Category: Celebrity

  • Ifeanyi Ubah on the march again

    IF the contest for the governorship ticket of Anambra State were an Olympic 100 metres sprint finals, oil and gas business mogul, Ifeanyi Ubah, would be crowd’s favourite. Like recently-retired Usain Bolt, recent moves by the Capital Oil boss’ have caught the attention of political observers as he seems to mean business this time in his quest for the state’s number one seat.

    In spite of his recent travails at the hands of the Department of State Services (DSS) over the allegation that the he diverted billions of naira worth of petrol belonging to the NNPC, the owner of NPL team Ifeanyi Ubah FC remains in the thick of action. Upon his release, he wasted no time picking the PDP nomination form. He remains unfazed by the prospects of a battle with some household names in the state’s political terrain, including a, former minister of aviation, Stella Oduah, and a former member of the House of Representatives, Lynda Ikpeazu.

    Armed with a seemingly unlimited war chest, Ubah has been traversing the length and breadth of the state to shore up support for his ambition. While his shot at the seat in 2014 ended with him eating the humble pie, those who should know are of the opinion that he has learnt from that experience and is leaving no stone unturned to ensure better fortunes this time.

  • Who is after Dapo Abiodun?

    Who is after Dapo Abiodun?

    MANY society watchers recently woke up to the news that Heyden Oil boss, Dapo Abiodun, had been fingered as one of the people responsible for the purported collapse of the Ooni of Ife, Oba Enitan Ogunwusi’s marriage with Olori Wuraola after a social media website had gone to town with the false story that the extravagant wedding contracted nearly one and a half years ago had ended in bitter separation. On the heels of that piece of juicy gossip, rumours began to fly around that Olori Wuraola was involved in ‘unpublishable’ misdeeds with several men, including Dapo Abiodun.

    Not surprisingly, the Heyden Oil boss, reputed for steadfast integrity, became the recipient of frantic phone calls from friends and detractors alike. While some wanted to know the truth behind the allegations, others used the chance to drag his name in the mud, portraying him as a man bereft of decency. In a twist of the Shakespearean play, A Comedy of Errors, it was later discovered that the whole brouhaha stemmed from a case of mistaken identity as the Dapo Abiodun that was being touted was a completely different one from the Ijebu Ode born businessman and politician whose impeccable pedigree on the social scene is well known.

  • Segun Oniru moves  into real estate

    Segun Oniru moves into real estate

    AFTER reluctantly waving goodbye to the seductive maiden of political appointments, Lagos big boy, Prince Segun Oniru, has wasted no time falling in love again. While politics once consumed his passion while he held sway as the Lagos State Commissioner for Waterfront Infrastructure Development, he is now in blossoming romance with real estate business.

    The first son of the Oniru of Iruland, Victoria Island, Lagos, Oba Idowu Oniru, has been amassing a portfolio of choice properties since he left office at the expiration of former Babatunde Fashola’s tenure as Lagos State governor. Like his other businesses that flourished even when bosom friends said nay, Segun’s venture into real estate has seen him smiling to the bank.

    The first in line to the throne of Iruland, Segun is not planning to step into the royal shoes with an empty bank account. His Faaji Restaurant & Wine Bar on Fichley Road, London continues to bring in the bucks, not to mention Timeless, his popular hotel which remains a veritable money spinner.

  • Kayode Oyeshile hits golden age

    COME August 29, 2017, high society and the business world will usher one of their own, Kayode Oyeshile, into the league of golden age. The unassuming socialite is two weeks away from clocking half a century. And in that time, he has climbed many ladders and navigated many tricky twists and turns. As a result, he is one of the most visible faces in the accounting profession.

    Oyeshile was born in the cradle of civilization, Ile-Ife. He nurtured a lifelong ambition to become a master in the art of counting and arranging figures. He excelled at the defunct Dunlop Nigeria where his storied career began and has grown from strength to strength ever since.

    The widely respected chartered accountant is the president of Iloro Grammar School Old Students Association (IGSOSA) and an ordained deacon in Evangelist Ebenezar Obey’s Decross Christian Church. In anticipation of the glorious day, which will be marked at the Labour House at Dopemu/Akowonjo Roundabout, Lagos, his friends and colleagues at Truluck Nigeria have put heads together for a befitting occasion for the accomplished man.

  • Danjuma celebrates  wife at 65

    Danjuma celebrates wife at 65

    Senator Daisy Danjuma, wife of former Chief of Army Staff, Gen Theophilus Yakubu Danjuma (rtd) celebrated her 65th birthday last Sunday amidst the pomp and ceremony. At high octane party held at Eko Hotels and Suites to mark the occasion, the former senator took to the floor with her heartthrob, with the duo moving in perfect sync as they danced to a number.

    The league of wealthy guests at the event were mesmerised by the love on display between the retired general and the birthday lady. In attendance were members of the high society, including oil magnate Femi Otedola, Folorunsho Alakija, Hajia Abah Folawiyo, Hajia Bola Shagaya, Tunde Ayeni, Demola Seriki, Otunba Niyi Adebayo, Tunde Ayeni, Governor Ibikunle Amosun and wife, Herbert Wigwe, Tony Elumelu, Erelu Abiola Dosunmu, Olori Ladun Sijuade, Oba Otudeko, Terry Waya, Senator Florence Ita-Giwa, among others.

    Daisy, the executive vice chairman, South Atlantic Petroleum, has over the years remained one of the most outstanding matriarchs of high society. Although she is advancing in years, her heart remains as young and beautiful as the first glimpse of sunlight beyond the clouds.

  • Between Lasun Yusuf and Rotimi Makinde

    Between Lasun Yusuf and Rotimi Makinde

    In the politics of Osun State, the Deputy Speaker, House of Representatives, Hon. Lasun Yusuf and ex-House of Reps member, Hon. Rotimi Makinde, are regarded as gladiators on opposing sides of personal and ideological battles. But they have both proved that whatever disagreement exists between them does not supersede their mutual admiration for each other as comrades.

    At the final burial ceremony for the mother of the state governor, Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola, both Yusuf and Makinde showed everyone that political opponents do not have to be enemies. Hon. Makinde had made the first move by going to Yusuf to exchange pleasantries; a gesture the Deputy Speaker of the House of Representatives promptly reciprocated.

    The ice broken between the pair, they chatted amicably for a time to the surprise of the scores of onlookers.

  • Oskar Ibru shuns birthday celebration

    Oskar Ibru shuns birthday celebration

    What is the point of making billions of naira if it cannot be spent? That was the question on the minds of the family, friends and associates of Oloorogun Oskar Ibru as they awaited the announcement of a high octane party to mark the scion of the Ibru dynasty’s 59th birthday. Hence, their disappointments were felt by all when the day rolled by with only a low-key affair.

    The shock generated by the development is yet to abate. Those who had expected Oskar to have a huge celebration like he did in the past are still trying to fathom what could be responsible for the failure to pop the champagne or host a grand shindig.

    There are however insinuations in some quarters that Oskar’s change of heart might not be unconnected with the recent squabbles among Ibru’s children over the family inheritance. It will be recalled that since the patriarch of the family passed on some time ago, his children have engaged one another in a tug of war over his choice properties and businesses.

    The issue has led to suits and counter-suits in the law courts, and there appears to be no end in sight to the fight. No wonder Oskar was not in the mood for any elaborate celebration.

  • My father is a big fan of James Bond -Pastor  Adeboye’s son

    My father is a big fan of James Bond -Pastor Adeboye’s son

    Leke, the youngest of the four children of the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adeboye, doubles as his father’s Personal Assistant (PA). In this interview with ADENIYI ADEWOYIN, he explains the circumstances that warranted his appointment as his father’s PA. He also speaks about the secular aspects of his father’s life, his love for bikes and the recent controversy about his father’s purported retirement, among other issues.

    How would you describe your growing up years as a son of the General Overseer of Redeemed Christian Church of God?

    I think he was already a pastor by the time I was born into the family. But he not be a full pastor, because you go from being a deacon to assistant pastor and then a full pastor. But he was always involved with the work of God. Obviously, he is an amazing father. He gives us fantastic examples of how to be a real and true man. He made us to understand the difference between right and wrong and he always had time for his family even though the work might be much.

    One of the things most people don’t get is that he nursed the idea of becoming the youngest vice chancellor in the whole of Africa. So, that was what he was pushing for and ensuring the wellbeing of his family. That was a top priority for him, bearing in mind the fact that he came from a very poor background. So, his game plan was that once God blessed him, he would need to pull everybody else out of poverty.

    So, I didn’t see him as a pastor; I saw him first as a man. Like the bible says, there is time for everything. You know the time to pull back as a son so that the father can do what he wants to do. You also know when it is time to help him and show that you are a real son.

    Most people believe that pastors are usually strict with their children so that they would not end up being the opposite of what they preach. How strict is Pastor Adeboye as a father?

    The bible actually gives the guidelines to parents on how to train their children. It says you should train your child in the way that he should go, so that when he grows up, he won’t depart from it. That is the basic standard across the world. Look at Palestine; they train their children from as young as one month old to hate Israel, and that is what the children believe all their lives. A parent should train his children to be good, treat every human being with respect, don’t cheat anyone and don’t lie even if your life depends on it. Do what you are told by your parents. Honour your father and your mother, always be honest and caring.

    Each time you do something outside of the rules and regulations that they give you, you would have to be disciplined for it. If you don’t, that means they are celebrating your being disobedient, and I believe that is the basis of the problems that many people have nowadays. They are being celebrated for doing the wrong things, so they believe the wrong thing is right.

    In your school days, were there times your peers felt you should not do certain things because you were Pastor Adeboye’s son?

    Not just that; they would even say you should not do certain things because you are from a certain tribe. They would say that you should not be talking in certain ways because you were a guy with different kinds of experience and different kinds of exposure. I have lived at the Redemption Camp since I was about six months old, and it was a different life. There was no light and no telephone. We were cut off from the rest of the world until the camp started to develop slowly and then the villages around it. There was no TV for us, so we had to read, develop our imaginations, and we had to be focused. But then, anywhere you got to as your father became more popularly known, people judged you based on him. And that is normal. Everybody will judge a lawyer’s son by who the lawyer is, and it is the same with being the son of a pastor. People expect certain moral standards of you. They will obviously expect that you don’t do certain things.

    It is undeniable that your dad is loved by many. But even Jesus had enemies. Are there times you read things about your dad that made you feel bad?

    One thing I understand about life is that if you don’t have haters, it means that you are not gifted or talented enough. If you don’t have haters, then you are not doing something positive, because some people will be upset and ask why it is only you. I would tell you that there are people, including senior pastors, who are not genuinely happy that Pastor Adeboye is loved by many. But he remains humble at all times. He knows that he didn’t ask people to love him. He just does what he is called to do. He just focuses on his assignment. His job is to get as many people to heaven as possible, but the devil would not like that because his own assignment is to get as many people as possible to hell. But he (Adeboye) is pushing the agenda of Jesus Christ, and there would be people who would be on the devil’s side.

    So really, haters will be there. But we understand that they are doing their own primary assignment. There are certain on air personalities who no matter what you say about Pastor Adeboye or Bishop Oyedepo they will have something negative about it. We know them, but we know that they are fulfilling their own assignment, so we don’t have any issues with them.

    How did you feel when it was announced that Pastor Adeboye had retired as the General Overseer?

    I’m not even allowed to talk about that. But information is powerful, and a lot of people get things wrong because they are not well informed. They made the announcement to all of us in the same space at the same time, and I was just like, well… Normally, you are supposed to work till you are 70 years old.And if God pushes you to work beyond 70, then it is fantastic.

    The interesting thing is what that was done was already being done across all other nations that RCCG is. There is already an overseer in every other nation that RCCG is. So, the fact that we are based in Nigeria, most people assume that there would not be a need for one. Our pastor is also a big daddy to me. I mean the national overseer has always carried out all those assignments that should have been accorded to a national overseer in Nigeria. He attends the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria (PFN) meetings, the CAN meetings and even controls the payment of salaries to the staff in Nigeria.

    So I think it was just because the announcement was made and then some people just turned around and went running with it. I was like wow, thank God we are moving to something else. We would have more time for other parts of the word than just being held back in Nigeria. I mean there are countries we haven’t had huge influence in, and I realise that it is by you going there physically sometimes that will encourage the work of God that is going on there.

    Were you made the personal assistant to Pastor Adeboye because he couldn’t trust outsiders?

    That is a very interesting question. Actually what happened is this: I would say I was the first person to be interviewed as a personal assistant in RCCG, and that was about eight years ago. Most people don’t know I actually finished with a first degree in Aerospace Technology and a master’s degree in Engineering Project Management, coming around to now say I would love to work for the mission. I mean I would have sleepless nights if God wakes me up at 2 am and say you are not supposed to be here; everything that has been invested into you is to be able to come back and use it to help this mission become much better, become more professional in their ways. So, that was one of the reasons I came back, and I was like is there any role they would like to interview me for?

    They started me from the lowest pay grade that the mission has in terms of salary as well. I actually had an eight-hour interview. I went in full suit and came back with only singlet and boxers (laughs). That was how tough the interview was. And while most people are put on probation for three months, mine was for a year and a half, because they were not going to play with their general overseer, regardless of who it was going to be. I have been more scrutinised than anybody else. I’ve been grilled more. But I don’t mind, because when it comes to work, I don’t see him as my father, I see him as my principal and my boss.

    I do what I’m supposed to do and constantly try to see how I can improve on my duties as personal assistant, how to improve his office as well as the office of the general overseer. We benchmarked it with the office of Obama back then and even tried to get his own PA to come and do training for us, because we do training for other RCCG’s senior pastors’ PAs every February and also benchmark it with the office of the Pope. We try to consider how his office is run so that we can see what we are doing good, what we are not doing good and where we can do better.

    So, to me, I bring in the same level of professionalism that has been instilled in me while studying. It just happened to be my father. It could be anybody else. It could have been the president or the governor or a CEO of another company. That is the way I actually see it. RCCG is a company and it has its own objectives and aims. My own job as senior personal assistant is to ensure that its CEO gets all his primary assignments done in real time without missing anything out, and I carry out basic roles even beyond that of a personal assistant. So, yea, it is interesting. And if there are other people who are interested in the role, why not? They are welcome.

    How is your relationship with mum?

    She is my mum. She brought me into the world. I love my mum till death. I mean without her, I will not be here. She is going to be 70 this year. I’m celebrating her from now. She does so much that is not even recorded or put anywhere. She is an amazing woman. She has all sorts of initiative that I’m still waiting one day for CNN to come and do a documentary on, because there’s just so much she has done. She has a project where she removes prostitutes or women who have been abused sexually or domestically by their husbands, put them in a home, feed them, train them so that they can fend for themselves and send their children to school from her own pocket and fund raising from other people. Which is where it gets annoying when some people say rubbish on the social media without knowing the facts or what is going on. She has a doctoral degree, which most people don’t know. They assume it’s only pastor E.A Adeboye that has a doctorate.

    You said apart from being the PA, you have other responsibilities. Why is it only you when daddy has other children? Is it that you are his favourite?

    Please, don’t put me in trouble o. I’m not the favourite. The first born is Pastor Adeola Adeboye who owns Wisemen Apparels. He also does Team Nehemiah, which is an arm of RCCG that ensures that there is safety in terms of movement of people in and around the camp, especially on the expressway. And he is also a full pastor and has his family to contend with. So, everybody is doing something. There are other people, but it is just that I’m the one that you see around him, so they assume maybe because I’m the most troublesome, they are keeping me closer.

    What would you have been if you were not a pastor?

    I don’t even think I’m a pastor yet. I am just an assisting pastor. I am assisting a pastor; I am not a full pastor. I just want to serve. I have seen what my dad has done all his life serving the people and I just want to help him make sure he does that and I do mine in my own little way.

    You almost pulled a stunt out there with your bike when you arrived. Do you have a flair for bikes?

    Yes, I have a flair for bikes, extreme sports. But I have to behave myself because I am married and I have four kids if you count my wife. I have to ensure that I am safe. Life insurance is from God, but obviously, I have to think about them. So I behave myself. But then, I like to get to places in time. So, yea, I like bikes. I have a flair for anything that moves fast. That is why I did aerospace, which comprises training of aircraft, jet fighters and space shuttles.

    What is your most prized fashion item?

    We are not allowed to be canal (laughs). But, of course, I love fashion and I like simplicity too and something that is comfortable. Everything I am wearing now is Nigerian made. Because I looked at it, we buy jeans that is Versace and you give him big money and he’s making the money. The tailor that I use is actually one of our youths in Ebutte Metta in Lagos. So I told him go and look at Versace jeans; we too can sew the same thing; we just buy the material. The shirt is also made in Nigeria. The only thing I have on me that is not Nigerian made is Michael Korrs watch, and it is because I don’t have anybody making watch in Nigeria yet. And the shoe. But then, if anybody decides to make that, we will support. That is the only way Nigeria will even come out of this economy issue that we are in.

    People believe that everything about Pastor Adeboye is spiritual. Could you give an insight on the non-spiritual aspect of his life?

    He likes to fish, so every single house that we’ve had on the camp has a fish pond behind it. It is very relaxing. He likes to go for walks. He likes train rides; thank God the railways are being developed back in Nigeria. But any time we are outside Nigeria, he prefers to go by train to most places, because you get to see the countryside and have a different view of life than just being in the car all the time. And we watch movies, but not corrupt ones. We watch Mount Zion movies too, but not necessarily hundred per cent Christian movies all the time, because you would be caging yourself and you are not engaging in the reality of what other people are experiencing as well. He is a huge fan of James Bond, so we have a collection of more than 50 James Bond movies. I even have one in my house just in case he comes to visit me and that’s what he wants to watch.

    You said earlier that he likes fishing. Is that where the theme of the church’s programme, Let’s Go A Fishing, came from?

    (Laughs) That’s a good one. But no, he’s actually fishing for souls.

    What’s his favorite meal?

    He always makes a joke that it is Ila Asepo (okra soup) and pounded yam, but Iyan gbere (bread fruit). It grows on trees and it is very goo.

    Your parents would be 50 years in marriage next year. Having gone this far as a couple, will you say they are perfect to have maintained that love?

    They will be married 50 years by next year, I think experience makes you perfect and overtime and practice also make you perfect. I mean they are huge role models. The only other people that I know that have been married more than 50 years is elder Ohiwere and Mummy Janet Ohiwere who are friends with Daddy and Mummy Adeboye as well. I have never seen them argue. That is why I genuinely don’t have any issues with my wife, because I don’t want to have any place to say I’m picking up a bad habit from. So it’s difficult for me to fight her or have issues with her.

    Now 50 years and going strong, especially nowadays when some people do destination wedding and in three months the wedding is over. They warn people now in advance that if you know that this wedding won’t last, we are not going to any destination with you, let’s do it in Nigeria where we can catch each other (laughs). But 50 years is no mean feat, and I’m hoping that I too will get to 50 years and beyond.

  • Rashida Bello spreads her wings

    Rashida Bello spreads her wings

    For the average Kogi woman, the First Lady of Kogi State, Madam Rashida Bello, is like the coming of rain after a prolonged drought. Such is her impact in the life of women and the young in the state in just a short time. Everywhere she goes, she is greeted with songs by happy and excited women who have felt first-hand the impact she is determined to make on their lives.

    No sooner had the youthful wife of Governor Yahaya Bello assumed office than she sprang into action with the launch of the Kogi Women and Youth Advancement Foundation (KOWYAF). It is an initiative aimed at helping women and the youth with means that will make them become self-reliant and gainfully employed indigenes of the Confluence State.

    The career accountant has also established health centres in the three senatorial zones of the state to take care of the masses’ pressing health needs. And while some others in her position would stop there and pat themselves on the back for a job well done, Madam Rashida is not one to rest on her oars. Only recently, she established DROP, a programme aimed at helping women and young ones in the hard-to-reach parts of the state.

    Her numerous empowerment programmes have not only earned her the gratitude of the people, they have also drawn international recognition. Just recently, she was honoured with an award of excellence at the International Women Conference in Dallas, USA.

  • My husband’s  death is puzzling -Ex-FAAN MD’s widow Sakpere

    My husband’s death is puzzling -Ex-FAAN MD’s widow Sakpere

    Last week, high society people poured into the home of Chief (Mrs.) Emily Sakpere in Lagos to commiserate with the top socialite and businesswoman on the recent loss of her husband and former Managing Director of the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN), Engr. Isaac Sakpere, who died in London penultimate Sunday. The late Sakpere had returned home to work at FAAN after studying in Germany and Canada, and rose through the ranks to become a director and Acting Managing Director. Still in mourning mood, the widow, in this interview with PAUL UKPABIO, describes Sakpere’s death as puzzling even as she recalls the good moments of their more than 40 years old marriage.

    Accept our condolences on the loss of your husband.

    Thank you

    What actually happened?

    Monday (July 31) was a very interesting day for me. We got the news on Sunday and Monday was a tough day for the family. He went for his medicals in London a couple of months ago. He was said to be okay and about to return home next Sunday (August 6) only for him to pass away last Sunday (July 30). In fact he was already running around and doing things by himself in London, and we were all happy.

    What was his ailment?

    We took him there to treat his diabetic condition and his eyes. Before he left, he was busy with a small building in the compound for his advanced age. Initially, I felt he was losing too much energy on that. But I later allowed him to have his way because I saw that as a form of exercise for him. He fell sick and we flew him out for treatment.

    Over there, he even marked his 76th birthday with his grandchildren who were all over him. In London, he was the one opening the door for guests and visitors. Before anyone could knock twice, Daddy would open the door. Even if they were police or council people, he would go and open the door for them. At times, we would tell him to relax and let the children do those chores, but he would say, ‘Let me open the door for them; I am not afraid of anybody; I am not a criminal, I am a learned person’.

    He was full of life. He was a strong man. Even here in Nigeria, he would always be the one to open the door for visitors. In fact, when the medical officials (ambulance vehicle managers) were passing by our home in the UK, they would stop by and hail him, saying ‘Papa’, and he too would hail back. He became so accustomed to them. Again, if we went out, before we returned home, Daddy would have arranged the entire sitting room, and we kept wondering where he got such energy to lift those chairs and tables. Even at my age, I cannot lift some of those items, but Daddy would do so and re-arrange the whole apartment. Some of the clergymen who visited last Monday said some people are like that; they get healed and go peacefully. But I still find it puzzling because he was such a great human being.

    Tell us about your marriage

    He was supposed to be an architect and not an electrical engineer. That was what he said. He was a child of grace. He lived under grace. In his days at FAAN, he was such a transparent person. His colleagues said he was transparent to a fault. He was the only MD of FAAN I knew that would drive himself in his car without escort. He had no police orderly or retinue of aides like others. He used to drive himself from home to office and back. No airs of importance. He served Nigeria diligently.

    When he graduated from school in Canada in the 60s, he was on the prime list of three international firms—Siemens and two other global firms in Germany and Israel desired his service. Philips Engineering was also calling him to come to Germany to work. We were a young couple at the time and we just had our first child at Newfound Land, Canada. Then another company in Israel wanted to employ him because they said he was brilliant in his measurement of electrical data and all that. But I think he just felt his brain was for the development of his fatherland, Nigeria. The offers were many but he chose Nigeria. Well, he served Nigeria, but he didn’t like the way his efforts for fatherland was treated. He is gone and I think we should just respect his memory.

    They were ready to make him work for them in their respective countries, ready to give him all he wanted, but he turned down their request, opting instead to work for Nigeria. He said Nigeria was his passion. He served as the Director of Engineering at the Federal Airport Authority of Nigeria for 12 years and Acting MD at various times.

    When he retired what was he living on?

    He was living on his pension?

    What were his last moments like?

    I think he was very happy to see his grandchildren in London. During his last birthday on June 13, he danced and danced with them. He was in very high spirits. He was so happy that you would wonder if he won lottery (laughs). There was a day we went out in London, just few days after our arrival, and when we returned and he saw the twin children of one of our sons. He had not seen them since they were born about one year before then; he only saw their pictures. So he asked, ‘Who are these people?’ You know my husband at times could make everyone laugh. His sense of humour was high. I asked him, ‘People? They are kids! Why do you call them people?’ We laughed over it and I said ‘these are the Brumei twins’. Brumei is one of our sons.

    He was so delighted seeing them, and on his birthday, he requested that all of them be brought around him and he really, really made merry with them. He had many of them (they have five boys and three girls with the last girl in school). We never knew he was saying goodbye. He was a great man. In fact, the doctors who treated him said he was a strong man, because he managed his diabetes for almost 10 years. Nobody believed he could live so long but God gave him the grace to live so long, and since his demise, the condolences have been pouring in. I thank God for his life and I thank Nigerians who have been visiting to support us in this critical moment.

    What else did he do in London?

    One of his former staff at FAAN, Mrs. Kabiowu, visited him in London with her son, Yomi, who flew into London from Australia to see him. When she traced our place and knocked on the door, it was Daddy who opened the door for her and she was quite shocked. She never believed her eyes. He said, ‘Come in matron,’ and she asked, ‘You still recognise me? He said, ‘Why won’t I? Didn’t I employ you?’

    How long were you married?

    More than 40 years. He was a complete husband and father, a mentor and leader. Above all, he was a gentleman to the core, a nationalist who worked and promoted all tribes in FAAN. As the Acting MD and Director of Engineering, he was so loved by many for his astuteness. My happiness is that he died a Christian. His heavenly abode is assured.

    What has been the secret of your marriage?

    The secret of my marriage has been patience. Marriage is not just about love, because when you marry your husband in the first two, three to four years, it is love that will work for you. But after love, patience is the next tool because the man may do certain things you may not like, and if you don’t have patience, you will just quit the marriage. But because I have patience. That is why you still see me with Daddy today. I always advise my children too to study me and Daddy. Without patience, Daddy and I won’t be together. We would have been separated and we might have become single parents.

    How do you feel being a grandmother?

    I am the happiest woman on earth. I feel happy and I feel successful because God has given me twins for the first time through my son. I love twins, but I never had the privilege of having twins throughout when I was having my children. So, with this, I know God is on my side. God is with me and God is great by giving me twins as grandkids too.

    How did you receive the news of your twin grandchildren?

    It came as a big surprise to me. When I heard that my daughter-in-law had put to bed, that she was delivered of twins and that the two of them are boys, I said, ‘Thank God o, my son has a daughter as his first child, and today, he has two boys at a go. God is marvellous.”

    What is your advice to young couples?

    The advice I will give them, especially the wives, is that they should have patience. Husbands should love their wives. That is the first thing to do, because if you don’t love your wife, even if you give your wife money, the money is nothing. The wife on the other hand must be tolerant, because men will always offend their spouses. They offend their wives 24 hours. They will tell their wives all sorts of things, including lies. If the woman is not tolerant, she will run away. That is why you see so many families having divorce. We have single mothers and many frustrated parents all over Nigeria. It is because we don’t have patience. But if you have patience, you won’t lose your marriage; you won’t become a divorcee. Patience allows you to see things differently and tackle them differently. With patience, your marriage will last.

    There was a big age difference between you and your husband…

    Yes, we were very young at the time and men had their ways of getting ladies along at that time. They would say, ‘Oh, if you marry me you will enjoy. I will do everything for you.’ In his own case, he used to cook for me. Before I returned from any outing, he would have made food for me. Yes, we were married quite early because he was just leaving high school in 1971 when we rolled the tape. He was a young, up and coming engineer and all eyes were on him. But he did not follow all those eyes because he chose Emily (laughs). So, he loved to cook for me.

    He later got a scholarship to study engineering at Newfoundland, Canada. And even in Canada, he would baby-sit and take care of the baby whenever I went out shopping. When I returned he would say ‘Emily, I have bathed for the baby already, I have fed the baby,’ because the feeding bottle and other utensils were always there, and my husband would prepare the baby’s food and feed the baby. I think he was an all-round man. He dealt with me compassionately, and that was why I loved him and stood in the marriage with him.

    How did you manage the women who ran after your husband?

    That is why I told you initially that patience is the bedrock of any lasting marriage. Let me give you an example: when you see a car now and you are admiring the car, you love the car, you desire to have the car. Let’s say a Rolls Royce or Lincon Navigator or any of those cars that glides, you put in the pressure to work for the money and you buy the car. The moment you acquire the car, that old passion to own it disappears. That is how a woman is with her husband.

    I told you earlier that in the first four years of marriage, you might still be in a honey moon atmosphere. But immediately the kids start coming and reality starts to hit you, tolerance will be the next instrument that will keep the marriage going. Love has taken you guys from the campus or street or work place into your respective homes, but tolerance will be the next vehicle that will keep you going for the rest of the journey. I am not saying don’t love. Please, love, because without love you cannot tolerate. Tolerance takes you miles away from noticing each other’s shortcomings.

    Now, when my husband was the Director of Engineering at FAAN, he had women who admired him simply because he was a gentleman who was in the limelight. I understood that fact and I never let it get to me. Some of those ladies would even phone me and say, ‘Hey, we are Daddy’s girlfriend o,’ and I would just say congratulations. I can’t be bothered because I have no issues with those women. I only have issue with my husband, and he will always come back home to me. That is the patience I am talking about. And when he returns home, he will say ‘Haa, once I leave home, you carry the phone and start phoning women all over the place, calling them my girlfriends.’ I would say ‘thank you sir’. Meanwhile, it was the girlfriend that called to insult me and not the other way round. So, patience is very powerful. Love will do the work at the early stage of your marriage, but patience will take you to the very end of the journey”

    You have eight children, how did you raise them?

    Raising my eight children was fun. At the same time, it was challenging. The difference was the fact that I have an understanding husband who loves to share house chores with me. He loved his kids passionately. I was into business while he was an engineer. If he returned home before me, he would help the children to prepare their food. In fact, at times, he would be the one to go and pick them at school. That was when he had not taken higher responsibilities.

    In the early days of our marriage, he was doing that before we became bigger and engaged house helps. I think the secret was that we rationed our activities. He who returns first cooks the meal. It was fun then because a lot of people used to wonder how a man would go to that extent to show love to his family. But to us, it was normal, and I can say that is one of the secrets of our over 40 years old marriage. He loves his children just the way I love them and he does not boss me around. He appreciated the fact that raising a home is a joint effort. That really helped me.