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  • A lifetime of friendships

    Friendship, like its flashier cousin, love, can be wildly chemical and, like love, can happen in an instant – Victor Lodato

    Muritala Sule has in his memoir, A Lifetime of Friendships, given to us a celebration of friendship and love. He is celebrating what most of us in life take for granted – friendship. We most times think to be a friend is simple and ordinary. However, when some things happen – trials, disappointment etc. – we come to realise that friendship is such a simple word but laden with layers of meanings, responsibilities and deepness.

    Muritala, a graduate of Mass Communication from the University of Nigeria Nsukka, the famous Jackson School of Journalism, had one day walked out of a certain career as an Information Officer at the Federal Ministry of Information to embrace the life of a ‘vagrant’ writer, television presenter and scriptwriter. The path he charted was not a well laid one because he had left a job which could have put food on his table but may not satisfy his craving to be a creative person. He had an unusual accomplice in this adventure, his mother. How could a mother encourage his son to leave salaried job, which was certain and had a future, to embrace the dream world of writing film scripts at a time when Nollywood was still a nascent industry?

    However, Muritala’s mother, Alhaja Raliat Sunmbola Kareem, was a pillar of support. Which mother would today encourage a son to leave a job to pursue a dream? Although by the time he turned his back on a paying job, his novel Shadows of Hunger had been published to rave reviews by the international publisher Longman in 1987. But who feeds on rave reviews? When he left the Ministry of Information, it was not as if he already had a job in the then fledging video/film industry waiting for him.

    In A Lifetime of Friendships, Muritala has succeeded in documenting for this generation and those to come the how and why the rave of the 90s Lagbo Video came to being on the NTA Channel 7. Many would remember that that programme was the one to kick-start many careers and fortunes of actor, screenwriters, directors and many in what has come today to be called Nollywood or Kannywood, as the northern counterparts prefer to call theirs.

    It was just an idea that occurred to Muritala perhaps the same way in which the legendary Archimedes hit on his theory. That Monday, September 5, 1994, while idling at home he hit on the idea to start Lagbo Video and he dropped the idea on the lap on his friend and flatmate Godwin Igharo and without wasting time the duo headed towards the office of another friend, Mahmood Ali-Balogun, a respected film maker. The troika were to change the face of television production in the country by the time their programme was to hit the screen. It became a toast of the station and all forms of artistes longed to be featured.

    The memoir is laced with anecdotes and events that dogged the tortuous path of realising the dream of having it on air. It was later to face stiff competitions with programmes like Minijojo on Africa Independent Television (AIT), Tunde Kelani’s Arambada on Lagos Television (LTV). However, Lagbo Video held the ace till it ran its course. However, it was not easy for it to survive for as long as it did because of the lots of intrigues it faced from some of the NTA staff who felt such a good programme should not be handled by external hands. A programme they didn’t originate in the first place! The external production crew, however, had the full support of the manager of the station, Bode Alalade, who felt they were doing great and was not interested in interfering with a winning team. The writer also salutes the ingenuity of NTA engineers who literally squeezed water out of stone. He told the story of one Engineer Olajide of NTA Minna who was commended by an expatriate who was invited from the United Kingdom to come and fix a transmitter. The expatriate had to confess to the management: “Your engineer is wonderful. I couldn’t even understand how he has kept this transmitter going. Please let him continue dealing with it. You don’t need me.” This was because the transmitter Mr Olajide had kept working had been manufactured long before the expatriate engineer was born! A clear display of Nigerian ingenuity and ‘can-do’ spirit.

    Muritala’s memoir is a rich trove of people, events and places that a reader would not forget and those who lived in Lagos of the time he wrote about would identify with it. For those who didn’t they can learn about how Lagos was in the writer’s youth. He writes with a simple and elegant language. It is not a story about friends alone but about notorious felons and Mushin (which the writer in the spirit of the new etymology prefers to spell as Musin), street gangs and the famous armed robber Mighty Joe and his former Miss Nigeria girlfriend; a story of the beauty and the beast!.

    It is published by MS Global Productions Limited. MS, as the writer is fondly called, has thrown a challenge to our universities to take a second look at the way some courses are taught in our higher institutions today. It is a good book many readers would find interesting and full of insights into how Lagbo Video became the rave of the airwaves in the 90s.

  • Emefiele wins Lifetime Award for Banking, Finance

    Emefiele wins Lifetime Award for Banking, Finance

    The Institute for Service Excellence and Good Governance (ISEGG) yesterday conferred on the Governor, Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN), Godwin Emefiele a Lifetime award for Banking, Finance and National Development.

    Emefiele received the award at the first Annual lecture, Awards and Induction ceremony of the Institute for Service Excellence and good Governance (ISEGG) held at the Shehu Musa Yar’Adua Centre, Abuja.

    The CBN Governor, who was represented at the ceremony by his Special Adviser on Financial Markets, Emmanuel Ukeje appreciated ISEGG for the award which he said was in recognition of the sacrifice undertaken by the CBN in the last two years in efforts to move the nation’s economy forward.

    The Governor stated that CBN as an institution was committed to the ideals of excellence in service delivery.

    In his comments, the father of the day, a former Deputy Governor of the CBN and former Minster of National Planning, Dr. Shamsudeen Usman said he was enthused by the fact that the Institute for Service Excellence and Good Governance, was being run by young people who believe that things can be done differently in the country and their programmes are targeting the youths.

    He however, expressed worry of the attitude of the youths and stressed the urgent need for a value re-orientation.

    Delivering the keynote address, the Director-General of the Bureau of Public Service Reform, Dr. Joe Abah said for the country to develop, its public service must be one that is action driven, explains its actions to the public and allows for engagement and consultation with citizens.

    Continuing, Dr. Abah who was represented at the event by a Deputy Director and Technical Assistant to the DG, BPSR, Sylvester Inyang-Anyang said the Public Service of the future needs to be more innovative, better integrated, more strategic and more customer oriented.

    Abah added that achieving these goals would not be easy but that a commitment to the reform process would translate to a new public service that would serve the needs of the citizens.

    Chief Host and President/Chief Operating Officer of the ISEGG Tope Fasua said the institute is a private sector initiative which was aimed at augmenting efforts of Government as well as the corporate sector in instituting the ideals of service excellence in Nigeria. He said that the ISEGG initiative was an attempt to enthrone and embrace corporate and public sector governance in the country.

    He said the world over, the service sector has turned out to be the largest contributor to most nations’ Gross Domestic Product (GDP), and as such service delivery must be taken to high levels.

  • Marriage: A lifetime covenant (3)

    Dear Reader,

    I discussed the origin of marriage with you in my first lesson. Last week, I looked at marriage covenant responsibilities. Let me also say today, that marriage is a miracle! It is important for you to know that nothing works on its own, just like no problem solves itself. Miracles answer to certain inputs from the benefactor. Your obedience to what is required of you is how you initiate it.

    Take the miracle of the turning of water into wine, for instance.  Mary told the men, “Whatever he tells you to do, do it” (John 2:5). The servants initiated their miracle by obeying Jesus’ instructions to fill the water pots with water. Nothing happens by chance in the Kingdom of God. There is always something you must do to get what you want. All you need to do is accept the required responsibility.

    Marriage is a miracle! Daily, we see men and women seeking after soothsayers and seers, to know whom to marry. Some highly placed and educated young men and ladies creep stealthily into the dingy abodes of herbalists, to know the cause of their marital delays.

    Also, it is a common thing to see couples running after palm readers, fortune-tellers and astrologers, just to find out what the future holds for their marriages, and how they can be guided into glorious homes. But, for us at the other side of Jordan, we have a reason to thank God. He doesn’t leave us to guess and grope through life. That is why He said: Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not (Jeremiah 33:3).

    It is the thoughts of man that makes a man. What you think of your marriage and family makes it what it is. You can’t think obstacles in your marriage and have miracles. You can’t think of marriage as a necessary evil, and experience a glorious marriage, because sweet marriages and homes are basically provoked by your thoughts.

    Glorious marriages don’t happen by chance; they are product of choices. You can choose what happens to your marriage and family by the way you think. You have the mind of Christ which is a miracle mind, and miracle minds don’t think obstacles in marriage or consider barriers in the home. So, do not carry obstacle thoughts when looking for a life partner. Do not think impossibilities when you are looking up to God for miracle babies. The two don’t go together.

    Do you know that most couples cannot build matrimonial homes because of obstacle thoughts? Many don’t even eat good food because they don’t know where tomorrow’s meal will come from. Some couples think of nothing good about their families; all they see are obstacles. As such, they wallow in abject failure and frustration, without knowing that a man’s thoughts today make him what he would be tomorrow.

    Nobody builds a tower without adequate preparation and a strong foundation. You must first desire a tower, before you can build one. Do not enter into a marriage covenant without an expectation. If you expect the best, it will be yours (Proverbs 23:18).

    Someone once came to me for counselling. She had been having a very tough time in marriage. As she spoke, I discovered that the root cause of her problems was her wrong perspective about marriage. She had expected grief and calamity, so when the storms rose against her marriage, she began to cry, saying, “They told me that it will be like this.” Below is a testimony that will further help your perspective in your marriage.

    “I used to worship in a place where the pastors believe that ‘misunderstanding brings about understanding.’ One day, the lady pastor asked me if I had ever had any serious quarrel with my wife (then my fiancée), and I said, ‘No’. She then said we had not started, and that until we had quarreled and fought, we would not know if we truly love each other.

    Thereafter, we started having problems in our home after our marriage.  But when I came here, I heard the Bishop say, ‘I have not had the first argument with my wife.’ I told my wife that if what the man of God said is the truth, then we’ve been in the wrong place, where we had been fed with the wrong spiritually food. So, we decided to start worshipping here.

    We told ourselves, ‘What this man of God has seen that is making his marriage sweet, we also must discover it.’ Then, I was in WOFBI Full-Time programme. After each lecture, I would go home and teach my wife the same thing. Today, to the glory of God, we don’t have misunderstandings any more!” Ibiang, A.I.

    God has promised to grant your expectations, whether good or bad. So, let your expectations be based on God’s Word, for it is higher than any evil experience or information about marriage you may have had or heard (Proverbs 10:24).

    If you are already married, there is still a chance to change all negative expectations. As a couple, discuss your positive expectations, and I guarantee that things will work out more smoothly in your home.

    Unmarried ladies and young men, what do you expect in marriage? Your expectations shall not be cut off (Proverb 23:18). Before we got married, my husband and I made discoveries from God’s Word that made us expect a hitch-free marriage. Our testimony today: those expectations have not been cut off.

    I believe you have been mightily blessed by this teaching. So, as I pray for your family, believe God for a unique touch in your home. You will have a testimony!

    In the Name of Jesus, I ask for the hand of God to rest heavily on your home. Because marriage is a miracle, I declare that from today, you begin to enjoy God’s goodness and honour in your marriage!

    To have a miracle marriage, you need to first of all receive the Miracle Worker into your life. His Name is Jesus and you can receive Him by confessing your sins and saying this prayer: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

    If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    Congratulations! You are now born again! All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus’ Name. Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org; OR 07026385437 and 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Love does last a lifetime

    Love does last a lifetime

    It is commonly said that if you take care of things, they last. This surely is the story of three old couples who spoke to Dorcas Egede as she sought inspiring love stories to commemorate this season of love.

    Pa Oduyoye, 82, walked with sure strides to the gate to receive a visitor whose coming he had only been informed about 2 hours earlier. For a man his age, you’d wonder how he exuded so much energy. This reporter soon found out.

    Inside the apartment that houses Pa and Ma Oduyoye, the old man stretched his hand out and said jokingly, “I was told you’re looking to speak with old couples. You’re welcome to the old people’s home.” His outspoken nature and sense of humour would definitely make anybody feel at home; same for his soft-spoken wife.

    “I was trying to make dinner in the kitchen before I came to open the gate for you. As you can see, we have no maid; it’s just the two of us, with my brother and two young nieces, who leave home early for work and do not return until nightfall.”

    Now, an eighty-two year old man who still cooks isn’t something one gets to see every day, and that set the tone for our love story.

    Pa Oduyoye said their relationship began from their days in the university, where they started out as friends, and it gradually blossomed into something really beautiful. It has gone on for fifty-five years and still counting. “At the time, we didn’t know that it would lead to marriage. We were just friends. But shortly after we graduated, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.”

    He said he was drawn to her by “her soft-spoken and gentle disposition.” And looking at Ma Oduyoye, one could tell that she surely still has that soft-spoken and gentle air about her, fifty-five years after.

    How rosy has it been since they began the journey fifty-five years ago? This reporter prodded. Ma Oduyoye’s downright response was, “The journey has been full of ups and downs, but through the grace of God, patience, tolerance and mutual understanding, we have come this far.”

    For her husband, the marriage journey is one that requires strong determination to make it work. “At the beginning, it was not all rosy. We had misunderstandings, especially at that early stage. But as time went on, it became easier to overlook some things… We became more patient and tolerant of each other. Now, we’re too old to quarrel about anything.” He said.

    With a smile on her face, mama asked her husband if he could recall some issues that used to cause misunderstanding between them. He laughed as he began narrating. “We used to quarrel a lot over comb. I didn’t like her using my comb; because you know a man’s comb is always dry, but a woman’s own isn’t. Then again, I used to get upset whenever she opened my letters before me. But now, that doesn’t even matter anymore.”

    The Oduyoye’s have a word for young people: “They must trust God to choose the right partner for them. Then they must learn to be patient, tolerant and have mutual respect and understanding for each other.”

    Mr and Mrs Nicholas Ibeawuchi

    Someone once asked a very old man and his wife, “How did you manage to stay married for so long?” Their response was simple and straight to the point. “We’re from a time where if something is broken, we fix it; not throw it away.” This was one message that resonated as Mrs Ibeawuchi, 72, spoke about her 54 year old marriage, which she prefers to regard as 52 because that was when she got wedded in church. Her bride price was however paid in 1962, 54 years ago.

    Taking us back to the beginning, Mrs Ibeawuchi, whose husband was unavoidably absent on the occasion of this interview spoke of how she was smuggled out of the convent, after she had sworn to give herself in service to God as a Reverend Sister. According to her, one eventful day, one of her instructors at the convent lulled her to town under the pretext that she wanted her to go and help out a relative. Unknown to her, she was being led to be married off to her instructor’s relative. Reliving the experience with obvious blush, she said, “That was how my husband came and paid my bride price and I didn’t go back to the convent.”

    Their marriage produced twelve children. She revealed proudly,  “I am a fulltime house wife. My husband never allowed me to do any work. He said I should just take care of our children. I’m glad I did. See how far God has brought us today. And God gave me brainy children. All my children are brainy.” She spoke about her husband with such admiration, her eyes shiny bright. If she could be so elated talking about her husband, who was not present after 54 years of marriage, one is only left to wonder what she’d do in his presence. “My husband is very caring. See, I have been sick for many years, and even in my sickness, he has been very supportive and caring” she said brimming with smiles.

    For the younger generation, Mrs Ibeawuchi says: “Young people, especially women, should not be in a hurry to get married. They shouldn’t marry for flashy cars or money. All these things don’t last…. People should marry for love and must do everything to make their marriage work. A woman should also submit to her husband.”

    Chief and Mrs Joseph Onwudegwu

    The chat with Chief and Mrs Joseph Onwudegwu revealed one thing: the success of any marriage is made possible by the commitment of the couple to make the marriage work. Theirs doesn’t quite strike you as the fairy tale relationships. As they spoke, one only saw a man and woman committed to their marriage vows, and to making it work.

    This 81 year old man and his 67 year old wife have been married for 50 years. They attest to the fact that staying married requires a lot of patience, tolerance and determination. Their relationship started many years ago when they lived on the same street. Asked why he chose her, Chief Joseph said, “I chose her because of her faithfulness. Out of all the women in my life at the time, she was the only one whose faithfulness I could attest to. And till date she’s faithful. Even if Obasanjo comes to toast her today, she will not agree.”

    Mrs Joseph had the same thing to say about her husband. “I’m never bothered about him being with another woman because even the woman will know that I’m the only one who can be his wife.”

    The couple advised young people to be patient, tolerant and respect each other. They ended with the popular saying that a family that prays together stays together.”

  • Professor Val’s Lifetime Lecture

    Welcome to your column on public speaking. It was really exciting to read all your comments on our ‘mutual friend’, Professor Val. Thanks for the questions you sent in and the suggestions you gave the Professor to save his career. I totally agree that he needs training in effective communication. In case you missed last week’s article, Professor Val was a Russian scholar who was invited to make a lead paper presentation at an international conference. While he arrived amidst glee and excitement, not much could be said of his presentation. Not that he wasn’t knowledgeable about the subject, his message was only lost in the midst of other major flaws.

    As promised last week, we shall begin to examine Professor Val’s errors and learn how to avoid them. Recall that we observed last week that our dear Professor worked perfectly by the book. That was not a bad thing in itself, only that we must learn the exceptions to the rules. Therefore, the approach we will adopt is to state the rule Val obeyed and then identify its exception.

    Professor Val obeyed the rule that says a speaker must earn the right to speak to his/her audience by being knowledgeable. It is, of course, expected that a speaker should know more than the audience before being qualified to speak. It is also generally suggested that a speaker should gather five times more materials than required for any given speech so as to SELECT the best resources from the pool. Please take note of the emphasis on the word ‘select’. So, we can safely say that Professor Val, who was a world-acclaimed scholar with award winning formula, was a knowledgeable person.

    Where did Val go wrong? His error was that he neglected the exception to the rule of knowledge, which is, “You cannot teach people in a moment what you learnt in a lifetime”. The transmission of knowledge must be gradual, otherwise there will poor assimilation. Val, just like several speakers today, was carried away by his desire to impart knowledge that he failed to consider the time available and the capacity of his audience. His misplaced zeal led to a few errors:

    • Overloaded presentation slides: Professor Val made use of presentation slides that were projected on a screen. However, propelled by his zeal, he over-loaded each slide to the extent that the text became too small to be legible. The projection was meant to enhance the delivery of the presentation; unfortunately, it further hindered effective communication because the audience could not see it clearly. The lesson here is that it is preferable not to use any technical assistance if it would not add to the quality of a presentation. It is also very important to make the audience the priority of any presentation. As speakers, we must always ask ourselves, “What will the audience think of this? Will they see it clearly? Will they get the meaning? How far will the screen be from the audience?”. These and many other questions will help us to see things from the perspective of our audience.
    • Hasty Presentation: from the story of Professor Val, it was clear that he knew he couldn’t deliver all he had prepared in just one hour. Hence, he quickened the pace of his delivery. Again, it is important to emphasize that the priority of our presentations must be our audience. What is the use of covering a syllabus if the students have learnt nothing? Val mistook completing his presentation for communicating with the audience. He should have taken his time to explain every step of his presentation carefully. If he had communicated with his audience but did not cover all his outlined points, the audience could have requested for more information during the question time (as you will recall, they couldn’t wait to leave the hall so there was no question for the presenter), or even request for his presentation slides. As speakers, the information we have to pass across must not take priority over the people we want to pass it to. The success of a speaker is not determined by the amount of information shared but by the amount of influence made on the audience.

    Next week, by the grace of God, we shall explore another error of Professor Val and how to avoid it. I look forward to more comments from you on how Val can improve his speaking skills. I would also love to respond to your questions. Have a blessed weekend.

  • Glo dealers return from Brazil with amazing lifetime experiences

    Dealers of National Telecommunications Company, Globacom, who were sponsored to watch the finals of the 2014 World Cup in Brazil returned to Nigeria last weekend with splendid accounts of their trip to the Samba-loving country.

    Globacom said the  trip to Brazil was in appreciation of the massive support it has gotten from the dealers over the years.

    The dealers, who arrived in Brazil two days before the finals, took time off to visit tourist attractions in the city of Rio de Janerio and Sao Paulo. Some of the places visited are Sugar Loaf, Buzios Beach and Angrados Reis as well as Christ the Saviour site.

    After the World Cup finals, the Glo dealers also savoured the city of Rio further for another two days with visits to Museum of the Portuguses Language Luz in Sao Paulo, Jardin District Football Museum, Villa Lobos Park, Sao Paulo and Movies of Imax Jk Iguatemi Cinema.

    The dealers on the trip include the Managing Director, Easy and Quiet Limited, Mohammed Anthony, CEO of Upper Room Limited, Adegbenro Odukoya, Managing Director,  Idem Ultimate Limited, Hon. Unyime Idem Josiah, and Chidi Orjiakor of Correspondence Limited.

    Others are Suraju Bukoye of Easy GSM Global, CEO of Office Devices Limited, James Odili Odogwu and Samuel Adeniyi Owoeye of Hephzibah Communication and Internet Solutions.

    The trip was rounded off with a dinner at the prestigious Figueira Rubaiyat, Rua Haddock Lobo, Paulista, Sao Paulo.

    Commenting on the tour, The CEO of Easy and Quiet Limited, Mohammed Anthony said: “The trip was well planned; we had time to visit different parts of the cities of Rio de Janerio and Sao Paulo and also enjoyed the final match at Maracana, it was a royal treatment from Globacom.”

    The Managing Director of Hephzibah communication and Internet Solutions, Samuel Adeniyi Owoeye described the dealers’ visit to Brazil as unique, adding that it was a thoroughly enjoyed trip which gave the dealers the opportunity to watch not only the World Cup finals at the glamorous Maracana Stadium but also to tour the cities of Rio de Janerio and Sao Paulo which was very educating and refreshing.”

    In his remarks, the CEO of Office Devices, James Odili Odogwu, a football fan stated that it was all fun all the way as the dealers thoroughly enjoyed the final match between Argentina and Germany and the visit to many tourist attractions across the city of Rio de Janerio. He concluded: “It was a first class treatment from Glo and I thank the company for considering me for the trip.”

    The dealers have since returned to Nigeria.

    Globacom has over the years been rewarding its business associates and subscribers; the company in the last four years, has sponsored many of its dealers and business associates to watch Manchester United’s matches at the Old Trafford while some were sponsored to the  2011 UEFA Champions League Cup Final between Barcelona and Manchester United at the famous Wembley Stadium in London.