Category: Saturday Magazine

  • Dry Lips: Balm & gloss to the rescue

    Dry Lips: Balm & gloss to the rescue

    CHAPPED and dry lips are common during the harmattan. These occur when your lips do not have enough moisture to keep them supple all day long. For your lips to remain soft throughout this harmattan season, always protect your lips with a lip balm or gloss.

     

    Some rules to adhere to

    First, the golden rule: do not lick your lips consistently. This can lead to dry and cracked lips, which will definitely result in chapped lips, because the moisture on the lips would have been licked off and the lips would then be exposed

    Use a lip balm or gloss to help seal-in moisture.

    Exfoliate weekly. This will peel off the weathered outer covering or layer.

    Go for lip balms or gloss that are thick and that contain moisturising.

    And for chapped lips, medicated balm or gloss that has menthol is suitable. This will relieve pains.

    For homemade lip balm- gently melt African shear butter (ori) in hot water, add the coconut oil to the shear butter and stir until melted, and remove from the boiling water pot. Now add your vitamin E oil and mix in while still hot. Pour into your container of choice and let cool. You will be surprised and amazed at the result and the soothing effect. Give it a try!

  • Be a Fashion Accessories Collector

    Be a Fashion Accessories Collector

    COLLECT as many fashion accessories/items as you can lay your hands on. You can mix and match effectively at any point in time.

    Stick with classic cuts

    Go for fashion pieces that are well-structured.

    Splurge on your blazers/jacket

    Good blazers do not go out of style. They are ever trendy and classic.

    Know the power of an over sized bag

    It’s fashionable to carry just one big bag that will contain all your necessities and one that fits your lifestyle.

    Neutral

    Neutral pieces are wardrobe staple any time, any day. With neutral pieces, you can mix and match effectively

  • Get in the ring

    Get in the ring

    COLOSSAL, colourful cocktail rings are everywhere at parties, on the red carpet and for casual wears. The cocktail ring is the ultimate accessory that brings out the glamour and shine in your outfit and draws attention to your hands, whether you are wearing a colourful whimsical dress or a little black dress [LBD], with so many rings to choose from, ranging from the bold and crazily crafted to the bling-bling.

    How to rock it

    FOR you to make a gallant statement with your cocktail ring, it has to be chunky (bold), sexy and at the same time stylish; this is the ultimate cocktail ring golden rule.

    Believe it, the big rock is a solid way to highlight your individual style, you can never go wrong with one. Get as many as possible, different rocks with different colours; you can wear a different one for each day, it all depends on your attires.

    They are the classic and timeless finger pieces.

  • Rose’s top 10

    Rose’s top 10

    Ebony NTA’s AM Express presenter, Rose Peters, speaks to Kehinde Oluleye about her favourite things.

    Favourite shoes designer

    Nine west

    Favourite bag designer

    Gucci

    Favourite wrist watch designer

    Gucci

    Favourite fashion designer

    Frank Oshodi &
    Giorgio Armani

    Favourite car

    Toyota Camry

    Favourite perfume

    Givenchy “Hot couture”

    Favourite earrings

    Chandeliers

    Favourite underwear

    Marks and Spencer

    Favourite sunglasses

    Gucci

    Favourite dinner wear

    Figure hugging flowing gown

  • ‘I never thought I’ll be seventy’

    ‘I never thought I’ll be seventy’

    To say Chief Ebenezer Babatope, former Director of Organisation of Unity Party of Nigeria (UPN), former Minister of Transport under General Sani Abacha, Afenifere chieftain and former University of Lagos administrator has packed a lot into his seven decades on earth is an understatement. Ask the fiery political activist and he will tell you he has paid his dues. Assistant Editor, Dare Odufowokan, spoke with the Osun State-born politician on his life and times as he celebrates a landmark 70th birthday.

    Sir, you turned seventy just yesterday, what does it feel like being seventy years old?

    Well, I feel very happy and grateful to God almighty for preserving my life up till now. I must confess to you, given what I’ve passed through in my early life, I never for once thought I will live to be seventy. I became hypertensive at twenty-three. But here I am today. God has never allowed me to suffer any major health reverse. I thank God greatly and that is one of the reasons I am celebrating my seventieth year.

    Will you now say you are fulfilled?

    I am a fulfilled man. I thank God for my life so far. Let me tell you this. Papa (Obafemi) Awolowo brought me out of obscurity into national prominence. Then we had people better than me around but it will remain my honour to have had the opportunity to serve a great African leader like Awolowo. I was right beside him for five years and three months as the national director of organization. Nothing can be better than that.

    Apart from that, I became a minister. That was an act of God. So, I feel fulfilled. I know that I am not a perfect person but I say God has raised me to a level that I have to be grateful to him always.

    Growing up sir, was this how you envisioned Nigeria to be by the time you turn seventy?

    That is a different matter altogether. We want Nigeria to be better, but we should thank God that Nigeria of today is politically is much better than what we had in the first and second republics.

    Let me tell you the reason. At a time in this country, there was a cabal that believed that Nigeria was simply an extension of their private family compounds. And this feudal cabal never believed that any person from the southern part of the country could rule. They believed that the rulers of Nigeria must always come from the north. But today, times have changed. You find people who are not from the north ruling. That is why we must give kudos to all Nigerian people from the north and the east and the west for ensuring that we have seen people who are not from the north ruling.

    We must salute the maturity of northern elders and praise the courage and determination of the southern people for getting to this stage. I’m not saying we have reached the Eldorado of our dream, but I am saying things are going to get better.

    You were closely associated with Chief Obafemi Awolowo. What major thing did you take away from those years of close association with the late sage?

    I learnt a lot. I am eternally grateful to Papa Awolowo and I thank God always for making me come in contact with him. He taught us almost all the basic principles anybody whom wished to serve the public must have. I have said many times that Papa taught us his disciples that if you are in public office, don’t enjoy what you cannot provide for yourself in your private life. If you know you cannot afford Coca-Cola in your private life, don’t go into government drinking it.

    He also taught us not to take gratification from anyone so that the next morning, you will not be able to look at the person’s face. Thirdly, Papa said don’t collude with civil servants to rob government because if you do, you have bastardised the position you are holding and rubbished your own image.

    So these three principles, if applied by public officials will help curb the tide of corruption in the country. Apart from these, there is also the disciplined life the old man lived. You can be sure that when Papa woke up in the morning, he would have programmed himself for the whole day. In the morning he would take breakfast, not too much but light breakfast. He hardly takes any lunch. And in the evening by five p.m, Papa was on the table for dinner. And the average number of hours Papa spent taking dinner would be three hours. All this kind of routine life Papa led had effect on all of us.

    And that is why I say today, that those of us who are Papa Awolowo associates, while I am not saying we are perfect, I want to believe that there is no person that can come out and say that when we were holding public offices this is the amount of money we got as kickbacks or whatever.

    The late Chief Awolowo was seen by many as strong-willed and firm. Can you recollect any weakness he had?

    There is only one weakness I knew Papa had. Papa was too trusting. If you go to Papa and say we saw Babatope talking against you somewhere, Papa will not believe you. If you go to him to say such thing, Papa will ask you if you are ready to repeat what you are saying in the presence of that very person. If you are not ready to do that, he will simply ask you to keep quiet. That was the only weakness I noticed and I think that is the only weakness Papa had till he went to the world beyond.

    But why was Papa Awolowo unable to win elections in places like the conservative North and core East in spite of his wide acceptance as a leader?

    It was simply because like I told you, a feudal cabal believed nobody can rule Nigeria except someone from their side. This was the major reason. If you talk in terms of the minority in the North, many of them supported Awo. Even in the old Gongola State which is now Adamawa, we produced three senators. The Speaker of the then Gongola House of Assembly was an Awo supporter in the UPN. I’m told he is dead now but we produced the Speaker. Then if you go to Plateau, go to Benue you find Awo people there. Solomon Lar was in the Action Group before he pulled out. So Papa lost elections because of that credible hold on power by the cabal. And of course the power was given to them by the colonialists. Elections were manipulated. I don’t want to talk about that now.

    While he was alive, in spite of these electoral losses, was Papa optimistic that the cabal will one day lose out in the power game?

    Awo was sure in his mind. He was always saying that eventually Nigerians will see through the situation and then things will change. In 1983, Papa went to campaign in Bonny and he made a prediction at that rally. He said all of you in Ijaw area, you don’t vote for me now but one day an Ijaw man will become the President of Nigeria. It is then you will realize all the points I have been making. And it has happened. Jonathan is from Ijaw and he is the President of the country.

    You served under General Sani Abacha. Do you have any regrets working with the late dictator?

    I have no regrets whatsoever working with Abacha or with anybody for that matter. I do not do things that I will regret later. In any case, I have a book about my years under the Abacha regime. It came out in 1995 and it was well publicized all over the country. It was produced by a publisher in London. So I have no regrets.

    When (Gen) Dipo Diya, who was then the number two in the government, extended invitation to my political leaders in the Awolowo political family, it was decided that myself, Papa Jakande, Olu Onagoruwa and Mrs. Mobolaji Osomo should go and serve government. Later, they said we should pull out. My memoirs will soon be out towards the end of this year and you will see reasons why I refused to pull out. If I pulled out then, I’m telling you, you will not be talking to a living Babatope now.

    How do you reply those who still criticize you for serving in that government?

    What do I want to reply them for? I believe that reality will come out and they will know what happened. We didn’t go to the government to steal. The records of our performances are there that on the June 12 issue, we never deviated. Solomon Lar, Jerry Gana, Onagoruwa, Jakande, myself and co. We maintained very good records all through. Eventually these records will be out and those who are criticizing us, some for selfish reasons and some for other reasons, will change their minds.

    Even before the Abacha years, you were deeply involved in the politics that led to the June 12 crisis. From your own reading of events, would you say Abiola was really committed to the fight for his mandate?

    Well, I was not all that close to Abiola and this was for obvious reasons. But we were together in the Social Democratic Party (SDP) and I fought ruthlessly to ensure that Abiola kept his mandate. But it was a major heroic display on the part of the Nigerian people that they voted for Abiola and Kingibe, a Muslim-Muslim ticket. Having said that I cannot answer the question for Abiola. One thing that cannot be challenged by anybody is the fact that Abiola died a martyr for democracy.

    Personally now, would you say you are where you hoped to be when you are seventy politically?

    What do I want to be again? I told you of how I was privileged to serve under one of Africa’s greatest leaders. Number two; I’ve been minister, no matter what people say about that era. Again I have passed through some stages in my life that I can say with due respect to Nigerians, I have paid my dues. I don’t have pension up till now because a military minister felt that since I was anti-government, nothing of such should happen.

    I have been to jail three times of my life. I have been arrested by police several times. I have a daughter that is paraplegic because of my political involvement. I thank God for what I have been. I thank him for what I am and I do not aspire for something which is not approved by him. I wanted to be a senator in 1993. General Ibrahim Babangida disqualified me. I kept my peace but a year and three months later, I was appointed to be a minister. I just want to go to my grave contented that I have done my best for my people.

    Are you not in any way missing your former colleagues within the progressive folds now that you are a member of the ruling conservative PDP?

    I am not missing anybody. There is no party in Nigeria today that is ideological. That is the truth. There is none that can call itself a progressive party. When party politics started in 1998, Uncle Bola Ige virtually wrote the manifestoes of Alliance for Democracy (AD), Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) and All Peoples Party (APP). Take the Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN) today, which has the highest number of progressives in its rank, there are also some conservatives with them. You find National Peoples Party (NPN) people there among them. Then take the PDP and you will find some Awolowo militants among us here. Nobody can say I am not an Awolowo militant. Professor Tunde Adeniran, Jubril Martins Kuye, Omilani, Dayo Abatan, etc. These are all Awolowo people and they are in the PDP. All I know is that no party can lay claim to being progressive in Nigeria.

    I’ve never regretted being in PDP. My friends are still my friends. Lam Adesina was my friend till he died. Segun Osoba is still my friend. Bola Tinubu is still my friend and younger brother. When I got married he contributed at that time. These are my personal persons and we still relate as such. Why must they hate me or I hate them because we don’t belong to the same political party? But of course, I have developed a kind of political maturity given me by Awolowo that when I see a good person, I must support that person irrespective of the party he represents. That explains my support for Dr Olusegun Mimiko in Ondo State even though my party had a candidate in the race. Babatunde Fashola in his first term was doing well. And when Tinubu was there, I supported him. I told a gathering of PDP leaders once that if I were to vote in Lagos, I will vote for Bola Tinubu because he was performing. It was at the wedding of Jubril Martins Kuye’s daughter that I said that. So they don’t miss me, I don’t miss them because we are all Nigerians. When my friend Chief Bisi Akande was celebrating his 70th birthday, I wrote a whole column on him. When Lam Adesina died, I also wrote a column on him. So we are friends and I want to believe that politics should not affect our friendship. Let me give you an example, I was seventy yesterday. If you see what Ogeni Rauf Aregbesola did, you will be surprised. We don’t belong to the same party. He wrote me a letter which was read at the ceremony. So that is how politics should be.

    Talking about your activities during the last governorship election in Ondo, one wonders why you are yet to be accused of anti-party activities by your party?

    Let me give you the reason. Apart from the fact that I appreciated Mimiko for his performance, when we were having the last presidential election, I was the chairman of PDP’s inter party relations committee. Mimiko and the governor of Anambra State, Peter Obi, came all out to say they were supporting President Goodluck Jonathan. I am very proud of that because I related with them. So I said one good turn deserves another. Why must this person support us and we turn against him? So nobody can really say it was anti party activities. I have interest in Abiola Ajimobi and Ibikunle Amosun because they are performing. It is not about party for me anymore. Politically, I am too matured to be streamlined by party affiliation only. Look at Aregbesola, a man who respects elders. I cannot be blurred by political affiliation to the extent of not recognizing his good deeds.

    The opposition is now talking about a mega party that will dislodge PDP in 2015. What is your take on the planned merger of leading opposition parties?

    If they (the parties) are able to form an alliance or a merger, it is good for the country. It is good for democracy. But they cannot make it. These are already issues. A section of the alliance talks has said they will make sure Buhari contests the next election. By the time they sit to discuss, contradiction will tear them apart.

    Don’t you think the crises within PDP will give the opposition a chance to dislodge it in the next election?

    There is no single party without a conflict. Conflicts are meant to be resolved by those who are political practitioners. Every party has its own crisis. For example, look at Ajimobi in Oyo State. I have been following the papers. Some people have endorsed him for a second term already while some people within his party are saying nobody has endorsed him. So it is natural to have crisis. In the PDP the removal of the secretary is not really a major setback for the party. All the party did is to avoid being dragged into litigation over the activities of its secretary who has been removed by the court of law. It is also to give him all the opportunity to go and contest the decision up to the Supreme Court. And when he finishes he will be reinstated. It is not a conflict at all. And when you talk about the BoT issue, it is also no issue at all.

    Coming to the Southwest, do you think the PDP can really stage the much talked-about comeback in the region?

    The PDP can stage a successful comeback in the Southwest in 2015 if it puts its house in order. We lost the region because we were completely divided. And if we continue in that state of division the ACN will rout us again. To make any impact in the Southwest, the PDP must unite. There is no magic to it other than sincere reconciliation and unity.

  • Necklaces  in  vogue

    Necklaces in vogue

    WHEN you want to know how passionate a lady is about her dress sense, check what she wears to complement her clothes. A beautiful necklace will help any lady to get a pass mark in a situation like this.

    The assorted array of neck ornaments that we have today can be worn on both African and Western dresses, gowns, skirts and tops, boubous, dinner wear, iro and buba.

    So, you complement your good look with it this season.

  • Males for Love

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    •My name is lfeanyi 37 base in Onitsha need a very big and fat lady for serious relationship. My no 08056745449.

    Hi Ms Agoro, Thanks for your advice asking us to always text readable messages worthy of public consumption. Meanwhile, am Adebiyi, 70, lives at Agbado,still searching for a soulmate of between age 45 & 50 Contact 08!58952726. Cheers.

     

    •Aunty Adeola. I am 42 years old with one child. I am a civil servant working in Lagos. Please I need a Muslim lady .her age should be in between 27 and 37 years old. She must be someone that is ready for marriage. She must be a Yoruba.

     

    •Azeez, 33 years young professional need a serious Muslim lady based in Lagos for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage soon. Call or text 08089991682.

     

    •My name is Adebayo, 30years, lives in Shomolu, Lagos need a serious minded n cute, must be working class lady, between 25-30years for serious relationship. Call 08032244913.

     

    •Kingsley 40 an edo business man, lives in Mowe Ogun State, need a serious lady between 22 to 35 for relationship that leads to marriage and she must be.

     

    Hi Ms Agoro, thanks for your advice asking us to always text readable messages worthy of public consumption. Meanwhile, I’m Adebiyi 70, lives at Agege. I need God fearing, here is my number 08053867697. Bado is still seaching for a soulmate of between age 45 & 50 contact 08!65952726. Cheers.

     

    I am Joe, an engineer working in Port Harcourt. I’m 37 yrs and needs a lady from any part Nigeria who must be psychologically ready for marriageÌ. pls contact me with dis phone number.

  • You can be chubby and SEXY

    You can be chubby and SEXY

    MANY people believe that being thin is being beautiful. But it is no longer a secret that you can actually be big and still look bold, trendy, stunning and beautiful.

    A lady of impeccable class and style in the person of Beat FM Presenter, Toolz Oniru, is someone we respect a lot when it comes to fashion. Yet she is not slim, but she is bold and beautiful. She wears anything that suits her and this makes her comfortable and glamorous.

    It is important to take pride on being healthy and looking respectable. Beautiful women come in all sizes and shapes.

    The days when full-figured women were severely limited in their fashion choices are, fortunately, in the past. Designers and retailers now realize that offering fashionable plus-size clothing is smart business.

    Full-figured women know that who you are is not defined by what size you wear. You can look wonderful and feel great in the body you have. And with so many plus-size women’s clothing options now available at every price point, there’s no reason you can’t look your best. Looking for plus-size petites? A prom dress or wedding gown, goth or rockabilly? It’s all available for full-figured women and teens.

  • How Governor Dickson observed his vacation

    How Governor Dickson observed his vacation

    For Governor Henry Seriake Dickson, the reward for hard work is more and more work. This explains why he can’t just stop serving his people even at the expense of his comfort.

    It will be recalled that since Dickson was overwhelmingly elected governor of the littoral state of Bayelsa on February 12, last year and sworn in on February 14, same year, he had not gone for vacation until January 7, this year. Many Bayelsans had expected him to enjoy a month’s break in view of his hectic schedules coupled with the trauma he had, as a result of the plane crash in Bayelsa State, which snuffed life out of Governor Patrick Yakowa of Kaduna State, the immediate past National Security Adviser, Gen. Andrew Azazi and other compatriots, but the governor shortened the break to 14 days. What a country man! Yet he cut short his vacation to work, flew to Dubai to hold crucial meetings with some of the international investors that turned Dubai to a global economic, tourism and infrastructural cynosure.

    Before the governor stormed the United Arab Emirate, he stayed in Abuja for a few days. During his stay, he compared notes with some of his former colleagues at the House of Representatives, experts on miscellaneous matters and exchanged banters with some of his close friends and family members.

    He also took advantage of the vacation to have more quiet times with his Creator, God Almighty; he reviewed government activities, focused on the present and projected into the future.

    The governor’s engagement in Dubai culminated in the signing of an MoU between Government of Bayelsa State and GEAP International to establish a commercial rice farm and revive a palm plantation in Bayelsa State. The parties also agreed to establish a strong and viable production, processing and distribution network. Aside being a joint venture partner of GEAP International Group, Bayelsa State will facilitate the scientific and commercial study of rice and palm plantation growth and distribution. In addition, Bayelsa State will actively assist in the establishment of relationship between all relevant government agencies with GEAP and provide legal and regulatory assistance. And subject to receiving initial positive technical reports on water and soil analysis, GEAP agrees to bring into the state the required technological and human expertise hosted by the Bayelsa State Government.

    The MoU was preceded with the inspection of Steel Plant, Cold Storage Facility by Governor Dickson and a meeting between the governor and the CEO of GEAP, one of the biggest globally acclaimed investors that turned around Asia and Middle East, Mr. Mahendra Patel, in his office. Mr. Imad Saba, an international investor and CEO of Capital Asset Management who was on the team of Patel signed on behalf of his firm.

    The first Executive Governor of Bayelsa State, Chief DSP Alamiesiegha, who lives in Dubai, former MD of NDDC, Chief Timi Alaibe, PDP Vice Chairman, North East, Alhaji Mohammed Wakil, security consultant, Major Lancelot Anyanya (rtd) and this writer witnessed the signing of the MoU.

    Though the governor didn’t unwind, the voracious reader that he is took time off to read many books on leadership, history, the making of Dubai and books on agriculture. As he told me, one of the problems of Africa is the shrinking of reading politicians. “I love reading books and I can’ t stop reading because I am not an all-knowing governor. In fact, some of the books I have read have redoubled my resolve to diversify the Bayelsa economy to be agro- based as well so that we don’t just depend on oil alone,” he added.

    Indeed agricultural revolution is the centre piece of the Dickson administration. A few months into his administration, government partnered a Hungarian and Danish firms, Ostertrade Engineering/ DPP International Kft respectively to establish and manage cassava farms, establish cassava starch processing factory plant to produce 10,000 tonnes of local and modified starch with a high and beneficial value chain that would trickle down to the grassroots. Already, all papers to that effect have been signed and work at the site is progressing at a frenetic pace. The factory is expected to generate over 5,000 jobs for Bayelsans. The expectation is for the governor to expeditiously implement government’s side of the bargain with GEAP so as to enable Patel and his team move to work the way he did on the cassava initiative.

    With the success of the cassava initiative in Bayelsa State, many state governors and their representatives are reportedly talking with the firms to replicate same projects in their states.

    The governor returned to Nigeria last Sunday having exhausted the leave and resumed duty on Monday. He was received by a retinue of government officials led by the Secretary to Government, Prof. Edmund Allison Oguru. Governor Dickson called on Bayelsans to sustain their support for his administration and urged all Nigerians and, particularly, the religious leaders to pray for the unity, peace and security of Nigeria.

    The governor also told news hounds that even though the vacation was short, the period afforded him the opportunity to redirect his energy towards serving his people. He said he was mentally and physically prepared more than ever before, to implement government policies and programmes and promised to take more critical and tough decisions for the development, peace and security of Bayelsa State.

    Sure,for those that know Dickson,they call him Mr. Courage and Conviction, and nobody can take that away from him, like him or hate him. If he is convinced on any matter, he summons the courage to implement it. A good example here is his critical free and compulsory education which has revolutionised the education sector in the state. Just a few minutes after taking the oath of office, the governor declared free and compulsory education in primary and post-primary schools in the state. Today, government provides the following items free to pupils and students: textbooks,uniforms,sandals,bags and writing materials.

    There are ongoing construction of additional 200 modern schools in the state, three international secondary schools in the three senatorial zones and two schools for gifted children.

    Before Dickson came to judgment in Creek Haven, no governor dared to implement free and compulsory education. The thinking, especially during the immediate past administration, was that if there was free and compulsory education,there won’t be enough money for the power elite to share. The tradition at that time was for politicians to use secret cultists and other criminals as tools for oppressing political opponents and for rigging elections. But not Dickson.

     

    •Agbo, a journalist and public affairs analyst, lives in Yenagoa.

  • Re: Me and the oga madams

    Re: Me And The Oga Madams. I have been reading your column for over one year now and I found the above a masterpiece for mankind. It was short, pungent, incisive, educative, truthful and a down to earth advice from you. It was an all- time panacea in arresting forces that break homes. It was most thoughtful of you. If this sort of advice had been embraced by many in the past, the joy in them would have known no bounds today. It’s a pity. GOD BLESS YOU. Keep up the good job. I hope women who are desirous of keeping their homes do read you. That piece said it all. Kudos Madam. K.ADIGUN. 07042426020.

     

    Re: Me And The Oga Madams. I can’t believe u penned those words considering your beauty, brain and your elegance. You rarely find the kind of women you beautifully described in your ‘modern world of today’. However your ilk are the real women God gave the world. The others only fill the numbers. Please continue to be the good wife you are to your “gift” and our men folks.

     

    I read your piece every week. Generally, I read the column to have a glimpse of people’s idiosyncrasy as regards love matters. Hun! Sometimes, to laugh heartily about some dumb questions people asked like the young man of 22 years of age looking for his granny as a lover and so on and so forth. But today, you earned my respect for your piece on ‘Me and the oga madams’. Indeed, you are worthy of the role you are playing for the society. May God continue to strengthen you to live up to the demands of a counselor and role model to the society. Aunty, best of regards. Toyyib, Akure.

     

    I am extremely in love with u. Why? We share same in common—— pragmatic, frantic, sincere, factual, socially experienced, down-to-earth, intelligent, diligent, purposeful, romantic, unbiased, humane, e.t.c. Good luck and keep the flag flying as God will continue to bless, preserve and crown your efforts in life with Glory. Amen. 08023033692.

     

    Adeola, as a sociologist cum social welfare worker for the past 30years I always read and analyse your column in The Nation on Saturday. ‘Me and the oga madams’ was a good one. 36yrs ago when we got married it was ‘my D’ now it is ‘our Daddy’ and ‘our Mummy’. Happiness radiates everywhere. We praise the Lord. Ayoola, Ibadan. 08058517680.

     

    ‘My Oga’, ‘My Lord’. Nice name to give your man. Let me surprise you with dis one: I overheard a wife telling her friend she charges her husband b4 giving him her body. Reason: Says Guy Is Stingy, D Only Time To Get Money From Him Is When He’s Beggin To Thrust.

     

    Thank you so much Deola. Your piece on me and the oga madams was awesome. I learnt this the hard way until I learnt to be submissive simply because I felt I was a younger woman and he an older man, so I could get my way with him. But when I drew close to God and much older women, he is literally eats from my hand now and I’m settled. Lima Lima, PHC.