Category: Life and Style

  • Pregnant at 19, Married at 20, Separated at 23

    Pregnant at 19, Married at 20, Separated at 23

    Biola Makanjuola a Canada-based Nigerian relationship coach took to her Facebook page to share her experience of getting pregnant when she was 19 and her marriage to her baby daddy at age 20 thinking a marriage to her child’s father would fix things for her and then separation at 23 due to emotional abuse and a toxic relationship.

    She encourages people who have experienced similar feelings of despair.

    She says:

    “Got pregnant at the age of 19, was zero’d out, condemned, alone and lost. Became a mother & thought it best to make it official with my son’s dad at the age of 20

    Got into unhealthy patterns in our relationship that led to emotional abuse and toxicity for the most part. Finally got the courage to separate at the age of 23 after going through an abortion and Sexually Transmitted Disease.

    This started my downward spiral into involving myself in multiple toxic relationships between the ages of 24 – 27 Confused, lost, dark, toxic relationships was my drug of choice. Felt unworthy, self-esteem dragging on the floor begging to be picked up, had little or no confidence, gave up my power to define who I was to other people because I just hated the woman I had become. I constantly questioned why I was so different and abnormal.

    My body defined my worth. I clearly had nothing to offer. My single motherhood didn’t even help. They said I couldn’t do any better because of my baggage. I agreed with them and gave them my power. It was their word over mine.

    Finally got tired of engaging in this toxic cycle and decided to embrace my difference. At this point, I was tired! I was sick! I was done! I found my light towards the end of 2016.

    Found the love I had been seeking the whole time in myself. Things started clicking. I found my purpose. I realized I had a story to tell and was determined to share. I was worthy and enough the whole time and didn’t even know it. I finally found my voice and I promised myself to speak my truth.

    I promised God that if he took me out of my misery and showed me the way, I will spend the rest of my life serving.
    Currently serving and growing a tribe of women who believe in their power to create their stories and would do anything to make it happen”.

     

     

  • Record number of nominations received for ‘Uncelebrated’ Nigerians Awards

    Record number of nominations received for ‘Uncelebrated’ Nigerians Awards

    UK organisers of the Nigerian ‘Uncelebrated’ Awards (UNA) UK have revealed that they received a record number of nominations for this year’s forthcoming event following the closing of the exercise yesterday.
    UNA 2017 is due to take place at the Mayfair Banqueting Suite in Chadwell Heath on September 30 and will feature the handing out of 57 awards to unsung heroes and deserving Nigerians in the UK.
    Now in its second year, the event will be a classy gala dinner that will attract community leaders, guests from Nigeria and high commission officials. Organised to honour ordinary Nigerians in the UK who are excelling in numerous fields, the awards ceremony has been organised to honour ordinary Nigerians who have generally been overlooked in the past.

    Last year’s event saw 56 awards handed out and in 2017, the figure will rise to 57 in recognition of the number of years Nigeria has been an independent nation. Ronke Udofia, the chair of the UNA awards sub-committee, said:

    “Last year was a huge success as we honoured people who had hitherto never been given awards. This year we will be giving out 57 awards and set ourselves the target of getting about three times the number of awardees, so are very happy that we have achieved that.

    “Unlike other awards ceremonies that only honour public figures and VIPs, UNA recognises ordinary working Nigerians in the UK like bus drivers, teachers, care workers, train conductors, etc.

    Now that nominations have closed, we will go through the entries and shortlist the best 57 based on our scoring system.”Bola Ganiyu, the chair of UNA’s events management sub-committee added:

    “Now that nominations have closed, we will make sure UNA 2017 is the bomb. We have secured the hall until 4am in the morning and the night will be a mixture of awards, entertainment and fun.
    “Among the entertainers we are planning to bring include stand-up comedian Kenny Blaq, Whizkid and there will be a host of other entertainers performing on the night too.

    We will have DJ Kachif on the turntables and the food will be a true representation of authentic Nigerian cuisine.”Malcolm Benson, the chair of the publicity and marketing sub-committee added that for just £50 for standard tickets and £75 for VIP tickets, guests will be treated to an evening they will never forget.

    He added that one good feature of this year’s nominees is that there were a lot of candidates from the regions of England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland, so it will truly be representative of the Nigerian community in the UK.

    0rganising committee vice coordinator June Douglas, said: “With there unlikely to be an official independence day party organised by the high commission in the UK this year, UNA 2017 will be the independence day bash. Our event will run into the morning of October 1, so will serve as the main independence day event in the UK.

    “She added that among the distinguished guests who have been invited to UNA 2017 include the acting high commissioner Simon Ogah, the chair of the House of Representatives Committee on the Diaspora Rita Orji, the special adviser to the president on diaspora affairs Abike Dabiri-Erewa and the Ooni of Ife Oba Adeyeye Ogunwusi.

    According to Mrs Douglas,this year’s event will set a tone for future independence day celebrations in the UK.Ayan De First, the chair of UNA’s sponsorship sub-committee added:

    “We are keen to make this a memorable event, so have stepped up our quest for sponsors, to make it corporate and sustainable. We are also hoping that this sets a benchmark for how awards ceremonies are organised by the Nigerian community in the UK.”

    Chief Adebayo Oladimeji, the chairman of the Nigerian Council of Elders in the UK, added: “This is the second year they are holding this event and I think it is a good initiative. For the first time, ordinary Nigerians in the UK, who have nothing to do with showbiz, politics, commerce or sports are being honoured and recognised.”

    Dr Boma Douglas, the chairman of the Central Association of Nigerians in the UK (Canuk), added that his body is supporting the event wholeheartedly, as it provides a means of reachingout to many diasporans who were hitherto not involved. He added that Canuk will be looking to engage many of the awardees and nominees in its future activities.For more information contact:Agatha Ewruje

  • Why we gave out brand new car to journalist – VON MD

    Why we gave out brand new car to journalist – VON MD

    MD, VON Automobile,Tokunbo Aromolaran  speaks on the gesture of giving out a brand new Made in Nigeria Hyundai i10 to a journalist recently in Lagos. The presentation which was part of the company’s ‘Buy made in Nigeria’ vehicles campaign, was witnessed by dignitaries including Senator Ben Murray Bruce, his wife, Evelyn and Chairman CMC Connect, Yomi Badejo-Okusanya.

    ARE you still in doubt of the ability of Nigerians to produce top quality made in Nigeria automobiles? Look no further, as VON Automobile Limited, a division of the Stallion Group, is already leading the way with top of the range automobiles. This much the Managing Director, Mr. Tokunbo Aromolaran set out to prove recently, when the company gave out a brand new Hyundai i10 to a journalist, Gboyega Alaka of The Nation Newspapers.

    According to Aromolaran, the gesture, which was a fulfillment of a raffle draw held for journalists at the VON Estate, Ojo last November 28, is to create an awareness amongst Nigerians that top quality automobiles are being locally assembled in Nigeria, and get Nigerians to patronise and have pride in the products.

    The motive, he said, is to encourage patronage and expand the factories and production capacity to serve the nation better. He said, “If you’re driving locally made cars, you create an avenue for additional production, additional employment, with value added and  increase our GDP….”

    Despite bearing a first name like Tokunbo, Aromolaran said he is unwavering in the fight against tokunbo (imported fairly used vehicles). As a nation, he said, Nigeria needs to go through the pain of developing its automobile industry in order to enjoy a viable industry. He noted that of the top one hundred countries in the world, Nigeria and Bangladesh are the only two that do not have viable automobile manufacturing industries, which he said is no longer acceptable.

    He said bringing in cars through the borders does not do the country any good, as ‘importers’ don’t pay duties. By allowing those vehicles come in, he said Nigeria is only allowing the Republic of Benin, which does not have a vehicle assembly plant, to collect duties on what it has not earned.

    He stressed that “If Nigerians start patronising locally assembled cars, our auto industry would grow and in the next three years, our second-hand auto market will also grow, which will not be tokunbo cars but cars deriving from our own market here, not cars that have been used for eight years.”

    The VON Automobile premises along the Lagos-Badagry Expressway in Lagos, is a massive auto assembly plant with installed manufacturing capacity for 45,000 units in one shift. The company set out in 2012, with a target of manufacturing affordable vehicles for Nigerians. The overall vision is to turn Nigeria into a cornerstone of auto-manufacturing in Africa. The company boasts of the expertise and facility and a conviction that it can create a world-class automobile behemoth, which will in turn create a huge multiplier effects on the Nigerian economy and society.

    Vehicles assembled there include Ashok Leyland Falcon/Hawk mass transit bus, AL Garbage Compactor, AL 1718, AL Troop Carrier and IVECO trucks. The company is also creating substantial direct and indirect employment, conditioned upon the market environment. To start with, all the safety materials it uses in buses assembled in the factory are locally sourced, to the extent that it has attained 30% local content. Some of these items include windshield, window frames, sealants, paints and labour.

    VON also assembles different models of Nissan passenger vehicles such as Almera, Patrol, NP300 and Urvan bus and Hyundai models, including Hyundai i10, Grand, Civic Bus, County Bus, HD 65, HD 78 and HD 120.

    Aromolaran assured on strong quality control in the OAN, which he said are like partners. He said “Nissan will not allow any vehicle leave this plant unless it has passed their test.”

    He also said the Nissan Patrol produced at the VON plant can compete favourably with any brand in the world.

    In terms of labour, Aromolaran said “We have recruited mechanics, trained them formally and turned them into super auto engineers and auto mechanics. They work on an automated conveyor system and know that the result of their work is important to the next stage, and dare not mess up.”

    In his remarks, Senator Ben Murray Bruce reiterated his support for made in Nigeria products, promising to do whatever it takes in the National Assembly and in government to influence positive changes towards locally assembled made in Nigeria automobiles. He again advocated long-term payment pattern based on single digit interest rate, saying Nigeria “cannot move forward if all we do is for a young graduate to drive a 30-year old car from Belgium. People forget something. A modern day car can drive 40, 50 miles per gallon; that car from Belgium gives you 5 miles per gallon.”

    He also called on President Buhari to, by law, compel all his ministers and government officials to drive made in Nigeria cars, as this would enhance trust in the products.

    He however disagreed with the VON MD on the call to shut the borders, saying such actions would paralyse business activities in the border towns. Rather, he suggested that inefficient customs officers

     

  • Straighten velvet outfits with this

    Straighten velvet outfits with this

    You had intended to wear a lovely velvet outfit to an event, but it’s rumpled, and ironing can’t get out the wrinkles. What do you do?

    Simply hold the outfit over a pot of boiling water, or leave in your sauna for five minutes, and it will be as good as new. Why? The steam raises the pile of the fabric, making it look as smooth and lustrous as it was when you bought it.

  • Beat Arthritis by checking your teeth

    Beat Arthritis by checking your teeth

    Gum/tooth disease is a common complaint that comes with aging, which is the reason many elderly people lose their natural teeth with age. One thing many physicians and their patients are yet to realize is that tooth/gum trouble is a symptom of a much more serious health challenge. Pain in the joints is a well known symptom of Rheumatoid Arthritis, but a much less known fact is the relationship between arthritis and gum/tooth troubles. Physician/researcher Al Sears points this out when he says, “But one problem with modern medicine is that specialists often miss the bigger picture. Every part of your body is biologically connected. And what’s going on in your mouth can reveal a lot about your health.”

     

    New research studies published in the Nature Reviews Rheumatology journal provide evidence to corroborate Sear’s theory. Sears states, “In a study published just a few weeks ago in the journal Nature Reviews Rheumatology, researchers followed 6,616 people for more than 10 years. They found that those who had moderate to severe gum disease had more than twice the risk of developing rheumatoid arthritis.”

     

    Sears continues, “Other research suggests that clearing up gum disease could help prevent or treat Rheumatoid Arthritis. Case Western Reserve University School of Dental Medicine found that people who were treated for gum disease had significantly more improvement in their Rheumatoid Arthritis symptoms than those who were only treated for their Rheumatoid Arthritis.”

     

    There are a lot of bacteria in your mouth, something like 100 billion bacteria. The bacteria form a sticky film called plaque that hardens into tartar. Plaque and tartar cause inflammation in your gums. If you have plaque and tartar buildup, your gums may bleed when you brush your teeth. But those bacteria can also travel around your body. And left unchecked, they can cause inflammation in other parts of your body, like in your joints.

     

    The good news is that treating gum troubles could treat or prevent Rheumatoid Arthritis. The Case Western Reserve University School of Dental Medicine study found that people who were treated for gum disease had significantly more improvement in their RA symptoms than those who were only treated for their Rheumatoid Arthritis. Sears continues, “Scientists found that one of the bacteria involved in Periodontitis may trigger a process called citrullination. Researchers who study this process believe it’s what sparks the immune system and drives the cascade of events that lead to Rheumatoid Arthritis.” In other words, gum disease could be triggering RA.

     

    The secret of Healthy Teeth is therefore Healthy Joints. To prevent and treat your RA, simply take care of your teeth. Besides just brushing and flossing, do the following for healthy teeth AND joints:

    1. Coconut Oil Pulling. Oil pulling is an ancient Ayurvedic detox practice. It pulls toxins out of teeth and gums. And the oil leaves a film on teeth to help prevent plaque and bacteria from sticking. It can reduce both plaque and gum disease in just seven days.

    To do this, in the morning before eating or drinking anything, gently swish one tablespoon of coconut oil in your mouth and between your teeth for 10 to 20 minutes. Don’t swallow. Spit the used oil into the trash or a jar, not the sink. It will clog your plumbing. Rinse your mouth and brush your teeth as normal.

     

    1. Rinse Your Mouth With Aloe. Aloe Vera has 23 polypeptides that stimulate the immune system and fight infections. In a study in India, 345 healthy people used aloe mouthwash twice a day. After just four days, aloe stamped out plaque and gingivitis. It also significantly lowered bleeding and inflammation.

    Use it just like regular mouthwash. Look for cold-processed aloe juice that uses the whole leaf. It should be at least 85% pure aloe Vera with no sugar or additives.

     

    1. Chew On Coenzyme Q10. People with gum disease have a deficiency of CoQ10. But replacing CoQ10 reserves can turn that around, and reverse gum disease.

    Look for a chewable form of CoQ10, and leave it in your mouth for a few minutes to coat your gums. Or gargle with a natural mouthwash containing CoQ10.You can also take 60 mg per day of a CoQ10 supplement. Just make sure it’s the “reduced” or ubiquinol form. If you already have gum disease or an infection, take 100 mg twice a day. I’ve seen it help repair visibly damaged gum tissue.

  • The one packing mistake we all make

    The one packing mistake we all make

    My friend Eji recently contacted about helping her with her packing. She confesses to being “the worst suitcase packer of all time”. I am not a bad packer myself, but she also admits to being “the worst un-packer”. She confesses, “I will pack for a trip in 30 minutes only to return and leave the suitcase in its exact state for weeks after”. My friend is a busy professional, whose recent promotion means that she is doing more and more travelling, and is in desperate need of an expert to help sort out her packing challenges.

    See the packing mistake we are all guilty of, and tips to avoid it.
    The major mistake we most often make is aimlessly throwing everything in a suitcase without planning, organization, or any effort whatsoever. Ahead, prepare yourself to do some personal reflecting on your other packing mistakes as you take hold of tested solutions for a disheveled and over packed suitcase.

    THE #1 PACKING MISTAKE IS: AIMLESSLY THROWING EVERYTHING INTO A SUITCASE

    One big packing mistake that people make is not taking the time to make sense of their suitcases. They grab items that they want to bring on their trips and just fill up their bags with them. Over packing is an issue too (getting into that mindset of Oh, I’ll definitely want to wear this since I’ll be in the Bahamas—when you know very well that that romper never looks good on you and being in the Bahamas won’t change that).

    PACKING SOLUTIONS:

    Separate items by type.
    Separate items by type (clothing together, accessories together, etc.) and either use the pockets or mesh/clear packing bags to separate them. For example, keep the big and bulky clothing in the main pocket and small clothing like socks and underwear in one of the small pockets.
    Pack exact outfits.
    Do your best to plan out exact outfits and think when you’ll wear what. Keep in mind that versatility is of utmost importance when you pack. Those trousers that you can dress up or down to a variety of places? Pack them!
    Store toiletries in clear bags.
    Store all toiletries in a clear plastic bag. This way you can see what’s inside and keep everything contained and away from your clothing.

  • Leave Fried stuff off the salad plate

    Leave Fried stuff off the salad plate

     

    Lifestyle Hack for the week

    Salads are a healthy addition to every diet, even as dieticians advise that the fruits and vegetables are best eaten raw. However, some salads ingredients (like potatoes) need to be boiled to be edible.  Some people choose to add fried ingredients- either as vegetables or garnishes. True, fried vegetables or garnishes add a nice little crunch to salads and are lovely every now and then, especially when you’ve ordered a gourmet salad at the newest restaurant, but that will be defeating the purpose.
    Why? For everyday lunches or dinners, a regular addition of fried foods will increase the saturated fat, calories, and, potentially, the inflammatory factor of your salad. To get that crunch in a healthier way, add one to two tablespoons of raw chopped nuts or seeds.
    Simply put: Cut out the fried additions, and opt for nuts and seeds, fresh berries, and your own dressing.

  • How to stop puffy eyes

    How to stop puffy eyes

     

    Everyone has suffered from puffy eyes at one time or the other; either because you did not get enough sleep, drank too much alcohol, partied too hard or simply find that yours is hereditary. Here are a few tips to banish puffy eyes or under-eye bags to keep your skin looking young and healthy.
    There are three ways to get rid of puffy eyes or under eye bags. Number one, you need to get moisturizer to help your body to de-puff your under eye bugs and get rid of all the toxins that build up there. There are quite a lot of eye creams formulated with ingredients to remove eye bags. Also note, that sometimes your diet can cause a lot of extra fluid to actually collect under your eyes, so if you had a salty meal the night before, you are going to wake up the next morning with more fluid under your eyes, so try to correct your diet a little bit there.

    The second thing you can use is a little secret, nothing more than paper tape. So if you did have had that high salt meal and you know you are prone to these bags the next day, put a little paper tape under your eyes when you got to sleep, the night before, and when you wake up in the morning take away the tape, you will not have the same collection of fluid under your eyes. That’s a secret way to minimize the bags.
    And the third way to get rid of under eye bags after they appear. Anytime you wake up, and see bags under your eyes, and need a quick fix. You can take a very cold shower to constrict all the blood vessels and de-puff, and also do two sets of jumping jacks for 30 seconds each. That circulation is really going to help rev your body up and help drain away some of that extra fluid that collected there.

     

  • The A to Z of skin care (2)

    Niacinamide: A form of vitamin B3, this compound strengthens the skin’s outer layers, improves elasticity and soothes any redness or irritation. And is found wherever vitamins are sold.

    Oxybenzone: Now, back to sunscreen. This ingredient absorbs UVB rays, so it is often combined with avobenzone (which absorbs UVA light) to create broad-spectrum sun protection.

    Peptides: These are tiny protein particles that signal your skin to produce collagen (which, again, helps to plump up fine lines and wrinkles). You’ll often see them marketed as ingredients in moisturizers and anti-aging creams.

    Quercetin: If you see this on any of your product labels, know that it’s an antioxidant derived from purple grapes and green tea to fight free-radical damage.

    Retinol: Long considered the gold standard in anti-aging ingredients, this vitamin A derivative encourages cell turnover and increases the production of hyaluronic acid and collagen, which makes it a great treatment for acne, in reducing hyper pigmentation, and smoothing fine lines.

    Salicylic acid: This is commonly found in products for acne-prone skin, this beta hydroxy acid removes excess oil, and dead cells from the skin’s surface to help keep it clear.

    Titanium dioxide: This big sounding word is just a mineral filter found in many all-natural sunscreen formulas that shields the skin from UVA and UVB rays.

    Urea: A potent humectant (any ingredient that attracts water from the environment to the skin), it is often used in moisturizers because of its ability to keep skin moist while also exfoliating dead skin cells.

    Vitamin C: You know what vitamin C is. But did you know it goes beyond fighting just colds? Also known as ascorbic acid, this antioxidant boosts collagen production, and inhibits pigment formation to treat and prevent spots from forming.

    Whey protein: Derived from milk, this supplement (popular in powdered form for protein shakes) is actually known to strengthen skin, hair and nails, in addition to the obvious muscular benefits.

    Xanthan gum: This natural thickening agent helps to stabilize liquids in skincare products, and many more things in our lives.

    Yeast extract: When applied to the skin, this reparative ingredient improves the firmness and smoothness of skin without being too harsh.

    Zinc oxide: A commonly used ingredient in sunscreen, this gentle filter offers UV protection with an extremely low risk of irritation, making it ideal for sensitive skin types.

  • TFL: Young people say no to child marriage

    TFL: Young people say no to child marriage

    Young people from public secondary schools across Lagos State will showcase the realities of child marriage in Nigeria using songs, poetry and drama to advocate for the elimination of Child marriage in the country on November 12th, 2016 at the 23rd Annual Teenage Festival of Life (TFL).

    TFL was initiated by Action Health Incorporated (AHI) in 1993 with the aim of bridging communication gap between young people and adults and also to serve as an enabling forum where young people and relevant stakeholders meet to both identify the plights faced by them. This year, the event is focused on creating awareness on the issue of child marriage, its prevalence in Nigeria, impact – effects on the child bride, community and national development.

    Child marriage is recognized internationally as a violation of the human rights of girls and despite laws against it, the practice still remains widespread. In Nigeria, 43% of girls are married before their 18th birthday and 17% are married before they turn 15. The prevalence of child marriage varies widely from one region to another, with figures as high as 76% in the North West region and 10% in the South East.

    These child brides are burdened with responsibilities as wives and mothers with little support, resources, or life experience to meet these challenges. Furthermore, girls’ rights, health and development are undermined by the impact of early marriage, including pregnancy and early childbearing which impacts on their mortality and morbidity. There are also outcomes of early termination of their schooling which limits human capital and their future productivity which of course affects the lives of their children and families.

    This year theme “Ending Child Marriage”; is one of the priority areas under “Ending Gender Inequality” Goal 5 of the 17 Global Goals for Sustainable Development. Ending Child Marriage not only achieves gender equality but translates to the fulfilment of other priority areas such as Ending Poverty, Achieving Education for All, and other goals. This, therefore, calls for urgent steps to eradicate the practice in Nigeria through policies and innovative ideas that must be implemented.

    This event will have in attendance as the special guest government officials from Lagos State Ministry of Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, Ministry of Education, Ministry of Health, UNFPA, the Tutor General/Permanent secretaries of all the Education districts in Lagos state, teachers and students of secondary schools in Lagos as well as the Executive Director of Action Health Incorporated Mrs. Adenike Esiet. Also in attendance as the celebrity artist of the day is Aramide, winner of best female artist Afrima 2016.