Category: Saturday Magazine

  • Modakeke wants more dividends of democracy

    Modakeke wants more dividends of democracy

    I MUST commend Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola for his efforts to transform Osun State. He is a great governor and a man of the people.

    Everybody in my town, Modakeke, knows that you are working. We can now see and feel development in our state.

    But the dividends of democracy we are enjoying in Modakeke are not enough. I am not saying that you are not giving us dividends of democracy, but we need more, considering our support for your government and the neglect of the town by previous governments.

    Modakeke people are your supporters. They are in support of all your political activities and governance style.

    Therefore, to make us happier, give us more dividends of democracy.

     

    Thomas Naths Ogunmakinde,

    Modakeke, Osun State.

  • Rivers police arrest man over girlfriend’s death

    Rivers police arrest man over girlfriend’s death

    A 28-YEAR-OLD MAN, Ahamehule Chukwu, an apprentice with elementary knowledge in pipe fitting, the knowledge he garnered in his days at the Government Technical College, Port Harcourt, Rivers State, has been arrested by men of the Rivers Police Command, over the death of his girlfriend, Ifeanyiwa Ani, 21.

    Chukwu claimed to have started love affair with Ani in 2012, which made her to move from her parents’ house to live with him in his family home in Eliozu, Port Harcourt in Obio/Akpor Local Government Area of the state.

    The young man’s mother and siblings had full knowledge of their cohabitation and the girlfriend’s little brother, Ike, usually spent weekends with them.

    Things went on smoothly until Ani purportedly started receiving calls from different men. Chukwu, the last child in a family of six, in anger, asked the allegedly unfaithful girlfriend to leave his house.

    It seemed like a regular break up until Ani’s lifeless body was found in front of a health centre in Eliozu.

    The Chief Medical Officer of the health centre, Dr. Ama Flag Amachree, reported that the body had three syringe punctures on the buttocks and was dumped there by unknown persons around at 4:30 am on March 31, this year, and he reported the matter to the police around 7:30 am of the same day.

    Men of the Okporo Police Division in Port Harcourt immediately swung into action to identify the deceased and ascertain what led to her death.

    The sad news got to the father of the deceased, Godwin Ani, who said one of his neighbours’ daughters came to him crying and said: “Papa Ifeanyiwa, Ifeanyiwa don die oh.”

    The shocked father got wind of his fourth daughter’s death late in the night and waited till morning before visiting the Okporo Police Station. On getting there, he gave his full statement, in which he noted that Ifeanyiwa had a boyfriend (Chukwu), whom she lived with before the sad incident.

    Godwin also stated that he had been to Chukwu’s house to visit his daughter and ask her to return home, but she refused, saying the boyfriend owed her N51,000 and that she would not leave until she got the money.

    Policemen then made efforts to invite Chukwu for questioning, but discovered that he had moved out of his family house. After repeated efforts, he came to the police station with his lawyer, and made a statement.

    When quizzed on his decision to vacate his family house, the young man said he did so because he rented it out to raise money to pay for a job he had found.

    Chukwu claimed that he last saw Ifeanyiwa in November 2013, when they parted ways after an argument over keeping or terminating a pregnancy she had which he said the deceased was desirous to terminate and gave her N20,000 for abortion.

    He also gave account of previous abortions she had done and the warning of the abortionist from Ogoni in Rivers State to her never to abort again, stating that he had never met or spoken with the abortionist.

     

    In a different account, Chukwu stated that the last time he saw the deceased was when they returned from a health centre after she complained of severe stomach ache, following an abortion.

    The suspect also disclosed that he had gone through preliminary rounds of the traditional way of discovering the truth by visiting a native doctor. In an attempt to validate his claims, he told of how the native doctor helped him to discover that Ifeanyiwa’s uncle killed his late father.

    The case was subsequently transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) in Port Harcourt, for further investigation.

    The Rivers Police Commissioner, Tunde Ogunsakin, in his reaction, condemned the spate of parental ineptitude, while admonishing parents to always painstakingly ensure that their children lead responsible lives.

    Ogunsakin, while warning against cohabitation of minors, said: “It is important that parents stress the importance of being responsible to their children. Abortion is a dangerous option. So, people who have no desire to raise children should abstain from it. A lot of things are happening. We need to properly instruct our children and wards.”

  • Release my results

    Release my results

    I AM using this opportunity to appeal to the Registrar of the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB) to release the results of the Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examinations I did in April.

    It was only my result in the English Language that was released. My results in the remaining three subjects were not released.

    I was not caught during the examinations for any irregularity. I did all my papers in accordance with the rules and regulations of the JAMB.

    My registration number is 45998486 EA; my examination number is P25711241 and my seat number is 241. I did my papers at FUTO, Imo State.

    I am appealing to the JAMB to release my results so that I can start planning my life.

     

    Nduka Steven.

  • ‘My husband injures me during sex’

    THE courtroom of an Ilesa Customary Court, Osun State, turned into a theatre of humorous but nasty divorce penultimate Wednesday, when a mother of six called Bosede, revealed bedroom issues she had kept under wraps lately, accusing her estranged husband, , of causing her injuries during sex.

    She told the court that her husband was fond of using a certain powerful stimulant before making love to her thereby injuring her private part on a number of occasions.

    “The situation has become unbearable for me. There was a day he made love to me and injured my private part, to the extent that I had to use warm water to wash the wound he inflicted on me for four days.

    “I did not allow him to sleep with me anymore when I discovered that his harmful lovemaking was as a result of taking a drug called ‘Vigour 100’ with the photograph of a man on it. When I made enquiries about the drug, I discovered that it was a sexual performance-enhancement drug.”

    Bosede said she was tired of reporting her husband to their children; hence, she decided to seek the dissolution of the marriage.

    “He resorted to beating me when I denied him of sex and I had to relocate to one of my children’s house when I could no longer cope with the incessant fight over sexual intercourse.

    She pleaded with the court to dissolve their marriage in order to save her from untimely death as a result of injurious sex, adding that her husband cannot stop using the drug mentioned.

    The court dissolved the marriage following the continuous absence of Bosede’s embattled husband from court.

  • FTAN forum tourism holds next month

    FTAN forum tourism holds next month

    The Federation of Tourism Associations of Nigeria [FTAN] in collaboration with the Federal Capital Territory Administration [FCTA] has announced that the second edition of their Tourism Investment Forum will hold next month.

    The event slated for June 10-11, 2014 will be held at the prestigious Ladi Kwali Hall of Abuja Sheraton Hotel and Towers.

    According to Chief Tomi Akingbogun, President of FTAN, the objectives of the program are to among others enable stakeholders to discuss and address some vital element towards the development and maintenance of tourism products and destinations that can induce creation of new tourism frontiers.

    Other reasons according to Akingbogun for the forum are, to showcase the potentials of the tourism sector to the economic development of Nigeria; to organize as well as to promote local tourism products and destinations to Nigerians before taking the same to the international market; and to strengthen relationship between the tourism investors and their services/product providers.

    The two-day event will include seminar and exhibition and are expected to give a new direction for the tourism industry; with participants expected from federal agencies, states, airlines, hotels, travel agents, and tour operators among others.

    FTAN President assured that necessary contacts are still being made within and outside the sector to mobilise stakeholders to grace the second edition of the investment forum next month.

    Meanwhile, this year’s edition presentations will include; Developing Nigeria’s Travel and Tourism: The Kenyan Experience by the Managing Director of Kenyan Tourism Board, Travel and Tourism Contribution To Nigeria Gross Domestic Products [GDP] by the Director General of Federal Office of Statistics [FOS], Identifying Nigeria’s Tourism Products by the Minister of Tourism, Culture and National Orientation and Medical Tourism: Prospect in Ondo State.

    Other papers to be presented are, Balancing Tourism Development and Revenue Generation by the Minister of Finance and  Coordinating Minister for the Economy,  Application of Legal Framework for Sustainable Travel and Tourism Development in Nigeria, FCT as an Emerging Conference Destination in Africa by FCT Minister, Affordable Air Transport: Tool for Development of Tourism by Captain Boyo and finally Promoting Domestic Tourism: Tool for National Economic Development by the Director general of the Nigerian Tourism Development Corporation [NTDC]

    Chief Tomi noted that the tourism investment’s forum will be used to urge the government to quickly address some difficulties operators are facing, especially high interest rates, double taxation, and the need for reorientation of Nigerians to patronize local tourism products/destinations, that the current level of occupancy and low tourism activities in the country cannot support.

    NTIFE is an annual convergence of public and private sector Tourism practitioners, Federal and State officials.

    The 2013 edition recorded a huge success with over 3,000 participants and exhibitors in attendance.

  • Develop Igede land

    Develop Igede land

    GOVERNOR Gabriel Suswam is a man of the people. He has done a lot in Benue State. This is why many indigenes of the state love him.

    But the people of the Igede land are not getting much from the governor in terms of dividends of democracy. And these are strong supporters of the governor.

    We need secondary schools, electricity, good roads, potable water and other good things of life.

    The most neglected part of the Igede land is the Itogo Obi Local Government Area. The people of this area are suffering as a result of the neglect.

    I am begging the governor to give us development in the strict sense of the word. We need it badly. And the only person that can give us is Governor Suswan.

    Cecilia,

    Igede, Benue State.

  • Adenuga  shines at  Awujale’s 80th  birthday

    Adenuga shines at Awujale’s 80th birthday

    The 80th birthday of the Awujale of Ijebuland, Oba (Dr) Sikiru Adetona, will go down in history as one of the most classy and well attended events in Nigeria in many years. The longest serving Ijebu monarch joined the class of octogenarians penultimate Saturday and the ceremony proved to be worthy of the efforts that awere put into its preparations.

    The birthday was marked with a week-long programme that started with a thanksgiving service and ended with a luncheon party at the expansive Dipo Dina Stadium in Ijebu-Ode. The event was another opportunity for the world to see the affinity shared by the Awujale and Dr. Mike Adenuga. Not only did Globacom ban‎ner and logo adorn the whole of Ijebu-Ode, the Globacom boss also took his seat very close to the Awujale.

    Not one to overlook kind gestures, especially one coming from Adenuga, Oba Adetona was full of praises for the Globacom boss, telling the gathering that he (Adenuga) was the most generous Nigerian.

  • The deadly way out

    The deadly way out

    Sad chronicle of Nigeria’s suicidal youths

    Faced with recurrent socio-political and economic hardships, some Nigerian youths seek escape by committing suicide.

    Titilola Bada leapt from her perch on the floor for the fourth time. She hobbled to the door on feet that were deemed too unsteady to bear such pace on her chubby frame. The two-year old kept chanting “Koke! Koke!”  a corruption of her mother’s name “Toke”  as she made for the entrance every time somebody knocked on the door. Instinctively, each visitor picked her gently from the floor, flashing a dull smile and cooing reassuringly into her ears: “Mummy is coming,” “Mummy went to get you biscuit,” and so on.

    The fifth time she ran to the door, Asake Olanbiwonu a.k.a Iya Olomi, her grandmother, got impatient and snapped rhetorically at no one in particular that: “Will somebody save this poor girl from her misery and take her somewhere to play?”

    Iya Olomi’s rhetoric spurred a neighbour’s daughter to act; the latter, an undergraduate of the Ekiti State University, Ado-Ekiti, scooped up Titilola in her arms, telling her they were going to buy biscuit as she stepped out with her.

    As they departed, Iya Olomi’s wrinkled hand fell unsteadily from her cheek and she shifted her gaze from their retreating visage to stare at a life-sized portrait of Toke, her late daughter.

    Silently, a lone tear glided down the rough edges of her face; Toke, on April 29, swallowed an overdose of a second-rate insecticide and rat poison. The 22-year old trader reportedly came home few hours after she left for a party on the day of the incident on the pretext of picking up some forgotten jewelry.

    “I was outside sieving yam flour when she arrived. I asked her what she had come back to do so early but she simply hurried past me claiming she had forgotten some jewelry. Twenty minutes after she arrived, she still hadn’t come out. I called from my shop (which was few metres from the deceased’s window) to ask if she had seen the jewelry and she bellowed back at me in the affirmative. She said she had seen it and she only needed to rest for a while. ‘I can’t be the first person to arrive at the party,’ she told me.”

    Unknown to Iya Olomi, her daughter had no plans to go to the party. About one hour after she went inside, Toke’s mom tried to prise open the door to her room but realised that it was firmly locked from inside. “She never used to lock that door,” said Iya Olomi. But on that fateful day, Toke did.

    By the time the door was forced open two hours later, with the assistance of their neighbours, Iya Olomi found the lifeless body of her daughter on the bed. Toke left no suicide note but she left behind a 78-year-old mother and two-year-old daughter.

    Nobody knows what drove the 22-year-old to commit suicide but three weeks after she took her life, Toke’s demise remains a deep and festering gash in the hearts of her loved ones.

    A greater gash no doubt festers in the heart of Tanko Mijinyawa. Four months ago, in January 2014 to be precise, the latter watched helplessly as Mansur, his 21-year-old son set himself ablaze and burned to death at their family home in Taraba State. Mijinyawa had allegedly refused to bless his son’s marriage, claiming that his prospective bride, Blessing, was a wrong choice.

    Apparently dissatisfied with his father’s take on the issue, the young man went to a corner in the compound, poured petrol over his body and set himself on fire. According to eyewitnesses, efforts to save Mansur’s life proved futile as they could not reach him because of the flames. His father was reportedly rushed to the Federal Medical Centre, Jalingo, to treat injuries sustained while trying to rescue his child from the fire. The following month Saidu Babura, a 45-year-old security guard, hung himself to death on a tree. This reportedly took place after years-long protracted battle with drug abuse.

    In Nigeria, suicide is becoming a major public health issue; the past few years have heralded an upsurge in suicide death reportage in the local media. For instance, the Nigerian public will not forget in a hurry, the story of Tunrayo, an ex-banker that allegedly took her own life in July 2011 by hanging herself, after being jilted by her lover. Tunrayo reportedly attempted suicide earlier in December, 2010. Reports had it that depression started settling into the once sociable lady’s life when her fiancé called off their wedding and broke up with her. Many more incidences of suicides were recorded in the past years, with most of the victims ending their lives by hanging themselves; many victims reportedly committed suicide due to seemingly insurmountable dilemma they found themselves.

    A final year student of Business Administration at the National Open University of Nigeria (NOUN), Lagos State, allegedly committed suicide by hanging himself two days after he was caught cheating while sitting for his final examinations. He reportedly left what could be regarded as a suicide note, through his Facebook post, saying, “What they said about me is not true in the school, but God knows better. Thanks, we see at the end, I love you all.”

    Tobilola, 22, reportedly committed suicide when her boyfriend denied her pregnancy. Her suicide note read: “Please, I killed myself by taking rat poison because he rejected my pregnancy. I was sincere to him and I never double dated. So I decided to take my life and my God will revenge because I did not forgive him.”

    Ayobami Ogundare, 22, a student of Moshood Abiola Polytechnic, Ojere, Abeokuta, also committed suicide in January this year, in mysterious circumstances. The victim had reportedly made an earlier attempt to jump in a river three days earlier but was restrained by members of a vigilance group who rushed to his rescue. Ogundare eventually committed suicide on January 5, after a thanksgiving was held for his sake by his family at their church.

    In Jalingo, Taraba State, we had the case of a 30-year-old woman, Bilkisi Gidado, allegedly committed suicide after her husband took a second wife. Gidado was said to have set herself ablaze and eventually fell into a well in her residence.

    According to the World Health Organisation statistics, about one million people worldwide die from suicide every year (mean mortality rate: 16 per 100.000), that is, one death every 40 seconds. In some countries suicide is the second leading cause of death in the 10 to 24 years age group; these figures do not include suicide attempts which are up to 20 times more frequent than completed suicide.

    For example, in Germany only accidents − mainly fatal traffic injuries − are a more frequent cause of death in adolescents aged between 15 to 19 years. The relative weight of suicide as a cause of death varies between countries and regions, according to the impact of a variety of factors. Nevertheless, suicide remains an important cause of death among adolescents and young adults worldwide.

     

    Demography of suicide

    Though suicide is a deeply personal and individual act, suicidal behaviour is determined by a number of factors, according to medical experts. These can be classified under the terms of predisposing factors and precipitating factors, according Olumide Okin, a consultant clinical psychiatrist. Predisposing factors, according to him, are internal determinants operating at the level of the individual. These include such dynamics as personality traits, bonds with family and society, biological and genetic factors.

    Suicidal behaviour, however, has two dimensions, according to recent research findings. The first dimension is the degree of medical lethality or damage resulting from the suicide attempt. The second dimension relates to suicidal intent and measures the degree of preparation, the desire to die versus the desire to live, and the chances of discovery. The clinical profiles of suicide attempters and completers overlap. Suicide “attempters” who survive very lethal attempts, which are known as failed suicides, have the same clinical and psychosocial profile as suicide “completers”, according to a recent WHO and World Bank sponsored report.

    This assertion is wholly illustrated by a recent incident involving Sunday Omotayo, an unemployed Mechanical Engineering graduate of the Ekiti State University. Omotayo who attempted to commit suicide recently when he threw himself down on a busy street Uyo, Akwa Ibom State in frustration at his circumstances. Exasperated at his inability to secure a job 10 years after graduating from school, Omotayo attempted to committed suicide in the Akwa Ibom State capital by jumping off a speeding Toyota Hiace bus on to the road leading to Ibom Plaza in the city centre.

    He reportedly resorted to the suicidal act after failing at an earlier one. Omotayo allegedly approached the state’s prison service asking the warders to either kill him or allow him rot in jail. One prison official said: “We just saw somebody, well dressed and on tie with no look of being mentally deranged running towards us. His action forced us to become immediately alert with our weapons.

    “The next thing he said was shoot me, shoot me, I want to die, I am tired of this world. We were still facing him with our weapons when he scrambled towards us, saying we should allow him to enter and die inside the prison,” revealed a prison guard.

    The prison officers eventually succeeded in calming Omotayo’s nerves and got him on the bus from which he made another suicide bid. Fortunately, none of the cars crushed him when he jumped off the bus and policemen were on hand to restrain him.  Omotayo said: “There is no state that I have not gone to in search of job in the past 10 years but none for me. I came to Akwa Ibom State because this is my last hope…I have heard stories of Governor Godswill Akpabio’s uncommon transformation. However, unfortunately, since I came, I discovered that even many people from Akwa Ibom are also crying because of poverty and joblessness.”

    According to the statistics published by the National Bureau of Statistics in December, as many as 54 per cent of Nigerian youths were unemployed in 2012; in the survey, the population of youths aged between 15 and 35 years in Nigeria was estimated to be 64 million.

     

    Personality traits

    Personality characteristics have been associated with higher risk for suicide. The traits that have been identified are a heightened sense of hopelessness, a high score on neurotism, external locus of control, low self-esteem, aggression, novelty seeking behaviour, and impulsiveness. The trait of introversion has been associated with higher risk for suicide, especially among adolescents. Suicidal youths have often been linked with impulsive and aggressive tendencies and low tolerance for frustration. Such youths are not only more aggressive toward others and their environment but also are more impulsive in other ways that involve, for example, relationships or personal decisions about a job or purchases. A propensity for more severe suicidal ideation and a greater likelihood of acting on powerful feelings combine to place some at greater risk. The greater frequency of aggressive behaviours in men may partly explain the higher suicide rates reported in men than in women, argued Dr. Lakshmi Vijayakumar, a consultant clinical psychiatrist.

     

    The male as easier prey to suicide

    In most countries, men have a higher reported rate of completed suicide, whereas women have a higher rate of attempted suicide. Men tend to use means that are more lethal, plan the suicide attempt more carefully, and avoid detection. In contrast, women tend to use less lethal means of suicide, which carry a higher chance of survival, and they more commonly express an appeal for help by conducting the attempt in a manner that favors discovery and rescue.

    Studies conducted in the developing countries of the African continent shows that the trend of more attempted suicides by women was maintained. But the rates for completed suicide for men were higher. In South Africa for instance 76.8 per cent of all suicide attempts were made by women.  In Nigeria the ratio for completed suicide for men to women was 3:6 to 1.

    The rates of suicide in the aged, especially men, have been steadily rising in most developing countries with depression and chronic physical illness being the main contributing factors. But the most vulnerable group are the young adults which has seen a peak in the recent years with the rates rising for both males and females other than in mainland China where the spurt has been restricted to rural females, according to research findings courtesy a World Bank and W.H.O assisted project.

    A five-year (1996 – 2000) retrospective study in South Africa found that the average age of the suicide attempters was 31.2 years. Research findings from Nigeria indicate that most victims were in the third decade of their life. This was also confirmed by a six-month prospective study done in the three main general hospitals in Ibadan, Nigeria. In the study, 39 cases of deliberate self-harm were reported out of a total 23,859 subjects attending the sections of hospital studied. Thirty (76.9%) were under 30 years of age and 36 (86.3%) were less than 34 years of age with more than half of the population (51.3%) being students.

    Male to female ratio of suicide in Niger Delta for instance, is 7:1. This conclusion was drawn from the result of a research conducted by Dr. Offiah S of the Department of Anatomic Pathology, Abia State University Teaching Hospital and C.C Obiorah of Department of Anatomic Pathology, University of Port Harcourt Teaching Hospital, Port Harcourt, Rivers State. The research was a 10-year retrospective study of suicide cases reported to the Coroner in Rivers and Abia states of Nigeria. There were 32 cases (0.9%) of suicides out of a total of 3,555 medico-legal autopsies reviewed over the period. Of the 32 cases, 28 (87.5%) were males and four (12.5%) were females, giving a male to female ratio of 7:1.

    The age distribution showed a peak incidence in the third decade. The commonest method of committing suicide in this environment is by hanging. The range and mean of the ages is 16 – 64 yrs and 31 yrs, respectively; this shows that the choice of how to die often depends on the most available and most convenient means at hand. Women chose less violent means of suicide such as drowning or poisoning, while males often chose violent methods such as hanging or firearms, according to the findings.

    This gender ratio is similar to the accepted view of male dominance, and has also been reported in many other countries. Some medical professionals believe this dominance stems from the fact that males are more likely to end their lives through effective violent means. This observation confirms the general view of the male sex being more aggressive and violent. The aggressive and violent attribute of males have been ascribed to the male sex hormone – testosterone.

    The rising cases of suicide bombings perpetrated by male militants with the Boko Haram terrorist group in North East Nigeria, for instance, substantiates the argument that the male gender oftentimes is prone to violent suicide, according Isabella Ayinde-Thomas, founder of the the Subsaharan Peace Initiative International (SPII).

    According to the World Health Organisation’s Suicide Prevention Programme (SUPRE) website, in some countries suicide rates among young people have increased so much that adolescents and young adults represent the group at highest risk for suicide. This refers to a third of all countries and holds for more and less industrialised nations. A high suicide rate among adolescents and young adults in Nigeria for instance is becoming a recurrent malady.

     

    Risk factors

    A Consultant Psychiatrist, Dr Abiodun Adewuya, expressed concern over the high rate of suicide in Nigeria, blaming the problem on the inability of government to address social issues. Adewuya of the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH), Ikeja, said that available hospital records had shown that suicide was becoming rampant in the society.

    According to him, there could be extreme cases that could drive people to commit suicide. He attributed the rising cases of suicide in the country to mental illnesses, chronic illnesses, social and environmental factors, adding that lack of self-esteem also made many people to commit suicide.

    “There are some illnesses that are likely to make you want to commit suicide, like depression…Severe cases are people who have very low mood, they have pessimistic thinking. Most of them believe that they cannot succeed in life, that they are better off dead. There could be other chronic debilitating illnesses that are highly stigmatised.

    “The second one is the social cause. One, in which you believe the environment is dysfunctional, you cannot function inside it. The other one in which you believe you are very dysfunctional, it’s either you live in the environment or you just kill yourself. And the other one in which you believe that you are fighting for a cause,” he noted.

    It has also been seen in many studies conducted in the developing world that suicide was preceded by a period of acute stress. Major life events have almost always been identified in the preceding two weeks before a suicide attempt is made. Stress when chronic has also been identified as one of the reasons for suicide. Stress can result from financial setbacks, grief over the death of a loved one, academic failure, and break-up of a marriage and from other environmental and socio-cultural factors.

    Poverty, poor physical health, physical and psychological abuse among other factors lays grounds for low quality of life. All these factors contribute to a higher risk for suicide. Researchers have identified various risk factors that contribute to suicide. The ones that have been consistently recognised have been broadly classified include, physical abuse, that is childhood adversities including physical, emotional and sexual abuse which have been proven to lead to substantially higher risk for suicide. Wife abuse is one of the most significant precipitants of female

     

    Shades of intent

    The key difference between deliberate self-injury and suicide attempt is in the intent to end one’s life. For example, a 14-year-old girl takes a small overdose of paracetamol intending to kill herself, although she does not succeed (suicide attempt). Another 14-year-old girl takes a large overdose of paracetamol because she is angry and upset. She did not want to kill herself (non-suicidal self-injury).

    Further, some non-suicidal self-harming acts may actually result in death  by ignorance or miscalculation (the latter 14-year-old was not aware of the toxic effects of paracetamol and actually died as a result). It has to be kept in mind that both forms of self-harm may overlap: individuals with suicide attempts may also show non-suicidal self-injuring behavior and vice versa. Regrettably, evaluating intent is often difficult in clinical practice.

     

    Theological objections

    Suicide is variously considered as a sin by adherents to the two most prominent faith in Nigeria, Christianity and Islam. A Muslim cleric, Sheikh Abdulrahman Olaniwun, argued that it is sinful for a man or woman to take his own life. “Whatever issues you have to deal with, Allah (S.W.T) has instituted measures to assist you in overcoming them. You only need to reach out to him in prayer,’ he said. Corroborating him, Evangelist Israel Oduseun, a Lagos-based pastor, stated that anyone that takes his own life, will find himself to blame before God. Suicide is wrongful. It is a sin that establishes and celebrates lack of faith in the greatness and omnipotence of God,” he said.

     

    Suicide in Nigeria at a glance

    The Nigeria Police Force classifies suicide under ‘Offences Against Persons’ in sections 326 and 327 of the Criminal Code although the force suffers a dearth of dependable statistics on local suicide rates.

    However, the Deputy Police Public Relations Officer, Force Headquarters, Abuja, Frank Mba, said it would be difficult to provide the exact figure of suicide cases in Nigeria because not all cases were reported formally. And while it was difficult to get the statistics of suicide rate in the country, Mba said the 2007 and 2008 figures covered all the states of the federation. According to the police, Nigeria recorded more cases of suicide in 2007 than in 2008. While there were 154 reported cases in 2007, the figure dropped to 141 in 2008. Lagos State recorded the highest figure of 42 cases or almost 30 per cent of all cases in 2008 alone, followed by Oyo, 13; Anambra, 12; and Bauchi, 12.

    In 2007, Bauchi led with 25 cases, followed by Edo, Kano and Anambra with 12 cases each. Section 326 of the Criminal Code condemns “Aiding Suicide” and stipulates that, “Any person who procures another to kill himself or counsels another to kill himself and thereby induces him to do so or aids another in killing himself is guilty of a felony and is liable to imprisonment for life.”

     

    Dealing with suicide

    It is, to recast Jane Austen; a truth universally acknowledged that elevated suicide rates reflect social dysfunction. Riaz Hassan in his study of suicide in Singapore observes that what all sociological accounts of suicide have in common is: “They explicitly or implicitly take suicide as symptomatic of what is wrong with society: the higher the suicide rate, the greater the social tension and lack of social cohesion.”

    And touting elevated rates of suicide as consequence of extreme social isolation of individuals in industrialised societies, Emile Durkheim, French Sociologist in 1897, proposed the creation of new intermediate groups in society which would unite workers and managers. “The chief role’ of these utopian corporations, which is labeled as a form of ‘centralised guild-socialism’ would be to ‘govern social functions, especially economic functions, and thus extricate them from their present state of disorganisations,” argued Durkheim.

    In the atomised world of modern society, it would be necessary for the state to create and foster these rather unlikely organs of civil society to reform and strengthen the social bonds which the market and the modern division of labour had severed.

    Two enduring traditions of social interpretation, however, trace their roots to Durkheim’s work. The first is the theme of isolated individuals in industrialised society who have few strong social bonds to others which in Durkheim’s interpretation is the principal cause of elevated suicide rates. The other enduring theme is the unchallenged acceptance that increasing or elevated suicide rates indicate the presence of some form of deep-seated social crisis. This notion holds that behind suicide and other youth problems also lies a profound and growing failure of the culture of societiesa failure to provide a sense of meaning, belonging and purpose in our lives, and a framework of values.

    More scholarly research work has advocated the significance of improving human relationships, building social capital and strengthening the bonds of kinship, interaction and other forms of human society but can such measures be ever enough to tame the rising fascination with suicide as a leeway out of peculiar problems afflicting peculiar suicidal youths?

    Dr. Adewuya advised that troubled individuals could develop resilience by cultivating good eating habit and maintaining good mental health. Adewuya urged the Federal Government and other non-governmental organisations to provide a social welfare system to prevent people from committing suicide. “In other places, the government has this welfare system that can trace people are living in abject poverty or in situations where socially, they need help. And the social workers are supposed to trace them and actually offer them something, but our social service system is very poor. So, someone who is depressed, or who had a mental illness, based on all these things we have outlined, you bring them to me, yes of course, I will treat them. Within a week or two they will leave my ward.

    “But I won’t give him a job, I won’t give him a wife, I won’t stop him from being in traffic for three hours before he gets to his house. All those ones are social issues that I cannot tackle,” said Dr. Adewuya.

  • Take heed of marriage destroyers (4)

    Dear Reader, I welcome you to this week’s teaching. In the previous editions, I have taught on wrong companion, slothfulness, anger, bitterness and covetousness, as some of those things that destroy marriages and families.  Consciously staying away from those things will bring about a quick turnaround in your life, marriage and family.

    Today, I will be teaching on IMPATIENCE as yet another thing that can destroy marriage and families.

    Patience is the opposite of impatience and impatience is simply the inability to deal calmly with a situation or wait for something.  It can also mean a state of being in an unusual haste. Many families have been ruined because of impatience in an individual or family member involved. The Word of God says: … He that believeth shall not make haste (Isaiah 28:16). Haste makes waste. One example of impatience is Abraham in Genesis 16:1-6. Abraham, the father of faith, came to a point in his life where he    experienced impatience. God had appeared to him several times, assuring him that he would have a son by his darling wife, Sarah. Having waited for what appeared to be too long a time, he readily gave in to Sarah’s suggestion to go into her maid and raise an heir through her. One would have thought that as great as Abraham was, he would be immune to impatience but it was so natural for him to give in to it. He must have been tired out from waiting long before Sarah made that suggestion; such that, the moment an opening came he quickly grabbed it. The consequence of Abraham’s action was that the child born by him out of impatience became an enemy of the child of faith: Ishmael and Isaac could not live together.

    Many have killed the joy of their would-be miracle because of their impatience with the Word of God.  The Word of God says: For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise (Hebrews 10:36). As a husband, you need to be patience with your wife.  As a wife, you need to be patience with your husband. You may not be getting what you really want from your spouse right now, but you need patience to tolerate him or her.

    If you have an unbeliever as a spouse, all you need do is to be patient with him or her. Patience can turn your unbelieving spouse to a man or woman after God’s own heart. Remember, God’s ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts than ours. Even when He appears to be delaying, you must never lose hope, because He makes all things beautiful in His time (Ecclesiastes 3: 11; 2 Peter 3:9). Don’t let the enemy cheat you out of your blessings. God is never slow or late; He is always on time with whatever He promises an individual. God’s time is the right time!

    The cure for impatience is simple patience backed by faith in the Word of God. The Word of God says in James 1:4: … But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. Perfection will only come, when your patience is in place. Your patience must be backed by a strong faith in God and His Word.  If you are experiencing turbulence in your home, for instance, you must discover what God’s Word says is the solution, and then step out in obedience. It may not look like the solution, but God is a marriage expert; He instituted the union and knows how best to make it work.

    When you fill your home with what the Word of God says concerning the home, it will not run short of miracles. To keep enjoying God’s blessings for your family, you must keep doing whatever He tells you to do. Not just doing it, but doing it right and going to the extremes in your obedience. God has not changed, and He will not compromise His standard.

    You need to give God’s Word a chance in your marriage and family. When His Word is not given its priority place in your marriage and family, there are bound to be problems.  Satan is rendered powerless when a couple stands firmly on the Word of God and operates by its principles.  So, hold on to God and His Word patiently. Many give up when they are just a minute to their breakthrough  Don’t give up!  Trust God completely.

    God’s Word in Hebrews 10:36 says: For ye have need of patience, that after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. Patience is a must! Instead of looking at the problem, challenge or situation, look into God’s Word, confess it to yourself and remind Him in prayers of His promises.  If, for instance, you are looking for a baby, instead of mourning over doctor’s reports and getting unhappy about every monthly menstrual circle that comes, you can hold on to God’s Word; it never fails. To overcome the darkness of barrenness, go for the light in God’s Word and keep declaring it until that barren situation changes. Light will always shine in darkness and darkness can never comprehend light (John 1:5).

    A woman gave this testimony and in her own words, she said: “I have been married for seven years.  Shortly after my wedding, my period seized.  I thought I was pregnant, so I kept expecting my baby.  But it turned out to be a false alarm.  From the results of an ultrasound scan that I did, the doctor said I my uterus was too small to accommodate a baby. I laughed it off, reasoning that if God has given those without wombs, children, how much more I, who even has one. There is hope for me.  During one of the conventions, Pastor (Mrs.) Faith Oyedepo made mention of my case. I immediately, I got up and started declaring my restoration.

    After the prayers, my period was restored and a month later, I became pregnant! My baby was born and his name is David! All glory to God.” I declare by the power backing the Word of God that I bring to you right now, that situation of barrenness is consumed and you are liberated in Jesus’ name! Your testimony shall be the next in Jesus’ name! You are free!

    However, true liberty from all those things that destroy marriage and family is established when you accept Jesus Christ into your life. If you would like to accept Jesus Christ into your life, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!

    Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: counselling@faithoyedepo.org; Tel.  No: 07026385437; 08141320204

    For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.

  • New  way to rock  jeans

    New way to rock jeans

    IT is so interesting the various ways you could wear your jeans. Jeans have come a long way and it seems to have come to stay too. They are no longer just a casual outfit, as they can be combined with other clothes to give an English or traditional outfit.

    A new way to wear your jeans now in vogue is with African fabrics, especially ankara tops. As more creative designs are done with the African prints, there are more choices for tops and shirts for your jeans depending on the occasion.

    For office wear: A long sleeve shirt tucked in on straight jeans with pencil-heel shoes would not be bad for corporate look, especially when you want to appear smart.

    Office on Thursday: A smart shirt on straight jeans is a good idea when the rush of the week is dying and when you want to free yourself from the Monday to Wednesday’s suit.

    Saturday is usually a day to look forward to. You just want to look your own style. Even if you have to go to the office on Saturday, make your outfit different from what it has always been. Fly your shirt on your jeans. You wouldn’t be fired for it. It’s weekend.

    Friday special: For most people, Friday is the favourite day of the week to show off the latest traditional attire. Do it; it is not pride; you deserve it; it is just once in a week.

    Sunday impression: Whatever you wear, make sure that Sunday should be cool. You could make that simple, cool statement with your jeans.

    First date: For most girls, their first date does not mean much to them. Don’t try to impress him with your looks on your first date. Just be simple and let him find out the rest.