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  • I don’t have the passion for sex but my woman demands for it

    Mine always demand for sex but I don’t get the passion and I love her so much.

    I wish I knew why you do not have a passion for sex. One thing I’m sure of however is that women enjoy being chased for relationships and later sex. So when a man acts like he’s not interested at all, it makes the woman do the chasing in order to be sure that nothing is wrong.

    I don’t know how old you are, but I know that later on in men’s life, some may slow down on sex. Work pressure, family problems and so on may also contribute to lack of interest in sex.

    Below are so some tips to get the burner on for you in the bedroom:

    Get a medical checkup: To eliminate physiological causes for your lack of desire, a trip to your family physician or gynecologist may be in order. Ask if hormone replacement therapy such as testosterone would be appropriate. Evaluate whether side effects from medications or medical conditions are a factor in your situation. Discuss whether herbal remedies or dietary changes may be helpful.

    Make having a satisfying sexual relationship a bigger priority in your life: There are at least two very important reasons that you should take your sex life off the back burner and pay attention to it. The first is your relationship with your spouse. Your marriage depends on it.

    Your spouse’s feelings about himself/herself depend on it. Your future together depends on it. You have to stop thinking you can have a great relationship without satisfying sex unless your partner wholeheartedly agrees. Don’t resign yourself to passionless lovemaking or a relationship void of true intimacy.

    Even elderly and chronically ill people can enjoy a robust sex life. The second reason is that unless you are truly enjoying your intimate relationship, you are really cheating yourself! If you aren’t all that interested in sex at the moment, you are probably thinking, “I don’t feel cheated at all,” but I’d like for you to take a moment and think back to a time when sex was more fulfilling.

    Really think about it. Wasn’t it wonderful? Didn’t it feel great? Recall what it felt like to be a more passionate, sensual person. Didn’t you feel better about yourself? Wasn’t it more fun? When you think back to times when things were better between you sexually, you may ask yourself what happened to your passion and what caused this to change in you. You may also wonder if you will ever feel the same way about being sexual as you once did. Perhaps it’s the seesaw phenomenon at work; the more one person does of something, the less the other person does. Well, this holds true for sexual issues as well.

    Since your spouse has been the one to focus on sex in your marriage and you have felt pressured about it, you have backed away. In fact, it’s entirely possible that the cat and mouse dynamic in your relationship has dampened your desire, even fooled you into thinking you don’t like sex anymore. But this isn’t necessarily so. Your negative feelings or apathy may have more to do with the chase than sex itself. In order to change this, one of two things must happen. Your spouse can stop chasing (and you better believe that this will be one of my suggestions), or you can become more proactive for making things better between you. Since you are the one asking for advice, I am going to strongly suggest that it is you who has to take charge of changing things. You need to start to figure out the steps you ought to take to feel more passion and desire. Make feeling sexier your pet project. If you don’t, you are missing out on one of life’s greatest joys, feeling truly intimate with the person you love. Don’t shortchange yourself. Forget about doing this strictly for your partner or the marriage, do it for you!

  • A passion for kids and Dame’s return

    A passion for kids and Dame’s return

    Two things that were not known to the public about President Goodluck Jonathan were revealed in the course of the week. First was the divine intervention that kept him and his only surviving sibling out of nine children of his parents.

    The other is his unhidden love for his wife which he publicly displayed on her arrival from Germany.

    The week started off in the Presidency with the President telling all who cared to hear that his personal experience was the reason for his desire to end child and maternal mortality in the country.

    The occasion was the launch of save one million lives programme, where the country also got a boost of $25m from the Norwegian government. Jonathan, for the first time, revealed that his mother Eunice had nine children. Out of these, only he and his elder sister made it through infancy stage while the rest seven died in infancy.

    “On the issue of saving lives of women and children I’m passionate because my mother had nine of us but seven died as infants with my elder sister and I surviving. That I’m alive today is not because of any intervention but by God’s hand.”

    However, the return of the First Lady, Dame Patience Jonathan happened to be the biggest event in the Presidency in the past week. Her arrival which was carnival- like outshone every other event that took place in the Presidency.

    She went out of the country unannounced but her return was with fanfare. The drum was rolled out for her. Members of the cabinet, albeit, female ministers were on hand to welcome her back into the country after over one month stay in Germany.

    No doubt, President Goodluck Jonathan and, by extension, the Presidency missed her.

    There was a burst of excitement at the Nnamdi Azikwe International Airport, Abuja where the Presidential jet that brought her back landed.

    Dame Patience threw her two hands up in the air as the crowd of government officials, governors’ wives, politicians and women groups hailed her arrival.

    Her face beamed with a smile, glittering white beads dangling from her neck. The First Lady spoke of her joy to be home.

    Though she was said to have gone on a medical trip, Mrs. Jonathan denied visiting any hospital.

    She was received with more cheers at the Presidential Villa. At the head of the reception party was President Jonathan, with whom the First Lady was locked in a long embrace. All smiles, Dr. Jonathan planted a kiss on his wife’s face. The crowd cheered.

    Members of the Presidential household, including the President’s mother Eunice and Mrs. Jonathan’s children, wore T-shirts with images of the First Lady.

    Authorities have refused to say publicly why Mrs. Jonathan left the country. But an official said she fell ill with “food poisoning” and needed to be hospitalised in Germany. This was followed by various speculations about all kinds of ailments she was believed to be suffering from.

    She was said to be undergoing treatment at Horst Schmidt Klinic in Wiesbanden, Germany. This she denied.

    The return of the First Lady was not the only noteworthy event that shaped activities of the Presidency in the past week as the President also visited some of the flooded areas in the country, including his home town, Otueke, Bayelsa State where the flood showed no iota of respect for the President. His house was also submerged like any other person’s in the state. The water, according to the President, is up to the window level.

    The President also summoned all stakeholders in states with records of fresh cases of polio to a meeting at the Presidential Villa where he told the gathering which had in attendance governors and local government chairmen of the affected states that there will be no sleep until the scourge is eradicated; adding that the country does not have any reasonable excuse to still be suffering from the scourge.

    Another of the major news at the Presidency was the hint of the possibility of Nigerians in the Diaspora voting in the 2015 general elections.  The President gave the hint in Niamey when he addressed Nigerians living in Niger Republic during his working visit to the West African country.

    The National Assembly is currently looking at the possibility of amending the 1999 Constitution and the President says the final decision on Nigerians in the Diaspora voting would be taken in 2013 when the amendment process is expected to be completed.

    According to the President, a proposal from the Presidency is already before the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) to enable it study and look at the possibilities of making it happen.

    The President said he proposed Diaspora voting for Presidential and Governorship elections only because it would be easier to manage.

    Also, Nigeria and the Republic of Niger agreed to an immediate take off of the joint border patrols along the border between the two countries.

    The agreement is part of the efforts to curb the activities of the Islamic Fundamentalist group, Boko Haram in the North East of Nigeria and other terrorist groups within the region.

    Besides, the two countries also agreed to equip their National Boundary Commissions with requisite logistics to ensure rapid completion of the re-demarcation of the Nigeria-Niger International Boundary.

    The agreement was reached at the end of the sixth session of the High Authority of the Nigeria-Niger Joint Commission for Cooperation held in Niamey, the capital of Republic of Niger.

    President Goodluck Jonathan who led the Nigerian delegation is also a co-chair of the session where issues ranging from security to trade were discussed between both countries.

    Jonathan is the first Nigerian President to visit Niger in the last seven years after former President Olusegun Obasanjo’s visit in 2006.

     

  • Anambra and a governor’s passion

    Anambra and a governor’s passion

    SIR: Nigeria has been traumatised by the menace of malignant water which besiege and sack neighbourhoods with no threat spared on lives and properties. Lives have been lost and princely properties either swept off or laid waste by rampaging flood. The situation elicits sadness as those affected lay abandoned and helpless while the devastation seeks new victims. Many travelers have had tastes of the bitter pill, being either cut off by failed roads and bridges or caught up in surging water. It has been pains, ruins and emptiness in the hearts of victims while the physical environment bows too in submission.

    Signs are that Anambra State, east of the Niger, seems to be experiencing an overflow of the sadness dotting the route of the uncontrolled spread of the mighty River Niger and many other large bodies of water in the state. The gory scene has not been witnessed before in the communities as not even the oldest of men in the affected communities have any faint memory of such mishap among them. Majority of the communities in Ogbaru, Anambra West, Anambra East and Ayamelu Local Government Councils are submerged in water. Some parts of Awka North Local Government Council and parts of Onitsha also suffer heavy flooding. And the hope of an immediate recess hangs loose, as the water would not stop surging into new grounds.

    While these calamities on man and materials are bemoaned, the capacity of leaders to rise to the daunting challenges of leadership is here scaled. Given the impromptu nature of the hazards, none (victims and leaders alike) had the luxury of a programmed window-dressing for political posturing. The nature of it all caught everyone in their true elements. It is in the light of this that one makes a critique of Governor Peter Obi’s response towards alleviating the pains of his people in the flood-ravaged parts of Anambra State.

    Governor Obi has proved himself an exponent of politics for the development and well-being of his people. Watching him wade through deep flood in search of his people submerged in water in many of the affected communities tells the story of commitment in leadership. Where most leaders would at best send their aides, Obi would rather confront the crises himself preferring his aides attend to less challenging tasks.

    The situation in Anambra where residential houses, including upstairs, industrial estates, vast areas of cultivated farmlands, markets, schools, churches, hospitals, roads and bridges are submerged in water terrifies still as there seem to be no ready clue as to how much longer both the government and the people of the state would contend with the challenges attendant to the disaster that flooding has visited on the State and its people.

    It is hoped that public spirited persons, organisations and indeed the Federal Government would heed the entreaties of Anambra State government and make haste to bring relief to the displaced persons whose hope of survival hinges on such interventions.

     

    • Okechukwu Anarado

    Adazi-Nnukwu,

    Anambra State.