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  • Wife seeks divorce over husband’s “withdrawal method” during sex

    A 36-year-old seamstress, Sherifat Adetunji, on Friday pleaded at a Lagos Island Customary Court that her marriage should be dissolved on ground that her husband was no longer ejaculating inside her during sex.

    The mother of two said that her 10-year-old marriage was blissful until five years ago when things started changing.

    She lamented that her husband could go a year or more without making love to her and that when he did he would not ejaculate inside her.

    “My husband has been starving me sexually, sometimes he will not touch me for a whole year and when he did, he would not release inside me.

    “I have complained severally about my dissatisfaction over his attitude towards our sexual life, but has refused to change,” she said.

    She told the court that her husband once brought a strange man into their house to perform some rituals in the middle of the night and since then she started emaciating.

    “My husband brought a man to pass the night in our house and that in the middle of the night they performed some rituals since then I have been growing lean.

    “He did not show any concern about my state of health or why I was growing lean every day,” Sherifat said.

    She, therefore, prayed the court to dissolve the marriage and give her the custody of their two children, Alia, 8, and Kismat, 5.

    Her husband, Monsuru, 38, a trader, told the court that he thought his wife was happy in their marriage because they hardly quarreled.

    He said he was surprised when she packed out of the house and brought him to court for the dissolution of their marriage.

    He admitted his sexual behaviour, saying that it was due to the current economic recession so as to prevent his wife from getting pregnant.

    “I stopped making love to her regularly and releasing in her because of the present economic situation in the country so that she does not get pregnant.

    “The man she said I brought home was a distant relation who had no place to pass the night.

    “The reason why my wife is reducing in size is because she does not give herself rest of mind, she is always worried about one thing or the other,” he said.

    He urged the court to dissolve the marriage as he was no longer interested in the marriage because she had packed out of their matrimonial home.

    The Court President, Mr Awos Awosola, said that marriage institution could only work if the two were in agreement.

    “Marriage is for two people, not one; your wife should also have a say in the home.

    “Since she has complained severally that you are starving her sexually, you should have made amends.

    “If you do not want to get her pregnant you can always use condom,” he said.

    Awosola urged the two parties to maintain the peace and adjourned the case to Feb. 16 for further hearing.

     

  • Wife to court: My husband left because I refused him oral sex

    Wife to court: My husband left because I refused him oral sex

    A 42-year-old woman, Fausat Ayinde has approached a Lagos Island Customary Court on Thursday for the dissolution of her 15-year-old marriage on grounds of emotional abuse.

    Fausat told the court that her husband deserted her because she refused him oral sex, adding that he made her feel inferior because of his complaints and verbal abuse.

    The fruit seller said that their marital problems started five years ago when her interior decorator husband came back from a trip to Port-Harcourt and asked her to suck his genital.

    “My husband got back from a trip and asked me to suck him, something we have never done since we got married.

    “When I refused he told me that is what other girls do to him outside, since then my husband stopped making love to me,’’ she said.

    The mother of two said that her husband also started complaining about her dress sense and her cooking.

    She added that he packed out of the matrimonial home three years ago and rented another apartment two houses from her with another woman.

    Fausat said that her husband came to her house on Nov. 8 to beat her up and pack out her belongings.

    “I am tired of the marriage; I have reported him to his family countless times but he has refused to change.

    “Since he left, I have been the one responsible for the upkeep of the children,” she said.

    She prayed the court to dissolve the marriage, give her custody of their children Ahmeed 15, and Ahmeedat 12, adding that the husband should be responsibility for their upkeep.

    The husband, Lukman Ayinde, 45, told the court that the genesis of their marital problems was not sexual.

    Lukman said that the basis of their issues was that his wife did not know how to take care of herself, her home, her man and children.

    He said that on many occasions, he had tried to upgrade her to his taste by buying her dresses, shoes and bags.

    He said that his wife was also very stubborn and had refused to change, adding, “she dresses awkwardly and is unattractive’’.

    “I have complained about her dress sense severally, my wife can wear mismatched top and skirt with dirty flip flop slippers to anywhere.

    “When I complain, she will say who is looking at her forgetting that I am her husband, I am looking, I cannot control her.

    “I cannot introduce her as my wife to my colleagues, she sells in Victoria Island, Kofo Abayomi and she meets notable people but she has refused to package herself.

    “She wears jeans skirt to bed, claiming that she is tired anytime I touch her.

    “She does not know how to take care of the house, her man and the kids,” he said.

    Mrs Opeyemi Olanrewaju, the court Deputy President said that Lukman was behaving life a typical African man who “sees women as sex object that he could use and dump.

    “You have been with other women and you are comparing her with them, before and after you married her, she gave you two kids there was nothing wrong with her.

    “Now she is no longer good for you,” she said.

    The court President, Mr Awos Awosola said that the husband should pay N220, 000, as the arrears of the money for the upkeep of the children on or before Dec. 20.

    He ordered him not to visit the house again and that the children should be brought to the court whenever he wants to see them.

    He urged both parties to maintain peace and adjourned the case to Dec. 28 for further hearing.

  • Divorce saga: Emeka Ike takes case to court

    Divorce saga: Emeka Ike takes case to court

    A popular Nollywood actor, Emeka Ike has informed a Lagos Island Customary Court that he had filed an application before a High Court restraining the lower court from hearing the divorce suit filed by his estranged wife, Emma.

    Emma had sometime in 2015 approached the court to dissolve the 16 years union between her and the Nollywood actor on grounds of incessant battery.

    The allegation which the actor had vehemently denied, and begged the court not to separate them, saying “I still love my wife”.

    When the matter which was slated for judgment came up on Tuesday, Emeka’s lawyer, Mr Abdul Labi-Lawal informed the court that his client had filed a stay of proceedings before a High Court in Lagos.

    The application marked FCMP/20054/16 had Emma and the Customary Court President, Mr Awos Awosola as the first and second defendants respectively.

    The application sought the High Court’s declaration that the Lagos Island Customary Court lacked requisite jurisdiction to entertain and determine the Ike’s divorce suit.

    The application noted that the marriage between the estranged couple was conducted in Enugu State under the Igbo customs and traditions.

    Emeka also urged the High Court to declare that all the proceedings already conducted by the Customary Court in respect of couple’s marriage be rendered null and void.

    The Nollywood actor also applied for a perpetual injunction restraining the Customary Court’s President, Awosola, and any other person appointed in the capacity of entertaining and or continuing the proceedings in respect of the couple’s divorce suit.

    Labi-lawal, therefore, urged the court to stay proceedings on the suit pending the hearing and determination of the suit at the High Court.

    Opposing the application, Emma’s lawyer, Mr Iheanyi Awa urged the court to discontinue the stay of application and deliver judgment.

    Awa, who said Emeka’s application was aimed at arresting the court’s judgment, informed the court that neither his client nor himself had been served with the application.

    “It is an attempt to arrest the judgment of the court, I am aware that the respondent wants to arrest the judgment which is to be delivered today.

    “The stay of proceedings has been decided for a long time and court has ruled that it has jurisdiction to entertain the matter.

    “It is a ploy to frustrate my client, they just want to delay the judgment till another day.

    “The court should give its judgment and if they are not satisfied, they can appeal,” he said.

    After listening to the submissions of both parties, the court said; “In view of the submission of the respondent, the stay of proceedings is hereby granted, and the matter is hereby adjourned sine die.”

  • Court dissolves 15-yr-old marriage over maltreatment

    A Lagos Island Customary Court on Wednesday dissolved the 15-year-old marriage between one Dapo Ashorobi and his wife, Titilayo, over constant abuse and assault by the latter’s mother-in-law.

    The President of the court, Mr Awos Awosola, ordered the dissolution of the marriage after concluding that the union had broken down irretrievably.

    “The marriage between the two parties has broken beyond redemption. The marriage between the two is hereby dissolved with effect from today, June 29,’’ Awosola ruled.

    He also granted the custody of the three children; Basir, 10; Mutiat, 8 and Khadijat, 3, to their mother.

    The petitioner, Titilayo, had earlier informed the court that she could no longer stay in the marriage because of the constant abuse and assault of her mother-in-law.

    The 32-year-old trader said that her mother-in-law had turned her husband into a “ simpleton’’ and was the one controlling their home.

    “My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we are still staying in his family house where his mother also lives.

    “There has been constant trouble because of my mother-in-law’s presence in our home.

    “ My husband takes directives from his mother about how to manage his home.

    “On several occasions, my husband will not eat the food I prepare just because his mother said he should not.

    “My mother-in-law had beaten and stripped me naked on two occasions and my husband did not say or do anything about it.

    “I can no longer bear the emotional and physical abuse as well as maltreatment,” she said.

    The mother of three, therefore, prayed the court to dissolve the marriage.

    The husband, Dapo, who did not deny the allegations, also prayed the court to dissolve the marriage as requested by his wife.

    He told the court that his wife had refused to accept his pleas and had rejected all efforts toward reconciliation.

  • Man seeks marriage dissolution over sex starvation

    Man seeks marriage dissolution over sex starvation

    A 64-year-old man, Mustafa Ariori, on Wednesday urged a Lagos Island Customary Court, Lagos State, to dissolve his 32-year-old marriage to his 60-year-old wife, Tawakalitu, over alleged sexual starvation.

    Ariori, who runs a rental service, told the court that his wife had stopped preparing meals for him for over six years and had denied him sex for three years.

    He said that the problem started when his wife followed one of his friends to Oshogbo for his father’s burial for six days.

    “My wife started misbehaving since she followed my friend to Oshogbo in 2010. When she came back and I attempted to make love to her, she refused.

    “Our two children, Yetude, 31 and Bilikisu, 28, who are now married and my club members had on different occasions tried to mediate, but to no avail,” he said.

    His wife, a business woman, told the court that she loved her husband and she had been the breadwinner of the home.

    “I feed and clothe my husband. When I had money to spend there was no problem and complaints.

    “I usually travel to Dubai to buy male and female wears; my business started dwindling because there was no money.

    “This whole problem started because I have no money to spend on my husband again.

    “His friend that I followed to Oshogbo told me that his club members has found him a woman much younger than me who he is presently dating,” she said

    Tawakalitu said that she had been denying her husband sex because she has attained menopause.

    After listening to both parties, the President of the Court, Mr Awos Awosola, adjourned the case till July 12 further hearing.