Category: Saturday Magazine

  • Time to ‘harass’ our leaders more has come

    British politicians are amongst the most heck led, harassed in the world. Their constituencies, the voters and other citizens don’t give them breathing space. Every action they take is minutely examined, analysed and criticized when necessary. Take for instance, what happened recently when the Prime Minister, David Cameron made a trip from London to Edinburgh by train. Nigerians not used to their way of life might wonder why the leader of one of the most powerful and richest nations on earth will be travelling by train instead of presidential jet. This is afterall, the country that conquered about a quarter of the world (including Nigeria) and still has a firm grip on a large part of the earth’s landmass and resources.

    Well, that is their style; their leaders make use of the same public utilities that the ordinary citizens use. They don’t live separate from the common people or fly around in private jets, helicopters or other means of elitist transport our leaders here use regularly.

    Anyway, on the trip, perhaps tired from the rigours of state affairs or the harassment from the citizens, he decided to take a nap. Nothing wrong with that for afterall body no be wood; the body needs to be refreshed with sleep from time to time. Someone, maybe a fellow passenger, took a snap of the sleeping PM and within a short time, the picture went viral on the Internet.

    Trust the Brits. Some commentators began hackling him, calling him names such as ‘Dozy Cam’ with one stating that the PM sleeps ‘even when he is awake!’ What annoyed another citizen was not the fact that he was sleeping ‘on duty’ but that he travelled by ‘First class! To her, the PM should have been in the Third class compartment so that he will have a taste of what ordinary Britons experience daily.

    Na wa for these oyibos, you might say. A PM travelling by train is not enough for them; he should have been in the 3rd class section of the train before they will be happy. If you have ever taken a train in the UK, especially the Tube (or Underground), you will know that there’s not much difference between the 1st class or 3rd class sections apart the privacy the former gives.

    Anyway, you might think the British citizens’ demands and expectations from their leaders are a bit excessive and harsh. But the fact is that it’s such attitude from the people that has turned their societies into what it is today, one that we somewhat admire and want to emulate. Whatever issues you might have with the oyibos, one thing you can’t take away from them is the way they have been able to ‘tame’ their environment to make life better for their people.

    And they didn’t get there by chance; it took years of struggles, sacrifice and sweat to get there. And active citizen participation was crucial in their journey of emancipation. Something which unfortunately we lack here in this part of the world. Our leaders here are the least harassed in the world. We let them do whatever they like, taking solace in the saying, ‘God will judge them!’ No wonder they treat us with such impunity and disdain and get away with all kinds of atrocities they commit.

    Some observers have blamed this phenomenon on the African leadership culture which could be referred to as the ‘Oba syndrome’. You know, the thinking that the Oba can do no wrong, is always right and should be respected whether he’s doing well or not. Well, nothing wrong in respecting the leaders as African culture demands that. But I believe such respect should be deserved, based on the leader’s personal qualities. There’s something wrong and even stupid in giving respect to a local government Chairman, for instance who steals public funds meant to develop the community and uses it to build private estates both locally and abroad, besides other investments. Such a person, to put it bluntly is a thief and should be treated as such.

    By next week, Nigeria will clock 53 years of independence. It’s been a very long, hard journey to this point and the way ahead looks even bleaker. Some have written the country off, calling it a ‘basket case.’ Since even baskets can be mended, Nigeria can also be fixed. But let’s not look up to the present crop of leaders (both elected and otherwise) to do that as they have too much to lose if the country is well structured and organised. What we need is more robust civil society institutions and eagle-eyed citizens that can demand accountability from their leaders so that Nigerians can get a fairer deal from their collective patrimony.

  • Re: A tenant’s dilemma

    •Your story, A tenant’s dilemma is highly captivating. May your ink never dry. My reaction comes at the end of the gist. Remain blessed. Ben C. Nsukka. 070631213**

    •My advice is this. Though, it’s very painful, he should forgive his wife as the Bible advised. Nobody is perfect except God. Ogiri, from Nasarawa State. 081866236**

    •I saw your story in the newspaper about your wife dating your landlord- don’t marry that woman again. God will give you your true wife ok. 081005688**

    •I had a similar experience from a lady. I foresee danger if you take her back. If marriage is for better for worse, she ought not have gone into such an act.

    She is a devil. 080788862**

    •I can’t wait to buy Nation every Saturday because of your write ups. Just keep serving it fresh. Kudos. May your ink and inspiration never run dry.

    Tope Olusa. 080370061**

    •For Ekene to forgive in a situation like this is not easy but as a Christian, you have to try and let go of the past and start afresh for the sake of your daughter.

    •Mshelia F- 081755835**

    My name is Vivian from Port-Harcourt. I want to contribute on the issue going on between you and your wife. If I were in your shoes, I won’t take back that woman as my wife because she is a materialistic wife and can’t stay without money. So find another girl and get married. A girl that will love you because of who you are and not what you have. 080683492**

    •If the story is ever true, you are certain to sign your death warrant for contemplating taking her as your wife again. Also, she has all the potentials of stripping you of that your new job. Beware! She will bewitch you gravely. Please be a principled man. Imo O from Uyo- 080644054**

    •As I’m reading this story, my stomach pains me. You are a good person, that landlord would have signed off that property to me. 080330912**

    •My brother, the affair went on for too long and as they say, when you are involved you will be the last person to hear. The affair made your neighbours angry that’s why the woman told you. My advice is, let Vero go because history do repeat itself and like the Yorubas will say ‘the eye you will grow old with should not pain you when you are young.’ Monday from Warri 080381619**

    •To hell with your so-called Vero. This wife of yours is capable of killing you and any other person. There are many faithful and trustworthy women searching for where to put their heads. Be reasonable and listen to your wise and loving mother’s advice and mine too. I.M Shaba, Nasarawa State. 081704197**

    •May God save us from bad women. A Yoruba adage says, ‘If a woman is engaging in extramarital affairs, if she didn’t kill herself, she will kill her husband. On this issue, it takes the wisdom of God. Well, my advice is that the man should forgive her for the sake of their daughter, but tell the little girl. 081427219**

    •As for me, I will never advise you to take that kind of woman as a wife again. She’s a bad wife. I don’t even think she loves you because she would not have done that even if you didn’t have money. Just get yourself a new wife to let her know that the success of a man comes after his disappointment. Barrister Henry 070398428**

    •In my opinion, I will advise you to quit the relationship irrespective of the overtures from her family. If you take her back, what is the possibility that if things go bad with you she will not do worse? If your wife cannot understand and endure with you for better for worse, then she’s not worth it. My candid advice to you is to quit the marriage and look for another woman. Ekong Nsima. 070354901**

    •Which advice are you looking for? God used your situation to let you know the kind of person your wife is. I pray you don’t die of hypertension this time around when she starts sleeping with your friend. Move on and get yourself a new wife. 070580060**

    •My brother, you are lucky she did not poison you through food. That would have been her second plan because you are no longer a husband but a hindrance. 080330912**

    •My brother, the Bible makes it clear that we can divorce our wife becos of unfaithfulness. Therefore move on with your life and your children since God has given you a new job. 081758943**

    My name is Nwamadi Henry from Abuja. I agree that what the woman did was wrong but the truth of the matter is that the woman did it for both of them- if the wife was not having an affair with the landlord, he would have asked them to leave his house since they cannot afford to pay the house rent on time. This would have disorganised the man since he is jobless and he would not have been able to go to PH while his properties are outside under rain and sun… 081480251**

    My suggestion is that you should follow your mother’s decision and don’t marry that woman again. She’s not faithful becos if she was faithful, she would not have done that. Hafeez from Edo State. 081660132**

    •Haba! That is too bad of her, she even disgraced women. Of course, if you don’t accept her back, you are not at fault, my dear brother. Don’t let anybody dictate to you. It pains you and it pains me also so go with what your mind tells you to do. But as for me o, am not teaching you what to do but I will never in my life accept her back because she can even kill you because of the greedy man. Please don’t do what will bring you regret at the end ok. Think before you act. From Mary Oyinkansola Adeagbo, Ibadan. 070319533**

    •Your true life story ‘A tenant’s dilemma’ really touched me. It’s a pity that Ekene suffered this much from his wife whom he loved so much. May I praise him for not committing murder during the show of shame. Ekene should look for another wife, with time, he will learn to love again. The Bible consents to divorce on the basis of adultery. Please forget about Vero. She’s not your wife. When your child grows up, she will understand. Thanks. Ben C. Nsukka 070631213**

    •Your own case is a pathetic one but not in isolation. Just assume you don’t know that such a thing was going on between them. For God’s sake and that of your daughter as you would not want to raise her under a broken home, forgive her and take her back but resettle far away from that environment and away from family members for sometime. Maybe time may heal the wound. Keep praying for your family. From Ayodele, Ibadan. 080609468**

     

  • There are three other guys in my girl’s life but I love her so much

    Ma I need your help in this – I love this girl and we have known each other for two years but I just found out that there are three other guys that she is having something to do with because I saw the text messages they sent to her and the ones she sent to them too. Also, she wants me to provide whatever she needs and if I don’t she gets angry with me. I don’t know what to do now. I love her so much but I want to forget her but I can’t because we live on the same street. Please help me; what should I do? I still love her.

    I’m not saying you should stop loving this girl if she’s dating other guys and you’re very sure, but I’m saying let her be until you’re sure it’s going to be a healthy relationship. If she’s sleeping with these other guys, indirectly, you’re also sleeping with them. There are as many risks of having multiple sex partners as there are increasing old and new diseases to give you concerns. It is dangerous to continue this relationship and if you must continue with her, it important to take safety precautions such as condom use and regular medical testing, to avoid the following risks: pubic lice, urinary tract infections, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, genital herpes and the baba of them all, HIV. HIV is the incurable virus that causes AIDS. It attacks the body’s immune system, eventually causing the body to become unable to protect itself against infection and cancer. Death is the end results, and is usually due to an infection which the body was unable to fight off. You’ve been warned!

  • Tastee Fried Chicken boss loses only son

    Tastee Fried Chicken boss loses only son

    Olubunmi Adedayo’s death is more than calamity. His family, especially his mother, the owner of Tastee Fried Chicken, Mrs Olayinka Adedayo, was down with the news of his demise. Olubunmi, who until his death, was the Executive Director of TFC, died on Wednesday, September 25, 2013.

    According to a very reliable source, he fell ill few weeks ago and was flown to the US for treatment where he died. He’s survived by his parents and two kids.

  • Pastor Taiwo Odukoya gets first grandchild

    Pastor Taiwo Odukoya gets first grandchild

    It is a joyous season in the home of the Senior Pastor of the Fountain of Life Church, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya. It has been one piece of good news after the other for the Ijebu-born man on the pulpit. If he is not giving out his daughter’s hand in marriage, he is taking someone else’s daughter in marriage to his son.

    The latest addition to the string of good reports in the abode of Pastor Odukoya is that Tolu Ijogun, her first daughter, whose hand was given in marriage to Olumide Ijogun in November last year, was delivered of a bouncing baby girl in the United States of America penultimate Sunday.

    Needless to say that Pastor Odukoya was elated at the news that upgraded his status from just a father to a grandfather. The child’s christening was held last Sunday. The new mother, a chorister at his father’s church, was said to be doing fine with the baby.

    Tolu got married to Olumide after a long period of off-and-on relationship, which began when they were students in Greensprings, an elite high school in Lagos. It was a wedding ceremony that was witnessed by notable men of God. Jimmy Odukoya, also a pastor, took the baton from Tolu and also tied the nuptial knots four months later.

  • Jay-Jay Okocha parts ways with associate

    Jay-Jay Okocha parts ways with associate

    Former captain of the Super Eagles, Austin ‘Jay-Jay’ Okocha, is not in the best of moods at the moment. The dazzling footballer has parted ways with Lagos-based businessman, Friday Nwankwo-Kujah, who before now was widely regarded as Okocha’s Man Friday. Not only was Kujah Okocha’s best friend, the mercurial former midfielder was always willing to lend his ears to him on any issue. In fact, his businesses were said to have been entrusted into the hands of Kujah.

    The trust between Okocha and Kujah was so legendary that the former would not argue with the latter or subject him to any scrutiny whenever he proposed any business idea. Hence, the two carried on as business associates for many years.

    When the news of misunderstanding between them first broke, not a few people, particularly in the nation’s soccer circle, wondered what could have been responsible for it. Today, communication is said to have irretrievably broken down between the two so much so that they have resorted to litigation to sort out whatever is left of the ties between them.

  • IG Abubakar shuns honeymoon

    IG Abubakar shuns honeymoon

    After a successful high-octane fathia (wedding) with his new wife, Zara Bunu, at Thisday Dome, followed by a sophisticated dinner at the International Conference Centre, Abuja, penultimate Saturday, many would expect that the media would soon feed them with tales of how the Inspector General of Police, Mohammed Abubakar, is enjoying a fairytale honeymoon in one of the world’s most exotic hotels.

    But that was not to be. Celeb Watch gathered that the Zamfara-born IG returned to his desk at Louis Edet House, a couple of days after he walked down the aisle. Admirers of the nation’s number one cop can only wish him and his new wife a happy married life.

  • Aisha Babangida gets busy

    Aisha Babangida gets busy

    Months have rolled into years since Aisha Babangida’s second shot at marriage with former Zamfara State Governor, Alhaji Aliyu Shinkafi, caved in. The former First Lady of Zamfara State appears to have consigned that episode into the trash can of history. The best way out of her emotional cul-de-sac was to retrace her steps in search of happiness.

    As such, the delectable daughter of former head of state, Gen. Ibrahim Babangida, has gone back to the family business. Not one to be held down by the devastating blows of two crashed marriages at such a young age, Aisha was practically schooled in business management and she has since been deploying her skills to take some of her father’s businesses to new heights. She is also said to be doing well in oiling her mother’s NGO, Better Life for Rural Women. With the support of her father, plans are reportedly at advanced stage to restore the activities of the humanitarian organisation. Little wonder she has been off the social scene lately.

  • Akintunde Ayeni  joins golden club

    Akintunde Ayeni joins golden club

    It will take ages for memories of last Monday to fade away in the life of Prince Akintunde Ayeni, the Chairman of Yemkem International Group. Not that he has recorded another landmark trado-medical feat. On Monday, September 23, 2013, he clocked 50.

    The Pathfinder, as he is fondly called by admirers, celebrated the day amidst glamour, colour and pageantry. The Ekiti-born chief executive officer of Pathfinder Hotels had many of his friends and associates on ground to celebrate with him.

    Guests were treated to sumptuous meals. His wife, Princess Abiodun Ayeni, ensured that every guest had a swell time.

  • The only son

    Beginning from next week, our brand new series titled ‘The only son’, shall debut. It’s the story of two friends (Susan and Kari) whose love for the same man (Christo) leads to betrayal, treachery and hatred that threatens a friendship of over ten years. Kari has a dark secret which only Susan, her friend knows. And Susan is not averse to using it to get what she wants…

    Preview of ‘The only son’

    It was my mistake. I should not have introduced Christo to Kari at that party. But how was I to know that he would fall for her at their first meeting? It had taken me months to get Christo to pay any attention to me, yet the minute he set eyes on Kari, he was all over her! What was it about her that attracted men to her so much? It wasn’t as if she was that pretty. Infact, I was the prettier one among the two of us. When I was a little girl, total strangers used to stop my mother on the street to comment on my beauty. I had thus grown up with that mindset-of being more beautiful and better-looking than my mates.

    Despite the edge I had looks wise, Kari always had more male admirers than me. It didn’t start today. It began right from our undergraduate days back in school…

    Keep a date with us next Saturday for more of Susan’s story!

    Names have been changed to protect the identities of the narrator and other individuals in the story.

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