Tag: wedlock

  • Deola Sagoe suspends dream of wedlock

    Deola Sagoe suspends dream of wedlock

    Deola Sagoe, daughter of frontline industrialist, Chief Michael Ade-Ojo of Eleganza fame, is renowned for her masterful designs and creative stitches. There is no gainsaying that her artistry with bespoke couture has catapulted her to a pride of place in the comity of world famous fashion designers. But while she enjoys success and acclaim at work, things aren’t so rosy for Deola at the home front. The 51-year-old who effortlessly competes in beauty and poise with her ravishing daughters is under severe pressure to rekindle the flames of love in her life.

    It is no longer news that Deola was in a happy marriage, which produced three kids before it collapsed to irreconcilable differences between her and her ex-husband, Kofi Sagoe. While Kofi has gotten his groove back and moved on with his life, Deola seems to have placed her heart under lock and key.

    It is believed in some quarters that the founder of the House of Deola Sagoe has mellowed with time and is ready to consider marriage again. For a while, rumours were rife that she was ready to walk down the aisle with a certain guy but the wedding plans allegedly crashed like a sandcastle. The sad episode reportedly caused her to recoil from the tumultuous bight of bittersweet love. Consequently, Deola devotes her time and energy to work and her three kids.

  • Unholy wedlock

    Unholy wedlock

    •The country deserves to know why students leapt into the rites of marriage

    A marriage is “the legally or formally recognised union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).” If it is a union between a man and a woman, it then means it is an affair for adults. It is celebrated with fanfare in many places, with elaborate western and traditional ceremonies that sometimes gulp a fortune.

    Although marriage, unarguably the foundational relationship for all society, has been having hiccups in modern times, with divorce rates on the upswing, the bastardisation of the institution got to new lows when some students of Sa’adu Zungur’ Model Primary and Secondary School in Bauchi State decided to be joining themselves in what apparently is unholy matrimony, after the male students would have paid a token as bride price to their intended ‘spouses’  A newspaper reports that “male students paid N500 as dowry to their female counterparts as precondition for their marriages, while classmates of both the ‘grooms and brides’ contribute money for refreshments at the ceremonies usually conducted secretly.” The ‘deal done’, what follows can be left to conjecture. In a school where male and female students study in separate classrooms, this must have come as a rude shock to the school authorities and the Bauchi State government.

    Apparently this practice had been going on for some time; however, the last straw that broke the camel’s back was when a Senior Secondary School 2 (SS2) student (name withheld) organised one such illegal wedding in the school. The ecstasy and noise generated by the illicit union attracted teachers to the scene. Stunned by what they saw, the teachers alerted the school authorities and the principal, Malam Ahmed Zailani, immediately informed the state ministry of education. The deputy governor, Nuhu Gidado, who oversees the education ministry has since ordered the school shut and set up a committee to look into the ugly development “and come up with a detailed and sincere report before the school would be re-opened.”

    We cannot agree less.

    We know that students play many pranks and that as they grow up, they drop some of these pranks. But what the students involved in this matter have done is beyond being dismissed as one of those pranks. As the deputy governor rightly observed, the student’s behaviour only mirrors the degree of moral decadence in the land and it should not be tolerated.  Already, there is so much depravity in the country, especially among youths, particularly students. When people marry, one of the natural privileges is uninhibited intimacy between the couples. Could the students therefore be working towards this with their illegal marriages? Since the marriage by the SS2 student was not the first in the school, it would be interesting to find out how those who had done it before have been coping. Have there been instances where some of the ‘wedded’ students got pregnant? Do they have unfettered access to their spouses, etc? These are some of the questions that the committee would do well to provide answers to.

    We commend the state government for intervening promptly in the matter before the practice begins to spread like bush fire. Students are sent to school to study so as to be able to better their lot in life and also impact their society; not to marry. It would not be out of place though for the government to counsel the students on the need to get their priorities right. Marriage and pregnancy cannot be the focus for students; rather, they should be concerned about how to live a comfortable and meaningful future, a thing which only education, by and large, can guarantee.

  • I have no child outside wedlock, says Ese’s dad

    Charles Oruru, father of the 14-year-old Ese, who was allegedly abducted and forcefully married by Kano-born Yunusa Dahiru (aka Yellow), has said he has no child outside wedlock.

    Mr Oruru, who spoke in his Opolo home in Yenagoa, the Bayelsa State capital, told our reporter that his family would not terminate Ese’s pregnancy.

    The police are prosecuting Yunusa at a Federal High Court in Yenagoa, on five counts of abduction, illicit sex and unlawful carnal knowledge, among others.

    Oruru, who said the family was delighted that the case had gone to court, said Ese’s pregnancy was of primary concern to the family.

    He said: “We are not going to tamper with her pregnancy because that is my grandchild. I have instructed my wife to take care of that pregnancy. Whatever child Ese is carrying will be a great child. The child will one day become the President of this country.”

    Oruru blasted those doubting that his wife, Rose, is Ese’s biological mother.

    He described them as mischief makers.

    There were insinuations in some quarters that Ese was Oruru’s love child and that her biological mother lived in Delta State.

    Others even claimed that Ese once nursed the idea of running away from home to live with her mother before she escaped with Yunusa to Kano.

    But some of the Orurus’ neighbours debunked the insinuations, insisting that Ese is among Rose’s favourite daughters.

    A neighbour, who spoke in confidence, said: “Ese was close to her mother. She was always the one helping her mother in her canteen; maybe that was what exposed her to the Hausa, including Yunusa, who came there to eat.

    “I consider her the kind of child who believes her mother is suffering and does everything possible to help her. Before going to school, she would come to the canteen and return after school hours because that is where they always eat their food.”

    Asked about the controversy on Ese’s mother, Oruru said Rose gave birth to all his children.

    He said he never kept another woman outside wedlock, adding that Rose was pregnant with Ese when he married her traditionally.

    Brandishing a picture of her expectant wife during their traditional marriage, he said: “Ese was born around 2002, after my traditional marriage to my wife on December 28, 2001. My wife was heavily pregnant during the traditional wedding.

    “Ese was born at home because the labour started late at night – around 1am – and there was no means of transportation to take us to hospital. So, my wife asked me to hold her, that she would deliver inside our house.

    “Moreover, my wife was a trained nurse and she worked in Lagos for so many years. So, Ese was delivered without even our neighbours knowing about it. It was not until they heard the cry of a baby in the morning they got to know about it. That was when we were staying at Yenezuegene-Epie. Our last born, a boy, was born in 2005.”

    Oruru narrated how Rose gave birth to all his children.

    He said: “My first daughter, Patricia, was born on October 14, 1991. The second daughter was born in Lagos in 1993; we later lost her. So, you see we normally gave a gap of two years among our children.

    “We came back to Ughelli, Delta State, in 1996. On March 3, 1997, my wife gave birth to another baby girl; we named her Faith. Onome was born in 1999, that is two years later.

    “I am not in women’s business; I don’t know how to do that. I have no child outside wedlock. People can say whatever they like.

    “We gave our children the best of training. If my wife was maltreating Ese and she disappeared because of that, how would she be the same person crying and going all over the place to find her?”

    Oruru warned that the abduction case should not drag for a long time, adding that many minors had disappeared the same way as his daughter.

    He said: “My family is happy about everything. Right from Abuja, they pulled the hijab she wore. Ese was even telling my wife that she would tear it, but I told my wife to keep it as an evidence. We bought clothes for her. She is happy now.

    “I am happy and grateful. I needed my daughter back and God brought her back. I am not the owner of the children; I am only a caretaker.

    “If it was God that took her, it would have meant that God took her. But for this one – someone just came and took away my daughter in broad daylight – it shouldn’t have happened that way.”

  • Uche Jombo celebrates one year of wedlock

    Uche Jombo celebrates one year of wedlock

    FUNNY how time flies as it is now a year that star actress, Uche Jombo secretly got married to her Peurto Rican husband; Kenneth Rodriguez on Thursday, May 16 2012.

    The union came barely a week after the actress denied any marriage plans of getting married only to surprise her fans on returning to Nigeria in June last year with her hubby with a wedding ring to show for it at an event in Lagos to show that she truly was married.

    Uche currently resides in the United States of America with her husband and the couple are said to be having a nice time-out together.