Category: Weekend Treat

  • Re: Foods and fruits which are good for virility?

    I just read through your piece of April 27, 2013 captioned, ‘What foods and fruits are good for virility?’ I just want to appreciate you for that. I will give it a try. Keep it up. – Clem from PH.

     

    Does boiled ginger serve the same purpose as you explained on foods and fruits which are good for virility?

    P.S: Yes, you can boil ginger root to make ginger tea as an herbal remedy for virility. You can also add sugar to ginger tea or cool it and mix it with green tea  or drink it straight as homemade ginger ale.

  • Please help I’m in love

    Hi Adeola, my name is Caleb am from Kaduna State but I am working in Cross Rivers. I want you to help me. I am in love with a girl in Calabar and I want her to be my wife but her church doctrine is not making it work and she is complaining that I am from the North. Please help me; what do I do? I love her so much I can’t stand losing her; she is a Jehovah’s witness.

    Dear Caleb, a lot of people know that Jehovah witnesses do not marry outsiders just as they are not allowed to attend another church. I clicked the internet and got this for you:

    It is an offense if caught. Marriage is for life. The only solution for remarriage is that of adultery or death of a spouse. Here is some scriptural facts as follows:

    1Cor. 7: 39—Marry only in the Lord: This means that a baptized servant of Jehovah should marry a fellow worshiper. They study God’s Word and do family study together. This strengthens the marriage and makes it easy to manage family problems. There is no compatibility if a Witness marries an unbeliever, be they church goers, Muslims, and idol worshipers. Because the two have antipodal or opposing beliefs and ways of life.

    Gal. 6:4,5 – Each one will carry his own load: We should not compare ourselves with the other person. Each one’s circumstances differs. We should think before making decisions. Because our decisions can have beneficial or adverse results. And they may be irreversible. Whatever decision we make, we should be ready to live with it whether for good or bad.

    Gal. 6:7—We reap what we sow: Some Witnesses have disobeyed Jehovah’s laws and are reaping the sad results. With regard to marriage, I know Witnesses who married outside the organization for different reasons but who experienced things shocking to relate in their marriage. It means that there is “punishment” for anyone who disobeys Jehovah’s laws.

  • I’m troubled because I’m in a mixed-status relationship

    Good evening ma, I am 20 and dating a guy whom I just found out is HIV positive and I love him so much. I am just confused whether to leave him or stay with him. The problem here is that we have had sex just once and I am troubled if am also positive. But he is not just coming to me for friendship, he is coming for marriage. Please ma don’t include my number. – TA.

     

    TA, of course, I don’t use people’s real names and telephone numbers; sure you must have noticed that already. That’s that.  It’s too late to cry over spilled milk, you have already had unprotected sex with this guy, so  the next thing should be to ensure you know your HIV status and re-do that after six months. During the period between now and when you do the HIV test again, make sure you are well protected if you must have sex.

    Let’s pray you come out negative. If you do, you would then be in what is generally known as a ‘mixed-status’ relationship. A mixed-status relationship is a sexual relationship between partners with different HIV statuses: one partner is HIV-positive and one is HIV-negative. This can involve a couple in a long-term relationship or a single encounter between two partners.

    Now the question to ask is: is it safe for mixed-status couples to have sex?

    For mixed-status couples, the possibility of HIV infection is a constant reality. There is always a risk, but you can minimize it.

    If you are in a mixed-status relationship and you have sex, you can protect against HIV and other sexually transmitted infections by using condoms and dental dams consistently and correctly. If you are part of a mixed-status couple, it is important that you and your partner communicate openly and often about safer sex practices and HIV prevention. Healthcare providers and local HIV/AIDS organizations can be important sources of information and support for you and your partner.

    As he is the HIV-positive partner in this mixed-status relationship, he can lower the risk of transmitting HIV to you if he is on antiretroviral therapy. Taking all your medications, on time, will help to lower the viral load in his body fluids and decrease the chance that he will transmit HIV to you. But remember, even if he has a low viral load, he can still transmit HIV to you. So it is important to always use a condom and practice safer sex. Talk with your partner about condoms and safer sex practices. If you are very sure you love him and want to remain in this relationship for the sake of love and not just because of the promises of marriage, then  you have the responsibility of  supporting him in taking all of his HIV medications at the right times.

    Help us reduce the spread of the HIV virus. The more understanding and love we show to those who are positive, the more they come out clean about their status and make others aware about the dangers.

  • Beautiful  moment for  Oyinda  Adeyemi

    Beautiful moment for Oyinda Adeyemi

    Oyinda Adeyemi, the beautiful wife of former skipper of the old national football team, the Green Eagles, Chief Segun Odegbami, added another year a few days ago. Oyin, as she is popularly called, is no doubt a force to reckon with both in the corporate world and the corridors of power.

    The well-connected lady, who once worked closely with former Vice President Atiku Abubakar, recently celebrated her birthday. Although it was a low-key ceremony, close friends and associates were on hand to celebrate with her. This parade of top shots was not unexpected as Oyin had always wined and dined in the right circles before she decided to settle down when matrimonial responsibilities demanded.

    Oyin, a young but influential woman in Lagos and Abuja political and social settings, played a prominent role during Atiku’s presidential campaign in 2007. Segun Odegbami also used the occasion to show how loving he was as he moved about hand in hand with his lovely wife.

  • My wife is zero both socially and romantically

    My wife with her education is zero socially and romantically and I am the timid type. I have tried known methods but to no effect- a big regret. J.

    Dear J, if your wife was anti-social alone but hot romantically, it would have been a fair deal. At least, when others complain about her, you would be consoled with the fact that she is making you happy in the right places. But for her to be cold to strangers and even colder to you is a cause for alarm. I guess she needs counseling. You may need to schedule an online counseling session with me and her. You both can overcome this problem, if she is willing to change.

    Being romantic is actually not a pen and paper thing. Most of the most romantic people I know have it in them. Being romantic varies widely from person to person, but at its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A true act of romance requires creativity and sincerity, often inspired by love (either its presence or its possibility). While harboring affection for someone might be easy, translating it into romance usually is not. There are millions of romantic ideas in books, movies and on the Internet, but true romance comes from within. But I’m sure we can learn it somehow. So, I’m putting some tips below to help address both her social and romantic coldness:

    How to be romantic

    Focus on the little things. Romance can be practiced every day, and it doesn’t have to be expensive or grand. In fact, sometimes the most romantic moments are simple, spontaneous and free. There are millions of ways to say “I love you” and “I’m lucky to have you.” Think of the world as your medium. You can write it, say it, sculpt it, look it, hide it, shout it, paint it, kiss it, fold it, grow it, touch it, and express it in unlimited ways. Make it a habit to find a new way to be romantic every day. Be creative and have fun with it!

    Be thankful. To make someone feel appreciated, you have to really, truly be thankful for their presence in your life. Maintaining that sense of gratitude takes conscious effort. It’s easy to forget how amazing someone is when you see them every day, but if you constantly remind yourself how lucky you are to share your life with that person, every day will be the most romantic day of your life.

    Court them. Pretend that you and the person just met, and you want the person to fall for you. What would you do to impress them? To show them that you’re interested? To win them over? Treat your partner like they’re single, like you’re trying to earn their affection and trust. The opposite of being romanced is being taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they’ve already been “caught” and it’s over and done with. Put on a show! Stay on your toes! The most romantic ideas come to people when they fear they might lose the one they love. But you don’t have to actually be on the verge of losing someone in order to tap into that mindset!

    How to be socially confident

    By: Braniac (Read more on: http://www.ehow.com)

    1. Remember that no one is any better than you are. If someone can perform well in a social environment, why can’t you? Really, what’s the worst thing that could happen? Why do you feel better when talking in front of your family and friends, but not when dealing with new faces? We’re all people with the same abilities. Stop wondering what others will think of you. Just get out there and do it.

    2. Stop worrying ahead. When dealing with social situations, for example, people immediately start thinking about the public’s reaction. Furthermore, have you noticed it’s never a positive one? Do not get ahead of yourself. Do not start thinking “what if”; This will only turn any (negative) possible outcome into reality. Live in the present.

    3. Let’s say you’re in an atmosphere where you don’t know anyone, and no one knows you. Instead of feeling awkward and shy, take this opportunity to make a great first impression. Remember, people don’t know you, therefore they can’t tell what to expect of you. This is your chance to shine before them and pass with flying colors.

    4. If you need to speak, do it out loud. This will automatically send a signal to your audience that you’re in control of the situation, and nothing can stop you. On the other hand, if you let people know you’re shy by not letting your words be noticeable, they will immediately think you’re a failure before they even know you.

    5. Be yourself, and stop letting anyone else into your head. If someone can do a fancier job at explaining a problem, it doesn’t mean your methods are useless; It only means you have another way of exploring issues which might even teach people a thing or two.

    6. Control your breathing. Instead of feeling tense and breathing from your chest, stop and breathe normally from your stomach. This will get you incredibly relaxed, and thus allow both your words and your self-image to be exposed beautifully.

    7. Physically relax, followed by mentally. The best way to start is by relaxing your muscles. If you’re making a fist, stop this bad habit. Take control of yourself in order to manage the situation you’re presented with. Once in a stable state of mind, you will notice your body language, expressions, and words will flow naturally.

    8. If socializing, a very useful tip is to keep your eye at someone you know from the crowd. If this person makes you feel at ease, try to focus most of your attention on him/her (while occasionally staring at others, of course.)

    9. Model someone you admire. Do you know a motivational speaker, or a good, confident comedian on TV? How well do they perform? Try to act like them while teaching yourself new techniques. Model the way they talk, how they behave, as well as their body language and movements. If you’re in front of a crowd, never stay still – Keep taking small steps to express a confident, successful body language to your audience.

    10. It’s okay to prepare in advance for a situation, especially a social one. However, try not to overly practice what you’re going to say. In the end, this will only cause you to draw a blank when you realize that not every word remained stuck in your head. Instead, know what you will say, but make the final practice when you’re actually ready to demonstrate it.

     

  • The return of Biola Okoya

    The return of Biola Okoya

    After a long leave from the social radar, Biola Okoya, the fun-loving daughter of the landlord of Oluwanisola Villa, Chief Rasak Akanni Okoya, is back. Her stunning deportment betrayed all that had been written about her since her sudden departure from the social arena.

    Before her recent re-emergence in the social space, her whereabouts had been a subject of widespread speculations in the news media. The media was agog with various stories about her health status and her relationship with her Eleganza boss father. But all that has become history as she has returned with a bang.

    Celeb Watch gathered that she has also dumped some of her friends and is now very close to popular Abuja-based architect, Fifi Ejindu. With her latest public appearance, we can only hope that the former wife of Akinwande Johnson has come to stay.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Re:10 signs she faked her orgasm

    •I like your article on orgasm and I also like you. – 07031929204.

     

    •It was a good write-up. Orgasm – reflex response to sex. Faking it for whatever reasons is absurd. How about virginal spasm felt as soon as penetration is achieved? How could a vagina ‘expel’ (push out) penis after ejaculation when the woman is relaxed and wants the man to remain inside? You try to cling on but the spasm pushes it out.

    – 08057776….

  • Royal 60th birthday  for Yetunde Akinruntan

    Royal 60th birthday for Yetunde Akinruntan

    Call it the mother of all parties and you would not be too far from the truth. Last Sunday, Oloori Yetunde, the wife of Oba Fredrick Akinruntan, the Olugbo of Ugbo Kingdom in Ondo State, celebrated her 6oth birthday at Fun Factory in Bodija, Ibadan, Oyo State. Many who attended the royal shindig are still talking about it.

    The beautiful mother of Prince Femi Akinruntan, the Managing Director of Obat Oil and Gas, was overwhelmed with joy and gratitude as her family members and friends rallied round her to make the occasion an unforgettable experience.

    Oloori Yetunde is regarded by many as a woman easily put off by complacent display of wealth. But on Sunday, she had no choice but to acquiesce as her family, especially her son, Prince Femi Akinrutan, treated her to a memorable birthday celebration. The 60th birthday, as would be expected, attracted the creme de la crème of the high society and revealed the extent of the Akinruntans’ influence and social acceptance.

    At the event, every guest was treated to lavish meals, drinks and good music. It was indeed a memorable event that showcased the goodwill and love enjoyed by Oloori Yetunde Akinruntan from family members, friends and business associates.

  • ‘I planned to run to Benin Republic when  I got hints that I would be named monarch’

    ‘I planned to run to Benin Republic when I got hints that I would be named monarch’

    The Traditional ruler of Epe community in Lagos, Oba Kamarudeen Ishola Animashaun, has reigned for 13 years. Within this period, he has overseen the transformation of Epe from a sleepy community into an urban settlement. In this interview with OKORIE UGURU, the monarch speaks about his experience as a royal father. He also recalls how he almost ran away to avoid becoming king when he was initially chosen. Excerpts:

     

    For 13 years, you have been the Oba of Epe. Could you share your experience so far?

    Yes, this is my 13th year on the throne and we have crossed so many hurdles. But at the same time, I have enjoyed the interaction with my people. This is in the sense that Epe is the fishing basket of Lagos State.

    There has been a lot of improvement since I came to the throne. The Free Trade Zone (FTZ), the Lagos airport project and many others. The FTZ has opened up our community more in the area of industrialisation. It has also helped in enlightening our people in terms of how the project is being done and what it means. It has been a very big experience for me.

    Then, there is the modernisation of Lagos State, which has brought a lot of things for the Epe people. There has been more enlightenment, industrialisation and development in terms of roads and provision of basic infrastructure for the people. We also know that the government listens to our requests to make life easier than before.

    One thing I can say in all is that I am really enjoying my people. They are happy with me and I am happy with them.

    Did you envisage some of the challenges you have had since you became the king?

    The challenges are more than I had envisaged. To be a traditional ruler is not an easy task because you have to deal with different kinds of people. You have to oversee a community with different tribes and ethnic groups. You know, we have many tribes in Epe. We have the Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Ijaw and many other tribes. You have to look after these people. You are not supposed to treat them as outsiders.

    You would like to develop your area. You would like to see that your people are not cheated both in the government and the parastatals. And when a matter is brought before you, you have to think very well before you know the judgment to pass. The role of the royal father in the community is very important because he is a kind of bridge between the government and the people.

    Has being a traditional ruler inhibited your ability to do certain things or given you the freedom to do a lot of things?

    As a royal father, there are so many things you can do now that you could not do before, just as there are so many things you could do before that you cannot do now. I can do more, but this is in certain areas. In some areas, I cannot, because the way you used to move with people, play with people here and there, play outside, you may not be able to do that. You have to put yourself in the position of a royal father. You also have to admonish yourself that there were some things you saw as fun in the past which you cannot do any more. You have to look after many things and many people. You would want to take care of the people and control them.

    How was growing up like?

    I was born in Epe and I did my primary and secondary schools here. I proceeded to YABATECH, Lagos. Even after I left, there was no year I wouldn’t be in my home town.

    Any special reason for that?

    My parents were here and there is nothing like home. If I was so far away from home, I would not be in this position. It is because I move and interact with my people. Even this position, I never thought that I was going to be there. I was thinking of another person.

    Another person?

    Yes. Because I did not know how they were going to do it. I was thinking that the late Prof. Agbalajobi would become the next royal father and I would give him all the support. I did not know that all the while, the elders were just laughing. They knew what to do. They had to consult the Ifa oracle. They said they sent about 38 names and I was the one picked.

    Were you surprised?

    I was surprised because I never wanted it.

    Why?

    I was a business man. I had my workshop; a big machine shop. I was selling machine parts to companies like the Nigerian Breweries, Guinness, Flour Mills and so on. I have equipment and they are still intact. I believe in business because I did not work for anyone, I was on my own.

    You never worked for anybody?

    Nobody would say he paid me salary. I have always been on my own. I have many children I have to look after. So, my whole mind was centred on my business. When I spoke to one of the elders who is about 97 years old, Baba Daudu, although somebody from my family had hinted me, and he said I had been picked, I just laughed. I wanted to run away.

    Run away?

    Yes, I am telling you. If not for Baba, I would be in Cotonou (Benin Republic). I am telling you the truth. You may not believe it. All my family members were aware of this. I started making arrangement on how I would run away. That was before I saw the elderly man.

    So, what did he say that convinced you to stay?

    He told me, ‘Kabiyesi, please I know you want to run away.’ How the man knew I wanted to run away is what is still baffling me up till today, because I had not discussed it with anybody except two of my wives. I knew they were not also interested in the position then. The old man referred me to my mother. He said I should go and ask her and let her confirm or otherwise whether at my younger age, the thing had not been mentioned to her.

    That was many years before when I had an accident on the Epe water. I was then about eight or nine years old. It was a ghastly accident and I spent over a year at the Ijebu Ode General Hospital. The day Dr. Adefowope came back from London to work at the hospital was the day I was discharged. It was then that they had already known this and nobody told me.

    Did your mum confirm this?

    I went back to my mum and told her I saw Baba Daudu and he mentioned so, so and so to me. My mum said yes. That was why when they gave me chieftaincy titles, I did not reject them. This is because they were always giving me chieftaincy titles, and when I asked her whether I should accept or reject them, she would tell me to accept.

    She told me Baba Daudu was an Ifa priest. He was among the people who had seen and mentioned this thing in the past. She told me to accept it. She then gave me the Ifa oracle’s name and asked me to go and ask anybody.

    I consulted the churches and they set up prayer groups for me. They told me I had to accept it; that I should not run away. I consulted a Muslim cleric and it was the same thing. I went to Ososa, Hubert Ogunde’s town, and it was confirmed. It was then I surrendered myself.

    Let me be frank, before all these, I never wanted to be the king. I surrendered to lead my people and I must say that I don’t regret it.

    You talked glowingly about your mum, what was her influence on your life?

    Why I talk about my mum is that my father died before some of these things came up. So, it was my mother that I was relating with. I was very close to my mum. A woman who gave birth to 12 children and had only three left, you know how it would be. I was the first born. On what I told you earlier about my accident on the water, she slept under my bed for one year in the hospital, looking after me and not sure whether I would survive or not. My mother and I were close.

    Could you recall one advice your father gave that you would always remember?

    He said: ‘You must be straightforward in whatever you do. Don’t tell lies. Whatever you are doing, be honest with people. No matter what the situation is, don’t deceive people; don’t tell lies’. I took it. If I tell you the truth now and you don’t believe it, I don’t care. I will tell you I have said my own. I know that my mind is clear.

  • What do I do to stop my girlfriend from the habit of demanding for too much sex?

    Dear, Adeola my name is Austin from Ibadan. I have a girlfriend who demands sex from me a lot. Please ma, what do I do to make her stop this habit?

    Dear Austin, not knowing your age will not allow me say it the way it should be said. But because when I advise about sex, I always try to assume I’m dealing with adults, I will make an attempt at answering your question.

    If you’re in a committed relationship (and for those who are married), it is a great thing if your woman finds you so sexy and attractive that she wants to be under the sheets with you always.

    I wouldn’t know how often your girl demands for sex, but if it is like 3 times in a week, that’s absolutely normal. Except your libido is low, 3 to 4 times in a week shouldn’t be a bad idea if you’re both healthy.

    Most men I know are angry that they are the ones making all the advances for sex, which could be quite boring.

    If on your part, your health cannot match this girl’s demands, talk to her and be very sincere about it. Don’t make her feel like she’s the one who is odd, instead, crave her understanding and reach a compromise on how many times would be convenient for you. I wish you well.

    N.B: If on the other hand your girlfriend is a school girl, then this is not a good sign as she could be anything from being at that stage when sex is so sweet she must have it, to using is as a tool to get something from you.