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  • ‘At 58, God has given me a second chance’

    ‘At 58, God has given me a second chance’

    Perhaps I should not be alive. But I am. Despite the odds, I turn 58 today. I am still frail and fragile. But now, I can stand on my feet again, bearing testimony to those sacred words of the Almighty Allah himself that, “No soul can ever die except by Allah’s leave and at a time appointed (Quran 3: 145),” YUSUPH OLANIYONU, communication strategist, journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst, recounts his recent health challenges.

    It all started on 19 February when I drove myself into a government hospital in Abuja for an elective surgery. The surgery itself was meant to last for a few minutes and I should return home not later than two days thereafter. That was what I was told. But that was not what happened.Since that fateful Monday morning, I have gone into and out of the surgical theatre nine times for six major operations and three minor procedures. I have spent six days in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU), surviving on oxygen and relieving myself through catheters. I have become totally dependent on others for the performance of even such personal functions as cleaning myself. I have lost 20 kilogrammes in five months and was reduced to a mere sack of bones. I have lost the use of my limbs and, like a toddler, I had to learn to walk again. I have spent millions of naira and thousands of dollars of my own and other people’s money. I have travelled hundreds of kilometres to find help. I have reached the very bottom of despair itself; and I had made plans for my own burial. But somehow, I am still alive.

    I am someone you could describe as a hands-on person, or even a keep-fit buff, careful about what I eat or drink and what I do with my body. Therefore, I seldom had any need for a hospital. However, since my dad died of prostate cancer 23 years ago, the doctor had warned me that male children of prostate cancer victims are predisposed to suffering the same fate. Since my 40th birthday, I had therefore ensured that a comprehensive medical check-up was a part of my annual ritual. In the course of one of those routine check-ups, I was alerted a few years ago of an enlargement of my prostate. Following this discovery, I enrolled in a public medical facility in Abuja and made sure to see the urologist every three months. At one point, I was also advised to see a nephrologist once in a while.           All these visits, I understood, were merely precautionary. But I was beginning to spend too much time on the waiting line in the hospital than I could afford. Before long, I changed to another hospital closer to my house. Even though it is also a government hospital, it has a private wing that charges higher fees for quicker consultations and service. I thought this arrangement served me better. I was assigned a consultant urologist of my own. And I also saw a nephrologist in the hospital. However, while the nephrologist kept assuring me that everything was fine, the urologist started to raise an alarm. At a point, he told me that if we didn’t act fast, my enlarged prostate might begin to affect my kidney. The only solution, he said, was surgical intervention.

    He was the expert, so I yielded to his pressure and agreed to do the surgery. That turned out to be a major mistake. But I only became wiser by way of a horrifying hindsight. My result from the prostate test showed that I was, in fact, in a much better place than several of my friends, who all were surprised that I chose to go under the knife for an ailment that, more often than not, offers a little more than just mere discomfort, as long as it is not cancerous. They were right. The only prostate-related complaint I had was that I urinated twice or thrice at night. I did not have any pains or difficulty in urinating, or any symptom beyond the ordinary. It turned out that all I needed was a slight change in lifestyle, not drinking or eating late into the night and to continue to take the drugs that were prescribed for management purpose, which, by the way, my urologist had asked me to stop taking.

    Although it did not mean much to me at the time, but in this hospital, patients do not have access to the results of their laboratory tests. The doctor electronically sends requests to the laboratory and once the patient has made payment, the laboratory will conduct the test and send the results in the same manner back to the doctor. The doctor would access the results on his computer and based on this, make pronouncements on what the patient needs to do next. In my case, the verdict was surgery.

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    This was why I drove myself to the government hospital on 19 February and spent the night preparing for the surgery the next day. A week before, I had gone through a cystoscopy procedure. That was my first time ever in a hospital surgical theatre. But since the 20th of February, I have been in several theatres, more than an average person would in a single lifetime. It happened that during the first surgery, the surgeons had ruptured my bladder. In panic, they had to abandon the prostate operation that brought me in, hurriedly placed a catheter inside my urethra, and returned me to the hospital ward. It so happened also that the catheter was not properly placed, so urine was not going into the bag. I was returned to the theatre to remedy the situation. When I came out this time around, the urine was reverting to my genitals, which had by now become grotesquely engorged with fluid.

    Three trips back to the theatre did not change anything. And this was enough to send everyone into panic. I was wheeled into the ICU, where I passed out and had to be placed on oxygen. At this point, it had become obvious that the medical team had reached its wit’s end. It had lost control. One of them had, in fact, quietly told my family that my chance of survival was 50-50. They were already thinking of moving to the next patient. After all, they had “tried their best.”

    But then, to paraphrase Shakespeare, heaven has no fury like a woman about to be widowed. My wife, Odunayo, rose to the occasion. She thought that what was needed to save my life at that point were some ‘muscles’ that would compel the doctors to give me proper attention. She told my children, their friends, and my colleague, Akintoba Fatigun, who was already weeping after seeing how helpless I was, to stay strong. She picked up my phone and called my Oga, the Chairman of THISDAY and Arise TV, Mr Nduka Obaigbena, to inform him about my condition. All she needed were calls to people in top places on the need for the hospital management not to abandon me. Mr Obaigbena immediately called the Minister of Health, who in turn called the head of the hospital. He also promptly dispatched one of his top managers, Mr Israel Iwegbu, to move over to the hospital and report back to him.

    Akintoba also called my boss, Dr Abubakar Bukola Saraki, who was then in the United States. The former Senate President immediately directed Akintoba to get some money across to my wife and also promised to speak with the Health minister. My wife also sent an urgent message to my brother, the Senator representing my Senatorial District, Ogun Central, Senator Shuaib Afolabi Salis. The Senator immediately came over to the hospital to meet the Chief Medical Director. 

With all these influential forces breathing down their neck, the hospital realised that this was one patient they could not afford to trifle with. I was returned to the theatre where they had to open me up – yet again – to properly adjust the catheter and ensure that I hadn’t suffered any internal damage. I ended up spending six days in the ICU and later returned to the private room. In the ICU, the traffic and calibre of people who came to see me surprised the hospital management. One evening, Dr Saraki himself led a very long and powerful delegation to the hospital such that when he said: “Yusuph, get well fast, look at the whole troops turning out to wish you well,” I could not but agree with him. In the same way there were the visits of Senator Salis and his son, Kamal, who was always traveling down from Kaduna to see me. Just as Senator Tokunbo Afikuyomi once led his wife, children, and friends to check up on me.

    After two weeks, I was discharged and went home. It was Ramadan. For the first time in over 45 years, I could not participate in the Ramadan fast. While in the hospital, I said my prayers most times lying on the bed. Although I had lost so much weight, it looked as if I was set on my way to recovery. Until something happened that would change everything, kick-starting another wave of anguish, fear and relentless pain.

    It was the second day after Eid-el-Fitri. My son, Oladapo had persuaded me to take a small pack of Lucozade Boost juice on Sallah day, believing this might stimulate my appetite. This was on the 10th of April. The next day, my wife observed that my urine was the same colour of the Lucozade Boost that I had taken the previous day. She felt something was wrong. However, Oladapo and I thought it could be the effect of the Lucozade Boost drink.

    For some reason, my wife then brought out her blood pressure monitor to check my ‘vitals’. She found out that though I was hypertensive, my blood pressure was low, while my pulse rate was unduly high. Then, I started having this electric shock sensation once I moved my head back, even a little. She became alarmed and kept on repeating the blood pressure and pulse rate monitoring. At one point, I suggested the machine could have malfunctioned. But when she used it on herself and Oladapo, the figures appeared normal. At about 7 p.m., we all agreed to visit a nearby pharmacy to use their BP monitor to double check, so we wouldn’t raise a false alarm. But we got the same reading from the pharmacy. The alarm was then real.

    Immediately, we called a urologist working in another government hospital, who after listening to us promptly declared an emergency. He then directed that we should go to the emergency ward of the public hospital where he works and he would get a consultant to attend to us. We did as he directed. But one hour after, we were still waiting. No one was in sight to attend to us. After a quick deliberation, we decided to go to the private hospital where we were normally registered. It was at the private hospital that the doctor on duty alerted us that I had a septic infection and that I could go into shock anytime. This was the second episode for me. I had suffered from sepsis during my earlier surgical rounds in the hospital. Sepsis is a condition in which the infection-fighting processes turn on the body, causing the organs to malfunction. In other words, my body was beginning to poison itself.

    The doctor at the private hospital urged me to hasten to the public hospital where I was recently treated. We called the urologist again. He directed that we report to the Accident and Emergency Ward. We did. Yet again, the doctor that was meant to receive us was nowhere to be found. Several panicked calls to her number, and there was no response. After what seemed like eternity, she suddenly materialised. She had gone to eat, she said, casual and indifferent as nature itself. This time, I was to spend nine days in the hospital.

    But at this point, we had lost confidence in my urologist and we had started to make arrangements to find a hospital in Egypt to continue the treatment. One night, my family insisted that I should be discharged, even if against medical advice, so that I could make a scheduled trip to Egypt. My wife already signed the Discharge Against Medical Advice (DAMA) form before Senator Salis phoned me and said we should hold all actions until he arrived, as he had invited a leading expert in urology from one of the universities in Lagos to review my case that same night.

The Professor came in with the senator and took us through an hour-long lecture on the issues. He concluded that the case was not beyond what could be handled in the hospital. But “things could have been done differently during the surgery.” He also enlightened us that with sepsis not properly treated, it was doubtful if I could make a five-hour journey in an airplane to Egypt. He had come with a more senior urologist in the same hospital, who had been his student. We all agreed that I would stay if he could guarantee that the more senior surgeon would take over my case and report progress to him and the Senator.

    Again, I returned home. This time I even felt better and was confident that my recuperation had started. But it turned out to be the calm before the storm; the biggest storm of all. We found out that as the days went by, I started to lose control of my limbs. As usual, my wife was the first to raise the question one morning. She asked why I staggered each time I tried to walk. I said it could be because I just woke up. I tried to allay her fears, but I could not hide for long. Soon, I was not able to raise my hand. My initial thought was that this was because I had stopped my morning exercise. I then resumed some guided workout sessions where one of my sons and Kamal Salis, my Senator’s son, would guide me through. But instead of any improvement, things continued to degenerate, and they were happening so fast.

    In no time, I began to depend on my wife to brush my teeth, clean myself in the bathroom, put food in my mouth, perform ablution, and do any chore that involved the use of my right hand. Then my right leg soon followed. It was like something was switching off my limbs one by one. Then at night, the pains descended on my neck and shoulder like a boulder. Sleep became impossible. Turning became a torture. To find a position of relief, that small posture that would grant me a respite from this oppressive pain, no matter how fleeting, became impossible. All through this ordeal, I had tried to be brave. Now, I could no longer hold back. I cried. The pain was just too much. And it came in the night. Therefore each night approached with terror because I knew what laid in wait for me in the dark. Maybe if I stayed up. I told my wife that perhaps, I should try to sleep in a sitting position. But nothing I tried helped. The name given to this one, this latest harbinger of pains, is cervical spondylosis. But little did we know that it was much worse than that. One Saturday, we decided to go to a private hospital that specialised in orthopaedics. We were told to come back the following week’s Wednesday. But the pain would not relent. Whatever I did, wherever I turned, it flogged me like an errant child. The hospital later called to make a change from Wednesday to Friday. But by then, we had already sought a more urgent alternative. At 9 p.m. that same night, we met the orthopaedic surgeon. He recommended some drugs and a neck collar, which I must now wear on like a shackle. That night, after a long time, I had a strange sleep without pains. But it was like shooing off a wild dog with a stick. It may back off for the moment, but it would come back. By the next day, the pain returned, ferocious, as if angry to be disrupted for one night.

    Before our next appointment with the orthopaedic surgeon, we took the initiative to do an MRI test. But by then, my case had become a desperate emergency. All my limbs have packed up. Throughout these ordeals, I had never missed my prayers and supplications to Allah. But that morning, I could not move even one finger to press the electronic counter or hold the tasbih.

    “Is this illness also going to separate me from my God in my last days?” I lamented to my wife. She said it was only temporary and everything would be fine. But I learnt she later went into the bathroom to cry. She is a brave woman. But I am sure by this time, even she would also have started to contemplate the worst.

    When the orthopaedic surgeon saw the result of the MRI test, he took us to see a neurologist in a private hospital as well. The neurologist explained that some bones had ruptured in my neck, which had disorganised the nerve supply system from the brain down to the limbs. Again, I had to go in for a surgery to restore the functioning of the nerves. The operation was to be carried out on 13 May. 

While waiting for the appointed date, my colleague, Akintoba Fatigun came to see me. He thought I was getting better. Many of my friends who were speaking to me on the phone thought the same, because despite all that I had suffered, my voice had remained strong and clear. I told Akintoba that in fact, the situation had gotten worse since the last time he visited and that I was actually waiting for another surgery.

    When Akintoba left the house, he went straight to Dr Saraki’s residence and told him of my situation. The former Senate President immediately started to make calls to different hospitals in Saudi Arabia, the UK, and the US. I did not have a valid US visa and we had no time to apply for one. The Saudi hospital, after studying the MRI, later replied that they could not deal with the situation. Then, someone suggested Egypt. Contacts and appointments were made. To enter Egypt, one only needed a valid UK visa to obtain the Egyptian visa at the point of entry.

 By Monday, 13th May, I was set to travel. Dr Saraki had purchased business class tickets for my wife and I. He also provided money to pay for the surgery and living expenses for a month. A day before my departure, the house was full with several family friends, despite our best efforts to keep the trip as confidential as possible. They were people from different parts of the country and people of different religious persuasions. At that point, I was not Yoruba or Muslim to them. I was just another human being. Even as I lay helplessly in bed, contemplating the motley crowd that had gathered in my room, I wondered if they thought they were saying a final goodbye to me.

    It was time to go. My wife and second son, Oladipo, had already packed the bags. Then we realised that there was yet another important challenge. My room was on the second floor. How do I get down and into the car? We could only think of two options. Oladipo would have to carry me on his back and take me downstairs or I would have to crawl down the staircase. But even these two options were fraught with risks. Yes, I had lost so much weight and Dipo is a burly young man, but he is only 23. The thought of having my son carry me on his back because I could not walk was a distinct trauma on its own. But what if he slipped, and we both crashed to the ground? There could only be one outcome. How would the young man forgive himself? But none of these happened. Dipo successfully carried me downstairs and got me safely into the car.

    On the way to the airport, I told my wife what my Plan B was, if Oladipo had been unable to carry me, to crawl downstairs. “That would have broken me,” she said. I responded with a joke that I needed her to remain unbroken because a broken man could not depend on a broken woman. In the last five months, she had become my in-house nurse, minder, and caregiver.

    Five hours later, we landed in Cairo. My hospital, Neuro Espitalia, is located in a city called 6th of October, which is about an hour’s drive from the Cairo International Airport. I learnt that the city got its name in commemoration of the day one of the Arab-Israeli wars broke out. We were joined at the airport by my third son, Oladepo, who had arranged a two-week leave from his London office and another two weeks to work from the Cairo office of his company. He was to provide an additional hand to me in Egypt for the next one month. Our guide was a Nigerian gentleman called Rabiu Hamza, a PhD student in one of the Egyptian universities.

 We arrived at the Neuro Espitalia at about midnight on that Monday. For the second time in almost a month, I had another sound sleep. Tuesday was devoted to various laboratory tests and to getting my medical history. On Wednesday morning, I had the surgery, which, as they explained, was to “clean an abscess in the cervical vertebrae, stabilise the cervical vertebrae and expand the neural canal.” I didn’t understand everything, but I just wanted to get well. The surgical operation was led by Professor Ibrahim Lotfy, an elderly but friendly surgeon, and Professor Dalia Rushdi.

    After the successful operation, the surgical team decided to culture fragments of bones and tissues extracted from my back to determine what went wrong in the first place. It was an investigation that took days and a lot of blood tests. What they found was, to say the least, shocking. It was described in medical terms as “necrotizing Granulomatous Inflammation Compatible With Tuberculosis of the Vertebrae. No malignancy.” In short, it is called tuberculosis of the vertebrae. This was the stealthy thief that had been stealing my limbs, one by one. But even the surgery could not return everything this disease had stolen from me. I had to recover them myself by re-learning the use of my legs and hands again.

    This was when I realised how much grateful humans should be to their creator for even the most simple things we take for granted everyday. I realised that even the mere ability to scratch one’s face when it itches, what we do countless times everyday without even thinking about it, is indeed a big deal. When my face itched, I would need my son or my wife to scratch it. To change my sleeping posture, I would need them. To change the position of my hands, or clean the sputum that come sometimes when I coughed, I needed them to do these and everything else for me.

    At a point I could no longer fold my fingers to form a fist in order to allow nurses take blood samples or fix the cannula for intravenous infusion. Over the past five months, my arms had been covered in needle marks like a dedicated drug user; to administer some injections, to take blood or to fix the cannula for intravenous medication.

    A few days after the surgery, I began physiotherapy sessions in the hospital. Several physiotherapists came to work on me. But a particular one stood out for me. His name is Ahmed El-Sanadidy, the man from Alexandria. Even after I left the hospital for a rented apartment close by, we contracted El Sanadidy to continue my rehabilitation therapy. He got paid per session. He was such an effective, devoted, passionate, friendly, hardworking, and creative professional. He was also in hot demand in his hometown, Alexandria, and in the city of the 6th of October. In the early part of our sessions, he would form a protective ring around me with his arms to guard me from falling. He taught me to walk all over again, to climb the stairs, to use my arms, to strengthen my fingers, and to regain some level of physical fitness. I called him ‘my boss’. He was the reason I extended my stay in Egypt to two months. He was making some very good progress with my rehabilitation and I did not want to terminate it abruptly.

    But there was yet another challenge. The hospital had tried in vain to get me to go to the toilet. For almost two weeks, even after two sessions of enema, nothing came out. After we moved to the apartment, I thought the privacy of a home would help, but nothing. I would feel pressed to use the toilet and spend time siting and groaning in pain, but nothing would come out. It was later realised that the muscles around my waist had become so weak they could not exert sufficient pressure to push out the waste. This became another source of agonising pain. My stomach felt as solid as if I had been fed concrete cement. This became another major prayer point for me.

    “You should be saying ‘Alhamdulilahi Rabbil alaamin’ because we should let our gratitude to God be more than our requests to Him,” my wife said one day as I was petitioning God over the agony of my plumbing problem. It was a test of faith. But it was also a lesson never to forget. One morning, the plumbing problem resolved itself, not in the most dignifying manner. Since then, it has been easier than ever doing my ‘toileting business’. For more than four months, I was carrying a catheter around. At a point, they became two. But now, I am free of both of them.

    Now, I am a bit stable. I can walk unaided. At a time I could not even move a finger, but now I can sit down and type this piece on my iPad. I can perform my salat, the ablution, ruku (bowing), and the sujud (prostration), all on my own. There was a time in the past when I had to rely on people to do ablution for me and I had to pray lying down. I could not even turn my head to the left or right. I stared at the ceiling all the time and developed a system that enable me use marks on the POP on the ceiling as counter for my supplications. I have learnt not to take anything for granted and to thank my maker for enabling any physical move that I am able to make.

    I have written this piece to celebrate the fact that I am alive, despite my ordeal in the past five months. But I have also written it to share my experience of the Nigerian medical system. Even before I traveled to Egypt, I realised that so much is wrong with our medical system, for which I nearly paid with my life. But my experience in Egyptian hospitals and with Egyptian doctors made me realise this even more. Why do our doctors behave as if they are being forced to be doctors; as if there is no minimum standard to which they must comply; as if they can do anything and get away with it; as if it was enough for them to just claim that they tried their best? The Egyptian hospital was replete with stories of Nigerians who come there to correct surgical operations that had been performed in Nigeria, some from glamorous hospitals in Abuja where they charge exorbitantly.

    At the government hospital in which I was almost killed, a night’s stay in the ICU costs ₦150,000. I doubt that many hotels charge that much for a standard room. Yet, patients are still made to pay what they call “utility fees,” calculated by the number of days a patient has spent in the hospital. We are not even talking about the cost of medication and drugs. The same hospital sold Tavanic 500mg, an antibiotic used for the treatment of infections for N42,000, while a pharmacy located only a few metres away from the hospital sold the same drug for N20,000. In Egypt, we bought the drug for 124 Egyptian Pounds which is about N4,092, at the exchange rate of ₦33 to one. How did we find ourselves in a situation where government hospitals have become the most expensive and the most inefficient in Nigeria? Health workers, doctors, nurses, etc., in the private hospitals may not be any better, but at least they appear committed to their jobs. Public health workers in Nigeria behave as if they would rather be somewhere else, as if they are actually doing the patients a favour. The painful truth is that they don’t care whether you live or die. There is work here for everyone – the government, professional bodies and training institutions.

    I was lucky to have powerful people who could muscle them. What about the millions of Nigerians who don’t know anybody? If I were in their situation, I would have long been forgotten. Why would a Nigerian need tonnes of money and powerful friends to stand a chance of surviving a medical challenge in our country?

    My last words are for those of us whose work demands long sitting hours. We need to be mindful of our sitting postures and be sure to get up intermittently. Please don’t ignore any pain. Regular check up can make a difference between life and death. Today I am alive. I give thanks to the Almighty Allah who has given me a second lease of life out of his infinite mercy, not necessarily because I deserve it. All glory be to Him.

  • Aramide drops ‘Magic’ off second album

    Aramide drops ‘Magic’ off second album

    A frosoul Queen Aramide has dropped ‘Magic’, a new single and first of 2018.

    The sultry singer took to her social media to announce the song which was recorded in Jos, PLateau State, where she grew up.

    ‘Magic,’ produced by SizzlePro and mixed and mastered by Olaitan Dada and VTEK respectively, boasts of live Guitar infusions with Augsurg Habila on the acoustic Guitar and Preach Zagi on the Electric Guitar.

    The song is Aramide’s first single off her second album due for release later in the year.

  • Ambode approves second phase of CodeLagos

    Ambode approves second phase of CodeLagos

    •Governor to launch 300 new code centres Sept.

    Lagos State Governor Akinwunmi Ambode has approved the implementation of the second phase of CodeLagos project, which will be launched in September.

    The approval is coming on the heels of the successful implementation of the pilot phase of the project in which 5,464 pupils of primary and secondary schools across the state were trained.

    A statement yesterday by the Special Adviser to the Governor on Education, Obafela Bank-Olemoh, said 65 schools, comprising government and private, took part in the pilot phase.

    The statement said: “The training has delivered to the pupils critical life skills, including basic computing, computational thinking and use of basic computer programming tools, like Scratch and python, over a period of eight weeks. The feedbacks have been inspiring.

    “Of the 65 schools in the pilot, 23 are government-owned, of which seven are girls’ only, while two others are boys’ only.”

    The statement added that the experience and knowledge garnered from the pilot phase enabled the Ministry of Education to assess and fine-tune the framework and implementation model of the project for future rollout.

    It said: “This pilot phase has helped us to test our assumptions and implementation plans. We have observed what worked and what did not. We would put them into consideration for future rollout beginning with the next batch in September.”

    Also, the government has concluded plans to roll out the project in state-owned public libraries to ensure access to CodeLagos classes for more residents, especially those out of the conventional schools system, to benefit from it.

    Bank-Olemoh said more Lagos residents would take part in the training at any public library.

  • Chrisland varsity matriculates second set

    Chrisland varsity matriculates second set

    The Founder, Chrisland University, Abeokuta, Dr Winifred Awosika, has charged newly-admitted students of the university to allow the light of Chrisland Schools shine through them.

    Awosika gave the charge during the second matriculation of the university for the 2016/2017 academic session.

    In accordance with the school’s 40-year old motto, ‘Show forth the light’, Awosika advised the matriculating students to project the Chrisland light through their behaviour, attitude and character.

    “It is by so doing that the world would see the intellectual radiance in you,”Awosika told the new students.

    She said the university was established to bring out the best in students, adding that it would grow from humble beginnings to becoming world-class.

    “When you start from a humble beginning and put your soul into it, you will succeed,” she said, advising the new students to be focused, hardworking, dedicated, and strike a balance between social life and academic pursuit.

    The Vice-Chancellor of the university, Prof Christian Jacobs, charged the students to demonstrate high competency in their daily academic activities by focusing on intellectual freedom, ethical standards and making tangible contributions to research and community service. He said management also promised them an environment that nurtures sound, moral, intellectual culture and attracts a blend of faculty from across the world.

    Registrar of the institution, Mr. Biodun Lawale, administered the matriculation oath on the new students that would study Accounting, Political Science, Psychology, Industrial Chemistry, Microbiology, Mathematics and Physics, among others.

  • Davido expecting second daughter

    Davido expecting second daughter

    Hip-hop sensation, Davido, whose latest single, ‘If’, is currently Africa’s biggest song, has another reason to be happy.

    The father of a daughter, Imade, took to his Snapchat to announce that his American girlfriend, Amanda, will soon give birth to his second daughter in a fortnight.

    Davido, who is in the United States, wrote: “Just wanna feed my fans with great music and take care of Imade and her little sister that would be coming in two weeks!!”

    Amanda, a student at Georgia State University, has Cape Verdean and Togolese parents.

    In recent weeks, a lady, Ayomide Labinjo, alleged that Davido is the father of her three-year-old child, Anuoluwapo, a claim which the pop singer refuted, citing a negative DNA result.

    Davido had over the weekend, lost his uncle, Senator Isiaka Adeleke, and former governor of Osun State.

  • Milo basketball contest enters second phase

    The regional conference of Milo Secondary School Basketball championship, will commence today through to Thursday May 25, the organiser has announced.

    The regional conference which is the second phase is divided into four geographical groupings- Central conference in Abuja, Confluence conference in Lokoja, Equatorial conference in Enugu and Western conference in Akure, the organiser further added.

    Speaking at a briefing at Nestle headquarters in Ilupeju Lagos, the company Category Manager (Beverages) Olufemi Akintola said the conferences will host participating schools at the aforementioned geographical regions.The national battle for the coveted trophies will include four team winners at the conference stage and two best losers selected on their performances.

    Winners from the conference, which would also include female participants, according to him, would stage a contest at the national finals which will be hosted in Lagos State in June.

    He is optimistic the final contest will be an exhibition of great talents with thrilling entertainments and Milo gifts.

    He noted that there will also be a three-day camping of the top 50 schools after the tournament where participants will be additionally groomed by local and international coaches.

    The Managing Director Nestle Nigeria Plc, Mr Mauricio Alarcon,  explained that aside the health benefit of sport it is also an avenue for the development of qualities that set the foundation for a child’s future.

    “These qualities include perseverance through hardship, courage to overcome fear, ability to work in a team, self-belief, respect and leadership. It is why Milo has been at the forefront of sports development in Nigeria for the past 19 years” he said.

    Alacron recalled that over 9,000 schools across the 36 states including FCT Abuja have participated in the state preliminaries of the ongoing edition.

    He said since inception the event has produced professionals at local and international levels, adding that   Nestle is happy about the yearly increase in participation which, according to him, is a testimony of the firm’s valuable contribution to the development of the Nigerian students.

  • ‘Lagos is second to none’

    ‘Lagos is second to none’

    Lagos State has been forging ahead since inception of the fourth republic because of the   developmental strides of its successive administrations.

    A businessman, Chief Modestus Umenzekwe, said the state is second to none in the country.

    The President, Adem Industrial and Commercial Company in Coker-Aguda  also backed Senator Oluremi Tinubu’s quest for a Special Status for the state, saying the revenue realised from the state justified the status.

    He said projects such as  Lake rice, Atlantic City on Victoria Island, roads construction and light rail transport system have boosted the state’s economy.

    He urged Igbo traders to support the government to establish a convenient business climate.

    He said: “The security situation around the business premises have been very impressive. The Ambode’s Mega City mantra has crept into Adem in form of orderliness and civil disobedience especially in payment of necessary taxes. The light rail project which is very close to the trader’s premises and to be commissioned next year (this year) will be historic. So, appreciate your host community and avoid confrontation as they are friendly and accommodating.”

    Umenzekwe lauded the initiative of President Muhammadu Buhari on increased local production and consumption, saying the ceramic sector and plumbing materials were well favoured by the policy.

    “A greater percentage of our goods is now sourced locally as the foreign currencies are hard to acquire. Therefore, traders must desist from in fake and substandard products and cooperate with the Federal government to increase local industrialisation,” he said.

  • Taking a second wife

    Dear Harriet, we have been married for 36 years now and blessed with a daughter. Medical report confirms that my wife is infertile. As a result of this, she asked me to marry a second wife. I love my wife, but the question is,  should I marry a second wife?  I need your counsel. Please help me.

    Name  witheld, Abuja.

    36 years of marriage is not a piece of cake.  Congratulations to you and your wife for keeping it together and thanks for sharing your story. In our world today, a great number of our young couples spend a lot to have glamorous weddings, but it will amaze you to know that, only a few understand or are willing to accept the fact that marriage is not a bed of roses. Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities and challenges which only those who are working together as a team and trusting God towards the progress of their union can handle.

    However, some marriages are faced with myriads of challenges  that push  some couples to contemplate going their separate ways.  Some actually quit  the moment they are faced with  challenges, forgetting that marriage is not man’s invention but a divine institute ordained by God. It is a union of a man and a woman in total mutual self-giving and commitment for life.

    Your situation deserves proper analysis for a clearer understanding of the gravity of the case at hand before taking any decision. It’s unfortunate that I don’t have a detailed information about the whole issue because your wife’s aspect is not stated and the doctor’s finding or report about the cause of the infertility after a first child was not mentioned as well.  Anyway, a situation like this does occur, therefore, you are not alone in it.

    There are a number of factors that can contribute to secondary infertility; that is inability to conceive or carry a child to term after having a first child. Perhaps,  the most common problem is age.  The older a person is,  the more challenging it is to become pregnant. As a woman approaches 30 years of age in some cases for instance, her hormone level begins  to decline and her fertility will also start to gradually decline. This happens at  a higher rate after 35 years of age. Added to the age factor is the aspect of menopause which is a stage every  woman must experience when the time comes.

    Nature often takes its natural course. Some women start experiencing premenopausal very early before the actual issue, while some get to the stage later.  Menopause marks the end of a woman natural ability to bear children. The age varies from 40 years to mid 50s. Other causes are hormonal imbalances, structural abnormalities, and unexplained infertility.

    As difficult as it may be to accept, the reality is that a woman having such medical report together with her husband will experience the same emotional trauma like couples who are waiting for a first child.  Comments like they should be grateful that they are blessed with a daughter and many are out there praying for a child,  in a situation like this, doesn’t take away their longing for another child.

    For a woman to suggest that her husband should marry a second wife because of her situation speaks volume and must not be taken for granted. May be she couldn’t  take the internal/ external pressures that come with it any more.  It could also be that she has resigned  herself to fate or she could feel that, that  could make her husband happy. This happens mostly if the husband  is always talking about the issue and how he wishes they could have more children.

    The pain and frustration will simply overwhelm her sense of reasoning. She might be experiencing emotional isolation; the feeling of being in it  alone since she is the one with the problem.  The feeling of blame and guilt will set in and if not handled properly, can lead to anger, jealousy and resentment not to forget low self esteem that comes with the feeling of not being good enough.

    This can take a serious toll on the marriage. Your type of marriage is a importance here. For example, if it is a Christian marriage the thought of a second wife is not acceptable at all because on your wedding day you vowed to remain loyal and faithful to each other still death puts you apart. Taking a second wife under in this circumstance can be a huge challenge. It is only in few situations that you would have two women living amicable.  No woman who is very intimate with her husband in a good relationship will want to share him  with another woman no matter the situation. Although,  some might see it as not being fair but what if the situation was the other way round? In life, no matter how tough a situation is,  we should learn to always picture ourselves  in the other person’s position before we pass judgment.  To be continued

    Take care of yourself and each other.

     

    Harriet Ogbobine is a counselor and a motivational speaker. Send your questions and suggestions to her on her blog; www.liwh.com.ng or bineharriet@gmail.com text message only 08054682598. You can also follow her on twitter @bineharrietj instagram harrietogbobine

  • A second act for judiciary

    It goes without saying that the judiciary is central to the success of the anti-corruption war. To win the war, the judiciary must ensure that corruption cases are speedily disposed and justice dispensed without fear or favour, affection or ill-will. But many believe that the judiciary does not appreciate the enormity of the problem at hand. The judiciary, they claim, does not see the war as one that it should join the larger society in waging.

    Those who talk like this may have a point because of certain developments in the not too distant past. Then the judiciary seemed to have subtly backed those accused of corruption with the way some judges handled the cases before them. They gave judgement which many never believed could emanate from the Bench. The public wondered if it was not the same judiciary that did not bat an eyelid before sentencing small time criminals, such as,  pickpockets and pepper thieves to long term imprisonment that was treating those who stole the nation blind with kid gloves.

    For instance, former Delta State Governor James Ibori was cleared of the charge against him on technical ground by a judge, who held that he should have been tried in Asaba, the capital, and not in Kaduna, where he was docked. His Lordship forgot that corruption, unlike courts, cares less about jurisdiction. Corruption does not also have any shade of colour. What is corruption in Asaba is also corruption in Lagos or any other part of the country for that matter. To throw out a corruption case on the ground of jurisdiction is unfair to Nigerians whose commonwealth many of our leaders have pillaged over the years.

    If our judges are ready to close their eyes to corruption on the ground of jurisdiction, their British counterparts are not ready to do so. They  taught us a big lesson   by sending the same Ibori to jail for the same offence, thereby turning us into a laughing stock in the comity of nations. From also the judiciary, former Governor Lucky Igbinedion walked away with a slap on the wrist for running Edo State like his family empire. He was fined N3 million after being found guilty of corrupt enrichment. The money involved ran into billions of naira. And without breaking a sweat, he dipped his hand into his back pocket and whipped out the fine. Just like that!

    Is that how to fight corruption? Many Nigerians strongly believe that is not how to prosecute the war. They are calling for a proactive judiciary that will treat such cases with the diligence and promptness they deserve. Judges believe they are not to blame for the tardiness in handling corruption cases, claiming that they are only interpreting the law as it is in the statute. But do we have two sets of law – one for the low and another for the mighty? Or a uniform law, which does not recognise status like the scale of justice, which is a blindfolded damsel, wielding a sword? The scale of justice portrays that justice is blind; that it does not know class, but will only do what is just and right, no matter whose ox is gored.

    Many of our judges have not upheld the scale of justice, hence the public clamour for a more vibrant and activist judiciary, which will not compromise under any circumstance. A judiciary that will look corruption in the face and call it by its name and not dress it up in fanciful words or accuse the police and the prosecution of not doing their jobs well before coming to court. In many instances, it was found that some judges hide under such false accusations to throw out cases which otherwise should have gone into trial and convictions secured by the prosecution.

    Corruption will never keep quiet. It will, as Nobel laureate Prof Wole Soyinka said, fight back. And the corrupt will fight with all they have in order to keep all they have stolen. It is for the judiciary to ensure that the corrupt do not enjoy their ill-gotten wealth after leaving office. The place of the court in the anti-graft crusade cannot be wished away as the Nigerian Head of Information Centre of the Inter-Governmental Action Group against Money Laundering in West Africa (GIABA), Mr Timothy Melaye, observed in an interview in this paper on Monday: ‘’If you asked me to return one naira and I returned one naira, there is no court that has said I committed a crime; so it is probable discussion between private or public people. What I would say would be of interest is effective prosecution and securing conviction based on court judgements, then we can now say fine this is a case established by a court’’.

    As we all know, it is only the courts that can convict for any offence. If it were otherwise, there would be less noise today over the judiciary’s handling of corruption cases. President Muhammadu Buhari is so worried that the judiciary is not giving his administration the needed support in fighting corruption that he took his case to the global arena last Sunday during his visit to Addis Ababa for the African Union (AU) Summit. At a town hall meeting with Nigerians living in Ethiopia, the president said: ‘’On the fight against corruption vis-a-vis the judiciary, Nigerians will be right to say that is my main headache for now’’.

    The president was only expressing the popular feeling about the judiciary’s role in the anti-corruption campaign.  But the judiciary may not agree with this popular sentiment, which may be why Chief Justice Mahmud Mohammed on Tuesday in Abuja posited that the three arms of government must come together to fight corruption and related crimes. ‘’Stakeholders in the justice sector’’, he said, ‘’must work in tandem towards a common objective as a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. I believe that if we work in harmony and in sincerity of purpose towards concrete outcomes, then, the efforts that we make will doubtless create a butterfly effect of positive change that is sorely required in the justice sector’’.

    That may be true, but the judiciary remains central to the anti-graft campaign’s success. And it can only discharge this duty honorably if it remains above board in the handling of corruption cases. So far, the people believe it has not lived up to expectation. It is not too late for the judiciary to redeem its image in the next phase of the anti-graft war.

  • ‘Lull in economy ‘ll end second quarter 2016’

    The Managing Director, Nesbet Consulting, a Lagos-based firm of financial and management consultants, Dr. Alaba Olusemore, has projected that current lull in the economy may end by second quarter of next year.

    Olusemore who is a fellow, Chartered Institute of Bankers of Nigeria (CIBN), said Nigerians, may not breathe a sigh of relief until the second quarter of next year when would-be-ministers currently undergoing screening by the National Assembly would have settled down for business after being assigned portfolios.

    According to him, the ministers are not likely to get their arts together and provide policy direction for the economy anytime this year, even after their confirmation and swearing-in, adding that this year only has less than three months to end. “We may not see any major improvement in the economy before the end of this year. The second quarter of 2016 is more to it,” Olusemore projected.

    He however said between now and second quarter of next year, the economy would hopefully start taking shape, adding that there is need for President Muhammadu Buhari to aggressively pursue policies that will end Nigeria’s over-dependence on proceeds from oil.

    “The monolithic nature of the economy is unsustainable. We must immediately begin to initiate and sustain policies directed at economic diversification,” he said, stressing that there has to be a strategic refocusing on the manufacturing and agriculture sectors which have the potential to create jobs.

    He also identified Small and Medium Enterprises (SMEs) as another area with lots of promises of turning around the fortunes of the economy.

    “Government must encourage SMEs to succeed. SME operators should be supported; they must have access to funds and services of consultants and mentors. Consultants should assist them develop bankable business plans and proposals,” he said.