Category: Sunday magazine

  • How to recover all, by Olujobi

    Christians will recover everything they have lost when they align with the purpose of God for their lives, the General Overseer of Wisdom Church of Christ International, Lagos, Prophet Bisi Olujobi, has declared.

    He spoke at the 10th anniversary of the church in Lagos.

    Olujobi, who began his ministry in Ibadan, Oyo State, over twenty years ago, relocated to Lagos in 2004.

    He said he moved to Lagos in obedience to a divine calling to relocate to the city of excellence.

    On challenges in the ministry, he said: “Definitely when you start something new, there are always challenges and that is a normal routine for anybody who wants to grow and achieve success.

    “We have started the ministry over twenty years ago but we moved to Lagos ten years. We started at Ososami in Ibadan, Oyo State. Things are going well there, we have a branch in London too”.

    On how ministry in Ibadan is different from Lagos, Olujobi explained: “We can’t compare the way people attend churches in Ibadan with the way they attend in Lagos because Ibadan people attend churches very well.

    “If you talk of the spiritual aspect of worshipping God, the Ibadan people are trying.  They believe that they must make heaven. They care less about wealth.

    “But here in Lagos, if you don’t preach about how people are going to make money and be rich, they won’t listen to you. They believe they have come to Lagos to make money so that is the area where worshippers in Lagos are different from Ibadan people.

    “However, when a man of God knows what he is doing, he will balance his message and carry everybody along.”

  • In defence of the Trinity

    In defence of the Trinity

    Title: God’s Trinity demystified
    Author: Adedeji David Adeoye
    Year of publication: 2014
    Pages: 188
    Reviewer: Sunday Oguntola

    It takes a daring writer to attempt a expose on a controversial and hot issue. That is exactly what Rev. Adedeji Adeoye set out to do with his new book.

    The book attempts to create better understanding on the concept of one God in three persons. For centuries, it is a concept that has sharply divided Christianity. Many non-Christians do not even believe in it, dimissing the concept as arrant nonsense.

    Yet, it is in the troubled waters that Adeoye decides to fish. “I am aware that stating the concept of Trinity runs through the Bible is stirring the hornests’ nest,” he startes. But despite this, the author believes He has a divine mandate to unravel the mystery based on a personal story he shares in the introduction.

    The book, as far as he is concerned, is a fulfilment of a dream a close fellow minister had about him several years ago. Bearing this in mind, he begins the exposition with denials of God’s trinity in part one.

    He refers to several Professors of Theology who have written against the existence of Trinity or declared it a nullity. To him, the mystery has been hidden from professors’ eyes.

    Part two deals with proof of God’s Trinity where the author settles down to really convince doubting Thomases on the existence of the Trinity. Relying on the story of creation as recorded in Genesis 1, Adeoye points out that the passage introduces us to the Spirit of God, God the father and Jesus.

    The Spirit of God, according to him, was what moved. God the father was the one who decreed light into existence while Jesus is the word through which God created the world. “These three personalities, in reverse order, are therefore the God who saw, the God who said and called and the God who moved and also divided,” he submits.

    God the son, he states, is the spokeman of the Trinity while the Spirit of God is the worker and God the father is the thinker. He also applies logics to the relationship within the Trinity to prove that indeed God is one and only.

    Parts three and four concentrate on more and more proofs on the Trinity of God. In Chapter fourteen, for example, the author writes that the trinity of man is a forestate of the Trinity of God. God introduced Himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. In the same vein, God is triune.

    To Adeoye, whoever does not doubt the existence of Abraham, Issac and Jacob should never doubt the existence of God the father, God the son and God the Holy Spirit.

    This book is highly theological and logical. There are so many references to the Bible and other theological books. The author deserves great credit for the massive research that went into the book. The readers will indeed find the research materials enriching and captivating.

    The author also succeeds in simplifying what otherwise sounds as a complex subject matter. He writes simple and makes his points concise. But he has an obvious bias to prove at all rate that Trinity is a reality. In doing this, he fails to answers several other objections from those on the other side of the defence.

    But all in all, the book is a great work deserving of praise. The scholastic research that went into it is commendable. Believers in Trinity will find several other reasons to back their belief. Those who doubt it will also find reasons why to give it a thought. Indeed, the Christian world will find the book a worthy effort in defence on a doctrine that means so much to the faith.

  • Musbau Olokuta  opens hotel

    Musbau Olokuta opens hotel

    ONE of Abuja frontline socialites, Alhaji Musibau Lamidi, has been causing stir in the federal capital territory with his recently opened hotel, Ms Marriot Exclusive Apartments Suite. The Lagos State-born business man, popularly called Musibau Olokuta, is a frontline business in building industry with special bias for granite.

    A diehard fan of Wasiu Alabi Pasuma, the hotel tucked in a serene area of Kubwa has been a Mecca of sort since it was opened few months ago.

  • ‘Being alone is  the ultimate  relaxation’

    ‘Being alone is the ultimate relaxation’

    Nena Kal Hunter, a couture milliner and an interior decorator, specialises in homes and hospitality decor. She studied Fashion and Textiles Design at De Montfort University in Leicester, UK, and her striking, whimsical designs have adorned the heads of many celebrities, Royal Ascot beauties and other discerning women around the globe. The daughter of former Imo State Attorney General shares with Adetutu Audu her passion for millinery.

    WHAT spurred your interest in millinery business? I had finished my Fashion and Textiles Design degree and just wasn’t satisfied. I wanted to learn more about fashion accessories, so I took short courses on handbags and belts design, but hats were such a puzzle for me. When I looked at a hat, the stitches were not visible and I could not imagine how a round shape could be formed without having to cut and join. Also, I was a regular at the hat department in a store called Selfridges and loved going there to feed my eyes and head with creativity. The designs were fabulous and the prices outrageous and I couldn’t believe some of the hats I saw there were made by people like me. That was when it was clear to me that I wanted to learn to make hats even if it was just for pleasure.

    What do you consider when you are designing a hat for your client?

    I usually consider the shape of the face, the customer’s budget which is very important, the customer’s height, the colours they are looking at and the date for which they want their hats ready. All these help you advice the customer better.

    Where do you draw inspiration for your designs from?

    I draw all my inspiration from God Almighty. He is the greatest designer and engineer of all time. Look at the world He created, the animals  zebras, leopards, giraffes, jaguars, snakes, birds, peacocks, butterflies, flowers, leaves and their various shapes; the sky, the sea, the stars, the moon, the rainbow…..all of these have colours, shapes and patterns that have been carefully matched to blend. Look at the human palm with every human being and their own unique design, look at the design of the internal human body with every organ doing its job, then externally with two vertical legs carrying the weight of the whole body….isn’t that amazing? That is what you call design and engineering. If you go to places like Dubai, you will see architects trying to duplicate God’s designs, creating homes and hotels on thin bases or on water. It’s all God’s design concept. He created a fantastic world and co-ordinates everything in it accordingly with

    every group or category having its own timing of things.

    All designers are indeed inspired by God directly or indirectly. I am no exception.

    What kind of people do you design for?

    The people I design for range from young women in their twenties about to get married who require ‘Asoebi’ hats and fascinators for their wedding to mature women in their seventies and eighties who are life time fashionistas with no plans to retire.

    For my interior décor business, my customers are people who find pleasure in investing in beautiful homes or those building new hotels, resorts or office blocks and need a décor expert to carry out design, procurement and installation of goods…

    Who influenced you while growing up and what were your childhood

    aspirations?

    My parents are my role models. They are very talented, honest and hardworking people and I’ve always wanted to be like them. I got my numerous talents from them and knew from a very young age that I wanted to be a fashion and interior designer. At some point, I wanted to be an architect, at some point a gardener, a news reader and a teacher. I never really wanted to follow people, I always wanted to be the shining star and have people follow me.

    My parents encouraged my siblings and I to be whatever we wanted to be, but to make sure we excelled in our chosen careers, and, at least, be one of the best in whatever field we chose.

    All five of us have these words stuck in our subconscious and we are constantly working hard to be at least one of the best in what we do. They also taught us to be proud of where we came from and do things that would bring our family name up at all times.

    What does success mean to you?

    Every individual measures success in a different way. For me, it’s the thrill of designing and producing a product which people can place value on, and agree to spend their hard-earned money purchasing it. It also means appreciation from people especially in the same field as I am. Nothing excites me like seeing another milliner or another interior decorator or architect commend my work. That is what I call success. Then, of course, the money and fame aspect is what completes it.

    Can you share some of your career high points?

    I’ve had so many career high points even from my university days for example, when my swimsuit and sports bra designs were featured on the BBC Clothes Show programme. Apart from winning design competitions at university, this was my very first fifteen minutes of fame in terms of my design career.

    In my second year, I was also asked to design a bra and knickers set using two small rugby balls which were hand signed by the England Rugby Team. Footballer’s wife and top TV presenter – Julia Carling – wore my designs to run the London Marathon Race. My designs were later auctioned at Selfridges Department Store in London to raise money for the breakthrough breast cancer appeal. This gave me so much newspaper and TV publicity in the UK.

    Then my first ever hat exhibition at Montaigne Place. It was Alali Hart’s idea (the CEO of Montaigne Place) in Victoria Island Lagos, after my aunty Hajiya Uzo Ibrahim told her about me. It was a total success and people spread the word.

    City People has also given me two awards as the most creative milliner in Nigeria in 2007 and 2010, and then the numerous kindness of the Nigerian press has been totally amazing in general. Another was when a friend called me and said that posters of me wearing my hat designs were being sold in Ghana, and that a magazine called Ohemaa were offering my posters to readers who subscribed. That was really funny.

    You would expect that would make me upset, but in fact I was happy because it was free publicity for my work and my clientele in Ghana increased. My work also made appearances in Whispers magazine USA.

    In 2010, my work was being noticed by the international press and featured in high fashion magazines such as Vogue, Brides UK and The Royal Ascot magazine numerous times.

    In 2011, my work also made appearances in these magazines and recently, I received an email from the editor of Harpers Bazaar. They also want to do a write up on my work. These are major career high points for me because these magazines are international high fashion magazines read all over the world. Another high point was when I was commissioned by the Canadian Derby to design a hat which was auctioned to raise money for breast cancer. In my mind, I wondered how on earth they found out about me and I got a lot of publicity in Canadian newspapers.

    How do you relax?

    I relax in so many ways like going on holiday and exploring new things, playing the piano, singing, reading, dancing even though I’ve got two left legs, or just fantasising. I’m a girl who loves the indoors a lot and I derive joy just from being on my own. It’s the ultimate relaxation for me.

    How would you describe your style?

    Simple, unique, elegant, yet sophisticated. Less is more.

    What is your favourite fashion item?

    I’m shoe and clutch bag crazy. I have all these fabulous collection of shoes that I don’t usually end up wearing but give them out. They just fascinate me. I keep them in boxes, bring them out once in a while, look at them, wear them, sing and dance in front of the mirror with my microphone, and then chuck them back in their boxes.

    No doubt you are beautiful. What is your beauty routine?

    I’m a Clarins girl. I’ve used Clarins skincare for so many years now. Then I eat lots of fruits and take vitamins from time to time. Nothing serious really…

    What won’t you be caught dead in?

    Blue , pink or purple hair and red eye pencil on my eyebrows. I think it’s gross.

    You are tilted towards the arts, if not arts, what would you have done.

    I can’t think of anything else I would have done that isn’t art-related. I would have been totally lost.

    What makes a hat stand out?

    What makes a hat stand out is mainly the shape. Shape is very important. That was my first trick of getting my work to stand out in the fashion industry even before I started experimenting with designs. Remember, I told you I didn’t learn how to trim and decorate hats because I had to return to Nigeria, but making hats that had unusual shapes brought me to the lime light.

    Then, the finishing of the hat is extremely important because people can see this even from a distance. If they look at a hat that is supposed to be pretty, they may not know why it looks a bit off on the model’s head, but most times, it’s the finishing that’s the problem.

    There are stage by stage techniques of finishing couture hats that are not known to many Nigerian milliners and it affects the overall look of their designs.

    Both of these factors I have mentioned are key to making a hat stand out before materials, colours, accessories come in. Then the person wearing the hat and the way they carry themselves matter. For example, if you make a gorgeous hat for someone who has no confidence at all, the hat would never stand out as it should. Hats look better on girls with inner confidence, on those who walk straight with shoulders high, chest out and a lovely smile.

    At what point did you move into interior décor

    I started interior décor in 2005. It was a brand new house which I shared with my sister and brother and I designed the colour scheme, made the curtains, throw pillows, helped my carpenter sew the leather upholstery sofas as I have a computerised machine that sews perfect stitches on leather and lots more. Everyone who visited loved what I had done especially with my dining and living room area and the general feel of the house. The choice of colours and arrangement of items had a calming effect on my visitors. It affected them psychologically and positively but they couldn’t tell what it was.

    Soon after, friends started ordering my throw pillows which inspired me to design my first collection. People wanted their rooms done up, offers for complete home furnishings started to come and then guest houses….

    One of my most recent jobs which fascinated me was designing the new wing interior and all the public areas of Morning Side Suites. I was called in at a time the building was not yet fully completed. It had a good structure and the owner trusted my design taste since I had previously done the décor of his country home.

  • The other side  of Bayo Fatunsin

    The other side of Bayo Fatunsin

    DESPITE spirited efforts by political jobbers in Lagos to prompt popular Lagos socialite and businessman, Bayo Fatunsi, to jump into the political fray and contest for a position, he has chosen to remain in the background and concentrate on his business and philanthropy. For him, giving back to the society is as important as breathing and he has skilfully mastered the act of generosity. As soon as the Ondo-State business man adds to his fortune, he consistently enriches the lives of the poor and needy the best way he can. At the Bayo Fatunsi Foundation, old people, youth empowerment and award presentation programme, held at the BFF secretariat, Ondo State, Fatunsi, founder and major donor of  the foundation stretched out his generous hands as he gave out scholarships to thirty-seven secondary school students across Ondo State.

  • Shina Peller celebrates Quilox at one

    Shina Peller celebrates Quilox at one

    SHINA Peller, socialite and owner of wave-making Quilox Restaurant and Nightclub, is happy with the huge returns on his investment. The fun spot was launched on 20th December 2013 and has been redefining luxury lifestyle nightlife.

    To celebrate the first anniversary, the celebration kicks off with a ‘PLAY 4 LIFE’ celebrity football match to support Pacelli School for the Blind and Lagos State Government Motherless Babies’ Home last Thursday  at Meadow Hall, Meadow Hall Way, Alma Beach Estate, Lekki Express Way.

    The icing on the cake of the evening was the launching of its 1st Magazine labelled Q365. The magazine contains the wide range of activities and events Quilox has carried out during the calendar year and also project the journey ahead in 2015 and beyond.

  • Isa Yuguda’s 2-in-1 celebrations

    Isa Yuguda’s 2-in-1 celebrations

    BAUCHI State governor, Mallam Isa Yuguda, has welcomed two daughters-in-law into his family. Two of his sons, Umar and Yahaya, held their wedding fathia on December 18th and 20th respectively. One of his sons, Umar, had earlier had his engagement party with Safiya last Sunday night. The Nikkah proper was held in Katsina yesterday and the wedding dinner will hold in Abuja today.

    Yahaya, the other son, who is based in the United Kingdom got married last Thursday at Ilorin.

  • Marita Ayodele Olaiya expects first baby

    MARITA Ayodele Olaiya, one of the daughters of slimming expert, Dr Quincy Ayodele, is on a nine-month course. The damsel who tied the nuptial knot last year December is expecting her first child.  A baby shower was held last weekend in Baltimore, USA.

    Named after her grandmother, Marita and her sister, Maria Keeney, hugged stardom as students of the University of Maryland, Baltimore, USA with their project, Students Against Destructive Decisions (SADD), aimed at curtailing the rising incidence of drug and alcohol abuse as well as cultism amongst teenagers and young adults in secondary schools and tertiary institutions in the country.

  • O’tega Emerhor serenades wife at 50

    O’tega Emerhor serenades wife at 50

    LAGOS literarily stood still as the Chairman, Standard Alliance Group of Companies and the Delta State governorship candidate for the All Progressives Congress, Dr O’tega Emerhor, serenaded his wife, Rita, on her golden jubilee. It was an electrifying ambience at the glamorous Eko Hotel & Suites on Victoria Island as the colourful event had in attendance captains of industry, society buffs and political chieftains.

    It was a showpiece of the love that existed between the couple, which has spanned over 25years. The birthday girl revealed that all was not roses at the beginning. Many did not know that the couple started life together in a remote area of Ketu in an apartment, before moving to Palmgrove, Dolphin Estate and now Parkview.  The businessman turned politician echoed that it’s a double celebration for him, because his wife has always brought him joy, luck and happiness. Among the A-list of dignitaries at the event were the Deputy Governor of Lagos State, Mrs Adejoke Orelope-Adefulire, Dame Abimbola Fashola, APC Chairman, Chief John Oyegun, Former Minister, Demola Seriki, Chief Kenny Martins Hon Abike Dabiri and husband, Chief Oscar Olorogun Ibru.

  • Strange bedfellows

    THE romantic landscape is exciting when you fall in love with someone who shares your dreams and aspirations. In this situation, you are bound to think alike, dream alike and have emotional goals that are interesting and exciting. Unfortunately, this is not usually the case with many, and so the emotional environment is frustrating and unexciting. Here, what you have are strange emotional bedfellows plotting coups and counter coups which ultimately brings tales of sorrow and tears.

    The big question here is would you voluntarily hop into a cage with an angry tiger only to wonder how you got stuck with the beast? No, you don’t really have to go through this kind of agony. If you do this then you did it by choice. At that point, you are likely to think that you could do something to calm this beast. If you find yourself in this unfortunate state, then it is better to get out before you get hurt.

    This scenario explains what a lot of us do when we go into relationships with strange bedfellows. Usually, we set ourselves up for rejection and pain, then insist that it should not be happening or that we can change the other person. Unfortunately, some people repeat this pattern for a lifetime. Seeking the approval of negative people can be an emotional addiction. It approaches insanity in many cases.

    ‘While all deception requires secrecy, all secrecy is not meant to deceive’.

    This quote by Sissela Bok tells us that a heart that is filled with deception must have lots of secrets, do unusual things and plan desperately Secrets that such a person would never want to be uncovered. You can be sure that all hell would be let loose if anyone they are shielding the secrets from attempts to open the can of emotional worms.

    If the person you love and cherish is willing to make some sacrifice and work on repairing your relationship, then there is a chance that your problems are fixable. But if the strings are very weak, then there is nothing you can really do about it. Perhaps, it may also be the turning point that you have been craving for all your life. It could just be the end of the stress relationship that you have been struggling with all your life.

    Even those with a heart of stone would feel bad when they are taken for granted on the emotional landscape. “My husband of about 12 years is having an affair with a woman he met on flight.” Sadly, she found out a few weeks ago when he inadvertently left an email message open on his laptop. “Of course, I know that cheating is part and parcel of the love process. The truth of the matter is that it is not written on people’s faces but after a while whatever is done under wraps would come out in the open.”

    When you live with someone for a while, then you are likely to notice when they are going astray. Here, you would notice some changes in their habits and it’s possible that they would begin to do the things that they were not doing in the past. In this particular case, he discovered that her phone records confirm daily long-distance conversations, change in dress code and a more fanciful hairstyle.

    Did she really smell a rat? “Of course, I sensed that they have never met personally but they were desperately planning to meet in a couple of weeks at a wedding. Despite problems in our marriage, neither of us has strayed, and I’m confident he doesn’t want to lose me nor do I want to lose him.”

    So, what strategy would be appropriate in this cat and mouse love drama.  “My dilemma is whether to tell him that I know what’s going on prior to his trip, or confront him when he returns with pictures taken by a private investigator. It is so sad and I just can’t let this betrayal continue.”

    Folake has been single for five years. The pretty woman recently reconnected with a man she lost contact with 13 years ago. “It was like a dream come true. We went out a few times and it was wonderful, and, like every other lady who had been starved of emotions for so long, I began to fall helplessly in love with the dude. Somehow, the curious part of life got stronger and something advised me to verify everything to be double sure.”

    She cross checked every information he gave her about himself painstakingly, hoping to get lots of affirmation in his direction. “To my amazement, all the beautiful details that I was holding onto were all lies. What a pity! It would have been suicidal if I had just folded my arms and fallen sheepishly in love with the emotional liar. Tears and more tears with no one to console yours faithfully. The truth was so bitter; I had no choice but to keep it sadly to my chest for a while. Then gradually I realised that I had to open up to have some inner peace and satisfaction.”

    Now it was time to hear from the horse’s mouth. Perhaps he would be sober and be remorseful. “When I confronted him, he was furious and accused me of not trusting him. Now he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I’m heartbroken. I loved him years ago and thought this was for real. At a point, I felt guilty for not trusting him, even though I knew that he hasn’t been honest with me.”