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  • ‘I was embarrassed on my first day in court’

    Adebukola Ogunkoya is a 2009 graduate of Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife. Her aspiration is to become a “21st century solution in the legal marketplace”, reports ADEBISI ONANUGA

    Family background

    I was born in Lagos, into the family of Mr. and Mrs Ademola Ogunkoya. I am the first of four children. I graduated from the Faculty of Law,  Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Osun State in 2009, and the  Nigerian Law School, Lagos Campus. I was called to the Nigerian Bar in 2010.

    What inspired your choice of law?

    As a child, I always mimicked lawyers from the ideas I had from films. I would gather my siblings behind the speakers and begin to display courtroom roles. I didn’t know how to further express and realise it, until my father guided me along the path. To the best of my knowledge, none of my family members are lawyers.

    How family and friends celebrated my becoming a lawyer

    My father, most especially, was elated on my graduation. He had ensured that I had all I needed to fulfil my ambition.

    Greatest challenges

    The system has been my greatest challenge. I realised that what we were taught in school isn’t how it obtains in the real world. You are taught that bail is free, but in practice it’s not; in fact, in some situations where your client is the complainant,  the police will end up locking the client up. You will then have to pay to get his/her bail.

    Relationship with principals

    I will say I have one of the best experiences with my principal, Mr. Olayinka Olajuwon in the firm Olayinka Olajuwon & Co.

    It  is one of the best experiences any young lawyer can hope for in terms of good practice, support and flexibility.

    Marriage to a lawyer

    Of course, I can marry a lawyer.

    Most embarrassing day in court

    My most embarrassing day in court was my first day. The judge  awarded the cost of N200,000 against my client for discontinuing a matter. For me, that was supposed to be an easy thing to do and then my client was awarded such a cost.

    Most memorable day

    My most memorable day in court was about a tenancy matter I commenced at the magistrates’ court, which was on appeal at the high court at the instance of the defendant because the case was not in their favour. We had been coming to court on several occasions until this memorable day when the judge decided to look at the application of parties and realised the notice of  appeal by the appellant  was out of time and the appeal was struck out. I was elated and hurried to execute the judgment on the tenant.

    How to overcome poor remuneration

    Poor pay is an issue that is yet to be addressed. We attend conferences and the issue is raised, but no action is being taken to ensure that young lawyers get good pay. I will suggest that we, young lawyers, should put heads together and proffer and effect possible solutions to ensure a good and reasonable pay for young lawyers.

    Achievements on the job

    So far, I am an active member of the Ikorodu branch of the Nigerian Bar Association, and I have served in various capacities. Law School experience  was a distinct academic experience for me.  I hope to be a thoroughbred practitioner.

    Law School curriculum

    I would advise that the curriculum be upgraded. This is because there are new legislations and the markets in each sector of the economy change.

    Dressing

    I will advise that young lawyers should adhere to the dress code; its decent enough.

    Aspiration for the next decade

    I plan to take on the world, and to  establish myself as a 21st-century solution in the legal marketplace.

  • Day I was embarrassed by a lady on stage –Bonsue fuji exponent Adewale Ayuba

    Day I was embarrassed by a lady on stage –Bonsue fuji exponent Adewale Ayuba

    Ace fuji artiste Adewale Ayuba had an early foray into music. At seven, he had made up his mind on a life-long career to be an entertainer, a struggle that later found him establishing a music band at 17. He became a force to be reckoned with when his hit album, ‘Bubble’, was released in 1991. Since then, he has not looked back. A few weeks ago, Ayuba clocked 50, and he was hosted by his fans in America. In this interview with Paul Ukpabio, the fuji artiste revisits the lifestyle that has sustained him in an industry that is full of uncertainty.

    You were not in the country for some weeks. Why did you travel?

    Yes, I was invited by some of my fans abroad to celebrate my 50th birthday. I was in some sates in America where my fans celebrated me. It was a time for me to thank God. There were different parties for me in New York and Chicago. Now I am back home to business in Nigeria. There was a party on May 22 in Houston, Texas. There was another one on May 24 in New York.v We also had another one on May 30 in Minneapolis. I am grateful for the reception I received over there.

    How long were you out of the country?

    I spent about three weeks abroad. Though I performed, the trip was specifically for my birthday celebration.

    What can you say about your fans based abroad?

    The people who had the parties for me abroad were mainly my Nigerian fans. I have a lot of fans who are not Nigerians.  I have Jamaicans and Americans as fans, but it’s Nigerians that invited me.

    So, 50 years has gone; what is your hope for the future?

    I intend to continue to promote fuji  to the world. That is actually my prayer. I want a situation where fuji music is discussed by Americans in America.

    I also pray that God allows me to achieve a situation whereby  people from foreign lands can come to Nigeria to look out for me and hear my music. It is better for that to happen than for me to be going there to play or do shows. 99% of Nigerians already know what is fuji. It is our music. People like the late Baba Agba Ayinde Barrister tried for fuji music, Kollington Ayinla too has tried. But it is better when foreigners come looking for us in Nigeria.

    Why do you have hope that America will swallow fuji music like that?

    America is ready for fuji music. The average American likes anything that is not American. Just as we over here appreciate hip hop music, they too love fuji music. Most individuals like what is foreign. Take for instance, makossa. It is not Nigerian, but Nigerians like the music and dance to it too.

    As a matter of fact, at a time, it was all over the Nigerian airwaves. Also, you know today that Americans are celebrating Fela Anikulapo-Kuti because they appreciate the type of music that he played while he was alive. Whatever you cannot do, of course, you will likely appreciate it.

    Do you have any regrets at 50?

    I am happy that I am a Nigerian. More importantly, I am happy that God gave me the music talent. But the only regret I have is that I started music at a tender age of seven, which means that I have done music all my life, but as I am talking to you now, I do not have an album out there which I can say is generating income for me. I have done many albums, successful ones too, but not one to show that this is the one that has been generating income for me. But every now and then, I see my music selling in town, but no money is coming to me. And this is happening to many musicians here. It is sad that our country allows musicians to be so robbed by pirates.

    How many albums have you made so far in your music career? And which ones did well?

    I have done 25 albums so far, and all my albums are good. I thank God for that. The first and second albums are good. ‘Bubble’ actually brought me into the limelight.  ‘Mr Johnson’ and ‘Ijo Fuji’ are there. ‘Fuji Music in America’ is there too.

    At seven, that was quite early to go into music. How did you do it?

    Music was God-sent to me. I realised that at that age and even earlier, anytime that my parents sent me on an errand, I went along the road singing. I was also usually attracted to the places where ceremonies were taking place in my neighbourhood in Ikene-Remo in Ogun State where I grew up. Once there, I would start singing without being contracted. I was singing for free.

    What kind of music were you singing? it must have been deep indigenous music…

    It was fuji music that I was singing. I chose fuji music because it was the music that I could start with little or no money. That is because all the instruments for fuji music are local. One didn’t need to have the knowledge of guitar, unlike juju music, for instance, where the knowledge of guitar and keyboard is needed. Fuji needs just your voice and locally made instruments.

    At what time did public acceptance come from you?

    Acceptance started in 1980. I was in Ikene, but my first album was in 1985. I was going around with no equipment, singing with three of my friends who held local items as instruments.

    One day, a man named Sunday Olojuanu saw me at a party. He was a welder. He went to my parents, told them that he was going to form a band with me. But my parents declined. They told him that they wanted me to go to school. He promised them that the band would only play shows on weekends. They eventually allowed him and we came up with a band name the Sunny Ayuba Band. We were together for three years.

    Were you making much money then?

    I was collecting whatever he gave me. But when I became 17, I then formed my band. I called my friends together. I started coming to Lagos to perform at Canary Hotel in Surulere, after which I returned to Ikene- Remo. I was coming for a weekly jump every Thursday evening. In 1985, I moved to Lagos Island where I got accommodation with a friend with my band boys. Then after my first album where I sang about Dele Giwa, people started knowing me.

    What was the motivating factor for you?

    For me it wasn’t about money. It was about making musical albums and being well known like the fuji mentors such as Alhaji Ayinla Barrister. At that time, any contract that was put before me, I would have accepted because it wasn’t about money. It was about being popular with what I was doing.

    How did you get a breakthrough in Lagos?

    From Canary Hotel where I was playing at the night club, I moved to Ariya Night Club which was owned by King Sunny Ade. I was playing there and my popularity was building. Not long, I got a breakthrough album, ‘Bubble’, in 1991.

    How did you manage your fame then?

    My parents were particular about me. They wanted me to go to school, and I was well cautioned from home about women.They told me that I could only marry one wife because in my family, we are not allowed to marry more than one wife. That made me to sit up and I saw the female fans as my sisters.

    At what point did you get married and what attracted you to her?

    I got married over twenty years ago. I was in Queens Borough Community College in New York when I met her. The moment I saw her, I told the person that was sitting next to me that she was my wife. I didn’t even know whether she was Jamaican, American or Nigerian. But she turned out to be a Nigerian, an Ibo lady.

    How did her parents react to her choice of a musician?

    It was initially tough because her parents already had their impression of who a musician was. They believed that musicians were womanisers who lived on alcohol and so on.

    How did you feel about the reaction from her parents?

    Well, I would perhaps have reacted in like manner. That is because 22 years ago, the lifestyle of musicians then was completely different from what we have now. You know, then Fela Anikulapo was reigning, and he was an image of a musician of that time.

    So how were you able to convince them?

    She was the one that eventually convinced me that I was the only one that she wanted to marry. At that time, I could not defend myself because there was nothing that I had to say.

    So many years after, what can you say about your marriage?

    I thank God. Marriage is like being in the university. We keep learning. Now, we have beautiful children and living happily. There is no way I could marry another woman because it is an abomination in my family. And I am the last child of my parents. So despite being a musician, I could not marry a second wife. Moreover, I do not even think that I need a second wife. After all, I wouldn’t want my wife to marry two men.

    What do you like most about her?

    I cannot say that there is a particular thing that I like about her. Till date, I have not been able to identify what I love about her. I just know that I am in love with her and that love keeps flowing.

    Is your wife into music too?

    She is not. Yes, she loves my music, but does not go to shows with me. The truth is that she is a housewife; she takes care of the home for us.

    Has your style changed?

    I love wearing white. It shows that one is clean. I like a tidy look and I wear other colours too, but at least 70% of my clothes are white.

    You keep looking younger than your age; what is the secret?

    It is rest of mind. For instance, we just talked about my wife. Marriage to the right person is very important. It helps a man to be organised, but when you are married to many women or to many girlfriends, your health and the health of your business will be affected, and that, of course, will lead to stress which would allow someone to grow old quick. I thank God that my home is settled.

    Apart from music, what other thing appeals to you?

    I love soccer ; I love football. Whenever I return from the office, I sit down in front of the television and watch football. I do not hang out like that because I am always at parties and shows. I am always like running home afterwards, so that I can get there and relax.

    What if a female fan walks up to you and tells you that she loves you, what do you do at that point?

    Well, when they say that, it invariably means that she loves my music. It is not really an expression directed at affections. It is the music that brought the fan and I together, so when she relates with me on that platform, it is the music that she loves not me as a person.

    At the same time, if she actually means to relate to me affectionately on a higher level, then it will be up to me to accept or not. It takes two to tangle. If she does not see me, then no affair will take place. If I do not take her to a hotel, for instance, I will not get to make love to her. So, I must make sure that I am not available for such affair.

    As a musician, has a fan ever embarrassed you?

    Yes, I met a lady one day while I was playing. She stood in front of me romantically and accused me that I was always frowning. She said I should relax and be cheerful and free with her. She was looking for something that she couldn’t get.

    We hear that you identify with COSON, do you think that the body is a solution to musicians?

    I am a Director with COSON. They are doing well. I must say. They are collecting money and sharing among artistes, but I still believe that they can do better. Collecting money is part of it, but the major one is to let the music pay. That is, let us be able to receive money for all the albums that we have done. Let us make piracy a thing of the past.

  • mama’embarrassed when people ask me if I’m a Nigerian

    mama’embarrassed when people ask me if I’m a Nigerian

    The Director-General of the Nigeria Tourism Development Corporation (NTDC), Mrs. Sally Mbanefo, is no doubt a woman of many parts. With over three decades experience working in the boardrooms of various blue chip organisations, she is presently faced with the task of developing the nation’s tourism industry, a task she admits is tough. In this interview with SEGUN AJIBOYE, Assistant Editor, Mama, as she is fondly called, speaks on the challenges of promoting tourism in Nigeria, her love for painting and many other sundry issues. Excerpts:

    How fashionable are you? I used to be very fashionable when I was much younger.

    What happened?

    You know, fashion is comfort. You need to be comfortable, and I won’t wear a mini-skirt and be walking around if I am not comfortable, and be disrespected by people when they look at me. I like respect, so I dress in a way that people will respect me. I want people around me to always take me seriously. I don’t want people to see me from my gender perspective.

    Do you go to parties at all?

    No, I don’t go to parties.

    You are also an artist. Do you still have the time to paint?

    Like I told you, I don’t party, I don’t have friends and I value my time a lot. I have been painting for over 30 years now. Some of my best paintings were done in the 80s when I was in school and had no responsibilities. But with age, the subject matter has changed. I now do a lot more of abstract paintings. Arts keep you out of trouble. When some people have problems, they go drinking or smoking. But as an artist, all you need to do is get engrossed in your work.

    What inspires you?

    My state of mind inspires me a lot. I use my art to glorify God for His blessings. I want to build a school in Lagos for the less-privileged. It would be a vocation and skill-acquisition school. I have spent about 30 years of my life in the west, so it is my own way of saying thank you to the people. It gives me lots of satisfaction. We are already talking with Lagos State to get a land.

    Are you ever bored?

    Never, I am never bored.

    I observed that people around you call you Mama. Why is this so?

    Everybody calls me Mama. I think it is because I have a mothering tendency. Even older people call me Mama because they know I have a big heart. I will always forgive people, no matter what you do to me. And over the years, people realise this.

    Are you close to your mum in any way?

    I am close to my mum; I have many mothers here in Nigeria, and I am very close to all of them.

    In what way has this affected your adult life?

    I am very family-oriented. And another thing is my family, the Nwuche family, it is a fantastic family. My husband’s family, the Mbanefo, came twice to my family to take wives. My family is very cosmopolitan.

    You grew up with your paternal grandma. How much of her do you think is you?

    A lot of her is in me. 29, 30, 31,44 CELEB WORLD 14-3-2015.She was always saying her rosary in the car whenever we went out. I never forget that she was a very devout Catholic. I grew up in a convent, living with Reverend Sisters.

    Maybe you would have been a Reverend Sister too?

    Two of my aunties are Reverend Sisters.

    Why did you leave the convent?

    I went abroad to continue my education.

    What are the main challenges of promoting Nigerian tourism?

    The major challenge we face is awareness. You’ll be surprised that people are not even aware that we are well-endowed when it comes to tourism assets. So, making the people to be aware of this is a big challenge. After that, the people need to appreciate the richness of these tourism sites that we have. We have these sites all across the country, and all it needs is just a little touch here and there to have them in perfect states, though some are not all that developed. So the main challenge that flows from that is that I would want the private sector to be an active participant in taking ownership in the development of these tourism sites.

    For instance, we have a company in Lagos, owned by Singaporeans, Indomie, we were able to convince them last year to join hands with us and they said okay, they would like to develop any tourism site in Lagos State. And of course, Badagry was the first to come to my mind. So that is one success story that I can talk about. Yes, it has been difficult to make the people even appreciate that we have these things, but with the help of everybody, because we at the NDDC cannot do it alone, we can together develop our tourism sites and make them destination points for tourists from all over the world. We need to make the world know that our country is not all about Ebola or Boko Haram, that there are several good sides to us as a people.

    What is the role of culture in all of this?

    Apart from the tourism sites, we have another thing going for us, the culture. The culture has been organically developed on its own. We have to know that it is the story of our history. I go round attending these beautiful festivals – the Sango festival, Osun Osogbo festival, New yam festival, Argungu festival. Even in Taraba State, they have this big fish festival, and all of these festivals are beautiful heritage that we can promote to drive our tourism industry. But unless you go to these paces, you may never get to hear about them.

    But we are doing our best to make sure that we create enough awareness around these festivals and make them very attractive for tourists. These are some of the challenges, but we are already making headway. And one of the successful stories is that the diplomatic community has pledged to help us market our tourism to their nationals. What better way to market us to a foreigner. It is better than me going to London to spend billions of naira to do an exhibition where only a few people would attend. This is an indirect international marketing for us. So we have a success story there. It is also important for everybody to know that these festivals are there. And you cannot blame security, because it is everybody’ challenge.

    You talk about getting foreign tourists to come to Nigeria. How do you feel when you hear foreign countries warning their citizens not to come to Nigeria because of security issues?

    That was exactly what I was trying to talk about. But whenever I hear such talk, I am always disappointed and saddened. As the chief promoter of our tourism, it is a clog in the wheel of progress of what I am trying to do. I tell you one thing, terrorism is a global problem. Despite the sophistication of the security network of the US and Europe, they still have terrorism problems. For instance, Israel has been dealing with terrorism since 1946, but that has not in any way stopped them from building on their tourism industry.

    Today, when you talk of spiritual tourism, Israel is one of the largest in the world. Look at the recent terrorists attacks in France. So, for me I think it is unfair for anybody to make such statement about Nigeria. I travel all the time. I just hope we can get the tourism police in place by next year. They will be in the position to issue tour guides to the people, so that they will know that the fact that there is fighting in the North East of the country does not mean there is fighting in the whole country. What I am saying is that terrorism is not peculiar to Nigeria and it should not deter people from coming into the country.

    And of course, the Nigerian government is not folding its arm, it is doing something about it. You are aware that the government is going all out against the insurgents and it has also reached out to other countries in the fight. We have 36 states, so while the government is trying to restore normalcy to the area affected by terrorism, tourists can still go to other parts that are peaceful. That is my job, and that is what I have been doing as the chief tourism officer. For instance, I feel safer when I am in Lagos, not when I am in New York or Johannesburg. So all these things are relative.

    And when you talk of success stories, we scored more than 200 per cent with our handing of the Ebola virus, compared to America. Nigerians all over the world must work with a positive feeling about Nigeria. My children, for instance, each time they go to the UK, they are always proud to say to anybody that they are Nigerians. That is the kind of spirit I want all of us to approach Nigeria.

    So, your kids also help you in marketing Nigeria abroad?

    Exactly, we are all proud to be Nigerians. They are all ambassadors of Nigeria.

    You talked about private sector participation to drive tourism. Aside from Indomie, which other company have you been able to convince?

    For now, they are the only one. But I am talking to Aliko Dangote. We need to talk to people who are opinion leaders in the industry. I am sure if we get three MOUs, others will rush to participate. The oil sector is not moving very well presently. They believe they are doing something, but I know they can do better. Look at Olibiri. Why has any oil firm not made our first oil well a tourism centre? There is nothing to show that Olibiri is the first oil well in the country. That’s why I say the oil industry should take the lead. At the moment, the banks are reluctant because they are not making much money as they used to make.

    But with the fall of the price of oil, I hope people will look at tourism. Then the telecom industry, I have been talking with Hakeem Bello-Osagie. And with people like these, we can drive tourism to create jobs in the country. We want to be the major contributor. I hope that by next year, we would have tourism on the con-current list and make it relevant.

    As the chief marketer of the nation’s tourism industry, how do you feel whenever you travel to Europe and you see Nigerians who don’t know much about their country?

    I am sad when I see them because I feel as if they are lost. Someone like me, for instance, I have been here for more than 30 years since I came back to do my university. And the truth is, I have worked for 28 years as a corporate professional, and I have no regret. I can assure that none of my contemporaries who lives abroad would have risen to the level that I have risen. Those people need to embrace Nigeria. And you see, when you have a heart-to-heart discussion with them they would tell you they miss home. We are a melting pot of varieties in Nigeria, and that is the beauty in us. Nobody tells you because you are light or dark, that you are not a Nigerian. We have a beautiful weather and fantastic people, Nigeria is no doubt one of the best places on earth.  I really wish these people would realign their minds and come back home. And the way the government is going, it wants to attract our people to come back home.

    As the face of the nation’s tourism industry, what informs what you wear?

    The weather of course, this is very important. You know in Europe, when you are getting an apartment, the window is very important. But here, it is not a big deal, because the sun is always shinning. I hope we can have a train ride from Lagos to Makurdi or Calabar for a beautiful scenic ride round the country. There is a tourism site we are trying to launch in Makurdi, and I am looking forward to the day we would have our railway to take you to these places. That is what the government is doing with the new rail system.

    Some of the clothes you wear for photo-shoot depict you as a lover of culture. Is this just a show for the pubic or is it the real you?

    That is the real me. That is how I feel about Nigeria. That is my identity, what I stand for and what I want to project. I think it is important that when you are out there, you need to have an identity. For someone like me, sometimes people think I am a foreigner. But I want to make it clear to everybody that I am very proud to be a Nigerian. Yes, we may have a fault, but if you compare the fault we have to those of other people, you’ll know we are doing well. Look at our women, you see them in top places like MDs of banks. How many women MDs of banks do you see in Europe?  If you think of all that we have, you will be proud to be a Nigerian. I could have sat at my banking job. I was competing to be an MD of a bank, I was already an executive director for 10 years before this job. So, I must have been an executive director for up to 15 years. I was very comfortable.

    There is no iota of discomfort in private business, especially in the banking sector. Your pockets are filled with money. Though you work very hard, but you enjoy your money. It is the desire to add value, the desire to be part of decision-making and after I go home every day, I say to myself that I have contributed my own quota to the development of our nation. I have made money and I know what it is all about, but the truth is that life is not all about money.

    So you gave up all the comfort to take up this job. Why?

    I just told you that money does not drive me. Sure, if it was money, there was no way I would be here. Most times, I’ve had to reach into my savings to keep going, but I am very happy to contribute something to the development of my country. I am happy to have been seen to have something that can move the country forward.

    What is your dream for Nigerian tourism?

    My dream is to see a tourism industry that is private sector-driven.

    In your travels round the country, have you had any particular experience whereby somebody would ask to know if you are indeed a Nigerian?

    They ask me that a lot. And that is part of the inspiration to dress the way I do.

    What does it make you feel when you are asked such a question?

    I feel bad. I know they are looking at my colour. In such cases, I try to speak the few Yoruba or Hausa words that I know. And if it is in the east, I speak my Igbo language to them.

    You speak Igbo. How did you learn this?

    When I was brought back to Nigeria, my parents were going through a divorce at the time, so I was sent to the village to live. The reason for this was that I looked very much like a white girl. The people said this one looked too much like oyinbo. As a matter of fact, my name on my birth certificate was Oyinbo. I was very white, with my hair and everything.

    So, my people wanted to make me a Nigerian. At that time, I didn’t know the value of being made to speak my language. But now, I am convinced that the ground for this job was laid back then. My people believe that language is the deepest thing you can give to your children, so they sent me to the village to learn it.

    But where were you born?

    I was born in England. My mum is Italian-Swiss, but she immigrated to London to study at the London School of Economics. And that was where my parents met.

    You’ve worked with many corporate organisations. How would you describe yourself?

    I am a woman of many parts. I am an artist, a policewoman, I am into oil and gas. And now I am into tourism. But one thing is that in all of these, I made success of all of them. I don’t have any regret in my life. I don’t look back, and as a matter of fact, it is such a strong thing in me that if I forget something at home, I won’t turn back, I would ask the driver to go on. I am always forward looking.

    Was this something you picked up or a training?

    I think it was a kind of training from my years in banking. Banking makes you rugged, visible and a machine. I entered the banking industry straight from the Law School. From the Accounts Department, I moved to operations and 12 years later, I became Company Secretary.

    Which bank was this?

    My first bank job was with Abacus Bank. I did my youth corps with them. From there, I moved to IMB, where I spent 15 whole years, and I moved to a director level. From there I moved to Lafarge. You see, IMB was a training ground for me. IMB was actually First National Bank of Chicago. We were all young girls and were trained by the Chicago team. Lafarge was fabulous for me. It was the first time I would be working outside the’ bank.

    I was head-hunted by Lafarge. They advertised internationally, and I was a local candidate. But I blew them away because they had a lot of crisis. I had just saved the bank from collapse and took them to the market, so that’s a huge advantage for me. Lafarge had similar challenges. They had problem with the staff, they had problem with the shareholders and many more. They were trying to restructure, and that was where I came in. So, the challenge was to restructure the place. I was constantly at Sagamu and Ewekoro because they were always fighting us there. I was successful in handling the problem between the plant at Ewekoro and the management, and I got a title from the king of the place. I was named the Iya Oge of Ewekoro. My movement from IMB to Lafarge was like a lateral move. I came from a big organisation to another big organisation. I got to love the people of the South West, and they gave me a name. I was the first woman to get to an executive position there.

    And just as I was breathing and saying we have made it, Coca-cola came for me. The position was left vacant for three years before I took it up. I was the Director of Public Affairs and Communication (PAC).

    Don’t you think you’ve been lucky?

    I am blessed. God has really blessed me.

    How much of these experiences have you brought to bear on tourism?

    I can say I have not been able to use my full potential. In the private sector, money was always available. But we have to prioritise in government. If you observe, you’ll realise that I have had to slow down on our travels. I will not travel abroad unless there is value to be added to what we are doing. We want the hotels to come and participate in this drive to promote our tourism.

    The potential of domestic tourism is about $40 billion. Imagine, if 20 million Nigerians spend their $2,000 per capital income to travel round the country to enjoy themselves, that gives you $4 billion. The market for our tourism is huge. Tourism must be taken seriously, not only by government, but also by the private sector.

    How true was the story that your staff threatened to embark on a strike?

    There is peace and harmony in the office. And we have always had this, but sometimes, external forces who have self-interest can capitalise to cause trouble, but we nipped it in the bud.

    So, it has been resolved…?

    Yes, my people are at work. There is no problem at all.

  • I am a girl 16, but I look 26 and I’m embarrassed when people call me ‘aunty’

    I’m Bukola. I have a little problem concerning my age and stature. I am a girl 16, but I look like a 26-year-old person, it’s not that I’m very robust nor very tall, but I look big. I always feel embarrassed when everybody calls me ‘aunty’. Ma, What should Ii do? Would cutting my hair short will make me look young?  Thanks.

     

    Dear ‘Aunty’ Bukky, first, let’s look at the advantages of having a big stature. It means that somehow (to a large extent), you’re protected from those small boys who may want to ‘chance’ you. You’re not in their class, so they may not try to take advantage of you. It also means that from your young age, you are being accorded some form of respect, which if well managed, would make you have self-confidence and make you grow into a beautiful woman.

    Bukky, you’re still growing and by the time you’re in your twenties, everything will blend and you would be glad you grew fast. I have a son who is very young but already 6 feet plus. He’s about your age but he towers over most men in the family. I guess he’s probably the tallest in his father’s family and he loves being so tall. In fact, he loves the feeling. He’s going to his second year at Babcock University now and I bet when he came in as a freshman, he couldn’t be ‘chanced’ by anybody because of his height.   Be confident in your stature darling. Confidence helps us deal with the challenges such as this and others in life. If we are confident, we believe in our abilities and feel hopeful that we can achieve our goals. We are also more willing to try new things, and this helps us to learn. Having confidence also means we are more likely to feel comfortable with ourselves and that we have something worthwhile to give. Confidence helps us interact with other people, which makes it easier for us to form relationships. We live in a social world, so our relationships with others are of considerable importance to our wellbeing. Look at yourself as that young, beautiful young woman and carry yourself with joy. Don’t go cutting your hair. Weave it into different beautiful styles and shine. Go girl!