Tag: Sexually

  • Confession Of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    Confession Of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    My name is Chioma, a Lagos housewife who has been through a lot. I have been married for 7 years and nursing a pain which has made my marriage turned sour.

    I and my husband had it going good but it was worse after we welcomed our first child.

    Dave as he was called by me lost his job then and would not want me to work. He always says his obligation is to meet the needs of his family. I was a full time housewife and gave our only child all the attention and affection needed.

    The quest for a job took its toll on my husband, he will set out early in the morning but to return late at night. We weren’t rich, but we were living on the saved funds after the loss of his job. This had a negative effect because we ate deep into it.

    A year gone by with no job yet, Dave began his sojourn into a business of his. The funds left was utilized, he gave all to make it work.

    Dave was determined and enthusiastic about the business, but the home-front suffered for it. Gradually, he wasn’t that concerned about me, but his new found love “his business”. He had little or no time for our baby too.

    Our sexual life was almost heading for the rocks and I was not pleased when he is done with his action on the bed. His performance was below par.

    He always cited excuses for his below par performance, from tiredness, stress and lots more. I wept bitterly because I had been sex starved. Dave, whenever he is set for the race couldn’t but spill even before five minutes. We had a talk about this and he tried several means, but all to no avail…no solution in sight.

    Months rolled by, with years, counting…his condition was still worrisome. I had no choice but to accept my fate.

    However, Dave was making a headway in his business and I wasn’t a priority to him anymore. Staring at my photo album, I was with smiles, but deep within was tormented.

    In my quest for a solution to Dave’s predicament, I had to visit a childhood friend known as Ireti at her home. I could confide in her, she got married a few years before us. She and her husband were having lunch when I arrived. After the meal, we had a ladies talk in which I shared the issue being faced in my home.

    She revealed a secret to me which left me speechless. I appreciated her kind gesture and quickly rushed home.  Read Testimonials Of Other Men Here

    Days later, on an evening I decided to share the secret with Dave with detailed explanation. He held me close and was full of joy. He applied the secret that evening. The same night, we made love and his performance did improve because I enjoyed it… You too can have a look at it

    Wow!!! On the fourth day of utilizing the secret, we have several sex routines.

    I was short of words, feels like he had a magic touch because his performance was commendable. With different sex styles utilized, he was the grand commander and was in control.

    Our sexual life has been re-positioned and I had a relief. Our marriage has indeed turned a new phase.

    Will you like to discover Dave’s Secret of Long Lasting Performances? This has saved my marriage.

    You need to hear from this expert himself, whom i found that has the same secret on how he got cured finally without any side effect, plus his own special story on how he became an expert in this field http://wellness.comparinguide.com/info2/

     

  • Cleric charged for sexually assaulting daughter

    The police have accused a Muslim cleric, Alfa Ishaq Gbadegesin, of sexually assaulting his teenage daughter (name withheld).

    The police alleged that Gbadegesin, 43, inserted his fingers in his 15-year-old daughter’s private part and then compelled her to massage his genitals.

    The Nation learnt that a counselor at the victim’s school got wind of the incident after she told her mates. The school later reported the matter to the police.

    Gbadegesin, of No. 8, Humuani Street, Somolu, Lagos was arrested by operatives of Central Police Station, Adeniji Adele, Lagos and arraigned on Tuesday before Mrs A. O. Awogboro of an Igbosere Magistrates’ Court, Lagos.

    He is standing trial on a two-count charge bordering on sexual assault.

    Prosecuting Sergeant Innocent Odugbo told the court that the defendant committed the alleged offences at about 4:00 pm on November 7, at his residence.

    He said: “The defendant sexually assaulted his 15-year-old daughter by putting his finger in her private part. He also asked her to rub his penis.”

    Odugbo added the offences contravened Sections 136 and 261 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011.

    Gbadegesin pleaded not guilty to the charge.

    Magistrate Awogboro granted him N100,000 bail with two sureties in the like sum, one of whom must be a blood relation.

    The case was adjourned till December 14.

  • Confession Of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    Confession Of A Frustrated Lagos Based Housewife – “I Did This Since He Could Not Sexually Satisfy Me”

    My name is Chioma, a Lagos housewife who has been through a lot. I have been married for 7 years and nursing a pain which has made my marriage turned sour.
    I and my husband had it going good but it was worse after we welcomed our first child.
    Dave as he was called by me lost his job then and would not want me to work. He always says his obligation is to meet the needs of his family. I was a full time housewife and gave our only child all the attention and affection needed.
    The quest for a job took its toll on my husband, he will set out early in the morning but to return late at night. We weren’t rich but we were living on the saved funds after the loss of his job. This had a negative effect because we ate deep into it.
    A year gone by with no job yet, Dave began his sojourn into a business of his. The funds left was utilized, he gave all to make it work.
    Dave was determined and enthusiastic about the business but the home-front suffered for it. Gradually, he wasn’t that concerned about me but his new found love “his business”. He had little or no time for our baby too.
    Our sexual life was almost heading for the rocks and I was not pleased when he is done with his action on bed. His performance was below par.
    He always cited excuses for his below par performance, from tiredness, stress and lots more. I wept bitterly because I had been sex starved. Dave, whenever he sets for the race couldn’t but spill even before five minutes. We had a talk about this and he tried several means but all to no avail…no solution at sight.
    Months rolled by, with years counting…his condition was still worrisome. I had no choice but to accept my fate.
    However, Dave was making a headway in his business and I wasn’t a priority to him anymore. Staring at my photo album, I was with smiles but deep within was tormented.
    In my quest for a solution to Dave’s predicament, I had to visit a childhood friend known as Ireti at her home. I could confide in her, she did got married few years before ours. She and her husband were having lunch when I arrived. After the meal, we had a ladies talk in which I shared the issue been faced in my home.
    She revealed a secret to me which left me speechless. I appreciated her kind gesture and quickly rushed home. Read Testimonials Of Other Men
    Days later, on an evening I decided to share the secret with Dave with detailed explanation. He held me close and was full of joy. He applied the secret that evening. The same night, we made love and his performance did improved because I enjoyed it… https://goo.gl/OkwbF4
    Wow!!! On the fourth day of utilizing the secret, we has several sex routines.
    I was short of words, feels like he had a magic touch because his performance was commendable. With different sex styles utilized, he was the grand commander and was in control. https://goo.gl/OkwbF4
    Our sexual life has been re-positioned and I had a relief. Our marriage has indeed turned a new phase.
    Will you like to discover Dave’s Secret of Long Lasting Performances? This has saved my marriage. https://goo.gl/OkwbF4
    You need to hear from this expert himself whom i found that has the same secret on how he got cured finally without any side effect, plus his own special story on how he became an expert in this field https://goo.gl/OkwbF4

  • Why Many Nigerian Men Can’t Go More Than One Round During Sex – Expert Reveals

    Why Many Nigerian Men Can’t Go More Than One Round During Sex – Expert Reveals

    There is a BIG problem that is facing many Nigerian men who are in a serious or committed relationship today.

    And that problem is their inability to go more than one round of sex in bed with their partner or spouse.

    To give you an idea of what I mean, I want you to read this comment left by a man on a Nigerian men’s blog recently:

    akin

    You can tell from this comment above that this man is unable to satisfy his wife because he cannot go more than one round of love making.

    Unfortunately, research suggest that 6 out of 10 Nigerian men are suffering from this same sexual problem.

    And this problem is affecting so many relationships and so many marriages as we speak.

    There are many reasons why a lot of men are unable to go more than one round in bed, but the No.1 undeniable reason why a lot of men are unable to go more than one round is because of…

    A Loss Of Natural Male Sexual Energy!

    This loss of male sexual energy is also one of the reasons why a lot of men have the following issues:

    1. Weak Erection

    That is when your penis gets very soft during penetration and you are unable to achieve rock hard erection during love making

    1. Premature Ejaculation

    That is when you are unable to handle the pleasure that you experience during sex and you are unable to last more than 1 – 2 minutes and you ejaculate too quickly.

    1. Low Libido

    That is when your sex drive is VERY low and your urge to have sex with your woman is ZERO despite how attractive she is.

    1. Lack of Sexual Knowledge

    That is when you don’t know exactly what to do to turn your woman on, so that she will become responsive to your needs to make you turned on and gain erection to satisfy her.

    These 4 reasons is why a lot of men get the type of unhappy wife reaction in the picture below in bed during love making with their woman:

    unhappy-woman

    If you are a man who cannot go more than one round and you are suffering from any of the above conditions, there are three things you must know to get rid of this problem:

    Number One

    It takes Men 2-5 Minutes To Orgasm.
    It Takes Women 5 Times Longer (20 – 30 minutes) to explode into a wave of pleasure

    According to a European study of 9,500 married women, 85 percent of women say that they NEVER achieve an orgasm during sex.

    That means, if you are unable to give your woman a deep satisfying round of sex, she will be left unsatisfied.

    To give you an insight into how important this is for women, I want to see the comment screenshot below from a real woman online on Stella Dimokokorkus’s blog:

    her-hubby-sucks-in-bed

    Unfortunately, a lot of men are like this. Once they ejaculate, they lose interest in the sex and sleep off, leaving their woman to starve sexually.

    Number TWO:

    If You Do Not Perform Your Bedroom Duties And Satisfy Your Wife, Someone Else Will Do It For You.

    The woman is like you. She is human and have feelings. If she is not satisfied, she will be sexually starved and sexual starvation leads to cheating.

    You may not notice, but a prevalent situation in marriages today is infidelity among couples.

    For most women, the MAJOR reason why they cheat is because of Sexual frustration.

    I want you to carefully read this shocking confession from a married Nigerian woman in the comment screenshot below:

    cheatingwoman

    This woman is cheating on her husband because he is not performing his bedroom duties.

    Number THREE:

    If She Is Not Enjoying It, She Probably
    Won’t Really Tell YOU

    She won’t tell you because she doesn’t want to hurt your ego.

    The society we live in has placed a taboo on the “S” subject, especially for married women.

    Many of them now result to suffering in silence.

    The bold ones on the other hand are secretly talking about these issues behind their husbands  in the comment sections of gossip blogs likeLinda Ikeji Blog, Bella Naija and Stella DimokoKorkus Blog.

    Let me prove this by showing you a comments dropped on these blogs below:

    starved-wife

    My point is this…

    Your woman may be secretly talking about your poor performance in bed without you knowing it.

    If you are a one minute man and you cant seem to “wake it up” again irrespective of what your woman does to your manhood in bed, today is the day you must do something about it.

    I use to have this problem myself, but I was able to banish my weak erection and low sexual energy by using a food supplement that boosted my male energy. Click here to get it: https://goo.gl/wZCewM

    Now, let me ask you this important question…

    Do You FEEL Bad About Your Sexual Performance
    And Want To Do Something About It?

    For you to be able to go from being a 1-minute man to lasting longer and going for more than one round of sex, here’s what you need to do:

    Number 1: You must Overcome PREMATURE EJACULATION

    You need to know how to stay longer inside her when you are making love. If you do not do this, you will leave her very unsatisfied.

    Luckily, I found a safe, natural supplement solution to this and I use this personally myself and it has helped me go from being a 1-minute man to lasting 40 minutes and having multiple rounds of sex with my madam.

    If you want this natural supplement for yourself to cure premature ejaculation, tell me where to send you the details by clicking here

    Number 2: You Need to Increase Your Energy And Stamina

    Most men undergo a lot of stress as a result of their jobs, family issues and life generally.

    There are exercises and specific foods you need to eat that will increase your energy and boost your stamina. Click here to get these foods ==> https://goo.gl/wZCewM

    Number 3: You need To Boost Your Manhood

    You need to know exactly what to do to boost the fullness of your manhood inside her and make her feel you deep inside.

    And you can boost your manhood by getting this natural food supplements here ==> https://goo.gl/wZCewM

    Number 4: You Need To Know Her Pleasure Zones

    A woman has about 20 of these pleasure zones on her body and you need to know where they are and exactly how to touch and STIMULATE it to take her to pleasure heaven.

    Click here to sign up and I’ll send you a list of those 20 pleasure zones => https://goo.gl/wZCewM

    If you are a man, and you struggle from premature ejaculation, weak erection, poor sex life and you get a bad response from your spouse during love making…

    And you want to do something about it today…

    Click here to sign up right away to get a proven solution to last longer, and get stronger erection that will help you go more than one round.

    Not only that, this solution will also help you give your woman a deeply satisfying sex that will make her love and respect you.

    Click this link and sign up for it => https://goo.gl/wZCewM

    I hope you enjoyed today’s article.

    Thanks for reading.

  • The Number 1 Reason Why Women Cheat – A Must Read For All Nigerian Men

    The Number 1 Reason Why Women Cheat – A Must Read For All Nigerian Men

    If you are a man and you have a wife or you are in a serious relationship, then I want you to invest the next 5-10 minutes of your time to read this article right now.

    And here’s why…

    According to a study conducted by condom manufacturer Durex in which 29,000 people in 36 countries were interviewed, Nigerian Women were considered to be the most unfaithful in the world!

    As a Nigerian man, you might dismiss this survey study as untrue because we are a religious country with lots of morals.

    However, Durex may not be far from the truth actually.

    In a recent interview with The Nation Newspaper, A a Lagos based DNA expert, Mr Ayodele Adeniyi gave a shocking statistics that…

    “3 Out Of 10 Nigerian Men Are Not Biological Fathers Of Their Children”

    It means that, a lot of Nigerian women are now having extra marital affairs and cheating on their partners and spouses.

    Not only that, women are better at hiding their infidelity and they are more likely to lie about it and less likely to get caught.

    This should concern you, especially if you are married or in a strong relationship with your spouse right now.

    What this means is that…

    It is possible for your woman to engage in infidelity and cheat on you if care is not taken due to some reasons.

    So, What Could Make Your Woman Cheat On You Under Your Nose Without You Finding Out?

    There are various reasons why a woman will cheat on her man such as…

    1. Being in a distant relationship with their partner
    2. Lack of Money to make the relationship better
    3. Lack Of Excitement or emotional connection
    4. Revenge on the mans infidelity
    5. Boredom and peer pressure etc

    But there is one other major #1 reason why women cheat…

    And even though it’s very obvious, most Nigerian Men don’t know it.

    And strange enough, many women are very secretive and won’t tell you the REAL truth, because they don’t want to hurt you.

    So What Exactly Is The #1 Reason Why Women Cheat?

    The #1 unquestionable reason why so many women cheat on their partner is….

    They Are Not Well Satisfied In Bed!

    To give you an understand of what I mean, I want you to read these comment left by a woman on Linda Ikeji’s Gossip Blog Recently:

    annonymous

    And here’s another one by a woman who is not getting satisfaction from her husband at home….

    annonymous1

    If you are a man, and you are unable to give your woman a deeply intense and soul piercing reaction in bed, like the picture below…

    annonymous2

    Then your woman will Be unsatisfied, and she will long for pleasure because she is not getting it from you.

    If you do not satisfy your woman in bed because of a poor sex life, you might force her to cheating and someone else will do the work for you without your knowledge.

    if you are unable to satisfy your woman, here’s the major causes of why you are unable to…

    Number 1: Very Weak Or Soft Erection

    If your erection suddenly get weak after few thrust, and you are unable to get erection strong enough to penetrate deep inside her.

    Number 2: Low Energy And Low Stamina

    That is when you find yourself getting extremely tired like a very old man halfway into love making with your woman and you are unable to continue.

    Number 3: Decrease In Libido Or Sexual Desire

    That is when your sex drive is VERY low and your urge to have sex with your woman is ZERO despite how attractive she is.

    Number 4: You are a 1-Minute Man And Can’t Go More Than 1 Round

    That is when you ejaculate too quickly within 1-5 minutes and you are unable to “wake up” your manhood to continue love making.

    Number 5: Lack The Knowledge Of How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed

    That is when you don’t even know how to “finger her brain” or have the skills to make her enjoy her time with you in bed.

    Number 6: Have A Small Penis That Can’t Do The Job

    That is when your penis is very small and makes women run away from you and even the one that stays can’t “feel” you inside her at all.

    If you are a man and you are reading this article right now…

    And you suffer from 1 or more of these problems I listed above, then today is the day you should do something about it.

    I am going to walk you through how to fix them just like I did when I had these same problem myself.

    The 4 Powerful Things You Have To Do If You Want To be Able To Give Your Woman BODY MELTING SEX That Will Get Her To Love You And Have Deep Respect For You

    Number 1: You must Overcome PREMATURE EJACULATION

    You need to know how to stay longer inside her when you are making love. If you do not do this, you will leave her very unsatisfied.

    Luckily, I found a safe, natural supplement solution to this and I use this personally myself and it has helped me go from being a 1-minute man to lasting 40 minutes in bed with my madam.

    If you want this natural supplement for yourself to cure premature ejaculation, tell me where to send you the details by clicking here

    Number 2: You Need to Increase Your Energy And Stamina

    Most men undergo a lot of stress as a result of their jobs, family issues and life generally.

    There are exercises and specific foods you need to eat that will increase your energy and boost your stamina. Click here to get these foods ==> https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    Number 3: You need To Boost Your Manhood

    You need to know exactly what to do to boost the fullness of your manhood inside her and make her feel you deep inside.

    And you can boost your manhood by getting this natural therapy here ==> https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    Number 4: You Need To Know Her Pleasure Zones

    A woman has about 20 of these pleasure zones on her body and you need to know where they are and exactly how to touch touch and STIMULATE it to take her to pleasure heaven.

    Click here to sign up and I’ll send you a list of those 20 pleasure zones => https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    If you are a man, and you struggle from premature ejaculation, weak erection, poor sex life and you get a bad response from your spouse during love making…

    And you want to do something about it today…

    Click here to sign up right away to get a proven solution to last longer, and get stronger erection that will help you give your woman a deeply satisfying sex that will make her love and respect you => https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    I hope you’ve learnt something in today’s article.

    Thanks for reading.

  • The Number 1 Reason Why Women Cheat – A Must Read For All Nigerian Men

    The Number 1 Reason Why Women Cheat – A Must Read For All Nigerian Men

    If you are a man and you have a wife or you are in a serious relationship, then I want you to invest the next 5-10 minutes of your time to read this article right now.

    And here’s why…

    According to a study conducted by condom manufacturer Durex in which 29,000 people in 36 countries were interviewed, Nigerian Women were considered to be the most unfaithful in the world!

    As a Nigerian man, you might dismiss this survey study as untrue because we are a religious country with lots of morals.

    However, Durex may not be far from the truth actually.

    In a recent interview with The Nation Newspaper, A a Lagos based DNA expert, Mr Ayodele Adeniyi gave a shocking statistics that…

    “3 Out Of 10 Nigerian Men Are Not Biological Fathers Of Their Children”

    It means that, a lot of Nigerian women are now having extra marital affairs and cheating on their partners and spouses.

    Not only that, women are better at hiding their infidelity and they are more likely to lie about it and less likely to get caught.

    This should concern you, especially if you are married or in a strong relationship with your spouse right now.

    What this means is that…

    It is possible for your woman to engage in infidelity and cheat on you if care is not taken due to some reasons.

    So, What Could Make Your Woman Cheat On You Under Your Nose Without You Finding Out?

    There are various reasons why a woman will cheat on her man such as…

    1. Being in a distant relationship with their partner
    2. Lack of Money to make the relationship better
    3. Lack Of Excitement or emotional connection
    4. Revenge on the mans infidelity
    5. Boredom and peer pressure etc

    But there is one other major #1 reason why women cheat…

    And even though it’s very obvious, most Nigerian Men don’t know it.

    And strange enough, many women are very secretive and won’t tell you the REAL truth, because they don’t want to hurt you.

    So What Exactly Is The #1 Reason Why Women Cheat?

    The #1 unquestionable reason why so many women cheat on their partner is….

    They Are Not Well Satisfied In Bed!

    To give you an understand of what I mean, I want you to read these comment left by a woman on Linda Ikeji’s Gossip Blog Recently:

    annonymous

     

    And here’s another one by a woman who is not getting satisfaction from her husband at home….

     

    annonymous1

     

    If you are a man, and you are unable to give your woman a deeply intense and soul piercing reaction in bed, like the picture below…

     

    annonymous2

     

    Then your woman will Be unsatisfied, and she will long for pleasure because she is not getting it from you.

    If you do not satisfy your woman in bed because of a poor sex life, you might force her to cheating and someone else will do the work for you without your knowledge.

    if you are unable to satisfy your woman, here’s the major causes of why you are unable to…

    Number 1: Very Weak Or Soft Erection

    If your erection suddenly get weak after few thrust, and you are unable to get erection strong enough to penetrate deep inside her.

    Number 2: Low Energy And Low Stamina

    That is when you find yourself getting extremely tired like a very old man halfway into love making with your woman and you are unable to continue.

    Number 3: Decrease In Libido Or Sexual Desire

    That is when your sex drive is VERY low and your urge to have sex with your woman is ZERO despite how attractive she is.

    Number 4: You are a 1-Minute Man And Can’t Go More Than 1 Round

    That is when you ejaculate too quickly within 1-5 minutes and you are unable to “wake up” your manhood to continue love making.

    Number 5: Lack The Knowledge Of How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed

    That is when you don’t even know how to “finger her brain” or have the skills to make her enjoy her time with you in bed.

    Number 6: Have A Small Penis That Can’t Do The Job

    That is when your penis is very small and makes women run away from you and even the one that stays can’t “feel” you inside her at all.

    If you are a man and you are reading this article right now…

    And you suffer from 1 or more of these problems I listed above, then today is the day you should do something about it.

    I am going to walk you through how to fix them just like I did when I had these same problem myself.

    The 4 Powerful Things You Have To Do If You Want To be Able To Give Your Woman BODY MELTING SEX That Will Get Her To Love You And Have Deep Respect For You

    Number 1: You must Overcome PREMATURE EJACULATION

    You need to know how to stay longer inside her when you are making love. If you do not do this, you will leave her very unsatisfied.

    Luckily, I found a safe, natural supplement solution to this and I use this personally myself and it has helped me go from being a 1-minute man to lasting 40 minutes in bed with my madam.

    If you want this natural supplement for yourself to cure premature ejaculation, tell me where to send you the details by clicking here

    Number 2: You Need to Increase Your Energy And Stamina

     

    Most men undergo a lot of stress as a result of their jobs, family issues and life generally.

    There are exercises and specific foods you need to eat that will increase your energy and boost your stamina. Click here to get these foods ==> https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    Number 3: You need To Boost Your Manhood

     

    You need to know exactly what to do to boost the fullness of your manhood inside her and make her feel you deep inside.

    And you can boost your manhood by getting this natural therapy here ==> https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    Number 4: You Need To Know Her Pleasure Zones

     

    A woman has about 20 of these pleasure zones on her body and you need to know where they are and exactly how to touch touch and STIMULATE it to take her to pleasure heaven.

    Click here to sign up and I’ll send you a list of those 20 pleasure zones => https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    If you are a man, and you struggle from premature ejaculation, weak erection, poor sex life and you get a bad response from your spouse during love making…

    And you want to do something about it today…

    Click here to sign up right away to get a proven solution to last longer, and get stronger erection that will help you give your woman a deeply satisfying sex that will make her love and respect you => https://goo.gl/T7I12r

    I hope you’ve learnt something in today’s article.

    Thanks for reading.

  • Disorders of sex: sexually transmitted diseases (Stds)

    Properly conducted, sex is an enjoyable exercise.

    Sex is like everything around us: It too is guided by some natural and man-made rules. When these rules are flouted or when an individual is abused or his/her sex organs are somewhat tampered with or the body is mishandled, then sex becomes a problem and an infection, an unwanted dangerous outside agent may be introduced into the person’s system. It’s not the intention of the author of this book to write on every sexually transmitted disease.

    A general guidance will be enough. Any disease agent can become sexually transmitted so long as it affects the genitals or reproductive organs or the disease affects the entry point used for “sex”.

    The following are the common sexual disorders or agents of sexual diseases: Bacteria: • Gonorrhoea • Chlamydia trachomatis • Syphilis • Lyphogranuloma Inguinale 5. Chancroid •Less well recognised but can be considered as sexually transmitted is a bacteria called Staph. Aureus. Viruses • Human Immune-Deficiency Virus (HIV) • Herpes simplex: Type I and Type II • Human Papilloma Virus • Hepatitis B and C Parasites Trichomonas vaginalis (common in women but can be found in men too).

    Fungus(Candidiasis) Otherwise called yeasts, is a common infection of the warm and moist areas of human body especially vagina. It may also affect other parts of the body such as mouth, gut, anus, and armpit. Untreated, it may be sexually transmitted to the sexual partner. Precautions The probability of getting any of these is low provided: a. You stick to one sexual partner b. You are honest with your partner c.

    You put your sexual organs into the partner’s correct and biologically appropriate body entry point for which it was designed. d. You use barrier method such as condom when engaging in sex with non-regular sexual partner. Although herpes type I may be contacted from kissing as are above hepatitis viruses. Recent Developments In recent years, there has been a spate of developments in what would otherwise not amount to sexually transmitted diseases.

    In the last two years of so, Ebola ravaged West African countries of Liberia, Sierra Leone and Guinea. In recent times, there is a solid scientific proof that 9 months after an individual has recovered from Ebola infection, he or she can transmit the infection to his or her spouse. We are still not sure if the duration of carrying the virus can be longer than 9 months. Thus, Ebola is effectively a sexually transmissible disease.

    The lesson is many folds: When you are in Ebola-infected country, take caution in sexual engagement. Use protective methods such as condom or consider complete abstinence. Similarly, in the last one year, an old viral disease carried by mosquito has emerged. It’s called Zika virus.

     

  • Teachers: we’re also sexually  harassed

    Teachers: we’re also sexually harassed

    Complaints about sexual harassment seem to come mostly from female students. They get all the sympathy and attention.  However, lecturers say they are being sexually harassed, too, by their students.  They are worried that their case is not given as much attention as their students.  Yet, they argue that they are at a greater risk because theirs is more difficult to prove.

    Dr. Yau-Muhammed Damagun, a lecturer in the Accounting Department of the University of Abuja, said it was unfair not to recognise the stress lecturers pass through because of sexual harassment by their students.  He noted that lecturers also need help to cope in such situations.

    He said: “Lecturers also pass through sexual harassment from students but that of lecturer-to-students is always in the news.

    “In some cases, the incidents were very upsetting for the academics and they did not know where to turn. Some felt there was a perception that because they were academics, they were expected to cope with anything that was thrown at them.

    “I wondered whether senior academics have more ‘coping mechanisms’ than those who are junior; but some very senior academics have some quite horrifying stories.”

    Mr Alaezi Offia of the Department of Humanities, Abia State Polytechnic, said it was wrong to attribute sexual harassment to just one party, describing it as a two-way traffic.  However, he blamed students more for it than lecturers.

    “This issue is a two-way traffic which takes place on the sides of both the lecturers and the female students.  But it is more on the side of the female students who feel they have more to gain when they trade sex for marks than the other way round,” he said.

    The most common reason the lecturers interviewed said they got advances from the students was to rectify their poor performance in academic work.

    [ad id=”403656″] Prof Francis Angrey of the Department of Modern Languages and Translation Studies, University of Calabar, said poor grades make students vulnerable and ready to offer their bodies.

    “It is a terrible issue. I tell my students that those of them who run after lecturers to improve their grades do so because they are weak and it makes them vulnerable. I know some students on their own go to lecturers and offer one thing or the other, whether sex, for female students, or money. They just come to you and say ‘Please how did I perform?’ And from there they say they will give you anything you want so that you can change it for them. I advise them to go sit down and study. The time they spend doing other things and pursuing lecturers, if they sit down and read, they would have done several pages of their books,” he said.

    Apart from grades, Dr Gbenga Abimbola of the Department of Mass Communication, Adekunle Ajasin University Akungba-Akoko (AAUA), Ondo State, said students harass lecturers to settle scores, or even because of romantic attraction.

    “Female students who harass their male lecturers do it for different purposes, chief among which is to get academic favours through the back door. Such students are mentally weak and are not ready for any hard work but to seek cheap grades. Others do it because they are naturally attracted to their male lecturers. But those in this category are few. Some do it out of mischief in order to tarnish the reputation of their target victims.”

     

    Sexual harassment methods

    Sexual harassment against lecturers takes various modes.  While provocative dressing was identified by many lecturers as the most common method students use to attract their attention, it is now being used with a combination of many other tactics, including phone calls, amorous text messages, invitations to hotels, and unsolicited visits.

    Mr Oluwadamilola Fapetu, a lecturer in the Department of Public Administration, Rufus Giwa Polytechnic Owo (RUGIPO) in Ondo State, will quit bachelorhood soon, and he hopes the marriage will stave off ‘attacks’ from his female students.

    He has been invited by female students to hotels or hostels many times.

    “On many occasions, students have seduced me for marks but what I always do is to let them know that their bodies should not be used as a means of exchange.

    “I have been invited to hotels and even students’ houses to make me fall for them. But, by the special grace of God, I normally overcome such temptation,” he said.

    Mr John Galadima of the Mass Communication Department, University of Jos, has also got many invites from female students.

    He said: “Most female students just believe they can achieve anything with their body. I have experienced a lot of them who have difficulties in passing my course or attending classes.  All they do is they make sure they get your phone number and you will get strange calls and the caller will introduce herself as your student. The caller will be asking the description to where you live because they want to visit. When you refuse to welcome them to your house, they suggest you come to meet them in a hotel. Some will ask me to choose any location I want or will suggest an exclusive beer palour in town and so on.”

    Dr Paul Omale, a lecturer in the Department of Mass Communication, Benue State University (BSU), Makurdi, said the level of sexual harassment is usually higher after examinations.

    “I don’t know where they get my number, but shortly after any examinations I usually receive many phone calls requesting my attention,” Omale said.

    Until he became a victim, Mr Ayodele Alade of the Lagos State Polytechnic (LASPOTECH), Ikorodu, did not believe students could harass lecturers.

    “Most of the harassment come from students and not lecturers. When I was a student, my lecturer corrected a student who sat in front for opening her legs wide without her panties on.  I did not believe the lecturer then until it happened to me as a lecturer. A girl wearing no panties opened her legs wide in the class at the Isolo Campus,” he said.

    An Associate Professor of Political Science, Ekiti State University, Dr. Femi Omotoso, shared his three experiences of sexual harassment.

    He said: “The harassment on their part is just too much; they expose sensitive parts of their bodies. They write answers on their laps inside exam hall, and some of them even hide answers written in some pieces of paper inside their private parts and it is improper for a male invigilator to check their bodies.

    “Most of them will come around looking at you seductively, saying, ‘Oga, a n fo ju so, a n fara so‘ (Can’t you decode the message we are sending to you?) Some of them will say, ‘before I leave this university, I must have an affair with you’.

    [ad id=”403656″] “I have two outstanding experiences of such. One of them sent a text message to me, saying, ‘Oga, I love you.’ When I saw the text, I called back to know the sender and, lo and behold, she happened to be my student. She said she was having a feeling for me.

    “Another one said: ‘Oga, I know you are married but I wish to be your second wife.’ One of them, a married woman came to my office and jammed the door, saying ‘Oga, don’t you do faaji (enjoyment).’ On that day, I was shaking and jittery.

    “I had to apply wisdom to ease her out because if I didn’t and she shouted, I knew I would be in trouble.”

    A lecturer in a privately-owned higher institution in Ondo State (names withheld) said he has since overcome the shock of getting suggestive text messages from students.

    “In the school where I lecture, female students send me amorous text messages. The first day I received it, I was shocked that this could happen there; but when it became frequent, it did not matter to me again,” he said.

    But he was shocked when a student touched him.

    He said: “There was a day a female student, who missed a test I conducted, came to my office at about 6.30 pm, begging that I should assist her.  My policy was that any student who fails to appear for my test would not have an opportunity for a make-up test because I always tell them ahead of time.

    “When I told her that there was nothing I could do, she moved closer to me wrapped her hands around my shoulder and I shouted ‘What!’ I walked her out of my office that day because her action was very shocking.

    “In my school, many of the students are children of influential people and you need to be very careful so that you will not be at the receiving end of the episode, and you need to think about the interest of the proprietor who wants to make money by having as many students as possible.”

    A lecturer in the Department of Communication and Language Arts, University of Ibadan, Dr Bisi Olawuyi, said girls sexually assault lecturers when they believe they can get what they need.

    He recounted his experience with a girl begging for assistance over her poor results.

    “I am the co-ordinator of the Distance Learning programme in the department. The young girl came in and started begging me to help her over her poor performance. But I told her that I couldn’t help. She persisted, saying ‘I know you can help me.’ She went on her knees and burst into tears. Unfortunately, I can’t help students in such ways.

    “Anyway, students don’t harass lecturers if they don’t put themselves in position of power. I have always told them also that if they do what is needful, lecturers can’t harass them.”

     

    Avoiding the trap

    Though many lecturers interviewed said they had been harassed, none admitted to have fallen for the temptation.

    To overcome temptation, Fapetu said lecturers must be principled.

    “As a lecturer you must be a man of principle and stand on it to the letter, no matter the situation. I normally send out any student who dresses indecently to my class because those that dress in that manner are on a mission and that mission is to seduce their lecturers,” said the RUGIPO lecturer.

    Dr Abimbola also advised lecturers to set boundaries that would prevent them from falling a victim of sexual harassment from students.

    Abimbola did so when he taught in a higher institution in Benin.

    “I was living on campus and was much younger. This female student used to come to the office asking lots of questions but I had to stop her from disturbing me. Not relenting, she found her way to my residence one evening. I was in my room when my flat mate came to inform me that I had a guest. I came out and found she was the one. I only asked who she came to visit and she said it was me. I hurriedly reminded her about my privacy and banged my door on her. That was the end of her overtures to me.

    “Lecturers who are harassed should know it is a natural and common thing in any human setting. They should learn to set boundaries, both physical and emotional, to avoid a situation that will make it extremely difficult or inevitable to resist the test”.

    Omale of BSU said he has kept safe by refusing to meet with students outside his office and advises others to do same.

    “I insist that whatever discussion should be held in my office on campus.This way, I have been able to wade off those who want to harass me sexually for marks,” he said.

    On his part, Dr Omotoso said in order not to fall victim of sexual harassment, he speaks openly against it in the classroom; ensures he does not stay alone in his office and dismisses such students the moment they send him signals.

    “Some of the measures I take to tackle this menace include opening the door to my office and ensuring somebody is always with me while in the office. I also use some strategies to disengage them from office when they are unwilling to leave. If you are in Christ, you will always escape them and when you always speak against it in the class, they will respect you,” he said.

    Dr Canice Okoli of the Faculty of Education, UNILAG, said marking scripts promptly could help avoid attacks.

    “My advice to lecturers is that, as much as you can, do your job right. Mark their scripts and submit to the authorities so that even if they come, there is nothing you can do anymore. Even when the students have been told that, some of them would still come and beg as if you can perform magic.”

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    Consequences of yielding

    Lecturers who are not principled enough to resist sexual advances by students usually get embarrassed.

    Galadima of UNIJOS warned of the shame of exposure by the students when he said: “When you fall into their trap and they get the favour they are looking for from you, they will expose you before other students by being boastful of having influence over one lecturer or the other. I have never fallen into their trap, and I will never.  There is no two ways to passing my course; you have to read well. You will only get the mark and grade you deserve; and that applies to male and female students.”

    Angrey of UNICAL fingered greed as the principal factor that makes lecturers give in to sexual harassment, and said such people should be sent away.

    “It is a matter of greed for lecturers who succumb to such temptations. In the Faculty of Arts when I was Dean, I said if any lecturer is caught, he is going,” he said.

     

    Resolving sexual

    harassment on campus

    Dr Damagun is advocating a change in the way authorities handle sexual harassment issues so both parties can feel protected in the course of carrying out their legal obligations in the school environment.

    He suggested that managements of tertiary institutions should mount programmes to address the issue for both workers and students.

    He said universities should establish workshops for students to raise awareness of the problem and help prevent harassment, in addition to offering training that would help staff deal with – and stop – unacceptable behaviour when it arose.

    “Universities need to recognise that harassment by students is going on. We shouldn’t just be sweeping it under the carpet. Some of the lecturers do not want to say many of the happenings because many students threaten them. I have also passed and witnessed many which I do not want to mention. But I think urgent steps needs to be taken,” he said.

    Ray Njoku, who teaches in the Public Administration Department of Abia State Polytechnic, urged parents to raise their wards well so they do not offer sex to lecturers for marks.

    “It takes a decadent student from a decadent background to offer sex for marks and it also take a decadent lecturer from a decadent background to allow that because it takes two to tango. The parents should bring up their children in a godly manner so that the thought of offering sex for marks will not cross their minds. Students should be in school, buy their textbooks, study to write and pass their exams and stop moving from one club to the other which makes them ill-prepared to study for their exams. Because it is possible for them to read, write and pass their exams without debasing themselves,” he said.

  • Sexually transmitted diseases can be cured naturally

    Sexually transmitted diseases can be cured naturally

    Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are diseases transmitted through sexual or coital relations. In this age and time of our national life, there is still pervasive ignorance and or negligence as far as sexually related diseases are concerned, whereas, these diseases are a major cause of infertility among the populace. The question of reproduction is therefore predicated on the state of the individual’s related organs (male and female)

    STDS are transmitted through three broad channels:

    • Male and female relations
    • Male and male (homosexuals)
    • Female and female (lesbians)

    The so-called toilet infection being adduced, especially by females, rather  than seriously look into their sexual behaviour is not really tenable. It is, however, important for ladies to be conscious of the sanitary condition of toilet facilities, due to the very nature of the female reproductive organ.

     

    Types of STDs

    In this era of several treatment – resistant diseases, the clearly identified STDS are:

    • Gonorrohea
    • Herpes
    • Syphilis
    • HIV/AIDS – although AIDS could be contracted through other means than sex (like the sharing of needles by drug users)

     

    Signs/symptoms

    1. Burning sensation during mitch uration (urine) especially in males.
    2. Discharge of pus during mitchuration.
    3. Vaginal discharge accompanied by unpleasant odour.
    4. Haematouria (blood in urine)
    5. Painful blisters or wart around the genitals (male or female)
    6. Renal failure- most cases of kidney diseases are traceable to STDS, especially in advanced untreated cases.
    7. Infertility – damage to or blockade of the fallopian tubes and even the ovaries.
    8. Damage to the testosterone (male semen production unit) resulting in low sperm count (Algiosperma) or no sperm – (Azoosperma)
    9. Premature ejaculation (Erectile dysfunction)
    10. Impotence- weak or no erection

     

    Management/ treatment

    • Urine/blood analysis or test is required
    • Appropriate anti-biotic (orally or injectable-IM) must be administered by a qualified medical personnel.
    • Avoid indiscriminate sexual activities.
    • Surgery may be necessary as in urethral stricture.
    • HIV – Anti-retroviral regimen may be needed.
    • Natural health options are shapo root and aworosho.

    People should take note that both possess strong cathartic or purgative properties, hence they must be used in small doses at a time.

  • Every woman can be sexually harassed  –ONYEKA EMECHEBE

    Every woman can be sexually harassed –ONYEKA EMECHEBE

    As a child, Onyeka Emechebe, 27, the first runner-up of the Next Movie Star Africa Reloaded 2014 edition, knew she wanted to be an actor. By 2009, she delved fully into Nollywood as an actress and currently has starred in 15 movies and a TV series. In this interview with JOE AGBRO JR., Onyeka, an Economics graduate of Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka, reveals her perceptions of acting, love life, and other things.</strong></em>

    How did you get into acting and how many movies have you done so far?

    Acting for me has always been a passion. I’ve been acting since primary school, secondary school, though not professionally, but all those times, I used to love to act dramas on stage and everything. So, growing up, the passion was still in me. And whenever I watched stars like Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde, Genevieve, they inspired me to want to go professionally into it.

    While in school, my university, Nnamdi Azikiwe University, I decided to go professionally into it. And that’s how it all started professionally in 2009. Though I was in school, I wasn’t really constant in the industry. But since I finished in 2012, so far I have been constant. And so far, I have done about 15 movies and one TV series called ‘Middle-Men’.

    You participated in the last edition of the Next Movie Star. How was the experience of being in the House for 30 days?

    Well, I learnt a lot. The reality show discovers a lot of talents. In the house, I learnt team-work. I developed my acting skills because it’s all about acting. I developed my writing skills too. It was a wonderful experience. We had a lot of guests come in to inspire and motivate us. We had some classes, some rehearsals, and some training. It was really lovely.

    What did you not like about the experience?

    I love all experiences. There was nothing I did not like about it. And I came out first runner-up. It was just by God’s grace. I thank God for everything because the competition was really tough. We were all wonderful actors and actresses in the house but one had to win. We were 16 in the House.

    How did you get short-listed?

    I went for the audition and I was selected into the House. I had a Gold ticket straight into the House.

    About two years ago, there was a story that you might be dating Manny Lapussh, winner of the Hennessy Artistry MC competition. Was that the case?

    Ha… I know Manny. Manny is like a brother to me. He is a friend and brother. I have never dated him. I’m really surprised. No, no, no… Manny and I went to the same school, Nnamdi Azikiwe University and we were in the same talent group. So, we used to do a lot of on-stage dramas, jams, choreography, rap and all that. So, we were more like colleagues, friends. We were not dating at all. I know him babe. Him sef know my fiancé. Hahaha. It’s just a rumour.

    What attracted you to your fiancé?

    First of all, I like the fact that he encourages me and supports me in my career. All the while, the guys I have dated never wanted me to pursue my career in acting. You know, because of their mentality towards actresses. But my fiancé has always been there for me, encouraging me, supporting me in my acting career. He is like a bedrock, a backbone and that’s what really endeared him to me. And asides that, he is very loving, he is very caring. He loves me very much. And he thinks about me before himself, a very selfless young man. We’ve been together for a while and now, we’re engaged to get married soon.

    Now, there are complaints among actresses about sexual harassment. How has your experience been like?

    Well, sexual harassment is a thing that is not just in the movie industry. It’s everywhere. (Laughs). So, it’s not been easy for me, but we’re pushing. I wouldn’t say because of sexual harassment, I wouldn’t keep pushing and struggling to become what I want to be. Challenges would definitely come but we have to conquer our challenges by God’s grace. Sexual harassment has been there. They will keep being there. But one thing I know is that I would get to the top.

    Have you experienced it?

    Of course, I have. There is no beautiful actress who would say she hasn’t experienced it before; it’s a big lie. I have experienced it. And I keep experiencing it though we’re overcoming it. Just like every other man, when they see a girl that they really really like, dem go pursue am now. Na normal thing. But here in the industry, it is very challenging because some of them wouldn’t want to give you a job because you refused to have anything to do with them. So, it’s like denting their ego. But, we’re still pushing on.

    There is also another notion that it is the actresses without talents that always harass. Do you agree with that?

    No, I don’t agree. Even actresses with talents are harassed. So, it just depends on you knowing your worth. Anybody can be harassed; beautiful, ugly. So long as you’re a woman, you could be harassed.

    There is also much nudity in Nollywood these days. How far can you go to interpret a role?

    Well, I’ll try so hard to interpret it the way it is supposed to be. But going nude, I can’t do that, ever!

    And what can make you turn down a movie role?

    If there is so much nudity in the role, I can. But aside that, I can’t turn down a role. That’s what makes me an actress – to be able to do any kind of role.

    So, what’s the weirdest role you’ve played in your career?

    Oh, I played the role of Chikamso, a village local champion. (Laughs). She’s a kind of weird human being; a village girl who turns ‘R’ to ‘L’, like bread would become ‘blead’, ‘please’ to prease’ – that kind of thing. It was challenging for me because usually I don’t talk like that. But in that role, I had to interpret it very role. You know this Igbo accent now. So I had to turn every ‘R’ to ‘L’ and every ‘L’ to ‘R’. It’s very challenging to me but I liked it because it brought out another part of me that I didn’t know I could be. I love it very much and I can’t wait for the movie to be out.

    It’s also been said that some actors and actresses now have to pay to get some roles. Have you ever paid to get any role or would you pay?

    I don’t know if it’s for real. I’ve not experienced that. I’ve never paid to act in anybody’s movie and I will never do that. The reverse is meant to be the case. We’re supposed to be paid for a job well-done. And not the other way round. I have never experienced it, so I don’t know. All the jobs I’ve done, I’ve been duly paid

    Some up and coming actresses are now producing their own movies. For you, having starred in 15 movies, do you have plans of producing movies?

    Well, by God’s grace, of course. The dream of some actors or actresses is to have a movie produced by them, you know. To say, ‘okay, I produced this movie. I’m in charge of this.’ So, by God’s grace, why not? I’ll love to do that someday.

    Now, if you weren’t an actress, what would you have been?

    (Laughs)… I don’t know. Probably, I would have been working in a corporate world because I studied Economics. I’m an upper class graduate of Economics, Nnamdi Azikiwe University. So, if I wasn’t acting, I would have been working as an Economist or a banker or something. (Laughs)… I don’t know. I’m just saying.

    It’s difficult to be a celebrity without having one form of scandal or another. How prepared are you for such?

    Well, for me, I will definitely love to be a scandal-free actress. Inasmuch as it is not everything that they say in the media that is true but I would want to be a scandal-free actress. I don’t like scandals. I want to have a healthy relationship, a healthy marriage, void of scandals, void of any of those trash. But you know, as a big-time celebrity, you can’t quickly run away from rumours and all those things. But, let’s see how it goes. But scandals is no, no, for me. It’s bad publicity. I don’t like bad publicity.

    In five years’ time, where do you see yourself?

    In five years times, I would have been in so many movies. In five years’ time, I should have been married. I want to be a married actress; I want to be like Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde. She is my role model. I love the way she balances her career and her family. So in five years’ time, I want to be married and I want to produce my own movie. So, I should say that in five years’ time, I would be a producer of my movies. And endorsement deals I want. Who no like better thing? I should have like an endorsement deal or deals.