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  •  The fall guy

    Poor Jim Obazee. He was until Monday boss of the Financial Reporting Council (FRC). He lost his job barely 48 hours after the respected General Overseer (G.O) of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor E.A. Adeboye, stepped down for Pastor Joseph Obayemi as G.O, RCCG Nigeria. If only Obazee had known, he would not have been bent on implementing the code of corporate governance for not-for-profit organisations to which churches, mosques and civil society groups belong. Obazee appears to be a stickler for the rule.

    He believes that things should be done in accordance with the law. Remember his spat with former Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) Governor Sanusi Lamido Sanusi? Obazee insisted that CBN is subject to the scrutiny of the Financial Reporting Council (FRC). He asked that the CBN  should open its books to the FRC for vetting. Since that was under another era – an era in which Sanusi was not favoured by those in power – Obazee had his way not only in dealing with Sanusi, who is now the emir of Kano, but with those in the banking sector.

    Obazee’s stock grew. After all, he was doing the job for which he was appointed. Before his coming, nobody knew anything about FRC. His activities brought the council to the limelight. Initially, we all mistook the council for the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria (FRCN) because of the similarity in their acronym. He changed all that as he gave FRC its own image within a short time of coming to office. He was passionate about his job and he insisted on playing by the rules. He threw the book at those who questioned his actions, telling them that, that is what the law says. He forgot that laws are made for man and not man for the law.

    His insistence on implementing the governance code for religious organisations, many of which have today become profit-making bodies, may have cost him his job. He might have had good intentions on insisting that churches and mosques play by the rules, but he forgot that in a society like ours, there are exceptions to the rule. In a society where mega churches and mosques abound, the law cannot but be silent. This is what Obazee did not know. If he knew, he would have trodden softly in enforcing the law against them. He also forgot one thing and that is that virtually all our leaders are the spiritual children of these powerful clerics. So, how do you expect a spiritual child to correct his spiritual father?

    The odds were against Obazee. Head or tail, he would lose. You cannot fight religious organisations and win. The faithful will tell you that will be tantamount to fighting God. Forget that many of these bodies may not be doing God’s will, but that does not matter to their members, who are die-hard believers in their spiritual fathers. Obazee may have suffered from misjudgement. He might have thought that since he was serving under a government – which is fighting corruption and other unethical practices – whatever he does in that regard would be appreciated.

    If he could not enforce the governance code under the Jonathan administration, which appointed him, because of certain reasons, he might have thought that he could have his way under the Buhari administration, which has no special relationship with the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) leadership. From the word go, CAN has been against the implementation of the code, which it sees as interference in its members’ internal affairs. Its former president, Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, criticised the law and used his connection then with Aso Villa to stop Obazee from moving against churches. Obazee’s hands were strengthened with the coming of the Buhari administration. The law can now take its course, he would have told himself and proceeded to implement it. Unknown to him, he was standing in the path of a moving train. The powerful whether in mainstream politics or outside it will always have their way.

    But Obazee did not read the situation well before moving against the churches as development as shown following Pastor Adeboye’s exit as G.O, RCCG, Nigeria. Industry, Trade and Investment Minister Okechukwu Enelamah was said to have directed him to suspend the implementation of the code’s provision, stipulating 20 years tenure for heads of religious and civil society groups . But he was said to have replied that there is no gazette to that effect and as such the provision could not be suspended. Adeboye cited this provision when he stepped down for Obayemi, saying many other G.Os in his shoes will soon follow suit

    Why did the minister want the code suspended? According to a newspaper report : ‘’There is an issue with the code of corporate governance and the minister wrote the FRC and told the council not to execute it because a lot of people from the private sector have complained about it. So, the minister wanted to look into it and see what the issues were. He (FRC boss) was asked not to go ahead with executing it. There is a controversy on that FRC issue and we are now looking into the matter to know what the issues are before we can finally take a decision. This is where the matter is currently’’. Denying the suspension of the code, the FRC said it is still in force. ‘’All the banks are complying with the code. If it has been suspended, why are they complying with it. The churches do not want it and that was why they went to court and they have lost’’.

    One would have thought that a matter like this would have been pursued up to the Supreme Court. But, no, the churches did not do anything after losing at the high court. Perhaps, they opted for ‘’administrative’’ solution to avoid a lengthy legal battle. So, whose order was Obazee executing in implementing the code? Can he allow his personal interest to conflict with his official function? Why did he not comply with the minister’s directive to suspend the implementation of the code? Who is in charge – he or the minister? Was anything at stake in his implementation of the code? Obazee might have misread the situation and conferred himself with the power he did not have in implementing the code, thereby forcing Adeboye to quit as RCCG, Nigeria leader.

    The government kept quiet for too long over this matter. If it had a position on the issue, did it make it clear to Obazee, who is expected to execute such decisions? Was the minister’s letter to him the government’s position? To avoid this kind of mess in future, which does not portray the government in good light, matters of this sensitive nature should be handled in public domain. By this,  I mean the government should have made it known through the media that it has suspended the implementation of the code. If it had done so, Adeboye would not have resigned ,  thereby throwing Nigeria, nay the world, into a frenzy.

    This turn of events at FRC is not good for the government. It shows that its house is not in order. If it was not Adeboye that resigned, would it still have sacrificed Obazee for ‘overreaching’ himself ? Blame not Obazee, but the government for this misadventure.

  • Don’t be infatuated with that guy

    Don’t be infatuated with that guy

    This lady has come with her stories again? Yes! I have to always tell some of these stories for different reasons.

    I am going to share this true life story with you because it is a combination of two things: a lesson and a piece of advice to all the relationship seekers via online or any other social media platform. Caution should be your watch word.

    Whatever happens to you is not the business of the medium where you got the contact from. They can’t be liable for what follows. So dear sisters, be warned! Are we clear on that?

    Now, the story. I got this email on Saturday afternoon from a troubled reader. The beep of my Blackberry alerted me to a new message. I opened the mail and the content got me shocked. After reading the mail, I was so peeved I was tempted to call the guy in question and tongue-lash him for misusing an online platform to put someone through such emotional trauma. But I had to hold one and talk to you guys (my readers), first. It is a story you should all read.

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    Dear Chichi,

    I am a regular reader of a newspaper (name withheld). I met this handsome guy on  their love link classified page. His name is Moses. He’s 27 years.  He lives at Iyana-Iba, Ojo, Lagos.

    Though he looks younger than his age, he is very sexy and romantic. This guy also sings. He’s funny, he’s sweet and fresh. His number is 07037396***. Chichi, I have met some guys, but I must confess this one is different. He is just a totally different guy.

    This was how we met. I saw his number and called him. He asked me to meet him in a hotel at the Iyana-Ipaja area. After spending some minutes talking and getting to know each other a little, he ordered for some drinks and paid for a room in the hotel. After drinking, he gently slid his fingers in my newly-made hair caressing it.

    Then, he started to whisper into my ears and sucking them, down to my neck. Before he got to my tits, I was very wet. He carried me up and put me on the bed. Then to my surprise, he got up and went out.

    When he went out, I never knew what he went to get.  But to my utmost surprise, he came back with ice-cream and ice-cubes from the bar in the hotel.

    He poured the ice cream all over my body, while the cube was in his mouth and he was kissing me with it, from my breast to all parts of my body – my ears, my ribs, my navel and finally my G-spot.

    And everywhere under me. He was practically eating and sucking me for almost 40 minutes. I was in cold heaven.  Chichi, I know you know what I mean, with ice-cube on your vagina! In fact, I had no choice than to spend the night with him. We had sex all night. It was up to 15 rounds and we never got tired.

    It was a very crazy and naughty night.

    It wasn’t my fault that I fell easily for him. I was carried away. Anyway, he is the kind of guy every girl would want to spend her life time with.

    When I got home the next day, I couldn’t stop thinking of him. The imagination of being with him, his thoughts filled my soul. So the next day I called him and he suggested we meet again.

    That same day, we made mad love, but after some rounds his face changed, and I asked what the problem could be. At that point, he brought out the exact copy of the paper where I got his contact from. He asked me to look once again at his request from E-Love link. It says he’s looking for a sugar mummy. “I am not looking for a girlfriend who I go dey spend on because I no get the money and time,” he told me bluntly.

    He said he thought I was from a rich and influential family, but he was disappointed to notice otherwise. He insisted he was searching for a mature, rich girl or lady who can possibly help him with a job and some real cash. Having said that, he walked out, leaving me in that hotel room. Since then, anytime I call his phone, he ignores my call.  I tried using other numbers; the moment he heard my voice, he ended the call.

    He told me he is a graduate and that he finished his youth service last year. All I need is for him to see me again. I wouldn’t mind if it is just once, even if it is for one minute.  We met just two weeks ago. He left me on Wednesday. For how long am I going to suffer this emotional feeling? He really swept me off my feet. Even, as I am typing this mail, I am wet from just thinking about him. Chichi, I beg you, help me out. I am having sleepless nights over this guy. Help me to mail, call or text him.

    Dear readers, I will be glad if you can advise Linda on what to do about her situation. I have informed her to expect a solution to her problem in our next publication.

  • She would have spent the night with the guy if he was a woman like her?

    Madam Adeola, good afternoon. Please Madam, what does it mean for girl that someone likes to say she would have spent a night with the guy if he was a woman like her. Thanks, Fb.

    FB, she meant exactly what she said. You’re not a woman like her so she won’t spend the night with you. Oh, you think she must have been using style to invite you? If she wanted to spend the night, she wouldn’t even wait for an invitation. So, she knows what she means. Don’t go pestering the poor girl to come and sleep with you.

  • I’m sad because no guy wants me even at 18

    Good day ma. I’m a gal of 18 years and at my age no guy has ever approached me. My friends advised me to always smile but it’s not working. Sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and get sad. I will say I have lost my self-esteem. People say if a guy approaches you that it means you have something worth looking at. Please help me. – Worried Gal.

    Dear Worried Gal, why are you looking at this issue from the negative perspective? Have you sat down to see why guys may not be looking at you? It could be that you look so respectable that no guy wants to toy with you except he is ready for a serious relationship. It could be that you have a good reputation as that girl who won’t take nonsense from a guy. It could also be the Heavens protecting you from dangers that some premature relationships bring. Just be yourself and face whatever you are doing now to safeguard your future. Be happy and don’t smile only because you want guys to notice you; smile because life is more beautiful when we smile.