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  • I don’t want to end up like my mother! (II) (How pre-marital sex enforces evil family pattern contd.)

    DEAR Madam, I must commend your efforts in directing girls to the paths of righteousness and doing all you can to right the wrongs in their lives. I read Precious’ story, your last article-“I don’t want to end up like my mother,” and feel so sorry for her. As it is she’s in a serious mess and the women in her family are clearly suffering from a spiritual attack which I believe you are aware but deliberately avoided mentioning it. They all need deliverance. Ma, please note that young girl doesn’t have the power to hold herself for too long as you seem to advise. Please help her by advising her to go to a powerful and genuine man of God for deliverance. Thanks.

    Anonymous

     

    Last Saturday, I published 17-year-old Precious’s story who doesn’t want to end up like her mother whom she referred to as a used and dumped product, a high school drop-out who has three children for three different men who abandoned them all and her mother’s younger sister who has two children for two different men and is suffering same fate! (You may please Google the above title to get the full gist of her story). While she’s under my mentorship, I proffered the following solutions for the benefit of other girls/ladies experiencing same.

    What to do

    1. As a matter of urgency, go and learn some handiwork or craft that can fetch you money so you can sustain yourself to a certain extent. YOU’RE GIFTED AND PROSPEROUS!

     

    1. Become a member of a church which focuses on the narrow path, the word of God as a guide for living right and one where their programs are prayer-oriented!

     

    1. Become a praying and fasting machine! Pray about everything, talk to God at every spare time, and pick up your bible at every spare time. You have the energy to garner fire and power to kill the spirit backing up that pattern now!

     

    1. Please stay away from boyfriends and girls who do nothing but party, talk about their boyfriends/romance etc.

     

    1. Please mind who and what you follow on social media. The spirit of the world is in contention with the spirit of God and without the fullness of God’s spirit, stupid, bad, devil will ensure you follow your mother’s steps!

    Although the above list is yet to be concluded, I deliberately haven’t mentioned a DELIVERANCE SESSION. I plan to do so eventually and we mustn’t also forget that any church where their programs are prayer-oriented usually have deliverance sessions. It is obvious the women in the family are either under a generational curse or one spiritual attack or the other. However no man of God can SUCCESSFULLY deliver you from whatever is troubling if you don’t lay a solid foundation for that and this foundation is one of holiness as a lifestyle and the fire of God perpetually burning by praying and fasting and building a strong spiritual stamina to ward off these evil spirits. The reason the bible says

    “When the unclean spirit is gone out of a man, he walketh through dry places, seeking rest; and finding none, he saith, I will return unto my house whence I came out. And when he cometh, he findeth it swept and garnished. Then goeth he, and taketh to him seven other spirits more wicked than himself; and they enter in, and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first.”  Luke 11:24-26

    Imagine she goes to that powerful man of God, he attacks the evil spirit, she manifests and he says the evil spirit behind the evil pattern has left her. She goes about her normal life without being spiritually-intelligent enough to know whether it has truly left her and what is left to fight, devoid of the armor of God, no fire in her, no sword of the spirit, decides to have a romantic relationship etc. How can she fight what has been in place before she was born? May God bless us all in Jesus name!

    What to do (Contd.)

    1. Ensure you go for deliverance sessions from time to time.
    2. Prophesy the type of life you want daily as you wake up before you talk to anyone. If your spirit is fired up, your tongue and declarations will work wonders and subdue every evil spirit provided you follow no.2 and 3.
    3. Memorize and chant bible verses addressing your situation. Your spirit will become fiery hot, too hot for the devil to tackle!
    4. Do something for God. Be useful in His sanctuary! Strike a deal with Him and ensure you fulfill your vow in future.
    5. Be thankful there’s remedy and you are not only beautiful and outstanding, you have a glorious future ahead.
    • Girls Club is solidly behind you!

  • I don’t want to end up like my mother!(How pre-marital sex enforces evil family pattern contd.)

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I don’t want to end up like my mother. She can’t even advice me on living right neither has she got the stamina as she’s crushed in spirit; she has become a used and dumped product. She told me she was in secondary school when my dad, who had been trying to get her into a relationship, raped her and impregnated her. He denied ever having sex with her and denied me until the day I was born when they were both told to swear before a deity and he eventually spoke the truth. She did not stop there; she got pregnant for two other men and has three children for these three men who never took care of her or their children! They all promised to marry her but as soon as she got pregnant, they’d dump her and vanish into thin air. She’s unmarried, does nothing for a living and has to depend on her younger brother to feed. Her younger sister also got pregnant out of wedlock and has two children for two different men, unmarried, and her children uncared for by their fathers leaving them to suffer a great deal!

    I cry because I don’t want to end up like them – I have been crying my eyes out for years until I saw your write-up in Saturday Punch. To worsen my plight, my uncle (aunt’s husband) whom I’ve been staying with doesn’t fail to remind me of my background and family pattern. He would shout at me and sometimes slap me telling me he’s been wasting his money on me and that if I was with my father, I would never live a comfortable life as I’m privy to in his house. And to think my father also has two children from two different women before finally settling with a third woman who also has children for him. After reading your article, I made up my mind not to be like my mother, I decided to wage war against every spirit that would manipulate me to follow her pattern. I want to be that graduate my mum never was, build the houses she couldn’t build, wipe away her tears and be the remedy for her mistakes. Some of my family members call me born by mistake but God knows why He allowed me to be in existence and I believe He’ll answer them. My father hasn’t called me since, he doesn’t care about me. My aunt whom I live with and who has been so kind to me is now complaining as she can no longer afford to pay my school fees and as I grow older, the attention I get from men is alarming! I’m assured with God and you by my side; I’ll remain a virgin till my wedding night. However, how can I survive this situation please?

    P.17

    My precious P,

    When I saw your photograph, I was astonished! Believe me, you’re one of the most beautiful creatures I’ve ever seen and so shall your life be beautiful in Jesus name. I thank God you have witnessed the hell your mother, her younger sister, her children and your siblings are facing, that amongst other discomfort you are facing right now should keep you on the right track because I see a genuine child of God in you. There’s so much hope for you, plenty of hope. I can already see how those who are mocking you right now will come bending low on their knees. In fact I see you towering above all the males in your family in future and becoming the matriarch! You sure will become the cornerstone! Please keep this article for future reference! God will so showcase your life-even you will be perplexed.

    What to do

    1. As a matter of urgency, go and learn some handiwork or craft that can fetch you money so you can sustain yourself to a certain extent. YOU’RE GIFTED AND PROSPEROUS!

     

    1. Become a member of a church which focuses on the narrow path, the word of God as a guide for living right and one where their programmes are prayer-oriented!

     

    1. Become a praying and fasting machine! Pray about everything, talk to God at every spare time, and pick up your bible at every spare time. You have the energy to garner fire and power to kill the spirit backing up that pattern now!

     

    1. Please stay away from boyfriends and girls who do nothing but party, talk about their boyfriends/romance etc.

     

    1. Please mind who and what you follow on social media. The spirit of the world is in contention with the spirit of God and without the fullness of God’s spirit, stupid, bad, devil will ensure you follow your mother’s steps!

     

    To be continued

  • How pre-marital sex enforces evil family patterns!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I’m so blessed by your write-ups in the newspaper. I hold myself high each day as chastity is now my watchword. I spread the word and I’m pursuing my dreams. Thanks for being my role model ma.

    Sophia

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Last week, I began discussing a natural phenomenon which topples lives and has over time scuttled God’s fantastic plans for destinies. It has caused so much pains and distractions in unsuspecting lives such that too many destinies never manifest because of lack of power to nip the force in the bud. As I stated last Sunday, a family pattern can be described as a particular set of traits or characteristics in a bloodline or family that runs from generation to generation. It comes directly from one’s ancestry and it’s an integral part of humanity. The bad traits which form an evil family pattern could be promiscuity, polygamy, anger, domestic violence, marital mis-match, divorce, unstable marriages, having children out of wedlock, terminal diseases, untimely deaths etc. These patterns and its effect on one’s life can be traced to the beginning of time as expressed in the holy bible. David who we read was a man after God’s heart and the greatest of God’s warriors in the bible, who saved the children of God and fought wars from time to time, who wrote the book of psalms and who appeared to know God so well, so to say was polygamous in nature. His uncontrollable lust for a woman – Bathsheba – made him order the death of her husband – Uriah – who was one of his soldiers, so he could marry her – not caring whose ox was gored, forgetting that would make him go against God and incur His wrath. Now, King Solomon, his son, the wisest man ever to live and whose godly wisdom is expressed in his writings – the book of proverbs – practically went wild. A man in whom God was so delighted, who God visited and asked what he wanted, who got more than his request not only ended up marrying 700 wives, he also had 300 concubines and eventually worshipped other gods. His father, David’s ancestry can be traced back to Judah who went in search of a prostitute and ended up sleeping with his daughter-in-law. Are you catching my drift? If those who were so important and useful to God were conquered by their evil family pattern, can you imagine the effect of such on one who is so spiritually dull and ignorant of the manipulative force of one’s ancestry? Although I have seen some cases where the evil family pattern did not repeat itself in some lives, I have also seen where it completely damaged some destinies. I have seen where a mother had two children for two different men and her daughter had four children for four different men by the time she was 30 years old. This was a very bright student until she went to write an examination in a city outside Lagos and all hell went loose. She had her first pregnancy at 16+ and all four fathers left her to her fate refusing to take care of the children. She can barely feed her kids least of all send them to proper schools. She is malnourished and worn out, looking 15 years older and trading in home-made liquid wash which can barely feed them all daily. What a waste of potential and opportunities!!!

    If her mother especially (because her father was never involved in her upbringing) had firmly resisted her pattern repeating itself in her life right from her impressionable years, I’m sure she would have conquered it. THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER! I pity a lot of girls whose parents have no time for the destiny and spirituality of their children, if care is not taken, they end up becoming liabilities instead of assets in their parents’ old age and that’s why you would find a lot of women in church almost on a daily basis, looking so sad and carrying the pictures of their grown and even middle-aged children! Is it any wonder Solomon said “Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth, Before the difficult days come, And the years draw near when you say, “I have no pleasure in them”…Ecclesiastes 12:1

    • To be continued!

  • Pre-marital sex enforces evil family patterns!

    DEAR Evangelist, I just love your stance on chastity. May God keep you from derailing. Your answers to questions delight me. May God bless you abundantly.

    Evang. Celestine Nkemakolam

    Temilolu Okeowo,

    Almighty God will surely water your gardens and beautify your life. Thanks for your column where you consistently inform our generation next on moral values that has been eroded in our family life. God bless your life in Jesus name.

    Anonymous

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I hate the devil with a passion! I hate what he does to humanity daily especially the female folk! However, I love God with all my heart! My love for Him and this assignment increases minute by minute! Girls, I come against every satanic agenda for your future in the name of the Lord, the God of the armies of Israel and with the word that created the heavens and the earth, it shall be visited with thunder and with earthquake and great noise, with whirlwind and tempest, and the flame of a devouring fire! Isaiah 29:6

    I’m angry in my spirit this morning at what the stupid, bad, devil easily achieves in the life of an average girl. How he so cheaply destroys destinies designed by God to be heard all over the world, become environmental transformers and enjoy life like no one has. What God has given us dominion over, who itself knows that its power is limited and it’s not all its after that it can subdue and destroy now reigns supreme in the lives of most youth, having a field day now that there’s so much laxity in our faith! In fact, I’d rather just cut this short and go straight to today’s point!

    2 Sundays ago, I itemised how the devil gains an upper hand over destinies through premarital sex. I must tell you the list is exhaustive, one of which is an enforcement of evil family patterns. I pray many girls/ladies are reading this and I encourage you to share with as many of them as possible!

    Girls…girls…girls, in my short stay on earth so far, I have seen too much, I have experienced a lot which makes me so inquisitive and ask God questions all the time! I counsel women and girls almost on a daily basis. I cringe knowing what these women are going through, I worry so much about you girls who are dreaming, planning and awaiting a most beautiful future for yourself but ignorant of the wiles of the devil, failing to garner all the power and ammunition you need! I have seen rich kids, bright stars with unusual gifts and uncommon talents who went to the best universities abroad end up destitute! I have seen beautiful, good-natured, innocent, submissive wives torn apart and destroyed because they ended up with the wrong person! I have seen men who should be running world-class empires who were subdued and whose prosperity was completely wiped out by getting involved with wrong women! I know of girls, women whose virtues have been traded off unsuspecting through just one act of sex, whose stars and glory have been manipulated and are being used by others while they can barely feed! Girls…girls…girls….!

    A family pattern can be described as a particular set of traits or characteristics in a bloodline or family that runs from generation to generation. It comes directly from one’s ancestry and it’s an integral part of humanity. The bad traits which form an evil family pattern could be promiscuity, polygamy, anger, domestic violence, marital mis-match, divorce, unstable marriages, having children out of wedlock, terminal diseases, untimely deaths etc. It is a very wide topic that could take several weeks but I’ll just discuss my major point which is premarital sex enforcing it and suffocating the much-needed power to fight it!

    Many lives have been frustrated and out rightly destroyed by this unfortunate negative hold because they were ignorant and did not have the power to fight it at the right time! THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER! I shall conclude next week! May the fire of God that perished the prophets of Baal, descend on all antagonistic forces in Jesus name!

    • To be continued!

  • Pre-marital sex gives the devil an upper hand over your life!

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, Although I’m a man, your articles have done wonders in my life. Thanks for your wonderful ministrations. May the lord catapult you to the next level.

    Adeboye Abayomi

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    Thanks for all the advice you give on Facebook and newspaper. It’s been an awesome journey so far and it has impacted my life positively till this moment and I pray your knowledge will not diminish in Jesus name. May you continue to soar in His mercy. I really appreciate you ma.

    Adijat Azeez, (Ibadan)

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Girls…girls…girls…I’m writing you crestfallen, after reading a message from a 15-year-old girl who is pregnant and wants to commit abortion. When I tell you not to have a boyfriend in your teens, I always appear too hard and old school right? Now, check out this situation which a lot of you find yourself from time to time! The course of this young lady’s life has just been diverted, in fact taken over by the devil-stupid, bad devil! Her life can never be the same again and would only take God’s mercy to realign her with His original agenda for her life but before then she will face so much fire! Awww….What a pity! I keep telling you over and over again that when you have a boyfriend in your teens, you lose all sense of proportion and your emotions just rule your intellect/sense of reasoning and you carry on with a relationship that rocks your entire existence-not even in this age where sex has been made compulsory for foolish teens. Any teenager who is spirit-filled would never get involved in a romantic relationship. She would be too lost in her studies while planning for her future and spending her spare time in the house of God not drowning in Zeeworld and some reality show on TV where immorality is paraded!

    Now let me give you an insight into how the devil can take over your life starting from when you begin a romantic relationship in your teens.

    1. When you have a boyfriend, you start basking in his love poems, his warmth, his attention and affection towards you and you would rather fantasize about him than study extra and read your bible!

     

    2.You begin to tell lies about where you’ve been, where you’re going and who you’ve been talking to on phone etc.

     

    3.When he realizes you’re hopelessly in love with him, he begins to toy with your feelings and before you know it, you start having sleepless nights, breaking out in pimples, crying spells, poor concentration, your grades begin to drop etc.

     

    1. He does all he can to engage in sex with you and resorts to emotional blackmail and because you’re too foolish and too fast, you give in to his overtures then real trouble starts!

     

    5.Once he gets in between your thighs, he’s likely to get tired of you so soon and desire to move to another girl. But before then, you begin exposing your body and system to contraceptives, STDs, abortion and the like. To worsen` matters, you’ve already opened up your life to a boy whose destiny or destination you know nothing about. The gate of your spiritual life is already swung open to lust and demonic invasion!

     

    1. If he dumps you, you are spiritually weak to guard against any future occurrence of such relationship and would readily jump into the arms of the next guy. You just can’t say No and it continues like that. Just like your former, you invariably sleep and exchange spirits with his past or present sex partners and the evil baggage from multiple lives begin to draw you back, you’re already dis-integrated before life starts. Your divine identity i.e your original is diminishing before it manifests! HOW CAN YOU BOMBARD AND YOKE YOUR LIFE WITH STRANGE SPIRITS FROM MULTIPLE SEX PARTNERS AND THINK ALL WILL BE WELL WITH YOU? May the mighty hand of God set you free in Jesus name!

     

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  • Udom’s wife campaigns against pre- marital sex

    As part of the sensitisation campaign for teenage girls in secondary schools across the state against unwanted pregnancies and premarital sex, Family Empowerment and Youth Reorientation Programme (FEYReP), a pet project of the wife of Akwa Ibom State governor, Mrs. Martha Udom Emmanuel, led by the coordinator Mrs. Ime Ephraim Inyang, visited secondary schools in parts of the state to take the campaign against early sex to both students and their parents.

    Addressing students of Southern Annang Comprehensive Secondary School and Madonna Community Secondary School both in Oruk Anam Local Government Area, Akwa Ibom State, Mrs. Inyang said the campaigned tagged: ‘Girls, Uphold Your Dignity’, preaches complete abstinence from premarital sex, which according to her, could lead to various health hazards such as Visico Vaginal Fistula (VVF) and HIV/ AIDS.

    Mrs. Inyang reiterated the need for the girl child to uphold her dignity and also called on parents to act as role models to their wards, in discipline and corrective measures.

    In separate presentations, Mrs. Emem Nkereuwem and Pastor Utibe Eno advised students to avoid friends with negative influence and take pride in being a girl-child.

    Speaking after the campaign, the principal of Southern Annang Comprehensive Secondary School, Ikot Okoro, Mr. Edet Iteng thanked the governor’s wife for initiating FEYReP, adding that all hands must be on deck to achieve the set objectives.

    Responding on behalf of her colleagues, the head girl of Madona Community Secondary School, Obo Ntanya, Miss. Victoria James lauded Mrs. Emmanuel and her team for such initiative targeting the girl-child, praying that God will grant her the grace to continue in her good works.