Tag: perversion

  • Leadership perversion

    Nigeria should not be a poor country, but one of the richest countries. It is the sixth-largest producer of crude oil, with huge reserves of mineral and agricultural riches beside manpower. It should be boasting very high global living standards but for the leadership perversion it has unfortunately experienced. This country, where abundant varieties of crops grow irrespective of farming care, and limitless opportunities exists to provide services by honest means, is characterized by poor living standards. All these, has subjected the nation to ridicule.

    Over the years, poverty has risen to unacceptable and frightening level with capacity to threaten the corporate existence of the nation. Evidently, there has been a failure of development for the most part, but the problem is not so much that development was not really on the agenda in the first place. I’m of the opinion that the agenda which will promote the greater good of the greatest number has never been on the leadership initiative. The point about perverse politics and departure from the development ideal is proved so poignantly by the rising poverty far above levels of ten years and significantly by the unceasing trend of seemingly unbridgeable gap between the rich and the poor.

    Those opportune to watch Television commercials (TVC) of most African countries portraying their nation’s images to the world on satellite TV would notice one common thread, the emphasis is now on promotion of tourism and investment drive, but unfortunately, anytime you see something on Nigeria you are taken back to images of ethnic colouration. Our penchant of allowing charlatans to dictate our commonwealth is beyond imagination at a time intelligent people are studying and aligning with global trends and seeking the best for their people.

    In my years of leadership and governance study, I’ve taken the pains to research on political and economic systems; why some fail and others succeed. During my university years, it was the norm to belong to ideological camps. If you find five students, there is the probability of four of them leaning to the left. From that period – the 1990s – till date I’ve been fascinated with China probing why Socialism/Communism failed in the erstwhile Soviet Union and Eastern Europe, but it is still in place, with modifications, in China.

    It is instructive to note that China – during the global economic crisis of 2008-2010 – proposed to bail out Europe from its years of depressing economy, but the complex challenge in accepting such an offer was more ideological than economic. Should European nations who cherish the “freedom” that capitalism and free enterprise brings take bail out money from a socialist regime? That was the dilemma.

    So how did the Chinese get it right on leadership? From the inception of communist rule in 1949 led by late Chairman Mao Zedong, China has in place a deliberate process of leadership grooming and selection. The grooming of its next generation of leaders started as far back as 2007. The new set of leaders – which is the fifth generation – is already in power. The next generation that would take over in the next ten years is already work in progress.

    Under the Chinese model, the process of grooming of leaders has two dimensions: First is the active participation of young persons in existing governance structures, particularly on matters which directly affect them. This takes place through appropriate representation of youth bodies and young persons in agencies of government and public enterprises. Secondly is a deliberate grooming through the political and administrative systems, for youth participation in politics and administration now and for the future.

    The crux of my argument is this: Leadership selection and grooming is planned and serious nations embark on it to ensure continuity of socio-economic and political progress that serves the common good. China, even though some will say runs a political system that is not “democratic” in western sense, still has lessons to teach Nigeria on leadership. Why is this huge country courted by the west though it runs an “oppressive” socialist system? What is China doing right that we can learn from? With a large rural population, what are some of the lessons in poverty reduction we can imbibe from China?

    Nigeria has a lot to learn from the Chinese experience and one of these lessons is never to miss a chance to excel when opportunity knocks, China did not. Why did I say this? Following the 9/11 attack on the twin towers of the World Trade Centre in New York in 2001, the United States of America went on a vengeance mission to destroy the base and launching pad of Al Qaeda in Afghanistan. Because of its unparalleled military might, it believed that this would be quick and decisive, but it turned out to be a long and protracted war lasting over eleven years with billions of dollars down the drain.

    During this period, it neglected domestic affairs, especially the state of its industries and economy. This was the opportunity China cashed in on hence the Chinese manufacturing resurgence; China suddenly became the new hub of manufacturing activities with most countries – including American companies – trooping there to manufacture goods at cheaper rates because of the abundance of cheap labour. Today the Chinese economy is the second largest in the world, next only to that of the US. We should not forget that they were able to do this because of purposeful and disciplined leadership structure.

    To get a further handle on this, I’d like to quote from an interview granted Time magazine by late Lee Kuan Yew, former Singapore leader who transformed an underdeveloped colonial outpost with no natural resources into a “First World’ Asian Tiger.

    The Singapore elder statesman said; “Chinese leaders followed American lead in putting people in space and shooting down satellites with missiles. Their culture is 4,000 years old with 1.3 billion people, a huge and very talented pool to draw from. They have raised their expectations and aspirations, every Chinese wants a rich China, a nation as prosperous, advanced and technologically competent as the USA, Europe and Japan. This reawakened sense of destiny is an overpowering force.” This overpowering force is what is propelling this huge nation forward.

    Would anyone say we don’t have such overpowering force in Nigeria? We do, it’s just that our leaders always fail to make good use of opportunities just like they failed to positively exploit the opportunity presented by the high global oil price of 2011-2014.

    A rising power on the international stage in the post-global economic crisis, China, manages its power transition well to carefully match its philosophy of life. The west will see this as “undemocratic” and a stifling of citizen’s rights, but the flipside of the coin points to the fact that anything in life taken to the extreme oftentimes turn out problematic. Excessive and unbridled freedom also has its own drawbacks that is why leadership grooming and selection is needed; a leadership that will be in tandem with a nation’s uniqueness. If Singapore and Malaysia had followed the laid down “economic blueprint” of the Bretton Woods institutions they wouldn’t have been the success story they are today.

    Another lesson for us is power continuity. It doesn’t depend on who’s in power as laid down policies continues because they are for the national interest. The rise of Xi Jinping – the current president –   and his compatriots was built on a combination of political acumen, and ideological dexterity. They are graduates of the best universities in the country with specialties in Political Science, Political Economy, History, Law and Economics. What’s the lesson? The university plays a fundamental role in leadership grooming.

    I will end with this: a friend recounted a story to me which speaks volume of the leadership lacuna in Nigeria. A group of volunteers from the US paid an unscheduled visit to a Local Government Chairman in one of the South West states where they wanted to site a project. To their dismay and consternation, they found the chairman and his councilors drinking beer in his office at 11 am! The volunteers did not leave with a good impression about Nigeria.

    Are these the type of “leaders” we have “groomed”?

  • Alleged perversion of course of justice: Ricky Tarfa makes no-case submission

    Alleged perversion of course of justice: Ricky Tarfa makes no-case submission

    A Senior Advocate of Nigeria (SAN), Mr. Rickey Tarfa, standing trial over alleged gratification and attempt to pervert the course of justice has told a Lagos High Court sitting in Igbosere that he has no case to answer.

    At the resume of proceedings of his trial yesterday before Justice Adedayo Akintoye, Tarfa, through his counsel, Mr Abiodun Owonikoko (SAN), told the court that he has filed a no-case submission.

    Owonikoko said he filed on November 9, to say that the defendant has no case to answer.

    The learned silk stated that the application is supported with an affidavit and a written address and that the prosecution has been duly served.

    He said: “At the last adjourned date, the prosecution closed their case. Upon the view of the prosecution, our response in this case is a no-case submission. That will suffice in this case.”

    Owonikoko, therefore, urged the court to discharge the defendant on the ground that there is no-case to answer.

    “I urge your lordship to discharge the defendant on the view that there is no case to answer.”

    The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) had on October 23 closed its case against the defendant after calling six witnesses, who testified against Rickey Tarfa in a trial, which began in March, 2016.

    EFCC prosecuting counsel Mr. Nnemeka Omewa confirmed the service of the no-case submission application on them by the defence.

    He, however, said they were yet to file a reply.

    “We were served late last Friday with a 54 paragraphs of  a no-case submission. We are still going through them and we have not been able to respond to the no-case submission. We shall be asking for a short adjournment to enable us respond.”

    Justice Adedayo Akintoye adjourned to December 12, for hearing of the application.

    The EFCC had first arraigned Tarfa on March 9, 2016 on a 27-count charge, bordering on offering of gratification to some judges and perversion of the course of justice.

    The anti-graft agency had alleged that Tarfa offered N5.3 million gratification to a judge of the Federal High Court, Justice Hyeladzira Nganjiwa, to “compromise” the judge.

    The agency claimed that Tarfa transferred the money in several tranches to the judge between June 27, 2012 and December 23, 2014.

    The commission alleged that the SAN lied about his age and failed to declare his assets to the commission upon his arrest on February 5, 2015.

    The offences contravened Section 64 (1) of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011.

    But Tarfa pleaded not guilty.

    He subsequently sought to quash the charges on the premise that they were incompetent.

    Justice Akintoye dismissed his application consequent upon which Tarfa appealed the court’s decision.

    But the upper court, in a ruling, ordered Tarfa back to the High Court for trial in respect of the charges preferred against him by the EFCC.

  • Handling sexual perversion (3)

    Handling sexual perversion (3)

    Dear Reader, I welcome you to the last edition of the series of teaching of the month of July.  I began this teaching on the very first week by examining sexual perversion on fornication and pre-marital sex.

    I said Perversion is a derogatory term for deviation from the original meaning or doctrine, literally ‘turning aside’ from what is perceived to be normal.

    I also defined fornication as any unlawful sexual intercourse between two unmarried man and unmarried woman. I went on to say that pre-marital sex is having a sexual intercourse before marriage.

    Last week, we also examined God’s view on homosexuality and His prescribed remedy. I defined a homosexual as one who is sexually attracted only to people of the same sex as oneself.  Today, being the last edition, I shall be looking at God’s Purpose For Sex.

    As we all know, God is a God of purpose and He never does anything without a purpose. Everything He created has a purpose for creating it. God created us male and female. We saw this in the Word of God: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them (Genesis 1:27).

    It is also good to know that God gave man reproductive organs with which to function effectively in sexual relationship between husband and wife. There is therefore, nothing unclean or dirty about sexual intercourse for the married.  Marriage is only honourable only when the bed is undefiled. If sex is engaged before marriage, the honour is thereby taken away.

    Sexual intercourse is only within the context of marriage and it is a celebration of the covenant of marriage.  God’s creation of sexual union was for good and not for evil. However, any good thing can be perverted when wrongly used.  I have emphasized so much on sexual perversions in our previous teachings.

    I want you to know that God created man with certain basic physiological needs, including sexual needs.  But satisfying this urge ought to be done, decently and in order, within the context of marriage.  Satisfying the sexual urge in extra-marital context is contrary to God’s original purpose of it.

    God knew that man will not be able to live a successful holy life, without satisfying this biological need.  Marriage, therefore, was instituted to meet this need, and at the same time, make it easy to live a holy life.  This does not suggest that marriage is for people who cannot control themselves.

    The truth is that, if you cannot control your sexual drive while single, you will probably not be able to exercise control when you are married.  That means you will be in serious temptation, when your partner is not available.  Self-control is a must, especially for the single persons.  I want us to examine in details God’s purpose for sexual relationship within the marriage institution.

    For Procreation:

    God chose this unique method to replenish the earth and then commanded man to be fruitful: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth (Genesis 1:28). He gave them reproductive organs with which to carry out this command.

    We are told in Genesis 4:1: And Adam had marital sex with his wife and she conceived (The Living Bible).  This, along with other scriptures, prove that God designed marital sex for procreation.  However, wisdom demands that you plan for the number of children you can raise in the fear of the Lord.

    For Pleasure:

    Talking to husbands about how to relate with their wives physically, the Book of Proverbs says: Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:18-19). God intended that apart from the purpose of procreation, marital sex should give pleasure.

    Statistics show that homes where husband and wife enjoy each other sexually, are the happiest homes.  For the breast of a man’s wife to satisfy him, means the two of them to have pleasure in marital sex.

    However, God expects married couples to give sexual satisfaction to each other.  Sex, in the context of marriage is not dirty or sinful, as some would have us believe.  Marriage is a union of spirit, soul and body; so, it is therefore not complete when the physical aspect is missing.  Sexual union between couples is not just a physical act, it is also symbolic of the oneness of the spirit and soul, and of the mutual submission that God ordained it to be.

    For Intimacy:

    God’s Word says: And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife (Genesis 26:8). “Sporting”, as has been suggested by Bible scholars, may not be marital sex or actual sexual relationship, but foreplay. It must have been intimate enough to suggest to Abimelech that Rebecca was Isaac’s wife.  This, too, is a good and perfect gift from a good and perfect God.  “Playing” intimately with your spouse is not wrong, but rather brings you closer.

    The Bible uses the word “know” to describe the intimate, physical relationship between husband and wife.  One of God’s intentions for marriage, is for the couple to really know one another until they become truly one.  The Bible says: For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh (Matthew 19:5-6).

    The joining to one’s spouse also, describes the act of sexual relationship.  For as a man is joined in physical union to his wife, they will be very close to each other than any other person.  It is only within the context of marriage that guilt does not accompany sexual intercourse. If both man and woman work at making the act of sex more than just an avenue for procreation or the releasing of tension, it becomes a means of enhancing intimacy.

    The act of sex is a fellowship – giving and receiving tender love.  This is what brought comfort to Isaac after the death of his mother, Sarah.  It provided a means of intimate fellowship with someone he loved. And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death (Genesis 24:67).

    To Avoid Fornication:

    One other reason why God designed the marriage bed is to ensure that man has a legitimate avenue for releasing sexual tension. Outside the sanctity of marriage, any sexual act, from petting to sporting is sin.  God’s Word says: Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband (I Corinthians 7:1).

    The first and important step you need to take to be free from immoral act of sin is to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. If this is your desire, then pray this prayer with me: “Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!”

     

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org; Contact@faithoyedepo.org;  Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Handling sexual perversion (3)

    Handling sexual perversion (3)

    Hello Reader, a very warm welcome to this wonderful edition of this week’s Family Forum. Last week, I examined adultery as one of the sexual perversions.  I said that adultery is any sexual intercourse by a married person with another person other than the lawful spouse.

    I equally said that an adulterer is simply a man or woman who goes into sexual relationship as a married man or woman, but does it outside of wedlock.

    Today, I will be talking on God’s view on homosexuality and His prescribed remedy.

    The dictionary defines a homosexual as one who is sexually attracted only to people of the same sex as oneself.  God defines it as an abomination.  The Word of God says: Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination (Leviticus 18:22). Yet the world is teeming with homosexuals; some churches even conduct marriages for homosexuals! They are fighting for the right to be regarded as a nuclear family.  They are everywhere: in government, on the streets, in institutions of learning, etc.

    Watching CBN’S 700 club one day, I saw a Christian woman who had been ensnared by the spirit of homosexuality (it’s a spirit you know) and who required help to break the habit.  She had suffered in secret for many years, and now needed deliverance.

    In secondary schools, youngsters are drawn into homosexual practices by cruel seniors, and their own lust.  But for whatever reason, homosexuality is of the devil.  The Word of God says: Because they do this, God has given them over to shameful passions, Even the women pervert the natural use of their sex by unnatural acts (Romans 1:26-27 (GNB).

    In the same way the men give up natural sexual relations with women and burn with passion for each other.  Men do shameful things with each other, and as a result they bring upon themselves the punishment they deserve for their wrong doing.

     

    Origin

    Where did the problem emanate from? It emanated from the fall of man.  After man fell and handed the government of the world over to the devil, the devil tried to pervert every good and perfect thing God had made. God created a means of procreation between the man and his wife.

    After the fall, man wondered what it will feel like to mate with animals and with people of like sex.  What God created to be enjoyed between the man and his wife became marred.

    Man began to seek other women outside marriage; he began to crave for intercourse with men. Unregenerated man keeps searching for new ways of living in “excitement”.  Because homosexuality is a spirit, they become chained to it and are unable to escape.

    When a man becomes born again, something happens: sin has no dominion over him any longer (Romans 6:14).  He is free to walk away, and as a matter of fact, is advised to flee from every appearance of evil.

     

    Remedy

    What is the remedy for anyone caught in the web of homosexuality?

    a. Become Born Again

    Only Christ has the remedy.  When He died on the cross, He paid the price for all sins, once and for all (Romans 6:6). God loves you, and wants to deliver you from every trap of the devil.  Homosexuality is a trap and its only recompense or reward is AIDS.  Do not toy with it, come to Jesus today and He will free you from its hold.

    b.Receive a New Mind

    •Believe that now you are in Christ, old things have indeed passed away (II Corinthians 5:17). Believe that God has forgiven you and forgive yourself!

    •Read the Bible and spend time meditating on God’s Word.  Memorize scriptures, and let them be a part of you (Psalm 119:11).

    •Pray: There is no situation that prayer cannot change.  Continue to ‘wash’ your thoughts on your knees.  For effectual prayer, you need the Holy Spirit.  Receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:26).

    •Fast: Set time aside to wait upon the Lord in a fast and consolidate your freedom.

    •Make Christian friends and spend time discussing edifying things.  Do not engage in idle talk.

    •Attend a Bible-Believing Church, where the mind of God is made known in unequivocal terms.

    •Literature: keep away from dirty novels (as long as Christ is not glorified, it is deadly), which propagate inordinate sexual acts. Keep yourself busy in the Kingdom and discipline yourself.  No one can reach your thoughts; so you, by yourself, must consciously guard your heart with all diligence.  Philippians 4:8 has an all-purpose drug.  It reads: Finally, brethren whatsoever things are true, … honest, … just, … pure, … lovely, … of good report,  … If there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

    If the steps discussed above are followed, you will receive total freedom from these deadly diseases of homosexuality and sexual perversions.

    The first and important step you need to take to be free from this immoral act of sin, is to receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. If this is your desire, then pray this prayer with me: “Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!”

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org; Contact@faithoyedepo.org;  Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Handling sexual perversion (2)

    Handling sexual perversion (2)

    HELLO Reader, you are welcome to another great time in God’s presence. I began this teaching last week, by looking at fornication and pre-marital sex as sexual perversions.

    I said last week, that perversion is a derogatory term for deviation from the original meaning or doctrine, that is, turning aside from what is to be normal.

    I equally said that, sexual perversion is an abnormal sex; that is, doing it contrary to God’s original purpose of it. In that teaching, I said fornication means any unlawful sexual intercourse between two unmarried man and unmarried woman, while pre-marital sex means sex before marriage.

    This week, I shall be exploring another crucial sexual perversion – Adultery.

    What is Adultery?

    Adultery is one of the sexual perversions that are eating so deeply in the world today. But what is adultery? It is simply sex between a married man or woman and someone who is not their wife or husband.  Adulterer is a man or woman who goes into sexual relationship as a married man or woman, outside of wedlock.

    This is a grievous sin in the sight of God. If any party in marriage is involved in it, it brings a curse upon the home.  The Word of God does not give room for extra-marital affairs, no matter the situation at home. Men or women who indulge in it are doing so at their own hurt. They sin against God and against their own flesh.

    If you think your wife or husband is not good enough for you and you have seen somebody better outside, I tell you, it is the devil that wants to destroy you.  The Word of God lists the various work of the flesh: Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21).

    If you pay good attention to all that are happening in the world today, you will find all kinds of atrocities listed out in the above scripture.  You will also discover that self and its works are the first primary things that God says will characterize the last days.  That is to tell you that truly we are really in the last days.  This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy (2 Timothy 3:1-2).

    That is self finding expression in their lives, finances, etc.  Everything about them, is self.  We are in the last days.  Men and women, don’t keep messing your lives around, by going into unholy sexual relationship.  Don’t pretend that no body knows.  God’s Word tells us that the eyes of the Lord are in every place. The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good (Proverbs 15:3).

    In case you are reading this article today, and you are in that act, you must stop it! If you don’t stop it, the judgment of God will catch up with you. The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4). The word ‘whore’ in that sentence simply means harlot.

    These days, you see married men following small girls of the age of their daughters.  Something is wrong with them upstairs! They have mental problem.  They are not even ashamed, they will say, they just want to keep them company. What kind of evil company are you looking for? Evil wants to destroy your life.

    You will also find a married woman running after another married man. Some of them, these days, even follow young boys of the age of their own son, just to be able to have that sexual relationship and “cool themselves down,” they say. It is so pathetic that it is becoming common. After the old women have taken young boys to bed, they now pay the young boys for the job well done.  It is a shame! I don’t care the category you belong to; but today, you must make a u-turn.

    When the Bible says God will judge, you better take it serious. Whether you are doing it professionally or at the secondary level, you must of necessity stop it. Marriage is honourable, if only the bed is undefiled.  If you must enjoy honour in marriage, you must keep your marriage bed pure.  If you defile your marriage bed, you are simply taking away the honour in your marriage.

    God’s Word says in Proverbs 6:32 that any man who goes into another man’s wife lacks understanding.  You do soto the destruction of your own soul.  You will incur a wound by it.  Even if the wound is healed, the scan remains there, not only that, dishonour is what you will get.  But today, there is restoration for you, in the name of Jesus Christ.

    You want to be born again so that your sins will be forgiven? You can say this prayer of faith and you shall be born again! “Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!”

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org; contact@faithoyedepo.org;  Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Handling sexual perversion

    HELLO Reader, I count it an awesome privilege to bring God’s Word your way again today. It is my prayer that as you enter this second half of the year, God shall daze you with amazing testimonies in your family life in Jesus’ name!  All through this month, I shall be teaching on Handling Sexual Perversion.

    What is perversion? Perversion is a derogatory term for deviation from the original meaning or doctrine, literally ‘turning aside’ from what is perceived to be normal. This week, I shall be showing you sexual perversions of ‘Fornication and Pre-marital sex’

    I have been able to define perversion from my introduction. What then is fornication? The dictionary meaning of the word “fornication” means, any unlawful sexual intercourse between two unmarried man and unmarried woman. In the Bible, the Greek definition of the word “fornication” means, to commit illicit sexual intercourse.

    Fornication is no longer regarded as sin in our society today. It has become a way of life in the society.  Permit me to say, that the sin of fornication is even more pronounced in the church of God today, than anywhere else in the world.  As a Christian, your body has been bought with a price; it is not meant for fornication, rather, your body is meant to glorify God. The Word of God says: Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against hisownbody. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).

    Young ladies, don’t keep messing up your lives about with men, because of the money they offer you. Your beauty is not meant for trading; after all, God gave you and the Giver can call you back anytime.  Refuse to sell your body for money, for your soul is more precious! You may say, “I have to do something to be able to keep up with the cost of things”. Your life is much more valuable than money.

    You may be a fornicator and still go to church, sing, clap and dance. When they say, “Lift up holy hands and let’s worship the Lord”, and you lift up your hands too, it is not your kind of hands they are talking about.   The Scripture says: Who shall ascend into the hill of the LORD? or who shall stand in his holy place? He that hath clean hands, and a pure heart; who hath not lifted up his soul unto vanity, nor sworn deceitfully (Psalm 24:3-4).

    Some even claim, “After all, we are going to marry, so why can’t we go on the same bed? God knows that we are going to get married, but more often than not, you know what happens?” After they have seen your nakedness, the interest is no longer there. The love is gone and I tell people all the time, more often than not, it is the lady that carries more of the shame. Because, now, that the man has seen your nakedness, he can now say, “I’m sorry sister, in fact God didn’t give me the leading. I have made a mistake. Now go your way and let me go my way. God will give you your husband; He will also give me my own wife.” Why? Because you have sold yourself out to him and there is nothing new anymore.

    Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:14).  For you to have the honour in your marriage as a single person, you must lay a good foundation by keeping yourself pure. Parents, begin to teach your children, before they get into the stage of committing atrocities. Because even if they say, “After doing it, I will ask God for forgiveness”, God will forgive you, yes, but you know when you sustain an injury, it is possible for the wound to heal, but the scar will be there forever.

    Pre-marital Sex

    When we talk of Pre-marital sex, it simply means, sex before marriage. Many couples live together before marriage, to see if they are capable of child bearing, thereby engaging themselves in pre-marital sex. Many end up messing themselves up, by engaging themselves in the works of the flesh.

    The Word of God lists the various work of the flesh in Galatians 5:19-21: Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

    Marriage was designed to bring honour to man and when the bed is defiled, the honour is taken away. If you are in courtship, you are not permitted to engage in sexual relationship or anything that leads to it, if you do that, you are committing fornication and you are defiling your marriage bed, thereby taking away the honour in your marriage.  The marriage bed is for the married only. To engage in sexual intercourse, as a single person, is a sin against your own conscience and against God.  Defiling the marriage bed as a single person, is the quickest route to shame in marriage, whether you are marrying the person involved or not.

    If you are still single, steer clear of sex till you are legally married. The Bible enjoins single persons to present their bodies as a living sacrifice unto the Lord: Beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service (Romans 12:1). In other words, the presentation of your body unto the Almighty God, as a living sacrifice, is your reasonable service unto God. Any other service that you do unto God outside of your body being a living sacrifice, is not acceptable. It doesn’t matter whether you sweep the church everyday as long; as your body is not kept pure, that service is not acceptable unto God.

    It doesn’t matter, the volume of money you bring to the church, when you defile the marriage bed, whether as a single lady or man or as a married man or whatever category you belong to. When you get into illicit sexual relationship, whatever service you render to God has no record and will never receive a reward.

    You may be in the choir and your voice is as sweet as honey, when you stand there, God’s eyes are not beholding you. Because, if the eyes of God behold you at all, it might be for judgment. It doesn’t matter the post you hold or your position.  You can even be the leader of any board in the church, Romans chapter 12 verse 1, is still in the Word of God. Until your body is presented to God as a reasonable service, every other service that you render is unreasonable.

    In case you are reading this article and you know that you are not born again, you may even be a member of a church, the question here is: Are you born again? If not, you can say this simple prayer of faith and you shall be born again: “Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!”

    Congratulations!  You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org, Contact@faithoyedepo.org; Tel. No: 08141320204; 07026385437.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).