Category: Family Forum

  • Mystery midnight fire wipes out family of seven

    Mystery midnight fire wipes out family of seven

    The Umbuguala family in Eggon, Nasrawa Eggon Local Government Area of Nasarawa State is in distress over the sudden death of seven of their members in a mystery midnight fire. Among the deceased was the head of the family, Mr Sunday Joseph Umbuguala, a 40-year-old graduate of Mechanical Engineering from the Ahmadu Bello University (ABU), who until his death was an employee of the Nigeria National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) attached to the Kaduna Refinery.

    Other casualties of the fire outbreak include Umbuguala’s 38-year-old wife Emiria, their three children (Elmond 8, Eliana 5 and Elma 3) as well as two relations Justina and Patience. They were all burnt to ashes in the fire outbreak said to have occurred around 2 am on February 22, at a time there was no electricity supply either from the public source, the generator or even power inverter.

    Strangely too, the fire outbreak was said limited to the flat occupied by the Umbuguala family while other adjoining flats were not affected. Like everyone else in the neighbourhood, the entire family was apparently deeply asleep when the fire outbreak occurred and burnt them beyond recognition.

    Sadly, the deceased engineer was said to be the only child of his parents as his father died when he was only seven years old while his mother who could not do much to support him financially also died in 2010, leaving to struggle all alone to acquire university education.

    The late Umbuguala was said to have met Emiria in the same Nasarawa Eggon where the two families lived close to each other. They started a relationship that lasted till May 10 when they decided to get married.

    Emiria’s elder sisters and their family members were still in pensive mood when our correspondent visited the family house on Thursday. It took the reporter some time to get them to speak about the death of their loved ones.

    An elder sister of the late Emiria, who identified herself simply as Mrs Abdullahi Mohammed, who spoke on behalf of other family members, sat dejected on a dining chair in the sitting room with tears rolling down her cheeks before she could utter a word. But after gaining some composure, she sat back, cleared her throat and narrated the misfortune that befell the family.

    According to her, the entire family was living happily before the tragedy that struck on February 22. She recalled speaking with her deceased younger sister on the phone several times from morning till about 9pm on the fateful day.

    Mrs Mohammed said: “I spoke with my younger sister on the phone at about 9pm and she told me that she was plaiting her daughter’s hair as they were preparing to resume from the mid-term break.

    “I also spoke with the children and they were happy and lively, saying that they would be in school again after the mid-term break. I had no inkling that it was the last time I would hear their voice.

    “They all went to bed with the hope of making it to school the next day. But at about 2am, fire broke out from the house, consuming the bedroom where the family members slept and the other bedroom where the two other relations were also sleeping.

    “What surprised us the most was that the fire did not affect the kitchen where there was cooking gas. It did not also touch the generator which was also not on. There was a small fish pond and poultry farm attached to the house and they were also not affected.

    “So we are actually shocked about the source of the fire outbreak since there was no light for one to say that it could have come from a spark.

    “That was how the entire family left this world. They were all young. They came to the world briefly and went back. It was such a sad incident.”

    She said her loss was compounded by the trauma of having to host her deceased younger sister, her husband, the three kids as well as the two other grown up girls who are also members of the family in dreams almost on a daily basis.

    She said: “I keep seeing them in my dreams. The children keep talking to me on the phone in my dreams. The three kids just came into the world, saw the world briefly and went back.

    “Sadly, death sneaked in in a cruel manner, killing not only her and her husband, but all their three kids and the other two grown up girls who were staying with them.”

    Mrs Mohanmmed however said the family had taken the incident in good faith and would not blame anybody for it because it was the will of God.

    “It is God alone that can console us for we don’t have much to do to console ourselves. I will miss them so much. No one on earth can fill the space they have left in my life.

    “My younger sister and her husband were easy going people, good and dutiful, always committed to achieving whatever they wanted to achieve and leaving no stone unturned,” she lamented.

    With this dirge amidst sobbing uncontrollably, Mrs Ibrahim Mohammed took her long silence and mourned her younger sister, husband and the three kids.

    Our correspondent gathered that before her departure, the late Emiria had completed her master’s degree programme and was waiting to defend her thesis.

    The elder sister, who had earlier vowed not blame God for what happened, later made a U-turn, saying that it is not fair that God would allow such an amazing family to be burnt death in one fell swoop.

    Hear her: “Allah is not fair to the entire family. Allah has inflicted a permanent wound in my entire life. There is absolutely no point taking my younger sister, her husband and their three kids away in their prime. What is their offence?

    “Oh, my joy has been stolen. I’m only managing. My late sister had good plans for us but Allah suddenly took them away in an unexpected manner.

    “We are badly touched about this whole loss. Their untimely exit from this sinful world has left us all distraught.

    “God had given the late Umbuguala an amazing wife who was doing more than she should. We all looked forward to their future dreams.

    “She had promised to make us proud but Allah denied her and us that opportunity. May their souls find peace.”

  • Making right choices

    Making right choices

    Pastor Faith Oyedepo

     

    Dear reader,

    Welcome to yet another time of refreshing in God’s presence. Many life changing events has taken place the last few months that have shaped the course of history around the world.

    Thank God you are still standing strong; this goes to show that God has so much in store for you. This month, I shall be teaching on Making Right Choices.

    I pray that your life will not remain the same after this teaching, in Jesus name! Henceforth, grace to make good choices is released upon you, in Jesus name!

    Choice simply means to pick or decide between two or more possibilities. God has an equal destiny of greatness for all His children (Romans 8:28-30).

    Yet, our individual choices are what distinguishes one person from another.  God predestinated you and your family for glory, but your choice in life determines whether you will arrive at that predestination or not.

    No matter how long you live on earth, your years are broken down into months, weeks, days, hours, minutes and seconds.

    That means, whatever your assignment may be on earth to fulfil, you don’t have eternity to do so; you have only a season, so handle it well and maximise your days.

    According to Zig Ziglar, Every choice you make has an end result. Whatever or wherever you are today, is a product of the choices you made yesterday.

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    Daily, you and I are confronted with choices that have to be made – whether to pray or not, what to pray about, what to eat, what to wear, where to go, what to buy, what to give etc.

    Choices make a world of difference between success and failure, joy and sorrow, peace and chaos, life and death etc. And we put this principle to work on a daily basis even as it relates to the issues of marriage, family, career and business.

     

    We Live in a World of Choices

    Whether you are male or female, single or married, widowed or divorced, on a daily basis, life presents before you choices to make.

    Choice of what to eat, where to live, what to wear, how to behave, what career to choose, what business to embark upon and who to marry etc. We live in a world of choices and you must understand that there is power in your choices.

     

    You are a Creature of Choice

    God gave us the gift of choice. Just as God will not think for you, the same way God will not choose for you. It is His wish for you to choose life that both you and your seed may live.

    We see this clearly in God’s Word, I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live (Deuteronomy 30:19).

     

    God Respects your Choice

    God honours the choices that you make. In Genesis, God brought all the animals and every creature to Adam giving him the choice to give names to all of them because God honours the choice of man.

    The Bible says, And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof (Genesis 2:19).

    The blind Bartimaeus heard about Jesus and he was crying, ‘Jesus, thou son of David, have mercy upon me’, but he needed to make a choice. Bartimaeus was crying for mercy. Jesus said, ‘What do you want me to do for you?’ Meaning what is your choice? Make a choice and then I will respect it.

    We also have the story of the woman with the issue of blood. She has been in that condition for about 12 years until one day she made her choice for her situation to change.

    She decided that she must touch the helm of the garment of Jesus. She said, ‘If only I may but touch the helm of His garment, I know I shall be made whole’.

     

    Even the Devil Respects your Choice

    The devil respects your choice and he cannot reject the choices you make. For instance, when you gave your life to Jesus Christ; that is, the day you got born again, you automatically made your choice. You made a choice and the devil couldn’t say, ‘No! You can’t go yet’.

    He was watching you. Now you are washed in the blood, and become a child of the Almighty God; the same way, when you make any choice today as regarding any area of your life, the devil cannot resist your choice.

    Choices are powerful and they are the gift of God; so, when you make right choices in life, you find out that it will affect every other area of your life.

    Your ability to choose right begins with your salvation. This is the first and best choice you have to make and every other choice can follow.

    If you are not born again and you want to do so, say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood.

    I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you.

    Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through oyedepofaitha@gmail.com, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Salvation the Way of Escape, Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Making right choices (3)

    Making right choices (3)

    Pastor Faith Oyedepo

     

    DEAR reader, You are welcome to another wonderful time in God’s presence. My prayer is that God will visit you today! We have been exploring Making Right Choices. I defined choice in the previous teaching as the act of selection, especially of the best part or alternative.

    It is also defined as the power and privilege of free selection; careful selection without compulsion and after due consideration.

    It is also preference for best alternative. You have the power to choose and whatever you choose today will not only affect you in the now, it will affect you in the future!

    We live in a world of choices and we make choices on a daily basis – consciously or unconsciously. The dress you have on right now perhaps is not the only one you have; neither is it the only one of that colour.

    Also, the shoe you are wearing right now is not the only one you have at home. What about the haircut you have on now, if you are a man? That could not have been the only style you saw at the barber’s; so why are you wearing it?

    The Holy Spirit is our principal guide

    The Holy Spirit is our master guide. He is not just available to make us speak in tongues. One of His principal missions is to guide our steps through this wicked world into our place in destiny The Bible says, Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come (John 16:13). Engage the ministry of the Holy Spirit; He is your master guide.

    We have a very powerful example of the Holy Spirit’s leading in the Bible. The Apostle Paul records, Now when we had discovered Cyprus, we left it on the left hand, and sailed into Syria, and landed at Tyre: for there the ship was to unlade her burden.

    And finding disciples, we tarried there seven days: who said to Paul through the Spirit, that he should not go up to Jerusalem (Acts 21:3-4).

    Anytime there is no release in your spirit, you may be heading for frustration or ultimate devastation. If there is no liberty, the Spirit of God is not involved.

    He is our master guide. Paul records, And now, behold, I go bound in the spirit unto Jerusalem, not knowing the things that shall befall me there (Acts 20:22). His spirit was not free.

    The spirit here is small letter ‘s’ talking about his own spirit. He ignored the prompting of the Holy Spirit in his spirit and that was his last journey on earth. He made a choice to ignore the Holy Spirit’s leading.

    For every choice you are faced with, the Holy Spirit sees the end from the beginning, so He will guide you into all truth. You must therefore begin to give room to the Holy Spirit to guide you.

    In case you are not yet baptised in the Holy Spirit, as long as you are born again, just ask Jesus the baptiser to baptise you because the Holy Spirit is the gift of God to every believer. So, when you are to make any choice, give Him room.

    The Word of God

    God’s Word is another provision God has made for your guide in making right choices. The Bible says, Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path (Psalm 119:105). The Word of God is one powerful area where you locate guidance.

    When you open God’s Word to read and your understanding comes alive, you will know exactly what to do. The Word of God says, Thus saith the LORD, thy Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel; I am the LORD thy God which teacheth thee to profit, which leadeth thee by the way that thou shouldest go (Isaiah 48:17).

    Behind every written Word is the voice of the Lord and the voice of the LORD is powerful; the voice of the LORD is full of majesty (Psalm 29:3-4). Every written Word is put in place by the spoken Word.

    The Ministry of the Prophet

    Many Christians have ignored this today. Prophets see what others don’t see; they hear what others don’t hear because they have in their hands what others don’t have.

    They have the grace of divine election and divine placement. There are false prophets, and there are genuine prophets.

    There are enough proofs to guide you as to their identity per time. You can only fake what is real; you cannot fake what does not exist.

    There is no generation without assigned prophets. May God open your eyes to recognise one when you meet him!

    Being able to access God’s provisions for making the right choice begins with your salvation. In case you are not born again, the first choice to make today is to give your life to Jesus Christ and He shall give you your heart’s desire, it is only then that God can lead you.

    You want to be born again? Then say this prayer of faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood.

    I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you.

    Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through oyedepofaitha@gmail.com, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Salvation the Way of Escape, Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Making right choices (1)

    Making right choices (1)

    By Faith Oyedepo

     

    DEAR reader, Welcome to yet another time of refreshing in God’s presence. Many life changing events has taken place the last few months that have shaped the course of history around the world.

    Thank God you are still standing strong; this goes to show that God has so much in store for you. This month, I shall be teaching on Making Right Choices.

    I pray that your life will not remain the same after this teaching, in Jesus name! Henceforth, grace to make good choices is released upon you, in Jesus name!

    Choice simply means to pick or decide between two or more possibilities. God has an equal destiny of greatness for all His children (Romans 8:28-30).

    Yet, our individual choices are what distinguishes one person from another.  God predestinated you and your family for glory, but your choice in life determines whether you will arrive at that predestination or not.

    No matter how long you live on earth, your years are broken down into months, weeks, days, hours, minutes and seconds.

    That means, whatever your assignment may be on earth to fulfil, you don’t have eternity to do so; you have only a season, so handle it well and maximise your days.

    According to Zig Ziglar, Every choice you make has an end result. Whatever or wherever you are today, is a product of the choices you made yesterday.

    Daily, you and I are confronted with choices that have to be made – whether to pray or not, what to pray about, what to eat, what to wear, where to go, what to buy, what to give etc.

    Choices make a world of difference between success and failure, joy and sorrow, peace and chaos, life and death etc. And we put this principle to work on a daily basis even as it relates to the issues of marriage, family, career and business.

    Choice is one of the fundamental principles of the Kingdom of God. Your choice can either be right or wrong. Whereas, making right choices leads you to the right destination; making wrong choices leads you to wrong destinations. Whichever one, you must accept responsibility for the choices that you make.

    Choice is a very powerful instrument as it relates to establishing family life and there are certain fundamental truths we must understand about the power of choice.

    We live in a world of choices

    Whether you are male or female, single or married, widowed or divorced, on a daily basis, life presents before you choices to make. Choice of what to eat, where to live, what to wear, how to behave, what career to choose, what business to embark upon and who to marry etc. We live in a world of choices and you must understand that there is power in your choices.

    You are a creature of choice

    God gave us the gift of choice. Just as God will not think for you, the same way God will not choose for you. It is His wish for you to choose life that both you and your seed may live.

    Read Also: Toke Makinwa, advises couples to walk away from abusive marriages

    We see this clearly in God’s Word, I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live (Deuteronomy 30:19).

    The simply means that God will not choose for you.  This principle works in every area even in marriage. You are constantly faced with choices as regards your spouse, children etc., your ability to make the right choices will determine the overall success of your family life.

    God respects your choice

    God honours the choices that you make. In Genesis, God brought all the animals and every creature to Adam giving him the choice to give names to all of them because God honours the choice of man.

    The Bible says, And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof (Genesis 2:19).

    The blind Bartimaeus heard about Jesus and he was crying, ‘Jesus, thou son of David, have mercy upon me’, but he needed to make a choice. Bartimaeus was crying for mercy. Jesus said, ‘What do you want me to do for you?’ Meaning what is your choice? Make a choice and then I will respect it.

    We also have the story of the woman with the issue of blood. She has been in that condition for about 12 years until one day she made her choice for her situation to change.

    She decided that she must touch the helm of the garment of Jesus. She said, ‘If only I may but touch the helm of His garment, I know I shall be made whole’.

    What is your choice today? Do you want your family situation to change? Do you want a change in your marriage, career or in any other area of your life? The power of choice has been given to you.

    Even the devil respects your choice

    The devil respects your choice and he cannot reject the choices you make. For instance, when you gave your life to Jesus Christ; that is, the day you got born again, you automatically made your choice. You made a choice and the devil couldn’t say, ‘No! You can’t go yet’.

    He was watching you. Now you are washed in the blood, and become a child of the Almighty God; the same way, when you make any choice today as regarding any area of your life, the devil cannot resist your choice.

    Choices are powerful and they are the gift of God; so, when you make right choices in life, you find out that it will affect every other area of your life.

    Your ability to choose right begins with your salvation. This is the first and best choice you have to make and every other choice can follow. If you are not born again and you want to do so, say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner.

    Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you.

    Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace, in Jesus name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through oyedepofaitha@gmail.com, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Salvation the Way of Escape, Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • A great start (4)

    A great start (4)

    Pastor Faith Oyedepo

     

    Dear Reader, Truly, it has been a glorious month and time for us all. Having learnt that man is a true being and the ways one can develop the spirit and mind. Today our focus shall be on physical development as I conclude this series.

    Clearly, there are three important things you must know, if you must develop physically. They are: diligence, understanding the covenant of prosperity and patience. Let us examine each one of them carefully:

    1. Diligence

    Diligence is defined as determination and careful effort in undertaking a task. Diligence is a must if you will develop physically. An important thing to note is that if you will end up standing before kings, then you must work hard. The Bible says, Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean [men] (Proverbs 22:29).

    Evidently, even though God is the doer of all great things, the spirit of diligence brings them to manifestation. Lack of diligence has kept many at the same point. Your stagnation is finally over. Diligence is what makes one prominent. It makes one significant and takes people up. You have a choice today to either be diligent or negligent.

    1. Covenant of Prosperity

    Secondly, you need to understand the covenant of prosperity.  Why do you require an understanding of the covenant of prosperity? Because prosperity is your birthright. If you do not want to die in abject poverty, you must practice the covenant as the covenant only answers to practitioners.

    The covenant of prosperity can be found in Genesis 8:22, While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease. You must understand that there is a time for sowing and reaping. When it is time to give your offering, do so, without compromise so you can enjoy your season of harvest.

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    1. Patience

    The day a farmer plants a seed, is not the same day he will harvest it. You need to learn patience. Remember that life is in phases and men are in sizes. The Bible tells us that … the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day (Proverbs 4:18).  There was a time when it was my privilege to eat beans and garri (cassava flakes) for dinner, so that there would be no need for breakfast the next day; but today, the story has changed positively! As you work at developing yourself consistently, may your story also change for the better!

    Clearly, life is a process and patience is needed for God to take your blessings through a process of perfection. One of the purpose of patience is to teach us adherence to process which leads to perfection.

    We see from Scripture, how God broke the stages of creation into several segments. He is a God of principles and He will never compromise his principles irrespective of human pressure.

    People who are not patient are simply despising processes and the Originator of the same. God’s wants to bless you, but you must be willing to exercise patience so that you can be fully matured and ready for the fullness of his blessing. Many just wants to

    To experience the blessings of God that makes rich and adds no sorrow, you must accept Jesus Christ into your life. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today.

    I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through oyedepofaitha@gmail.com, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Make your Life Count, Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Setting a solid foundation for your home (1)

    Dear reader,  happy new and glorious month, dear reader. This year must have begun on a wonderful note for you, filled with so many expectations for the best. All of your desires for this year will be greatly manifested, in Jesus’ name! I am glad to let you know that God has so many good things in store for you, your home, spouses, children, business, finance and career. God is too faithful to fail! Whatever promises from His Word you have held on to till date will find speedy fulfilment beginning from this month, in Jesus’ name!

    The year is still very young and this is a perfect time to make right decisions about your family life. It is often said that the way you begin a thing determines the end of it. That is why in this great month, I will be teaching on: Setting a Solid Foundation for Your Home. We all know that the foundation of a building is the most crucial aspect of it.  No matter how glorious a building is, if its foundation is faulty, then it does not stand a chance in the face of a storm.  No wonder the Word of God states: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3). The strength, height and lifespan of any building is determined by its foundation. A building without a solid foundation is not going to last long, no matter how beautiful it may look. The mere blowing of the wind will bring it crumbling down, because the foundation cannot accommodate the strength of that wind.

    Similarly, a marriage without a solid foundation cannot stand the test of time. Success in marriage and family life, therefore, hinges on the quality of your foundation. There is nothing that can really substitute the need for a solid foundation and to set your marital foundation right, you need to begin by making a resolution to depart from iniquity. The Word of God says: Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity (2 Timothy 2:19). To have a sure foundation, therefore, it is of utmost importance for you to really depart from iniquity. The only thing that will hinder God’s blessing in your marriage and family this year is sin. Sin is a destroyer of destiny. Your destiny shall never be destroyed, in Jesus’ name! Sin has robbed many families of the blessings of God and their true place in life.

    As a family, you need to do away with sin and live a righteous life. Righteousness is the sure foundation upon which a life of distinction is built. Until this is in place, life remains an endless struggle. We live in a world of sin and it has become the order of the day and the way of life in the world today. Families that will stand out are those who will care to embrace purity. The Word of God says: Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God (Matthew 5:8). If you really want to see God’s intervention and manifestations in your life, marriage and family this year, it is time for you to clean up and return to God. The Bible says: And the Lord said unto Moses, Go unto the people, and sanctify them to day and to morrow, and let them wash their clothes (Exodus 19:10).

    The first requirement for a life of purity is a departure from iniquity.  It is interesting for you to know that the Bible places the responsibility of departing from evil on you and me. You can’t sit down and wait for iniquity to depart from you; the onus lies on you to make a complete departure from whatever sin has been ravaging your Christian colour. The Word of God says: For sin shall not have dominion over you… (Romans 6:14). The price for sin has been fully paid but you need to make your choice whether to depart or to remain in sin. The Bible says: What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? (Romans 6:1).

    I want you to know that Jesus Christ did not shed His Blood for fun; He did so to provide for you and me an eternal cleansing from sin.  I want to say here that as a woman, you must not allow yourself to be deceived by sin. Do you remember how Eve fell? The serpent deceived her through his subtlety.  You have been warned seriously by the Word of God in 2 Corinthians 11:3:  But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.

    We all know that sin crept into the world through womanhood because Eve allowed herself to be deceived. Unfortunately, satan has not changed his tactics. He is still on the lookout for women to deceive, but he cannot get you!  Eve lost her unique place to sin. It destroyed her destiny, and robbed her of a life of fulfilment. The devil got Eve, but he will not get at you!

    The moment sin came, it birthed evils. One of the evils that manifested after sin was selfishness.  When God came into the garden and asked Adam why he had transgressed His command not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, Adam blamed Eve. Then God turned and asked, “What is this that thou hast done?” And Eve shifted the blame, “The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat”. That is selfishness! Today, many homes have been broken because nobody wants to give preference to the other.  The man is selfish, the woman is selfish, and the children are selfish!  All each person thinks about is “Me, Myself and I”. This even reflects in the kind of prayers they say, “Lord, bless me. Remember me with favour. Help me to succeed.  Well, if you care to remember others, not bad, but if not, still don’t forget me.”

    It is a known fact that humanity was corrupted through a woman, but God in His infinite mercy also chose to bring redemption to mankind through a woman. So, womanhood (or the feminine nature) is not an excuse to live in sin. Every woman can choose either to be a Mary or an Eve, and whether to live a pure or an impure life. The ball is actually in your court!

    Therefore, if you have chosen to live a pure life, then you need to surrender your life to Jesus. Just say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

  • Marriage: A garden of treasures (4)

    The family is God’s delight.     When God delights in you and you delight in Him, He makes your life and your home a delightful place. If it is joy you need, He gives it to you. If it is money that is in short supply, God releases it. If it is peace that is required, He brings peace. Everything it takes for your family to succeed is made available. When God delights in your family, everyone against your family progress is silenced and you enjoy all-round security and speedy answers to your prayers.

    Furthermore, when your delight is in Him, your life will always be on the increase (Psalm 18:19); God will promote you and you will enjoy abundance in every area of your life. God’s Word says: Thou shalt no more be termed forsaken; neither shall thy land anymore be termed desolate: but thou shalt be called Hephzibah, and thy land Beulah: for the Lord DELIGHTETH in thee, and thy land shall be married (Isaiah 62:4). This is God Word’s for you right now.

    Every successful home is a threat to satan’s kingdom, which is why he would do anything to destroy it.  Unfortunately, he gains entrance to many homes often through the woman. Remember, he gained access into the first home through Eve, and history always repeats itself. God’s Word says: But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtlety, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ (2 Corinthians 11:3).

    For this reason, men should protect their wives spiritually, to ensure that they do not engage in private discussions with hell, which can send them out of their “garden”.  Once the woman is effectively shielded from satan, he will have difficulty in trying to penetrate the home.

    Women are more susceptible to the attacks of satan, because of their roles in the home.  She is usually more at home than the man; so, she is more available to satan. He creeps in on her and tells her, “What makes you different from the man? Are you a slave? Have you forgotten that you too are educated as he (husband) is? Have you forgotten your placement in your office? There is no Jew nor Greek, male or female; the same Lord is rich over all.” If unguarded, the woman would be tempted to agree with him.

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    Somehow, satan is able to easily secure the attention of women, particularly when they are idle.  He barrages them with all sorts of negative information, which in turn makes them unhappy. He often arrests them by painting a deadly picture of calamity and woe, which they readily accept. But unfortunately, some women claim that it was God that revealed such information to them, not recognizing that it came through “the prince of the power of the air.”

    Woman, please learn to prove the source of the information that comes to you.  Find things out for yourself from the Word of God, because nothing anybody says can make the Word of no effect.  The destruction many families have experienced today came from information that had satanic sources.

    Man, it is time to awake and chase satan out of your garden! Until you say, “Get thee behind this family, satan”, he will keep hanging around. As man’s eternal enemy, satan has vowed to pull down the family unit.  God’s Word says: How should one chase a thousand, and two put ten thousand to flight, except their Rock had sold them, and the Lord had shut them up? (Deuteronomy 32:30). He wants to stop you from destroying his kingdom.

    In the covenant, one can deal with 1,000, two, especially in marriage, are empowered to put 10,000 to flight!  Satan knows this and wants to keep his kingdom; so, he launches attacks on the family, to prevent them from destroying his kingdom.  Since one family can destroy 10,000 demons, Satan aims at destroying the 10,000 capacity destroyers.  If he succeeds, he has preserved more demons to run errands for him.

    Another reason the devil wants to gain entrance into families is found in I Peter 3:7; Likewise, ye husband, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

    When a man and his wife are at variance with each other, their prayers are hindered, and they are disconnected from God.  They may pray all the time, but there will be no response from heaven.  Heaven will be shut, making it impossible for them to enjoy the harvest of whatever seed they may have sown.

    The man, who opens up his home to malice or discord, has blocked his access to God’s blessing.  Satan knows this, so he does all he can to see that there is rancour and strife between a man and his wife.  Anytime you sense any animosity rising within you against your spouse, know that satan is seeking an entrance.  Therefore, resist him steadfastly in the faith.  Tell yourself that since you have no intention of having another home, you will not give satan a foothold in your family!

    In case you are not yet born again, this is another opportunity for you to do so today. If you want to overcome satanic loopholes in your family this year, don’t miss this golden opportunity. You can become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

     

     

  • Marriage: A garden of treasures (1)

    By Pastor Faith OYEDEPO

    Dear reader, Happy new month! In this month where we celebrate the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, everything dying or dead in your life, marriage and family shall be resurrected, in Jesus’ name. Songs of victory shall be sung in your home, as all things will be turning around for good in your life.

    Marriage entails hard work. Unlike what some people think, especially Christians, a good marriage is not a promise from God, neither does it come by mere wishing. It’s a covenant, and demands responsibility from both parties involved. Just as the man has a part to play, the woman too has a responsibility to make the home work, and until both parties’ play their role, God is not committed to the success of the home.

    Marriage can be likened to a garden filled with treasures. In every garden, there are weeds, thorns and other harmful plants that grow along with the good and edible plants. It is the responsibility of the gardener to tend his field and ensure that these weeds are pulled out to enable healthy growth for the right plants.

    In this month’s series, I shall be teaching you on how to tend the garden called marriage. A garden signifies pleasure, abundance, fruitfulness and fulfilment. For marriage, God is the originator of this garden of blessings. The Bible states: And the Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed…to dress it and to keep it (Genesis 2:8, 15).

    From the above Scripture, it is clear that God is the originator of marriage and His intent is to create a better living for man within this context. For you to benefit maximally from this garden, it needs to be properly dressed and cared for. This implies that you remove all unwanted elements that could hamper a great harvest.

    Dressing your marriage takes time, labour, energy, diligence, patience, skill, among others. When your marriage becomes beautiful, its productivity and impact increases. Some people have potentially great marriages, but do not create the time to make it work. Dressing your marriage is a personal responsibility. No one can imagine for you how your marriage should be. In the same vein, no one can work out your marriage the way you would want it.

    The marriage garden is filled with treasures and these are highly valuable. When these treasures are traded, they take one off the realm of the ordinary to that of the supernatural. One of the assets in the marriage garden planted by God are trees.  In the natural, trees have several uses and can be converted into several useful things. God’s Word says: Out of the ground made the Lord God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food… (Genesis 2:9).

    Well-planted trees are a thing of beauty and they beautify the environment.  Marriage is meant to be beautiful! You can enjoy the beauty of marriage, if you choose to.

    Secondly, trees provide shade from the heat of the sun, and are used to prevent desert encroachment.  Your marriage can be shielded from the heat of the scourging sun that is beating many people so hard, in the world today.  Desert signifies dryness, thirst and hunger.  Your home is not designed to suffer any of these.  Therefore, if you will walk in accordance with God’s Word, you will be exempted.

    Thirdly, certain trees in the natural are used in draining excessive water from swampy areas. Marriage is meant to help you curtail the excesses of life.  Swampy areas breed mosquitoes and cause health hazards.  All hazards of life can be taken care of, by consciously obeying what the scriptures say about marriage.

    Fourthly, some trees bear edible fruits. God’s Word says: Out of the ground made the Lord God to grow every tree that is…good for food… (Genesis 2:9). Marriage is meant to give you satisfaction in life. Don’t die of hunger, when you can be filled. Many in the world are dying (even though married) for lack of fulfilment. It is hunger or a lack of fulfilment in marriage that makes a married man or woman go outside the home to commit adultery.  Begin to tap into the treasures in marriage and enjoy God’s best for your life.

    Fifthly, trees can be converted into several other useful things such as paper, firewood, rubber; and from trees, houses are built. If the resources in marriage are profitably tapped, they make you a man and woman of many parts. You become useful in many areas of life. An understanding of this truth has helped me to diversify in many areas of my life, and made me to become a blessing to more people, than I ever thought. You too can do same!

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    You are the builder of your home; you determine what happens, good or bad. However, you must remember that God is the ultimate builder. Constantly remember that you are only able to keep your home through God’s enablement. The Word of God is the basic raw material required for effective tending of the marriage garden. As you keep applying God’s Word to your home, He will keep manifesting His power through you.

    To access and effectively tend your garden using God’s Word, you must have a genuine connection with Him. This begins by being born again. This means accepting Jesus as Saviour and Lord of your life. If you desire to surrender and be born again, say this simple prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 or 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Setting a solid foundation for your home 4

    Pastor Faith OYEDEPO

    Dear reader,  you are welcome to the last segment of this teaching for the month. I believe the previous teachings have not only been a blessing to you, but to your family as well. It is my prayer that your spiritual life will be engraced to be more effective and you will gain more command by this, in Jesus’ name!

    A successful marriage requires commitment to one’s spouse. No amount of prayer, fasting, and “sleeping” in church can take the place of commitment in marriage. Marriage is not a temporary arrangement, but a lifelong commitment.  If this is true, you may wonder why the divorce rate is so high, even among Christians.  The reason is that many couples are not committed to each other.

    Commitment is the framework on which a marriage is built. A man and his wife must, therefore, be totally committed to each other spiritually, physically, emotionally and otherwise, and this will in turn bring security. A successful marriage must be exclusive, involving one man and one woman, in one lifetime relationship. Each spouse must be committed to “forsake all others”.

    The home, like any other organisation needs to be managed. It has to be ruled and its affairs controlled and directed in order to find fulfilment and joy in it. A glorious home is not a product of wishes, fasting or prayer. It is only attained by operating in the wisdom of the most High God. It is not enough to build one; it has to be sustained and maintained also. This week, I will be teaching on the missing link between couples.

    Time Investment

    Many couples have time for themselves within the first few weeks of marriage and afterwards never do. This becomes even worse when they start having children in the family. This is the reason many marriages that start off so sweetly fail, as a couples who think they know each other find out that they really don’t.  Investing time with your spouse will help build trust, confidence, peace, knowledge and a better understanding in your relationship. It will help you know each other better. The true nature of man appreciates being noticed because man is a living thing. There is nothing as hurting as when one party is neglected in a marriage.

    Many men just see their wives as a good cook, cleaner, mother of their children and keeper of the home and nothing more. This is so, because time has not been invested to know who their wives really are. 1 Peter 3:7 admonishes: Likewise, ye husbands dwell with them (wives) according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Every man should invest time enough to be knowledgeable about his wife.  You must spend quality time with your wife so much that you know her taste for things like toiletries, wears, colours and her likes and dislikes. The woman, on the other hand, should invest quality time enough to know her husband’s taste for things too.  You must be concerned about his well-being at work, business or career, his success and professional accomplishments. Usually, while a man craves respect from his wife first and then others, the woman’s self-worth is in place when she is loved and appreciated, first by her husband and then others.

    Secondly, time must be invested on children to meet their physical, emotional and spiritual needs.  A child is a gift from God, a blessing to the family and a unique blend of husband and wife (Psalm 127:3).  This is why time must be created for them too.  This will build love, security and trust. The best environment to raise a child is at home and as parents, God mandates us to fulfil this task.  Once you learn to order your priorities aright, you will find that the time invested in meeting their needs will not be in vain. The time invested in building a solid foundation for those children is not wasted. Even when they leave home and are in a place where you cannot see them physically, the knowledge of what they have been taught becomes a guide. Invest with them regular time such as play time, homework and assignment time; be available to answer their questions and teach them to seek after the Word of God.

    Wife, if your husband is the busy type, use the wisdom of God to get him to create time for the children.  Time is a very important thing you should invest on your children, not money.  For instance, there was a time when our children would come to me with questions that I felt their father should hear and be the one to answer. I would walk them to his study door and leave them to go in and meet him. Afterwards, they would come back excited and smiling, having had their questions answered. In time, they could confidently go to him and any time they entered his study, he would set them at ease by asking, “How was school today? What did you do at break-time?  Did you eat your school lunch?”  This type of intimacy and open communication was very useful for their emotional stability.

    Finally, time should be invested for your parents, relations and in-laws but this should be done with wisdom.

    The following are the things men and women would like to find in a spouse:

    What a woman wants in a husband

    • Someone who will spend time with her and talk with her.
    • Someone who will be tender with her.
    • Someone who will be her spiritual leader.
    • Someone who will be a good father to her children.
    • Someone who will be a good provider.

    What a man wants in a wife

    • Someone he can have fun with!
    • An interesting and exciting sex partner.
    • A good homemaker, and a good mother to his children.
    • A financially responsible partner.
    • A wife who will respect and admire him.

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

    With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

     

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

  • Setting a solid foundation for your home 3

    By Pastor Faith OYEDEPO

    Dear reader, I welcome you to this exciting moment in God’s presence, in Jesus’ name! Throughout this month, I have been looking at how to set a solid foundation for your home, and this week I will be examining communication as the key to a successful home. This study will centre on the effects of Communication Breakdown in Marriage.

    We understand that to have a successful marriage, you have to make yourself an expert in communication by trying to understand what your partner is saying on a simple level, as well as trying to analyse the underlying message or desire. If you don’t have a healthy way of expressing your thoughts and emotions to each other, of speaking and being heard, then everything else will ultimately crumble.

    What is Communication?

    Communication is said to be the art of passing across information. Until you successfully pass a message or thought across to someone else, you cannot be said to have communicated effectively. Communication in marriage involves more than passing across a feeling, thought, message or desire. It also involves how a thing is said and when it is said. In marriage, the word “communication” is broken down to “communion”, which means, sharing of thoughts and feelings. It also means to speak together as close friends. Communication can be said to be the “mortar” that cements the marital relationship. It is the key to a successful marriage. A wise man once said, “If you talk together, you stay together”, and I believe this is true.  It is important for you to know that marriage is all about living together.

    What then are the Principles for effective communication?

    Talking and listening

    Learning to have an effective communication in marriage is one of the most important aspects of marriage that a couple must work on. Being able to express oneself in the small areas will lead to open discussion in the big areas as well. If you want something, you need to say it. One of the most difficult problems when a couple is very busy is finding the time to talk. Communication takes a significant amount of time.               Husbands and wives should make a habit of talking about things that matter to them. This will involve time, but such time spent is never a waste, but an investment. Such time helps in developing a personal relationship with each other, which in turn brings about harmony. Someone once said, “A good communicator is always a good listener.” In essence, a good communicator is not one who talks all the time, but one who knows when to talk and when to listen.  There is a time for everything, says the Preacher in Ecclesiastes 3:1.

    Can you imagine how frustrating it will be for you to receive a phone call from a friend, who spends twenty minutes talking and never allowing you to say a word? You may listen politely the first time, but certainly not the next time. When next he or she calls, you will definitely not be keen to pick up the phone. For communication to be effective, when one person is talking, the other should listen. The Word of God says: Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath (James 1:19). From this scripture, it means that you should listen more than you talk! Someone has said this is the reason why God gave man two ears, but only one mouth! One person should not be the only one talking throughout.  No matter your temperament, never monopolize a discussion; give room to your spouse or other family members present as well to air their opinion. If your partner is an introvert and you are an extrovert, be patient enough to allow him time to talk and wait for him to finish before you respond. This requires discipline.  Good lovers are usually good listeners! Learn to listen. Perhaps the most essential quality for good communication in any relationship, and particularly in a marriage, is to be a good listener.

    The same principle works when you are handling difficulties or resolving differences.  Both of you should speak in turns, one at a time.  You should allow your spouse to finish speaking before you talk.  Both of you should not be found talking at the same time; before you know it, you will be pointing at each other, and the one with larger muscles begins to warm up for a final showdown. God is a God of order, and everything ought to be done decently and in order!

    Openness

    There is a need to be free to discuss everything about yourself with your spouse. There should be no hide-and-seek game. No one keeps secrets from himself.  It is not possible for the toe to hurt without the brain knowing; they are both members of one body. Similarly, God expects that when two become one in holy wedlock, nothing should be kept as secret between them.  Both must be open to one another and walk in sincerity. When a man takes a woman as a wife, the Bible declares that in God’s eyes, they are one flesh.  The Word of God says: He that loveth his wife loveth himself (Ephesians 5:28). The devil often leads people into thinking that if they open up completely, they may never be accepted for whom they are or that when their spouses hear the whole truth about an issue, they won’t love them anymore. But this is a lie. The Word of God says: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed (Genesis 2:25). If in the beginning, the man and his wife were naked but did not experience shame, then it follows that if you apply the same principle of openness in your marriage, shame will not be your portion!

    Faithfulness

    You must be faithful to your spouse in keeping secrets concerning everything he tells you. The Word of God says: A faithful man shall abound with blessings: but he that maketh haste to be rich shall not be innocent (Proverbs 28:20).

    Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are born again and now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily; obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21). With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through contact@faithoyedepo.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).