I grew up in Fadeyi, one of the rough and rowdy outskirts of Lagos. Fadeyi had everything and anything. We had the refined ones, the ghetto ones, and the carefree ones. I must not forget to mention that in our great Fadeyi, we had good girls, bad girls and the naughty ones.
But generally speaking, we have different categories of girls all round the world, we have bad girls and whether we like it or not, we have the very naughty girls. I am eager to tell you a few things about good girls. They are very regular, well behaved and they show decorum in the way they talk and carry themselves. They don’t speak, unless they are spoken to. Their whereabouts at any given time are known by their parents and even siblings alike. You cannot date them to take them out of their homes unless you have their parents’ permissions. They are so well-mannered; they could wait for their wedding nights to get ‘deflower’. Their good girl status has nothing to do with their upbringing or the society; it is just the way they are.
The bad girls are just for no reason in particular. They are the insatiable types, the types that would extort from a man without a second thought. They would date two to three friends at a go, with no apologies to anyone. They are capable of getting any man of their choice at their beck and call. If it is even remotely possible to steal their friend’s man. They would go right ahead without butting an eyelid.
Lastly, the naughty girls. They are the ones that know how to make a man happy; both in bed and outside the bed. They are not in the reserved league at all. When a man is daring enough to date them, they meet up with the man’s expectations. This group of girls dates their men with no pretence whatsoever; most guys go with this group of girls because they like to cut straight to the chase. This brings me to the story of my childhood neighbours, Franca and Ijeoman. Franca and Ijeoma were age mates, but their differences were like night and day.
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Franca, to everyone’s knowledge, was tagged a very naughty girls. She was notorious. Every man wanted her because she knew how to treat them right.
In fairness to her, Franca never double dated at any time. She was always a one man’s woman. Ironically, her suitors could not have enough of her, but because people saw her as notorious, they refused to be seen in the public with her. Austin, on his part, was also a daring young man. He was bold enough to date Franca openly without any inhibitions. Two years into their relationship, they took a step further and tied the knot. Austin later won the US lottery and he relocated with his family to the United States of America.
The stories that have been reaching us thereafter are that Franca later became a very industrious lady. She secured two different jobs and opted to also further her education. Austin was encouraged by Franca to send for his mother to come for a visit. In February, this year; they just completed their three-storey building in Delta State. They plan to visit in December to officially open their family home. Austin today attributes his success story to his once naughty girlfriend that has now become his very caring, industrious and loving wife.
Ijeoma, on her part, was the regular girl next door. Very homely, reserved, decent (if you like the type that wears very long skirt and oversized shirt to match). Everybody felt Ijeoma was the ideal girl to marry. She was supposedly everyman’s dream of a good woman. Ijeoma lived a good life. She had a very clean slate. There was no man or boy that ever dated her. She was later married off to an eligible suitor based in England called Udoma.
Ijeoma’s husband was ecstatic to meet his wife a virgin. Things were wonderful. The marriage was simply a dream come true or so everybody thought, Ijeoma’s true colour came into play when she started telling her husband who could come to their family house in England and who could not.
Only those who could visit were ijeoma’s people. First, her immediate younger brother left for England, then her mum and soon, her elder sister.
Whenever Udoma tried to suggest that one of his people should visit even for a month, hell would be let loose. Ijeoma just could not tolerate any of her in-laws. Udoma tolerated this for four years of their marriage. In those years, no money was sent to his people, even calls were drastically reduced. In the fourth year, Udoma could not take it anymore. He reacted by refusing to take meals at home. Ijeoma provoked him endlessly, and when he could not take it anymore, he slapped her.
To cut a very long story short. Udoma has been deported to Nigereia. The court held that he could not remain in England because he was physically abusing his wife. We were all shocked to see him back in Nigeria after spending so many years abroad.We also knew that his predicament was as result of marrying a bad girl in a good girl’s skin.
Till date, he is trying to find his feet. So, the question is what kind of girl would you settle for? Readers’ responses are welcome.