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“Superfluity comes sooner by white hairs, but competency (sufficiency),lives longer”. The take away message from that quotation taken from William Shakespeare’s  comedy book ; Merchant of Venice as applied to sex,is that it can in deed be excessive and too much sex has its consequences. Added to that is the fact that though, young boys and men may not know it, too much sex by way of frequency, associated with ejaculationor not, can be harmful to human health.

Complete  copulatory sex occurs through a cycle and several stages of the cycle have been studied to make the work of sex therapist much more scientific and less subjective . It is essentially a matter , of ask-give receive, or give-receive ask give , depending on how it started. Though it will not be very appropriate to discuss them  in any details here,it will be sufficient to say that at one time or the other during the sex cycle, nearly every major organ in the body is involved. Of particular importance are the heart, lungs, brain, kidneys, the penis, clitoris, vagina, the spine which contains the spinal cord . These structures and their repertoire of blood vessels and nerves are recruited into action during sex, Little wonder then that a young man who has diabetes mellitus and allows himself to take a few bottles of beer while partying with friends may be courting  very serious danger if  under the influence of Alcohol he goes further to engage in passionate physically demanding sex. He may go into coma from which there may be no recovery.

The risk of dying while having sex, copulatory or non copulatory is increased for certain individuals and conditions  as hereunder:

Age

Erectile dysfunction or persistent inability to achieve and maintain penile  erection is a major problem now tormenting men ,the world over. More common after the age of 40, it is one reason many men are killing themselves with sex stimulants . Women are partly to blame for the amount of indecent exposure available for people of all ages to see. However, they (women ) argue that it is the ultimate responsibility of every man to know himself. Arguably,It is unreasonable for a man older than 50 to expect that his sex drive and performance will be the same as it was when he was 20 years old; libido and performance will wane with age, and while a wife of similar age may understand and wait patiently, a young lady with mountains of energy and sex drive will not . A  man will  resort to all sorts of ways and means to match a young and energetic wife . Many of these ways  are capable of leading  to untimely death

Genetics

As stated earlier, being a male of African descent is on it’sown  a risk factor for many diseases of the heart and it’s blood vessels. The black male is naturally endowed with sex organs which  on the average  are remarkably sizeable and efficient . Perhaps it is wise to remember that the maker designed the African males so no one has it all. And so from all over the world, there are more males of African descent dying from complications associated with sex performance enhancing drugs

Alcoholics

For the African male, the geometry or Anatomy of the heart is not exactly the same as what you find in  aWhite  man of the same age. The pace maker in the heart(SAN) is set to kick start the heart earlier and to make the heart beat faster, Beyond that, the male African is more predisposed to have abnormal pacemakers, or double conduction pathways (wolf Parkinson white syndrome), etc. Because  it requires expensive equipment to diagnose many conditions of the heart , many patients are not aware they are not as strong as they think. Alcohol increases heart rate , causes it’s blood vessels to relax and widen. It  stimulates the brain and then later depresses it. It maytherefore stimulate the man, and then while the spirit is willing, the flesh is too weak to respond . The man goes for more alcohol until he goes into coma, or the heart beats faster and faster, until it stops(from excessive stimulation)

Men In Primary Seated  And Standing Occupations

Men whose jobs require sitting down  orstanding for long periods of time as required by occupation, are liable to problems of the lower part of the spine. A common symptom being low back pain. As they grow older, the problems are likely to get worse even to the extent that the bones may shift from normal positions. Because the spine is like a beam, it requires one little snap as may occur during one memorable time of wonderful sex and death may occur or paralysis from waist down may pacify the man.

Underlying Medical Conditions

Diabetes Mellitus  and Hypertension

Diabetes and hypertension occur frequently in the Nigerian African, mostly separately but sometimes together. Scientists and physicians think that the connection may lie somewhere between the small  blood vessels and the equally tiny nerves that keep them alive. What ever the case, it is safer for couples  to go slow and easy on sex if the man is obese, has diabetes, mellitus, hypertension, or both. Inability to achieve and maintain erection is very common among patients undergoing treatment for these conditions, including obesity. It is important to note that many  of the drugs used in the treatment of many conditions such as hypertension, and others like peptic ulcer which incidentally is most likely to  afflict  the man whose blood pressure is chronically high have a major side effect; they cause impotence, the man has difficulties getting an erection, or if he manages to have one ,it is not strong enough for him to achieve penetration or maintain it. Again, he needs an understanding wife to keep his marriage. If she complaints, it gets worse. He is forced to resort to drugs, that  willfurther give him stress and the  effect is to increase his blood sugar,  increase his blood pressure, death

 

 

Obesity

Whether it is Gyenoid or Truncal obesity, it is bound to affect the heart and the blood vessels, truncal obesity being much more dangerous. Sex on it’s own is a form of  exercise . Tolerance and exhaustion  after any exercise characterize obesity, particularly when BMI is above 35. Death during sex, worse after a meal and wine is not uncommon in obese men.

Adult  onset Asthmatics

Asthma,characterized by difficult,noisy and wheezy breathing is  a medical condition that is generally understood to be inherited. It is now believed that it could be acquired as a result of persistent exposure to various  allergens . Even early exposure to broad spectrum antibiotics is being increasingly recognized as a risk factor for developing asthma. Because of the similarities in morphology between muscles of the heart and the respiratory tree, adult onset asthma is particularly dangerous as it may actually be coming from a poorly treated or undiagnosed heart condition. An attack can occur any time, but not frequently during sex because the stress response to sex, has a protective effect, but not when the system is over stretched . It will not be out of place to suggest that affected individuals  should be smart enough to ensure they have a cup of inhaler or  nebulizer close by when necessary

Sickle cell disease . Patients with sickle cell disease; the heterozygous AS or homozygous SS have issues with flow properties of blood(haemorheology). Particularly for those with SS, there is a possibility of throwing emboli, and developing stroke. This is not to say that they should avoid sex. There are many AS African males who have four to seven children or more and never suffered any  of the crises that take sickle cell patients to Hospital . Moderation is  simplythe watch ward.

DRUGS

Sex steroids, morphine, and other pain killers have body building as well as performance enhancing properties, and hence, users are mainly athletes and footballers. What these drugs or preparations  also do and which unfortunately is usually untold is that they can kill at any time, mostly while the user is actively performing. Staying away from them is the best decision any young person can make

SEX TOYS/SEX GAMES/EXPERIMENTS

All you need to do is watch the DSTV cable program; “1000 ways to die” and the import of the message will hit you without pain. Sex toys ,games and experiments are designed to make men ,but particularly women express extremes of pleasure. The risk of dying from multiple organ failure as the body is pleasured  may be rare but very real.

MULTIPLE PARTNERS COMMERCIAL SEX WORKERS

Commercial sex workers can be brothel based, where they do their business out in the open and  in certain locations, or non brothel based, where you have to be an ‘area piper’ or belong to know them from other women. What is common to them however is that, they are willing to do any thing anytime, any where and at whatever price. That price may be the death of the young man who wants something new ,strange or different from sex. Those who patronize commercial sex workers often complain that they no longer find  their wives  or partners of many years sexually appealing. Unfortunately the excitement and peaks of pleasure derivable from the uninhibited sex available from these people come with no emotion whatsoever . They take control of every thing including the  capacity of a client to negotiate himself out of danger. Sex in such circumstances clouds judgment and even the strongest of men may become willing to pay more to have extraordinary sex ,even when he knows he might die in the course of it.

 

SAME SEX  PARTNERS

For reasons not yet fully understood , individuals in same sex relationships have many issues to contend with . Partner fidelity, disclosure status and peculiar ideations feature prominently in the intuitive perceptions capable of flaring when such individuals are behind closed doors.

SEX FIGHTS

Strangely, some individuals grow up with certain patterns of behavior considered  deviant or abnormal depending on the society. Some women become interested in sex or get  turned on only after a quarrel or a fight, with a partner, husband or wife. It might be alright  for young couples, but for older men, a sudden rise in blood pressure occasioned by a strong argument may  rupturethe blood vessels of the brain. Bleeding into the brain may go on silently for some time and then progress to a major blow out like a burst pipe later during sex, and commonly at some time in the night when help is difficult to find. Risky as it might appear to be, it is recommended that young couples avoid  same position, same place and same time for sex. Just as unsafe sexual experimentation can result in disaster, a woman needs some pleasant surprises at times and may be too shy to suggest to Husby that she was no longer sexually aroused because sex had become too much of a routine. Moderation, understanding and communication that can be described as honestly honest are the necessary ingredients for safe and sound legitimate /spousal sex

 

 

A wise man in one of his books writes; “superfluity comes sooner by white hairs, but sufficiency leaves longer”; and a  preacher in one of his prescriptions  for practical Christianity says, “sufficient unto the day is of the evil one”.

Current situation as concerns the prevalence of HIV/AIDS is that adolescent males now drive the pandemic. Strained and in distress from prevention fatigue, many more young male Nigerians are having unprotected sex, contracting  the virus and increasing the illness and death statistics.  There are  nownew problems , calling for new approaches and review of current strategies. Emphasis has been on creating awareness in order to bring about relevant changes in patterns of behavior, but because awareness does not necessarily translate to knowledge, many of these young Nigerians now have their own interpretation of safe and safer sex . They have resorted to taking a few antiretroviral drugs, before, during and after sex as a way of  avoiding contracting the virus. The many poorly understood mechanisms of action of these drugs and the very high failure rate when used  without supervision  will not deter them.  They would be disappointed if they were informed that even if a Surgeon  operating on a patient that has HIV mistakenly cuts himself  and takes  these drugs almost immediately, there is still  a 75% chance that he will develop HIV/AIDS.The waning efforts of relevant agencies to sustain the HIV/AIDS awareness tempo may be making matters worse. And so unfortunately, people have come to think of HIV/AIDS now as just another form of TYPHOMALARIA .

Other issues  have  emerged ,and many sexually active men are  dying atop or underneath women while having sex. As is usually the case with underdeveloped countries, many  of these deaths are not being reported. A number of  factors may orchestrate to increase the risks of dying from sex, and these ones have little to do with whether or not people are having sex without protection. Questions are being asked as to what category of people are dying from sex, what is killing them and what can be done to stop or reduce these deaths . Finding answers to these questions may appear simple , but on deeper considerations, not so easy. In any case, the issues are worth considering.

Legitimate  spousal sex, between consenting partners , and from appropriate relationships is good for  the body and nourishes the human brain. In fact, research has affirmed that   a happily married  man or woman who has sex regularly with her husband or wife and actively participates  in it,is more likely to live longer compared with others. However, apart from the risks of contracting deadly sexually transmitted infectious agents, sex in whatever form as long as it involves two or more individuals can be  as dangerous as it is pleasant, and how much is too much determines whether or not a man or woman  dies or lives while having sex. In some  livingorganisms, nature  makes provision for male and female members of the specie to mate only once and after that  one or both dies. Studies  in rats  have demonstrated that excessive indulgence in sex by way of frequency could be harmful to health .  Male Rats  induced to engage in frequent  ejaculatory sex with female rats tend to die young, compared with others of same age not so treated. Though these reports have not been adequately investigated in humans because of the difficulties  involved in controlling  for many confounding variables in experiments involving humans, they are interesting enough to provoke common sense and stimulate thinking. This has become relevant, as  it is becoming increasingly realized that sex is sending young and middle aged boys and men to the emergency(casualty) rooms of Hospitals and Clinics all over the world.  For many of the cases that have been seen, death and disabilities have been observed  during sex or a few minutes after climax. Victims have also been observed to have used Alcohol, aphrodisiac supplements and other performance enhancing drugs of different dosage  formulations . When men die while doing it , not much is  talked about or disclosed about  the women involved.People  have begun to wonder if  men are  simply being driven crazy and into early graves  because women are becoming more beautiful, but less chaste and inclined to value systems ,or  men have become dangerously addicted to sex, because something  yet to be discovered has emerged to distort the normal regulatory control of testosterone along the HypoThalamoHypophysealGonadadal axis.

A woman’s appetite  for and demand for sex depends on many factors, including  among others, age, sex,  genetics, gender, religion, culture, occupation, environment, peer influence, life style and education. Ageand  genetics require further details.  Some women are naturally more sexually active compared with others of the same age. Something in the genes of a particular person  may have been programmed by the maker, to function at a level and with frequencies remarkably different  from others, and yet  considered normal . This explains why you have the Nuns of the Catholic faith, and why for some women, one orgasmic coitus  a week is enough where as, for others, every intimate contact must result in orgasmic sexual intercourse. Beyond that, ayoung woman that is beyond the age of puberty ,but not any where close to menopause is more likely to be sexually active with a strong appetite for sex compared with the one in the transitional menopausal period , whose hormone levels, in particular, estrogen will have begun to decline substantially.

Every normal  youngfemale within the reproductive age  bracket(15-45years) ovulates  about the middle of her menstrual cycle(usually 14 days before the next menstrual bleeding). For ovulation to occur, there has to be a surge in one {leutenizinghormone(LH)}of the  two hormones involved in menstrual cycle regulation. This hormone first acts on certain specialized cells of the ovary to produce male hormones(androgens), from which the hormone estrogen is released into the blood. At the level of the brain, this body chemical though predominantly a male  hormone, the much  that is left in the brain of a woman  during this period , serves to increase her appetite  for sex. From this brief explanation , it can be seen  and  understood  why at certain periods in every month, some  women may find themselves overwhelmed by the urge to have sex , and why some may  need to struggle  harder than others  to bring themselves under control so as not to do unthinkable things. As long as  exposure to Alcohol, drugs and other  sex stimulants is avoided as much as possible, self control is achievable in all circumstances . Problems arise when in unguarded moments  a young lady gets introduced to strange patterns of behavior and the individual gets into  unending and uncontrollable desire for sex, from one cycle to another, bulldozing men, old and young as she hops from one bed to another

For  the Nigerian African  male individual who is young and  biologically  functional , sex is something to be enjoyed ad infinitum even unto death. The African woman equally believes rightly or wrongly that under any circumstance, the black man is as strong as igneous rock when it comes to sex, and should be able to perform even when he is apparently too ill to do so. Under the unrelenting push of testosterone; the predominant male hormone, there is that feeling of immortality  and competitiveness among men that when  a  man irrespective of age  finds himself in a situation that is sexually suggestive, all fear is gone and caution takes back seat.  The positive effect of testosterone on male libido begins to fall by about age 25 years, but many individuals only begin to experience symptoms by the time they are concluding their 30th birthday celebrations;the problems declaring themselves by way of  problems getting and maintaining erections, first occasionally and then with increasing frequency. It is at this point that death comes knocking at the door, depending on the marital status of the man , type of marriage and most importantly the character and age of his partner.

As will be explained later, men ,and in particular those coming from the African continent(Blacks) are more likely to die while having sex, compared with men of similar age from the White race. One reason for this is that the black man is  genetically designed to die from problems associated with blood pressure, blood sugar, weight and the heart. The probability istherefore high that at the time of the sexual encounter, the black maleindividual compared to a white man of the same age and body size,  is more likely to have an undiagnosed metabolic disease such as Hypertension or Diabetes . He is more likely to be sexually aggressive and adventurous in bed as he tries to prove one thing or another before his partner. Though not invariable, the black male is also more likely to have multiple sex partners and be  using  fake or expired  performance enhancing drugs about which little information is available to him.

There are certain individuals who believe that women; young ,and middle aged  are killing men with sex ; they argue that improved awareness of the modern woman  about sex has made it difficult to  control her appetite for sex ,even legitimate sex. Some have argued that compared with the past, women of the present time have become difficult to satisfy in bed. Asked why she had lost interest in sex, a young woman once told a  court judge  that she had become sick of the monotony of same pattern, same place, same night, same style, nothing new. Rather than change, husband asked for marriage dissolution, because, wife had unknowingly given herself away as a cheating housewife; probably having been taken to hotels by men in her place of work

Others believe that men have become so addicted to sex that, even when during a particularly intense sexual encounter they see death coming , they are unable to help themselves .

 

To be continued