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  • Girls, don’t let the world damage you- virginity doesn’t end at age 18-20!

    Girls, don’t let the world damage you- virginity doesn’t end at age 18-20!

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I’ve been following your articles for some time now and every one of it encourages me to remain chaste until marriage! Your advice has been helping me so dearly, I can remember many times when I want to have a second thought about keeping myself but my senses gets back to normal whenever I come across your advice. You’ve played a motherly role in my life and I’m so grateful. May God bless and keep you for me!

    I’m 18years old and something has been bothering me since I knew myself! When I was around 6-9 years(can’t really remember the exact age), I was sexually abused by my father’s servant then, he was a teenager. He would  come to sleep with me. Then, I never knew what he was doing as I didn’t know anything about sex. I didn’t even find it necessary to tell anyone, I was just allowing him have his way. But I can still remember that I never saw anything like blood whenever he got into the act. I don’t know if he was having the sex in the right way because he was young then and probably did not know how to do it but in every of this I never saw anything like blood and it makes me more confused as to if I’m still a virgin or not.

    When I started growing into fully knowing myself, I hated me. I started regretting why such thing ever happened. I wished I was able to speak up, I wished my dad never had servants, I wished I was conscious of what I was doing then and I always wished then was now. I always cry whenever I remember such scenario because deep down I wanted to be pure from birth, I wanted to make sure that no one has ever touched me, like no one. But right now ma’am, I don’t know if my virginity is still intact, I’ve said that I will go for virginity test when I will have to. I haven’t told anyone not even my parents are aware of this till now, I promised to keep it to myself but I was persuaded to talk to you about it. Since my childhood experience, I promised never to get involved in premarital sex and I haven’t engaged in it up till now! I’ve been keeping myself and I will continue keeping myself, I want to remain chaste but I’m only sad about my childhood experience ma’am.

    Also, people tell me that it’s because I’m still young that’s why I’m still remaining chaste, that it will get to a stage where the urge is much and I will get tired and give in, that they always believe that virginity ends at 18-20 years. I always oppose their opinions and tell them how false it is but they keep on telling me that I’m just saying it because I’m yet to grow older to understand what they are saying. What do you think ma? Because sometimes I try to reason with them but later on I will refuse to be deceived, it’s giving me a double thought. In all of this, I remain chaste and God has been helping me. I actually have alot more to talk to you about, I really need your advice in other areas of my life, but first you have to reply to this one.

    Joy A.

    My darling Joy,

    Why are you grieving over a past that has gone with the wind and allowing the devil oppress you for what you no nothing about? Why in the world would you go for a virginity test? I doubt the guy slept with you because at such a young age, you’d have felt so much pain and seen a a lot of blood except you weren’t born with a hymen. Even then your body would have reacted with a lot of pain. I take it that you’re still a virgin and most of all I believe God sees you as one! Please face your fantastic future and stay chaste till marriage! May God empower you in Jesus name!

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    I pray for you with all my heart that you will not miss the wonderful rewards that’ll fall on the laps of the sexually-pure on a platter of gold this year in Jesus mighty name! I have so much to share with you that’ll change your mind set and believe me transform your lives forever this year. However, to start with, I’d like to let you know that you should mind the type of counsels you take and the sort of people who influence you! The world gets worse by the day and i tell you if you start engaging in sex by 18, I can assure you, you’ll turn to “nonsense” before you’re 21! I KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! Please stay tuned!

    To be continued

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  • Virgins can enjoy the best s3x in marriage!

    Virgins can enjoy the best s3x in marriage!

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    Thanks for your articles advice ma’am however, I’m confused as there is this book I was reading sometime ago. It is all about s3x and the book stated that it’s good to know about sex and see it as enjoyment not as a problem or something that will make you not to go to heaven. In fact it says if you’re not having s3x, your hormones will be lacking some things. So my question is which one is better, knowing how to s3x your husband because if you don’t satisfy him it will be a problem or keeping your virginity because of Christ?

    Cynthia

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I’m 23 and still a virgin. Sometimes, I feel stupid because I’ve come across guys in church who say they don’t like virgins or can’t marry one and this can be very discouraging and I feel left out especially when I meet clean, cute, hardworking guys that can take care of me and my parents/relatives who can’t be bothered about my well-being. Let’s be realistic, those who enjoy premarital s3x end up with better men and better marriages than the chaste!

    Bisola

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

    How can you be a rare gem and complain about what a perverted world think? IF YOU GIRLS KNEW WHAT GUYS REALLY THINK ABOUT SEXUALLY-ACTIVE GIRLS AND WHERE THEY PLACE THEM IN THEIR LIVES, YOU’LL COWER IN SHAME! In fact, time has proven a lot of guys would go around sowing their wild oats sweeping off the feet of every available girl; lay her then end up marrying a virgin! What in the world happened to your common sense and dignity girls? THE PRESERVATION OF YOUR VIRGINITY IS IN YOUR SOLE INTEREST!” I can’t believe anyone would ask me if it’s better to learn the art of sex before marriage in order to satisfy her husband or remain pure because of what the scripture says! Lord have mercy!!!

    I should also ask you which you’d rather go for- A FAIRLY-USED CAR OR BRAND NEW CAR? Even a very bad or crazy man in his lucid intervals would treasure a wife he deflowered and she would earn his respect and trust for life. Also, do you know a chaste lady has the power to attract a damn good man- even if she’s once been sexually-active and then surrendered to God? People say “bad girls” end up with good men and in good marriages. This could be true because they have “na ‘gbara, na “gboro” i.e. that is they’ve sampled and been sampled by diverse type of men so they have an idea the good and bad ones or the type of men they could subdue to their whims and caprices. But guess what? They have laid a bad foundation that opens up their marriage to satanic attack also, they may be insatiable in bed! Also, he man may be good but not their original spouse!

    How can 2 soul-mates paired up by God not be able to satisfy themselves sexually? Do you know the fact that your husband/wife is a virgin is a great turn on for you in the first place? In a world where 14-year-olds are engaging in sex like it’s an indoor game, a lady who keeps herself till her 20’s or 30’s is made of the rarest type of gem! Because God is not only at the centre but the chief controller of an undefiled marriage bed, you are both controlled by Him. He’s in fact the Chief Commander of your emotions and the way your bodies respond to each other and because He controls your minds (that is if you allow Him); the slightest touch from either of you just sends you to cloud 81! It sparks off celestial fire! Because you allowed God to fine-tune you in the supernatural, being in subjection to Him and your divine partner (not necessarily the one your pastor recommended) locating you, a mere thought of each other turns you on and you want to run home from work and be with no other person than your spouse, your greatest treasure, your goldmine and honey pot! I insist there’s something in an unpolluted destiny that naturally magnetizes his/her divine partner! YOU TREMBLE WITH PASSION AT EACH OTHER’S PRESENCE! YOU WANT TO EXPLORE WHAT NO ONE HAS EVER HAD ACCESS TO! DO YOU GET IT?

    Girls…girls…girls, why do you like dulling yourselves? Why are you so impatient? Why can’t you lay a solid, consecrated foundation for a beautiful future in the first 25 years of your life? Life would be a lot easier to coast through and enjoy optimally! May the fire of God hit you where ever you are and arrest your hearts in Jesus mighty name!

  • May your daughter not end up a disaster!

    May your daughter not end up a disaster!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, Thank you very much for your precious advice because they are not only helping the young people of Nigeria but also helping the young Congolese. May the God you elevate in your publications remember you in Jesus name!

    Elope Julia Malundama

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    This is just to let you know “I love you die!” I mean i love you too much! You’re are one in a million! The bitter truth that can rarely be heard or taught even by our religious leaders is what you bombard us with. Please don’t stop ma! May God bless you ma!

    Naomi Yusuf

    Dear Evangelist Temilolu,

    You are indeed an Apostle of Chastity! I just read one of your articles and I must say I’m so touched! God will bless you ma! I promise to keep my virginity till my wedding night…so help me God! But ma, it’s really hard to see a guy who will agree to wait till your wedding night but I shall keep praying to God daily to send a good guy my way! Thanks ma.

    Joy Yaba

    Dearest Parents,

    This is a very serious matter and nothing to do with sexual purity this time! An 18-year-old girl who has found it difficult for months to get over a guy who refuses to have a romantic relationship with her accuses him of raping her and he gets arrested! I’d leave out his ordeal! But for the said meeting point- the guy’s friend’s house which had CCTV cameras, this guy would probably be chilling in jail now-awaiting his trial!

    Parents…parents…mothers especially- please can you tell your daughters there’s nothing wrong in rejection and disappointment? Please can you just tell them they can make the most of such situations and get a deal 10 times better? And can you just drum it into their ears that there’s time for everything and to have the very best of life, they must prioritize it?

    You see the reason I will keep saying teenagers do not need to be in a romantic relationship! They simply lose all sense of proportion and expend too much energy and passion on inanities-much to their detriment, losing focus on laying a solid foundation for their future in a highly-competitive world where only the fittest can survive.

    Check out the imagination she should be using to acquire solid grades, invent, shatter glass ceilings and achieve what no Nigerian woman has achieved globally etc. Instead, she’s so full of bitterness to the point of totally destroying a destiny! What a wicked soul!

    Believe  me, when i was approached  to counsel her and I was wondering the type of people who raised her, I was duly informed that she was away from home for 5 days without her mother knowing her whereabouts!  My shoulders dropped! To think this same woman fiercely backed her daughter up saying her daughter wouldn’t lie about such until the evidence was produced! She then confessed that she just wanted to punish him. Haaa…

    Females more often than not turn out to become a product of what their mothers instilled in them and what they watched her do while growing up. I can also tell you that girls whose fathers suffocate with love and attention rarely feel let down by men! They will always shake off the dust of pain and rejection and aim higher because their no.1 hero already laid a solid foundation for that and I don’t need to tell you they turn out  very successful- with or without a man!

    Who do you want your daughter to become in future? An emotionally-unstable lady, a nervous wreck, a satanic manipulator, a weapon in the hands of the devil or an empire, an institution, a fortress, an amazon, a spiritual house, a power house of glory which the world including  PATRIARCHY will salute till Jesus comes? You’d have to choose 1 and it’s really up to you ma! According to my high school Yoruba teacher- “kosi r’eje n’nu photo, bo ba se joko lo se ma ba ‘ra e!” As you lay your bed, so you lie on it!

    May our children not make us cry in regret in future! May they turn out to be great signs and wonders in Jesus name!

     

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  • 24-year-old Lady dumped for sleeping with 85

    24-year-old Lady dumped for sleeping with 85

    DEAR Madam Temilolu, I thought to come back and thank you for how much you’ve impacted my life since i stumbled on your articles a few months ago. My life has never remained the same again since i began reading your articles and putting your teachings about sexual purity into practice! It has been one good news to another and i know God is not done with me yet! More testimonies are on the way….2022 is my year! I know it and I believe it! Thanks so many mas!

    Jacinta Umeh

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I salute your energy and the time you have to preach chastity. However, most guys i meet always say “I can’t stand blood…” “I can’t stand blood…” “I can’t stand her cry…” “It’s stressful…”  “Virgins don’t know anything…” I’m so tired of all the excuses! In fact, I met one guy 2 years ago, he wanted to date me but when he found out i was a virgin, he said to me, “You will have to do it with someone else because I can’t deflower a woman and I can’t date without sex.”  I was weak! Why is it so?

    Joy

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters

    I tell you a lot of people aren’t themselves! More than half of the world are satanically manipulated! Otherwise how can anyone tell you if he can’t have sex with you, he won’t date you? He doesn’t care about God’s dictates; he must also be a very selfish person who would waste no time in spewing you out of his mouth like gall once he’s done with you! What a pity as i imagine so many other girls falling into his arms! I can even imagine him to be the type of guy in the story below!

    A few weeks ago, a 24-year-old lady sought counsel after a guy she recently met and slept with on their first date asked her the number of guys she had slept with. She told him she had slept with 85 men and he promptly blocked her! Most people condemned her to no end! Including those who will tell you, you need to engage in s3x before marriage and be sure you’re s3xually-compatible!

    The heart wrenching s3xual trajectory of this young lady must have started with what anyone would call an innocent relationship! She must have been reading foolish counsel like “virginity does not matter anymore,” who virginity epp,” told by intending lovers that they can’t date without s3x and so on until she got to 85 men. 85 men, 85 multiplied by uncountable spirits of multiple partners transferred into her life at age 24 and if she’s not careful strange spirits and a legion of demons that could ensure she remains in the valley of life and on the same spot for the next 20 years if care isn’t taken! Yes it is that serious!

    For ladies in their 20’s, because your beastie at school had 10 different boyfriends she was sleeping with and got married to a good man at age 22 doesn’t mean same thing would apply to you!!! Who knows whether this lady had planned and sworn in her teens to remain a virign till her wedding night until she got into an unnecessary relationship which submerged her body, spirit and soul in fleshly lust? When I tell you it’s better not to engage in premarital sex at all as it breeds a vicious cycle that could completely topple your life over- I know what I am talking about! Take it or leave it, only God can deliver her from the dire spiritual consequences!!! By now, she must have realized her folly and the fact that most guys who say they can’t deal with a virgin are liars! Most of them do not want what has been passed around either! I pray God sees her through and she ends up with a good man!!!

    Girls…girls…girls…may your mindlessness and following the dictates of the world up and down not become your greatest undoing and divert the course of your destiny! As the world celebrates the resurrection of our Lord Jesus  Christ tomorrow, may every good thing that’s dead in your life come alive in Jesus mighty name!

     

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  • Girls, don’t let the world deceive and later reject you!

    Girls, don’t let the world deceive and later reject you!

    DEAR Mummy Temilolu, I’m a guy and i know this is Girls Club. However, since i started reading your articles, you changed my life! You’ve taught me a lot of things even my family never taught me. May God continue to bless you and your family.

    Wilson Monday

     

    Dear Madam Temilolu,

    Ever since i decided to stay chaste and follow God, i have seen nothing but all round positivity in my life ad God has been revealing Himself to me! My closeness to Him is topnotch! I wish more of our youth will see your articles and understand them properly! Fornication draws you away from God, sin draws you far from God! Keep up the good work ma!

    Adaora

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    May God bless you greatly for the work you are doing in such a generation as this ma. I want to share this to bless a young girl out there.

    Let’s be careful of the things we take to heart when we stay amongst people who talk anyhow. Some years back as a teen, I went for a youth fellowship in the church and on our way back, some of the people going my way decided that we should just trek to the bus stop. They started a conversation BUT one of the things that stuck to my head then was a comment from one of the young boys with us. He said he could never marry a virgin. I was disturbed. We were just children then but the way that word stuck in my mind made me feel there was no need to be a virgin at some point when I was under pressure later on in life. But I thank God for His mercies that made me overcome pressures even when it looked as if everyone is having premarital sex. One of the benefits this has done for me is that I don’t look for jobs. I see people complaining they don’t have a job BUT it is not the same with me. As I speak to you, I have a great job but the CEO of a conglomerate called me and said i should drop a proposal for a job in his organization saying he trusts me because of my love for God. See, it pays to fear God. Every young person out there should know this. Interestingly, the same guy who made that comment back then out of youthful exuberance is now born again. Imagine how many girls must have fallen, out of his careless words -what your worldly friends say is vague compared to what the bible instructs. Marriage is BED UNDEFILED. There are countless blessings from being chaste, both male and female. May God continue to bless you ma! Please don’t stop writing on sexual purity!

    Ify

     

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters.

    It surprises me how a good number of you don’t miss church on Sunday and follow different trending prayer meetings- offline and online and still have the guts to disrespect the one you are crying to by defiling your body- His temple, your sanctuary and power house! Who’s fooling who? Take it or leave it, a lot of lives would have been most beautiful and wondrous but for disobedience and transference of strange spirits into that life through sex! Did you even know a lot of people out there have lost their souls to the devil unsuspecting and become a pawn in its hands? And these are the type of people you should never have anything to do with! They are so soaked in darkness, they can’t think or do things God’s way! Also, a lot of your friends who have long been defiled and passed around by men would never encourage you to stay chaste because they wish they were still intact. I tell you it’s better you don’t even fraternize with such people because they would do anything and everything to bring you down to their level. And guess what? Just one intercourse could make your life spiral out of control, put your life in bondage and mess you up forever or make you suffer for years that which could have been easily avoided! Now, this brings to mind a lady’s story which i shall share next Saturday! May God empower you to stay chaste!

     

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  • 2022: A phenomenal year of shinning for the sexually-pure! (II)

    2022: A phenomenal year of shinning for the sexually-pure! (II)

    Dear Madam Temilolu, Happy New Year ma. I’m a 29-year-old virgin and I thought to inform you my wedding is coming up April this year. I’d like to thank you most sincerely for your teachings which have helped me since I began reading your articles about 5 years ago. I’m so happy I kept myself for the right man and I must confess you really helped me. Thanks so much ma.

    Paula

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I must confess God is really using you ma. Many thanks and may God bless you for the good work you’re doing. It appears most of your posts about ungodly sex is referring to me as my spirit is totally against it because whenever I engage in such, in my dreams I will see myself defeated and rolling in the mud. Meanwhile, so many prophets have told me to stop it in order for God to use me mightily! Several times I have confessed and promised I will not do it anymore but find myself doing it with married man of recent and single guys. No serious relationship and I’m a 31-year-old bread winner of my family not the first nor second child.

    In my family nothing is working at all; we are suffering from serious poverty and I’m praying for God to use me to bring financial blessings to my family but I’m seriously battling with sexual lust and diverse sins. I always vow not to engage in it no matter the pressure but still fall victim. I have intentions to travel out and I have actually received so many prophecies about my travelling but I’m stuck right now. Please ma, I don’t know what to do I just need your counseling, thanks ma!

    Ena

    Dear Ena,

    I must say God loves you and has been revealing His plans for you through His servants despite your waywardness! Isn’t it so obvious you are the light in your family, the star in their sky and the oasis in their desert? Yet, you are messing around with your body- the temple of the Holy Spirit! May I ask you how much you’ve made from sleeping around and which man has proposed marriage to you or the present state of your life? You have the solution to your life’s challenges on your fingertips- all you need do is sit with God till He makes a way for you where there’s no way and makes you a wonderful wonder! Of course you can tame your flesh and stay away from ungodly sex. You should even be thankful you’ve been told He wants to use you mightily! Follow the tips below and watch out what will become of you in 2022!

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    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian daughters,

    If a good number of you saw what God had in store for you in 2021, you’d cry for days and blame yourselves so badly! Yes! I insist too many of you don’t have the faintest idea what leaves your life during sexual intercourse- a spiritual union and    exchange! Too many lost golden opportunities that could skyrocket their destinies while many others lost financial blessings that could rewrite their family’s history even while shouting “what God cannot do does not exist!” You just cannot be disrespecting God by dishonoring your body- His temple and think all can be well with you especially when the devil is bent on attacking you! MAY YOU RECOVER ALL YOU’VE LOST THIS YEAR IN JESUS NAME!

    How to have your dreams manifest this year and shine like the star that you are!

    1. Stay away from everything and everyone who made you turn against God last year!

    I’m afraid you’d have to cut ties with the guy you’ve been engaging in sex with and your ungodly friends! Some of them were sent into your life by the devil to derail you and divert the course of your destiny. Some of them could even be engaging in prostitution and appear to be enjoying a world of goodies but that might just be what would ensure you never manifest what God has planned for your life! You need to be very wise this year! And I must say time is going! What God scheduled to happen in your life/the blessings meant for last year, this year and next year may never ever come your way again if you don’t sit right and tight to have them at the appointed time!

    • To be continued.
  • 2022: A phenomenal year of shinning for the sexually-pure!

    2022: A phenomenal year of shinning for the sexually-pure!

    DEAR Evangelist & Mummy Temilolu, I just thought to tell you to keep up your good works and let you know in no distant time I will surprise you with good things. Your articles saved me from sex addiction and since I decided to wait till my wedding night, there’s been no going back. For now I’m still struggling for a living but I know I shall end up very well and return with my thanksgiving. Thanks so much ma.

    Mr. Sunday Agbo

     

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I’m in tears after reading your article. Sometimes, I wonder if you’re talking to me directly! I wanted to send you a message last week because I was so depressed and needed someone to talk to! But I was shy. I have met a lot of people whom people confided in and they end up betraying them. I started following you the day you made a comment in a popular Facebook page! I saw your comment and decided to go through your timeline, ever since then, I have been following you!

    I bless God the day you made that comment and I never regret ever following you since then. Heaven knows that you’ve touched my life in a way I can’t even describe and I keep praying for God to continue blessing you with more wisdom! Indeed, you’re a God-sent to us girls. I believe a lot of people are observing- just like me. The problem I’m having now is that I hardly see your posts and sometimes it appears weeks after being posted. God bless you once more!

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    Thank you for all you do ma. Your words of encouragement keeps me going every day of my life. You once told me to forget all I’ve passed through and start a new life. Truly, I left all that has happened behind and I began anew and things really worked out with the help of God. Thank you ma. I’ll never for you! May God continue to bless you ma.

    Lydia A.

     

    Dear Mummy Temilolu,

    I thought to write and thank you for the impact you’ve made me in my life over the years especially in recent times and which also goes to show your ministry is fully-backed by God. A few weeks ago, I had no single penny while in school and had very urgent needs- it was one of the worst periods of my life. I remember sleeping off very weak on an empty stomach that night because I couldn’t get to buy food. Lo and behold, I saw you in my dreams, you pulled me up from where I laid and hugged me. You then said- “Don’t let the horrible phase you are passing through make you sleep with a man because of money. Endure, hold God by His word. Focus on your vision. Their master’s master will ask for your hand in marriage.” I woke up strong and happy and to my greatest, God sent me an unexpected help the following day! Since that experience I made up my mind to take a step further and start preaching chastity to my mates on campus. May you not lose your reward in Jesus name!

     

    Samson Lauretta

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian daughters,

    Happy new, amazing, life-transforming year to you all! May God in His infinite mercy breathe upon your life, give you a brand new start and make a way for you where there’s no way in the wilderness of life! For those of you who refused to engage in sex for favour and even when your clothes were almost turning to rags and you had no food to eat- in 2022, may God cloth you with unending, overwhelming, global honour in Jesus name!

    Did you wake up again this morning in exasperation and hopelessness wondering when help will come from a man who wouldn’t ask for sex?

    Esther the slave girl managed her situation and God made her a queen! Joseph considered God and refused to yield to Mrs. Portipha’s advances and God made him a Prime Minister in a foreign land! My goodness! CAN YOU JOIN MY FAITH WITH YOURS? God is about to give you what your mother’s can’t boast of this year! What more?

    You will wake up one day and soon too, I mean this very year and exclaim “How could I have so much money?” in Jesus mighty name! This is your year of unbelievable shinning and an uncommon manifestation of God’s glory such that even those who mocked you would wish to be like you! I know what I’m talking about! Congratulations in advance!

     

    • To be continued.

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  • You can succeed in life without sleeping with a man!

    You can succeed in life without sleeping with a man!

    DEAR Ma, I have been reading and digesting your articles on sexual purity for the past three weeks! How I wish I knew about you and what you teach earlier- I wouldn’t have messed up and failed everyone.

    Abigail

    Dear Sister Temilolu,

    A very good morning to you. I was shocked this morning when I was surfing the internet to solve some challenging questions and do justice to some topics in linguistics only to find your article about a female 42-year-old virgin in this 21st century! I thank God for the lady and your wonderful ministry! Please keep it up!

    Evangelist Emmanuel Ndehedehe

    Dear Aunty Temilolu,

    I’ve been reading your articles since I stumbled on you online. I appreciate the morals you are handing down to us but I must say it’s not easy to preserve one’s virginity in this day and age. I’m one of the strongest girls who refused to give up on the harshness of this world and hoping to see and experience the silver lining. However, it seems like nothing is happening. I’m already giving up! People are telling me to go get married or get into a relationship so a man can help me out but I feel ashamed doing that out of my unsavoury circumstance as I know I would one day wake up and realise I don’t like the person and only forced myself into a relationship to solve my problems. Please counsel me ma.

    Gift, 23

    My darling Gift and every lady in her shoes,

    Believe me; it is so easy to be anything and everything you want to be even if you can’t afford a 3-square-meal today! I know times are really hard but I insist not only can you survive, you can eventually have the best things in life! As females, we are created with so much virtue and innate gifts which can magnetise money to us and all we need do is to concentrate and develop ourselves optimally! I imagine what you may have been going through and I also imagine you may have reached a stage of despondency but you must never give up! Now is the time to utilise that gnawing pain in you and stretch yourself as much as possible to uncover the goldmine inside of you which would enable you make money almost effortlessly!

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    Can you use your brains for more intellectual pursuits? Can you use your beautiful hands to learn a skill right away? What’s your hobby? Turn it to a money-spinner! Just please get busy developing yourself and making the most of your life, virtues/potentials and not making guys/men your focus!

    Little did you know guys/men see this generation of girls/young ladies as one of the cheapest things they could have! Yes! Ask your brothers, uncles, daddy etc. Most of them don’t place much value on how you feel especially when you devalue yourself by allowing them sleep with you, frolick with your body, eat you up like mango and have their taste and full satisfaction of all your sexuality! They’re quick to mess around with your heart and throw the mango they’ve eaten away knowing there’s a long queue of girls waiting for their money and attention! Mind you, they don’t want to marry anything cheap either! Please don’t be quick or desperate to fall into any man’s arms who wants a serious relationship with you! You must develop yourself and discover your purpose in life real quick so your life can attract the right person and not a man that’ll end up treating you like a slave or a dog on a leash!

    Believe me, if a lot of women were well-prepared-emotionally, psychologically, academically, financially, spiritually, it would be most difficult for any man or a satanically-patriarchal society to abuse them! I know a good number of your friends must be married to some rich men by now but can you please ignore them, stop wallowing in self-pity and pursue your own destiny? Spend all the time you have now learning life skills and not waiting for a rich man to come and rescue you! Spend your time learning one handicraft or the other and start making your own money! Use all the energy that comes with your present discomfort to garner the SUPERNAL FIRE OF GOD! Please, please endure the hardship for a while, refuse to defile your body- the temple of the Holy Spirit and come and see whether God will not over-satisfy you! May your life magnetise the world’s most honourable men and may you be pampered by kings!

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  • Your virginity can give you the world! (ii)

    Your virginity can give you the world! (ii)

    DEAR Ma, how can I get myself out of this pain? My partner broke up with me just because I say no to sex outside marriage. I love him so much I don’t want to lose him but he said he can’t continue with me any longer. Please what can I do to forget him? I’m dying in pain and crying as I’m texting you. Please help ma!

    Grace Moses, 25

    My dearest Grace,

    You want to choose an ordinary human being over God? Who even says he’s God’s choice for you? If I were you, I’d let him get lost if he wants and then let God appear! DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU CARRY AS A 25-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN??? Only a man who pays your dowry should have access to your body and your spirituality! Haaa…He certainly doesn’t deserve you and he’s not worth your tears my dear- after all the pain, denial, hardship and temptation you’ve endured over time??? If I hear “peem” again on this matter…Hmm…Don’t let me spank you my darling! (Smiles)

    If only you knew how elated God is that you chose Him over the stupid, bad, devil and what you stand to gain from Him especially with the pain you have to endure and your tears you would have just told your so-called boyfriend- “Get thee behind me devil!” Too many women and even men all over the world have lost the supernal power of God and what should announce them in the world through ungodly sex! A lot have lost everlasting grace and glory, so many have missed divinely-ordained spouses who should assist in their life’s journey and help them become what no one in their generation is. A lot have become rags spiritually because they have been fragmented and distributed their lives/destiny/soul all over the place as a result of sexual intercourse with multiple partners. It would interest you to know that a lot of your mother’s mates who were created as financial pillars and spiritual power houses are begging to feed and even looking for men to sleep with because they flung their virtues away on the altar of sex in their heydays! It may also interest you to know too many all over the world are suffering from very strange battles which has made life very unpleasant for them because their parents invited trouble into their lives through sex outside marriage. So many children from single parents may never be able to fulfil their glorious destinies because of inadequate minding- physically and spiritually- unless God intervenes!

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    Too many lives have been boxed into “hell on earth” by the devil because they gave it the reins of their lives by defiling God’s temple and turning God against them! You better fall on your knees and start thanking God for the presence of the Holy Spirit in your life which won’t let you defile the temple of God! I plead with you to start making gargantuan demands from God! Tell God to open your eyes to see the wonderful wonders ahead of you perhaps you’d discover God just saved you from ending up with thrash (I don’t mean to be insultive here) so you can have the gold He’s prepared for you!

     

    In case you don’t know because your pastor doesn’t discuss this in your church- you are a spiritual power house- God’s power house- a power generator! You are an authority in motion! You are a walking wonder, a container of virtues, a mobile altar- the light in your family, in your office, everywhere you go! Everything you lay your hands upon has to prosper because you carry the presence of God! May I announce to you and from experience too that you don’t have to decree a thing before it is established- you can just imagine a thing and have it come to pass! Believe me, there’s nothing you can’t acquire because you practically have the world at your feet! Let no man steal this from you! Refuse to share your life and your superb greatness with anyone but your husband!

    For every virgin or secondary virgin experiencing this- write today’s date down, because you choose God over the devil, unless you don’t see this- between now and the month of December, God will send you a man 10 times better than the one who won’t wait till your wedding night and you’ll marry this year in Jesus name!

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  • Your virginity can give you the world!

    Your virginity can give you the world!

    Dear Ma, I saw your comment in a Facebook page and I was tempted to view your profile! And was greatly amazed at your boldness in preaching virginity till marriage! Although I’m no longer a virgin which I seriously regret till date but with the little I’ve read so far on your timeline, I’m so convinced I’ve found the path and person who would lead me to the life of my dreams through your God-given messages. May God continue to empower you ma!

    Nkali, Abia State

     

    Dear Ma,

    How can I get myself out of this pain? My partner broke up with me just because I say no to sex outside marriage. I love him so much but he said he can’t continue with me any longer. Please what can I do to forget him? I’m dying in pain and crying as I’m texting you. Please help ma!

    Grace Moses

     

    Dear Momma,

    Your words, write-ups and comments on issues of life give me hope. It makes me believe that there are still women with honour and love for holiness out there! I have been mocked times without number as a result of my resolution to preserve my virginity till marriage not wanting to have a man that’ll be taking care of me and of course sleeping with me outside marriage! It’s so heart-breaking and runs me into depression. Can you imagine being booed and jeered at for righteousness sake? What a crazy world! However, I thank God for discovering you and know that according to your words- my glorification and everlasting reward is on the way! May God continue to inspire you ma!

    Obianuju

    My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian daughters,

    Are you being taunted by family and friends for always asking for help and rejecting sexual advances from men who can take care of your needs?

    Sorry…sorry…sorry please! However, did you know God has a record of all the goodies you’ve ignored just because you fear Him? DO YOU THINK THAT’LL PASS JUST LIKE THAT? Whewww….If only you knew how committed God is to those who fear Him, you’d never spare a thought to your friends who would sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry to have all their dream goodies! Even if from their promiscuity they ended marrying good men and even have children, I repeat, what A’s destiny can endure, could destroy yours! Do you know the type of star you carry? Do you know God’s plan for your life?

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    Refuse to yield to the stupid, bad devil! A lot of your aunties and role models who tell you there’s nothing wrong in using your body to get what you want are still looking for men to sleep with to make ends meet even when they’re well over 50 when they should have become spiritual, financial power houses, fortresses etc.

    But this is what the Spirit of God said I should tell you- “For I will have respect unto you, and make you fruitful, and multiply you, and establish my covenant with you.” Leviticus 26:9 KJV

    Haaa…a whole God saying that to you!!! Hmmm…believe me, you may not even look or smell good now because you can’t afford to yet you stick to God – little did you know that fear of God in you is building you up into a fiery furnace, a spiritual house and a formidable weapon in the hands of god- a city set on a hill that’ll be saluted till eternity, a light to the world! Yes!

    Please note today’s date, by the time God who sent me to you is done with you, some of world’s wealthiest and most honourable men would jostle to supply your needs without asking for anything in return! You’ll say I said so! Before then, may you receive help from an unexpected quarter this weekend! I love you my sweets!

    May god single you out for phenomenal, global honour and flaunt you before the world in Jesus name!

    I shall respond to Grace Moses’ message next Saturday!

     

    • To be continued.

     

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