Category: Life – The Midweek Magazine

  • Nigerians urged to use radio for peace

    A group, Media Rights Agenda (MRA), has called on Nigerians to use the radio as a tool for building peace across political, economic, religious and ethnic divides, particularly during the ongoing general elections to elect a new set of leaders.

    MRA made the call in a statement  by its Programme Director, Mr. Ayode Longe, to  commemorate the eighth edition of the World Radio Day, an annual event celebrated on February 13. It was observed in line with the theme of the celebration: Dialogue, Tolerance and Peace.

    The yearly event commemorates the establishment of the United Nations’ Radio (UNR) on February 13, 1946. It has since been set aside as a day to celebrate radio as a medium to improve international cooperation among broadcasters and encourage networks and community radio alike to promote access to information, freedom of expression and gender equality on the airwaves.

    According to Longe, “Radio has touched billions of lives around the world positively and made a lot of impact. And with the convergence of technology, this impact is expanding. “The world needs to explore every avenue to strengthen radio and make it a tool for dialogue, tolerance and peace, in line with the theme for the 2019 celebration of the World Radio Day,” he said.

    The world, including Nigeria, Longe said, has witnessed so many crises. “The world needs peace through tolerance and dialogue and radio being the cheapest and farthest reaching means of communication is so much suited to bring peace to the world. Technological advancement has made radio portable and its signals accessible from remote areas, using different gadgets and devices, including the most basic mobile phones available today,” he added.

    He identified the importance of radio in many different ways and how it can be used to promote peace, noting that it is a medium that is being used to foster participation and engagement in local languages; it is the first medium people turn to for information and updates about just anything, including natural disasters, wars, as well as communal, national and political activities of all hues.

    He added: “Radio is unarguably the widest reaching medium of communication in Nigeria, as it is in most other parts of the world. It has become cheap  to acquire and maintain, very portable and is a highly ubiquitous means of receiving real time information, entertainment and education.”

    Longe described this year’s theme as very appropriate, saying it is coming at about the time of Nigeria’s general elections, which have frequently been characterised by violence in the past.

    He stressed that for free, fair and peaceful elections in Nigeria, there is need for tolerance from everybody, especially the political actors and their most ardent supporters, adding that dialogue will enhance understanding and tolerance, which will ultimately bring about peace, and that the radio is best positioned to facilitate this.

    He called on Nigerians, particularly broadcasters, to use radio to douse tension and ensure peace, reminding them that radio has the potential to stoke violence and as well as to be an instrument for building peace.

  • Benefits of failure

    In my third year in the university as a student of law, I failed a course –  Law of Torts.  This was a four-unit course and this incident ruined my cumulative grade point.

    I felt like a failure. I do not remember the exam being tough or being difficult. In fact, I remember enjoying writing the paper. So, finding out that I failed was a huge shock. Well, at first, my parents were upset with me, but I will never forget that they took a six-hour drive to see me in school about two weeks after I had gotten the result for this exam. They didn’t come alone. They even came with gifts. This was the most shocking act they had ever done for me at that time.

    They came to encourage me, remind me of my potential and even help me develop strategies on how to do better when I re-sat the exam. This was the first time I ever failed an exam and was asked to re-sit it in all my academic life.

    Throughout the next semester, I made friends with the smartest student in the course I had failed, and every weekend she gave me her notes which I read and used to form my notes till it was time for me to take the exam with my ‘junior’s’

    I matched gallantly into the exam hall, took a seat in front and finished the exam in no time. When the results were released I scored an A in this course I had previously failed, not just this but the fact that I took an extra course added extra units to my total and this singular course revived my previously dwindling cumulative grade point average.

    This experience marked my induction into the hall of fame of failure.

    In this hall you would find many notable people, some you may have heard of like J. K. Rowling – author of the Harry Porter Series, Richard Branson – Founder Virgin Group, Bill Gates – Founder Microsoft, Elon Musk – Founder Tesla and of course my humble self.

    What is it about failure that makes us reject it, and fear it?

    It is simply a matter of perception. Our society has a habit of stigmatising failure and tagging people as failures.

    This stigma has made many of us blind to the benefits of failure, and in our fear of failure many of us have chosen ordinary, mediocre lives, where we are stuck in our comfortable routine. We have decided not to explore our greatness and told ourselves ‘what if I fail’, I say ‘what if you don’t’?  Or better still,  ‘what if you fail and learn from your failures’?

    For our perception on failure to change we must begin to see failure as feedback. It is that simple, failure only teaches us how not to do it, and so it brings us closer to the answer of how best to do it.

    Below are a few benefits of failure

    It encourages innovation: Once upon a time everyone agreed that the only way to cross the Atlantic was through ships, the Wright brothers believed that there were other ways. This belief cost them many painful failures and for every time they failed, they were able to learn something new about how their planes would fly better. What can you learn from your past failures that will change the world?

    It builds resillience: Can you believe that J. K. Rowling, whose books have sold over 500 million copies and movies, have grossed hundreds of millions, got rejected by 12 publishing houses?

    The first Harry Porter book was rejected by 12 publishing houses, one rejection is enough for someone to be tagged a failure but 12?  Rowling remained resilient and refused to give up. At the 13th try, she got a publisher that agreed to publish her work and today she is the acclaimed writer we all know about.

    Gives feedback: Failure is the best, most honest, and rawest form of feedback anyone can get. It is much easier to learn from your failure than to ask other people who don’t know half of what you went through for feedback.

    Embrace your failures, ask yourself what lessons you can learn, what you should have done and what you shouldn’t have done.

    For parents/ guardians

    Kill the insistent need to compare your child with the Joneses. The child already feels bad enough to have fallen short. Your role is not to put him even further down. Instead,  it is to tell him that failure is not the end and doesn’t define him and that he can rise above. Remember the first time the child tried to walk? That exactly is how life is. It’s a game of learning to walk by falling till you can walk perfectly.

     

     

     

     

    FOR TEACHERS: Teach children to be creative by showing them how they can learn from what others may tag a failure, as a teacher you play a nurturing role in unlocking that child’s genius.

    FOR THE ADULTS: Always be on the look-out for lessons, stop embracing mediocrity because you are scared of failure, the fear of failure has killed many dreams. J. K. Rowling said, “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”

    EMPLOYERS: Try something different by asking that prospective employee to tell you about the time they failed and how they overcame it or the lessons learnt from the experience. You don’t just want to employ someone with head knowledge, be sure to employ those that have the grit and creativity to get the job done.

    I always joke that a good success story is only interesting to hear when it is spiced with trickles of failure, no one really wants to hear how everything went well for you. So if you want to have a good success story, be ready to have a good failure story.

    To know more about how you can get coached on the benefits of failure you can follow me on Instagram @coachgbemz or send a mail to gbemieobadan@gmail.com

    Till next week I wish you all the wonderful and amazing benefits of failure.

     

  • Lagos Biennial gets curators

    The Àkéte Art Foundation has announced Antawan I. Byrd, Hansi Momodu-Gordon and Tosin Oshinowo as curators for the Lagos Biennial 2019.

    They will produce the biennial’s curatorial framework encompassing exhibitions, performances, publishing projects and public programmes, according to a statement by the biennial’s founding director Folakunle Oshun.

    The Lagos Biennial will hold from October 26 till November 30  on   Lagos Island.

    The three curators come from diverse backgrounds with a wealth of international experience across the fields of contemporary art, architecture, and design. “All three curators have strong ties to the Lagosian arts and culture sector. Oshinowo is  based in Lagos and is a lead architect at cmDesign Atelier (cmD+A). Through her architectural and design practice, she has established herself as an innovative thinker and leading authority on the city’s built environment.

    Byrd, an assistant curator of photography at the Art Institute of Chicago, and Momodu-Gordon, an independent curator based in London, have both lived and worked in Lagos during pivotal points of transition in the city’s contemporary art sector. Both were curators at the Centre for Contemporary Art, Lagos, and have worked consistently with some of the city’s leading artists and institutions. I’m excited that the three curators have decided to focus on the intersections of art, architecture, and urbanism for the 2019 edition. Through this focus, the second edition of the biennial is poised to engage pertinent socioeconomic and political issues stemming from the astonishing shifts in the city’s spatial elaboration over the past two decades. I’m really looking forward to seeing what they develop,” Oshun noted.

    The curators were introduced to Lagosians on Saturday, November 3, 2018 during a kick-off event attended by the press and members of the city’s arts community; the event was held at the Omenka Gallery in Ikoyi, Lagos.

    As announced at the outset by the biennial’s project manager Oyinda Fakeye, the convening was designed to allow the curators to introduce preliminary ideas and propositions related to the next edition in order to get feedback from the public early on – prior to consolidating their plans.

    Oshun added that the curators would continue to develop the programme for this year’s edition through the end of the year, before sharing additional details in early in the year.

    “However, they have already landed on a title for the forthcoming edition, How to Build a Lagoon with Just a Bottle of Wine? The title is adapted from the poem, A Song For Lagos by writer Akeem Lasisi. During the kick-off event, the curators framed the title as a provocation for artists and the public to meditate on the history and present makeup of city’s built environment.

    For the curators, the title conjures the impossible or herculean, which speaks to the city’s “can-do” spirit in the face of seemingly insurmountable social, political, and economic obstacles just as it alludes the nascent state of the biennial itself as a platform,” Oshun noted.

  • Read your way forward

    Benjamin Franklin was one of the founding fathers of the United States and he had several achievements to his credit, such as being an author, printer, political theorist, scientist, statesman and diplomat. Not only was he said to have exemplified the emerging America, he also played a foundational role in the definition of the values upon which the nation was build. It is, therefore, amazing to note that he had less than two years of formal education. His father couldn’t afford to send him to school beyond that level, so, he practically read himself to his achievements. Benjamin Franklin was referred to as a voracious reader and several books and articles have been written about his personal library.

    Another icon that is worthy of attention is Michael Faraday. As in the case of Benjamin Franklin, Michael Faraday had only the most basic education, after which he educated himself. At the age of fourteen, he became an apprentice to a local bookbinder and bookseller and was reported to have read several books during his seven-year apprenticeship. After his apprenticeship, he attended scientific lectures delivered by Humphry Davy, one of the leading scientists of his days. Michael Faraday took notes from the lectures and later bound his notes into a three-hundred-page book and sent it to Davy who was really impressed. When the need arose, Davy employed Faraday to work for him and the rest is history; of course, we know that Michael Faraday later made major discoveries such as electromagnetic induction, diamagnetism and electrolysis.

    If we examine the lives of several other successful people, we will discover that they all have something in common- reading. Let us adopt a common sense approach here. We expect a studious student to excel but, if a student does not study for his/her examination, we assume failure is imminent. Hence, whether consciously or unconsciously, we equate studying or reading with success.  Again, most people would agree that life is a life-long school. How is it then that we don’t consider it necessary to read in order to deal with our daily challenges? Do you think you are the first person in your position? Do you think no one has ever gotten to where you are? Of course not! There are books on almost every topic or career that there is. When last did you read a book to update your information?

    You don’t know how much you don’t know until you open up yourself to more information. I used to think that being wise means knowing everything, until I came across a passage in my favorite book which says that when you give instruction to a wise person, he becomes even wiser. This means that “knowing” is not what makes us wise, but identifying what we don’t know, being humble enough to admit it and having the good sense to seek it out. How did you perform in 2018? Do you sincerely think you used the highest quality of information to manage your affairs? If you did, do you suppose that information will be sufficient to give you better chances in 2019? If you desire a better result than you had last year, you need to broaden your knowledge base.

    Another value of reading is that it conditions our thoughts. According to Less Brown, psychologists say that 20 – 30 thousand thoughts go through our minds every day. Since our dominant thoughts determine the results we see around us, it is best that we feed our minds with productive materials in 2019.

    Thanks for reading my article today. I would really love to hear from you. So, do share your views with me by sending SMS to 07034737394, visiting www.olanreamodu.com and following me on twitter @lanreamodu. Remember, you are currently nothing compared to what you can become. This will be your year, if you want it to be!

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • Ode to art curator

    Assistant Editor (Arts) OZOLUA UHAKHEME writes on the life and times of the Centre for Contemporary Art (CCA) founding Artistic Director, Olabisi Silva, who died on February 12, in Lagos after a protracted battle with cancer. She will be buried tomorrow after a funeral mass at Trinity Hall, Victoria Island, Lagos.

    The celebrated independent contemporary African art curator, the late Bisi Silva, 57, returned home after an academic sojourn abroad with a strong desire to enrich the intellectual content of contemporary visual art and artists. That was in 2000.

    She partnered founder, Mydrim Art Gallery, Ikoyi Lagos, Mrs. Sinmidele Adesanya, to run the Institute of Visual Art and Culture (IVAC), a precursor to Centre for Contemporary Art, Lagos (CCA). The platform’s activities, IVAC Talks, were more of intellectual discourse.

    Among speakers at the events were Katy Deepwell, Edie Chambers, the Zambian painter William Miko and South African art historian Colin Richards.

    Seven years later, the late Bisi re-engineered her plans to reposition contemporary art. This gave birth to the CCA in Yaba, Lagos. The centre is aimed at promoting research, documentation and exhibitions related to contemporary art in Africa and abroad. She took the unfamiliar path to raise awareness for contemporary art by organising art exhibitions skewed towards installation, mixed media, and photography, among others.

    Her choice of artists for exhibition at CCA was also informed by these media as well as her preparedness to embrace the new thinking. Soon, the centre became one of the leading art centres in Nigeria as well as choice venue for young artists, especially those who can experiment.

    Bisi, who studied Languages and Foreign Civilisation at University of Dijon, France, between 1985 and 1989, returned to Camden Arts Centre, North London as arts administrator.

    She had her primary education at St. John’s Nursery and Primary School, Onipanu, Lagos but studied at Lowther College, North Wales, UK, for her secondary education. Her  interests were travel and culture. The passion for culture influenced her to enrol for a Masters in Visual Arts Administration: Curating and Commissioning of Contemporary Art at Royal College of Arts, UK in 1993. Her thesis was on Black (Visibility) in the visual arts: Looking Back and Moving Forward.

    She recalled: “When I relocated to Lagos in 2002, I couldn’t find a space that would allow me to develop this expanded notion of curatorial practices. Most of the galleries were commercial and as far as I knew, there were no non-profits.”

    In her 17 years of practice in Nigeria, she focused on working with emerging and mid-career artists. She was a good orator, though with some oyinbo (foreign) accent. Her fluency in French language was handy for her to navigate the global art community. Bisi’s contact list is one of the richest among the galleries, to the extent that even government cultural agencies always use her network to spread information to stakeholders.

    CCA’s first major show was Lemi Ghariokwu’s solo exhibition, which included the late Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s (AbamiEda) album sleeve designs dating back to the 70s. Apart from regular exhibitions, Bisi executed some important projects that further sold Nigerian art to the globe. Apart from being co-curator of The Progress of Love, a transcontinental collaboration across three venues in US and Nigeria between October 2012 and January 2013, co-curator of J. D. ‘Okhai Ojeikere: Moments of Beauty, she also co-curated the following art events: the second Thessaloniki Biennale of Contemporary Art, Greece, Praxis: Art in Times of Uncertainty’ in September 2009; Dakar Biennale in Senegal 2006; and in collaboration with the Portuguese art critic Isabel Carlos, she selected artists for the third Artes Mundi prize in Wales. She also curated Contact Zone: Contemporary Art from West and North Africa October 2007 and an exhibition titled Telling … Contemporary Finnish photography in the Seventh Biennial of African Photography in Bamako in November 2007.

    In October 2014, she launched a pioneering initiative that published over 200 compelling photographs from Ojeikere’s vast archive spanning over six decades of Nigeria’s history. It explored themes ranging from traditional hairstyles to sartorial portraits and architectural studies, a stunning collection of high-quality black-and-white photographs, a collection of critical essays, an in-depth interview with the artist, as well as an updated exhibition history, bibliography, and timeline of Ojeikere’s career.

    The book is a major contribution to the history of African photography. Contributors included artists Jide Adeniyi-Jones and Don Barber, art historians Antawan I. Byrd, Erin Haney, IkemOkoye, and curators Aura Seikkula and Bisi Silva.

    A year later, she was appointed Artistic Director, Bamako Encounters Biennale of African Photography, Mali, with the theme: Telling Time. It was the biennale’s 10th anniversary.

    She founded Asiko International Art School to give access to information that could lead to meaningful dialogue, exchange and collaboration. And the school which is nomadic in nature has engaged about 80 participants from 15 countries.

    No doubt,Bisi’s large tribe of fans will miss the quintessential curator who until death, has strong opinions on most artists and art issues, sometimes to the extreme of being pessimistic about the dysfunctional state of the nation’s culture agencies. While many felt she opened fresh vistas for development of Nigerian art, others thought she brought strange ideas that insist on ‘stuff that is not art to be art’

    Until her death, Bisi was on the editorial board of N Paradoxa, an international feminist art journal and was the guest editor for the Africa and African Diaspora Issue of N.Paradoxa (January 2013), @ Lagos, Nigeria. She has written on contemporary art for international publications, including Art Monthly, Untitled, Third Text, M Metropolis, Agufon and for newspapers, such as ThisDay.

    She was in the league of renowned curators, such as Okwui Enwenzor and Olu Oguibe.

    Bisi’s death leaves an incredibly empty hole that will be difficult to fill. US-based Nigerian art scholar, Prof. Dele Jegede, said this of the late Bisi: “To have done so much to place Nigeria on the world map is not to have died. She did not die who recorded remarkable deeds with relatively little in very difficult, even stressful and underappreciated contexts. She is alive who breathed a new life to visual culture and empowered authors to become collectors of ideas and propagators of individuated texts. Bisi, you did not die; you simply could not; cannot. It is admittedly difficult to wrap my brain around the indisputable fact that direct access to you is now permanently denied. But, your work continues to immortalise you. What to do without you in those critical spaces where you’ve always loomed? That’s too cruel a fate to contemplate!”

    Former Director, Goethe Institut, Lagos, Marc André Schmachtel, who worked with Bisi for many years in Lagos was sad but urged the artists and CCA to keep her legacy alive. He recalled: ‘’A few months ago, I spoke to her. She was still in the hospital in Hamburg and her voice was weak. She complained about the German food and was looking forward to get back to Lagos. But, she had so many plans! Now she is gone, a terrible loss for her family and for the Nigerian and international art world. The energy she had! She needed it as well, to break into a male-dominated Nigerian art world and to establish the CCA as the leading art centre of the region. Over the years of working with her, my respect for her achievements and her resolution grew bigger and bigger. I don’t know the artist she didn’t know and didn’t have an opinion on. There is so much more to say about her and I hope better skilled people than me will do this.”

    If you called Bisi a feminist or an apostle of gender parity, especially in the art, you were right. She saw that the narrative of visual art had been constructed largely around the male artist at the expense of female artists, who are not visible. However, she was glad that despite this lopsidedness, most of the leading art galleries and events in Lagos were run by women, believing that these ‘’emerging female run outfits would reverse the tone of the narrative’’.

    Notwithstanding her pessimism about creative industry, she was never found wanting when the opportunity presented itself to promote art and artists outside this nation’s shores. In fact, she was an incredible ambassador of Nigeria on the globe. She demonstrated this at many major art events in Paris, Dakar, Bamako, Jo Burg and Abidjan, among others, where her views on global art issues were held in high esteem.

  • Expert seeks support for people living with disabilities 

    Hope for Now International President Dr. Iwebuike Nwaesei has urged the Federal Government to provide incentives for business owners to employ persons with disabilities.

    Nwaesei said this on the sidelines of a seminar and workshop for stakeholders and care givers on Persons Living with Disabilities (PLWDs) organised by Hope for Now  International at the Igando, Lagos.

    The event was attended by care givers, environmentalists, development experts, and volunteers, which featured distribution of free food items, clothing, shoes and other household items to beggars at Igando, Lagos.

    He said Nigeria has 25 million persons with one form of disability or the other and that this huge population could yield huge dividends, if efforts were put in place to engage them in activities that are profitable and productive.

    Nwaesei commended President Muhammadu Buhari for signing the Discrimination Against Persons with  disabilities  (Prohibition) Act, 2018 into law, saying the law will bring relief to PLWDs.

    He said providing employment opportunities for PLWDs, increasing their access to education and positive attitude toward PLWDs was germane, and that it should be given priority.

    He noted that the government could work with private sector players by giving them tax holidays and support system so that they could accommodate a certain percentage number of PLWDs in their work place.

    Nwaesei stressed that there were many skilled and educated PLWDs, who have the capacity and competence to make a difference within their profession but are faced with all forms of discrimination.

    “The government can equally encourage business owners to employ PLWDs and their salary will be shared between the government and the private sector players and that will make it convenience for the business owners to accommodate as many PLWDs as possible,” he said.

    He added: “I am sympathetic to the plight of PLWDs in our society as they are faced with age-long cultural superstition that they are the cause of their disabilities. They are marginalised, alienated, thus, its requires the state institution to address this trend and help them lead a better life.”

    He cited the United States Disability Act  promulgated in 1973, saying its outlawed discrimination of PLWDs in employment in public and private organisations, noting that we must make our law work for PLWDS and integrate them into the core society.

     

  • Hertitude for Lagos Theatre Festival

    Hertitude is a star feature at the Lagos Theatre Festival(LTF), which runs March 4 to 10 at various venues around Lagos.

    Written and directed by Kesiena C. Obue, a fresh comer into the LTF family, Hertitude will be staged from March 8 to 10 at Kongi’s Harvest Art Gallery, Freedom Park, old Prison Ground, Lagos.

    While it holds once at 7.30pm on March 8, it will run twice (4.30pm and 7.30pm) on March 9 and at 5pm on March 10.

    When their single mother suffers a debilitating heart attack, three sisters, Kesiena, Rume and Ogor reunite one more time. The reunion at Rume’s private club becomes an explosive peeling of many years of latent feminine siblings’ angst.

    Rume (Maryann Ivy) is a club owner, a ‘Madam’ and a pimp, who bemoans the emotional deprivation and mental abuse she suffered in the hands of her mother. Kesiena (Uche Chika Elumelu), an intelligent woman with a first-class science degree, now only lives as a kept woman for her high society billionaire husband. Ogor (Martha Ehinome Orhiere); the third sister is Nollywood’s sweetheart with a seemingly perfect work and marital life.

    Past resentments bubble to the surface as the sisters are forced to deal with their individual demons, the pressures of society’s arbitrary formulations of womanhood, the performance of social media fakery and all this while coping with their mother’s ill health and eventual demise. A series of betrayals eventually disrupts their already dysfunctional lives in a play that also takes the stage with dance, music and sass.

    Playwright Kesiena C. Obue challenges the permutations of feminine realities in contemporary Nigerian metropolitans like Lagos.  The lid is taken off the familiar ba-dum-bum of social life in the city, to reveal an ugliness that is at once gut wrenching, redeeming and beautiful.

    Can Beauty and Ugly coexist? Can one be both strong and vulnerable? Can a thing be perfectly imperfect or imperfectly perfect? Is a right intent for a bad deed justifiable? Who gets to decide what is right and what is wrong? These are by far the most intriguing questions; the playwright wrestles with in brilliant, entertaining staging.

    Set in a private night club – Hertitude is a metaphor for society’s hypocritical hub of immorality. As each sister struggles to deal with despair, betrayal, loneliness and failure, Hertitude questions the permutations of our social and private realities.

    The Promise of Hertitude:

    Hertitude, produced by ‘Kesservier Vanille productions’ and running as part of the British Council supported Lagos Theatre Festival, is a refreshing voice for Nigerian women, coming from a young female Nigerian playwright. In the trail of legendary playwrights like Zulu Sofola (The Wizard of Law) and American Susan Lori-Parks (TopDog/UnderDog) Kesiena C. Obue bristles with talent, skills and guts. She comes as a writer/director for the stage and film. To date she has written and directed three of her own plays, premiering at the Wole Soyinka Theater, University of Ibadan.  She has also written for Terra Kulture – Fela and the Kalakuta Queens, and, Waka! The Musical! With degrees in Theater, Film and Microbiology,  Kesianaia also a trained filmmaker, and has written, directed and produced three short films.

  • ‘Nigeria not ready for woman president’

    Award-winning author and scholar Prof Akachi Ezeigbo is a woman of many parts. She has been a journalist, literary critic, novelist, human rights activist, essayist and administrator. Mrs Ezeigbo is worried about the country as the general elections are expected to begin on Saturday. Appointed professor of English in 1999, she headed the Department of English, University of Lagos in 1997 and 1998, and intermittently till 2009. The Prof has since retired and relocated to the Federal University, Ndufu-Alike, Ebonyi State. But, she has continued to write and mentor young lecturers/students. In this interview with EVELYN OSAGIE, she speaks on her voyage into writing, the elections and two of her new books, which will soon be out.

    My voyage into writing

    I grew up in a loving and fairly well-to-do family of enlightened, educated and Christian parents who raised six children. My parents believed in girl-child education and so trained their four daughters and two sons. I had all the advantages I needed to work hard and do well in school. I also attended excellent schools in the Eastern Region (as it was called then). For tertiary education I attended University of Lagos and University of Ibadan. These vicarious experiences paved the way for becoming a writer.

    I have been writing since my secondary school days. But I began writing seriously at the undergraduate level, at the University of Lagos in the 1970s. I published my first short story as a Year 1 student in the then Spear Magazine, which was published by Daily Times. I was paid £10 for the story. It was the first time I earned money as a writer. I was excited and encouraged. The title of the story is The Call of Death. So you can see that I have been writing for a long time: over 40 years!

     

    My over 50 years experience

    in writing

     

    Oh, it’s been a wonderful experience. I have published many books in many genres – novels, poetry, plays, short story and children’s literature. I have also published academic books and papers in scholarly journals. I am blessed to have had a fulfilled life as a writer and published locally and internationally. My work has been translated into Swahili, Xhosa, German and French.

     

    Secret behind getting publishing deals

     

    Initially, especially in the 1980s and 1990s, it was difficult to get publishing deals. That was understandable, because I was an unknown writer who had not made a name or mark. But I had a break in 1990 when I signed a publishing deal with Heinemann of UK and Karnak House of London. I was living in London then as a Visiting Commonwealth Fellow at School of Oriental and African Studies (SOAS), University of London. Heinemann even paid me, first after commissioning me and secondly after I submitted the manuscripts. I have two titles with them in the JAWS series published in 1992 and 1994. Pearson Education took over from Heinemann and publishes my books now. They pay royalties twice a year: June and December. Karnak House published my two collections of short stories in 1992 and 1994 also.

    In Nigeria, I have many publishers including Lantern Books, University Press PLC, The Book Company, etc. So, the secret is to persevere and never give up – and to write well.

     

    Peak of my writing career

     

    The peak of my writing was the period of some 17 years (between 1990 and 2007) when I lived for some years in the UK, South Africa, Germany and back in the UK on Visiting or Research Fellowships. Most of my writing was done at this time. It was the most productive period of my life.

     

    My experience as a judge

    of literary prizes

     

    We have more writers writing today. And quite a number of them are writing well. In fact, they are trying to be up to date, by reading what is new in poetry, fiction and play. I am really impressed, and I think Nigeria is doing well in terms of literature and I wish the country would take its position in every area of life, because we have the human resources. I am very proud of our writers. As for the younger writers, they are coming up, and they are doing well. I just came back from the UK and I bought a new book, titled: Stay with me, by a young Nigerian writer. The book was published in UK, and she writes well. I think our writers are doing well and need to be encouraged.

     

    Marrying writing and teaching careers with family life

     

    It is easier to be an academic and a creative writer than, say, be a lawyer or medical doctor and a writer. You see, teaching/lecturing and writings are symbiotic. One reinforces the other. They blend well. They are like two people in a good marriage. They support each other. Perhaps that is why many teachers or lecturers are writers. It is also easy to be both a literary critic and a literary artist. So both professions have worked for me.

    As for family life, I discovered that being a teacher gave me the opportunity and the knowledge to take care of my family and help my children in their education. And I must add that being married to an academic and a professor also contributed to my ability to combine these roles in a way that none destabilised the others. It was difficult sometimes, of course, but I was able to manage well enough. The secret includes one being properly organised.

     

     

    Thoughts on election

    and violence

     

    We have so many problems in the past, as a people, we really need to get together. Our leaders ought to do better than they are doing. The country needs to move forward. I want our people to know that election is not a ‘do-or-die’ thing. If you are not elected, please do not take it like a challenge or something that would make you to encourage violence.  I think what we need in this country is peace, and we need fairness and justice in every sphere of life and even in politics, and I want to encourage the electorate to make sure they vote for those they are sure would be able to take care of things in the country. Those that are honest and competent should be voted in. That is what I believe in. I want a fair and free election.

     

    My take on Nigeria’s readiness for female president

     

    No! Not yet! Let’s not deceive ourselves. Nigeria is not ready for a female president. You see, ours is still a very traditional and conservative society. Women are still largely marginalised, devalued and ignored. Things are changing, no doubt, but rather slowly. Many people in Nigeria, including women, still think that women should be and remain in the background. Some men do not trust women and would not give them a chance to excel or even try to reach the top. This could be a result of their upbringing or religion or even cultural tradition, which insists that women should be seen and not be heard. The obstacles facing women seem formidable. But they can be tackled through providing women good education. Education is the key! Parents, especially mothers, must ensure that their daughters receive the best education both informal and formal education. A well educated woman is a force that cannot be destroyed, intimidated or devalued. She knows her right and will fight for it everywhere: at home and in public, and at the workplace.

    So, let us not worry about the Presidency for now. Let us not distract ourselves with that now because most men in this country today will not support a female president. We know there are some religious bigots who oppose the idea of a woman being a head of state and ruling over men (as they put it). And, let me tell you, many women will not vote for a female president either!  So, let us educate every girl child, every woman in this country. Let us teach our daughters about self-respect, self-actualisation,  self-confidence and hard work. At the same time, let every mother teach her son or sons to be women friendly, to respect women and see them as equals, as partners in nation building. Then we can hope to have strong and determined female presidents in the future. Examples abound in other countries: Germany, United Kingdom, New Zealand, etc, where women are presidents or prime ministers. And they are doing well. These are strong, confident, intelligent and hardworking women who feel comfortable working with men, indeed with everybody.

     

     New books in the offing

     

    Yes. I have continued to write. I have always had a passion for writing. Writing is my life. However, I have slowed down on account of my doctors’ advice. I have some two or three books that will be published in the first quarter of this year, 2019, by University Press PLC, the foremost publisher. Poetry collection: Mixed Legacies, and collection of short stories: Magic Breast Bags. You will know when they come out. There will be an announcement soon. Wait for it! (Laugh.)

     

     

     My advice to young writers on piracy and ‘unfriendly’ publishers

     

    There are options. The e-book is real; you can publish with Amazon, even though you don’t make much money when you publish with them. But it is an avenue to publishing on the internet. Another reason may be because they are not writing well. Some publishers may not publish it. I also know of many publishers that are not publishing because of the economy. Publishing is capital intensive, and when you bury capital in a book that does not sell, the publisher is not happy. The publisher would not make money, but this should not discourage anybody who has talent, and want to write. And when we talk about talent, it has to do with hard work and inspiration. Hard work is very essential in writing, and you don’t give up. If you have passion for writing I believe that one day you would write well. You should not be in a haste to publish.

  • Mbanefo gets awards for charity

    Anambra State Commissioner for Diaspora Affairs, Indigenous Artwork Culture and Tourism, Mrs Sally Mbanefo, has been honoured in Awka, the state capital,  for her outstanding humanitarian services.

    The award organised by a Canadian-leading Christian Magazine, Miles Magazine and Media Inc, also honoured 15 others.

    Mrs. Mbanefo expressed her appreciation for the award. Quoting John F Kennedy, she said: “If a free society cannot help the many who are poor, it cannot save the few who are rich.”

    She noted that it had always been her desire to serve humanity.

    Mrs Mbanefo said The Sally Mbanefo Foundation(TSM) was born out of the resolution she made to herself and to God after her 31 challenging years of high-flying jobs to give something to the poor.

    She stated that the TSM has contributed to and partnered other international non-governmental organisations (NGOs) on numerous charitable causes ranging from free medical mission, education and others.

    She commended the Miles Group for making available and affordable the water filter equipment.

    “The water filter is second to none. It has an excellent filtering mechanism, has the capacity to deal with harmful bacteria, and protozoan cyst and makes drinking water safe, compared to most sachet and table water,” she said.

    She restated TSM’s commitment to collaborate with the Miles Group to launch mobile clinic in the rural communities in the state.

    The Publisher of Miles Magazine Bishop Don Ifepe said the award was an opportunity to bring people together yearly to celebrate the Easterners.

    Bishop Ifepe said having made a lot of impact in Canada, he had  come home to help tell the story of the Igboman to the world through the magazine, which is distributed in seven countries.

    “The eastern race is the engine that fuels a lot of sectors of Nigerian economy, social life and other areas like politics, business and movies,” he said.

    He noted that it is an opportunity to launch the water-for-life project that will bring NdiAnambra good clean water.

    “I went all round the world searching for company that will make the water filter equipment affordable for the common man, schools, communities, hospitals and places that couldn’t afford clean water everyday who end up buying pure water.That is why this year’s stars from the east award night is all about the project of water for life,” he said.

    Other recipients of the award included Senator Victor Umeh, Igwe Emeka Ilouno and Helping Hand Foundation.

    Mrs Mbanefo was also honoured with African Women of Excellence award at Johannesburg in South Africa by the African Union and Diaspora African Forum.

    The award was in honour of the contributions of African women to charity, struggle for political, social and economic independence at various levels with excellence.

    Mrs Mbanefo said the award was not given to her because she was the best in Nigeria or because of her 31 years of experience in her high-flying jobs, but because of the small part everybody had played in delivering the African promise of being our brothers’keeper.

    “I vividly remember Dr Nelson Mandela, the late Madiba, who, in 1963, said I fought black domination and white domination.What is he trying to teach us here? That domination of any kind is not acceptable no matter who is concerned. Mandela also made us appreciate the famous speech of Martin Luther King in which he said, ‘I have a dream that one day, people will be judged by the content of their character and not by the colour of their skin’. This is the African dream we all desire and it is my prayer that we live up to this dream. So, let us celebrate African’s diversity, African’s inclusiveness and our humanity because it costs nothing .

    “What makes us African? Am I African by the way I look? No, we are Africans by our actions, by the love we show to Africa. By the value we add to Africa. That is what defines an African and not just the colour of our skin.The greatest assets as an African woman are, first, humility of purpose, of person,of character and of attitude. I have learnt this in all my working years with the Yoruba. Secondly, choosing one’s battles at work, and at home to ensure peace of mind and thirdly practicing to be a woman of silence. It is not everyone who provokes you that you respond to, save your energy for more positive things and fight only battles that are necessary.

    “In giving, we must give wholeheartedly and give until it hurts. The type of giving expected of us is sacrificial giving. One can give one’s talent, time or treasure. Over the past 11 years, I have been giving 1000 percent of what I earn. So there is nothing like 10 per cent, you give as much as your heart desires. We have been giving to empower the African youth, as well as empowering the widows and downtrodden, it is our duty,” she said in appreciation of the award.

    She said the award was dedicated first to God, then to Anambra state, to Nigeria, and to the African girl child struggling to be educated. She commended Governor Willie Obiano of Anambra state for deeming it necessary for her to be in South Africa to receive the award.

     

  • How well do you know yourself?

    The experience of being stuck is a state almost everyone can relate to, for some people it could last for a short period of time, while for others they live the entirety of their lives being or feeling stuck. A lot of people define being stuck as a state of not knowing what todo, or not having a clear picture of the way forward.

    Why do people get stuck, and how can they avoid being stuck, this short piece seeks to share three major reasons why you may be feeling stuck.

    • Lack of Clarity: Too many people are not satisfied with where they are, they know theyare tired of their current situation and deserve to do more with life, sadly if you asked them what exactly they wanted their answer will be ‘I don’t know’ not knowing what you want is the very first step to being stuck at life, it leaves you dancing in a limbo between dissatisfaction and uncertainty.

    One tip I use with clients that you can implement is to ask yourself  ‘if nothing was impossible and I could travel three years into the future, what would I want my outcome in this situation to be’ the essence of this is to help you psychologically get out of your current reality. Albert Einstein said ‘no problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it’ this simple yet effective question helps you solve your problem from a different level of consciousness.

    • A False sense of independence: I once heard John Maxwell make a profound statement at a leadership seminar he said ‘when your dream is bigger than you are, you only have two choices, give up or get help’ too many people have been sold a false idea of independence. You are probably stuck because you have refused to get help, your vision or dream or idea is big and that is fine, but why have you refused to get help, who deceived you into thinking that you can do it all by yourself.

    The vision supposed to elevate you is now a weight that keeps you stuck. Get a coach or a mentor, decide not to go alone, rid yourself of your ego and embrace the much needed help you need.

    Remember ‘if you want to go far, go with others’

    • Lack of contentment: Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction, often triggered from being at ease and at peace with one’s situation, body and mind. So many people are stuck in the rat race of chasing a mirage of something that seems better and in this endless pursuit they find themselves stuck, because what they are chasing is unreal.

    If you always look at what you want from the angle of ingratitude, the grass will always be greener on the other side, and what this does is it keeps you constantly chasing the other persons grass which may just be synthetic grass and not organic grass, instead stay where you are and water your grass. Embrace contentment. Contentment has the potential to greatly:

    –            Help us develop the ability to enjoy what we already have, instead of being relentlessly driven by desire.

    –            Help us find peace and happiness in our everyday life and relationships

    –            Slow down the cycle of living faster, consuming more, and destroying ourselves

    One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is the ability to look inwards for our own answers, too often we are fond of looking to external forces for answers.

    The above points although not exhaustive help you to first of all look to yourself for answers before seeking external answers. The much needed change you need to get unstuck will not happen to you, it will come from within you, it may be scary but it is necessary if you want to get unstuck.

    For more information on how you can get unstuck send me an email at gbemieobadan@gmail.com or follow me on Instagram at @coachgbemz.

    Remember to look inwards first before looking outwards.