Category: Weekend Treat

  • I’m ready to die for SEC– Oteh

    I’m ready to die for SEC– Oteh

    Ms. Arunma Oteh, Director General, Security and Exchange Commission, (SEC) who has been in the news over her leadership style was an award recipient in Anambra State recently. In this interview with Odogwu Emeka Odogwu, she speaks on development at the stock market and other sundry issues

     

    Your award as the most historic woman of the year 2012 is coming at a time when you are receiving lots of attacks

    I have received a lot of attack recently, but when I got the letter that the Anambra State Council of Nigeria Union of Journalists wanted to honour me as the most historic woman of the year, I almost shed tears. This is because despite what people are doing to bring you down, there are people somewhere who are appreciative of the good work we do.

    I am not afraid to say that I will always do the right thing as the Director-General of the Security and Exchange Commission. I am not moved by what people are doing trying to pull me down, so long as I know that I am doing the right thing. In the past, we had a capital market where people wear suits and sit down to steal money belonging to peasants, but when I came in I told myself that all these have got to stop. We must sanitise our capital market and build a trust that will let the poor man put his savings in it and be assured that it will not be stolen by people. What I am doing at the SEC, I am ready to die for. I’m not afraid to die so long as I am doing the right thing, and I’m very emboldened by the fact that people are watching, no matter the level of conspiracy against one, people are seeing your efforts and at the right time, one will be rewarded for every good work.

    How best could you describe events happening at the SEC?

    A lot is happening and we are trying to grow people’s investment, not by our words but by our actions, and today we have a market that is a world class market. That is why today our equities market, on daily basis, is flocked by values from international investors, which make up 80 percent.

    We Nigerians must enjoy the fruit of our hard work, if market prices are low today, and we have some money to save, we should try and put that money in the market so that it will grow your finances and you will have more money.

    Are there differences between the capital market you met and the capital market we have today?

    We always say at the SEC that, let us learn from the horrible things that happened in the past; our people suffered in the past because there was a lot of misrepresentation.

    Even up to 2010 it was still happening. People were told that their money will just double, and many of our people are crying because they sold their houses, they took their life savings and put them there. That is not what we are saying today. We are saying if you want to invest, you must ask questions. It is not enough for us to just tell the people that once you put your money, it will double. Ask questions, if you are told it is Lever Brothers or Nestle, you will know they have a distribution network everywhere and you will make enquiries to know about the market price.

    And you must go to meet financial experts and ask them questions before you invest. It is your right to ask questions, but please don’t wait for people to come from other countries and invest today and when you are ready to invest, it would be that prices have gone to the top. Last year when we went to Rivers State, the deputy governor there told us a story. He said his father told him that if you have N10,000 and you cannot save, when you earn N100million you will still not be able to save.

    What that means is that you do not have to wait until you have all the money before you begin to save money.

    How much have you done to spread the gospel of savings to Nigerians?

    Here at SEC, we value journalists a lot. I cannot talk enough about the importance of saving and investing, but those of you who write, who present programmes on TV and on radio probably do more in sending the message about saving and investing, about borrowing long term, listing your companies on the Nigeria Stock market.

    For us it is very important that we partner with journalists. One of the new initiatives we have for journalists is that we will have a Journalists Academy this year.

    This is because we feel that the more that you are familiar with the Nigerian capital market, the more that you can report back, so when we publicise about the Journalists Academy through the Anambra Council, we encourage journalists in Anambra to apply in your numbers. I think it is on 10th of December that we are going to have the Journalists Academy, but most importantly, next week, we will be publishing a new initiative which we call the SEC award for Journalists, it is an essay competition on the Nigerian capital market, and I encourage you to try and participate in this essay in your numbers.

    Saving and investing is very critical to building a nation, and no nation can develop without a strong capital market, if you want medium to long-term money for businesses, it comes from the capital market. One, it creates wealth and helps you to train up your children, so that you can retire and still live well. Everything that is negative in the economy affects the capital market because capital market is about the state of the economy.

    What effect do you think that the flood this year will have on the economy?

    I feel that Nigeria as led by President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, a number of very senior private and public sector officials who have been constituted to scout for money to help these people, will do a good work and help save whatever negative impact it may have on the economy. We have Nigerians who have lost their homes and means of livelihood because of the flood, but I know that efforts are in place to see how they can be rehabilitated. This also has to do with agriculture in the country as most farmlands have been submerged and we are hopeful that the federal government will support agriculture. As you know, the federal government is very supportive of agriculture, as agriculture provides 42 percent of our GDP and also 70 percent of employment and, therefore, when something like flood happens, it is important that urgent steps be taken.

    Most companies especially in the South East do not get quoted on the stock market, what is the reason for this?

    Traditionally, Igbos are known for investing in their children, in real estate and in growing their businesses. I think there are areas where we can learn and do better. We must know that if we must only control our businesses, we will not grow as fast as we hope. We have a town like Nnewi that has some of the greatest businesses in Nigeria, and some of those businesses need to be listed on the Nigerian Stock Exchange, so that they can be like Honeywell, Dangote and the rest. We need to encourage our businessmen to move from the culture of controlling their businesses themselves and let others buy into them, so that they can grow. But Igbo people are known for enterprise, but we need to step our games up.

  • Married women love me more than single ladies

    All through my love life, it has been disturbing as married women admire me and show love to me more than single ladies. I am a bachelor and I’ve been willing to engage a lady for marriage but always I make attempt in keeping a relationship, I could not find love. But wherever I go and have contact with married women, they tend to admire me much and wish to keep me away from having relationship with any other woman. I don’t want to commit adultery but the pressure on me has been too much. How can I escape this since most of these married women are caring?

    My brother, any married woman that tries to get you in her bed is digging a grave for not only herself, but you too. Once a woman gets married, she belongs body and soul to her man. So all these women showing interest in you are silly. If they’re tired of their marriages, they should leave rather than cutting corners.

    I really wouldn’t know why single girls would not find you good enough. Could it be that you’re so handsome girls feel insecure around you, or you’re so matured they can’t handle you? Whatever the problem may be, try to ask those who know you well what they think your problem is. It’s also possible that you love older women and so, you’re free around them and they show you the green light as a result of that. If that is the case, get the attention of an older woman who is single (she could be a divorcee or a widow) and try to start a relationship. But married women? Don’t go there.

  • Bride of winter (4)

    I closed early from work that day, pleading a headache as the excuse. The headache was for real because after the things Shelly told me, a massive headache came upon me and I sat glued to my chair as if paralyzed. I managed to get home, however and I went straight to bed as soon as I entered the house. My usual routine after work was to do some chores and prepare dinner for my husband. But that evening, I had no energy to do any work. I laid, curled up in bed, all kinds of thoughts going round and round in my head.

    “How could this have happened?” I kept thinking. ‘And what was I supposed to do?’

    At that moment, I wished I was back home in Nigeria with my family and close friends. But I was all alone in this cold city with no one to talk to or seek advice from. I felt so miserable and sorry for myself, I broke down in tears.

    “How could Henry do this to me, after all we’ve been through?” I said to myself, remembering Shelly’s words.

    “When he came to the country newly, he got married to Milly. It was an arranged marriage, done to enable him get his papers so he could remain in the country to avoid deportation as his visa was about to expire. They were supposed to stay together for a while before filing for divorce and going their separate ways. But the ‘business’ arrangement turned to something else when Milly got pregnant with Henry’s baby. You must have seen the little boy- she brings him to work once in a while. Anyway, some of us who knew about the arrangement thought perhaps, they had decided to make the ‘arrangee’ marriage real and remain together. But it wasn’t to be. They still got divorced after the baby was born. And sometime later, you arrived on the scene.” At this point, she paused to take a sip of water before continuing.

    Drawing close to me, she said softly:

    “I thought with your arrival, whatever they had together would end. But from the look of things, they are definitely back together- they are surely dating. He goes home with her most evenings after closing from work and people have seen them at different spots in the city acting very cosily like a couple in love. I know he’s supposed to visit her once in a while because of the child but this is different. I’m telling you all this because I like you and I feel bad that all these things are happening right under your nose and you are completely ignorant about it. What Milly is doing is bad. Since Henry is married to you now, she should lay off. And you need to do something fast to get your husband out of her clutches…”

    But what could I do? I thought. Confront him and give him an ultimatum? Tell him to stop seeing the woman? Would that work? What if he denied everything? Could he do that with the child’s existence? I had seen the little boy named Ray a couple of times and each time, he often reminded me of someone. Back then, I couldn’t really make the connection, but with what Shelly had told me, I now knew who he reminded me of. My father-in-law! The boy bore an uncanny resemblance to Henrys father whom he resembled as well. So, the family resemblance was there. What explanation would Henry have for that if he said the boy wasn’t his?

    Feeling suddenly thirsty, I went downstairs to the kitchen to get some water. I was drinking it when I heard the key in the door. Henry was back.

    “Sweetheart, I’m home! Where are you?” he called out.

    “In the kitchen,” I said calmly

    He came up to me and held me by the waist.

    “How are you feeling now? Shelly told me you came home early as you weren’t feeling too fine. I tried calling but your phone was switched off. Is the battery dead or what? he stated, as he turned me round.

    “I’m fine,” I said, averting my eyes and slipping out of his arms.

    “You don’t look ok. And your eyes are red. Have you been crying? Is everything alright?” he asked in a worried voice.

    “I said I’m fine. Just leave me alone, ok?” I said harshly. I left him and went upstairs to my room, locking the door after me.

    He came up and started knocking.

    “Abby, what’s the matter? Is it something I’ve done? Open the door, let’s talk about it,” he stated.

    “Just go away! And leave me alone!” I nearly screamed at him.

    “Why are you behaving like this? I come home from work and you refuse to talk to me! What have I done this time?” he said, knocking repeatedly all the while.

    It was at this point that I opened the door and he came in. I stood with my arms crossed on my chest, ready to do battle with him.

    “You are asking me what you’ve done? Ok, I’ll tell you. You are nothing but a cheat and a liar! You’ve betrayed our love and I will never forgive you for that,” I declared, glaring at him.

    He looked at me, puzzled.

    “What on earth are you talking about? Now, you are really beginning to piss me off!” he stated in an angry tone.

    “You pretend not to know what I’m talking about, isn’t it? Ok, let me tell you. About your mistress or lover, Milly, the son she had for you and how you have been cheating on me all this while and I didn’t know! Henry, how could you do this to me?” I cried.

    “Oh, that!” he stated quietly before going to sit on the bed. “Shelly must have been opening her big mouth again,” he noted.

    That got me incensed even more.

    “Is that all you can say? After I have caught you in the act? I now understand why you are always too tired to make love,” I said angrily.

    He looked up warily at me.

    “Look, Abby, calm down and let’s talk about this like adults. It’s not what you think…” he began but I cut him short.

    “What am I expected to think? Just tell me!” I demanded, glaring at him.

    He sighed before he began to speak.

    “My involvement with Milly was due to the situation I found myself in when I got to this country newly. It’s tough being an immigrant here, with no job, no papers and the fear of deportation hanging over one all the time. My friend, Syl who invited me over disappointed me. It wasn’t really his fault as the business he was planning to do could not take off; he could not get the necessary funding from the bank. So, it was like I was on my own,” he disclosed.

    Continuing, he added that it was at this point that Milly came to his rescue. “She really helped me a lot. She agreed to the ‘arranged’ marriage without collecting much money from me and also got me the job at the care home,” he said.

    “So, how come she had a baby for you when it was meant to be an ‘arrangee’ marriage?” I asked sarcastically.

    He explained that it was a mistake; that they had gone to a party one day and had returned home drunk. “One thing led to another and we ended up in bed together. She insisted on keeping the baby when she found out she was pregnant though we were supposed to get divorced some time later. I had told her about you, that I had a fiancée back home and there was no way I could remain with her,” he explained.

    I was silent for a while as his words sank in.

    “But why didn’t you tell me all this earlier? And why are you still going to her house, spending time with her when your so-called ‘arranged’ marriage has ended?” I wanted to know.

    “I planned telling you but I wasn’t sure how you would react. And it’s because of my son that I visit her,” Henry stated.

    I looked at him coldly.

    “And you expect me to believe that?” I queried.

    He didn’t answer but sat staring at the floor.

    After his explanation, I calmed down a little though I was still angry with him. What annoyed me most was the fact that he did not tell me about what happened between him and Milly earlier and I had to hear it from someone else. As my husband, I felt he should have confided in me and even told me about the baby she had for him. Now, he was using the child as an excuse to keep seeing her. I didn’t feel very comfortable with that as I did not trust the woman.

    So, a few days later, I suggested to him that he should get custody of the boy; that I was even ready to look after him- that way his dealings with Milly will be on official basis only. He said it would be difficult as the courts usually gave custody of children to the mothers.

    Then, one Saturday morning, Milly came to our house to pick up my husband for a day outing with his son as it was the boy’s birthday. I was angry that she was acting as if she had a right to my husband and I told Henry he could not go with her.

    But he defied me and still went, stating that he needed to spend some time with his son.

    “Don’t bother coming back to this house! You can stay with her if you want!” I screamed at him as he was entering her car.

    It’s been over a month now and I’ve not seen or heard from my husband. He has not been at work either. Worse still, I heard Milly was on vacation and she had travelled outside the country. My fear is that they’ve gone together with their son as a family, leaving me behind. I’m very confused right now as I still love my husband very much and I don’t want to lose him. Or my marriage. Have I, with my attitude driven him into the arms of the other woman? What should I do? I’m thinking of calling his family members back home especially his dad so they can talk to him to return home as I miss him so much. I want him back. Please I need your advice. Thanks.

     

    Concluded

    Names have been changed to protect the identity of the narrator and other individuals.

    Send advice/suggestions to 08023201831 or psaduwa@yahoo.com.

  • Otunba Lekan Osifeso plans mother of all parties

    Come Saturday December 22 , top socialite and executive Director of Bulletin Construction Company, Otunba Lekan Osifeso, will give his late father, mother and step-mother, Chief Oluwamuyiwa Adeyemo Osifeso, Mrs Olufadebo Osifeso and Mrs Olayinka Osifeso a befitting remembrance party and special prayer.

    Happenstances gathered that Chief Olumuyiwa Osifeso and his wives, who died many years ago, were enviable parents deserving of Lekan and siblings’decision to stage a special remembrance party and prayer for their departed souls.

    Lekan, also the Chairman of Lekai Construction Company, possesses the financial clout and influence needed to pull the creme-de-la-creme of high society to the event. As part of the bid to immortalise his parents, Lekan and family will launch a foundation in Ijebu Ode, Ogun State. It was also gathered that in order to make the party a grand one, a committee has been constituted to make sure the A-list party goes according to plan.

    The committee members include the Chairman of Bulletin Construction, Chief Faysal Harb; Hon. Sade Bent; Chief Jide Odekunle; Alhaji Bashy Kuti; Hon. Leo Awoyemi; Gbenga Akinbobola and Shina Abiola Peller. Those who should know say the December 21 party will feature fuji music maestro, K-1 the Ultimate, on the bandstand while a popular comedian will anchor the event. After the church service, a reception party will follow at the Ijebu Ode township stadium.

  • It’s either Achebe twisting the facts interpreting the to serve his own —Ex-Arewa chair IBM Haruna

    It’s either Achebe twisting the facts interpreting the to serve his own —Ex-Arewa chair IBM Haruna

    Maj-Gen. Ibrahim Bata Malgwi (IBM) Haruna was two-time Federal Commissioner for Communication and Information during the military era. He was also the General Officer Commanding (GOC) Two Division of the Nigerian Army during the civil war. He was also Principal Officer to Gen. Yakubu Gowon. After a glittering military career, he was appointed Chairman of the Governing body of the Nigerian Institute Policy and Strategic Studies (NIPSS) in Kuru, Jos, Plateau State, from 1985 to 1993.

    In this no holds-barred interview, Gen. Haruna lamented the gruesome murder of Gen. Muhammadu Shuwa, whom he described as his bosom friend and contemporary in the Army, insisting that the only way for his memory to be preserved is for the Federal Government to fish out his killers and bring them to justice. He also admonished those he said are still parochially clinging on to the concept of North as a political entity to wake up to the reality that it is long dead as a political grouping. He speaks more on sundry issues with the ASSISTANT EDITOR, LINUS OBOGO. Excerpts:

     

    ONE of Nigeria’s war veterans, Gen. Muhammed Shuwa, who staked his life for the unity of Nigeria, was last week killed in cold blood by unknown gunmen in his house. How did the news of his death come to you, at a time peace is about to be negotiated between the government and the Islamic fundamental sect, Boko Haram?

    It was rather unfortunate. The late Muhammed Shuwa was my bosom friend and a contemporary in the Nigerian Army. We were cadets at the Ghana officer cadet school in 1958. Since then we remained friends and colleagues and served gallantly in the Nigerian Army as well as during the civil war. It was the most shocking and painful revelation to hear that he died in the manner the papers had reported. I feel very aggrieved and I wonder how this kind of death could come to a civil war veteran officer from unknown persons and they are not fished out and dealt with. It is the greatest shame of a nation.

    The one thing the Federal Government can do for his memory is to uncover the characters behind the act. And it is also the only way the government can reassure those of us who staked our lives and fought for the unity of Nigeria. I pray for his soul to rest in peace. Death will come to all of us. It is just the manner it comes that makes it the more worrisome.

     

    With the Boko Haram denying complicity in the death of Gen. Shuwa, where does this leave the government in tracking down those behind the killing and does this in anyway suggest the existence of a group other than Boko Haram?

    There is really no room for speculation. A crime has been committed and it is the duty of the state and the security agencies to ensure that people who commit crimes do not get away with them. It was such a heinous crime committed in that kind of way and it must not be allowed to go unresolved. We cannot begin to speculate about where the responsibility lies. But we know definitely that there was a victim of an act of murder. It is such a shameful thing to have gone to kill an old man who had served this country with all his life.

    As a nation-state, the responsibility lies with the various institutions of government to uncover a crime and bring the perpetrators to book. Even if we were living in an uncivilised, backward and barbaric state, it would not be possible that a stranger would just come into your living room and kill you without anyone knowing where the killer came from. But we are now in a community of people where people must not be allowed to terminate others’ lives. And this is where the government has a responsibility to ensure that society does not degenerate to a state of lawlessness and criminality.

    A lot of Nigerians have been forced to conclude that given the manner the lives of citizens are being snuffed out as if we were in a war situation, the government appears helpless and has not done enough to tackle insecurity and stem the orgy of violence in the country, particularly in the North. What’s your comment on this?

    Security has always been a serious challenge, even to the most organised and sophisticated country in the world. Insecurity can manifest itself in any manner of ways. Do not forget that as sophisticated as America was, President JF Kennedy was killed. Yet it is the most powerful and the most organised nation in the world.

    So, the proof of maturity and responsibility of a nation is being able to withstand the threat to the security of lives and property of its people as well as of the state. So, to demonstrate that we can indeed tackle this kind of challenge as a nation, we must respond not only because a very important life has been terminated, but because every life is sacred and every life is important and must be protected and every human being has the right to live. So, if there are some mad people around who do not appreciate the value of life and the right to life, they must be uncovered and brought to book. And if that means that they must be put in an asylum so that other people can enjoy the right to life, they can jolly well be put in an asylum. The issue of security is not that of the government alone. It is the duty of everyone to ensure security in the community that he or she lives.

    As former Chairman of Arewa Consultative Forum, ACF, would you say the body has done enough in assisting the government by engaging the Boko Haram sect to cease fire?

    I cannot pass judgment on a forum that is neither a state organisation nor an executive arm of government. It is a socio-cultural organisation and we cannot hold it accountable for the failings of the state or its institutions. So, the ACF should be left out of it. It is not a police force or the army. To begin to ask questions about the role of ACF is to look for a scapegoat. What about the political parties? Are they not the ones who form the government? Are they not the ones appointing people into offices? A socio-cultural organisation cannot take over the functions of government that has the governors, the police and ministers. The ACF is not a federal, state or local government.

    Why will anybody want to blame the ineptitude of the state on Arewa, Ohanaeze Indigbo or the Afenifere? There are institutions and agencies of government meant to exercise the powers of investigation and suppression of crimes and lawlessness in the society. So, we should learn to situate responsibility squarely where it belongs. Leave ACF, Ohanaeze Indigbo and Afenifere out of it. If these organisations should become criminals tomorrow, will the state not deal with them accordingly if they decide to criminalise themselves? Will the state spare them simply because they are socio-cultural bodies? The state has a responsibility to fight them if their activities become inimical to the smooth running of the state. So, the same principle should be applied in the handling of Boko Haram.

    The Boko Haram sect has finally agreed to dialogue with the government by going ahead to name those who to represent them in the proposed talks. How much faith do you have in the talks and those they have chosen and should government be negotiating with terrorist groups?

    You are asking me a very difficult question, my friend. As a military man, I know that the initiative, militarily, should not be left to the adversary. What is happening now goes against the grain of my own thinking as a trained military officer. I can only situate the unfolding scenario within the realm of politics. But I am not a politician. However, whatever will bring peace deserves some test.

    As to whether the Federal Government should enter into a dialogue with Boko Haram, I will say that the logic to finding a political solution to peace is in the realm of negotiation. And every negotiation has its objectives and merits. So, we cannot conclude that every terrorist group that may emerge should take the initiative to determine how it intends to bring about peace.

    The government should devise various means of achieving solutions which can be negotiated. And if any means is acceptable to the parties in negotiation, what matters in the end is peace.

    After All, we have adopted a regional development paradigm for the Niger Delta region. But the solutions may not go on forever because it is a political and not a constitutional arrangement. However, peace among communities and people must be pursued through any means that security of lives and property is guaranteed. If the government comes up with a peace process that is not acceptable by the people, do you think that the conflict can be resolved? So, every conflict that comes to the forefront should be dealt with. And if it is like the Boko Haram challenge, it should be dealt with as well. After all, after every war and conflict, there is always some negotiation. Recall that after the First World War, there was some negotiation which brought about the League of Nations. And after the Second World War came the United Nations Organisation, which was also a product of negotiation. So, there are so many instances and precedents which could help in the establishment of structures for negotiation.

    Some people are often quick to blame the menace of Boko Haram on poverty. Would you say it is poverty and if so, when did this poverty scourge begin and why is it imploding now that Dr. Goodluck Jonathan is in office as President?

    Let me tell you something my dear brother. At the foundation of every conflict, there is a phenomenon called poverty. It could be poverty of the stomach, poverty of ideas, poverty of knowledge and poverty of trust. There is also poverty caused by alienation from civilised organisations.

    So, underlining all the terrorist conflicts in the world, there is a feeling in the people of a lack of sense of belonging, not being a constituent of civilisation in a manner that it is perceived as inequitable. In a country like ours, from independence till date, we have been unable to resolve the issue of the wide and ever expanding gap between the haves and the haves-not in terms of not only wealth but also opportunity. The challenge of opportunity to climb the scale of economic and social ladder of the society, as well as opportunity to live long and be allowed to express your talent. So, these are all forms of poverty. That you cannot go to school, or that you cannot learn what will be useful to you and your society or that you are not allowed access to opportunities owing to discrimination, and you have no income because you are not employed and you are confronted with hunger, lack of access to basic healthcare. Given all these deprivations in a developing society, people are quick to resort to violence. They will turn to the consumption of psychotropic substances like Indian hemp and other vegetables and in turn refuse to imbibe the Ten Commandments. They will begin to see the non-existing lines in different religions and forget the civilisation and beliefs that God has revealed to us over the years. The principles of God also encourage us to uplift the low, the needy and the downtrodden and the poor. This is where government has a responsibility to provide some form of reliefs to those at the lower rungs of the ladder.

    So, buffeted by all these, is what people will like to call poverty. Of course, poverty in inverted commas. It is in inverted commas because you have to examine the content of this poverty and what is in it that makes people poor.

    Are you aware that there was violence in 1966 in the South West? And there was also violence by the military in 1983, which led to the overthrow of President Shehu Shagari and after that, the military continued to overturn itself. This was all violence manifested in various ways. What is happening today is not because of President Jonathan or whether it is directed at a certain region of the country. What we are witnessing today is not new. It is just because it is now being carried out by the very poor people whose identity cannot be ascertained or what their organisations are that is why people are saying it is poverty. The common factor is that there have been various forms of revolt. The revolt has not been against one particular government as against the other. It is a revolt against the lack of organisations and structures within the Nigerian state at various levels.

    You will recall that when the colonial overlords were ruling, it was not as if we were any better, richer or poorer than we are today, but the fact is that they were organised. That was why they were able to harness our raw materials like groundnut, cotton, cocoa for their factories in the UK. They were very organised in exploiting our economy. So, essentially, it is all about economic and social organisation. We have had different development plans without realising their goals, whether it was Operation Feed the Nation or the Green Revolution. And what happened to leaders who enunciated these development plans? Nothing! But they approved monies and disappeared with them.

    All the various revolts- military, Boko Haram, MEND, OPC, MASSOB etc, are culminations of frustrations built overtime. Why people choose to die is because there is nothing for them to look forward to and so they do not care about the value for life. But if they know there is good reason to be alive, they will not accept to be used as suicide bombers to strap improvised explosive devices on themselves. They will have good reason to want to be alive and enjoy the value of being alive.

    Having witnessed various governments since Nigeria’s Independence, with the benefit of hindsight, how will you score each successive regime from 1960 till date?

    Honestly, my brother, there is no standard by which you can score any regime that has ruled this country since Independence. There is absolutely no standard. All regimes have been adjudged to be corrupt. Right from Major Kaduna Nzeogwu’s attempted revolution to other rebellions, all the regimes have been more than corrupt. How do I score the various regimes when the very institutions that should make governance accountable to the people are themselves more corrupt? These same corrupt institutions are enjoying robust headlines in the media. The judiciary has equally written itself into Nigeria’s corruption folklore.

    When property and money are confiscated from those accused of corruption, there is no account of the forfeiture and in the end, you do not know who are the beneficiaries of the seizures. So, what are we talking about? Please do not ask me to score or assess any government when there is no standard. Are you asking me to assess our development against those of Hon Kong, Singapore, China, Malaysia, Brazil or the US? Will you in all sincerity say that we are a developing democracy or developing economy when there is no confidence in our investment market?

    When you turn to religion, there are a few religious leaders who are working for the salvation of mankind. But again, there many more religious leaders whose main preoccupation is to make money. While they are busy making money from their flock, the same flock is wallowing in abject poverty and want. The pastors continue to ask money from their congregation so that their faith can be strengthened.

    There must be standard and the standard is the rule of law and the equality before the law. We must ask ourselves, what is our perception of leadership and duty? Is it to ourselves as individuals or to the citizens? Is the leadership motivated by duty and responsibility to its subjects or is it attracted by the sweet aroma of oil wealth? The gospel truth is that we are suffering from inept and maladjusted leadership, leadership that is neck-deep in stealing.

    The former governor of the old Kaduna State, Alhaji Muhammadu Lawal Kaita, was recently quoted as saying that the North no longer has a leader, so sad that nobody is today respected enough to command leadership. Do you share his sentiment and if yes, how did the region arrive at this dissonance?

    My simple answer is that in the North, we are living in huge contradiction. And we have always been in this contradiction. Why can’t people take this kind of statement from Lawal Kaita with a pinch of salt?

    Are we really organised as North and South? Is it lawful? For somebody to start classifying us as North and South is it right and lawful? That was a dishonest statement from Kaita because we are not North and South. It is a statement from people who continuously want us to remain divided. Some people are still living in the past to continue to hold on to such geographical deceit as the North. I know of the North, East, West, Mid-West, but not North and South. There are some people who want to be seen as the new Sardaunas, but unfortunately, we cannot have another Sardauna again and we cannot go back to Northern region any longer. It now belongs in the past to talk about a political leader from the North because we cannot have that arrangement again. Why do they want to see an individual promoted and celebrated as Sardauna? Is the North now an emirate?

    People need to be educated to understand the context in which things are said and applied. The way you media report some of these things sometimes said by these people is not helpful. You guys need to educate them. We cannot continue in illiteracy, else, we will continue to cling on to our conscience on the basis of illiteracy. I do not have the concept of Northern leaders in my own worldview. So do not talk to me about Northern leaders. I only know of leaders in governance, bureaucracy and in the three tiers of government.

    I also know that we have cultural leaders called Igwe or Obi, the Oba and the emir. They fall within the context of cultural leadership. They have their place in the society and they also have their limit. But outside that, I do not look at leadership within the context and parameters of tribe or the North, South, East. There was never a time we were socially organised as tribes. So, people are contextualising it so that they can exploit it. I do not share in the classification and I do not see the human person in this context. I see the human person as free to learn, free to move about, free to socialise and integrate with others and be responsible to God. I see people first as human beings, not on the basis of where he or she was born or what language he or she speaks.

    Forty two years after the end of the Nigerian Civil war, a new controversy has emerged over the roles played by Gen. Yakubu Gowon (rtd) and the late Chief Obafemi Awolowo with accusations of genocide and the use of starvation as a weapon of war by Prof. Chinua Achebe, against the Igbo in his memoir, There was a Country. What’s your perspective to the controversy as a participant in the 30 months civil war?

    Controversies are human creations. Having said that, I must add that there are certain things in history that you cannot controvert if you accept the facts. It is either Prof. Achebe is twisting the facts or he is interpreting the context to serve his own purpose. But this is an unwarranted controversy because the facts are there for all to see. Will he deny that there were killings in the North, which culminated in counter-killings? Or is Achebe going to deny that there was a conflict of leadership and seniority between Gowon and Ojukwu? In what context is he perpetuating the view of genocide? Those who want to promote controversy should first of all state the facts. Above all, what were the objectives of the civil war? Was it to kill the Igbo? The war would not have come about until the county was divided into states. When people want to talk about the past, they should strive to put it in proper context.

    Ahead of 2015, there are already agitations that the Presidency should move to the North, despite that it is within the law for the incumbency to aspire for a second term. Do you also subscribe to the presidency shifting to the North?

    I have told you earlier that I do not uphold nor subscribe to the concept of North. This is a vocabulary that has since lost its meaning. It has no place in my vocabulary. If it is a political thinking or movement or the exercise of political right, I think we should leave them to their theory. But my outlook does not tally or coincide with others’ notion of the North. Mine is not consistent with somebody thinking of North or South. I do not see the leader of either my state or local government as one geographical entity or tribal person. I see him as being there to perform a function.

  • When did we become a nation of such unhappy people?(1)

    Recently, the results of the ranking of the happiest countries in the world, was released. According to a new global happiness measurement, the Happy Planet Index (HPI), Costa Rica (in Central America), has become the happiest country in the world. The criteria used were namely life expectancy, experienced well-being and ecological footprint.

    With this new ranking, Nigeria has lost her prime position as the happiest country in the world. It was an unsolicited title bestowed on us about seven years ago by another happiness index group. Back then, the news was received with mixed reactions by many citizens. Some, seeing the dire situation in the country then, disagreed with the ranking, wondering the criteria used in judging us so highly in the happiness stakes.

    “How can we be the happiest people in the world with so much poverty, disease, hunger, unemployment and other indices of underdevelopment confronting us?” they wondered. Others, however, incurable optimists supported the ranking, buttressing their stand with this argument:

    “Agreed we have all these problems, but you still see people looking happy and smiling everywhere you turn even in the midst of all these problems. What does that tell you? That we are a happy people!”

    Between that time and today, a lot has happened and our happiness rating has fallen drastically. We are now number 135 in a ranking of 151 countries in the happiness index (with

    Botswana at the bottom of the table as the saddest country in the world).

    What could have happened to make us fall so low, from being the happiest to become one of the saddest countries in the world? Too much, I believe. And more is happening daily to wipe the smiles off our collective faces.

    The causes of misery in the land are obvious and some have been cited above. But above all these, is the death of hope. And optimism.

    Even in the midst of so much poverty, what kept most people, living truly miserable lives, going was the belief, the hope that there is a greater tomorrow- ‘e go better’ as we like to say in local parlance. That is the spirit that moves the market woman sitting under the scorching sun all day selling wares with a street value of less than a N1000, the teenage street hawker risking his young life dashing through the traffic to sell a few bags of ‘pure water’, the danfo driver who leaves home by 4 am to take commuters to their places of work, the unemployed graduate who left school when Abacha was still in power and has not worked for a single day but is praying and hoping that a good job, perhaps in an oil company will materialize soon…the list is endless.

    It’s this Nigerian spirit, a never say die one, that baffles foreigners who can’t understand why we seem to be so happy despite all the ills in our society. What they fail to grasp is our love of life. The average Nigerian will hang on to life no matter how wretched his condition is. That perhaps explains why we have such a low suicide rate compared to other countries, even more affluent societies with higher standards of living. It must take something really terrible for a Nigerian to take his own life. This is unlike in a country like Japan for instance when a man can jump off a bridge to his death just because he feels his name, image and reputation have been affected by a scandal or allegation.

    Not so in this country where some one will be caught stealing billions from the public treasury but will feel no sense of shame. Instead, when taken to court, even with his battered reputation, he will be seen smiling, in hand cuffs and waving to his supporters who are often dressed in aso-ebi, singing and dancing as if in a street carnival.

    Anyway, as I was saying, it’s our zest for life, a belief in a better future that made us rank very highly in the happiness scale in the past. But in the past couple of years, the tables have turned and something seems to have happened to our indomitable spirit…

     

    To be continued

  • Pastor Odukoya’s daughter in marital bliss

    A wedding ceremony that boasts A -list guests, sumptuous local and international meals, choice drinks and impressive gifts for new couple is nothing but a huge success. So it was for Tolu, the amiable daughter of Pastor Taiwo Odukoya, the Senior Pastor of the Fountain of Life Church, Ilupeju, Lagos and her heartthrob, Olumide Ijogun. The two exchanged marital vows at the church last Saturday.

    The reception, which held at the upscale events place, Haven, drew a perfect blend of guests ranging from clergymen and technocrats to industrialists and young professionals who see the bride’s father as a role model. The couple’s love story spans close to 10 years. They were high school lovers and were very close all through. Olumide later studied a computer-related course while Toluwani did business-related courses in the United States of America and Nigeria. Both are currently doing well in their respective fields. Olumide works at Honeywell Group, a company owned by popular industrialist, Oba Otudeko. Toluwani is the brand manager for Lucozade Sport.

  • This one life, this one chance

    I love music to my bones and as shy as I may be sometimes, I never run away from a good dance. Dance. Well, that’s another thing. I’ve never been a good dancer, but what does that mean to a soul that loves music like I do. So when I woke up the morning after I returned from England, I talked to my Maker and then I got some music into my system and I really danced. I danced this time because of many reasons. I have the chance to dance now, so I want to do as much of it as I can. I later went to the large mirror in my bathroom and switched on the light overhead it and took a look at my face. I did what came next to my mind; I touched it tenderly and brushed some colors into it. I’m not usually one to give much time for vanity, but I felt I had the chance to do that and I needed to do it to my satisfaction.

    On transit in France, I sat close to an old woman, and life’s many lessons stared me in the face again yet again. The old woman was on a wheelchair and my attempt to say hello to her didn’t evoke any reaction. I used ‘style’ to study her closely. The hair on her head was grey and matted roughly. The matting must have been on for more than a month (we women know when we see these things). She stared blankly into space and didn’t seem interested in anything around her. I almost thought she was deaf but when one of the staff of the airline came to speak with her and she nodded, I saw I was wrong.

    Before time, boarding started and she was wheeled to the aircraft. I soon forgot about her.

    I was seated just after the toilet by the aisle and I had the misfortune of seeing everybody going to and fro the toilet but I tried to enjoy my television entertainment. The old woman came back to my consciousness when she walked on her feet to the toilet. Of course, a cabin crew was closely behind her. She went into the toilet, sat on the seat and didn’t bother to lock the door behind her. The cabin crew cast a knowing look at me and I winked. The woman is probably too old to bother about closing toilet doors and may not even care about whoever sees her nakedness these days.

    I tried to imagine this same woman ten years before now and my mind tells me that she might have done things differently. Ten years in our lives are precious years that we cannot get back. Maybe this same old woman of today would not step out of her house without her make-up properly done. Maybe she was such a healthy and happy woman back then and wouldn’t need anybody to guide her to the market, let alone toilet. Maybe in her hay days she cared so much about her privacy that blowing her nose alone had to be done discreetly and woe betided anybody that stumbled on her in the toilet. But today, all that seems to be history.

    So many things crop up in the human life that we sometimes cannot control. For some, tragedy and the loss of close family members stop the tickling of the clock and the sound of music. For some, bad health creeps in and makes strong legs weak and dependency on others sets in. For others, economic hardship and certain misfortunes change everything and life becomes difficult.

    For me, this year alone, I have lost a sister, a favorite in-law and one of my best friends, Ebecks (Tunde Ajewole initiator and producer of Elaloro on radio). I always thought these people would be always be there to play and laugh with. If I could have the chance to see them again, I wouldn’t postpone sharing a good laugh in the name of being busy. Now I have missed that chance. Thank God for the times we had and the fun we had together. All I have left are memories.

    Life’s unpredictable turns happen when we least expect them, but it is easier to bear if we have memories of the good things we did when life presented them. Like that old woman, I may not be able to hold my make-up brush in years to come and I may not be able to twist to the good music I hear, but now that I have the chance, I want to build enough memories to last me a lifetime.

    Somebody was quoted as saying, “We have one life, one chance, and what we do with it is up to us”. What are the opportunities you have today that you are keeping till later? Make use of it now. The chance you have now may not repeat itself. Who is that man or woman you love so much but whom you haven’t spoken to because you’re waiting for the right time? They may be planning to leave town because they’re lonely and you don’t know. This is your chance to get what you want by talking to them. Below are quotes from some people about missed time and missed chances. Learn from them and make use of the chance you have now.

    “Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back. That’s part of what it means to be alive. But inside our heads – at least that’s where I imagine it – there’s a little room where we store those memories. A room like the stacks in this library. And to understand the workings of our own heart we have to keep on making new reference cards. We have to dust things off every once in awhile, let in fresh air, change the water in the flower vases. In other words, you’ll live forever in your own private library.” ¯ Haruki Murakami.

    “Moments, when lost, can’t be found again. They’re just gone.” ¯ Jenny Han.

    “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.” ¯ Harriet Beecher Stowe.

    “Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” ¯ C.G. Jung.

    “There was another life that I might have had, but I am having this one.” ¯ Kazuo Ishiguro.

    “Don’t fear death, fear the un-lived life- Angus Tuck.

  • Uju Muphy savours single’s life

    Leggy beauty and top socialite, Uju Murphy, is having a ball. She is savouring her ‘freedom’ from matrimonial entanglement. The social lioness seems to be not in a hurry to settle her differences with her estranged husband who has also been living without a woman since they parted ways.

    There is every reason to believe that Uju is not really complaining about her single status. She is seen always looking relaxed and at peace with herself. She is no doubt living life to the fullest, apparently with no feeling of nostalgia about her days with her hubby. The fruitful and once smooth union turned sour when darts were thrown at their balloon of love.

    Many had thought their misunderstanding was only a storm in a tea cup. But their separation has rolled from days into weeks, months and years. Close associates of Uju, a mother of two, say she is not in a hurry to go back to her estranged husband. She is also said not to be considering any relationship for now

  • I don’t have the passion for sex but my woman demands for it

    Mine always demand for sex but I don’t get the passion and I love her so much.

    I wish I knew why you do not have a passion for sex. One thing I’m sure of however is that women enjoy being chased for relationships and later sex. So when a man acts like he’s not interested at all, it makes the woman do the chasing in order to be sure that nothing is wrong.

    I don’t know how old you are, but I know that later on in men’s life, some may slow down on sex. Work pressure, family problems and so on may also contribute to lack of interest in sex.

    Below are so some tips to get the burner on for you in the bedroom:

    Get a medical checkup: To eliminate physiological causes for your lack of desire, a trip to your family physician or gynecologist may be in order. Ask if hormone replacement therapy such as testosterone would be appropriate. Evaluate whether side effects from medications or medical conditions are a factor in your situation. Discuss whether herbal remedies or dietary changes may be helpful.

    Make having a satisfying sexual relationship a bigger priority in your life: There are at least two very important reasons that you should take your sex life off the back burner and pay attention to it. The first is your relationship with your spouse. Your marriage depends on it.

    Your spouse’s feelings about himself/herself depend on it. Your future together depends on it. You have to stop thinking you can have a great relationship without satisfying sex unless your partner wholeheartedly agrees. Don’t resign yourself to passionless lovemaking or a relationship void of true intimacy.

    Even elderly and chronically ill people can enjoy a robust sex life. The second reason is that unless you are truly enjoying your intimate relationship, you are really cheating yourself! If you aren’t all that interested in sex at the moment, you are probably thinking, “I don’t feel cheated at all,” but I’d like for you to take a moment and think back to a time when sex was more fulfilling.

    Really think about it. Wasn’t it wonderful? Didn’t it feel great? Recall what it felt like to be a more passionate, sensual person. Didn’t you feel better about yourself? Wasn’t it more fun? When you think back to times when things were better between you sexually, you may ask yourself what happened to your passion and what caused this to change in you. You may also wonder if you will ever feel the same way about being sexual as you once did. Perhaps it’s the seesaw phenomenon at work; the more one person does of something, the less the other person does. Well, this holds true for sexual issues as well.

    Since your spouse has been the one to focus on sex in your marriage and you have felt pressured about it, you have backed away. In fact, it’s entirely possible that the cat and mouse dynamic in your relationship has dampened your desire, even fooled you into thinking you don’t like sex anymore. But this isn’t necessarily so. Your negative feelings or apathy may have more to do with the chase than sex itself. In order to change this, one of two things must happen. Your spouse can stop chasing (and you better believe that this will be one of my suggestions), or you can become more proactive for making things better between you. Since you are the one asking for advice, I am going to strongly suggest that it is you who has to take charge of changing things. You need to start to figure out the steps you ought to take to feel more passion and desire. Make feeling sexier your pet project. If you don’t, you are missing out on one of life’s greatest joys, feeling truly intimate with the person you love. Don’t shortchange yourself. Forget about doing this strictly for your partner or the marriage, do it for you!