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  • Commissioner to parents, guardians: develop good parenting skills

    Lagos State Commissioner for Youth and Social Development Agboola Dabiri has urged parents and guardians to develop good parenting skills.

    This, he said at a town hall meeting on “Better parenting plus with parents, guardians, school administrators and caregivers”, in Alausa, Ikeja, would save the world from ills.

    Dabiri, represented by the Special Adviser on Social Development, Mrs. Joyce Onafowokan, said parenting was an important aspect of societal growth and development, which had been taken for granted over the years.

    “It takes more than just money and love in raising a child properly,” he said.

    Most parents and guardians, the commissioner said, saw parenting as a natural occurrence and just lived by the day, bringing the children up to the best of their knowledge and ability.

    “It is important to note that most forms of societal decadence begin from the values instilled in the children from home, which is a primary function of parenting. There is no perfect parent and each child is unique in his or her own way, but understanding who your child is will help in building them into an independent and emotionally-stable adult equipped with the skills to face real life challenges,”  he said.

    According to him, the ministry just concluded a three-day training on “Better parenting plus”, using the newly revised curriculum comprising 20 modules and additional session on “Early childhood development and parenting adolescent” for 25 participants, who will take the message to their local governments and communities.

    The ministry’s Permanent Secretary, Mr. Hakeem Muri-Okunola, said “Better parenting plus” was aimed at positive behavioural change towards parenting styles.

    He said parenting was not all about biological relationship, adding that anyone coming in contact with a child can parent, as parenting is everybody’s responsibility.

    “It takes the whole community to raise a child. We should try as much as possible to be our brother’s keeper, notice and do something when any child needs to be given extra care or protection,” Muri-Okunola noted.

  • Schools’ resumption blues for parents

    The 2018/2019 academic session kicked off on Monday with a gloomy weather. The weather seemed to reflect the state of the pockets of parents many of who lamented the high cost of getting their children back in school. Kofoworola Belo-Osagie, Adegunle Olugbamila, Jane Chijioke, Oluwatobi Junaid, Florence Udoh, and Barakat Quadri report.

    A new school year began on Monday bringing with it mixed feelings for

    parents. Though many were relieved that the holiday was over, others lamented the high cost of  getting their children back to school.They have to contend with fee increment, high cost of books, change of uniforms, and others.

    Some said they were prepared for all these, others stated that poor state of the economy made nonsense of their preparations.

    Mrs Oluwatoyin Fatokun is in the camp many parents would love to be. She said she was well prepared for the resumption of the 2018/2019 academic session.

    “I don’t think it is something stressful because it is a normal thing that is supposed to happen as long as you have children. I don’t like impromptu preparation so I like to prepare in advance so that it does not meet me unawares,” she said.

    But the same cannot be said of Mr Adeniran, a father of three who sells electrical fittings in Igando area of Lagos.   He outrightly declared that he did not look forward to the resumption period.

    “I only live based on my income so I do not send my children to expensive schools.  But even at that I have gone to source for loans to meet up with my children’s needs and their school requirements,” said Adeniran, who wished all school fees paying period could be fast forwarded.

    Things used to be better for Mr Ajala Ilori.  He said he used to be able to meet all the expenses for his son who has been attending the Command Secondary School, Ijebu-Ode in the past four years. But this session is different.  He could not pay the boarding fees of N50,000 and had to beg for time.

    “Things are pretty hard these days,” Ilori lamented. Since my son enrolled here, I had never failed to meet up with all his expenses. But, for the first time, even though their fees are very modest, I managed to pay the school fees, PTA, and books, except the N50,000 hostel fee. Unfortunately, their hostel is private sector-driven, so I had to go cap-in-hand to the managers of the hostel and signed an undertaking with them to pay the money before December.”

    A single parent in Ikorodu, Ms. Onome Obiageli, could not enrol her nearly two-year-old son James, as earlier planned, because the school refused 50 per cent payment of his fees. This is despite his two older siblings attending the same school.

    “It has been my desire before the long vacation started to enrol him this new session. Along the line, I realised I had to prepare for his two older siblings who are also resuming, and that affected me a lot financially as a single parent.

    “However, since I had a good rapport with the school, I thought they would consider me paying half tuition but the school rejected my appeal. So, I have decided that James remains at home with me until I have the ability to meet his expenses. I do not want to gamble only for me to end up embarrassing myself if I cannot pay the other half of his fees,” she said.

    Another parent, Mr Azeez Olaosebikan, who lives in Ojo area of Lagos, said he pays fees in halves. He added that this session, he could not afford to buy the complete books on the list for his wards.

    “Before, I ensured I paid the tuition for my two kids in secondary school, one in SSI and the other in JSS 3. But I have not been doing that since the beginning of last session. I usually pay half at the beginning of each term and the rest before the school goes on midterm.”

    “My wife has also insisted we pay for only Maths and English textbooks. She would buy the rest in the market so as to save cost. Before, the school would not allow students use books other than the ones they supply; but now, they hardly worry us parents because many could not even afford to buy books at all, let alone buy from the market. Schools also know things are bad and they have to tolerate us,” he said.

    Some other families now split the cost between both parents to make school fees affordable.

    Mrs Funmi Odeji, a business woman, who resides in Magboro, Ogun State said after splitting the fees for their four children with her husband, her share of the bill came to N700,000.

    “The list for provisions for my first son that is in boarding school is just too much.  I have almost N700,000 to contribute in preparation for the resumption; my husband will pay the rest,” she said.

    Mrs Blessing Iselobhor, a resident of Ajao Estate, said she and her husband had to sacrifice to be able to pay fees.

    “Since last month it has been preparation all the way. In fact, there are some things my husband and I had to forgo just to ensure that we get the school fees payment off our neck. One of my children in LASU resumed last month; that alone consumed much from me.  Now the other two would take roughly N120,000 with other miscellaneous not inclusive,”  she said.

    With the challenges paying fees, some parents said they could not even contemplate changing schools as it would cost even more.

    Mrs Peace Ogi, a business woman, said the cost deterred her from changing schools.

    She said: “I am not changing my children’s school because when I think of the money for registration and other things in the new school, I am not ready for that.”

    Mrs Rasheedat Quadri, a trader on Lagos Island, also said getting her children to change school was too stressful and money consuming for her.

    But many of the school owners said they did not increase fees this year.Those that said they did claimed the increment was minimal.

    The Proprietor, Precious Scholars’ Schools, Ajegunle, Ogun State, Mr Iboro Monday, said fees were not increased because of consideration of the high cost burden on parents at the start of a new session.

    “The school has the system of not increasing school fees in first term as we consider our parents. They will be faced with many challenges like buying of books, bags, lunch box and the rest, and it will be proper not to increase the school fees as it might become an additional burden to them or they might end up withdrawing their children,” he said.

    The Proprietor, Al-Islamdeen Private School, Evans Street, Lagos Island, simply called Mr Sulaimon, said except for books, there was no fee increment in his school.

    “There is no increment in the school fees but there is in the textbook fee because the amount we are getting the books is increasing every time,” he said.

    He added that school owners were not also finding it easy running schools because of the economy.

    “Preparing the school for resumption is not an easy task and it requires the collaboration of both the teachers and the parents. We are facing challenges from the parents because most of them are not financially buoyant and they want the best for their children. Most of the teachers don’t want to work but want to get money. It takes a lot of willpower from me to put the right notion in their heads. Government is demanding a lot from us and not trying in any way to help us the way they help Public schools,” he said.

    Mrs Grace Majekodunmi, Head Teacher of Excel Land Private School, Ajao Estate, said the two per cent increment on fees in her school covered improvement costs.

    “Yes, there is about two per cent increase in the school fees. As part of our strategic plan to always upgrade ourselves, we are starting this term with a new uniform and also bought some computers for ICT classes. It is all about branding and improvement. The school fee was initially N17,500 but it is now N23,500,” she said.

    Head Teacher of Little Eagles Montessori, Mafoluku, Oshodi, Mrs Shade Williams, said the school invested in an upgrade despite not increasing fees.

    “We did some renovations in the school like repainting, added some furniture and basic educational tools but still the school fee remains the same. If there would be an increase, we would have conveyed it to parents before we vacated last term,” she said.

  • My parents don’t deserve me! (Fathers, attention please!)

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I feel like I’m not normal! I clocked 18 recently and I don’t think or behave like my age mates! I’m much more mature but don’t have boyfriends like my friends do! This has left me lonely. Also, I’ve had issues with my parents, right from when I was a mere child! I have always been verbally abused by my dad! This has affected me a whole lot since when I was much younger! In fact I remember an incident that happened when I was just five years old when my dad poured out his frustration on me by insulting me! Beginning from that day I lost my self esteem and self confidence. I began keeping to myself! I simply cowered into a shell from those who should love me the most and make life enjoyable for me. I went through a lot of emotional abuse out there but couldn’t confide in my parents or any family member. I would cry myself to sleep every night! Until I couldn’t take it anymore and had to come out of my shell little by little! I’m the first daughter and I don’t have any father-daughter relationship with my dad! He believes he has been doing the world for me by sending me to school, providing me food and shelter! I cannot ask him anything aside those things! I have been carrying my natural hair for over two months now without making it! He doesn’t care! My dad has never given me pocket money! (Not because he doesn’t have). Since I became a teenager, my dad never gave me money for new clothes or underwear or even sanitary pads! I doubt he even knows I menstruate! My mom on the other hand tries her best! She has her own unpleasant issues with my dad! And she has her faults too! She’s not attentive! She doesn’t know how to listen, besides she’ll never understand me!

    Emotionally, I have really liked a guy before and according to him it was mutual! I didn’t date him; I had made it clear to him! And so we went about it the most responsible way which was normal friendship! Well, long story cut short – he went behind me and started dating someone else! It was quite heart-breaking but I thank God he didn’t make me lose my virginity!

    There is one thing I know and that is the fact that my parents don’t deserve me! Despite all these things and more that I daily go through, I never gave them problems that teenagers give their parents. I was and will never be wayward! I have never been in a romantic relationship, never had “friends with benefits!”  Yet they don’t seem to appreciate what they have! I’ve had several opportunities to do bad things but I didn’t!  All I truly desire with all my heart is a close relationship with God! I’m all by myself! Mummy, is this how I’ll continue with life? I’m tired! Please help me ma!

    Dear parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Whenever I see my childhood photos, I relieve with great joy and nostalgia my childhood. And I had planned to do a special post on the effect of a father’s love especially on a girl-child because of what my upbringing is making out of me and thousands of girls! We are quite a number from same parents but my late dad was a father like no other -he loved us much too excessively and expressed it like no man’s business! A strict disciplinarian though, he raised us like the Von Trapp family of Salzburg, Austria, whose delightful story was made into Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Broadway musical, The Sound of Music. Every day was Christmas! We were like trophies to him – he treated us like his last breath! I won’t even go further! Why? I stumbled on this young lady’s message to me and realised too many have fathers who behave like they are living-dead! The story above broke my heart and I’ve decided to adopt her as my daughter! This girl needs a father!

    What surprises me is her wisdom, her resolution to remain pure in spite of the lack of love and attention she’s been used to all her life, her contentment! What a life! In this age when most 16-year-olds are celebrating their graduation from high school with getting deflowered! There are thousands of teenagers out there whose parents are daily splurging on and showering with love and attention who don’t give a hoot about morality and who most of the time are their parents’ nightmare! I see an Amazon in the making – a woman of steel! I read from girls on a daily basis but this one really touched my heart! She belongs to me! Hmm…I don’t even know what to write again but can only pray God forgives parents who refuse to nurture their children!

  • Parents, watch out for your girls during this long vacation!!! (2)

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I’m just 16 years old but I have this challenge of boys claiming to love me and that they will do anything for me but I refuse to date them. However, they still insist and there are about four of them mounting pressure on me now! I have been dating one of them in the last one year but early this year I told him I’m no longer interested because my mom told me if  I date a boy at my age, I’ll get pregnant and the boy will abandon me. I don’t want to get pregnant at my age. However, he doesn’t want to let go of me. He keeps telling me he loves me and he knows I’m still a virgin and I wish to remain so till my wedding night. Please advise me ma. I’m confused!

    Anonymous

    My darling anonymous,

    There’s nothing unusual about your experience with guys at your age. Your mother has told you nothing but the truth. At 16, every girl is at the peak of puberty and discovering herself. Just like male teenagers, she has the tendency to be deluded about a lot of things and set her mind on whatever catches her fancy with a passion and so much gusto! A lot of girls who got pregnant at 16 never planned it! They got carried away with dangerous love poems and suffocating attention from their boyfriends. Now that you’re on holidays, I’d like you to Google my articles on “The distraction called boyfriend” and many more of my weekly write-ups. Your soul will become so illuminated with the spirit of God and you won’t spare that guy a thought thereafter! By the way, many guys that age chasing 15, 16-year-old girls are predators – I won’t call them paedophiles yet! Most times, these guys can’t get girls above 19 to swoon with love as they wish so they go for younger girls like you who more often than not have not opened eye, according to street parlance. I encourage you to read those articles and you’ll be more empowered and determined on your resolution as you would realise you don’t need a boyfriend in your teens.

    Girls…girls…girls, under 20, NO GUY DESERVES YOUR ATTENTION more keenly than the HOLY SPIRIT AND YOUR STUDIES! These two will go a long way in determining the QUALITY and ALTITUDE of your life!

    Dear Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    In the last few weeks I’ve been writing on reasons your girls are obsessed with boyfriends. These include inadequate love and attention, social media/peer pressure, financial incapacity and the last which I’ll discuss today is Satanic Manipulation.

    Any right thinking person should know by now that our entire existence is based on the supernatural. We are moved and act according to what lives inside us/spiritual influences. The world is ruled by good and evil. I tell you, when an average teenager misbehaves, I pity him/her because more often than not, they don’t know what they are doing! They’re only acting out the spirit that’s controlling them! And I tell you the devil likes to torment these ages the most because it knows once it can derail and divert their attention from the path that shines with light to darkness, it has won the battle over their lives! Anyone who mocks you for trying to spiritualise your children or tease you about their getting involved in church activities always is a devil you need to run from. There’s too much pressure on these children and you can’t be with them all the time. However, the spirit of God you build in them over time is what will save them from peril and what more they turn out to be stars with excellent grades! Don’t forget there are evil wise men around you who know the type of stars your children carry; who have in fact seen the magnitude of their greatness! Please spend time with them during these long holidays. Ensure they rub minds with God daily, fire them up by making them memorize 2 scriptures daily until their souls begin to resonate with those verses! Even you will be perplexed at what will become of them before they resume school. Then wait for the next term’s result! You would wish you had been putting them through such an exercise! Your children’s enemy (the devil) shall know the bitter shame of defeat over their lives and its everlasting shame will know no end! May the power of God surround them like a shield and may God bless them and make them very great in Jesus mighty name! Happy holidays!

  • Lagos charges parents on children’s health, education

    Parents and guardians have been urged  to feed their children and wards with nutritious foods. That way, their cognitive abilities will be well developed and their academic liives improved, the Lagos State Ministry of Education Director of Administration and Human Resource, Mrs. Folashade Lediju,  has said.

    Mrs Lediju, who represented the Deputy Governor, Dr. Idiat Adebule spoke at the ninth  Astymin children academic reward programme- Astymin Brilliance Reward held at Alausa, Ikeja, Lagos.

    She commended Fidson Healthcare Plc for its commitment to the academic development of children through the company’s Astymin brand yearly flagship programme, Astymin Brilliance Reward.

    Mrs Adebule said Astymin’s contribution to the development of education and academic performance of the child was commendable. She said  Fidson and its Astymin brand are investing in the future of the nation through the provision of educational materials to the leaders of tomorrow, the kids.

    Mrs Adebule noted Fidson’s consistency in supporting children’s educational development in the past nine years.

    “It is good to know that this beautiful programme has been on for the past nine years. We want to encourage Fidson to continue to soar higher and higher. May the Lord continue to empower and enable them. We must also commend their focus on primary education, which is indeed, the foundation for educational development. We all know that once the foundation is solid, definitely, success is assured,” she said.

    Mrs Adebule also noted that Astymin as a food supplement is very important for every growing child, adding: “Once the children are healthy, they will be able to channel their energy into developing themselves, their education will not be a problem because only a healthy and sound mind will be able to access education and develop with it.’’

    Also, the Director of Co-Curricular Department, State Universal Basic Education Board (SUBEB), Mr Hakeem Olushola Olalekan, expressed gratitude to Astymin for the reward programme.

    “We are very grateful to Astymin for this brilliant reward. This is an encouragement to the pupils, teachers as well as their parents who put in so much effort to ensure their kids work hard and perform excellently in their academics,”, he said.

    The Astymin Brilliance Reward started in 2010.

    This year’s edition was attended by the best graduating pupils from about 210 private and public schools across the south-west and Southeast, as well as parents, teachers and stakeholders in the educational system.

     

    The Astymin brand recognised and rewarded the kids with certificates of excellence and valuable prizes, which were presented by Mrs. Lediju, Mr Hakeem Olusola Olalekan, Mrs. Ismail Morenike and other dignitaries and officials at the event.

    This year’s ABR event was colourfully adorned in an atmosphere of fun, friendship, sharing, networking andexcitement. The kids, as well as their parents, had so much fun with lots of music, dance, with so much to eat and drink.

    This edition of ABR is an evidence of Fidson’s unrelenting commitment to supporting the kids in all their academic endeavours, through its Astymin brand. This is in line with the corporate brand promise of valuing lives. It is the company’s attempt to bring back the glory days of Nigerian’s education by throwing its weight behind the children’s drive for academic excellence.

     

  • Parents, teach your daughters contentment & endurance!!!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I clocked 27 last month yet I have my virginity intact. I have passed and am still passing through hell in the hands of men! Living a chaste life hasn’t been easy for me but I must confess your posts and prayers have kept me going. Please keep it up ma! I was compelled to share your last post to serve as a reminder of my heavenly package which the Lord has in store for me. The temptation and sexual urge is at its peak now but I won’t ever compromise – NEVER! I can’t afford to lose my glory because I have come too far to give up. Please have it in mind that you are going to grace my wedding when that special man finally arrives. I will be most delighted to see you watch your daughter/mentee fulfil her promise to God on her wedding day. Please you have to promise me you’ll be there! I love you!

    Ujunwa (Nnewi)

     

    Dear Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Reasons your teenage girls are obsessed with boyfriends!(Contd.)

    1. Financial incapacity

    Times have been hard for so many since the beginning of time, however, there’s no time in history when moral values was ignored by many parents and caution thrown to the wind as this age! Many parents have not done well in this regard. Isn’t it rather appalling to find an expensive phone with a girl whose parents can barely afford to pay her school fees? Or find her putting on the trendiest of clothes to lectures? Fathers may not know the clothing items their daughters have, however an average mother knows her daughter’s wardrobe/what she bought her. Yet you find so many girls going home with clothes their parents never bought them and their mothers aren’t bothered to question them! There are so many young ladies on campus whose parents have never bought a car yet they have cars gifted to them by boyfriends. And with the latest set of role models this generation of girls has, the thirst for material things/luxury has risen to a disturbing level such that most girls would rather concentrate on looking fabulous and sexy to attract and date rich guys/men than concentrate on their education/self-development! If you ask me – there’s serious fire on the mountain!

    We are at an age where girls below 16 readily sleep with guys for a paltry sum of N500 because most of them don’t know any better! A lot of parents are terribly submerged in their economic hardship such that they can’t be bothered to look after their offspring who should be their compensation and goldmine in future. Yet they allow them rot – yes, these girls rot away while they should be making the most of their virtues, vivid imagination, super innate skills and potential to chart a course that will give them all the money in the world in future! Unfortunately, a lot of them can’t endure hardship because they don’t have enough conviction from their closest relatives while too many are suffocated by the social media and pressure running after wealth that could avail them the good things of life sleeping around with all sorts of men, exposing their destinies to a demonic invasion that will ensure they never live out the glorious life they are entitled to. How sad!

    You need to teach your children – both male and female, contentment right from their impressionable years! The pressure out there is alarming and it’s going to get worse. You can imagine why a young man would decide to use his mother, girlfriend or sibling for rituals just to make money! Girls (females) are wired by God to be natural goldmines – they can have anything and everything they can ever desire; they are loaded with so much! Now what happens when these powerful spiritual gifts are dashed to or satanically-diverted by a boyfriend or completely contaminated? I know some women who were really “happening” in their early 20s, flying first class flights all over the world, painting the town red with latest designer wears and brand new Mercedes Benz cars who are now penniless in their 50s! It appears their potential to make money and be self-sufficient disappeared! This is a very serious matter! Yes, you and your children may be suffering so much hardship and you want your children to make the most of their relationships and have some economic respite! However, you’re better off delaying gratification! Believe me, there’s no one who truly resisted temptations of the good things of life and rebuffed sexual advances from men who God will not glorify and place the world at her feet!!! Stop directly or indirectly pushing your daughters to boyfriends/sugar daddies!

    • To be continued.
  • Drugs that destroy

    In our present world, drug education is important to give to youths as they mature just as they receive sex education.  Parents and teachers, for the sake of their wards, also need sufficient understanding of drugs.  Leaders, government, rulers, and religious authorities also all need sufficient knowledge of drugs in today’s world.

    Use of prescription drugs may result in serious problems including fatality when such drugs are combined with other drugs or substances such as alcohol.   Pharmacologists call this drug-drug interaction.

    Prescription drugs may also become harmful if used wrongly or against the instruction of the doctor, pharmacist, nurse or other health care provider. Clinicians refer to this as non-compliance.

    Some people react oddly to drugs used in normal dosage and normal conditions because of their own genetic make-up.  When they react too much, this is called supersensitivity.  When they fail to react, this is called refractoriness.

    Some people are allergic to certain drugs, for example penicillin.  This means that if the drug gets in contact with them, their immune system over reacts.  They end up with symptoms such as hives, rash, itching and a life threatening reaction called anaphylaxis. Anaphylaxis involves multiple systems of the body. This condition develops fast (even within seconds or minutes) and the person can be saved from imminent death if promptly injected with adrenaline and treated in an emergency room in hospital. Thus one should not take drugs that one may be allergic to.

    Some people have enzymes that destroy a particular type of drugs too fast such that the drug is ineffective.  This is dangerous if the drug is supposed to be life-saving or life sustaining.

    Social drug use for recreation or private drug use for emotional escape has destroyed many lives simply because the victims were ignorant of the effects of drugs or were deceived by wrong information about drugs.  Drug abuse is a nontherapeutic utilization of drugs in a manner that generates risk. Drug abuse is a challenge for many governments, parents, teachers and other authorities as there are no adequate means to fight or eradicate this social ill.

    Considering the various examples of how drugs can destroy a person mentioned above, it is difficult to identify some drugs as more dangerous than others.  All drugs are potentially dangerous.

    However some drugs and substances are notoriously dangerous.  Clinical experience, social experience, and the evidence of the cost of such drug use on the individual or the society, on property, on relationships, etc.  underscore some drugs and substances as

    most dangerous and these include alcohol, heroine, fentanyl, cocaine and cigarettes. They are not the most toxic drugs, their toxic levels being less than a millionth of that of botulinum toxin, but botulinum toxin is not notorious for trouble.

    The evil in the use of drugs is in the result of the drug use.  These may include physical damage to body organs from the brain and nerves to blood vessels, the heart, the lungs, the sensory organs, the endocrine system, etc.  Evil effects may also be on the mind with psychological, emotional, and mental derangement.  Evil effects may also be on the character, including drug dependence, criminality, and dysfunctionality.  Evil effects could also be on the family including financial losses, broken dreams, and family breakups. Evil effects could also be on the society including insecurity, consumption of tax-payers’ money, and lack of progress.

    In the next series of articles, we shall discuss drugs that destroy. Some of them are legitimate drugs legitimately used but accidentally dangerous.  Some of them are legitimate drugs illegitimately used.  Some are illegitimate drugs used criminally.

    Some of them are already in our homes and we know they are there.  Some of them are already in our homes unknown to us. Some of them are never brought into our homes but are used by  household members and can potentially affect our homes.

    Drugs are important for health and life but they are also destroyers of health and life – double edged swords.  The economic value of drug usage is humungous and the capitalists would have as many people as possible use drugs. It is important for people to understand the need to use drugs rationally and safely as well as freely (not under compulsion).

    Theresa Adebola John is a lecturer at Lagos State University College of Medicine (LASUCOM) and an affiliated researcher at the College of Medicine, University of Tennessee, Memphis.  For any comments or questions on this column, please email bolajohnwritings@yahoo.com or call 08160944635

  • Parents urged to encourage creativity in children

    Parents and guardians have been urged to recognise their children’s  creativity and assist them to grow it.

    They got the advice at  the maiden graduation of Kingdom Garrison International College in Minna, Niger State.

    The guest speaker, Mr Famous Osamulu, who spoke on: ‘Education and creativity’ stated that the weight thrown on literacy should also be thrown on creativity, adding that skillful people have never lacked placement in life.

    Osamulu lamented that education has made parents desirous of enforcing careers on their children instead of giving them the leverage to versatility.

    “The schools sector should also encourage creativity in children so they do not to lose their creative side. It would be noted that children are loads of creative minds and should be nurtured with utmost sensitivity,”he said.

    The school’s Proprietress, Pastor Flora Ojo Peters, appreciated God for bringing to reality a dream of many years.

    She said God had been faithful in the just-concluded academic session as the children’s performance was quite encouraging in both academics and extra-curricular activities. He praised parents and guardians for having faith in the institution to release their wards for their upkeep.

    Peters expressed optimism that next session would be bigger and better as Kingdom Garrison International College would upgrade.

    Some of the presentations by pupils include: music, talk shows, career talks and recitations.

    The best performing and outstanding students were rewarded with various gifts.

  • Parents, watch out for your girls during this long vacation!!!

    DEAR Madam, May God bless you greatly as you spearhead the sexual purity movement.

    Farouk M. Aliyu

    Dear Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    In the last few weeks, I’ve been discussing the average teenage girl’s obsession for boyfriends, the unpleasant distraction it causes, the great risk their life’s trajectory faces being swept away by excited and confused young men and older men/paedophiles. I also began discussing the reasons girls believe they need to be romantically involved so soon- the first being inadequate love and attention!

    Reasons Your Teenage Girls Are Obsessed With Boyfriends!(Contd.)

    1. Social media/Peer Pressure

    I must say the social media is one of the best things technology could avail the world, one can also tell it would determine the failure and of course the success of so many lives in diverse ways! Our children are exposed to too much they can’t handle- they are practically raped of their innocence! Sex is not only discussed loosely, the younger generation appear to have the wrong role-models and love to spend so much time online following their activities and way of life!

    Children of parents who refuse to buy smart phones for them aren’t left out either because somehow they have access to their parents’ phones, browse and find themselves exposed to what they shouldn’t know at a young age. We also must not forget that today’s kids have to do a lot online either through a desk top or a laptop for their school assignments and projects. One can’t possibly be there always to monitor them except that parent is so determined to ensure his/her child is restricted by having a Kiddle search engine for kids powered by Google. How many parents even know this exist?

    The other day, a mother who decided with her husband not to buy their son a smart phone till he leaves secondary school stumbled on her son deeply engrossed in masturbation. After questioning him on how he got into the act, he said he usually goes to porn sites using his parents’ phone. His mother now remembered times he would be somewhere in the house, lost or spending hours in the bathroom, wondering what he was up to, not knowing he was watching pornography and the like! On Face book, I have seen videos of people in sexual acts pop up without visiting any site. So, can you imagine what the average teenager has to deal with? A lot of them are innocent and not adequately prepared by their parents to live in a depraved world! The reason I’ve always hammered on the need to “spiritualize” these children right from infancy, get into their heads and drive God into their souls before stupid, bad, devil gets hold of them. I can tell you it (the devil) has prepared to recruit more innocent souls and divert glorious destinies during this long vacation. IF CARE ISN’T TAKEN, so many kids will be defiled, too many teenagers are going to be initiated into lesbianism, many girls are going to be raped, some will dash their precious virginity away, some will learn how to smoke cigarette, weed etc. I could go on and on!

    Recently, I was invited to an all girl’s school and I got terrifying reports of girls who have been threatening to rape their mates and juniors if they keep rebuffing their sexual advances. And to think these girls are so scared to report to school authority. Why would any girl torment any girl to carry out sexual acts on her? Why should she even be lusting after a girl??? This is crazy! Isn’t it so obvious that one’s life is easily manipulated or controlled by whoever has the reins? I insist, a lot of parents don’t know what their children are up to! No one should be trusted as far as your children are concerned! Now, some parents are going to gladly consent to their girls going for a sleep-over at a friend’s house this holiday. Who knows which of these friends are lesbians? Who knows which of your friend’s son has been having carnal knowledge of your daughter or planning to do so? Girls are under intense pressure by their mates at school. Those who refuse to have boyfriends are usually run down by their mates! When last did you have intimate talks with your girls and let them know they are special children? When last did you make them feel so proud and important such that they’d never spare a thought whatever their friends think of them?

     

    • To be continued.
  • Raise godly, brilliant kids, Bamgbola tells parents

    Chairman of the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) Lagos State chapter, Apostle Alexander Bamgbola, has charged Christian parents to be alive to the responsibility of nurturing and guiding children in the way of the Lord.

    He spoke at the 18th edition of Parents’ Day Nigeria Advocacy Conference and Launch for Church and Home Leaders and Spouses by Parenthood Foundation International (PFI) in, Ajah, Lagos.

    Tagged Redemptive Parenting: Kingdom Assignment by the Church for the Nation, the event attracted church leaders, administrators and academics among others.

    Bamgbola said parents must nurture the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of their children because of worsening corruption and wickedness.

    He pointed out most youths involved in cyber-crime, drug addictions, pornography and corruption were not properly raised.

    He said parents must not only be bothered about raising geniuses but also children with honest, upright and impeccable character.

    According to him: “When we look at youths we are have in this generation, they have access to social media and some of them watch dirty and immoral things.

    “You don’t need to teach them as the devil is the teacher of the world. He want get as many children to his side. Parent must be ready to lose sleep over their children to save them.”

    He stated every child is a generational seed by God placed in the hands of parents for proper nurturing and upbringing.

    The CAN helmsman said: “God has laid the way to train our children which must be followed if we will succeed as parents.”

    Visioner of PFI, Pastor Bola Osikoya, said parenting is a body of skillset with lot of impact on the quality of children that must be learnt, nurtured and developed with the biblical principles.