Tag: Family

  • Motorcyclist’s killing: Family rejects ‘out-of-court’ settlement

    •NSCDC: we didn’t make such move

    The family of a commercial motorcyclist, Michael Ogunrinde, who was allegedly killed by officials of the Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) in Ado-Ekiti, the Ekiti State capital, has alleged that the corps is trying to force “the family to settle out-of-court”.

    About three weeks ago, a commercial motorcycle conveying an NSCDC official was hit by a car and the official died.

    It was learnt that the motorcyclist and some colleagues went to the NSCDC headquarters to explain what happened. They were allegedly beaten up by NSCDC officials and Ogunrinde was killed.

    Three NSCDC officials, Ajayi Adesanmi (39), Adeleye Odunayo (34) and Ayeni Oluwaseun (35), are on trial for Ogunrinde’s murder.

    Speaking with The Nation, the late Ogunrinde’s wife, Caroline, said: “They (NSCDC officials) approached us through a lawyer, who showed us some documents and said we should accept some money and let peace reign.

    “The move is insulting to the spirit of my husband. The family rejects every move to settle out-of-court. The move is meant to ridicule us, but we cannot be ridiculed.

    “The last time we were in court, their lawyer showed us a paper they prepared in respect of the move. But we told him that we would not have anything to do with such a move.

    “They said they had agreed to pay us N50,000, the hospital/mortuary bills and all expenses incurred in the burial. We just smiled at them. They want us to accept N50,000 for a whole life!

    “Another lawyer has told us that an out-of-court settlement would not be possible, as it is a state matter, which any independent move cannot compromise. Any move they make now cannot stop the court process, which is already on.”

    One of the deceased’s daughter said: “We have told them there won’t be anything like that. If they could take a soul in a hurry, they cannot be in a hurry to attend to the case in court. We have to finish the case they started.”

    NSCDC spokesman Afolabi Tolulope denied the alleged moves, saying “such will be opposed to the ongoing court process”.

    Afolabi said: “Out-of-court settlement is a constitutional right of the family. If they want it, fine, but the corps is not aware of the rumoured steps. The commercial motorcyclists invaded our office and destroyed government property. These offences are punishable under the law. Out-of-court settlement may not be ruled out but the command is yet to be notified.”

     

  • Family rejects exclusion from Aragbiji stool

    The Lagbua family in Iragbiji, headquarters of Boripe Local Government Area of Osun State, has rejected the state government’s approval excluding the family from the list of ruling houses to ascend the Aragbiji stool.

    In a letter dated May 20, 2013 to Governor Rauf Aregbesola, through its solicitors, Ade Fajemiroye and Co., the family said: “We respectfully but emphatically and unequivocally reject the decision of the state Executive Council taken on April 3 to exclude the Lagbua family as one of the ruling houses into the Aragbiji Chieftaincy Declaration.”

    The family said the government’s decision communicated to it through a letter with reference number CD.4/1/Vol.IX/837 dated April 25, 2013 from the Office of the Permanent Secretary in the Ministry of Local Government and Chieftaincy Affairs was unacceptable.

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Understanding the family (4)

    Dear Reader,

    In this concluding segment of Family Forum for this month, we will be looking at what God’s Word has to say about the Mystery of One Flesh.

    Let’s examine some of the things we can learn from the mystery of one flesh, in understanding the family.

    Treat Your Spouse As Yourself

    An understanding of the mystery of one flesh will make husband and wife treat each other the same way. What you cannot do to yourself, don’t do to your spouse. Treat your spouse the way you want your spouse to treat you. Care for your spouse the same way you want him/her to care for you.

    The Word of God says: For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church (Ephesians 5:29). The American Heritage Dictionary defines “nourish” as “to provide with food or other substances necessary for life and growth; feed. To foster the development of, promote.” It defines “cherish” as “treat with affection and tenderness; hold dear. To keep fondly in mind.” A husband and wife should foster the development of each other, promote each other, treat each other with affection and tenderness, hold each other dear, and keep each other fondly in mind. It takes an understanding of the mystery of one flesh to be able to do this.

    Make No Provision For Divorce

    Do all within your power to avoid divorce. God’s Word says: For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously (Malachi 2:16). God hates putting away! What God hates, you should hate too. What God has joined together, nothing should put asunder (Matthew 19:5-6; Mark10:9).

    When there is a challenge in your home, divorce should not be the first option that comes to mind. Rather, it is important to first identify and analyze the challenge. Then, make proposals and choose a possible solution. This way, most problems can be solved. What you don’t confront you never conquer. Be committed to deal with problems, not walk away from them. Divorce can be likened to marital amputation. It causes a lot of grief, pain, and wound that only God can heal. Even when a wound is healed, the scar remains, and in most cases, for life. Make no plans for divorce. Remember, prevention is better than cure.

    The breakdown of the family unit is one of the greatest calamities our society faces today. The partners go through untold agonies, not to talk of the shattered lives of children, who go through turmoil and devastation. Probably you are reading this article and have been considering divorce, according to you, because there is no way out. Hold it! Who knows, this might be the reason God gave you the opportunity of reading this article. Or, are you already divorced? Do not allow a sense of condemnation to overwhelm and destroy your colorful future. God is a Restorer. Do you know a miracle can still take place in your life and family to bring about a restoration? And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm … (Joel 2:25).

    The general principle is: no divorce. But if you are already divorced, God picks you up where you are. If you are re-married now, God recognized the marriage relationship you are in now as binding. What you did in the past is past, ask God for forgiveness and go on from there. You need to make it a biblical relationship.

    Share Your Bodies With One Another

    Husbands and wives should learn to share their physical bodies with one another. After marriage, the physical body of the husband belongs to the wife, and that of the wife belongs to the husband. Both of them are to enjoy satisfaction from each other’s body. They are not expected to refrain their bodies from one another anymore. See what the scripture says in I Corinthians 7:4-5: The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other… Man and wife, understand that your physical union is your creative power. God created sex, and it is a key part of our lives. It is meant to be enjoyed exclusively by a husband and his wife after marriage. This physical union is what produces children. Sex is to be enjoyed, not endured. Don’t use it to punish your spouse!

    In marriage, sex is the ultimate in oneness between a husband and wife. Your sex life affects your attitude positively or negatively. Sexual tension is the foundation of crises in many marriages and homes, but it can be avoided. My husband says when a marriage lacks romance, it starts suffering disintegration. Never give your body to your spouse because you want to get something from him/her. In marriage, never be found prostituting your body; it is perverted sex!

    When a husband and wife are truly united in body, it becomes easy to overcome temptations from outside. Remember that sex is only proper in the context of marriage. Outside of marriage, sex is sin (I Corinthians 6:9). In actual fact, it is the scarlet sin, and it sinks destinies! Your destiny shall not sink!

    However, for you to enjoy family life and your marriage according to the design of the Almighty God, then you have to accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. By so doing, you confess your sins to Him and tell you will not go back to them again. Are you ready to give Him your life? If you are, please say this prayer with me: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom”.

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)

  • Family of detained businessman sues IGP, others for N1b

    Where is Lagos businessman Boniface Okonkwo? This is the question members of his family are seeking an answer to.

    They said he was arrested by Police which have chosen to maintain silence about his whereabouts.

    Okonkwo’s family has taken the case before the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) High Court, seeking among others, an order compelling the police to release him unconditionally and N1billion “compensatory damages” against the defendants, for his “illegal arrest, unlawful detention, torture, embarrassment and continued detention.”

    Okonkwo was said to have been seized from his 1 Amusa Street, Ilasamanja, Mushin, Lagos home on July 13 by men of the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) Force Criminal Investigation Department (FCID), Force Headquarters, Abuja.

    The applicant alleged, in a supporting affidavit to the fundamental rights enforcement application filed by his lawyer, Godstime Onyeakosi, that some policemen stormed his house in a commando fashion, shot into the air to prevent the intervention of his neighbour and manhandled him before taking him to Lagos State Police Command, Ikeja, where he was briefly detained and later told why he was arrested.

    The detained businessman’s brother, Sylvanus, stated in the supporting affidavit that the police told them that his brother was arrested upon a petition written to the IGP by a firm, Fortress Solicitors, who claimed to be acting for a businessman, Emeka Offor.

    He stated that the substance of the petition was to the effect that Okokwo allegedly “authored a defamatory matter concerning Emeka Offor and published same to the whole world, particularly Oraitife indigenes all over the world, using the internet.”

    Sylvanus averred that his brother has been in police detention, in an unknown location, since July 13 when he was seized from his house in Lagos. He said although Okonkwo was earlier taken to the Lagos Police Command, they were told he has since been moved to Abuja, with all his means of communication, including his telephones confiscated.

    He further averred that prior to his arrest, Okonkwo had received a letter dated June 28, 2013 from the law firm of Jeph C. Njikonye & Co, requesting him to among others, retract the alleged defamatory publication against Offor, in national dailies and the internet within 24 hours, failing which he would be sued.

    Sylvanus said the letter, purportedly written on behalf of Offor, also requested Okonkwo to unequivocally tender apology to Offor and publish it in the same media.

    He stated that his brother responded to the letter, denying any wrong doing and faulting the author’s claims.

    He stated that since his brother was taken to Abuja, nothing has been heard from him. He said the police has refused to contact his family about his whereabouts; his state of health, and whether he is still alive or dead.

    Sylvanus stated that efforts by the family to locate him has yielded no fruit.

    “His relatives have visited all known police stations in Abuja, especially, the Ant:-Robbery Unit of the FCID, Abuja. But every attempt to see the applicant (Okonkwo) was rebuffed by the police.

    Sylvanus also raised fears about his brother’s health, his many businesses that have been left unattended to, among others. He argued that the petition allegedly being investigated by the police and on which basis his brother was being held, is frivolous and meant to witch hunt the applicant.

    He contended that continued detention of the applicant without trial, amounted to a violation of his rights as guaranteed by the Constitution.

    Named with the IGP as respondents include the Deputy Commissioner of Police, SARS, FCID, Abuja and Offor.

    The applicant is praying the court to declare his arrest and continued detention as unlawful, unwarranted and gross abuse of his right to freedom of liberty and dignity of persons.

    He also seeks an order of perpetual injunction restraining the respondents and their agents from further re-arresting, detaining or torturing him and in any way disturbing his lawful movement and activities.

    Offor has denied knowlegde of the applicant’s arrest and detention.

    His lawyer, Jeph Njikonye admitted writing the June 28 letter, asking the applicant to retract “his defamatory publication.”

    He told The Nation that he was not aware of any development thereafter. He also denied knowledge of the suit.

    “Yes, we authored the letter of June 28. We also warned him of the possibility of our client seeking legal redress. But I am just hearing from you that he has been arrested.

    “We are also not aware he has gone to court, because we have not been served with the processes.

    There is no problem, if we are served and we are instructed by our client to react, we will not hesitate to do that,” Njikonye said.

     

  • Understanding the family (3)

    Dear Reader,

    Today is another great opportunity to bring God’s Word your way, which will turn your life into a wonder. I have been able to explain to you the family unit, marriage relationship and marriage versus family.

    This week, I shall be sharing with you what it takes to live as a family and family structure.

    Living as a Family

    After marriage comes the marital life or the life experience of a couple. They no more live like single individuals. Changes have occurred and are still occurring. Each party has to now consider his/her partner and not only him/herself.

    After marriage, children are added (either by birth or adoption) and additional parties (related either by blood or association) come into the home. A family is then established. Families are products of marriages. One leads to the other.

    Family

    A family is a group of people affiliated by blood and /or marriage. It is the central unit of the Church and a nation. It is a fundamental social group in society, typically consisting of a man and woman (known as husband and wife) and their offspring.

    Whereas, a family consists of a group of persons sharing common ancestry, marriage consists of a man and a woman, known as husband and wife, who share common goals and values, have a long-term commitment to one another and live together.

    Family Life

    Family life is the manner of living of a group of people, who share common ancestry. It is the manner of living in a household, the manner of living of a group of people affiliated by blood and marriage. It is the way in which parents, children, and close relations live.

    Incidentally, no individual on earth, whether married or single, dropped from heaven. Everyone on earth, young or old, rich or poor, male or female, black or white, came from one family or another, from one lineage or another, are connected to one person or the other genetically or by association. Issues on family and family life, therefore, affect everyone on earth.

    The Family Structure

    The Bible says: For every house is builded by some man; but he that built all things is God (Hebrews 3:4).

    The word “house” in the above passages is not referring to a physical structure, but to a family structure – the individuals who make up the home. It is man’s responsibility to build his/her house. You build by organizing and administering the individuals under your roof.

    In 1Timothy 3:12, the Bible says: Let the deacons be the husband of one wife, ruling (administering) their children and their own houses well.

    The family structure requires effective administration. When this is lacking, families in turn produce individuals who tear down and destroy the society. The essence of the family, therefore, is to create an atmosphere or environment for effective administration and preparation of individuals, so they can grow and properly pursue the plan of God for their lives.

    “Charity”, they say, “begins at home.” It doesn’t end there though; it only begins from there. This means the home is where the character and destiny of an individual should begin and take proper shape. A typical biblical example of this is the case of Abraham. In Genesis 18:19, God speaking about Abraham said: For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.

    Abraham had a grasp of God’s purpose for the family. By that understanding, he was able to order his household aright. The result of that was that God was pleased with him and ensured that Abraham and his household were successful in all they did. Till today, Christians the world over still identify with Abraham. If God were to comment on your marriage or family today, would He say something positive about it?

    The family is the foundational block for the society, while marriage is the foundational block for the family. Satan always targets marriages to destroy them. This is because to destroy marriages would mean to destroy families, and to destroy families would mean to destroy the Church, the society, and the nation. But we must not allow this to happen.

    God established the family as the first and most fundamental element of the human society. Marriage is a foundational institution that existed before all other institutions. It is the oldest institution in the world. God is a God of priorities. He established the institution of marriage before the Church. He first set up marriage, before He came down to fellowship with man in the cool of the day (Genesis 2:18-25; 3:8).

    Although every house and family is built by some man or woman, but for any house or family to stand the test of time, an understanding of what the family stands for must be grasped. Also, each family must be founded and built on the principles and master plan of God, the Originator.

    For you to have a good and a stable family structure, you must first of all surrender your life to Christ, because He is the Originator of the family and marriage. Are you willing to give Him a chance in your life? Are you ready to let Him have His way over you? If you do, please say this prayer of faith with me: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom”.

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)

  • Understanding the family (2)

    Dear Reader,

    Last week, I started a teaching on Understanding The Family, and we examined the family unit and marriage relationship. This week, we will be examining, Marriage Versus Family.

    Marriage Versus Family

    Fredrick K. C. Price said, “Marriage is a divine ordinance. Without marriage as a divine ordinance, you cannot have a family. You may have a group of people living in the same house, but you cannot have a family. You will have a living arrangement, but not godly relationships.”

    In other words, if there is no marriage, there can be no family, because there is a decent order and process to follow in establishing a family. The Bible admonishes us: Let all things be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40).

    The marriage relationship, though essential to the family unit, differs from family relationship. Let’s see how:

    Firstly, marriage is between two parties, man and woman, husband and wife. It is between two people of the opposite sex only. It is important to make this point very clear here, especially in these “modern” days of “same sex marriages”. Even though same sex marriages may be acceptable to the society, it is not acceptable to God. For: … Male and female created he them (Genesis 1:27). Therefore shall a man …cleave unto his wife… (Genesis 2:24).

    Notice the words “male”, “female”, “man”, and “wife” in the above scriptures. These all point to two people of the opposite sex, not same sex. God is a God of details. To have God’s kind of marriage, things must be done His own way. Following the crowd and doing what everybody else is doing can never make for success in marriage. Caution! Caution!! Caution!!! God warns in His Word: …Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate (homosexuals), nor abusers of themselves with mankind … shall inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).

    To go against the Word of God, makes life to be against you! The scriptures cannot be broken. To attempt to break scriptures, is to be broken in life. Those who make light of God’s Word are naturally victims in life.

    Secondly, marriage is a covenant, resulting in a fusion, a blending, and a lifelong relationship between one man and one woman. The husband and wife relationship is established by covenant.

    Marriage is not just a good idea, it is God’s idea. God instituted it; it is divine. It is not a cultural thing, but a scriptural thing. It is not a product of man’s arrangement, but God’s arrangement.

    A family tie, however, is a common ancestral or associational bond resulting in a connecting cord between the individuals within that same family. Its existence is not necessarily by their own volition. That is, you really have no say in deciding which family to belong to. And Judah said unto his brethren … he is our brother and our flesh… (Genesis 37:26-27).

    Thirdly, marriage is by choice; each party chooses to become bonded. In a family, however, each member is bonded as a result of their common ancestry, whether or not they choose to. In Genesis 28:2, Isaac told Jacob his son: Arise, go to Padan-aram, to the house of Bethuel thy mother’s father; and take thee a wife from thence of the daughters of Laban thy mother’s brother.

    The marriage relationship in which you find yourself, is a product of your choice, and choices are so important. To a great extent, they determine the flavour of our lives.

    On the other hand, the family into which you are born, is not a product of your choice. The relationship between children and parents is established by birth. You do not choose who your father or mother would be, before you are born. Or did you? You cannot change your father, neither can you change your mother. Nonetheless, the good news is that God never makes mistakes. Whatever family you are born into is not accidental, God did it on purpose, and it is for your good. Don’t ever wish you were born into another family. The family into which you are born is the best, for you to fulfil your reason for existence. Get excited! You are born in due season.

    Don’t ever despise the family into which you were born. No matter the challenges there, God might have sent you there for such a time as this. As you handle those challenges effectively, you will emerge a champion.

    Fourthly, marriage is the foundation for the family. A marriage is entered into by choice, and then grows into a family unit. The principles that keep the marriage standing, must flow into the lifestyle of family members. This is because in a marriage, an individual makes a choice for him/herself. But in establishing a family, the individual is bringing loved ones and more individuals together, to partake of the either healthy environment created or painful experiences being endured (Genesis 47:9). Marriage and family are meant to be enjoyed, not endured. God is still in the business of making successful your marriage. He will restore and help you to make things right again, when you accept Him through His Son Jesus Christ and become born again. If you will like to be born again and begin to enjoy God’s help and peace in your home, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into your Kingdom”.

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Understanding the family

    Dear Reader,

    I count it a great privilege to bring God’s Word your way in this wonderful column. I want to let you know that God’s intervention for you this month, is a done deal. All through this month, via the Word of God, I will be sharing with you, Understanding The Family.

    So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth … (Genesis 1:27-28).

    No nation can be better than the health of the individual families that make up that nation, because the central unit of any nation and any people, tribe or race, even the smallest nation, is the family. It stands as a fundamental social group of a typical society.

    Mother Theresa, the great saintly woman of God and founder of the Order of the Missionaries of Charity, when asked what the solution to world peace was, said, “Let every one go home and love their families.” She was literally saying that the chaos in the world, today, has its foundation in the way the family structure and values are being misunderstood and misused.

    The Family Unit

    The word “family” in the Longman’s Dictionary of Contemporary English means: a group of people who are closely related to each other, especially mother, father, and their children representing the nuclear family. There is also, however, the extended family set-up, which include aunts, uncles, grandparents, distant relations, etc.

    The family unit can also be defined as two or more people who share common goals and values, have a long-term commitment to one another, a common ancestry, and usually reside in the same dwelling place, under one roof or live in the same house.

    Another word for “family” from the Bible is “household” or “house of” as in Psalm 115:12. Speaking about God’s desire for the family circle, it says: … He will bless the house of Israel; he will bless the house of Aaron. Also, Genesis 18:19 says: For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him …

    A household has much more than just husband, wife, and children, but can refer to all who live under that roof and authority of the householder or owner of the house. Such persons may include close relations, distant relations, in-laws, servants, housemaids and domestic staff (some people have their drivers, gardeners, security personnel, etc, living with them under the same roof, and treat them as members of their family).

     

    The Marriage Relationship

    Marriage is the legal union of a man and a woman as husband and wife. It is the foundation on which the lives and relationship of family members are initiated or built.

    The Longman’s Dictionary defines marriage as “a relationship between two people, who are married or who have been joined together as husband and wife according to the law, custom, or church demands.”

    Although having children is one of the blessings of marriage, marriage means much more than just having children or co-habiting with someone of the opposite sex. Marriage is actually a covenant, a fusion, a blending of a man and a woman in a lifelong, inseparable relationship. It is an agreement and commitment of two people before witnesses. It is a relational structure through which a man and a woman join as husband and wife, become one flesh, and together rule in earthly dominion.

    God is the originator of the first marriage. In Genesis 2:18, the Bible says: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

    The first miracle ever that Jesus performed during His earthly ministry was at a marriage ceremony at Cana of Galilee, where He turned water into wine, thereby restoring the missing joy and excitement in that marriage (John 2:1-11).

    Does your marriage seem to be joyless right now? Do not lose hope. God who did it at Cana, will do it again in your life, and will give you a miracle, because He is still a miracle worker! Expect a miracle! However, you must be ready to obey His instructions, like they did at the wedding in Cana, before their water was turned into wine.

    God, as the Originator of marriage, is the Foundation for a successful marriage. You cannot enjoy success in your marriage except you accept Him through His Son Jesus Christ and become born again. If you will like to be born again now, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom”.

     

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!

     

    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437; 07094254102

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored)

    The Nation Saturday July 13, 2013

     

  • Family government (3)

    Dear Reader,One truth you need to know is that your children, in actual sense, do not belong to you, but to God.  He has simply put them in your charge and made you their caretaker.  That is why we will be examining the aspect of CHILD TRAINING.
    Children constitute immediate members of the family government after the woman.  Both the man and the woman have a joint responsibility to perform, in training their children.
    They both have different roles to play in the family government, in order to ensure lasting success and excitement in the family.  Just as it took both the man and the woman to bring about the birth of the child, so also, are they expected to rear him or her together.
    God’s Word in Psalm 127:3-5 says: Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.  As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.  Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.  Children, as members of the family government, are additional blessings from God Himself, sent to spice up your family.  Children are sent to add colour and meaning to your family government.
    Can you imagine a nation having a president, governors, ministers and commissioners but no people?  There will not be much governing to do.  This case can be likened to the blessings of having children in the family.  They are rewards and “arrows”.  An arrow is a lethal fighting weapon that is used for various purposes.  Children in the hands of God, can be likened to such lethal weapon that can be used to destroy the works of the devil.  Verse 5 says: they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.  They are blessings from God that are invaluable.
    Therefore, you have a responsibility to prepare them the way skilled craftsmen fashion arrows, at the blacksmith’s workshop.  You have to carefully and patiently groom them to become arrows as faithful and responsible adults in the area of business, education, legislature and gospel promotion.
    For instance, Daniel was not a preacher, but a politician, yet he was righteous and upheld the name of Jehovah in Daniel 5:11-12.  Joseph was a prime minister, who also upheld integrity in Genesis 39:8-9 and Genesis 41:38-41.  Other examples include Samuel in I Samuel 3:19 and Timothy as a Bishop in I Timothy 4:14. These are some examples of men who were brought up in homes where God’s laws were taught, thereby fashioning them to become arrows in God’s hands.
    Two major tools for training your child are: LOVE and CONTROL. These two are of equal importance.  You cannot control a child you do not love, and you cannot effectively love a child you do not control.  You need 100% of both in training your child.  God’s Word in Luke 18:16 says: But Jesus called them to Him and said, let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God  and Mark 10:16 says: And he took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them. These are practical examples of how to demonstrate love to your children.  It summarily involves you developing a mutual and trustworthy relationship with them.  Let them know that you love them in your actions and words, when you are teaching, training or disciplining them.
    Children are very sensitive, so if your actions and words do not portray that you love them, they will doubt, you even if you say so.  Treat them respectfully as little people and not as inferiors.  Remember, they are very important members of the family government too!  Never be too proud to say, “I’m sorry” to your child, when you’ve made a mistake.  Be a sure example to your children always.  Don’t tell them to do what you won’t do yourself. Also, allow them to learn by examples.  Children learn faster this way.  Remember, children need love, especially when they don’t deserve it.
    Control, on the other hand, means to have authority and power in order to direct, manage or rule.  Love without control will lead to destruction (I Samuel 2:22, 29). Children should be taught early in life, how to submit to higher authorities.  Exercising control in training your child should be done with patience, using yourself as an example for the child to follow.
    Having read this teaching, it is important for you to accept the Author of every family government, by confessing Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour.  God wants the best for your family and He can turn your home around for the better, if you let Him.  Accepting Him, will open you up to His help.  If you will like to confess Jesus Christ as your Lord now and become born again, please say this prayer: “Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  I cannot help myself.  Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood.  Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God.  I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today.  Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom”.

    Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name!
    Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:
    E-mail: faithdavid@yahoo.com Tel.  No: 07026385437; 07094254102

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  • Lagos CJ, AG harp on family, societal values

    The Lagos State Judicial Service Commission has organised an induction for new customary court judges to equip them with the task of their office.

    Seventy-nine judges were appointed. They took the oath of office at the Law Reform Commission, Ikeja GRA.

    The theme of the workshop was Justice at the grassroots.

    The Chief Judge,Justice Ayotunde Phillips, and Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice, Ade Ipaye, noted the importance of societal values at the grassroots, urging the judges to ensure that the social fabric of the family and the society is not broken in justice administration.

    They told the judges that since their duty is community based, “they must understand the people on who they are going to administer justice and the social worries of the community” in which they would be operating.

    Justice Phillips told the judges that they must dispense justice with fairness and be impartial in matters brought before them.

    She said: “The bedrock of justice delivery is the doctrine of fair hearing. You must, therefore, be impartial at all time because justice must not just be done, but must be seen to be done.”

    She also as said the first point of contact with the law by the people at the grassroots, they may find themselves presiding over matters affecting their relations, friends among others. They “must remain resolute, upright and incorruptible at all time. As customary court judges, you wield enormous powers but I will implore you to use such powers judiciously.”

    She urged them to ensure that honesty, uprightness, integrity and fairness remained their watchword while discharging their duties.

    Ipaye, who was represented by the Administrative General of the Ministry of Justice, Mrs. Bisi Odumosu, told the judges that the fortunes of customary court administration and its success rested on their shoulders.

    He told them that their primary responsibility, therefore, is to administer justice in accordance with customary laws, adding that a key component of customary justice is reconciliation, which he urged them to employ at all time givien the nature of the society in which they are going to operate.

    The commissioner told them that the cases they would handle under the customary law would range from matrimonial matters, child custody, health matters to other minor offences. He said they should give consideration to matters bordering on the welfare of the child and that other fundamental considerations must guide their decisions. He said customary court members have a huge role to play in the judicial system.

    “Being the closest to the people, you all have a peculiar vacuum to fill in the judiciary and, by extension, the society,” he added.

    Chief Magistrate Adebisi Femi-Segun who presented a paper on the “General overview of Customary Court Law 2011”, pointed out that the recognition of the need to simplify and demystify the administration of justice for effectiveness and efficacy continues to enhance the necessity for the continued existence and improvement of the customary courts.

    According to her, the cornerstone of proceedings in the customary courts, as in other courts, is the achievement of substantial justice expected to be arrived at without the deployment of technicalities, or complex, intricate and, at times, confusing rules of procedure. She told the judges that the implementation of the Customary Law of Lagos 2011 requires them to exercise good judgement and discretion, urging them to rise up to the responsibility and challenges that their new office demands.

    She advised them to study the customary laws and to resolve to implement the rules without the encumbrances of technicalities.

    Justice Joseph Oyewole, whose paper was entitled, “Family Law-The custody of children as it relates to the Customary Law 2011 vis-à-vis the Child Rights Law 2007″, said in any matter relating to the guardianship and custody of children under the customary law, the interest and welfare of the children shall take paramount consideration.

    Justice Oyewole argued that where it appears to a court that an order that was made by a court should be reviewed in the interest of a child, the court may, of its own motion, or on the application of any of the child (children) relatives or guardian, vary or discharge such order.

    According to him, the Child Right Law 2007 was enacted to enforce the rights of the child and to amend and consolidate all legislations relating to the protection and welfare of the child in Lagos State, and for other connected and incidental purposes.

    Justice Oyewole posited that on the issues of the child, judges are uniquely placed to promote the well being of society and ensure the attainment of law and order in the society, adding: “It is a divine mandate that must not be compromised for any reason.”

    Chief Magistrate Olufolake Oshin, who delivered a paper on “Fair Hearing and Practices”, told the judges that fair hearing is a sine-quo-non to natural justice. She said that Section 36 of the 1999 Constitution confers on every citizen with a grievance the right to access to the courts. She said the yardstick for accessing whether or not this has been done “is that the hearing must consist of the whole hearing when tested from the point of view of a reasonable person who was present at the trial, whether from his observation, justice has been done in the case.”

    She said the right to fear hearing as enshrined in Section 33 of the Constitution seeks to ensure that both parties are in equal position to plead their case adequately before judgement is pronounced, adding, “there is no gainsaying that judicial officers must do equal justice to all parties. Concern of the courts has always been in pursuit of real as opposed to cosmetic justice.”

    She advised the customary court judges thus: “Under the common law, we as judicial officers are under a legal duty to all manner of people coming before us without let or hindrance, without fear or favour. By the nature of our duty, we are bound only to look at the facts of the case before us and apply the law in the way we understand it.”

    The Deputy Chief Registrar, Legal, Ikeja High Court, Mrs. Abiola Oladunni Soladoye, whose paper dwelt extensively on the Code of Conduct for judicial officers, said: “For an effective adjudication in the customary courts, it is an essential requirement of justice and a requisite for public confidence in the judicial process that customary court judges must display a high sense of ethical conduct.”

    Mrs. Soladoye warned: “A failure to adhere to these standards and value would always lead to failure of administration of justice with the result that there would be mistrust and loss of public confidence in the courts.”

     

  • Man, 22, runs mad, sets family house on fire

    •Father escapes death

     

    TWENTY-two-year-old man, Emeka Ewenike, last week set the 6-bedroom house of his father ablaze, completely razing the building and property worth millions of naira.

    His father, Jeremiah, however, escaped being burnt to ashes.

    The incident occured at Umuazu village, Nise in Awka-South Local Government Area of Anambra State.

    Eyewitnesses said the fire started around 11.30pm last Wednesday.

    Economic trees, PHCH cables and other valuables close to the building were also razed.

    But for the intervention of villagers, especially the inferno would have spread to other buildings since Emeka and his father strangely raised no alarm.

    Villagers said the father and son were watching the fire as the building and property went up in flames.

    The duo even reportedly started jubilating as the fire spread.

    When asked why he set the building on fire, Emeka became incoherent.

    Villagers said he lost his senses after excessive consumption of Indian hemp.

    Efforts to speak with father and son proved abortive.

    Emeka was said to be cooling off in a centre where mentally deranged patients are treated at Nri in Anaocha Local Government Area.

    Though the Police Public Relations Officer in the State, Mr. Emeka Chukwuemeka, was not reachable, a police source confirmed the incident.