a pensioner, I need to enjoy the fruit of my labour,” he said.

    However, Mrs Idiat Rodoye, 44, business woman, denied all the allegations, saying her husband was a womaniser.

    “My husband runs after anything in skirt; he always sends me packing from the house whenever he wants to bring in another woman.

    “He once sent me out with the children for three years.

    “After sending me out, he had married six different women, but none stayed long with him. He will always come back to beg me to pack back,’’ she said.

    The mother of five said she never raped her husband, that it was normal for husband and wife to make love.

    The respondent said that she did not beat her husband, but it was her husband that was always beating her.

    Idiat said that her husband removed the plasma television, air conditioner and disconnected the electricity supply from her flat, leaving her and the children in darkness.

    She urged the court to grant her husband’s wish that she too was tired of the marriage and no longer in love.

    The Court President, Mr. Adegboyega Omilola, adjourned the case to April 5 for further hearing.

     

  • Man to court: My wife is an unrepentant drunk, smoker

    Man to court: My wife is an unrepentant drunk, smoker

    A middle-aged man, Kunle Isalu, has urged a Grade “C” Customary Court in Iseyin, Oyo State to dissolve his 10-year-old marriage to his wife, Lara, over allegations of drunkenness and smoking.

    The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the complainant, Isalu, made the allegations at the Court sitting in Iseyin Council Area of Oyo State.

    He told the court on Wednesday that the union, which had produced four children; ages eight, six, four and two, started having problems when Lara started keeping bad friends.

    “Lara has always been a very good wife until of recent when she started keeping a bad company of friends.

    “The first day I came home from a month’s journey was when I first noticed that her mouth smelled of alcohol and cigarette.

    “She has since grown to be an unrepentant smoker and drunk; she now drinks at will to the extent that they know her in all the beer parlours in Iseyin here.

    “She does not even have respect for her marital status or the integrity of our children; the situation has forced me to chase her out, but now I want the dissolution to be formalised.

    “All our children are still with me and I’m sure they don’t want to go with her. I really can’t explain what the problem is.

    “We have summoned various family meetings to make her change, but all was to no avail.

    “I want her to drop my name after this dissolution, my lord,” he prayed.

    Responding, the President of the court, Mr Raimi Oyegbenle, decried the absence of the respondent in spite of series of court summons.

    He, however, ordered a fresh summon to be served on Lara, compelling her to appear in court on the next adjourned date.

    Oyegbenle adjourned further hearing on the matter till Sept. 14.