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  • Lived big, buried big

    DEATH must be so beautiful. To lie in the soft brown earth, with the grasses waving above one’s head, and listen to silence. To have no yesterday, and no tomorrow. To forget time, to forget life, to be at peace.”

    This popular saying by Irish playwright and novelist, Oscar Wilde, aptly captures the story of Ebony Vaults as well as Vaults and Garden, two exotic cemeteries in Ikoyi, Lagos. The peaceful and tranquil ambience may truly make a living man wish to want to take up a permanent residence in the vaults.

    The entrance to the private burial vault has huge intricately constructed black metal gates. The space in front of the fence is dotted with well manicured flowers and ornamental plants. Stationed at the front gate were two uniformed private guards that politely ask one his or her mission there. And like every private ‘home’, a visitor must have a strong and genuine reason to be there before you are allowed in.

    The expansive compound of Ebony Vaults Ikoyi, Lagos, in taste, architectural design and arrangement, is only comparable with a palatial home of a very rich and influential figure or the palace of a first-class monarch.

    Inside the premises, one is immediately drawn to the pleasant green, bright and soft colours from the flowers and ornamental plants all around.  The story is the same at the Vaults and Gardens, where an imposing fountain ceaselessly gushes out clean and clear water from its underbelly.

    Though a final resting place for the dead, all around, the overwhelming colour is green, the colour of life. The sections are well carved out with walkways made with interlocking stones.  And, probably in an effort to truly manifest life, beautiful peacocks spread their multi-coloured tails to welcome you to the beautiful surrounding.

    The irony about the Lagos private burial vaults is that everything about them, rather portray death, showcases life: the fountains, the beautiful peacocks, the green wall creepers, the well-demarcated and manicured lawns, are all testaments to life.

    In their life time, the rich had exotic streets named after them. In death, the trend is maintained, as they continue to enjoy the rare opportunity to own choice alleys named after them in private vaults.

    However, in the midst of the beautiful expression, you are suddenly woken up to the reality that below the  lawns are eminent personalities that once lived and enjoyed life, but are now oblivious of nature and the beauty they are surrounded with.

    The serenity, orderliness, show of affluence and dignity that one feels within the private vaults’ environment is a sharp contrast to what obtains at public cemeteries across the city. Indeed, it is almost like a continuation of the iron steel divide between the rich and the poor, even in the land of the dead.

    Like a community segregated by class and status, the Ikoyi Cemetery, a public cemetery, is just about a distance of less than 100 meters away from the private burial vaults. From afar, as you approach the cemetery, you begin to have an eerie feeling of being in the land of the dead.

    The walkway, which in the real sense of the word, are not what they are called, are bare, with no manicured lawns, orderliness and decency that reign supreme at the private vaults.

    At the entrance, in place of the guards in neatly-cut uniform that welcome you into the private vaults, about three attendants, one dressed in a buba and sokoto that have seen better days, while the other two wore shirts and trousers of different colours, sat down listening to music from a small transistor radio.

    Two of them sat on an old and unkempt grave, while the third gyrated to the music from the airwave. Not even the eerie feeling of death around matters to them.

    All around, the graves bore old cenotaphs, while some with cracks, some of the blocks used on the graves are gradually disintegrating with age.  There was little or no space between the graves. One of the attendants, who gave his name as Monday, gave a rundown of the cost of burying the dead at Ikoyi Cemetery.

    To build a ‘permanent tomb’ with blocks costs N250, 000, while double costs N480, 000. However, they could also bury one in what he referred to as ‘temporary grave’ for N45, 000. According to him, what that means is that the body would likely not spend much time at the cemetery before it would be removed to make way for a fresh corpse.

    In Africa, many attach so much importance to the final resting place. It is this desire to have a dignified final resting place that makes many to pay huge sums of money to get choice spots for themselves and loved ones at the private vaults.

    However, in recent times, it has gone beyond mere seeking a decent burial place for one’s loved ones. For many, where you are buried or where you bury your loved ones has become a status symbol.

    The success of the private vaults as a business has shown that affluent Nigerians do not just want to live big while alive, but continue to ‘live big’ even in death. They want the air of affluence to continue to hover over them wherever they are laid to rest long after they are gone.

    To achieve this, they spend huge chunks of money for a slice of the burial space in these private vaults. The demand for private burial vaults is so much now that the management of Vaults and Gardens has expanded to acquire the Victoria Court Cemetery in Ajah, Lagos.

    While for as little as N45,000, a dead man can find a space to be laid, even if it is temporary, at the public cemeteries, the least price for a space at a private burial vault within the Ikoyi area is about N3.2 million. The price, our correspondent found out, could go as high as N60 million, depending on the personality being buried.

    It should, however, be noted that this  excludes all other expenses, like the aso ebi and owambe party. The burial vaults at the private vaults are divided into high, medium and low density areas. You also have the single, double and special vaults. A special double burial vault could go for between N30 million and N50 million. There are additional charges for things like building of tombstone, depending on whether it is marble, granite or red bricks. Other services include usage of hall, naming of alley, re-opening of vaults and others.

    Despite the high cost of acquiring spaces at the private vaults, a large chunk of the burial spaces available has already been taken.  The idea of acquiring vaults and kept for years, has become also common.  At Vaults and Garden that became operational in 2006, there are vaults that had been acquired many years back that were still empty.

    Affluent Nigerians spend a fortune to maintain their standard of living; now they equally spend same to acquire their final resting places. At the relatively new Ebony Vaults, Ikoyi, all the spaces in the yet-to-be developed vaults have already been acquired.

    At both Vaults and Garden as well as Ebony Vaults, both private cemeteries, the least cost for a burial vault is N3,150,000.

    At the Vaults and Gardens, a staff, who pleaded not to be named, said: “We have two sites, one is here in Ikoyi, while the other is at the Lekki-Ajah axis. Ikoyi Vaults starts from N3.2 million. The cost for two vaults that could contain two bodies, but one person at a time is N5.2 million. You put the first body, seal it, and when the other person dies, you open it and put the second person.

    “At the Lekki-Ajah axis, there are only single vaults. The vaults go for N1.5 million. One thing that is synonymous with Vaults and Garden is that we don’t bury more than one person in a vault. Like in a public cemetery, four people could be buried in the same grave at the same time; of course the families will not know about this. But, Vaults and Garden will never bury two people in a grave. By that, I mean when it is not a double family vault. Our vaults are safe and security in guaranteed here. I will show you some of the vaults that go back to 2006 when the vault was opened. It is still very much intact. People come around to visit their loved ones.

    “The reason for the disparity in prices between Lekki-Ajah and Ikoyi vaults is that we encourage people to go to Ajah. In Lekki-Ajah, some will say it is far, but we encourage people to go there. We acquired the one at Ajah. It was formerly Victoria Court Cemetery, but it is now owned by Vaults and Garden and we are the ones managing it now.

    “A woman came here and told us that she was in her 60. She said that she knows that the Yaba Cemetery has been in existence since she was a kid and that it was still operating. I don’t know how they do it, maybe it is because of what they do. Once this place is full, we have the Victoria Court Cemetery. We have one in Port Harcourt, and also at the Redemption Camp.”

    Outside the cost of the burial vaults, there are other charges that go with burials at the private cemeteries.

    The Vaults and Garden’s staff explained further: “If there is a funeral, there are different types of tombstones- there are the marble, granite, red bricks and so on. When you make payment for the vault, you might as well make payment for the kind of tombstone you want. And inside the vault, you tell us whether you want to paint. The painting is N10, 500. If you want the inside of the vaults tiled, that will cost N63, 000.

    “When you put the person, then we put the slap and seal it. Depending on you, if you want to make the payment once and for all for the tombstone, you make it. Once these payments are made, there are no subsequent charges. The people that are buried here about 10 years ago, I think then they bought for about N500, 000 to N600, 000, since that time there have been no other payment.”

    Asked why the prices of vaults have shut up, he said: ”We all know that Ikoyi land is one of the most expensive in Lagos . The land I bought in Ikorodu five years ago, if I want to sell, it will be at a higher price. We also have to pay the cost of maintaining the place to look good.”

    A member of a family with a loved one buried at the vaults, Muyiwa, said:  “We decided to bury our mother at the private vault despite the cost, because we wanted to have peace of mind. In addition to this, my mother was somebody that loved good things. The vault was the kind of place she would have loved to be buried, and that was why we decided to do that for her. We spent about N5 million to cover every aspect of the burial and we were satisfied with the services they gave us.”

    However, a professor of Sociology at the Obafemi Awolowo University Ile-Ife, Professor  Mabayomije Aluko, believes that the craving for private vaults and other flamboyant activities has more to do with an innate desire by the super-rich to continue to enjoy what they had enjoyed while alive in the world beyond.

    Professor Aluko said: “You see, some of these things that you people talk about is not really sociological per se, it is historical. You discover that even when you read history of medieval Europe, ancient Egypt, and how the Pharaohs were buried, they were usually buried in Pyramids. That was when the issue of preserving their dead bodies was very common.  For several hundreds of years after the death of a Pharaoh, they still go there, the body is not decomposing. It is an orientation with the super rich and they believe that even in death, they should still be partaking in their wealth. That is the orientation. It is historical rather than sociological.

    “Even in Yoruba land, when kings died in those days, they will bury some slaves with them, they will bury lots of resources with them. It is believed that they will have access to such resources in the journey beyond, and that the slaves they buried with them, will still be serving them in the other world.

    “In contemporary times, it has become a status thing, that when I buried my father, Sunny Ade came to perform, the casket came from Britain. The number one undertaker was contracted and so on. It becomes a status thing. So, the sociological thing is that it is an elitist phenomenon.  It is for the super rich, but you can trace that to Europe, ancient Egypt and so on, how people were buried in a flamboyant manner.

    “But it has no religious origin. Even in the Bible, if you read the Bible well, burying people in a flamboyant manner is not biblical. In fact in the ancient Hebrew, when people died, they put ashes on their bodies and mourned; even they wanted people to come and mourn, to come and cry.

    Such burials culturally in Yoruba land, are usually for the kings, it is not for everybody.”

  • ‘She lived by example’

    ‘She lived by example’

    Femi Macaulay, member, Editorial Board of The Nation, last Friday in Lagos, buried his mother, Mrs Eleanor Bodunrin Macaulay after a funeral service at The First Baptist Church on Broad Street. OLATUNDE ODEBIYI reports.

    The Macaulay family and their friends gathered in Lagos last Friday to bid farewell to Mrs Eleanor Bodunrin Macaulay who was buried at Ikoyi Cemetery.

    She was the widow of the late Mr Frank Olusola Macaulay, grand nephew of the late Nationalist Herbert Macaulay.

    Mrs Macaulay died in Lagos last December 15, 21 days to her 80th birthday on January 5.

    Family members and guests wore white traditinal attires with green head gears.

    All stood when the choir took the processional hymn: “All hail the power of Jesus name”. As they sang, the remains of Mrs Macaulay were wheeled into the church by St Francis’s pall bearers.

    Leading members of the family was her son, Mr Femi Macaulay, an Editorial Board member of The Nation.

    Dr Enahoro David read from Psalm 134 before the choir took another hymn titled: “Immortal invisible”.

    Macaulay read the biography of his mother; his wife, Funmilayo rendered a special song for her mother-in-law.

    Mrs Omotunde Oshodi took another reading from Acts 9: 36-43.

    Pastor Rotimi Allison represented the pastor in charge of First Baptist Church, Rev Sunday Fagbemi. In his sermon, Pastor Allison urged the gathering to love Christ and live for Him.

    He said death is inevitable following which there would be judgment. Only Jesus, the cleric added, had victory over death.

    He asked the congregation where they would be on Judgement Day when Jesus would return. “Jesus is coming back someday. Where will you spend your eternity?” The cleric prayed for the bereaved family.

    The congregation moved to Ikoyi Cemetry where the remains of Mrs Macaulay were buried about 1:20 pm.

    Reception was at The Police Officers’ Mess in Onikan, Lagos. The chairs and tables were covered with white fabrics. Golden Star Band supplied music; The Mainlanders Band entertained those who sat under the tents outside.

    Macaulay described his mother as modest. “She was not a noise maker; she had respect for diversity and the differences of the other person. She was more interested in humanity than status and believed in gradual increase, development and not sudden overnight appearance of prosperity.

    “The truly prosperous person to her was a contented person not the perpetual pursuer of material. She lived by example and her punctuality was timelessness. Her modesty was often misunderstood for conservatism and she was a dynamic person and open to change,” he said.

    He recalled his  memorable moment with his mother. He said: “It was in 2009 during her late husband’s 80th birthday when I noticed certain gestures, especially when the two of them were dancing on the occasion. It seems to remind them of sometime in the past when they were much younger and when they did things together. It might not have been obvious to everybody present on that occasion but looking at even the picture of both of them dancing; you will see a certain sense of procession.

    “From the scene, I saw her excited because I had not seen my mother that excited in a long time and they demonstrated to me how deeply committed she was to the relationship she had with my father.”

    He went on.  “I will miss her quiet laughter, her sense of humour, her philosophical perspectives and her motherly love”.

    A close family member, who had known the deceased for over 60 years and Chairman, A-tech Nigeria Limited, Mr Akin Ajayi, described the late Mrs Macaulay as a warm hearted woman who took care of her late husband’s family.

    Her younger brother, Mr Bankole Williams, said his sister was a darling. “She lived a good and disciplined life; she took special care of me to the point of assisting my father to pay my secondary school fees. She disliked anything flamboyant and believed in modesty”.

     

  • Maya Angelou: A life lived for others

    When the media broke the news of the death of Maya Angelou, I felt a deep sense of loss.

    I was grieved in my spirit because she was a legend, who greatly inspired me through her memoirs and poetry.

    While I was growing up, her books and songs were spiritually and intellectually inspiring. In the last one year, I had been hatching plans to eventually meet her physically and was almost on the verge of achieving that before the news of her death broke.

    Death played a fast one on me this time but I have learnt a lesson from this– Never procrastinate.

    All my heroes, who are still alive and whom I have been yearning to meet physically are in for a hard time from me. I will push until they grant me audience.

    The late Maya Angelou was born in 1928 at a time when blacks and other minorities had limited rights and were voiceless, especially in the United States of America and other Western countries. She was born into hardship; she was raped when she was eight; shunned by the society and surrounded by acute racism-induced hatred; she, along with many other minority children went through enormous deprivation and lack.

    Maya Angelou was not deterred by her circumstances: rather, she knew the place of good education and put herself through school. It was through education that she became empowered enough to break the shackles of oppression and racism that held down many minority persons.

    When she hit the literary scene in 1969 with her book: I know Why the Caged Bird Sings, the world was forced to notice her. That book was the beginning of what she had for humanity as she went on to traverse many vistas. However, in all she did, she excelled as she zealously saw every step as an opportunity for further success.

    She received over 30 honorary doctorate degrees and many international awards for her great performance on and off the stage. She was first among equals- a pacesetter in an era when she was supposed to be seen and not heard. She was indeed a trailblazer and a pathfinder as she trod where many others of her race and gender never did and led the way for others to follow.

    I cannot forget her contributions to the numerous struggles for the emancipation of the minorities and the downtrodden in the United States through the liberation movement championed by the Civil Rights Movement.

    It was not only her great writings that inspired people. She was actively present on the streets, the picket lines, and the numerous protests and rallies that were organised to liberate blacks, Hispanics and the entire American people from the gyres of ignorance which had driven them into the evil of segregation and racism.

    Her commitment to that struggle was anchored on her strong belief that once the mind is free, man is free. It was therefore not surprising when she took up residency in Ghana to oversee the Ghana School of Music, through which she sought to affect and mould young Ghanaian minds and the black race through music. Her accomplishments in that school are still there for all to see today.

    Despite all the accolades she received, she said her greatest reward and joy was seeing the hitherto downtrodden minorities in America rise to occupy the pinnacle of power in the American society. Maya Angelou said that was a culmination of all the years of struggle and the pains and anguish that the people collectively experienced. According to her, it was a fitting reward that washed away the tears that were shed and the lonely cold nights endured so that the people- both blacks and white would see the light and sit together as one to build a strong and united country.

    Her life was remarkable because it was completely spent giving joy and happiness to others: she made freedom possible for people. Angelou lived a selfless life devoted to her people and country.

    She saw the victory of the minorities not from the parochial prism of “we have done it” but from the standpoint that the American society had once again conquered one of the many shibboleths that threatened its existence and blighted all its achievements as the summit of human civilisation at that point.

    Maya Angelou lived a life that was full of zest and verve. Hers was a life lived many times over because she was a woman of many parts. Her accomplishments would take other equally great men and women many lifetimes to attain.

    Death ought to be terminal. But in Angelou, death is but the beginning of a new chapter. While she was alive, she triumphed over death: transcending all the thresholds and breaking all the chains, limitations and finality which death had brought over others. She has become immortal. One of the greatest of the last millennium! She will forever live in our hearts.

    Are there lessons to be learnt from the way Maya lived her life?

    Yes, there are numerous lessons. Her determination and courage in the face of daunting challenges should be a source of encouragement to all Nigerians today, given the many challenges confronting us, especially the youth. Maya’s character is proof that we should not allow ourselves to be held down by anything. We all possess the innate ability to rise from the ashes and emancipate ourselves as well as the entire Nigerian nation.

    Her life should speak hope to many struggling and oppressed souls all over the world: do not give up. Oftentimes, the choice is ours – whether to say NO and arise or to say YES and remain in servitude. As a nation, we can break the bonds of backwardness and stagnation through our commitment to the Nigerian project.

    It means we cannot sit in our houses and expect others to fight for us; the civic responsibility is in our hands. We must arise and make a difference through the ballot or through cooperation with other like minds.

    Maya Angelou’s life speaks to us all to rise up as responsible citizens of a nation and refuse to be cowed by the misdeeds or terror, which some few individuals have decided to mete out to us.

    Maya marched, we can march; she wrote, we can write; she sang, we can sing; she acted, we can act. It is our call. Who says we cannot surmount our country’s security challenges if we all decide to take the right step today?

    Maya Angelou gave herself and her resources; she never sought personal glory or benefits. Her focus was entirely on ensuring the rights of her people were respected, protected and enforced.

    Our motivation should therefore be the liberation that could be enjoyed by the masses and the various peoples of Nigeria: by the good that we can truly make possible for Nigeria and Nigerians. This is the source of everlasting joy that we must all seek so that we can outlive our times, just like Maya.

    She neither held any political office nor was she one of the richest persons in the USA. However, she was one of the very few who received America’s highest award possible for civilians – the Presidential Medal of Freedom. She was regarded by the United States as one of the best the country ever produced.

    A life lived for others and the society is eternal, it remains the source of perpetuity and not the quantum of resources that an individual is able to amass to the detriment of the society. Anyone who aspires to make a name must first help Nigerians to live their dreams; it is through this that we can achieve immortality. That was Angelou’s niche.

    She was a gift to the world and not just the black race; she blessed humanity through her musical talent, oratorical and acting prowess.

    Her memory will remain evergreen. In her music, we see her passion; in her literary works, we see her zeal and commitment and in her public speeches and statements, we beheld her courage and drive. These virtues never die for they are immortal.

     

    • Rt. Hon. Ikuforiji, is Speaker, Lagos State House of Assembly.

  • ‘Olayinka lived a life of service’

    Ekiti State Governor Kayode Fayemi yesterday said his late deputy, Mrs. Funmilayo Olayinka, lived a life of service.

    He said she was not just central to the transformation agenda of the state, but was supportive of all his administration’s initiatives.

    Fayemi spoke at the Government House in Ado-Ekiti, the state capital, when his Abia State counterpart, Theodore Orji, visited him.

    Orji was accompanied by the Abia State House of Assembly Speaker, Sir Ude Oko Chukwu and some top government officials.

    Fayemi said even at the point of death, his deputy remained passionate about seeing the administration fulfil its promises to the people.

    Fayemi said: “She was a strong pillar to the work we are doing in the state. She was central to it. She was loyal and supportive of all the work we pledged to do for our people. She gave her best. She was full of zest, despite the excruciating pain she experienced from the debilitating ailment she suffered from. She was more concerned about relieving others of their pain, rather than focusing on what she was going through. We thank God for her life of service and sacrifice.”

    He said the late Mrs. Olayinka’s life of service would be greatly missed by the Ekiti people.

    Orji described the late Mrs. Olayinka as “an amiable woman”, who represented Ekiti State well among the comity of states.

    He said: “I know your government did everything possible to save her, but it is apparent that her time was up. I know what you feel, but take heart. It is one of those things that happen in this life. As my friend, we are here to show solidarity. Abia State mourns your deputy. We feel for you and your state.”

    Describing the late deputy governor as a patriot, Orji said Abia would be adequately represented at her funeral slated for April 26 in Ado-Ekiti.