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  • Sexually-pure boys, guys, men fare better in life!

    DEAR Temi, I loooooveeee you for doing the work the Lord has placed in your hands faithfully without any barrier. Saying it the way it is can be very liberating. Please don’t stop telling the youth to stay away from illegal sexual activities. It cut short one’s life and discolors destiny! May God continue to empower you.

    Ololade Ayanniyi

    Dear Ma,

    I can’t stop thanking you! You’ve been my strength in spite the temptations around me, I can still stand out pure. God bless you ma!

    Ruth Ene Ene

    Dear Ma,

    Is Secondary Virginity only endemic to females and what does a sexually-active man stand to gain by abstaining from sex?

    Anonymous

    Dear Anonymous,

    Secondary Virginity is certainly not for girls only but for both gender, unmarried and whatever age! I tell you a lot of men would have fared better in life if they guarded their loins jealously. A REAL MAN IS ONE WHO CANNOT BE CONTROLLED BY THAT WHICH HE SHOULD BE MASTER OVER! Most guys have gotten themselves embroiled in an emotional/spiritual quagmire which has hampered their development and growth at a time when they should be concentrating on their studies and laying a solid foundation for a successful life!

    A lot have had their VIRTUES and WHAT SHOULD MAKE THEM SHINE IN LIFE practically swallowed by demonic ladies. A lot are under curses from girls they raped, deceived, slept with and dumped! With God’s stamp on those curses! IF ONLY YOU KNEW WHAT COVENANT YOU WERE ENTERING INTO WHILE DEFLOWERING THAT GIRL, YOU WOULD NEVER HAVE GONE NEAR HER! DO YOU KNOW THE TYPE OF SPIRIT SHE CARRIES?

     

    Asides that, an average lady you sleep with would expect you take care of her material needs as well as her emotional needs. You begin to stress and drain yourself of what should give you the much-needed comfort to pursue your education/career. What if she gets pregnant? Are you ready to have a baby? Why go through the hassles of becoming a baby father or having blood in your hands as a result of terminating a pregnancy? You need to be wise my friend! Once you get into premarital sex, I’m afraid you become unstoppable and eventually give the devil too much access into your life!

     

    The whole world lies in great mystery and wickedness and the devil-our common enemy is raging so wildly and wishes to have a grip over as many destinies as possible and dispossess them of their natural entitlements. One of such ways as I emphasize here is ungodly sex. Why would you want to go against your source-God and live a life of struggle and hardship? The devil has turned too many girls and women to weapons of mass destruction because they refuse to have a deep relationship with God and have a grip over their souls. The devil cashes in on their superficiality and possesses them with all sorts of bad spirits that they might not even be aware of. And just one of these bad spirits which are virtue vamps, could divert the course of a man’s destiny. Now, can you imagine what happens to a man who would sleep with anything in skirt? He’s finished because he’s sleeping with multiple partners with probably a legion of demons. What a waste of life!  No matter how successful a man is, as long as he is still engaging in ungodly sex and fighting the source of his existence, he isn’t where he is destined to be yet! If he he’s diabolic and thinks he’s fortified enough to keep sleeping with various ladies to enjoy their virtues by having them transferred through sexual intercourse, one day…one day… one day…he would come in contact with a devil in an extraordinarily beautiful human skin who would topple his life over!

     

    Generations are in trouble today and till eternity, because one man could not bridle his loins! Fantastic stars have been shot down and rendered useless on earth because their father slept with and married a strange woman who wanted to reign supreme! There’s so much more gist on this coming your way! MAY THE POWER OF GOD OVERSHADOW THE LIFE OF EVERY MAN READING THIS IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME!

     

    • To be continued!

     

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  • Guys, stop confusing girls with “I love you!”

    DEAR Aunty Temi, Keep up the good work you’re doing in preserving the dignity of the female folk. However, I feel your message should be extended to the males as well as this will effectively drive your message home as we are always at the mercy of these guys. To be frank, a lot of us crave their attention and feel we can never do without them especially with their romantic overtures!

    Folake

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I go through your Face book wall on a daily basis to read your posts because they educate and awaken my spirit. I wish you post articles on your timeline every day. Sincerely, our present generation is very lucky to know the things most of our mothers and great-grand mothers didn’t know. I’m sure our mothers didn’t know what evil family pattern was, and the spiritual implications of sex which crippled a lot of their destinies! I remember how my mum suffered marital abuse in the hands of my late dad and his siblings. She went through all that because she didn’t know where to run to and so many women are passing through same thing. She was always acting timid and lived in perpetual fear throughout their marriage. It also affected us (my siblings and I) while growing up. You’re really doing a great job by enlightening young women and girls. You are saving a lot of destinies. Please keep it up. God bless you ma!

    Victoria M.

    Dear Victoria,

    I’m so glad to know you actually visit my Face book timeline every day. Much as I want to reach out to you girls as often as I can, the social media could be so distracting and if one isn’t careful, so many important things would be left undone. However, I promise to improve on the frequency of my posts! On what your mother suffered, in as much as some of us are doing all we can to ensure girls are well raised into godly and strong, young women who can make the right choices in life and live a most triumphant life- I can tell you there’s serious fire on the mountain! In spite teachings on getting good education, setting priorities right and becoming self-reliant, sadly, too many girls are going to end up experiencing what your mother went through! Your mother would have bolted if she was educated or at least had a source of livelihood but perhaps she didn’t because she couldn’t get educated/raise enough business capital. Today, what should be the easiest way to become educated and the world’s greatest in every field under the heavens has become a tool of satanic diversion, deviation and distraction! After watching their mothers go through so much hell in the hands of their fathers and after suffering so much lack and all forms of abuse, many girls would rather prepare themselves for a wealthy man than prepare themselves to lead a most beautiful life with financial freedom, making the most of their wonderful innate skills. Talk about the Proverbs 31 woman! Why should any woman live in perpetual fear of a man who is lucky or better still blessed to have her in the first instance! Prov.18:22 Amazing! We have a wonderful manual for life – the Holy Bible which gives everyone- both gender so much power to command the type of life we wish, yet the entire world is suffering! Hmm…!

    Dear Guys,

    I really wonder the number of hearts you’d have broken by the time you spend your first quarter on earth; how much more the number of girls you would have slept with, the number of spirits that would have been transferred into your lives and the mass of tears and curses trailing you! This is a very serious matter! I know a lot of you are just going with the flow of adolescence. However, many of you are courting so much trouble for your future. Never tell a girl you love her when you really don’t! Girls are fragile in nature and such sweet words coming from you could make them surrender their entire existence to you if they fancy you! Can you imagine anyone treating your daughter the way you’ve treated some girls-deceiving them, “using” them and dumping them! And to think having a girl-friend in your teens also distracts you badly- believe me! It could forestall the champ in you! Hmm…Boys Club on the way!!!

    • To be continued.
  • Girls, beware of Gifts from guys

    Girls, beware of Gifts from guys

    DEAR Sister Temilolu, You have been a blessing to me and my sister through your articles in The Nation on Sunday. I call it my Sunday school lecture. I pray God will bless you even beyond your imagination in Jesus name.

    Moyinoluwa, Kwara State

     

    Dear Aunty Temi,

    I’m a guy but I love reading your articles. I’ve been dating a girl who claims she’s a virgin and wishes to remain so and because of this, I decided not to bother her about sex. Since we began dating, I have spent my school fees and project fees on her because of her pride. But all of a sudden, she changed and said that she can’t marry me because I’m a Christian. Now, I have decided to force her to have sex with me unless she refunds all the money I’ve ever given her and returns the techno phone I presented to her on her birthday. If she doesn’t, I would rape her and deflower her. Aunty, please reply now before I take action. Thanks.

    Bosun

     

    Happy Independence dear Nigerians!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    As Esther found favour and grace before the king in the 10th month and was crowned queen, so shall you find favour with God and man this month in Jesus mighty name. Happy new month!

    When I read Bosun’s text, I flew up from my bed and immediately called him. I had to plead with him in God’s name to ignore the girl and move on with his life. I also subtly berated him for giving out his school and project fees. He didn’t have to do that because he’s not the girl’s brother, uncle or father who has to deny himself to send his sister or daughter to school. After pleading with him and encouraging him to leave things to God and also expect a reward from God for not taking out his revenge on the girl, he promised to let her be.

    It’s good to be generous but not when the generosity is in expectation of having a sexual relationship. Unfortunately, that appears to be the order of the day. Men are not Santa Clauses and this is a time when an average girl would do anything to have some money, so 90% of them expect you to be ready to give them some sexual favour in return for their largess on you. It doesn’t matter that he hasn’t asked you out or made any amorous advances. In fact, the smarter ones would keep dazzling you with their generosity just to conquer your heart and weaken your resistance so by the time they are ready to launch their attack on you, you are left with little or no choice to become their sex slave and most especially when you are so carried away by what you’ve been enjoying and can’t imagine living a life without these goodies. A lot of you could say after all the entire world is engaging in it, your parents could even be encouraging you but I tell you, you are polluting yourself and may be denying yourself what could make you rich enough to buy yourself an aircraft and more before age 40! Why can’t you preserve your goodness and in future enjoy what all the men chasing you can never give you? I bind every lothario chasing you! May God arise and send you help from His sanctuary!

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    Scam Alert: Temilolu okeowo girls club page and group as well as Temilolu cares for you are fake facebook accounts.

    Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a secondary virgin!

  • Top rules for sophisticated guys

    Top rules for sophisticated guys

    1. Your belt should match your shoes.

    2. If you are wearing a black suit, wear black shoes.

    3. If you are wearing gray, blue, tan or a combination thereof, please use brown shoes.

    4. Get a haircut regularly. Don’t wait until everyone around you knows you need one.

    5. Never go out without a wristwatch.

    6- If you want a thinner and smarter look, go for vertical-striped shirts.

    7- You should have at least three suits in your wardrobe.

    8- Your tie should cover your collar button down to your top trouser button. Anything longer or shorter makes you look awkward or like a village headmaster.

    9- Have at least one pair of dress shoes.

    10- Wear slippers only at home and the beach. Never leave your house with slippers, not even to see someone off.

    11- If you want to use a tie, use it properly. Avoid wearing a tie with an untucked shirt or wearing a tucked shirt with a slightly loosened tie.

    12- Never match blazers with dress trousers.

    13- Do not leave your house with wrinkled clothes, it doesn’t speak good of you no matter the explanation you have for it.

    14- Match your belt to your belt loops. Don’t wear a thin dress belt with trousers that have big belt loops.

    15- Always have an elegant pen with you. It helps you look sophisticated and ready.

    16- Have lots of white shirts because white shirts make you look like a boss.

    17- Wear simple t-shirts without a photo or write-up on it. They make you look, mature, simple but sophisticated.

    18- Your trousers are too short if you can see your socks as you walk. Your trousers should end just at the top of your shoes.

  • Guys, your chastity is your strength

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, There’s a saying that “anyone who pushes you closer to God is your real friend.” You are more than a friend to us. A person of understanding is an outstanding person. You are really outstanding. Aunty, do you know that every charitable act is a stepping stone towards heaven? I’ve been reading your column since its inception and my life has never been the same. Thank you so much for encouraging me. God will continue to bless you in Jesus name. I love you dearly.

    Adeola Adeyemi, 16 (P/H)

    Madam,

    I have been following your column in The Nation on Sunday and it has been a blessing to my life. Ma, why is it that a larger percentage of the so-called sisters in church run after sex? As a young guy, my relationships crash because I refuse girls sex and if I try to explain life to them, they walk out on me.

    Tosin

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I am a 19-year-old guy and still a virgin. However, in the last few months, my girlfriend has mounted serious pressure on me to have sex with her and I really don’t want to. What do you advise, please?

    Mike

    TO ALL THE MIKES & TOSINS OUT THERE

    I must not fail to congratulate you for being wise enough to preserve your life because any form of fleshly lust wars against the soul which is not only the seat of our entire existence but the source of our intelligence and knowledge out of which comes everything we do with our lives. Now, what happens when it is contaminated or polluted? The result is a life of bondage and slavery under the devil who is meant to be permanently under your feet. I tell you, a real man is one who cannot be controlled by that which he should be master over. MEN, PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS.

    The whole world lies in great mystery and wickedness and the devil-our common enemy is raging so wildly and wishes to have a grip over as many destinies as possible and dispossess them of their natural entitlements. One of such ways as we emphasise here is ungodly sex. Why would you want to go against your source-God and live a life of struggle and hardship? The devil has turned too many girls and women to weapons of mass destruction because they refuse to have a deep relationship with God and have a grip over their souls. The devil cashes in on their superficiality and possesses them with all sorts of bad spirits that they might not even be aware of. And just one of these bad spirits which are virtue vamps, could divert the course of a man’s destiny. Now, can you imagine what happens to a man who would sleep with anything in skirt? He’s finished because he’s sleeping with multiple partners with probably a legion of demons. What a waste of life! I tell you, a lot of men would have fared better in life if they guarded their loins jealously. No matter how successful a man is, as long as he is still engaging in ungodly sex and fighting the source of his existence, he isn’t where he is destined to be yet!

    Mike, try and convince your friend to stay chaste but if she won’t stop troubling you, please run away from her before she gets you into trouble. You never can tell the destiny you carry and what it requires to manifest in full force. Would the biblical Joseph have ever become the prime minister of Egypt at such a young age, if he succumbed to Mrs.Potiphar? NO!

    “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

    Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;” 1 Corinthians 6:16-19 (NIV)

    MAY THE SPIRIT OF GOD OVERSHADOW THE LIFE OF EVERY MAN READING THIS IN JESUS NAME! AMEN!

  • Guys, give your feet a breathing space

    Guys, give your feet a breathing space

    flip-flopMEN’S flip-flop slippers are as important as a lady’s thong slippers. These slippers are essential part of a man’s wardrobe.

    They can be used to dress up or down, depending on the occasion. And they are also good for leisure and moving around the house.

    Flip-flops are referred to as the male version of thong slippers; they are simple, charming and comfortable foot wear. Flip-flops are flat sole leather or rubber slippers with V or Y simple straps.

    Flip-flops have also been described as flat, backless sandals that consist of a flat sole held to the foot by a U-shaped strap.

    They are easy to slip on and off and carry around. Flip-flops are best for casuals, but some men still wear them stylishly for their formal outings.

    The rubber flip-flops are best worn on casuals, while the leather products can be worn on both casual and formal wear. They are  best on natives.

    Although there are some solid ones that are very expensive, flip-flops are generally cheap and easy to come by.

  • 3 guys you must never marry

    Today, I feel led to share a secret my grandmother shared with me way back when I was a kid. She said: “There are three kinds of men you must never marry; a lazy man, a stingy man, and a drunk”. You might want to say that my grandma belonged to the old school and did not know what she was talking about, but guess what? With the benefit of age, experience, and research, I discovered that grandma was right. Let me explain why.

    1. The lazy man: God made women to be help mates, not room mates. The lazy man is the man who is too lazy to go out and get a job, his excuse? There are no jobs because the economy is bad. Even though he has a degree or learnt a trade, he can’t get or keep a job. Advise him to start a business, and he will give you one hundred reasons the business will not work, even though other people are doing the same business, and doing well at it. He might claim to want a wife, but does not really want one. What he really wants is a female husband. Why? He has no interest in working to provide for anyone, preferring to find himself a woman to provide for him. It reminds me of a friend whose husband does not pay the rent, or provide for the kids, rather she sends money to him abroad from time to time. When I asked her why she married him, she, “Because he is good in bed.” I wonder how much sex she is getting in a long distance marriage.
    2. The stingy man: The stingy man is not necessarily poor, but is simply a man who thinks that any money he spends on anyone but himself is a waste of money. I will never forget a guy I know who wears the latest, and most expensive clothes, gold jewelry, drives nice cars, and uses the most expenses gadgets. Unfortunately, he can never buy a lady dinner or gifts, yet wants to marry a fine girl. Trust Nigerian babes, he is close to 50 without a wife in sight. Babes, wise up and give a stingy guy space, except you are ready to live in want, in the midst of plenty.
    3. The drunk: This is the guy who has nothing else on his mind except his next drink. Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying it is wrong to drink, but when it is the most important thing in his life, it becomes a problem. Such a man prefers to spend his money on booze, leaving the bills unpaid. He does not pay rent, school fees, or buy food. Wise babes will do well to keep well away. Obviously, he is not really marriage material. Ladies need to decide what is important to them, a husband or a liability? Take the time to study your admirers before deciding to accept.
  • SHIRT: must- have for guys

    SHIRT: must- have for guys

    MEN all over the world are strutting about with shirts. In different hues and cotton, these evergreen items are a pleasant way to add elegance to your look and wardrobe.

    It is not often that we consider the pattern of our shirts. Most people consider the colours of their shirts, but not the designs or patterns on them.

    Experience shows that most men don’t bother about the pattern on their shirts. They would wear any shirt as long as it unifies with the rest of their outfit.

    But this rule is only true for other shirts; it is not true with striped shirts of different colours, designs or patterns. Striped shirt is the long or short sleeve shirt with narrow, horizontal stripes or lines which are sometimes bold or faint.

    Shirts come in various hues and designs and are popular among the working class and the youth. They can be worn alone or combined with suits.

    Shirts are the best among different men’s tops we have today. Plain shirt is too official, and it is mostly worn on suit, but striped and checked shirts could be worn as office or ceremonial wear.

    For casual, you can wear a shirt without tucking it in, but if you try that with formal event, you will certainly look out of place. Shirt can be thrown on as office wear or for an easy casual look. It all depends on your style, your coordinating and combination power. With a variety of hues and patterns available, there is surely something for everyone.