WE all like to have things our way. This, however, does not apply in the game of love because it takes two hearts to move the love ship forward. Things must therefore be done in proportion to have a balance. When this is not attainable, then you may just have to give the other person some breathing space.
So, when your partner begins to show some distant behaviour then it could just be a temporary or a permanent break. Interestingly, men have a different emotional process when it comes to attraction and getting closer to a woman.
Once you know how to make a man feel attracted to you on physical, emotional, and intellectual levels, then your relationship will largely take care of itself.
When Kunle lost his third girlfriend, Morenike, about two years ago, he vowed not to take women seriously any more. She played a lot of pranks and he preferred not to share his pains with anyone. Gradually, he realised that loneliness was worse and decided to lift the emotional embargo. Of course, he was not going to allow any lily-livered girl to take advantage of his heart and must therefore tread cautiously.
Casting his love net into the sea, the search began in earnest. Unfortunately, the net was not in good shape, it was tattered and so the targets could not stay. He tried and tried again, but, sadly, the few hearts that moved around were not mature or acceptable by his standards. Then one morning, this Romeo got a call that made his heart skip a bit in the emotional direction. “Hello… good morning. Please I have a package from your sister in South Africa. She asked me to drop it for you, when can I do this?”
Her voice swept him off his feet immediately and he told the babe at the other end to bring the package immediately. Could this be the chosen one? Only time would tell. And, in the interim, he tried to make the house look very neat and plan a romantic first encounter.
The door bell finally rang about two-and-half hours later and happily he opened the door. “I was too shocked by what I saw; the voice just did not correspond with the face that was staring at me.” In a jiffy, he did a random assessment and knew that this was no Cinderella or the girl of his dream. The dress and her pair of shoes were awful; it was obvious that she had no sense of style. Her eyeballs were damned too big, and shapeless was the word.
He continued: “I didn’t know how long I stood there, staring at her in disappointment, and then her sweet voice brought me back again. ‘I am sorry, hope I am not in the wrong place, or have I done something wrong?’ ” she queried.
Oh dear! The sonorous voice was at work once more and he invited her to step inside the house. “We talked for hours and I realised that we shared a lot in common.”
That was how their love story began and they became inseparable in a short while. “We saw ourselves on a regular basis and we shared every detail without holding anything back from each other.
“Together, we worked on her appearance and, today, you cannot believe the transformation that has taken place. I realised that she was even prettier than the other girls that I dated in the past. The only difference was that she got frustrated with matters of the heart and refused to take care of her looks. By the time I came into her life, she became a different person and that happiness radiated in every aspect of her life,” Kunle enthused.
On a daily basis, people run into hearts that they fall in love with for one reason or the other. Sometimes, it could be your looks, attitude or a little detail that you never really cared about.
You also find a lot of people who are confused when it comes to choosing a partner. They have some qualities that they want and once the person does not possess these qualities, then there is no going further. What Mr. A likes would definitely be different from what Mr. B likes. Yet, there are ways to identify some areas of similarities which may set the sparks.
So, how do you go about falling in love? you ask. That’s hard to say because people find love in different ways and there is no hard or fast rule to follow. However, there are some things you can do to let yourself open up to all the possibilities love has to offer.
The first key to falling in love is finding someone to fall in love with. The person you love will most likely be your best friend or someone that you have known for a while. Even though some experience “love at first sight” and it sounds romantic, but the truth of the matter is that it isn’t very smart. The use of the term “fall” implies that the process is in some way inevitable, uncontrollable, risky, irreversible, and that it puts the lover in a state of vulnerability.
