Tag: teenage girls

  • Teenage girls reject early marriage for education

    The issue of early marriage for the girl child has become a contentious one. In a time and age when education plays crucial role in societal development as an aftermath of the education of its citizens, it is a misnomer to urge the girl child not to be educated. FRANK IKPEFAN writes on some brave teenagers who preferred education to early marriage.

    In a region where child marriage is prevalent, 12-year-old Aisha Muhammed’s quest for education draws some courage that other girls can follow. The Primary 5 pupil of Warure Special Primary School, Gwale LGEA, Kano State, has an ambition to become a doctor. That ambition cannot be thwarted even by the money of a rich politician or parental influence for early marriage.

    She has a goal to help her community, particularly girls after she might have finished her education. According to her, she wants to do something about women in her community.

    “I want to get married after I become a doctor. If any man comes, politician or any rich man comes, I will not agree. I will not marry him. I will not agree because I want to finish my studies. I want to become a doctor and help my community, particularly the females. I want to do something about women.

    “No, I want to finish my secondary school first before I will love any man. My parents will not give me away to any man. My father is a businessman but he has some basic education. My mother is a housewife, but she went to school too,” Aisha said.

    That future is being moulded at Warure Special Primary School, Gwale LGEA, Kano State. The school is one of the few selected by the state government to be part of a federal government effort of getting more children in school.

    It is a government primary school established in 1959 with two classrooms, 30 pupils and five teaching staff, including the headteacher. The school currently has a population of 2,728 pupils: 1,459 males, and 1,269 females. It also has more classrooms and teachers.

    Like Miss Muhammed, thirteen-year old Suraya Abdulrazak, also has an ambition to become a doctor in future. She said, “I want to be a doctor when I grow up.”

    According to the Minister of Education, Malam Adamu Adamu, Nigeria has 10.2 million out-of-school children, even though government had made primary education free and compulsory. Kano and eleven other states, share about eight million of this figure, according to a survey by United Nations’ Children Education Fund (UNICEF).

    UNICEF said that the estimate included children attending non-formal education.

    In its sectoral situation report in Nigeria, it said only 61 per cent of 6-11 years old children regularly attended primary school, while only 35.6 per cent of children aged 36-59 months received Early Childhood Education.

    To close this gap and give children in the state the benefit of education, the Kano State government is partnering agencies like the UNICEF and the United Kingdom Department for International Development (UKDID) in order to increase enrollment in schools, especially girls enrollment.

    In 2012, the state government established a School-Based Management Committee (SBMC) in Warure, to ensure completion of basic education for all school-age children. The school is fast becoming a choice destination for parents wishing to enrol their kids.

    The UN agency said that it plans to enroll one million out-of-school girls in schools by 2020 in Zamfara, Bauchi, Katsina, Niger, Sokoto and Kano states. According to UNICEF, the enrolment goal would be done under its Girls Education Project 3 (GEP3) in these six northern states using the SBMC.

    The project, funded by the DFID and being implemented by UNICEF, is an eight year project (2012 to 2020) aimed at contributing to improving the social and economic opportunity for girls in northern Nigeria.

    At a recent two-day media dialogue on the project in Kano state, UNICEF GEP 3 Kano state Coordinator, Richard Akanet, said that 42,000 primary and Islamic school teachers had so far been trained and mentored in child-friendly pedagogy under the programme.

    He noted that 1,900,000 boys had also benefitted from the programme through investments in “improvements to teacher quality and school governance”.

    Akanet said: “Socio-economic status has been the main reason behind not being enrolled in school. Since May 2012, UNICEF has been implementing the eight year GEP3 (2012-2020) funded by the United Kingdom Department for International Development, which aims at contributing to improved social and economic opportunity for girls in northern Nigeria.

    “The major focus is to get school-age girls to school, without neglecting boys’ enrollment. The main reasons given for girls dropout from school are; direct cost which represents 29 per cent, those who are with no interest in education represent 25 per cent, while opportunity cost stands at 23 per cent.

    “Our target is one million additional girls in school and our outputs are; increased enrolment and retention for girls in basic education, improved capacity for teachers to deliver effective learning for girls and improved governance to strengthen girls’ education.

    “The expected results by 2020 are; approximately one million girls in school, primary and integrated Qur’anic schools; 1.6million girls reached by improved teaching and learning environments.

    “Also, 15,300 head teachers have been trained in school effectiveness and curriculum management, and approximately 1.9million boys have benefited from GEP 3 interventions”.

    He said the goal of the SBMC is to improve in school enrolment, especially for girls, as well as a remarkable reduction in schoolgirls’ dropout.

    Director of Social Mobilisation, Universal Basic Education Commission (UBEC), Bello Kagara, said that the SBMC was the closest structure to engage in addressing the problem of out-of-school children and that the community, and if properly supported, will deliver.

    He said the commission would spend N2.7 billion on the rehabilitation of 2,505 selected primary schools across the country.

    He added that each of the benefiting schools would receive a first disbursement of 75 per cent payment of the total amount allocated to it, while the remaining 25 per cent would be paid after the commission confirms its satisfaction with the utilisation of monies released earlier.

    “Already, the Federal Government has said it will inject the sum of N2.7billion in the SBMC Intervention scheme in 2,505 basic schools across the country.

    “For the pilot phase, under the macro project, we are supporting 15 schools per state, including the FCT. For the micro project, we are supporting 50 schools per state. In special projects, we are supporting 120 of such,” he said.

    Kagara said each of the benefiting schools would receive the first disbursement of 75 per cent payment of the total amount allocated to it, while the remaining 25 per cent would be after the commission confirms its satisfaction with the utilisation of monies released earlier.

    The Director however said the SBMC committee must pay 10 per cent of the total amount for project execution before they can access the 75 per cent.

    He identified poor funding and non-participation of key actors as some of the major challenges bedeviling the quality and increased access to education in the country.

    Also, the Kano State SBMC Chairman, Tijjani Baraya, explained that before, nobody cared about public schools within their communities, adding that: “those days people felt any school within their area, they simply say they were government property but today, our people now realise the schools located in their communities belong to them and not the government”.

    He said the concept of SBMC is to give communities the chance to support school programmes within their community.

    Baraya added: “The SBMC committee for instance, in Kano State, comprises 17 members drawn from traditional, religious institutions, artisans, school pupils, teachers, community-based organisations, and women organisations.

    ”The role of SBMC and that of the Parent Teachers Association (PTA) are different. The PTA charges levies while the SBMC is an intervention. SBMC does not charge any member of the community or requests money from the pupils. This plan is what the school uses within a period, it consists of the school needs and costs”.

  • Reasons your teenage girls are obsessed with boyfriends! (II)

    DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I read your article – Reasons Your Teenage Girls Are Obsessed With Boyfriends! I must let you know it’s 100% accurate. In these days of Instagram, Facebook Snapchat etc., more of our youth, especially girls and young ladies seek so much attention. And they end up receiving attention from suspicious sources. We see girls as young as 13 striking up relationships with men more than twice their age because they are looking for attention. Others are intimidated by their friends who have 10,000 followers on Instagram and flaunt their material possessions: iPhones, wigs, expensive makeup, trending wears etc. Consequently, they get entangled in ungodly and even evil relationships with men and boys. Luckily for me, I’ve learnt contentment. My course-mates make jest of me because I can go almost a year without doing my hair. I can also wear the same clothes twice in two weeks. However, it doesn’t bother me because I know it’s temporary. I have plans for my life. Most people I know – boys and girls alike – can’t see beyond iPhones, Instagram, becoming a “slay queen/big boy” etc. I know I’ll go far in life and become very great by God’s grace. You are a role-model and a virtuous woman. May God bless you real good for your great works in the lives of young ones.

    Oluwafolakemi Alasade, 18

    Dear Parents of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    Last Sunday, I began discussing reasons your girls are desperate to have boyfriends the first being Inadequate Love and Attention. As I wrote, if children are not given enough love and attention in their impressionable years, they seek it in the wrong places and these are days when we have more predators than genuine care-givers. Girls especially, want to feel the warmth and love of their parents whether they have all the money in the world or not. They go to school, church and other places where they mix. They hear others talk about the precious moments they spend with their parents, they see how other parents visit their school even when there’s no need to, they see how they grin from ear to ear when they see their kids. They see how their birthdays are celebrated and how some parents would never miss the school’s open days. They see how a good number of girls jump into their father’s arms when they pick them up from school or on one of their visits. Believe me, not only children are affected by these but young adults as well. I remember while in the university, my wonderful and fantastic late dad – (then in his late 60s) paid one of those surprise visits – he loved to do that hoping to catch one in a wrong act (smiles). As usual, he didn’t spend more than 20 minutes but came along with goodies for me and a friend more like a sister whom I shared a flat with.

    After I saw him off, I returned to my room and found my friend sitting on my bed, head bowed and looking sad! She then told me she doubted I knew I had the best gift God could give anyone. When I asked what, she told me in plain terms that over the years she noticed my siblings and I were our father’s “heart-beat”, that was the term she used and the first time I’d hear such used for such an expression of great love. She then went on to say her father would rather sit in his business place than spare her a thought! This has stuck in my heart since she said it 20 years ago! I know for a fact that my late dad’s attitude, unusual expression of love, what I considered excessive strictness and intentional parenting had nothing to do with his background – in fact very far from it because he was a self-made man. So, nothing stops you from deciding right away to be all over your children. The world out there is crazy-YOU KNOW! And if you don’t fawn all over them now and get into their heads while driving God into their souls, you end up disappointing yourself and denying them the beautiful life they’re entitled to. You simply drive them to the devil who’s a bloody reaper. He could reap a beautiful destiny with just three words – “I love you!” Or “you’re the most beautiful girl in the world,” or “Wow, I’ve never met anyone as intelligent as you,” etc. What in the world stops you from saying these to your girls every day? I love girls with all my heart! I hate to see them go through any pain or get derailed because they eventually determine the next generation. May the God of Jeshurun carry them in His everlasting arms, give them direction and set them free from the wiles of the devil in Jesus mighty name!

    • To be continued.
  • Reasons your teenage girls are obsessed with boyfriends!

    PARENTS of my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters.

    Happy new month! May this month of July bring us peace and joy in Jesus mighty name! In the last 2 weeks, I’ve been writing on our teenage girls and their obsession for boyfriends. Some permissive parents could say it’s no big deal for their daughters to date in their teens but I tell you it does more harm than good. I’ll forever emphasise the importance of the delicate teen years which is what eventually determines how one’s life would go – its fair success, average success, outstanding success or massive failure! No wonder former American First Lady – Mrs. Michelle Obama – once said while speaking to teenage girls “If I had worried about who liked me and who thought I was cute when I was your age, I wouldn’t be married to the president of the United States today.”

    THIS IS A VERY SERIOUS MATTER and shouldn’t be handled with kid’s glove! As I mentioned last week, it is normal for every girl to have a crush or fall in love in her early teens if not sooner because the world has gone crazy. However, she must be compassionately assisted to nip her uncontrollable infatuation in the bud before it gets wild and becomes a way of life!

    Too many beautiful destinies are being diverted daily by stupid, bad devil who just loves to confuse the children of God! Without having boyfriends in their teens, a lot of girls would be more knowledgeable, have better grades, better qualifications, better self-esteem, make use of their vivid imagination and create wonderful lives their parents could never boast of. They would easily realise glorious and lofty dreams and have uncommon achievements; in fact, we would have so many teenage amazons and environmental transformers! They’d be more in control of their emotions and spirituality and above all be well-equipped to handle life’s vicissitudes and a lot of challenges the female folk face. They would become very strong after spending all the time they should have spent on falling in and out of love and having their hearts torn apart and their souls painfully wounded by having boyfriends on self-development! They would become better builders of a saner society!

    Your daughter could be obsessed with some guy or the other because of the following reasons:

    1. Inadequate love and attention

    Let the truth be told, before the society begins to get at your children, you are the major determinant of the path they eventually choose to follow! Sadly, so many parents in this age are not intentional about their parenting and raising of their offspring. While some are too carried away looking for daily bread and dealing with personal issues, some are wealthy enough to give their children what they never had as kids but don’t bother to pay attention to every detail of their children’s lives! Too many children are unfortunately left to domestic staff and unwholesome misinformation from their peers at school. A child’s impressionable years are so scary such that just one information or experience could set a child rolling on the wrong path of life. And once this happens, it only takes God to help that child and that’s why trying to change your children’s thoughts about life and their attitude towards issues of life in their teens is nothing but damage control!

    Your girls need your 100% love and attention if you truly love her and want her to turn out well! No one should love your children more than you do because you brought them into the world although there are so many parents who don’t love their kids. If you ask me – I don’t know which planet they come from! The world out there is extremely hostile and very tricky! So tricky that an average girl sees what she wants to see in the eyes of her parents (who should lift her up every time life hits her) in the eyes and arms of a complete stranger who more often than not endangers the poor girl and leads her on a most dangerous path!  A few days ago, a 13-year-old girl confessed how her teacher constantly slept with her and assisted her in aborting two pregnancies! She also mentioned how he showered her with so much love like no other person in the world yet she lives with her parents! May such not happen to our daughters!

    • To be continued.
  • Summer Camp for teenage girls underway

    Summer Camp for teenage girls underway

    Teenage school girls  in Lagos State Education districts III and IV, have been registered to participate in a girls’ summer camp next month.

    The camp, which is hosted by a non-governmental organisation (NGO), Ornaments of Grace and Virtue, (OGAV), in collaboration with the two districts, is meant to nurture and empower girls to be independent and self-confident as they grow.

    President of OGAV, Mrs Olubusola Kolade, said the camp, with the theme: “Etiquette,” would feature career guidance, character education, life coaching as well as academic and leadership skills development.

    She said her girls were expected to develop virtues of self-control, fairness, care, good citizenship, self-motivation, punctuality, reliability, creativity, respect, trustworthiness, responsibility and creativity in the month-long camp.

    Being a day-camp, Mrs Kolade said activities would begin from Tuesday, August 4 and end on Thursday, August 27 at the Lagos State Education District III office, Falomo, Ikoyi.

    She expressed confidence in the success of the camp based on the testimonies at the organisation’s first anniversary celebrated with Gbaja Senior Secondary School, Surulere, last month.

    “My girls were so happy by the end of the training, which we started in their school last year.The programme is highly essential for young girls, because it is a mentorship club. My facilitators are well-trained in relating with the girls so everything they need would be provided,” she said.

  • Report cases of abuse, teenage girls advised

    Report cases of abuse, teenage girls advised

    Female teenagers have been advised not to keep quiet should they be abused by their relatives or any other persons.They have also been warned to be wary of relatives who come to them with sweet tongues promising them Eldorado in foreign lands.

    “You must learn to be very cautions,” warned Blessing Ezeala, a Deputy Superintendent of Police (DSP), Festac Area Command of Lagos Police.

    “Some of your relations would come to you promising big business opportunities if you travel with them overseas. Some of them even promise to sponsor your education all through the university. Always be careful and ponder on such proposition before you finally agree. Our findings have shown that, many of these unfortunate ladies, their parents or guardians are deceived because of the harsh economic condition at the home front, and they end up as prostitutes,”

    “Once that happens to you, the hope of a better life is gone”, she added.

    Ezeala addressed female teenagers in secondary schools who gathered for the ‘Femine Rapport’ for girl child and mothers at the Frankids Amusement Park Festac Lagos Friday. The event was courtesy of Youth Advancement Forum, an NGO in conjunction with Soul Mate Industries Limited.

    Though Africa is a male dominated society and its society frowns at women speaking up when abused owing to social stigma, Ezeala however inspired the girls that the 21 century world is fast changing and more powers are being placed on the women folk to fight for their freedom.

    “And that is why I told you earlier to speak up whenever you are abused,” Ezeala continued. “Your parents or relatives may also want to discourage you from speaking up for fear of social stigma, but I tell you the best thing is to let the world know if you go through such experience so that the culprit can be brought to book. Do not feel too shy or intimidated to report to us (police), we are here to help you,” she said.

    Ezeala also admonished parents especially the career ones to develop close relationship particularly with their female children. According to her, children are always willing to share their daily experience with their parents once a rapport has been established. This would ultimately forestall likely occurrence of one’s child being abused since information can be obtained first hand.

    Proprietress Quadrutullahi International School Abule Egba  Mrs Olabisi Odewale, urged  participants to aspire for the top so they can be beneficiaries of scholarships.

    Be it partial or full scholarships, Odewale believes all it takes is self confidence and optimism to get there.

    “Some of you think you need to have special brains to win scholarships; that is wrong. All it takes is to believe in yourself, study very hard and cultivating virtues such as honesty, integrity loyalty and accommodating others,” she noted.

    According to her, scholarships launch the awardee as well as her school into limelight, take off a lot of burden which would have probably be borne by the awardee or her parents and make the awardee a role model, a plus which Odewale believes could also be a window to further opportunities.

    Pastor Gloria Okorocha of New Exodus Ministry Agbara sought parents inclusion in subsequent edition of the event. Nonetheless, she told participants not to allow anybody tamper with God’s future plan for them.

    “God has a plan for you,” Okorocha said noting, “do not allow anybody to destroy it. Do not let it crash. You will definitely get there.”

    The founder of YAF Mrs Olayinka Oluremi Adebayo said the event was the 11th.

    Recalling how YAF started seven years ago, she said: “I attended an all girls school- Anglican Girls Grammar School, Surulere, and I fell in love with my alma mater because of the manner we were all treated then. Ever since, it has always been on my mind to have an NGO that would offer protection to young women. I usually feel bad when I see a young girl being traumatised.”

    Though funding has been her main challenge, she is however happy that the body has been able to impact positively on young female children despite the odds.

    Some of the schools in attendance include: Rock Ville Secondary School Ojo; Hopebay Schools Okoko, Auadruttallahi International School, Abule Egba, and Bamfem Group of Schools Ajangbadi. Others were: gracious Leadway College Ijanikin; Stokan College Iyana Ishasi; Ideal Comprehensive High School Ajangnbadi; Golden Foundation College Afromedia; and Ibuolu College Braacksothers.