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  • Why ‘japa’ is not necessary if you’re earning well in Nigeria, by Ms DSF

    Why ‘japa’ is not necessary if you’re earning well in Nigeria, by Ms DSF

    Media personality Dorcas Shola Fapson, popularly known as Ms DSF, has cautioned Nigerians earning a decent salary at home to think carefully before moving abroad for work, saying overseas jobs are not always as rewarding as they seem.

    Speaking on a podcast with Jay On Air, Ms DSF pointed out that many people assume working in the UK automatically means earning more, but the high cost of living, including rent and transport, can make it hard to save.

    She shared her father’s struggle when he first moved abroad, working multiple jobs to support his family but barely earning enough.

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    Ms DSF advised Nigerians to weigh the challenges and rewards carefully before deciding to leave the country for work, saying a good salary in Nigeria might actually offer better opportunities and comfort than an unfamiliar, unenjoyable job abroad.

    She said, “People think you’re abroad and you’re making pounds. They could be abroad doing a cleaner job, making however much per hour. You probably have better opportunities here in Nigeria.

    “Do you know how much rent is in the UK? Do you know how much public transport there is? Before you even make your salary, let’s say you’re doing cleaner work or driving a taxi.

    “When my dad first went, he was a taxi driver. Imagine what he was making while trying to take care of his whole family, me, my brother, all my siblings, and my mum. He was working 9 to 5, then 5 to 9… taxi driver, security, accountant, just to make a little money.

    “I get it, like if you make it in the UK, it’s great because pounds are stronger and it’s nice to make pounds, but it’s not like that you really have to hustle to build your way up.”

  • Nigerian men intimidated by successful women, says Ms DSF

    Nigerian men intimidated by successful women, says Ms DSF

    Media personality Dorcas Shola Fapson, popularly known as Ms DSF, has shared her views on the insecurities Nigerian men experience when in relationships with successful women.

    Speaking on the Bahd and Boujee Podcast, she discussed how her achievements have made some men feel threatened.

    Ms DSF noted that many Nigerian men grapple with feelings of inadequacy when faced with a woman’s success, beauty, and confidence.

    She also said that even her male friends admitted to feeling intimidated by her accomplishments.

    “When you are successful, beautiful and have everything going for you, I feel like it can be intimidating to a lot of men. I’ve had a lot of my male friends tell me that I come across as intimidating” she said.

    She further said that a successful woman needs not to prove herself worth instead, adding that it’s the man who must demonstrate his value and level up to match her standards.

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    “It takes a very secure man to support, encourage and love someone who is successful, beautiful and has everything going for them. Because you [the man] have to bring a lot to the table. I don’t have to prove what I am bringing to your table, you have to show me what you’re bringing to my table. You’ve to level up and beat my level.

    “It takes a lot for a man to do that and for him to be secure in his masculinity and not feel like the successful woman is overbearing. Nigerian men are not confident in their masculinity, they can’t see a woman as an equal and be comfortable”, she concluded.