Please forgive my choice of a wooly headline. My temperament is no longer boiling over like a boy’s or young man’s, and, so, I cannot talk about SEX in the open from both corners of the mouth. That is what they do in the United States every 23 April, the nearest of which is about five months away. I am jumping the gun to join the queue over concerns about the way SEX is making animals of many adult men and women in Nigeria today.
Rape is no longer news. It cannot be in a country where women of almost all descriptions, young and old, wives or single, pregnant or not, obtusely fat or twiggy, are exhibiting their bodies for sale in the manner of saying … I AM AVAILABLE. Two reported cases of rape I cannot easily forget are those of a trader who was returning home from the market one evening. The other was that of a night shift nurse in Lagos. The trader and the rapist were neighbours in the village. He often hired him to transport her to the market on his motor cycle, and to bring her back home in the evening. One evening, he detoured to a bush path on their return journey, pretended that the motor cycle engine was faulty, seized her when she dismounted for him to fix the fault, raped her, abandoned her and rode off! Did he think she would not know who raped her or would not report the rape?, I wondered. As for the nurse, she alone was on duty at her health centre. At midnight, she shut the door to the clinic, leaving the lone security man on the grounds, as was the routine. Soon, he came knocking, pretending to be sick. Once he was let in, he seized the nurse and raped her. She feigned consent, and even agreed to be his girlfriend. Police came for him the next evening when they arrived again for duty. A judge jailed him afterwards.
Reports stranger than these are emerging. Masons who came to fix broken utilities rape women or girls who are alone. Fathers intimidate their daughters to have sex with them and, sometimes, make them pregnant. The latest of such deeds involves a father reported to the police by the eldest of three daughters aged 24. Whenever each of the girls became 12 years old, he began to have sex with them and intimidating them with threats of reprisàls if they told. Finally unable to bear it, the eldest reported to the police. Recently, too, a mother told on her husband who had repeatedly defiled their three year old daughter. It is as though a maddening epidemic of sex is upon the land. It would seem sex no longer has any serious meaning to many persons. It doesn’t matter if the partner is a complete stranger or even verified to be HIV positive. The newspapers reported last Saturday that millions more would be HIV positive or get caught in the AIDS web very soon. Condoms have become more expensive. Many persons know they are HIV positive, but do have no qualms about infecting other persons because, as they say, someone else gave it to them, anyway, and, in bowing to the principle of letting oneself go, they should be free to indulge their passion. Other persons have thrown caution to the dogs because they recognise HIV can now be overcome with plant medicines.
National sex day
The foregoing and allied matters belong to the realms of SEX EDUCATION. On April 23 every year, there is a huge SEX talk in the United States which has now grown into such proportions to be called NATIONAL SEX DAY, although the government is not behind it nor had it so declared the date as such. The NATIONAL SEX DAY is the handiwork of health education groups and on- line communities. On this date, they raise questions about sexual health, consent and related questions.
What is sex
From what transpired in Nigeria last Saturday about the prospects of more millions of Nigerians becoming infected with HIV AIDS and other diseases in the sex scourge, I thought of asking the following questions today…
1) What is SEX?
2) During SEX, are there EXCHANGES other than those of physical fluids and sweat freely taken and given across both frontiers?
3) Do these EXCHANGES, seen or not, have physical and psychic impact on both parties?
4) Is any man meant to be a suitable sex partner for any woman , and any woman the same to any man?
5) Can sex with a wrong partner cause failures in personal endeavours, predisposing a partner, for example, to POVERTY or to RICHES or to “non-communicable” diseases
6) Does sex, through invisible threads, bond or weave the participants together, when the bare chest or the man impacts the bare breasts of the woman?
Only frivolous persons do not occasionally bestir themselves for inner- life clarification about the question of physical intercourse surrender between the genders. This question haunts many marriages. Questions are asked over whether one man is meant for only one woman, why women may not have more than one sexual partner when men do, whether a woman is merely a garden on which a man or men sow seeds, or if she is a seed which can be sown far away from her nationality, and why she must give up her family’s surname for another. The questions are endless. So confusing to many is the meaning of the word SEX, and few it must be who end up not making grave mistakes but we make meaning of this conception. We often get it all wrong, as we do with several other concepts, because we situate ourselves as the centre of the world, rather than be content as mere fruits or creatures in it. We do not wish to accept that everything we have been given to enjoy was given for specific purposes. Thus, we so easily confine the gift of SEX to PROCREATION and confuse it with the conception of GENDER, that is MALE and FEMALE. This is apparent when we are invited to state in a form whether we are male or female, that is to state our GENDER, but we are asked instead to state our sex.
My conception of sex began to outgrow its limitation to PROCREATION on earth when I began to relate it with the existence of male and female forms, in realms of existence beyond the material thresholds as scriptural literature guide us.
I accept the fact that the earth is not my home. Who at 75 doesn’t long for the continuation of existence elsewhere when the earth shuts its gates, witholds the dust material which formed our earthly cloak and leaves us to wander elsewhere ? In the conceptions of creation I have followed, it is only on earth that the external cloak of the sojourning man evolved procreative organs and where SEX, as we now know and experience it, can take place. In that Creation conception, all of us were neutral in our forms as we journeyed towards the earth for the purpose we are all here to discover and to fufil, because no endeavour is without purpose and meaning. It was only at a point in the course of this journey that we evolved into a male or a female form. Each person took the decision in the excercise of FREE WILL. As the creation conception goes, there are only two types of ACTIVITY in Creation. One is dense and rough and active. In whoever chose this activity, feminine abilities or characterisation withdrew, and the male form emerged. In those who chose the quiet, preserving and passive Activity of caring and tending, the male abilities withdrew, releasing the female form. The Bible allegorically reports these events in the Adam and Eve story.
Thus, sexual intercourse is an engagement of man’s physical earth body to which he himself, from a higher origin, should not be a SLAVE, allowing himself to be overcome and supressed by what was meant to be his tool. This is unnatural and can only end in spiritual doom for the human spirit is the SEX CAGE. Think about it: your body came into existence through you and lives for as long as you exist inside it, dying when you discard it. So, why should it CONTROL you, why can you not control its sexual greed as you can control alcoholism or food cravings? For many persons, over consumption of RED MEAT and certain foods have been linked to sexual overdrive and withdrawal from them found to solve the problem. This will probably be a subject for the National Sex Day.
Sexual urge
It is natural, though not necessarily for procreation or pleasure, otherwise the creator would not have implanted it in the body. It may, therefore, not be supressed as a natural desire of a healthy and mature adult human body, like food, water, sleep and rest, air, and exercise without dire consequences, including depressive melancholy. However, like all gifts of the Almighty Creator, expression of the sexual urge are to be made under certain conditions. Even in marriage, the rules of engagement must be obeyed, if sex is not to soil body and soul.
Between two consenting parties, the pertinent basis for sexual intercourse is prior complementary inner or spiritual harmony which, in some cases, is striving towards physical union as well. Inner or spiritual harmony refers to the COMPLEMENTARITY of the souls. COMPLEMENTARITY means that one party brings to their union abilities or qualities the other lacks and vice versa. For they are split parts of a specie seeking Fuller value of their existence through the union. Every-one who is familiar with elementary chemistry knows that, under the right condition of pressure and heat, molecules of oxygen and hydrogen, as split parts of water, would seek union to become water. The initial free decision to be male or female, in terms of which Activity they would devote their existence to, led to a separation of the human spirit seed or kernel . A single adamantine law rules the universe. This is why man and woman would forever seek acquaintanceship and relationship with each other, consciously or otherwise. Unfortunately, however, it is not complemented persons, even in marriage, who get involved in sexual intercourse. This leads to serious problems, sometimes.
Exchange of vibrations
This is one of the effects of sexual intercourse. For it is not only physical fluids and sweat that are exchanged. Science and medicine, though conservative about these matters for long, have now come to recognise that everything which exists broadcasts its existence through peculiar RADIATIONS or vibrations. Plants have been shown to rejoice or vibrate harmoniously at the approach of a good gardener, and to wither or to shrink when the one they dislike approaches. Gardeners know that some plants do not grow well when they are planted together. Some may even kill others. This is because their radiations or vibrations do not accord. RADIATIONS do fight RADIATIONS, harm or destroy themselves. Even in the human body, the ENDOCANNABIDIOL SYSTEM which governs the other systems tries to ensure that one system does not diminish another and impose itself on them. Can the exchange of radiations between a man and a woman not become dangerous , therefore, if what they are bringing to their sexual relationships are not complementary but antagonistic vibrations? The Yoruba marriage tradition appears to recognise this and , in its own understanding, tries to symbolically address possible discomfeitures .
The symbolism is in the washing of the bride’s feet right at the entrance of the groom’s family dwelling before she is admitted as a bonafide member of the family by marriage!
In the bedroom, what protection do incompatible partners have from quarrelsome or inhospitable vibrations, even if they are husband and wife? Isn’t it worse for men and women who play around? Imagine a philanderer, man or woman, enveloped in a swamp of quarrelsome and fighting vibrations, harming and disintegrating one another! No man or woman can easily tell what his or her partner is bringing to table until during or after the act.
Growing knowledge
The knowledge of human radiation or vibration has been growing since YURI GELER on television of the 1970s trained his mind on metal spoons women held in their kitchens and he caused them to bend in the hands of those women through the power of his mind. From rabbit and pig farmers, we know that these animals would reject their newborns of a certain age if farmers held them with bare hands. Cats behave likewise. What did human hands impact on those young animals? What comes out of the inhabitants of a house which maintains it in a good condition but which, when withdrawn, such as when the house is uninhabited for some time, causes them to collapse like long abandoned village houses? During and after sexual intercourse, some persons notice that they feel uplifted or drained of energy. Some even hate themselves and swear to not have anything to do with their partners in future. There are stories of men losing their jobs and of their world collapsing after marriage. Some other persons have good stories to tell. A popular Yoruba Oba died about 20 years ago of breast cancer, the disease which killed his wife a few years earlier. Was there a psychic transference of the misfortune? Is spiritual harmony what makes husband and wife to look like siblings after some years of marriage? Does the fate or karma of one affect the other? How does the psychic environment of a man or a woman look like or impact if he or she indulges constantly in playing around? I made a check on-line to see how far human labouratory experience may have broadened in these thoughts, relying on work going on in psychic medicine and energy medicine which are helping to resolve some human health questions Orthodox and many a traditional medicine may stand before, like a toad asking a mountain to move. One of the answers I received suggested that controlled, peer-reviewed evidence are still few regarding whether sexual partners discharge psychic vibrations the way Energy Medicine circles describe the phenomenon. However, there exists a number of personal stories, some exploratory studies and oral tradition of different population groups world wide.
According to an expert in this field:
“Systems such as Reiki, Chakra balancing, Therapeutic Touch, and “bio‑field” healing describe a flow of subtle energy that can be “blocked” or “imbalanced” during intimate contact. Practitioners often say they can feel a “cold” or “jarring” sensation when two people’s energies clash.
“ Some self‑identified psychics claim they can see or sense an aura that brightens, dims or changes color during sex. They may interpret a sudden “darkening” as an antagonistic vibration.
“ A few small studies (e.g., the “Ganzfeld” experiments or early “psychic healing” trials) have looked at whether a person’s physiological state can be influenced by another’s intention, but the results are inconsistent and have not been replicated in a way that convinces mainstream science.
“Books, blogs and YouTube channels that market “energy‑sex” or “soul‑mate” concepts often give vivid, first‑person accounts of feeling “out of sync” or “drained” after a night with a partner they label as “energetically incompatible.”
“Reiki masters and chakra teachers teach that each chakra can be “opened” or “closed” during sex and that a mismatch can cause a “psychic shock.”
“ People like “James Van Praagh”, (though he focuses more on after‑life communication) and newer “intuitive” coaches, sell workshops on “energy clearing for couples.”
“Some holistic health centers offer “bio‑field assessments” (often using devices that measure electromagnetic fields) and claim to detect “energy leaks” after sexual encounters.
“ A handful of published case studies in journals like Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine describe individuals who reported feeling “emotionally drained” after sex with a partner they later described as “energetically mismatched.” These are purely self‑reports.
“The HeartMath Institute has published small trials suggesting that heart‑rate coherence can be shared between people in close contact, but the leap from “shared heart rhythm” to “psychic vibration discharge” is not made in the data.
“ Persons who believe their “energy” has been siphoned, may feel unusually tired, irritable, or uneasy after sex. Labeling a partner as “energetically incompatible” can create doubt, jealousy, or withdrawal, sometimes leading to break‑ups. Expecting a negative energetic exchange can amplify ordinary post‑coital feelings (e.g., mild hormonal drop) into a perceived “drain.”
The future
By April 2026, we may be wiser in these matters. One of the research areas which may make this happen, according to an expert, is,
– “Parapsychology. Practitioners say it is the field that investigates alleged psychic phenomena, including “energy transfer, ” but It is considered a fringe discipline and is not part of mainstream biology or medicine.
Another is energy psychology. The practice is a subset of alternative psychology that proposes “thought fields” or “bio‑fields” can be manipulated. It is not recognized by the American Psychological Association as evidence‑based.
Yet another is Biofield research, a small, interdisciplinary area that looks at weak electromagnetic fields generated by living organisms. Some grant‑funded studies explore whether these fields can be detected or influenced, but they do not support the idea of “antagonistic psychic vibrations” during sex”.
