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Dear Reader,

This Week, I will be sharing with you some vital tips that will help you to live a glorious life as a single person. Some single persons find it difficult to fulfill their destinies because of these points I want to share with you today.

Dealing with Sin Problem

Many single persons have problem with sin in their lives. This makes it difficult for them to fulfill their destinies in a grand style. The sin problem has an answer. The Bible says: For sin shall not have dominion over you: for you are not under the law, but under grace (Romans 6:14). The price for sins has already been paid for by Jesus Christ.

Engaging your Will-Power

Will-power is a very strong determination to do something. The will is a God-given force able to determine your habits and choices. Also, your will is a force of deliverance and a force of liberty. You can stop that deadly habit of masturbation and fornication in your life by a will. It is a potent force in every mortal being. You can “will” to refuse defilement by sin. Legally, a will is a document that becomes operational, only after the death of the testator. You are dead in Christ (Colossians 3:3). Man is a free moral agent; he has the ability to make a will which is stronger than desire. Joseph exercised his will-power (Genesis 39:9). Daniel stood firm on the power of the will, not even a threat of death in the lion’s den could shake him (Daniel 1:8; 6:16-22).

Stop the thoughts

Until you stop the thoughts, you cannot stop the act. If you think filthy thoughts, you cannot but live a filthy life. It is impossible to think impure and expect to live pure. Isaiah 55:7 says: Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return to the Lord, and he will have mercy on him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. This Scripture means that until an individual forsakes evil thoughts, he invariably will have evil ways. But my joy is that you can cast down every imagination or thought that is unrighteous. You can rebuke those evil thoughts once you sense them coming. Not just only that, fill your inner-man with the right things. Stuff your mind with God’s Word and anointed materials. Then your actions also will be right.  Remember, “Garbage in, garbage out” and I say, “Word in, Word out!”  It is time to take control of your thoughts and be in charge!

Meditate on the Word

By the Word of God, you strip sin naked and send it away. Lay up the Word of God in your heart so you don’t sin against God. Psalm 119:11 says: Thy word have I hid in my heart, that I might not sin against thee. You destroy sin by firing the Word contacted by revelation at it. The Word is the sword of the spirit; you can use it as an offensive and defensive weapon.

The Blood of Jesus

The blood of Jesus purges and sanctifies us (Romans 5:8-10, Hebrews 9:12-14). When you are in a conflict with sin, plead the blood, it’s a stronghold (Zechariah 9:11-12). You can overcome sin via the instrumentality of the blood. Revelation 12:11 says:  And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb…..

The name of Jesus

When you are in a conflict with sin, call on the name of Jesus and that evil thought or imagination will bow. Every knee bows to the name of Jesus (Philippians 2:10).

The help of the Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit is our dependable helper in time of battle. The Word of God says:  For if you live after the flesh, you shall die: but if you through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, you shall live (Romans 8:13). By the help of the Holy Spirit, you mortify the deeds of the flesh. He is your superior helper, engage Him!

Mind your Association

The company you keep can either make or mar you; it doesn’t leave you neutral. A wise man once said, “You will remain what you are today in five years time, except for the books you read and the company you keep.” The one who keeps company with wise men is the one who will be wise, but the companion of fools will not only be foolish but will, ultimately be destroyed. Walking with a foolish man is as bad as being foolish. One thing some Christians fail to understand is that one cannot flow together with every believer, simply because the person calls himself a believer. Some believers have wonderful titles (Apostles, pastors etc.) but are appallingly lacking in Christian character.

The story of Amnon and his subtle friend Jonadab is a good example of wrong association. The Word of God says: And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do anything to her.  But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David’s brother: and Jonadab was a very subtle man (2 Samuel 13:2). Amnon paid for it with his life. After his death, Jonadab, the same “friend” who gave him wrong counsel, was the one who announced his death.

It is impossible to amount to anything outside the company you keep. You cannot expect to live a better life than your companions. The Word of God says: Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us (2 Thessalonians 3:6).

If you want to be born again, please say this simple prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, congratulations, you are born again! You are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Dear Reader,

Are you due for marriage? God’s Word in Isaiah 34:16 says: Seek you out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it has commanded, and his spirit it has gathered them. Please be aware that God has not forgotten you! God cannot mismanage your life. Stop searching for a marriage partner at all cost. Make Jesus your Lord, your Boss and be deeply committed to Him. This is the excellent foundation for your future.

In this teaching, I will be looking at “Godly Character.” I would like us to look at the life of Joseph who exhibited a godly character, even in the midst of negative circumstances.

Joseph’s life provides us with a beautiful example of a person who was totally committed to living a godly life, regardless of the circumstances he encountered. Joseph exhibited the character of God through his faithfulness, integrity, purity and mercy, even while he was forced to endure intense pressure and difficulty (Genesis 37 & 39). The whole life of Joseph teaches us something about Godly character.

The Bible tells us that Joseph was hated by his brothers, who were jealous of him.  He was only a teenager when they decided to kill him and cruelly threw him into a pit. Think of the problem from Potiphar’s wife. Joseph could have, as well, used loneliness, bitterness or self-pity as an excuse for giving in to this woman. And since he was totally alone in a foreign land, no one would ever have known but Joseph had only few seconds to decide if he would maintain his integrity, righteousness and purity or trade them for a few moments of pleasure. Joseph’s choice in this moment of test and temptation would affect his future and the future of Israel forever; so, he decided to flee. To be single is to be whole, outstanding, unique, separate and positively different!

Godly character earned Joseph favour in the sight of God and He was with Joseph. God did not leave him alone in that dungeon. God’s Word says: But the Lord was with Joseph and showed him mercy, and He gave him favour in the sight of the keeper of the prison……. (Genesis 39:21-23). Also, as a slave, Joseph rose from the dungeon to the second highest position in the massive Egyptian empire, where he had enormous power and riches. He was second only to Pharaoh as God rewarded him generously for his righteousness. But he paid the price for the reward. He was abused, hated, betrayed, enslaved, tempted, tested, lied upon, unjustly imprisoned and forgotten (not by God) in a dungeon for many years. But he refused to do evil; rather, he walked in holiness, waited patiently, and maintained a soft and grateful heart before God.

Do you feel imprisoned by circumstances that seem to be beyond your control? Don’t be anxious. Do not panic. Don’t lose hope. “Why?” You know what? I can assure you that it will work out for your good, not against you. This word of assurance in Romans 8:28 is for you. Receive it today. It says: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. You don’t know what God has in store for you – no matter your age! You know what? God is still in the business of divine connections!

That you are single now does not mean that you are a sub-standard or incomplete being. No, never entertain such feelings or thoughts! In fact, let me state categorically here that being single is not a curse neither is it a disease. It is a blessing, a plus, not a minus, an addition, not a subtraction. It is not weird to be single and is certainly not an evil thing. It is simply a phase of life that holds undeniable benefits for those who utilize it.

God is not an unrighteous God and He certainly is no respecter of persons (Romans 2:11). What He does for one, He is willing, ready, and able to do for another. He is not more righteous to one as to favour him than He is to another. He is rich unto those that call upon His name and that include you! He knows every phase of your life and He has not forgotten you. Don’t live your single years wondering if God has forgotten you or you are under a curse. No! Never! God is too faithful to fail, He is dependable, and He is more than enough – I am a living proof!

Life, as you know, is in phases and singleness is a phase that everyone must of necessity pass through in the journey of life: whether as a married person, a eunuch, a celibate, a career person or whosoever you are. Every stage or phase in life has its inherent benefits, which should be harnessed and singleness is no exception. May you enjoy the added benefit inherent in the single years!

Singleness is a phase of life that you must pass through and the faster you are able to maximize the season and pass the examinations of that phase of life, the faster you move on to the next phase of your life.

When I was single, some of my colleagues only focus on marriage. Nothing else had meaning to them except marital issues. Most of them don’t have much to show for it even now! This is obviously misplaced priority. Life is much more than that. It is very important that you get your bearing in life, now that you are still single.

Godly character brought Joseph in favour with God. Until you exhibit godly character, you can never matter in life. Surrendering your life to Christ is the foundation for godly character. You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this simple prayer of faith with me: “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

Congratulations! You are now born again! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

Dear Reader,

This Week, I will be bringing your way what I titled “Get Connected to Your Creator.” This is your only sure foundation for a secured future in God. The Bible in Ecclesiastes 12:1 says: Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them.

The days of your youth from the above Scripture means your single years. Those years are the most effective time to be actively engaged in the pursuit and service of your Creator. The foundation for a great spiritual life is usually laid in the single years of one’s life.

The foundation for a secured life and destiny is first and foremost in your connection and commitment to God, the Author of life and Creator of all living. God’s Word says: I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing (John 15:5). Your connection with God is what determines how high you fly in life.

Commitment can be likened to a man’s spinal cord. Without it, your life and destiny may suffer a nervous breakdown. For lack of commitment, many destinies have crashed! If you are genuinely and scripturally committed to God, you will be committed to the success of your destiny. Get connected and be committed!

Several years ago, before we got married, my husband wrote a paper he titled “Sailing Under Sealed Orders.” It was a demonstration of his unwavering commitment to God. Your closeness to God while you are still single is the bedrock of your future and the security of your destiny.

Personally, I have found out that the closer you walk with God, the more you see the need to draw closer yet. I love the song of one great songwriter that says, “Just a closer walk with you, grant it Jesus this is my plea…”  Draw near to God! It is for your own good, not God’s. God is not dependent on you rather you are dependent on Him. When you draw near to God, He will in turn draw near to you. God’s Word says: Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded (James 4:8). Your closeness to God has to be initiated by you. Yes, I can hear someone say, “How do you mean?” I am a Christian, I am born again and I even speak in tongues! “Well, thank God for your life.”  But no matter how near you are to God right now, you can draw nearer still.  Apostle Paul declared: That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings… (Philippians 3:10).

There are some single persons that chase marriage as a dog chases a rabbit, especially those who are of marriageable age. For you who are in the Kingdom, it ought not to be so. To anybody in this class I say, relax! It should not be marriage at all cost. Remember that Adam was put to a deep sleep before the wife manifested (Genesis 2:21-22). Chase God and every other thing shall be added unto you, including a glorious marriage (Matthew 6:33). Make God your focus in life, not marriage. Remember, God’s Word says: Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord (Proverbs 18:22).

‘Find’ in the above scripture means, ‘to discover along the way.’ So, when you are in a close relationship with God, along the way you will miraculously discover your marriage partner. Don’t join those who attend meetings and gatherings primarily in search of a marriage partner; searching, matching and comparing potential candidates.

Look at this testimony: “I want to thank the Lord for Bishop David Oyedepo’s life. I also want to thank God for His Words that have been coming to us through the Bishop. I joined this Commission in 1997 for the purpose of seeking a husband. However, I started hearing the true Word of God to the extent that I almost forgot what I came here for. On one Sunday in 2004, our year of Harvest, the Bishop ministered on Matthew 6:33: ‘But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.’ It dawned on me that all things referred to in that scripture include a husband. At that time, I was 45 years old.

Subsequently, I started seeking God and looking unto Him. I told myself it was my turn. Again, as if the Bishop knew what was on my mind, he said, ‘Ask for a 24-hour miracle.’ I said, ‘God, if all things are possible with You, then my getting married is possible.’ Miraculously, that same Sunday, I came in contact with my husband!  We got married six months later. I can say that I am happy and fulfilled as I wave this hand of mine with a wedding ring on it.” Williams, P.

God is the only source of true and lasting life. When you let God into the ship of your life and destiny, it can never sink. The foundation for a secured life and destiny is first and foremost in your connection and commitment to God, the Author of life and Creator of all living. Are you ready to be connected to Him today? Then, you have to be born again. To be born again means confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to be born again, please say this simple prayer of faith with me:  “Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.”

If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, congratulations, you are born again! You are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name. Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).