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  • Sofoluwe: Remembering the ‘people’s VC’

    Sofoluwe: Remembering the ‘people’s VC’

    Five years ago, the University of Lagos (UNILAG) lost its 10th Vice Chancellor (VC), Prof Babatunde Adetokunbo Sofoluwe. Family members, friends, students and colleagues gathered at a memorial lecture held by the Lagos State chapter of UNILAG Alumni Association to reflect on his life and times. ADEGUNLE OLUGBAMILA, MEDINAT KANABE and JANE CHIJIOKE report.

    He cared about people. Although I can’t say or judge, I think he did it to the extreme. With the benefit of hindsight, maybe if he had cut off some relationships, or pegged down some things, maybe he would still be alive

    Some called him an academic and a humanist; others described him as generous. The late Prof Babatunde Adetokunbo Sofoluwe  demystified the office of the Vice Chancellor of the University of Lagos (UNILAG) with his humility when he was in the saddle. Many believed his philosophy was anchored on the simplicity of life. To some, he took things too lightly. However, one thing was clear about him: he created lasting impressions on those who crossed his path.

    When last Friday, family members, scholars and  friends, gathered in his memory at the fifth anniversary of his death, organised by the UNILAG Alumni Association, Lagos State chapter, what was on the lips of everyone was that he lived a fulfilled life and impacted positively on many who knew him.

    The late Sofoluwe, who was born on April 15, 1950, was UNILAG’s  10th vice chancellor. He mounted the saddle on January 30, 2010. He, died on May 1, 2012.  He was 62.

    Beside a series of events, which included an interdenominational service and sports, among secondary schools, the week-long event climaxed last Friday, with the annual memorial lecture and presentation of scholarship valued at N3 million to 20 indigent, but brilliant undergraduates of the university. Each got N150,000.

    This year’s lecture titled: “The administration and management of a university in a recessed economy; A case study of Nigeria”, was delivered by Sokoto State University Vice Chancellor Prof Nuhu Yaqub. It held at the school’s main auditorium.

    The alumni Chairman, Dr Lukumon Adeoti, said the scholarship represented the shoulder the late Sofoluwe offered many indigent students to lean on by funding their education.

    “While alive, the late Prof Sofoluwe loved education a lot. He sponsored about 72 indigent students and all of them graduated.  He was not using the university’s money. He was personally funding them. He began that initiative before he became the VC and he felt even as VC, he did not need to help himself with the university money to sponsor them,” Adeoti, who teaches at Unilag Department of Geosciences, recalled at a press briefing ahead of the weeklong programme of activities.

    He added:”Aside, he was equally monitoring their growth. We didn’t know them (beneficiaries) until we started the lecture five years ago, and some of them showed up to tell us the role the late Sofoluwe played in their education.”

    Many of the late Sofoluwe’s friends, colleagues and associates  were at the event to testify to his large heart.

    The UNILAG management said the deceased would be remembered for his handling of an office many have held with arrogance.

    His successor, Prof Rahamon Bello, said he demystified the VC’s office.

    “Sofoluwe was full of simplicity. He was a man, who demystified his office as the VC.  It is still difficult to believe that he is gone. At this time five years ago, the university was not as calm as it is now.  There was unrest because that was the time we wanted him more,”he said.

    Bello’s Deputy (Academic and Research), Prof Oluwatoyin Ogundipe, described the deceased as a fantastic scholar. “The truth I can say about him is endless because I worked closely with him and I miss him.”

    Emeritus professor of Computer Science and former UNILAG Deputy VC, Prof Laide Abbas, also spoke glowingly of the deceased.

    “Sofoluwe was a nice man, a simple but talented academic. He demystified any office he occupied. He moved like water, an easy going fellow with lot of energy. Although he had his weaknesses as a human being. Sometimes, something you take serious might not be that serious to him and people sometimes misunderstood him because of that,”he said.

    Prof Mopelola Olusakin of the  Department of Educational Foundation of the university, recounted the the late Sofuluwe’s relationship with the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU).

    “During his (Sofoluwe’s) time as VC, he would use his salary to buy snacks for ASUU members whenever we held our meetings. Sometimes, he personally showed up for ASUU meetings and we appreciated it, but that didn’t stop us from deciding on issues bordering on members’ interest; yet that didn’t stop him from attending meetings.”

    Olusakin said one of Sofoluwe’s weaknesses was his excessive trust in people. “He cared about people; he would always want people to be happy. Although I can’t say or judge, I think he did it to the extreme. With the benefit of hindsight, maybe if he had cut off some relationships, or pegged down some things, he would still be alive. Though only God can say, but truth is, he was so free with everyone, so  jovial, and wanted to please everyone, even students.

    “Students could go and stretch out their hands to embrace him. If you have ever attended our convocation or alumni get together, you would see students hugging him. That was the late Prof Sofoluwe for you. He was passionate about UNILAG, especially when the government wanted to rechristen the university; he couldn’t bear it.”

    The alumni’s National Secretary, Tunde Fadahunsi, said Sofoluwe, who was also an alumnus, graduated with a Second Class Upper Division in Special Mathematics in June 1973.

    “So, we remember a man who left indelible marks on the sands of time. Sofoluwe gave himself to the service of the University of Lagos. I am not a worker in this university, but as an alumnus, I felt him. He had interest in the alumni. He did everything he could to make sure the alumni grows. It is a pity he only lived for two years in his service as the VC. but within that short period, he did a lot. Indeed, we all have termination date, but it’s quite unfortunate that his came five years ago, at a point we humans thought we needed him more,”Fadahunsi said.

    A lecturer in the school who pleaded anonymity, said in the history of the 55-year-old institution, there had not been a man as charismatic and infectious as Sofoluwe.

    “One thing I miss him for is his humility and compassion. We are yet to have another VC that has such charisma and we may never have. He was open to everybody; you can access him any time any day. He would not only listen to you, he would ensure that you feel the impact of his administration.

    “There was a time I wanted my daughter to do diploma programme, he said: “Why don’t you encourage her to sit for JAMB instead of wasting money?” Eventually, my daughter wrote the JAMB examination and got admission on merit. That was who he was: a compassionate man committed to the service of the people. He touched so many lives regardless of individual background,” he said.

    Another teaching staff, who also chose to remain anonymous, said. “I was newly employed at the time he (Sofoluwe) became the Vice Chancellor. Also at that period I won an award with which I was supposed to travel to the United States. Coincidentally, there were issues. I was compelled to personally see him when I felt other offices, which would have handled it were not giving me positive response. Instantly he gave approval. That was how I was able to travel abroad.  It’s painful that that period was the last time I saw him because I was in the US when he passed on,”he recalled.

    Another member of staff, Prince Awere Odor, extolled the late Sofoluwe as a man who held women in high esteem.

    He said: “He gave exceptional regard to women, and you could almost call him ‘woman wrapper’. For women, who worked with him, once it was 4 o’clock, he would tell them to go home and attend to their husbands and children. He didn’t want their work to affect their family life.

    “He was quite generous; he gave out everything, even his wife expressed worry while we were having (burial) mass for him. She said at a point, she became worried that he was giving out everything and she didn’t know what he would leave behind for the family to live on upon retirement. She said she tried to make him stop but he didn’t.

    “He was that generous. He paid the fees and hostel accommodation for many people. For me, he did quite a lot; he even got annoyed with me that I refused to collect money from him many times; but I was feeling for him. Most time, he would empty his whole pocket to please someone.”

    Students were also not left out in pouring encomiums on the late professor.

    “He (Sofoluwe) was always available in times of trouble. I could remember when I had issues with my courses. I went to meet him, he was then the Dean of Sciences and the problem was resolved. He displayed fatherly role to many of us. He deserves to be remembered at all times,” said Afolabi Fashoranti , who is pursuing his Ph.D programme in the university.

    Another student, Bunmi Akinyemisi, who did his Masters programme in 2013, said the late Sofoluwe was an astute administrator, who, during his time, reduced the one-year Masters programme to nine months. “It was good news to those of us then and I felt his service before he died,” Akinyemisi recounted. .

    Speaker Lagos State House of Assembly, Mudashiru Obasa, and Mobil Oil Managing Director, Adetunji Oyebanji, who were both special guests of honour at the lecture, noted that good people are not forgotten so soon even in death.

    “When people die, they are forgotten, but those with good deeds will forever be remembered. Sofoluwe left a good legacy and the gathering here today by people from all walks of life is a pointer to this fact. He was accessible by all, he never placed himself as a small god to be worshipped,” Obasa said.

    “It is good to celebrate people, who have impacted on our way of lifve and the society.  Though he is gone, but his good name still lives, “Oyebanji noted.

    Earlier, Prof Yaqub while delivering the memorial lecture, urged the management to accept Sofoluwe’s death philosophically.

    Yaqub also noted that the university has done the needful by floating the memorial lecture to sustain the late Sofoluwe’s memory. “It is stated that time heals the wounds an individual might have sustained, experienced or suffered through life’s journey. Certainly not the pains of the death of a beloved one, especially when it is put in the context of the fact that Prof Sofoluwe died at the pinnacle of his career. He was an accomplished computer scientist, a committed professional teacher, and a technocrat of administrative distinction. He can never be forgotten and this memorial lecture is one way to keep his memory alive and evergreen,” Yaqub said.

  • Unilag alumni’s N3m scholarships in honour of Sofoluwe

    Twenty brilliant but indigent undergraduates of the University of Lagos (UNILAG) will receive N150,000 each worth of scholarships tomorrow.

    The scholarships, which are courtesy of UNILAG Alumni Association, Lagos State branch, are in commemoration of the yearly Adetokunbo Babatunde Sofoluwe Memorial Lecture.

    Chairman of the Lagos State chapter of the alumni, Dr Lukeman Adeoti, said the association would also visit two orphanage homes- Module Cole, Yaba and Red Cross.

    The late Sofoluwe was the first vice chancellor of UNILAG to die in office. He was 62.

    Speaking at a briefing on the school campus, Adeoti described the late Sofoluwe as an “embodiment of simplicity, erudite scholar, and a man who demystified the position of a vice chancellor’’.

    According to him, it has become a culture of UNILAG to honour the late Sofoluwe whose contributions to the school and society could not be over emphasised.

    “This goes to show us that when we are alive, we have to be good to people. This man died five years ago and he is still being celebrated,” he said.

    He added that the association was looking forward to establishing the Sofoluwe Foundation to immortalise the deceased’s good deeds.

    The Chairman of the committee for the lecture Prof Oluwayemisi Obashoro-John, said an exhibition of the deceased’s lifetime, such as  the love letters he exchanged with his wife, a compendium of his works, especially his first academic and last academic papers, among others, would be on display.

    The lecture entitled: “Administration/management of a university in a recessed economy” would be delivered by the Vice Chancellor of Sokoto State University, Prof Nuhu Yaqub.

  • Unilag Alumni marks Sofoluwe’s fifth memorial

    Unilag Alumni marks Sofoluwe’s fifth memorial

    University of Lagos Alumni Association, Lagos State chapter, has lined up a number  of activities to remember one of its late vice chancellors, Babatunde Sofoluwe.

    Sofoluwe, a professor of Computer Science, was the first vice chancellor in Unilag to die in active service on Friday May 1, 2012. He was 62.

    Chairman, UNILAG alumni, Dr Lukumon Adeoti, said unlike previous editions where only a day was set aside, there would be a three-day programme that would commence with a press briefing on Tuesday, next week.  Interdenominational service and sporting activities that would involve anout 12 secondary schools will come up on Thursday, May 11, while the following day will feature a lecture with the theme:  “The administration and management of a university in a recessed economy; A case study of Nigeria”, by the Vice Chancellor, Sokoto State University Prof Nuhu Yaqub.

    On the inspiration behind the lecture, Adeoti said: “In his lifetime, Prof Sofoluwe loved education a lot. He sponsored about 72 indigent students and all of them graduated.  He was not using university money. He was personally funding them. He began that initiative before he became VC and Sofoluwe felt even as VC he did not need to help himself with the university money to sponsor them.

    “Aside, he was equally monitoring their growth. We didn’t know them (beneficiaries) until we started this lecture five years ago, and some of them showed up to tell us the role Sofoluwe played in their education.”

    Adeoti, who is from Unilag Department of Geosciences, recalled fond memories of the late VC.

    “Sofoluwe was an embodiment of humility. He demystified leadership. He was a man, who trained people for succession and by the time he died, those he trained have already imbibed his culture. Interestingly, most of those he trained here have become professors and DVCs .That is why we never had any issue about continuity in leadership in this university. This man was able to handle both the academic and political aspects of administration.

    “We have an association we call Friday Group. Sofoluwe established it. The group is still in existence. We hold meeting every last Friday of the month. Members discuss how to move the university forward.

    He said the Faculty of Science, where Sofoluwe once taught, was doing a collection of his works which we would be compiled in a book form and launched during an exhibition exercise that would be part of the activities.

  • SOFOLUWE TO EAGLES: Beat Pharaohs with three goals

    SOFOLUWE TO EAGLES: Beat Pharaohs with three goals

    Former international, Yisa Sofuluwe has advised the Super Eagles to go for a resounding victory in the Afcon qualifiers against the Pharaohs of Egypt come March 25 in Kaduna. The only way the Sunday Oliseh tutored side can progress, according to him, is to target a two to three goals victory at home as it will be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle than defeat the Egyptians in Cairo. He described the Egyptian side as one that should not be treated with kid gloves considering that their players play regularly together and their league  is one of the most organised and competitive in the continent

    “It is going to be a very tough match and my advice to the Eagles is to ensure that they win convincingly at home. Two to three goals victory will be good enough, so that you can go with confidence for the return leg in Cairo.  If they fail to do that it will be very hard to achieve impressive result in Egypt,” he said

    The former dean of defence, who insists that Nigeria can still shine whenever and wherever she so desires, said all it takes is to do the right thing at the right time.

    “There is nothing we cannot achieve if we set our minds to it. Like the coming qualifiers the team just has to prepare very well, there is no two way about it,” he added

    On suggestions in some quarters that Vincent Enyeama be recalled to the national team, Sofoluwe said it is entirely the business of the national coach.

    “To me that is the business of the coach.  If the coach wants him back and he is ready to return that is entirely their business.  What is important to the nation now is to focus and get the needed qualification for Gabon 2017,” he said.

    Egypt, Nigeria Tanzania and Chad are battling for a place in Group G with Egypt leading the group with six points and Nigeria following closely with four points.

  • SOFOLUWE TO EAGLES: Beat Pharaohs with three goals

    SOFOLUWE TO EAGLES: Beat Pharaohs with three goals

    Former international, Yisa Sofuluwe has advised the Super Eagles to go for a resounding victory in the Afcon qualifiers against the Pharaohs of Egypt come March 25 in Kaduna. The only way the Sunday Oliseh tutored side can progress, according to him, is to target a two to three goals victory at home as it will be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle than defeat the Egyptians in Cairo. He described the Egyptian side as one that should not be treated with kid gloves considering that their players play regularly together and their league  is one of the most organised and competitive in the continent

    “It is going to be a very tough match and my advice to the Eagles is to ensure that they win convincingly at home. Two to three goals victory will be good enough, so that you can go with confidence for the return leg in Cairo.  If they fail to do that it will be very hard to achieve impressive result in Egypt,” he said

    The former dean of defence, who insists that Nigeria can still shine whenever and wherever she so desires, said all it takes is to do the right thing at the right time.

    “There is nothing we cannot achieve if we set our minds to it. Like the coming qualifiers the team just has to prepare very well, there is no two way about it,” he added

    On suggestions in some quarters that Vincent Enyeama be recalled to the national team, Sofoluwe said it is entirely the business of the national coach.

    “To me that is the business of the coach.  If the coach wants him back and he is ready to return that is entirely their business.  What is important to the nation now is to focus and get the needed qualification for Gabon 2017,” he said.

    Egypt, Nigeria Tanzania and Chad are battling for a place in Group G with Egypt leading the group with six points and Nigeria following closely with four points.

  • Posthumous award for ex-UNILAG VC Sofoluwe

    The University of Lagos (UNILAG) Students’ Union Government (SUG) will hold its maiden personality lecture, where some students will be honoured.

    Also, posthumous award will be presented to the family of institution’s former Vice-Chancellor (VC), the late Prof Adetokunbo Sofoluwe.

    Chairman of the Organising Committee, Moyosore Adebanjo, said the event would hold on October 2 at the institution’s Multipurpose Hall.

    According to him, the event, which is tagged: UNILAG Awards, is being planned by committee composed of students drawn from Akoka and Idi-Araba campuses of the school.

    Moyosore said the award was introduced to celebrate students and alumni, who have brought honour to the school through their activities.

    He highlighted categories of awards to be presented, including leadership, impact, innovation and enhancement, outstanding and social enterprise, Mr and Miss Personality, and Best Online Personality among others.

    Moyosore disclosed that the nomination process had started, adding that each awardee must have 25 per cent votes from each faculty. This, he said, is to ensure transparency in the nomination process.

     

  • SOFOLUWE TO PILLARS, ENYIMBA: Don’t treat continental assignment with levity

    SOFOLUWE TO PILLARS, ENYIMBA: Don’t treat continental assignment with levity

    Management of league winners Pillars and runners up Enyimba have been told to take preparation for their continental outings seriously if they wish to do well.

    Former international Yisa Sofoluwe, who gave the charge, said there is more to winning the premier league and picking a continental ticket, noting that lack of proper preparation, poor approach to management and over confidence had in the past stopped teams with potentials from achieving set goals.

    The Dean of Defence, as he was fondly called in his days in the national team, added that with the improving standard of play in the league Nigeria ought to start calling the shots at all levels in the continent.  He, however, expressed confidence in the quality of players at the disposal of both teams, insisting that laurels can come on a silver platter, especially with maximum support from their state governments and club management.

    “The league was highly competitive this season and both teams cannot be said to be pushovers, but they must avoid the usual pitfalls like poor preparation and travel arrangement among other things.  If they get the support I think they will do well,” he enthused.

    Sofoluwe, who is being courted by some clubs ahead of the next season, re-echoed the need for all departments of the league to improve so that whoever emerges champion can withstand the heat anywhere.

    “We must continuously improve the league in all aspects, standard of play, officiating, management in fact everything so that whoever wins the league at any point in time can truly beat his chest and be in a position to compete anywhere, but where a team emerges through sharp practice, such as poor officiating, it will tell along the line,” he said in a chat with SportingLife on Friday.

  • UNILAG alumni remember Sofoluwe

    UNILAG alumni remember Sofoluwe

    The University of Lagos Alumni Association, Lagos State Branch will hold the second Annual Memorial Lecture in honour of Late Prof Adetokunbo Babatunde Sofoluwe, former Vice Chancellor, University of Lagos next Monday at the Afe Babalola Auditorium.

    The lecture entitled: Funding of University Education in Nigeria: Trends, Challenges and New Directions will be delivered by the incumbent Vice Chancellor of the university, Prof Rahamon Bello.

    Prof A. Ogunye will chair the occasion while Sir Kessington Adebutu, M.D / CEO, The Kessington Adebukunola Adebutu Foundation is  the Special Guest of Honour.

    National President of the association, Dr Sunny Kuku, is the Chief Host, while the UNILAG branch president of the association, Dr A. Ogunleye, is the host.

     

  • Adetokunbo Sofoluwe: Scenes from a fulfilled life

    Adetokunbo Sofoluwe: Scenes from a fulfilled life

    My first encounter with Adetokunbo was in the 1960s through my elder brother when they both attended CMS Grammar School Lagos. The two friends later attended an interview at Christ’s School, Ado-Ekiti when my late father drove them to the bus station. In Ado, they experienced traditional Ekiti hospitality from my parents’ close friends, the Osekitas. Tokunbo, however, stayed on at CMS before proceeding to Old Swinford Hospital School, Stourbridge in Worcestershire, England where he completed his Higher School Certificate course in June 1968. We met again in the University of Lagos from where we both graduated, though at different times, and then again at the University of Edinburgh in Scotland. As we later discovered to our great surprise our two fathers had coincidentally chosen the same friend, the dashing Chief Orija, to serve as our godfather at our christening. We did not become an item until the 1980s when we sealed our relationship with a marriage under the Act. The combination of a Dada and an Aina notwithstanding, we lived truly happily together until his untimely exit on the 11th of May, 2012.

    In truth his first love was Mathematics but he loved the Arts too. He was fond of the works of William Shakespeare and often quoted from them. He seemed fascinated by his plays. It is no surprise, therefore, that he made a very good grade in Literature in his School Certificate examination. He also did well in Fine Art. This interest he continued to display throughout his life by encouraging many young artists at great expense to himself.

    He was also a sportsman right from his student days. It was impossible to love Tokunbo and not love various sports. Together we avidly followed football, tennis, cricket, boxing, golf, snooker, formula 1, and even the major horse races. We got a lot of adrenalin from the annual Oxford-Cambridge boat race, usually rooting for Cambridge University. And he was a keen chess player.

    Adetokunbo loved good music. It was not just the lyrics that interested him but the arrangement of the notes and the instruments deployed. Many knew that he loved high-life and juju music and Ambrose Campbell, Rex Lawson, Adeolu Akinsanya, Roy Chicago, Orlando Owoh, E. T. Mensah, I. K. Dairo and others like them lived on in our home. Others might be aware that he was also very fond of modern jazz, traditional jazz, gospel music, reggae music and even apala but I doubt whether they knew that he also invested in a good collection of classical CDs right from his student days, a passion that we shared. As his flat mate in Edinburgh would confirm he drew inspiration from the works of great composers like Bach, Strauss, Schumann, Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Mozart, Schubert, Brahms, Chopin, Handel and Vivaldi.

    Another interesting aspect of Tokunbo’s life was his fascination with great historical figures. As one of his brothers will testify, he read all the time about their contributions to science, nation building, their struggles and the sacrifices they made. They served as role models for him. The two brothers were always exchanging books and Tokunbo was forever expressing amazement at the enduring manner in which their governments and associates had immortalized these men such that they are still celebrated even after centuries had passed. He would always make copies of write–ups on them to share with me. He was conscious of the fact that they were mere mortals, sometimes with serious shortcomings, but he did not believe that their errors or mistakes while they lived should be publicised or even celebrated upon their death. Adetokunbo was a gentleman and an intellectual to the core. He would always wonder aloud when Nigerians would stop their futile attempts to measure greatness by material wealth, earthly titles, number of parties attended and mere indiscretions that do not bring any glory to one’s nation.

    As regards the keeping of records Adetokunbo was in a class of his own. He kept every note, letter, document and e-mail sent to him. He would even make extra copies. He kept receipts and meticulously recorded all financial transactions (payments, withdrawals, loans given with dates and agreed terms of repayment) including photocopies of cheques and bank drafts. One of the last photocopies he showed me was for the April 19, 2012 N600,000.00 life membership cheque for an Academic Association. (He breathed his last only three weeks after this payment which is a clear indication that he was not expecting that his life was going to be taken from him so soon). He probably wanted in some cases to preempt potential denials on the part of the unscrupulous or to assist those who might want to pretend to suffer from the onset of early dementia but the habit had assumed a neurotic proportion. It was not cultivated, however, to entrap others even if it could. He always encouraged me to follow his style, which I did, but I was forever teasing him that he was fast becoming too eccentric for his young age and we were going to be buried under numerous useless papers in our own home.

    Adetokunbo was a kind and generous giver, but a most quiet one. The last thing he desired was publicity. There were so many people on his list that he gave money on a monthly basis. Throughout his adult life he chose to be responsible either in part or in full for the school fees, pocket money and house rent of many. I must confess that as a typical wife I worried about our future finances and I sometimes voiced my concerns. To provoke him I called him names the kindest of which were ‘Father Christmas’, ‘Public Property’ ‘A bu je bu danu’ and ‘Mallam Toks’ (we Yorubas rightly or wrongly believe that our Hausa brothers do not get unduly anxious about tomorrow, especially where personal needs are concerned). He would always assure me that I worried unnecessarily about the future when God was so merciful and would never allow either of us to suffer in our old age. In this regard Tokunbos’ trust in God was genuinely a hundred percent and I greatly admired him for it.

    He frequently gave out loads of his nice outfits and shoes. Some outfits were given out only after just one wear. I would grumble sometimes that he didn’t understand what it took to trudge up and down Balogun West to pick out some of the best Ivorien fabrics for him and have them tailored only for him to pass them over so quickly. I would even threaten to stop buying him things. But I knew that he wasn’t one to hold on to material things and this was just another gesture of his that confirmed my ‘Mallam’ title for him. And I give thanks to all those who proudly and lovingly shared his apparels.

    In a further demonstration of his unusual attitude to material things Adetokunbo would often change into whatever he bought in a shop (be it a shirt, belt, shoes, jacket or sunglasses) right there in the shop and have what he previously had on packed for him in the shop’s bags instead. He would tell me that we buy things to use and not to keep and worship.

    The goodwill that he demonstrated towards others was legendary and uncommon. He wanted the necessary things of life for everyone around him. It was almost like interfering at times. For him you cannot have enduring happiness and peace if you have when others around you lack. He always argued that no one should try to be a lone star. He would always want to know, for example, if each employee or friend already had a plot of land. If they did not, he had to find out why and would not let them rest until something positive was done. For those already with plots he would want to know how far they had gone with developing the plots. As some will testify, he will arrange to visit the sites and provide encouragement with cash and prayers. And I have accompanied him on some of such visits.

    He was always concerned whenever he learned that people were sick, even those he did not have any relationship with. He would always ask that we contribute something to their medical care. These things, he would say, could happen to anyone. He was also interested in the care of the elderly and always sought assurance from friends and colleagues that they did not neglect their aged parents. He often sent cash and other gifts to parents he had never met. And he did not forget the Old People’s Home either.

    Unknown to most people my husband also gave a lot to further the work of the Church. Many misunderstood his relationship with his God and felt he was not a serious being. Unlike many of us who paid our tithe in just one place, Tokunbo paid in four different places. I was personally responsible for delivering to three of them and he would also always want to confirm from me each month that he had already given me the money. He did not rob God but rather gave more than the mandatory ten percent. And he was ever so willing to assist with church projects, be they physical or evangelical. These things Adetokunbo never considered as issues for discussion with any so-called friends or for broadcast.

    On his relationship with God, we held weekly prayers with our pastor friends. Once when all of them had travelled I thought we would not have the usual session. But my husband surprised even me by insisting that we carry on as usual and he personally took charge. May God forgive me for not at first taking him seriously on that day early last year. One of the great lessons that I have learnt from my journey with him is that it is only a fool or mischief maker that will claim to know the desires of another individual’s heart, especially where you do not share a home. For a true believer that is a prerogative of God and we have no business attempting to highjack abilities that rightfully belong to our heavenly father alone. Rather than fabricate unnecessary lies to make people think that we are privy to the secret thoughts and intentions of others the least we can do is to try where possible to find out the truth and nothing but the truth.

    Adetokunbo was incredibly tolerant, bore no malice and was extremely down to earth. These were some of his strengths but some mistook them for weaknesses. They saw him as carefree or even reckless. Nothing could be further from the truth. He simply enjoyed helping others through giving and he believed in giving each individual a chance. He knew when he was being deceived, lied to, being exploited and when he got things wrong, sometimes terribly wrong. He knew also when demands on him were unreasonable. He would come home and describe some of them. So he saw through most people’s schemes eventually but he always hoped they would change and believed that God was capable of touching anyone. Whenever, I asked why he was allowing himself to be used by seasoned con artists, he would simply reply that if it made these people happy to believe that they were smarter than him or if their deceit helped them to maintain their sanity or reap mere financial rewards why rock their boats and have a greater problem on our hands? He preferred to play along saying the diabolical and unscrupulous had to be handled with care but that we would have the last laugh, God willing. He was a great advocate of PEACE.

    If Adetokunbo had been so carefree or had a death wish as some have alleged he would not have kept records the way he did and neither would he have been checking to make sure every night before we slept that all electric sockets were unplugged and gas knobs were turned off. This was another habit of his that almost assumed the proportion of an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

    Being such a generous individual and an incurable romantic I had to plead with him every year on my birthday anniversary that he should not host any party, no matter how small. I am even more publicity shy and surely less of a spendthrift. My protests almost always fell on deaf ears with him telling me that I did not know my own worth. Up to the end I got expensive gifts and several greeting cards for each birthday with at least one each time being custom-made. I am certain that there are people present here today whom he sometimes used to achieve the cards/parties/gifts conspiracy. To these great brothers and friends I say thank you for your goodwill toward us as a couple and for your steadfast support ever since.

    Adetokunbo also always wanted us to dine out or even go on date nights or date weekends. He wanted us to visit more exotic locations together and he had drawn up a list. He already wanted to know where in Lagos I wanted us to settle at the end of his tenure and we had already reached a decision. Very often he expressed the wish that we grow old together like many of the elderly couples that we saw around us. He loved the way they assisted each other and the obvious understanding between them. Each night he lovingly checked that I was properly tucked in and not exposed to the cold in our room.

    As every member of my family would testify they were treated like royalty. He would always announce to his audience that he did not want the Olagbaiyes to withdraw their daughter from his care and then proceed to shower them with gifts. Bless him. For the support, care and mutual respect we shall all be eternally grateful. This was why they all came, young and old from far and near, to his rites of passage. Finally, as our newspaper/magazine agent can testify, every week he provided me with several magazines on all manner of subjects, more than I could ever cope with. Whenever I begged him to return some of them and save money he would ask if I was planning to carry money to heaven. He also borrowed magazines from his brother for me to read. I could go on and on.

    His nephews should please take note. Uncle Toks was extremely close to you and you know what he preached about taking good care of your lawful wedded wives. If you loved him and wish to keep his memory alive then you must treasure your wives. That is what he would have insisted upon and God will empower you in this regard. And as he never wanted to let any of you down in any way we must please not let down his memory in any way. The newest husband and dads in the family are not doing badly. As for the nephews-in-law beware for uncle Toks is watching you!

    There was no bone of arrogance in Tokunbo. Every morning he made his own tea, he sat on the floor to feed his dog before walking it, washed up our dinner dishes at night and made breakfast with me at weekends. I am sure the stewards at the vice-chancellor’s lodge must have marveled at his attitude and thought him strange at first. And he always helped to tie my wrapper before leaving for church. After we ran late once and were caught doing this inside the church hall and he was teased he subsequently made sure that I left enough time each Sunday morning for him to sort out that aspect of my dressing.

    Even though he related with individuals from different strata of the society and various characters, Adetokunbo reserved his highest regard for those friends and family who are highly principled, who set him high moral standards and who encouraged him to live up to such standards. He clearly recognized the difference between those who sincerely would have him guard at all cost the integrity of his father’s name and those whom he often described as toxic and fair-weather friends that would encourage any act all for the sake of mere earthly benefits.

    Please join me in celebrating the good things about this truly remarkable gentleman. As Adetokunbo himself was fond of saying, ‘GOD ALONE IS THE FINAL ARBITER’ and ‘E je ki a ma se daada, awon eniyan n wo wa’. May my beautiful one’s beautiful soul find repose with his Maker.

    Dr Sofoluwe of the Department of Psychology,University of Lagos, is the widow of Prof Sofoluwe, ex-UNILAG VC.